I'll never ride my horse again.

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[@annieclark6535]

Meg, in a world where people push their horses too hard, and ignore the pain, ruling it off as "stubborness" or a "lack of respect", this video has just increased my respect for you tenfold. You listened to your gut, and now Ari doesn't have to suffer a life being pushed to do sports while in pain (which other people have done) thanks to you. Horses wear their hearts of their sleeves; they DO comminucate these things with us. But it takes really special person to notice those small signs and listen. Never riding your horse again is absolutely heartbreaking. But we can find comfort in knowing they don't have to suffer ❤

[@Jzy21]

❤❤

[@user-hh1ro3xw8l]

Very true

[@Starry_Night_Sky7455]

My exact thoughts.

[@sullyhildebrand4636]

I’m so sorry, Meg. Huge huge kudos to you and Hobbit for trusting your intuition and knowing something was wrong. This situation could’ve turned out much, much worse. Hats off to your horsemanship and commitment to always putting your horses first. Ari will undoubtedly lead the best life with you.

[@Stahhhscreaming]

Meg, you are an amazing horsewoman and a true role model within the community. Ari is INCREDIBLY lucky to have you.

[@sebeles3003]

Well said ❤

[@sarahk1965]

I'm so sorry Meg, that must be so incredibly disappointing. Ari is so lucky to have you. 😔

[@Rosie-iy2bv]

I'm so pleased you listen to your horses and understand that horse behaviour is mostly due to reaction to a problem/upset/pain than acting out. The behaviour is not the problem it is the outcome of a problem, the difficult thing is finding that.

[@janeminwell4395]

Well said.

[@WarriorBeans]

I’m sorry Meg, horses can be so amazing but it’s a reality of them. I wish you the best

[@charlottewiese4743]

Meg-- Beyond the tragedy of the situation, I can not express to you how incredibly fortunate you are to have found this as early as you did. For reference, I work for a hunter jumper facility in the states. This year my farm has had two discoveries of chronic "lameness" in the neck. The first was a situation that initially presented nearly identically to what you described experiencing with Ari, though this horse was a couple of years older with a show record. He was generally "lazy" at best and "clumsy" at worst, with the exception of extreme outbursts seemingly out of nowhere. The horse was worked "through" it in every instance until one day; My coworker was schooling him as usual and approached a jump, left the ground entirely normally, and was suddenly beneath the horse in a full rotational. He had failed to fully extend his front legs and neck in order to land on the backside, and subsequently rolled over his shoulder with my coworker in tow. The issue was then investigated thoroughly before an X ray revealed what was thought to be a manageable case of "wobblers", and the horse was sent to have a basket surgically placed in his neck to stabilize the vertebrae. 9 months later the horse returned to work, seemingly better, before the stumbling (previously chalked up to laziness) ensued again. A badly failed neuro exam concluded that something was seriously wrong, and our vet suspected there was a more severe disturbance in the neck. The decision to euthanize was made, and the necropsy revealed ASTOUNDING malformations in C6, C7, and the first ribs. The horse was diagnosed post-mortem with something called Equine Complex Vertebral Malformation, a lesser known yet slowly more and more prevalent condition found in sporthorses (I strongly suggest looking into it as our industry is beginning to suffer the affects over here as newer generations of horses come into work). Long story short, the horse was going to kill someone while existing in immeasurable pain had the call not been made. The second horse is a truer comparison to Ari, however-- Became more sour toward work, stopping at jumps, small indicators that were easily dismissed as behavioral. Then, once again, my coworker was on her one day cantering around in warm up when the mare buckled at the fetlock and fell rotationally. Unlike the other horse, several rounds of injections were performed for suspected arthritis in the neck before an MRI showed a narrowing of the vertebral canal. A final unsuccessful nerve injection finalized the decision to retire her, as she is entirely sound and happy to graze and be a horse for the time being. My point in all of this: As devastating as this is, and I am SO incredibly sorry you and your sweet baby are dealing with this, please know there is a massive community online dedicated to furthering awareness and research in vertebral conditions. Our farm was shocked when we first found out that issues like this even exist, and I applaud and thank you for your courage in sharing your situation. And, once again, I commend you for your respect to your animals and trust in your instinct as a horse woman. In the case of my farm and SO many others, ignorance coupled with a quickness to dismiss something as behavioral leads to tragic outcomes. Sending you and Ari the best of wishes as you navigate your journey forward ❤

[@lpswaffle9072]

Thanks for sharing, as sad as this is😪 I also had a horse, named Ari, and after circumstances much like you described with the first horse, we learned he had both spinal compression and ECVM. It was devastating. We had to let him go this past summer. I've come to learn so much about ECVM and it's incredibly sad how it affects otherwise athletic and sweet horses. I'm sorry your barn had this experience as well, but each story I hear makes me realize so many horse owners are going through this.

