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[@fluffyspunsugar]

"I'm afraid I'm going to lose my house." Dear Shawna, you've already lost your house if you're stuck in one part of it, it's now your prison.

[@SharonA_14]

This is why you should never idolise anyone’s marriage by the number of years they’ve stayed married

[@old-soul]

fact 👍

[@alluringbliss4165]

Absolutely, seen a 40 years marriage of abuse and cheating.

[@firegirljen]

1000!

[@coolaunt516]

To be in that posiiton at any age is bad, to deal with it at 72 is horrifying.

[@davinasquirrel7672]

The poor woman. She has been so beaten down after a lifetime of his abuse. That is why she is so hesitant to get a lawyer and get out. She has been financially and spiritually broken.

[@LindaMeade]

I also wouldn't doubt if he's carrying on an affair.

[@davinasquirrel7672]

@@LindaMeade Yeah, sure, could be. But some dudes just like to torment and control for the fun of it.

[@LindaMeade]

@@davinasquirrel7672 either way he's horrible

[@Tamar-sz8ox]

Women need to work and have their own income . You don’t want to be in your 50s and 60s living down by the river in a van , unless it’s a lifestyle choice You better get a lawyer

[@rhondaa5191]

Great comment! What comes after 50's and 60's? 70's and 80's and perhaps even 90's! You can't bury your head in the sand and hope everything turns around.

[@c.parker8439]

I hope she's strong enough to press charges after 52 years of blindly following him. She needs to live with her daughter. Good luck

[@ceciliapreziose3783]

she needs to leave her daughter alone, Im sure the daughter has heard enough already. Mother doesn't do anything, 52 years of this, yeah daughter has heard enough

[@SomeOne-yv8jf]

@@c.parker8439 So she can become a problem for the daughter?! She probably didn't teach her daughter to be financially independent and responsible etc, the daughter had to learn it on her own. Or the daughter might be a "trad wife" 😆 with no money of her own either, like mother like daughter.

[@ciarajeanr]

She called John Delony before this. Her daughter is in on what her dad is doing because she's going to inherit the family business that her dad is cutting her mom out of. Her daughter won't support her.

[@tennysoneffie6943]

It hurts my heart to hear women make excuses for awful abusive husbands!

[@dcg590]

I’m betting there’s a whole lot she’s not telling us. Woman lie constantly

[@Chet_24]

They arent making excuses for their husbands. It's for themselves, so they're never held accountable for not doing anything to improve their situation. It's a cop out.

[@lovetwins89]

@@dcg590 Even if that was true, what does that have to do with anything?

[@BrianW211]

Haha, Dave said "you don't need a side hustle, you need to see a lawyer today." That is exactly what I was thinking. She needs to divorce him and claim injured spouse/innocent spouse.

[@RowanburnReiverRoots]

CAN'T BELIEVE what some people tolerate in their marriages!

[@SomeOne-yv8jf]

She willingly deposited her paychecks into his business account. She willingly worked for him without payment for 27 years. She has no one to blame but herself. She did it to herself. He was merely a recipient of her offerings and he took full advantage. Where was her self-preservation all of these years?? Now that the marriage has broken down and he has separated her from his assets she is worried. These are his assets because she chose to give them to him -- paychecks and 27 years of labor. That is called Slavery. She chose to be his Slave.

[@SomeOne-yv8jf]

She willingly deposited her paychecks into his business account. She willingly worked for him without payment for 27 years. She has no one to blame but herself. She did it to herself. He was merely a recipient of her offerings and he took full advantage. Where was her self-preservation all of these years?? Now that the marriage has broken down and he has separated her from his assets she is worried. These are his assets because she chose to give them to him -- paychecks and 27 years of labor. That is called Slavery. She chose to be his Slave.

[@hilaryb8807]

⁠​⁠@@SomeOne-yv8jfWhen this woman got married, women weren’t even allowed getting a credit card without a man co-signing on it. Women weren’t allowed to get loans, mortgages, or even open their own bank account. This woman didn’t “do it to herself”, it’s what women of her generation were told to do- be slaves to their husbands. Add to that the decades of manipulation, gaslighting and abuse she endured… Her husband did this to her. And in a marriage, legally there are no “his” and “her” assets- that law exists because of despicable men like her husband.

[@RowanburnReiverRoots]

@@SomeOne-yv8jf The brief video doesn't provide enough detail to draw all those conclusions , but one thing we do know is that they're still legally married and living in the same dwelling . This means they're not just *his* assets. This is why she needs a lawyer ASAP. She has legal rights and needs to start exercising them stat. Have a nice evening.

[@rhondaa5191]

@@hilaryb8807 I've heard this excuse over and over, but if a woman worked outside of the home, which she has, she didn't live life in a bubble. Husband dropped the ball on at least two occasions that we know of and she had a clue that she couldn't rely on him.

