I left my marriage after 23 years! I got tired of being hurt by a man who I had loved for years

Njoki Muraguri is a senior citizen. She now runs her business after retiring from a job in the county government. She tell me that when her first born was only 3, she had accessed and seen that her marriage may never work but she chose to stay. She loved him and always hoped that he would become a more responsible man. After 23 years, Njoki left! So why did she leave after all that patience? She tells me that she finally got tired of being hurt by a man who she had loved for years but he wasn't willing to change for the better.

[@kezzybett1142]

I quit my first marriage after 7yrs with three precious babies Stayed single for 5 yes Met my current husband We have now been married 19 yrs n ours have been a very great marriage. I thank God so much for His grace

[@marywambui8612]

WOW congrats dear na vile ati mimi naogopanga kutoka na watoto wawili nafikilia siwezi ona bwana 😢. Am 30's right now how old were you when you decided to move out frm first marriage?

[@kezzybett1142]

@@marywambui8612 i was 28 and re married at 33 God is the one who gives out husbands n wives Bora tu u retain ur integrity

[@marywambui8612]

@@kezzybett1142 very true and thanks for the encouragement.

[@janemburu8575]

Our dads,husbands and sons ,pls learn to hold your famiies together .wamama wamejaribu sana to keep tha families together .Why suffer in old age?

[@anitamsupa1054]

@@marywambui8612 i I'm single for 12 years now with my 2 beautiful girls. And I'm not yet married. Huwa naogopa sana kuoleka I'm 33 now

[@suemo5695]

I stayed in an abusive marriage for 22 years for the sake of my 3 precious children. I realized staying was actually very unhealthy for them.i left in 2021 and I'm now able to breathe again taking one day at a time

[@CessyKaylynn-mb6pz]

This is the story of my life mungu Tuonee huruma we women I became single while married

[@naomiwambui6010]

Me too

[@bettynjoki3115]

woi i can relate

[@Karenkandia]

Ngai first time kuona mtu najua,she was my classmate embu urban primary school baba yake alikuwa councilor

[@estherwatheri5506]

Me too. For 13yrs but I have now left. Single while married

[@lucywangari2155]

Same to me 15yrs matusi kila siku

[@tsc2022]

Very informative session. Sometimes,we Men fail our wives.....Bigtime. In the eyes of God,this woman really tried.

[@peterkithaka1654]

Oh dear this story is true for every home I Mt Kenya region. People growing up glorified those who drunk daily and spent all there time drinking. My uncles walked that path then ended up hopeless despite holding respectable job. Let's reflect and change

[@Phillpns413]

Good wives are hard to come by but men overlook that and assume that when wives are good and faithful and homemakes they are foolish and that they were meant to be that way. To me I think there's a crisis in generations both our parents and ours their children. This is why : You know I find it hard to understand how men who got married along time ago have been mistreating their wives . (This is evident because this is not the first story you are bringing like this one metha ya Kagoni . ) When us their children are finding a challenging time to get women who have the character and wifely values like being homemakers and supportive wives.

[@tsc2022]

Humble request,Monica give us an episode to show that Marriage really works...It will go a long way in inspiring those who have decided to take this path of marriage

[@michukiann2401]

I highly conquer with this perception

[@janegicheru973]

Thank you

[@FaithImani-qj1ci]

Hio nayo inahitajika

[@christinekibutu8930]

Yeeees!! Some of these stories really discourage people who desire marriage. Thankyou for this comment!

[@AnnahMwangi-njeri]

Yes I believe marriage work for two people who are willing to walk together as one

[@monicahlishiar6631]

❣️♥️🌹since there is no expert in marriage I will learn from others. And avoid what I should avoid

[@nancynjoroge2469]

To everyone reading this.. If you your parents ever warn you of a person....sit down think twice....ask questions....n sit down again and think harder.... our parents see things we don't see....and they almost if not always have our best interest in their hearts... Secondly never be too spiteful to go back home to admit and apologize to them.."they saw right and you was right"...as much as youd think you too grown up for it.kiburi yako itakuumiza bure.. remember a parent's love is to see you outlive them and have a better life than them...(rem the prodigal son) 3. Never ignore red flags... they'll come haunt you oneday.... staying with a toxic partner while giving yourself false hope of 'he will change' that's foolish.... people change when n for who they want.... 4.Never give your children as an excuse of staying in a toxic marriage...it does more damage to them than good... remember children mould their characters and personalities around the environment they are first introduced to when they come to life... If you show the shitty marriage is the way of life... they'll never see themselves of deserving any better 5.Never be afraid of 'what society will say' being a people pleaser Will rob you life...and destiny... many times society don't even care...it's your foolish ego holding you back 6.Stop calling come we stay cohabitation..especially pia marriage hata that doesn't have blessings from parents...no church involved. God ordained...God doesn't ordained unities based on selfish interest...lust and toxicity Am disappointed in this woman blaming his father for her useless marriage...note even crediting him (her father) for securing her a job that turned out to be her saving straw... atlast