[@Geeoorrggiiaa45]

Whether he has months or years left, I hope you can find some peace in knowing you were the first,last & only family he knew and loved, he had you from beginning to end ,whenever in the future that may be , which is such a special thing ❤ thinking of you Meg, and again you’re reminding us all that follow you what a role model & honest horse person you are. Take care ❤

[@suzannechance5876]

Thank you for listening to your instincts! They tell us in so many ways that things are amiss, we just need to pay attention! And thank you for not selling him off to someone who would mistreat him. You and Hobbit have always had my respect for the lovely way you care for your horses, this just reinforces it!

[@barryandjackypowell8239]

Meg, I am so very sorry to hear about Ari's problem. Thank you for letting us know, and for taking his best interests above all else in these sad circumstances. You have my sympathy and best wishes.

[@sarbearsleeps333]

I just wanted to say that I also experience severe neck and spinal pain from injuries sustained in a car accident from 20 years ago, and I just wanted to share that it feels like raw lightening bolts are striking down through my body... I'm so sorry Meg. ❤️ I know that you know it's not Ari's fault, and I really appreciate you being such a good person and being true to him (and yourself) and communicating that. You've got my admiration and support. ♥️

[@jelphick4686]

Thank you for sharing this, that's exactly how it seemed with Ari that day in his stable, it just came out of nowhere. I hope that you are able to manage your pain x

[@cattymajiv]

I get lightning bolts too, caused by nerve damage from MS. The neck verterbra rub the damaged nerves and WHAM! But thankfully only once in a while.

[@Steph.Robinson]

I can relate to how Ari must have felt, with nerve damage in my neck from crumbling disks it's like hot pokers for me and mines constant and again like Ari nothing can be done except trying to manage the pain, operation is out of the question as its 50% I'd come out paralyzed and 25% it wouldn't make a difference, so with all the risks and only 25% that it would work I was told no surgeon would agree to those odds, especially as I was 20 at the time and things have only got worse the last 20yrs. I hope you have as much time with Ari as possible and I'm so glad you made the decision you did despite how difficult it must have been, he's lucky to have such responsible and kind people advocating for him 🤗🤗🤗

[@hethacopland3713]

So very sorry Meg. He's very, very lucky to belong to you and to have you making the right decisions for him.

[@TeamTLS101]

Awh Meg so sorry, he's such a beautiful boy 🥺. Glad you stopped and investigated rather than push through and slap the "naughty" label on like some. As sad as it is you've done right by him, and been sensible in keeping yourself (and others) safe too! Hope he stays comfortable and happy for as long as possible to enjoy his "retirement" 😊

[@beematthews7182]

Kudos to the Elphick ladies for everything to do with Ari. You have done the very best you can for him, and yourselves in that you given yourselves time to take in what has occurred and what will be. You're all incredible in how you support your animals and each other. It was not the news anyone wanted to hear but thank you, as you may have helped other owners in a similar position. Ari may only have a shortened time, but he is still beautiful and loved.

[@horsemadez0512]

I'm so sorry for you about this news, I sadly lost my boy at a very young age for the exact same medical reason and he showed very subtle to no signs. I was show jumping him two days before he was at the vets getting scans and x-rays and that was only because over night he just looked a bit off and I wanted to double check all was okay, so I can totally understand being shocked! We medicated him to try to make him as comfortable as we could to be just a field horse. I knew when the time was right to let him go as he was just in too much pain. I hope you get as long as you can with him, take each day as a blessing, again I'm so sorry for you all

[@flicksharp6746]

I think you've definitely made the right choice. We had a 5 year old who turned out to have extreme kissing spines, navicular and sacroiliac issues. 3 years of surgery and rehab with worsening behaviour was soul destroying and heartbreaking and she never recovered. Sometimes it's best to just let them be a horse for as long as they can when they're already struggling so young xx

[@marvelmaressso]

I'm so so sorry Meg :( As soon as I saw the title I worried immediately. All our love to you and ari and hobs and all the team ❤

[@Equestrian_loveshorses]

Same as soon as I saw the tittle I was like oh no But I thought it was something about bear

[@karachikay5759]

Well, Ari now has his job for life. Uncle Ari the baby-sitter ❤ Moose and Brego are definitely going to need adult supervision when they are weaned. The hardest part of loving animals is not being able to fix them when they need it and not being able to communicate that everything will be okay because you will make sure they are taken care of ❤