[@annewilliams4931]

When he comes home expecting his dinner - explain that you didn't have enough money for food and then collect your bags and get the hell out of this toxic marriage!

[@DoctorSmartyPants]

It sounds like they don't interact.

[@littleripper312]

They live on different floors.

[@cutehumor]

This lady has called Dave Ramsey before, I recognize her voice. She didn't change anything from the first call.

[@AllIwantwasyou1]

Which one was it she sounds familiar

[@BrittanyLynnLutz]

I think she might be a different woman but she sounds like the woman who called into John’s show last week or so? She helped build the business, invested money she made before she met him, etc but he never put her name on anything and now she has access to zero? Anyone else hear that one?

[@niicopanda]

​@@BrittanyLynnLutzExactly where my mind went. This seems odd.

[@wetasaurus]

100% it’s totally the same woman

[@anastasiat1481]

Can you share which video you're talking about?

[@breanarich2901]

Lady run!!!!!! I’d rather be alone and living in my car than be with a thing like that. That controlling mentality is so alarming and she deserves happiness.

[@mumejpatel7390]

Ah she will mention her go fund me and she wants u to put ur 30 percent annual income to it so that she can eat and live running is not a option if nails spread across the street.

[@humpteedumptee8629]

When you that age living in your car isn’t an option. You’re one heatwave away from death.

[@alluringbliss4165]

She’s 72.

[@breanarich2901]

@@alluringbliss4165 what and because she isn’t 72 she doesn’t deserve happiness

[@NurseMoneyGrowWealth]

Imagine wasting 52 years of your life because someone showed you who they were twice before. 😢

[@zvmZvm0102]

Imagine being so dumb you can't see beyond the charade! She deserves what she got.

[@drn13355]

'I worked for him". That just sounds weird. Also once again they call then when they get told what to do it is "yeah but". It is going to be painful, but action is better than inaction.

[@dcg590]

She’s lying. There’s plenty she’s not telling us which is why she hasn’t gone to a lawyer.

[@tier2player138]

We're missing something in her story that is keeping her scared to go to a lawyer.

[@deirdrekiely6187]

She's a passive, people- pleasing submissive wife who was too naive to save money for herself. She's still burying her head in the sand.

[@dcg590]

I’m betting all the problems are because of her and he ‘took the responsibility away’ because she screwed everything up for years. She’s lying about a lot. I’d LOVE to hear his side of the story. She’s full of crap

[@barnabusdoyle4930]

One of many reasons why you should never let yourself become financially dependent on another person

[@kay22100]

I think she’s so deep into this dysfunction that she doesn’t realize how bad it is. He’s been mistreating her for YEARS. That’s why you don’t allow disfunction to become the norm. I don’t think she’s trying to avoid it, she just doesn’t realize how bad this is

[@miamiflorida6965]

I agree with Dave 100%. WAKE UP!!!

[@SBScott]

She’s been abused for so long her self worth is non-existent. She believes she deserves to be treated that way. She doesn’t need financial advice, she needs a therapist who will help her find the courage to get a lawyer.

[@memyself9372]

But she needs someone to fight for her to get a lawyer and fast. She still will need the therapy for years. She needs to get the lawyer now.

[@cyoohoos]

nobody is looking for a 70+ yo WFH executive assistant with health issues. It's sad to say but true. After 52 years, she's not leaving. I hope her daughter hasn't learned the lesson that you are clearly teaching her. And BTW, if you do divorce, and he's in massive debt, half of that is yours too

[@GAFB1122]

@@palady1486 And I want to hear from you palady. I fully expect that there were red flags for years, WHY did this woman wait so long? I have some sympathy for baby boomers, as it was how they were raised. It is sad. I am Gen X. For Gen X, millennials, and now Gen Z, there is NO reason to be beholden to anyone. If you are, then it is YOUR fault! ---- If/when red flags arise, leave!!

[@cyoohoos]

@@palady1486 She's NOT leaving him. She just laid out 52 years of EVIDENCE that she puts up with this B.S. She can think of every enabling behavior on the planet: borrowing from her daughter, getting her daughter to bring her food, getting a side hustle, everything BUT the OBVIOUS. She knows lawyers exist , she said it, she won't utilize the help because she's afraid. I have friends like this. They will complain, complain, complain to ANYBODY who will listen but won't lift a finger to make things change. Get off their hamster wheel

[@alluringbliss4165]

@@cyoohoosit’s not so simple when these traditions are engraved in your subconscious.