[@shiromwangi6951]

Facts 💯💯💯

[@justinakariuki7435]

I hope you can say it louder... I wish i listened to momma 😭

[@beatricemuthoni4860]

We sympathize with her and her kids for what she has gone through, and it's true to listen to all dissenting voices especially when we are hell-bent to do something, again let's always try not to ignore red flags, above all we wish her well

[@annprecious5344]

It's a well said information

[@wambuinderitu2461]

She is a wise and hardworking woman 😊...i have learned a lot as a 21yr old lady

[@carolinemukundi4918]

I am married clocking nine years now but I understand this lady fully😮... Atleast she had a job thanks to her Dad.

[@MargaretMuthoni-ej9db]

Njoki ur life story has moved me cos it is a photo copy of my life.leaving this marriage is a nightmare cos he can't stand on his two feet.

[@potentterra]

Very strong woman. Kudos Njoki for sticking it out for so long and always doing the right thing. you made all the right choices except rushing into marriage. It is well.

[@janekogi6442]

I left after 38years and I am done.i had planned to love,care cook wash sleep with him but ........

[@elizabethbutiko6608]

After this story, I hope people will go slow on judging ladies who decide to give up on the marriage institution. Njoki is really a patient woman. Indeed God was with her in her whole journey..

[@bettynjoki3115]

A lot of wisdom detected in this lady, i just love her, i wish i can tell my story too.

[@janekogi6442]

Mine does not drink ,but I also left all projects I had at home because of unexplainable things, marriage is toughest job you can be assigned next to parenting

[@MaryAnneWambui-dq6cd]

I personally know this lady,,,,,we schooled together and were brought up together,,,,she was really hard working,,,,it pains to see how drinking can waste and there r still people drinking carelessly as if there was no tomorrow,may we learn from you,,God bless you Njoki and ur family,may you never lack,,,,,

[@faithwaeni3069]

Mi naona gen z watahave kuwa dayscholars kwa marriage.this kids have seen a lot enough for them to decide marriage is a scam 😢

[@puritymaina8567]

I am in a similar situation, 16 yrs in marriage with an alcoholic man, it is very challenging especially being a housewife but u put up with it for the sake of the kids. i hope one day i will be able to restart my life too.

[@annemuraya3537]

I got married in 2019 left 2022 I came to realise u cannot change a man

[@hadassahwambui5165]

Yes you cannot change a man unless he decides to

[@magyeshuchi5391]

Or unless God changes him.

[@annemuraya3537]

True

[@JaneHealth-wg2ig]

Ann, blessings to you for reading the red flag early. Men do not change unless they acknowledge their failures and take charge to change. The family would have been far, well and rich. The Lord will give you a new beginning. Barikiwa

[@ruthwaweru1284]

​@@JaneHealth-wg2ig marriages nowadays wacha tu siongei sana

[@irenenjeri1233]

Woooiiii Ngai Wa atumia no ariuka.

[@margaretmungai1924]

Very educative.. I can relate to that my mum ameishi kuvumilia juu yetu now 34yrs in single but married

[@lizshabani]

Thank you Monica for the shout out ❤

[@paulbuuri5910]

I love Njoki 's spirit and focus. Nevertheless i don't like the way she is blaming her late father simply because he did not tell her why he and by devote they ( both parents) diidnt tell her why they were not supporting their marriage. Firstly did she ask them why they were not ? Secondly since she knew from onset that he was a drunker Why did she take time to learn his behaviours ? Why rush in the institution of marriage. In her story the parents are coming out strongly as a very loving , Supportive and responsible. No wonder the father went all the way to look for her at Nyeri to take her empowerment letter. Including making sure she signed the letter .of empowerment he helped her acquire. despite the fact that she was married. How many would wish to have such kind of parents . He even went a head to giving her a plot. He sibbling are also good. I have a feeling if Nloki was a little bit patient the parent could have taken her college. I would have loved if Kagoni asked her whether her sibbling were taken to college or were supported to settle. That not withstanding I love the way she (Njoki) was able to pick herself up easily and moved on with her life. The story is resourceful.