[@etemason5592]

I thought you were about to say u can't ride jam again😬

[@ThatOneCluelessEquestrian]

Sameee

[@tamaragvozdenovic5483]

Same

[@steffimurphy2560]

I am so sorry that lovely little Ari has been diagnosed with such an unfortunate illness. It must be so painful for you. I just wanted to commend you on the decision to retire him and to keep him with you, it is so rare that owners commit to their horses when things go different. Thank you for being such an empathetic person and for setting the best standards of care for your gorgeous horses. sending lots of love and good thoughts for Ari and you all

[@EquestrianEditsX]

Meg I’m so so sorry, I can’t even imagine how hard this will be for you. You are such an amazing person for helping him out so much, that’s amazing ❤❤

[@lilspaz68]

Nerve impingement/pain is horrible. The pain zings and can radiate all along the spine...no wonder he flipped out. I've seen other animals do this after a back injury and start biting at the end of their tail. I'm so sorry Meg but thankful you are doing the most responsible thing for him. Keeping him comfortable and happy until he's not, then letting him go 😢

[@nadia1573]

I respect both you and Hobbs so much for listening to your gut feeling. And even more respect to you both for taking responsibility for Ari, and not selling him with the risk of him being either sold on or ridden at another home. You are absolutely amazing ❤️ Ari is lucky to have you ❤️

[@jenniferhaas3874]

Thank you for sharing this with us, Meg. It’s crushing news, but so vital to stress the importance of recognizing when things aren’t quite right with our horses, and reaching out to your vet, rather than assuming they are being naughty and forcing them to work past it. You’ve been so attentive, compassionate and smart with your choices and decisions. This is a critical eye opener for all of us.

[@janej55uk]

I had huge respect for you already especially having watched and met you at Chillington, but that was a hard video to make. Thank you for listening to your gut and putting Ari first. Big hugs.

[@nataliejarvis1686]

I'm so relieved for you that you have such a fab vet. It took 3 vets and about 2 years to diagnose my boy with his issues, when I was originally told it was "just how natives are". I knew he wasn't right, and my biggest regret is not pushing the vets and arguing with them more. He was similar to Ari in that he was so willing and a happy boy, it was so uncharacteristic for him to not want to go forward, but the vets just didn't understand. I was told to ride him through it, but he was my pony, I knew him best 😢. So sorry about Ari, but he is so lucky to have you and Hobbit. Thanks for sharing with us, you really are a fantastic advocate for the equestrian community.

[@clairenightmoon2979]

Poor Ari, it was a great decision to consult the vet and spend that money on these tests, i wish you the best with him, I hope this won’t bother him too much for now and let’s hope you won’t have to make that call for a long time!😢❤

[@RachaelAtRandom]

I'm so sorry, Meg ❤️ That really sucks. That kind of news is so awful. My first horse was diagnosed with DSLD in the first year I owned her. Only got a couple rides in on her and now she lives as a very pretty pasture ornament. It really sucks cause it feels like so much potential has gone to waste but it just can't be helped. I know it's not exactly the same scenario but I just wanted to put that out there to say you're definitely not alone in your feelings and it's a really awful scenario all over. I'm so sorry :( Just keep doing what you're doing, giving him the best life possible. He ended up in fantastic hands with you and your family ❤️ lots of love to you guys.

[@myrancarro]

I am so sorry Meg. It's really not something i would wish on someone but Ari is so lucky to have you and Hobbit as his owners.

[@ZodiacLeopard.]

I guess with how much time he and Ace spent together Ari has all the tools to take up the mantle. He'll be the best buddy for the foals and hopefully he'll get to look after many more of them down the line

[@izzyr3231]

So sorry, wishing Ari the happiest days in his field, and you the strength to know when those days are over

[@jojooffaraway2675]

I‘m so sorry to hear that. It‘s absolutely tragic. Ari is lucky to have you and you‘re an amazing horseperson for not pushing through but investigating his pain signals. I hope Ari gets to spend many more years painfree

[@haleyps6929]

I’m so sorry to hear this about Ari. I’ve had a feeling for a while that something was up with h because he’s always seemed like a willing, hard working horse. It’s a true testament to your horsemanship that you listened to him even when it seemed like “nothing” was wrong with him. Hopefully he lives a long and happy life babysitting the babies in the field.

[@samdennis-jones1424]

I'm so sorry, this is sad. Ari was always my favourite.

[@DaWongStar]

That is heartbreaking but he is so lucky to have you as his people. ❤

[@hitsujiyume]

as i've said with regards to my cat, there's no price on peace of mind. you're doing right by him by trying not to put him in pain and not putting yourself or him in danger. seeing him in the video he looks so carefree and happy, not like he's suffering at all. i hope he has many, many years of just hanging out being a happy chill dude.