[@PalmBeachFlorida24]

Don't be like this woman. Jennifer Berman 48, Alexander Berman, 16, and his sister, Jacqueline, 15, were found deceased in West Palm Beach Florida. The three died from gun shots in a mu*der-sui*ide. They were my neighbors in El Cid. Richard, her Bentley driving realtor husband was withholding essentials from his wife Jennifer and their 2 teenaged children. His abuse was so bad that Jennifer was asking neighbors for toilet paper. She was cleaning homes to make some money while living in a million dollar+ neighborhood. Her husband's financial abuse during their contentious divorce left her no way out and she did the unthinkable.

[@TK-fm5ud]

Why did she kill her kids though?

[@davinasquirrel7672]

@@TK-fm5ud I assume she thought they would be better off, than being at the mercy of the ex-husband (ie they would be abused/tormented by him).

[@alluringbliss4165]

That s tragic, her soul might be tormented.

[@sierra7534]

What does that have to do with this call?

[@costco_pizza]

@@sierra7534 Sadly the truth is this caller may very well find herself in a similar situation.

[@derekd1510]

She doesn't need a lawyer, she needs a PSYCHIATRIST!

[@SomeOne-yv8jf]

Exactly. Depositing her paychecks into her husband's business account and then working for him without pay for years, all are signs of mental instability.

[@derekd1510]

@@SomeOne-yv8jf Thank you, but I would classify it more likely as mental incompetence rather than instability.

[@alluringbliss4165]

@@SomeOne-yv8jfnot really. She s a boomer. Women could not have bank accounts then.

[@deirdrekiely6187]

​@@SomeOne-yv8jf No, it's not. Many women are submissive financially to their husband's, esp women from older generations. They were taught to be subservient. This is not mental illness.

[@SomeOne-yv8jf]

@@alluringbliss4165 No one stopped her from getting a bank account in 1974 or in the years afterwards, it is 2024. Even before 1974 women cashed their checks and kept the monies in a piggy bank, a tin, a safe, under the mattress, or dug hiding holes outside. Cash money is legal for anyone to have.

[@tracyaf6084]

This is why the length of time people have been married isn’t necessarily something to be celebrated. Some people have such deep problems they’d have been better off divorced a long time ago.

[@Nikitajade08]

Exactly sounds like shes been living in a prison cell for 52 years

[@kbanghart]

Like many Evangelical Christians

[@BlueMountain25]

If you have 100 people who been married for years and 10 of those marriages are miserable is a piss poor excuse to say don’t ever get married. I’ve been married for 12 years and we are very happy. We have gone through hard times some really hard but that is life. It’s better to go through hell with a partner you trust then alone.

[@RowanburnReiverRoots]

Read again? Nobody is saying "don't ever get married".

[@tracyaf6084]

@@BlueMountain25 I’m very pro marriage. I’m just not pro miserable marriage. I’m also happily married.

[@voip4life]

There are people that refuse to address a problem no matter how serious it is. Pray that God breaks that chain because that’s about all you can do in situations like this.

[@cherrypieforbreakfast1499]

That poor woman. She needs to divorce the bum yesterday.

[@cornishpasty4344]

She has nothing. Unless she has family she's stuck.

[@ugabuga1361]

she cleaned up the finances 2 times and still lets him be in charge!!!!! shes the dummy!!!! the bum husband is not even a man. its not even close to being a man.

[@HOLDXSTEEL]

It sounds like fault

[@JonathanIvy221]

Why would you say that without hearing the man’s side? You’re a clown.

[@bohemiancasanova5538]

@@cornishpasty4344 Not true. She owns half the house and half the assets as well as Dave said. It is the state of Illinois. She needs to divorce him, divide assets and move out.

[@Outrageousconduct]

What the hell!!! She'll never go to a lawyer ,she's too beaten down

[@bohemiancasanova5538]

I hope she will.. she sounds like such a sweet lady, but she needs help.

[@SomeOne-yv8jf]

Yep, and she will stay with him. She used to deposit her paychecks into his business account. She used to work for him without pay, etc. That tells us all we need to know. She decided a long time ago that he is her life. For an irresponsible woman like that no wonder he took her off everything. 😂

[@hilaryb8807]

@@SomeOne-yv8jfDisgusting victim blaming. The husband was justified in taking all her money because SHE was irresponsible? Everything she did for her husband was in good faith… and he’s a manipulative, abusive psychopath.

[@alluringbliss4165]

@@SomeOne-yv8jfyet you are mad at mordent women who won’t tolerate such nonsense.

[@SomeOne-yv8jf]

​​​@@hilaryb8807 Well, she should have done that "good faith" for herself. What made her think she was not worthy of her own paychecks and later on that she was not worth payment for her labor?? She decided all that. Apparently she felt she didn't need her paychecks or payment for labor. He could only take what she gave. He didn't force her. He knows she is irresponsible. He took her off his everything. And it is his because she gave it to him. He never gave her anything, never gave her his paychecks, never worked for her, never put his house in her name, etc. So why did she do for him what he never did for her?! Why do things for her husband in good faith when he has not done the same things in good faith for wife?! She needs to see a psychiatrist 😆.