[@charitykinya1864]

Very True

[@flozykambiri5440]

Am not yet married but i always love listening to this stories hadi mtu anaogopa

[@estherchege9074]

Ni dakenio ni rugano rwa mutumia uyu very encouraging..

[@namsy8322]

Story worth listening,,congrats brave woman you are a conqueror and u will go far.

[@janekogi6442]

This is a very great woman,wise clever,reasoning is high.i wish she went to college

[@sammychomba7003]

She is wise and full of wisdom,Monica you need to interview the likes of our mum's, who have been in marriage for the last 40yrs and enjoying marriage institution. To motivate our generation

[@janegicheru973]

True, through thick and thin they have a happy marriage

[@evelynlyimo1557]

My mom is now 85 years old. She has been married for over 54 years, now recently I went to introduce my fiance to her and she looked at him and. Later she asked me "Eva how do yu know a mans heart and actions towards you,I have much experience over men because I have lived with your dad longer than yu know, but your now fiancee isn't the right man for you..I cut off links from him immediately..now am single😂😂😂😂😂 😂

[@waken6987]

This s real.A woman can b patient 4 long bt akiamua, ameamua. M I left after 25yrs & I don't regret.

[@beatricembithe5011]

Et 25yrs???if mm naumwa ju ya 16 yrs ,,,je ww?

[@maryquie9838]

Am 26 yrs and going through the same ,i would really want to talk to this mum, Monica please get me intouch with her

[@trizahmbugua-vm6xx]

My story here. 24 yrs, married but single, madharao, cold war, God give me direction.

[@user-un6lj7jp9k]

Me too married for twenty three years but now am feedup. Kukaa na mlevi ni kazi. Hiyo kiatu mwenye huwa ameivaa ndiye huwa anahisi hiyo uchungu.

[@marymacharia6776]

Waah... What a story... You are going far my siz

[@samuelmurungu4901]

Really wazazi hupata shinda. After only one year after school you blame the parents for failures.

[@WakarimaWaKariri]

The things women go through for their kids. Another truly remarkable story. ❤

[@evlynnmollenhauer3798]

You're going very far njoki keep it up

[@annnjogu1248]

Aki Wamama wanajua kujipanga, that's awesome

[@marthawanjeri81]

This is exactly my life story with my ex husband,I was going through that 😭,he can't pay school fees,he can't buy food or paying bills 😢,pesa yake ilikuwa ya pombe na bangi ,na nikimuitisha pesa ni vita😢,weeeuh I was single but married at that time,but. I thank God niliondokea hiyo uchungu,saa hii nangangana my life yangu na watoi wangu

[@gandaprinting4821]

you are strong woman keep it up. Ningukuria kiuria. Wee niwaracaiirio ni muthuri ucio? okorwo anja ni aca ubatii kuhoya kirathimo kuri aciari aku nigetha ukendia kana uguranire ciana ciaku, umenyerere muno ndukendie na ndwatwariirwo wahota kwirianiria

[@carriecaroswakio4827]

I got married in 2018 but sai mahali imefika i better quit for my peace of mind

[@eunicenjeru215]

Woii Njoki wa muraguri...plot ya Gathoge yanyua mae...it is well!

[@bettynjoki3115]

I love the way she is hardworking, no wonder wishes to become single, ni mambo inatupatanga

[@loisemuchiri6390]

This is a very patient woman and a very smart one

[@marywangui.180]

Very very educative, you are straight forward lady ❤

[@mwariwambeere8375]

Such an inspirational testimony 🎉❤

[@virginiawanjiru7804]

Madam, congrats but you took soo long to live. You are not alone. The part that you did everything is the best part. You will never look back n regret anything congrats.. so many have done the same. God knows it all.

[@maryw7789]

Better late than never my sister.

[@justinanthenge619]

she is right. single motherhood is not good but sometimes the circumstances are such that.............. you have no choice!

[@bancymunene3436]

I have learnt a lot from this lady.... May God bless and keep her. May I be wise in everything I do, 23 years is not little. From this story, if it's not working, please speak out, be loud about it, if nothing changes, pack while you are still young.

[@marykagumah2056]

You never know when time is running and always hoping things will change.