[@KethrySapphire]

My condolences, Meg & Hobbit. You had such hopes and dreams for Ari, the grief of what might have been must be overwhelming. Holding all of you in my heart.

[@dianehookham]

My heart and thoughts are with you and your mum, its never easy in a situation like this, thank you for being so strong and letting us know this awful news, going over it is never easy. I'm so glade that he's been with you with this out come for him, where he'll be loved and looked after with all his needs met. It's never easy to find out something we love so much could have there life change so dramatically. I can only imagine your feelings and hurt, we are all here for you both, xxx

[@NiamhQuigley-vm9zc]

You be made the right decision Meg. Catching it early is good (although is may not feel it) you might have saved an injury. A horse on my yard had a similar problem, in his leg, and unfortunately it resulted in a bad fall. You are an incredible horsewoman and an amazing influence, you are so strong and always listen to your horses. Sending love to everyone and all your horses

[@kateschwaegerle4765]

As someone who just had to retire my 7yr old from all ridden work, I really understand and empathize with your situation Meg. We do the best we can by these horses!

[@shellywelsh2316]

Meg, I am so sorry. A month ago I had a similar experience. My 5&1/2 year old Peruvian Paso mare that I was selling as I no longer am able to keep horses had a wonderful couple look at her. She did wonderful as usual, she was started at about 4 as she too was tiny. She was beautiful, kind, smart and wonderful. A few days after the trial she looked a bit lame. We did the pre-purchase exam and x-rays confirmed DSLD. Absolutely nothing we can do for her. I couldn't keep her and a horse with DLSD is not a horse you sell as you can't guarantee that the new owners will not try to ride her. The vets and I all got together and made the decision to put her down. On a warm summer morning she was respectfully, kindly and peacefully was put down along with my friend's 30 year gelding that was battling melanomas. The two buddies passed together and I believe are up there having a high time. Meg, I understand your pain and applaud your care for Ari ❤

[@beccaboo12795]

I am so sorry Meg. Enjoy every minute with him. Big hugs to you both.

[@izzistock6807]

You never need to apologize for taking your time to share anything, or even choosing not to share. We are all grateful to be a part of your world, but you and your animals and family are way more important. Thank you for your generosity in sharing what you do.

[@kathyclark921]

This is a video every horse owner should see. How brave and decent of you to give of yourselves at a moment we all never want to experience. Kia kaha to you and Hobbit. Stay strong. A gentle pat for Ari.

[@lilly_equestrian3418]

Aw I’m so sorry I hope everything gets better Meg❤️❤️

[@janl8683]

Such devastating news, so sorry for you and Hobbit. But can I just say you and your Mum are the best. Trusting your gut instincts that something wasn't quite right and investigating instead of listening to some people saying he was being naughty Also in taking total responsibility for him and his future wellbeing. Total and utter respect ❤😥

[@jessicaruhl7314]

So sorry Meg, with great love comes great heartbreak. Ari is lucky to have a wonderful life with you and only know caring and kindness.

[@fleetskipper1810]

“With great love comes great heartbreak”- really gets to the heart of issue. You can’t have one without the other. I have a plaque hanging in my home that reminds me that heartbreak is a normal part of life. It says, “Love like it’s never going to hurt.” Meg, I am so, so sorry this happened. Thank you for telling us the whole story. I feel gutted for you.

[@belleboef]

Ooh noo, I'm so sorry, Meg. Let's hope he's gonna be fine and happy and pain-free for a lot of years to come! ❤

[@plove523]

Poor Ari. Sending big virtual hugs to you and Hobs. I hope tomorrow is brighter.

[@Mixxys_Equine]

Awh I'm so sorry meg

[@sofe_and_sunny]

I’m so sorry Meg I don’t know what to say except I’m really sorry we were all hoping you could ride him again ❤

[@lylavirgo1068]

This is so sad to hear. You have all our support over the screen. I know this sounds selfish to say but plz make ari merch because we all love him and I would bugy 10 tshirts and hoodie if I could to help you and support you. I have watched you from the beginning and will watch you till the end. I will always be watching you through the screen and I think about you all the time. You are my idol. And I wish to be a strong as you are. I am so thankful for everything you have done and will always be supporting you. Tha k you for showing the darker side of owning horses and all the issues that come with owning them although you want to keep it mainly positive. I am 15 and didn't know this was a thing but you have taught me so much about owning horses and basically are my horsey life mentor in a way. 😂 I love3 you content and everything you do. I belive everything happens for a reason and I believe it could be a sign to make the most of every moment you have. Thank you for everything Meg and I will be watching you forever you are my whole inspiration and you bring me so much joy. Rember it happens for a reason 😊

[@martyp2138]

Only recently came across your channel, Meg but I'm so sorry to hear, I can't imagine how hard getting that news must have hit. However, you are a great horsewoman knowing something wasn't right and getting him checked over. Ari is so lucky to have someone like you looking out for him and will undoubtedly have a great life under your care.