[@DeanCarrara]

I'm favoured, $22K every week! I can now give back to the locals in my community and also support God's work and the church. God bless America,,

[@Johnelton-z1e]

As a beginner what do I need to do? How can I invest, on which platform? If you know any please share.

[@JackpotGrant]

Investing in crypto/forex is a good idea, a good trading system would put you through many days of success.

[@FrankieAdam-l2h]

Investing $15,000 and received $174,000

[@KennyChesney-b8n]

Same, I met Mrs Maria Daviz last year for the first time at a conference in Manchester, after then my family changed for good. God bless Mrs Maria

[@Valfestus-d7g]

Yeah get connected to Miss Maria, here's her line👎🏻

[@14elvira14]

Women, do not ever accept your name not being added to assets, deeds, accounts, marriage!

[@ronica2623]

Yep. When my grandfather died, my grandmother found out her name wasn’t on the deed….but it was HER money that paid for the house.

[@naca1553]

I couldn’t even finish listening to that

[@esterdrass4964]

Perhaps she can call a lawyer who can advise her where to go for help, considering her financial situation. Her husband has 100% control over her and everything they own because he believes he owns it all.

[@linhaton4957]

Did some snooping? You’re married, you can look at anything you want to. Get an attorney.

[@StatBoiRichie]

Please do not enable poor behavior in a relationship. Stuff like this happens way too often

[@esterdrass4964]

It does. I have a friend who stopped working shortly after marriage because he made enough. Twenty years later, he controls the money and how it is spent because in his mind, it's his and she is lucky to have what she has because of him. She tried to leave but didn't have enough money to sustain herself during the time it would take to get a divorce, and all the finances set up. She didn't have any income of her own to rent, not even a hotel room for a few months. So, she had to go back to him, on her hands and knees with her tail between her legs. It was awful. She regrets doing what she did now.

[@davidOConnor-z3l]

You mean a sexless and unloving relationship?Bill Clinton knows all about that

[@vickieclark5931]

How has she been married to him for 52 years??? I can't imagine. When I read the title before listening to the call, I thought it was a 30 year old that just got married a couple years ago. When she originally said her age, I had to replay it a couple of times to make sure I heard 72. This poor lady should have gotten rid of this guy a long time ago. I can't imagine living my life like this for that many years. I hope she listens to Dave and gets herself a life away from this guy.

[@WISHBONEL7]

Was she really into a rude awakening after the vows ? , or did she clearly know what she was getting into prior to the vows ?? .

[@Trenton.D]

Religion makes people do stupid things

[@alluringbliss4165]

@@WISHBONEL7back on her days, women could not have bank accounts.

[@sof482]

this woman DESPERATELY needs a therapist to examine why she has zero self respect. this is absolutely off the charts awful. she thinks nothing of herself

[@lilianasaba9846]

I hope got a lawyer to support her. She must have been through a lot of hell in the 52 years.

[@derekd1510]

She doesn't need a lawyer, she needs a PSYCHIATRIST!

[@bohemiancasanova5538]

​@@derekd1510 Well first she needs lawyer that will get her out of that mess. Psychiatrist possibly later but I don't think she needs one. She just sounds like she is in a desperate situation and needs help. Once she gets half the assets and can move out and be on her own, she will be fine I think. Also sounds like she has an amazing daughter that will help her.

[@RowanburnReiverRoots]

@@bohemiancasanova5538 If there are any assets.

[@derekd1510]

@@bohemiancasanova5538 From what she said, I doubt there are any assets remaining. This is not the first time this has happened. He has squandered all the savings before and is probably still mortgaged to the hilt and yet she stays in that situation. She needs counseling to understand why she can't be independent and overcome her dependency.

[@DMB-pe8hk]

If my father were starving my mother and I helped feed her and gave her money, I wouldn't consider that she owed me a penny! The money he's withholding is legally half the mom's, so the debt is caused by him. If the daughter really needs it back, her dad holds the joint funds and should pay it. Of course, he probably flip to find out about it. Clearly, everything is separated in this family's minds and they think that no one owns anything together (as evidenced by mom saying she worked *for* dad, not with him, and the withheld money). But legally, that is not true.

[@ceciliaruns72]

This would have been my life but I set myself free! She needs to call Adult Protective Services and also an attorney, preferably one that helps seniors.

[@penelope5500]

Elder law attorneys are expensive. What is she supposed to pay him with?

[@n.w.414]

She should also be challenging the banks and others for taking her name off of the accounts etc. they had no right to change those things without talking to her.