[@abby_intheattic48]

Nice lady, very bright. Was a very good wife

[@susankaranja7403]

can't wait

[@JacquelineNjeru-cl3ef]

My story exactly 😢😢😢Encouraged sana

[@cecilianganga5130]

Waooo that was amazing

[@nimonim6932]

Strong woman beautiful ❤mama

[@monicahnjeri9655]

This is me now am in marriage only for my kids wasikuje Kuni blame ati niliwatoa kwa baba Yao....I think I can't change a man unless he decide s to change

[@estherkieyakinyanjui7220]

Wah hii mambo unauma, am single in my marriage too, but I thank God am in peace though

[@beatriceweru9304]

You came out victorious ma weru

[@priscillakamari476]

This story is exactly what I went through.

[@winrosengunjiri8470]

Sorry cuzo for you went through

[@catherinekibe4162]

Such a strong lady

[@muthonimwajesu4664]

Wee Better mi after 11yrs nilienda nkiendanga aki

[@annthuku451]

This also a story of my life so we r many but now am at peace

[@leahnjenga4236]

Hardworking woman💪

[@marykaguma3512]

I left after 26 years nasikia ameoa kasichana kadogo kaa daughter yangu, but who cares? Mimi nilihamia uk 🇬🇧 nilimuacha kawangware.

[@eunicenjenga1366]

Great

[@xabbydeleopardleopard2809]

C unifanyie maconnections huko dea

[@marykaguma3512]

@@xabbydeleopardleopard2809 jaza tourist visa ukipewa niandikie

[@janekogi6442]

They will not change because of you ,only God can change men

[@gracewairimu937]

Alcohol in families comes from somewhere, prayers changes things. It seems Alcohol is in this family , pray for your children not to continue the legacy

[@MissMuneneOfficial]

Sure..they are alters that only prayers can break

[@njerimuathe8493]

Uongo. This lady speaks about her husband's alcoholism, no one else. Or is one person the whole family?

[@karimimiriti3827]

Sipatagi hapo kagoni unasema (join)

[@MaryWandere-vu1bw]

If it's not working it is not working no matter the years

[@annemuthoni1781]

I love this 🥰

[@imani6866]

Just like me,almost ten years single but married 😢

[@raelwangari6635]

me too 15years feeling the same dear...looking forward to press left button😪

[@nellykatrina4794]

Sorry

[@xabbydeleopardleopard2809]

Kwani wamama wote tuko single while in marriage? God help me to make a good choice 😭😭😭

[@ig4408]

Tiga kublame aciari tabathari, mekire ouria monire best to their knowledge.

[@mwariwachegeh385]

If you have never had narcissists parent you can't understand...they sometimes push someone to do the regretful

[@paulbuuri5910]

​@@mwariwachegeh385 ???? Nasciast ???

[@charitykariuki-gr7dv]

Waiting

[@hezekiahgichia1220]

Women women. Lo! Endurance, perseverance, resilience. Must women wait for such a long time. Is it really worth it.

[@paturathirii138]

KANGIREGA NYINA GATIHONAGA.UNGIORIRIE ACIARI MARAREGA NIKI.

[@newtonnjugunanewtonnjuguna8755]

This is a common practice today, women take advantage of men , once a woman becomes rich, or rather able, most run and leave the husband wailing in pathetic conditions Generally women don't have mercy at all , once you get broke , kwisha

[@rugurunjogu3890]

Mama Weru you are a strong woman. Yaani i grew up with your kids at Gathoge and they are still great friends but I never knew this is what they were going through. May God repay back the years lost.

[@victoriashiko7172]

Never as woman lady le be slavery for any man or human in this world 🌍 👈🏽 life is to short love your self and always love your self &care your self first of all

[@neatsniper]

Njoki is wrong to apportion blame to her parents. Surely her parents said no to that relationship from the word go! They did their best to stop it. So let her take accountability for accepting that marriage!

[@evelynmainawambui3745]

Watching...

[@winniejohnstone]

Tuko wengi akky😢

[@nellykatrina4794]

I blame you for all this..ulijuwa vizuri your husband was alcoholic and you trusted him that much..

[@marygathanga7535]

Ngai don’t blame her this my true story waiting him to change

[@ruthwaweru1284]

love is blind dear let not blame her

[@bluerain1493]

Also remember she was too young at only 18 years surely, she wasn't mature or experienced enough to make sound judgment.

[@marygathanga7535]

This is my story for my life true

[@simongitu7311]

Wueeh,kweli pombe ni hasara tupu.