[@ElizabethMoon-n8m]

This is so tough. But you and your mom are good, thoughtful, loving, and ethical horse owners. A friend of mine had a horse with severe cervical vertebrae damage; I presently have a horse that's had a bad back injury and possible brain damage from a really bad fall...and my vet and I have had the discussion about his future. Right now Tig's happy with his companion, but if his worsens....same problem, same solution. Neurological damage in horses is very tricky...and the whole situation is very sad. You and your mom both have the courage--and the good vet advice--to make the right decisions day by day. You have my admiration for this, among your other accomplishments, and my trust in you.

[@amyrobinson4713]

This is a hard thing to listen to, I can only imagine how hard it is to *live* through. I'm so sorry. Not to be a Negative-Nancy, but have you thought about having Winnie's foal checked for the same malediction to make sure it's not genetic through the sire? I'd be gutted to think you'd have to go through this again. 😢 I only wish the best for you and ALL your lovely ponies. ❤ (Connemaras are my faves.)

[@jessicacamco5047]

Can't believe someone suggested that you sell him as a paddock mate after knowing his diagnosis. People dont understand that horses are a commitment and if they get sick you cant just sell them off to make your life easier. Im glad you are doing the right thing by him ❤

[@forsythia33]

That's such a shock and so difficult! My sympathies! I had a mare who had a sudden stroke while I was riding, which was scary, and though she appeared to recover after a few months of intensive treatment (she initially had full-body tremors, went blind, and had some hearing disturbances, and was struggling to keep her feet!) she appeared to become normal again. But I put her into retirement: it would be impossible to trust riding her, knowing she might or might not have another at any time. Indeed, about 6 months later she began to have intermittent attacks of loss of balance and disorientation and, with winter already underway, we decided to put her to sleep. She was a super horse, and it broke my heart. But I hope yours will be able to enjoy his good life with you for as long as is right! Hugs!

[@Imperfectequestrian1992]

I'm so sorry Meg, this is such a tough thing 😢 kudos for being such a responsible and loving owner to Ari and all of us here know you're doing the right thing for him ❤ one door closes and others will definitely open for you because you are amazing 😊

[@kirsty-vg3xk]

You did the right thing! Horses are NOT capable of plotting against us and being deliberately "naughty" they simply don't have that part of their brain that humans do! It's always either pain, fear or not understanding!

[@Elessaryn]

As horrible as this situation is. This just shows how much you care about the horses' overall health and only want them to be happy. It's always hard to make these calls. Hopefully, he can if nothing else, be around for a long time, pain-free.

[@whizzywoo582]

It's not what you dream of when you breed your own horses is it, but I'm glad you're doing the right thing by him, much the best way for him to get the best out of whatever time remains to him. Such a shame but part and parcel of having horses in your life. Also glad you went down the vet route before treating him like a 'naughty horse'!

[@aoifiu]

I saw the title and immediately clicked sending all my love Megan ❤❤❤❤

[@PoppyCollins-ce7fh]

Same☹️

[@leahmay1779]

Same oh poor Meg ….

[@KellyWebb-bz7to]

Same for me. We’re losing part of the family.

[@aoifiu]

@@KellyWebb-bz7to yess

[@candiceberkshire6760]

Words cannot begin to express my sympathy for the position you’re in. As a veterinarian and a horse owner, my heart just breaks for you, knowing how painful that wait-and-see process can be. We all trust that you love them beyond measure, and that you’ll know when it’s time to make the hard choice.