[@themurderbotfeed7688]

The daughter isnt helping because mom probably stood by while her dad was abusive, so why should she defend mom when mom didnt defend her

[@hiteshadhikari]

Or daughter knows maa is the abusive or money blower and dad is right

[@PepeToTheMooon]

What a control freak! And she stayed with him for 52 years?? Sigh

[@C12341]

Back then there weren’t as many options for women so she stayed pretty much because she was stuck. This is why women need to have job skill and education. It’s very dangerous for women to stay at home statistically. Sad but true

[@Sandy-of6gq]

​@@C12341 I agree. Women need options if they God forbid end up with a spouse like this, especially with small children. My heart hurts for her, her life must have been unneccessarily awful for many many years.

[@zvmZvm0102]

@@C12341 Yeah, younger women (

[@Primitive_Code]

That's why traditional marriages fail. Sad thing is today's women are career oriented but are naive to want to be in a traditional marriage. Either they're gold diggers, lazy to work or let on by social media or brainwashed friends or relatives.

[@youngedwards3265]

She is entitled to an half of her husband social security benefit.

[@TammyMayCormier]

She sounds soooo beaten down. 😢 i really hope she takes daves advice

[@esterdrass4964]

A case of put up and shut up. It's easier to do it the way he wants than to deal with the consequences if she doesn't. Shame at 72..

[@kurtjames9487]

I'd like to hear the full and other side of the story. This woman can't even be honest. To say "I don't know" when asked why her husband took over complete control of the finances... She's been married to him for 52 years! She knows why. Maybe she's horrible with money. Also, i bet her husband got more and more "abusive" in the the story the longer the call went on.

[@LisaLisa-in4vw]

I am astounded that people put up with this crap!!!!! Lady what the heck possesses you to accept this treatment? Get yourself a lawyer and get your butt out of this abusive relationship!!!

[@annwallace9537]

The info she gave was so vague, it was hard to tell what was going on. “I cleaned things up twice” well what does that even mean?

[@qesther1241]

This is what happens when your “husband” makes you a “trad” wife. They are always yelling “submit, submit, then it turns out badly.

[@Themoomabides]

So many people are not emotionally or intellectually able to live life.

[@mugentuner]

Sounds like this lady should have left that financial abuse a long time ago

[@almanoor-bakker5964]

But hey, getting married solves everything and protects you, right?

[@musume7723]

This is why I don't like how they worship marriage on this show

[@kay22100]

My goodness he doesn’t even make sure she eats. He’s worse than an animal. They take care of their own

[@wilsonrichard440]

Money is not meant to control people rather it is meant to be put to work producing more money for you. You cannot build wealth without putting money in its rightful place.

[@Ricgibs]

Financial education is indeed required for more than 70% of the society in the country as very few are literate on the subject. Thanks to Stacey Macken, the lady that changed my financial life.

[@lea5898]

I've seen different people talking about this Stacey Macken she must be very amazing for people to talk this good about her.

[@LindaHarmel]

Honestly, I'm surprised that this mrs Stacey Macken is mentioned here, came across a testimony about her from one of the beneficiaries on the CNBC news, she seems to be doing extremely well

[@BulentKizilaslan]

That woman has changed my life for good. I attended her investment class couple of weeks and she's the best when it comes for guidance

[@findingpath8362]

Stacey Macken is a retirement manager and investment/savings expert, in ranks with Cathie woods and Warren, has demonstrated expertise in investment strategies and has been involved in managing and providing financial guidance globally

[@starspaceschool587]

After seeing enough of these I would bet that the husband would say that he took control of the finances in order to save the house. There have been some where you hear “my spouse takes my entire check and is being financially abusive” then come to find out they are in $100k of debt and their entire check doesn’t even cover interest. Truth generally lies somewhere in between and is hard to find with only one side of the story.

[@tonyahenry4167]

That’s what I’m thinking

[@mrmarcus8772]

Interesting perspective

[@DMB-pe8hk]

I wondered that, too, but when she said he took the finances over twice and messed things up and she had to fix it, I don't think anyone, much less a control freak, would've handed it back over to someone incompetent... so he had to have been both desperate and convinced she could help. It had a ring of truth to it and, bless her heart, she said it so non-judgmentally...she just set things right, only to have him take it again. And now again. It does sound like he may be unsound, bc if she were the one that bad, no way would he hand it back again, ever. Strange situation, and we may never know. But regardless, she shouldn't be going without money for food. That alone is a red flag. One of them is either a sick, abusive controller or the other is a convincing slanderous, phony victim...hard to say what's going on here. If I had to guess, I'd say she's the sane one and afraid of what he'll do if she stands up to him. Sometimes a person may be holding something over on them and threatening to tell the world if they challenge them anything. (At least, that's what happens on Perry Mason, haha.) Idk.

[@tiffanymorrell7583]

The best person to ask is the daughter who mom owes (if I heard right) $23,000.