[@palmacgarden5596]

Marriage works sure though sometime we take it as an accident...i believe wanaume need to change, women need to be taken care of

[@linetkhavugwi209]

Story of my life , went back after sixteen yrs thinking he has changed only for him to eat all the school fee I had saved for my kids

[@tresmiefelix3671]

After 16 years you went back? You never got another man😊

[@judywanjiru]

After 16 years, ooh no

[@joymtotoluke2849]

Kagoni nimesikiza hou mama story yake n kama yangu tu nilitoka kwa doa miaka 20 yrs ....na my husband alikuwa anafanya job hio kabuni tu ...but life was not easy to make the matter wase my husband was disabled.....so angalia hi ulevi na unafumiilia sababu ya watoto na kuuliza watu wataniona ane 😢😢😢

[@shiromwangi6951]

You are blaming your parents tooooo much yet from your story they stood with you most of the time. Come on.

[@serahngima265]

True...she blames the parents too much yet she did not listen to them

[@rosendungu8051]

I blame them too. They should have given her reasons as she says. At early 20s one is still immature. At this point let her speak what's in her heart. It's her time to spit and heal.

[@lillieGatz]

@@rosendungu8051 yah. She was still very young

[@JaneHealth-wg2ig]

Shiro, she is not blaming her parents. She was correcting how parents should advice their children before marriage. The woman is reasonable in her narrative. Asante

[@rehemanju]

@@JaneHealth-wg2ig Great you got it. 👍

[@jesseemugambi]

Here is the deal, making money is one thing and investing it is another thing all together. The gentleman did not have wisdom of investing his money rather he just made merry. We walk towards beer, beer does not have control over us.

[@janekogi6442]

Kuria kungi Martha ni uiru wa arume kuria atumia aouninite micii.muthuru ndendaga mutumia ungika undu ukuoneka no ugurire irio irio ithire.actually no body knows what to do

[@Elsamuigai9620]

she's like my mother, nimempenda sana

[@rosendungu8051]

My mum stuck for 30yrs, doing everything for us and her longtime bf cum husband, tried to defend the ancestral land and was threatened with death, she opted out and continued with the defence from outside and was eventually murdered. Haki mimi na marriage...may God help me to stay peacefully single.

[@nellykatrina4794]

Your mom was murdered?😢

[@faithwaeni3069]

Woi pole

[@goodnewsmissionthikachurch2237]

😢i can relate

[@janekogi6442]

I only saw my youthfulness in my children

[@njambikim1900]

Plz huyu niambiwe ni wa kuzaliwa mwaka gani....naskia wanaume wa 1976 wako na hii shida.......yale mambo wa mama huwa wanavumilia

[@kinjowadad2422]

Aki wewe

[@alexwathome2948]

I have gone through this also

[@judithgathuthi5253]

I left after 27yrs

[@petergitau1632]

🙌

[@christinewanjiru9683]

Mimi pia nilivumilia just so that i could give my kids a complete family but deep down i wasnt happy.the guy is a kdf yet i find myself doing everything from school fees to rent to food,there are times id call him akiwa job asking for help juu hatuna food,something that the teachers had noticed my younger one would throw tantrums asubuhi juu ya njaa all he would say is kuna kitu nagojea,nikipata ill send you something,even when my son would get sick it would be the same thing last month i had enough decided to cut ties juu after 5yrs now hakuna change.i am jobless but somehow we get get,ill struggle alone.when i was capable i paid a loan for this man yet he cant help us when we need him 😏

[@ruthwaweru1284]

Nakuitwa bibi ya afande hapo am married na police wacha ninyamaze

[@User-wy1zj]

Umechunguza where he takes his money?

[@christinewanjiru9683]

@@User-wy1zj his mother.

[@User-wy1zj]

@@christinewanjiru9683 Woi bure kabisa..mine is also a kdf na shida tu

[@annwanja3081]

My cuzo is a police he can't even afford to pay for his kids school fees ,kazi no pombe

[@charitywanjohi884]

Following…..

[@marynjoki5673]

That my dad no acoholic we never know what he earn he is employed by government you will never here any rumors that he has a sidechic he never provide for his family bt he is working how can you now describe such shually my mum is a sinhle mother of 4 she have to provide for as in everything and even he come to eat what he has not provide and never question about his money i have learn alot from marriages especially with my family bt for me i said is a no go zone first am working to better my life b4 marriage 8f i find such a man i just run away without looking back.