[@scarletamazon3455]

I've been lucky to share my life with many wonderful and long lived pets, and usually, have just "known" when the time was right. I really trusted my gut on this in the past, balancing quality of life with signals from the animal when it was time. But when my mum's 14 yr old spaniel began having episodes of ideopathic vestibular syndrome, it was a rollercoaster of him appearing desperately ill, rushing him to the vet, and then he would make a really good recovery within a few days. But each episode (he had three altogether) left him slightly worse off, but still able to potter around the house, get excited for food and fuss, and didn't appear in pain, just confused and off balance for a few days each episode, then left with a slight head tilt and more easily knocked off balance. Then he needed helped getting in and outside to go to the bathroom, began bringing his food and water bowls to him, and he started having the odd incontinence accident. We cleaned him up, bathed him, nursed him... The fact that he'd seem so desperately ill, but then recover relatively well for an older dog, and because we gradually got used to doing more and more active nursing care for him, it became harder to know when it was time. Mum is elderly herself and not as sharp, and wasn't ready to face saying goodbye, and when I started to think that it was time, I didn't push her hard enough to make the call. I just nursed him and loved on them both. But I regret that we waited too long, and he suffered in the end. I never, ever wanted to let an animal suffer, when we have the option to let them go peacefully and painlessly. I've made the call several times in the past, known it was time, and even though heartbroken, have not regretted making the right call for the animal in the end, and being there to hold them and comfort them as they slip away. the last loving act we can give them. But with this dog, I didn't listen to my gut, and waited too long. He began having short confused episodes where he'd cry, seem lost, and turn in circles. The vet said it was an underlying brain tumour that has cause the vestibular episodes. The vet had also been amazed at how well he'd recovered from his episodes, so I hadn't ignored their advice or anything, we always sought vet attention, and they were wonderful. When he began the crying episodes, on a Friday, I had a much sterner talk with mum, and she agreed it was time, even though she was so desperate for it not to happen, and we made the appointment for the Monday, planning to say goodbye over the weekend. The crying episodes were infrequent and brief, thought we could manage. But on the Saturday, he was crying, confused, wetting himself, and couldn't be comforted. I don't have a car, mum is disabled, so I called the vet and paid extra for them to come to the house and put him to sleep in the garden at home. As soon as the vet agreed a time to come, he came out of the episode and settled. It was like he knew. But I regret so much that I didn't see how far his quality of life had slipped, that I didn't push harder to let him go sooner, and that he suffered, especially on that last day. I know that Jack would forgive me, in a heartbeat. Dogs are amazing like that. But I can't forgive myself. I have so much pain and regret around his passing, that I failed him, and I share this to urge others in similar situations to really think it though, and let them go when they're ready. Better a day early than a day late, believe me!! I'm so sorry, Jack. We loved you dearly, and owed you a much better end.

[@iridiumvalkyrie9017]

Good for you to be mature and for putting the horse first. Rather than mourning the future, celebrate what has been and the fact that you're healthy enough to continue on. Some people can't ride anymore and you can so time to move forward.

[@BuckingPonies]

I'm so so sorry meg. Ari is still an amazing horse ❤ no matter what such a shame though x

[@luizafonseca_]

Holy shit, I am so sorry! But at the same time, I am glad he has you guys as his owners!

[@katherineschuette2361]

So sorry Meg ❤ You’ve done everything humanly possible for him and he’s beyond lucky to have you guys

[@miaprice9244]

You're an incredible horsewoman for doing the right thing by Ari, Meg. Sending prayers your way.

[@altocleffcu]

I’m so sorry Meg. This is terrible news. Thank you for telling us. That was brave. I’m glad he has you.

[@clarestephenson3031]

My heart goes out to you and Hobbit with such bad news - the news of Ari is that of a human family member , having bred him and with such plans. I know you will do what’s right for him. It’s understandable - he’s a family member. Treat yourselves gently/ kindly at this difficult time. Love and big hugs. I do hope this message makes sense 💕xxx💕

[@myhomeaquarium98]

Oh Meg I am so so sorry!!! The biggest hugs to you and your family. I think this really proves your horsemanship is top notch, your partnerships with your horses are far more than just “coddling them”. You know them, in and out. So many people would’ve called it simply bad behavior and brushed it off until there was a potential fatal accident. Always trust your gut when it comes to animals. We love you Ari 😘 🤗

[@raythegoth]

I'm so sorry Meg :( that must have been really difficult to process but you and Hobs are amazing for listening to Ari and doing what's best for him. He's so lucky to have a home that puts his health and safety and the forefront of everything and will live out his days in the best home

[@JLBjourneyy]

Oh Meg my heart breaks for you, credit to your care and responsibility for acting so quickly and coming to a decision that would be best for everyone Your horses are so lucky to have been blessed with such a loving family ❤

[@ThatOneCluelessEquestrian]

Ohh Meggg! I’m so sorry! Just know that you don’t have to tell us everything, but we are here for you and you have 3 beautiful foals and a 4th on the way, you’ll get though this Meg x ❤

[@biggothepiggo]

Meg, I've been following you since the start of the pandemic and I've only ever been incredibly impressed by the level of care and compassion you provide your horses. Any horse would be so lucky to end up with you and Hobbit; basically they would be a lottery winner. How heartbreaking for you, though. The footage I've seen of him showed so much promise and I remember Lara, who was such a gorgeous, special, talented girl. But I feel as though you have done everything right here. It's just horses... I know that this is a massive disappointment for you, but honestly, I feel so grateful that he's with you because you look out for his best interest every step of the way.