[@tonyahenry4167]

@@tiffanymorrell7583 $2300 but these is definitely more to this story

[@littleripper312]

There's no helping some people because they just let people walk all over them and will never do anything about it even if they know what they need to do. She's been through this twice in the last 52 years and who knows what else with him but stayed. That's how she chose to live her life, there's nothing anyone can do for her unless she's willing to actually change her situation.

[@Sizukun1]

So she's calling multiple radio shows looking for advice as a geriatric to get a job, daughter knows dad isn't giving her money anymore, and nobody questions if this lady is just terrible with money? Behaviors all over the spectrum, and the kneejerk reaction of "just divorce him" may not even net anything if the husband burned all the cash in their life.

[@dominiquejones6758]

Why I will never not work and earn my own money.

[@Patricia-pp3mr]

The husband took her name off the business. Did she have to legally sign off the business?

[@tiffanymorrell7583]

She said he took her name off of everything. Which I find weird because she would have had to sign off on a few things.

[@ulf5738]

Divorce the old abuser

[@Chet_24]

Is there a reason she can't work? Sounds like she enjoys being a perpetual victim.

[@minnesotajames1]

Not sure what's going on here but the wife seems to mentally ill as well. I mean they keep telling her she's in a crisis and she is like anyway.... I need a job.

[@chrisk4053]

It didn’t seem as tho she was open to advice

[@poolmilethirty2859]

After 52 years, she's brainwashed and funds it impossible to leave. She might have other issues we don't know about.

[@rhondaa5191]

There's more to this story than we're being told. For one, if her husband has filed for SS benefits, she automatically gets a letter that prompts her to file for the equivalent of half of his benefit minus her own. If she isn't entitled to her own SS, she's entitled to half of his. Secondly, let me speak directly to her: Don't be a victim. Burying your head in the sand is avoidance and can only lead to more trouble. You don't need a job, you need guidance which Dave tried to give you. I think you're truly worried to discover how bad things really are, but that's not going to make it go away. Do it TODAY.

[@pandabear7177]

Question- why do you assume she would know about how SS benefits work? And, if he’s controlling the grocery pennies, he is probably controlling the mail if he knows she’s getting a letter. And yes, she needs to get a divorce. But!! Being married to someone for 52 years and having hell for the last 4 years makes it hard to truly walk away. It’s not a victim situation. It’s her reality. She does have places she can go and there’s plenty of ways out of situations like these *IF* you’re aware of them and the necessity of leaving. She’s close to seeing the reality and necessity, but ultimately it’s not our decision. It’s hers. And calling her a “victim” is just annoying and rude. Stop.

[@aolvaar8792]

half of His AMOUNT, he does not lose any.

[@rhondaa5191]

@@pandabear7177I’m not being rude, I’m being factual. If he has filed to collect SS benefits, she, as his spouse is sent a letter to inform her that she may be entitled to increased benefits if his income exceeded hers. Now, if he impedes the delivery of that letter, that’s criminal. She’s stated that she has no income and at 72, having worked for not only the family business, but in an administrative role for a non-profit, she must be drawing SS benefits. So she has an income. I’m saying that we’re not getting the full story and there comes a point to where we take action to right a wrong or simply resign ourselves to victimhood. Very simple. Not rude, just factual.

[@tiffanymorrell7583]

@@rhondaa5191 She may not be drawing SS because to get the money she would have to have a bank account in her name for direct deposit and if it is coming by check he can't cash it if it is not in his name. I find it hard to believe he would be just letting the checks pile up.

[@rhondaa5191]

@@tiffanymorrell7583 As stated earlier, if that's the case, there's a criminal element to the story. And that's FEDERAL.

[@quacktuber1051]

Standard. "I called legal aid" so she has already initiated legal proceedings against her husband. "He lives downstairs and I live up here", yes, a lot of men get cast down to the basement, "He has debt up to his eyeballs", yup, well that part sounds believable. Wish them both good luck. Running a family run home business as sole income all your life is a risky proposition. So is being married nowadays also.

[@kokabr]

God helps those who help themselves. Take the first step. Don't just wait for things to happen by themselves. They never do.

[@mtbokor1969]

G-d has nothing to do w this

[@Shay-yg7nm]

This is nuts. This is mentally abusive. You need a divorce

[@bigpicturethinking5620]

lol this is less than half a story. What a joke.

[@catherinevalli6830]

thank goodness they cut her mike. but she probably didn't hear any of what dave was saying because her mouth was still going.

[@greyhoundgirl9726]

This is yet another reason I’m still single. Getting married is such a trap. I can’t imagine how desperate these women are to be and stay married so that they are willing to settle for men like this. Get out and discover how much better life can be!

[@Bethelgal42]

Not all marriages are like this. All men aren't abusive.

[@DMB-pe8hk]

@greyhoundgirl9726 Marry the right person. People hook up and get attached emotionally *before* knowing enough to decide whether this person is a treasure worth giving yourself to - bad idea. Once attachment comes in, people tend to make poor decisions. One of the best pieces of advice I ever got was, Don't date anyone you wouldn't marry. Not even one date...bc things one unthinkable can creep in a little at a time, including marriage. Knowing whether they're worth dating requires time getting to know them without the incredible binding power of intimacy. It can bind you to anyone. Get to know people in groups and public settings without doing things that will blind your good judgment. Unless your standards are low, thus will eliminate a lot of creeps and semi-creeps quickly. If you can discern a creep the first 10 minutes, imagine what you can uncover within 3 weeks or months. Save a lot of heartache. I found my prince. Years of marriage and tho there have been bumps, it is one of the best things in the world to be known and loved, and to know and love, and be fully committed. And I know he would literally give his life for mine in an emergency. The trick is, marry someone who will give their life daily (while retaining self respect), while you do the same. When the giving and loving and mutual, you've found the best. You may have to go counter-cultural to weed out the others to find them.

[@susansunflower]

How does anyone allow this? This happened 2 other times? Take control lady.

[@dcg590]

She hasn’t got a lawyer because she’s lying. His side of the story will be vastly different

[@drea4195]

You sure made an effort to come on here and state that multiple times.

[@SarahFox-y1f]

Why call for advice and then say you are not taking the advice? Stop. Listen. Or save all of us some time and don’t call and ask for advice again.

[@alladreamwedreamed]

She's 72, she's from time where women didn't do anything independently and hitched themselves onto a man for life.

[@derekd1510]

She doesn't need a lawyer, she needs a PSYCHIATRIST!

[@tracyaf6084]

@@alladreamwedreamedmy aunt is 78. She left an abusive husband as a single mother of two. A lot of my friends parents who are around this age now were divorced. The 1980s it wasn’t unusual. She was 42 in 1994, not 1944.

[@kenlang2154]

There's more to this story. 8 don't buy that she lives this for 52 years.

[@kathyrnvavricek5425]

She needs to get credit reports to show she has no accounts. His report will show if he has past due accounts. File for divorce. Judge will force him to sell house. She will get half and half his ss. Then move in with daughter and block him on everything.

[@robloxvids2233]

If this was a male caller they would have called him a child. A baby. Is she 72? Or 72 weeks old?

[@elianah8803]

She’s 72 and has been doing this for 50 years. She’s not going to do anything except wring her hands until she calls again next year. She has excuses why she can’t do this, can’t do that…..after 50 years this is all she knows. Her daughter has probably tried to help and given up. Very sad to live your life like this, at any age.

[@MsAquarius79]

Shes making to many excuses to leave her situation. She needs to get a grip

[@codys5727]

4:44 your husband is a psycho.....10 seconds later woman tries to speak. Ken "but listen to me". Poor woman gets bossed around enough by men in her life

[@IamJacksColon4]

it sounds like he's preparing to divorce her

[@BBQBiscuts]

'stop dancing with it...go smack it'. This has to be one of the greatest pieces of advice I've ever heard in my life 🤣. But in all seriousness she does need to lawyer up and get into therapy.

[@HoboToto]

This is a good example of why you shouldn’t put yourself in a position of complete dependency on another person.

[@GAFB1122]

ABSOLUTELY!! 💯

[@sharp52092]

Unless she has an addiction, an illness, or another reason he keeps the money away from her, she needs to get out.

[@autumnjerene]

I find it telling that she said he's done this 3 other times in the past. So he's taken all financial abilities away from her, given it all back, taken it all away again, and gone through this motion multiple times over the years. It sounds like he wants to trust her with $, but she keeps being untrustworthy.

[@sharp52092]

@@autumnjerene Hm, perhaps. I wish we could hear from the husband and children.

[@memyself9372]

​@@autumnjereneMaybe he's untrustworthy, unreasonable, and cruel. Maybe he's the poster child for the definition of narcissist. Of course, he has lots of new and old and trusted flying monkeys. I bet everyone who knows him says how wonderful he is. SHE'S the one living with being gaslit. She's the crazy, untrustworthy one.

[@jessicasnyder4507]

My dad acted very similar to this in his last few years. I had to step in and even removed my mom from the home at one point. At the time right before he passed we realized there were tens of thousands of dollars missing. He has sold off so much of their silver and high valued belongings. He was diagnosed with dementia, they said it had probably been going on for years. He thought my mom was "taking his money" it was sad all the way around. We were never able to recover all the missing cash and silver.

[@d_all_in]

This woman is lying

[@janetkenny4861]

She can connect with a domestic abuse line, they will advise her to all the resources in her area to do all the things you are suggesting, and a safe place to go.

[@pamt3915]

She participated in her husband doing this twice before & then cleaned up his mess. What’s wrong with this woman that she would willingly do it again?