[@fishhugify]

I believe a horse would not act up if there is no issue and I know you and I don't get on with the majority of other horse people but your small group sticks together like copper can bend but will always go back to its original shape

[@KiriRead]

I can only sympathise with you, my dream mare did a 'rolly poley' as a 2 year old in the field. We tried with her for 10 years, with very very limiting riding but a year and a half ago she wasn't field sound and we made the hardest decision to let her go. My thoughts are with you. Xxx

[@holliekubacki8985]

Well done for listening to Ari and listening to your gut😢 you are defo doing the best by him for not selling him as a companion I would be the same if he was mine! As sad as it is, atleast he is happy chilling for now with friends & grass and lovely owners like you and hobbit! Sending love❤

[@paulacoyle5685]

As a human with a pretty bad neck I can completely identify with your horse. And I was saying neck when you said the vet was going to x ray the back and hocks. It starts subtly and affects everything below that level and saps all your mental energy to filter out the pain. Poor guy and poor you. 😢

[@FoxDragon]

My heart is just breaking for you. As soon as you said what the issue was, I just knew what that prognosis would be. I'm sadly in a similar position right now with my own little pony mare due to an unfixable dental issue and I know how terribly difficult it is to even think about it, let alone explain this sort of issue to the world. It's never an easy call to make, and it will always hurt. Making the difficult choice for the right reasons doesn't make it hurt any less. Hugs to you from one horse mom to another.

[@FarrenDowning]

Oh Meg this is so disheartening to hear, but just want to say well done for you and Hobbit for listening to your gut. I always say people know their children and know their animals and if you think there's something wrong, you have to be their biggest champion and advocate for them the best you can till someone will listen. Thank goodness for your excellent vets having such knowledge and experience to delve deeper and not just brush your concerns off. Also pleased you didn't allow external influences to dampen your gut feeling and just push him, ignoring him communicating to you that he was hurting and something was wrong. Excellent horsewomanship to put your horse first and listen to what they are communicating to you and to then keep him safe with you and your family rather than taking the gamble of selling him to someone who takes a risk and puts him and themselves in danger. Always respected you, but this has 100% confirmed all my thoughts about you being a good egg. Sending you lots of love through this challenging season 💕

[@chrisusher7144]

Poor Ari,my paint at 14got a 3 letter thing from possum peaing in the hay .he lose his balance had a date with the vet died before he got there I went out and he died think he fell down and couldn't get up. Poor Nicky..he was the best now he's in heaven 💕💕🙏💕💕🐎💧

[@angela2726]

Maybe you could sort of glue the neck vertabre together at the place where it hurts him. My friends horse broke his neck and a man bought him and left him in the field. Eventually the broken vertabre just consolidated in a big lump and you were able to ride him on walks and things with no problem.

[@mariagillinson8527]

I thought there’s serum injections. I’ve heard they spin down blood and inject the serum between the joints.

[@hikori3941]

What gutting news. But good on you for listening to your horses and getting Ari checked out by the vet instead of trying to push him through the pain like so many people would. I hope Ari has many many years to come enjoying his best life in the field 💜

[@sianbennett-rodgers]

Such sad news. But youve trusted your instict this far so stuck to that. He'll let you know when he cant go on and hopefully thay will be a long time down the line when hes had a lovely life being a babysitter

[@katiezelazny2761]

❤ feel this - we had to suddenly retire my daughters TB for similar reasons this spring. He was supposed to be her horse to take her through teenage years and college. We put enormous amounts of time and effort into him and his “behavior” got worse. As heartbreaking as it is - it was somewhat of a relief for me as a mom that there was a reason for this. He is happy on pasture. His eye is softer, he’s not as worried. Your horse was lucky to have someone as responsible as you to be his owner. Our TB was 13 and labeled as a “problem”. We attributed many of the “behaviors” to bad training and probably gave it more time than most. Thank you for talking about the hard stuff. It’s not all rainbows and happy times, but we do this for the love of the animal first - and that means making decisions right for them. Hugs to you - my daughter and I feel your sadness