[@whatdoyoumeantheresnocoffe9141]

Very, very low self esteem and sense of self worth .. At the very least, her daughter should do what Dave says then, help her mother pack a bag and get the heck out of there.

[@juelz713]

She is older than them, it's going to be hard for her to listen to them

[@musume7723]

Then she shouldn't have called them to ask for advice

[@jasonleatherwood2172]

Well if you know my mother in law she seems perfectly fine but her social security check hits on. Sunday its all gone by sunday at 6pm she is a shopping addict bout half way through the month she is hitting up the food ministry’s cause she has no food but she has junk piled to the ceilings i bet this lady is the same way

[@macpduff2119]

The man sounds like he is getting dementia. Married 52 yrs - he's in his mid 70's

[@angryox3102]

She did say that he’s done it before.

[@lulubird8636]

Finally.. someone that can see it.. Clearly either one of them has dementia.. either it's her and that's why the daughter doesn't do anything or it's him becoming paranoid.. I think it's her.

[@paulstandaert5709]

I would like to hear his side of the story. I'm betting that there's more to it.

[@Nonsense116]

What an awful, colossal, failure of a husband.

[@rhondaa5191]

Maybe, but we don't know the whole story and as a woman, I'm not buying it as presented.

[@melanieb2132]

Stockholm syndrome..

[@geremi140]

She will not call a lawyer

[@jimmymcgill6778]

What's the rest of the story?

[@GAFB1122]

How many comments will we get from listeners who never miss a video, complaining about how they hate one sided calls. I hate to break it to you people; it is the nature of the call-in program, and it will NOT change. It is very rare that Dave and his co-hosts have two people on the line. Heck, they even get letters they read that is definitely one-sided, and just from the writer's point of view, LOL!! So to put it as bluntly as possible, IF you are that upset by it that you continuing complain, STOP BLAKNING LISTENING!! Problem solved!

[@naomirachel9161]

This part!

[@BREEZYM6015]

Yours is probably the only comment in this video complaining about one sided calls unless you can reference one. Maybe you should stop listening. 😂

[@GAFB1122]

@@BREEZYM6015 beaniemac below!! That is one and will not be the only one. BLANK OFF breezy!!

[@GAFB1122]

@@BREEZYM6015 WRONG!!

[@HOLDXSTEEL]

No we’re still ganna complain 😂

[@anomicanomic2705]

We had a situation like this with the neighbor. The husband wouldn’t trust her with anything. Kept all the financials looked in a safe. Have her an allowance and she would tell us how abusive he was. We all believed her 100% sounded similar to this case. Then the elderly neighbor next door had home hospice and she went to “help” and stole his painkillers. The real story was she was a junkie and would use every dollar she could get to buy drugs. The “abusive” husband didn’t want to share their business

[@autumnjerene]

I got a similar feeling from this call. "He's done this before" she said. So he's taken all financial control away from her, given it all back, taken it all away, given it all back... Sounds like he wants to trust her with money, but she keeps screwing up.

[@rhondahopkins4366]

A submissive woman

[@TamiBri]

This is scary and a reminder to always have your own money ladies

[@propdoe1072]

Financial abuse is real!!

[@thegenxgamerr]

She’s calling the place that tells people to combine all their finances for help? Maybe you can get some help from comments, you set up a joint account with your spouse to pay agreed-upon expenses the rest of your money you keep in your own account. it’s 2024 not 1954. The social reality has changed.

[@RAZASHARP]

How is this abusive… after 27 years he fired her…also she was obviously benefiting from living there and he pays for everything! There’s always more to a story, especially with women!

[@RowanburnReiverRoots]

Spouses are often women, and spouses (yes, even the women!) have legal rights. Hard to swallow I know, but there you have it.

[@poolmilethirty2859]

Abusive because he has all the control and she has no money after 52 years of marriage and working for his business.

[@amandaowens7568]

It's abusive bc wife has no discretionary money to do/spend on anything .

[@rhondaa5191]

@@amandaowens7568 She has social security and half of any assets. She's chosen this path and ignored the warning signs.

[@buckeyedav1]

How sad this situation is I can't imagine being that age and going through this. Anna In Ohio

[@GAFB1122]

You say "that age" but I find it interesting, MOST LIKELY this woman has been in a dysfunctional marriage for many years. She was foolish for not dealing with this many years ago. I am a father to a daughter and my daughter will NOT be in this position because I raised her with a backbone and to rely on no one and if she wants something she gets it with her own two hands!

[@JustMe-dn9fh]

This has been going on her whole married life! Didn't just happen at 72! She is scared, and most like being physically abused too. The situation with her being off of all the accounts is short of disastrous! When her husband gets sick, or dies,how will she have access to funds to keep the household up, or even bury the no good husband?