[@emily-rosecox409]

that really sucks but thankyou for being so responsible and taking care of him, too many horses are pts or in the meat market for behaviours they arent responsible for whether its pain or bad training so its nice to see someone take care of their horses even though they cannot ride him or do what they originally planned for them and still thinking of others safety too, u really are a kind and caring person and you should be very proud of your choice to protect him and others, hes such a georgous boy and will have a happy life with you. Im so sorry this has happened to u xxx

[@kronezk2672]

No mag I am so so sorry for you we love you mag ❤it is going to be alright I hope you fell better I am so so so sorry❤

[@vikkineish5790]

Firstly Meg, thank you for putting this vlog out it must have been hard to do. Ari is such a stunning boy. Thankfully he has you on his side and we know that you will never part with him, until he tells you it’s time. I am praying that this is many years down the line. Ari have a great semi retirement. I can’t say full as you have got to take over from the beautiful Ace and look after those youngsters and keep them in line. ❤

[@vickyfane6321]

Thank you for sharing your 'heartbreaking' news. Ari is a star in himself because of who he is and how much you love him. You had me in tears too, no shame in that because your heart is Amazing with all your ponies ! Every day touch/groom and hug him is all he needs. I have a 'pocket rock' 28 Yr old mare (speed demon to ride) I have known from day one...every day she is waiting and whining at the gate is my joy to having her in my life!!. Please keep updates and vids for us 'fans' on beautiful Ari!?

[@jessiehernandez9468]

❤❤ Meg it brings our hearts in what you have to say about your horse. The good thing is you were able to catch it before it got worse. Giving your horse the best life in the following yearsIs the love that you have for your horse.❤If I own any horses and doing what you do, I would do the same. You have the support of your followers and we believe in you. You are so admired. Continuing prayers 🙏🥀🙏for you and your equine baby. Please keep us updated on his progress. You are very courageous on what you share that has been difficult. WE LOVE YOU❤🥀❤

[@andreanixon6213]

Thank you for sharing this very difficult news. It helps those who do not own horses realize the real struggle to care for these beautiful animals.

[@christinedavies336]

So sorry Meg & Hobbit - totally. I thought it was going to be Jam - never thought it would be Ari. ❤️ 😭 ❤️

[@Kristina__K]

This sucks. I'm sorry for you and the family. Thanks for communicating clearly what the pro-horse decision is in this situation. Fingers crossed he can enjoy a long retirement.

[@carrietwickler3157]

I had a horse that the vet said the same thing to me about her. It was awful. I'm so sorry😕

[@shellyrourke8994]

I've been diagnosed with osteoporosis and arthritis and now can't get insurance. My joints are so painful and the risk is too great - which means I can never ride again. I'm beyond devastated 💔

[@allisonlaker1052]

Meg, just because you are on social media, it doesn't mean that you have to share everything with us immediately or at all. Thank you for sharing your experience, I realize how difficult that is to do. You are incredibly talented and a wonderful horsewoman, keep doing what you are doing. You care so much about your animals and they are so lucky to have your and your mum, quality of life is important. Don't let yourself burn out, self care will be important over the next while. Take care xxx

[@esiuol360girl19]

Well said! 😊

[@roguespartan1194]

Oh no, I'm so sorry Meg. Sending lots of love, for both you and Ari. 🫶🫶

[@Brisingrize]

I think that's why its so important for science to come to the forefront more, because horse brains aren't programed to act out and be naughty. They literally don't have that in them, because of an undeveloped prefrontal cortex, that's the part of the brain that is responsible for complex decision making and planning. Horses can't wake up and decide, to make your life (as a friend once said to me) a living hell, they aren't planning to dump you, because they hate a particular corner and always throw you there, or you're taking them out on a new trail, so he's going to decide to gallop. They are reacting to stimuli. It is a in the moment thing for them, so can I just say how amazing it is that you and Hobbit listened. Ari will still have a wonderful life with you, and I think given all this that is an amazing thing, nad I'm also going to say its okay to grieve that loss. You are an incredible person Meg and an incredible horsewoman

[@audreygregis8721]

So very sorry. When things like this happen, I try to look at what could have happened, which could have been much worse had you been riding and that nerve was tweaked. Like you said...could have killed you and him. Definitely not good news, but he's lucky to be owned by you and can live out his life. You have tons of people sending you hugs, because we all can totally understand how your heart is hurting.💕

[@dtulip1]

Oh Meg, ofc you couldn't say anything earlier you needed time to come to terms and mourn the news. Just pretend his 16...not 6...it'll help snd he'll have a wonderful life with you whstever happens. As someone who has had spine issues for the 20yrs now, you can get that nerve pinch just breathing 😢 just enjoy him as a field ornament until such time as he's ready to not... Bless you and the family....and yes ofc you know your furbies better than anyone ❤