I Lost Parents But My Adult Brothers Refused To Raise Me & Left Me At Foster Home But 10Yrs Later...

[@Arcane_Route_66]

OP said "not every story needs a happy ending", but I'd say he got the happiest ending of all. Cutting those awful people loose and meeting Marcus again. Let's be real; his brothers just wanted clean consciences on Judgement Day and Sarah and wanted fulfill a savior fantasy by butting in to "mend fences". That's all there is to it with them. Good riddance!

[@guywhowatchesvideos-z2e]

Sarah probably felt defensive at the idea of a family unit falling apart in the way OP's did. From how her parents acted, I'd say they aren't as healthy as he initially thought. Problem about toxic dynamics such as her families; you're supposed to accept cruelty as a result of sharing blood. You can't go NC, cuz "family is everything" to them. OP re represented a threat to her families view towards boundaries and self-respect. She had to reunite them in order to solidify her family and their toxic views.

[@heffa3821]

absolutely agreed!

[@jadesorono6694]

Yeah 😊 👍 live your life

[@loisdelagruz1891]

But don't think MC isn't on the wrong either. Yes his running away, everyone deal with there own trauma and baggage. But everything happend because of MC not opening up to Sarah, yes he made the boundaries clear, but it's not gonna be health when your in a relationship. In the story, it's clear that they were very much inlove, especially Sarah, like yes there is toxic. But Sarah was supported and even goes her way to fix tye problem, but intention was good, not bad. But she wouldn't have done it if MC was open about his past So in summary Everyone isn't a Saint nor a good person. Especially MC, his still in tye fault, all this drama of his life wouldn't have happend if he was just open, of course he doesn't need to tell everything, just the basic and ground parts

[@jadesorono6694]

@@loisdelagruz1891 you never experienced anguish disappointed loneliness and eventually to realy Depresses desperation I really want you to experienced it bro ☺

[@garasu29]

If Sarah wanted to help so damn bad, she could've encouraged OP to go to therapy

[@Mika_Serv]

tbh i think its pretty obvious a therapist would also think he should reconscile with his brothers

[@garasu29]

@Mika_Serv yeah, but they'd probably be more respectful of op's boundaries and encourage him to go at his own pace, rather than try and force it

[@Nova-hn5iq]

Honestly it's op that didn't have enough Honesty to tell her what happened in his life for her to get y op doesn't like their family

[@apok1980]

@@Nova-hn5iqhe’s not exactly dishonest. He laid out his rules. Sarah should have respected them. She could push back to try to understand where he was coming from, but in an adult relationship, she crossed the line. How does she know if all his brothers were SA(ing) him? That’s why you don’t overstep boundaries. Plus even though he was younger than Sarah, it shows a real level of immaturity to think her life experience of a close knit family is everyone’s.

[@cherrylove528]

He threw her out of her own apartment 😂

[@trillianblu9454]

Right lol

[@LeonidRemmel]

It's Ai generated that's why

[@rai-monet5677]

Girl I was like A.I had to be

[@DCD762]

He didn't threw her out, she moved out herself Still doesn't make much sense, but at least it feels slightly less illogical

[@markn1485]

Typical AI errors involve continuity and gender.​@@LeonidRemmel

[@merykhan97]

"I miss my little brother" lol. When was he ever your little brother.

[@heffa3821]

right they full of shit!

[@irinanikolaeva786]

Yep, THAT killed me too

[@Kinsfire]

Wait, he moved in with her, but SHE moved out? As for the ending, I suspect that he's going to tell the next girlfriend that he's got a hard and fast rule regarding his family , pointing out that his last girlfriend tried to get them back together and that's why they aren't together anymore. "Please trust me when I say that there are good reasons why I want nothing to do with them." A GF who can understand that? Good. And yeah, the brothers are going, "Hey, we had a kid brother that we threw away, and we're getting older. What are Mom and Dad going to say to us when we see them after we die?"

[@egmono]

The story is probably made up.

[@Hiptonious]

I was thinking the same thing. He moved in with her. Lol

[@shay4068]

This story is probably A I generated

[@Fluffypanda1793]

-"I miss my little brother" -"You should of thought about that before you abandoned him" That shit was deep resentment and i felt that!

[@teotwawkitommy01]

Op's life was a minefield. He invited someone into his minefield, but didn't tell her it was a minefield, let alone where the mines were.

[@loisdelagruz1891]

Yeah so it kinda MC fault that she did it but doesn't excuse Sarah what she have done. Still MC fault for not being a bit open , but I also understand the trauma that MC have gone through

[@graftonmborge]

I mean the minefield was clearly marked when she asked “wouldn’t it be nice to reconnect with your family?” And he said no. Like a minefield is usually marked by generalized markers. Not individual signs pointing at each and every mine, so he also shouldn’t have to explicitly say what individual mine she should avoid. Just don’t step past the sign that he clearly put up and no he doesn’t need to explain why.

[@umbratilicious15]

@@loisdelagruz1891 but but but but.... jeez devils advocate much?

[@rogueshark23]

When someone says they don't want to reconnect with their family it usually means that something terrible happens with them and obviously people who grew up in happy families wouldn't understand.

[@gregoryk.9815]

OP should have actually been upfront with Sarah about everything his family putting through. She came from a good family so she has no clue as why a bad family is somebody you want to distance yourself from.

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

if someone gets slapped down for being open, it is like a beaten dog. they cower. and don't act in a way that would invite abuse.

[@ccelms6581]

OP will NEVER have a stable life if he insists on trying to bury his past. It’s not even about forgiving his brothers, it’s just that burying the past never ever works.

[@RunNorthEnt]

Op talks about trust in relationship but he didn't seem to trust her enough to tell her why he had a problem with them just that they weren't close. I agree he has the right to cut them out of his life I have no problem with that but you can't expect others to understand why if you never fill them in on the details.

[@Sunshineboy2002]

@@RunNorthEnt But I can understand OP, I myself never talk to my wife about my ex gf at all. Not because I don't trust my wife but I just want to leave it behind because it was painful (she cheated but it was her right to do so)

[@JzzE1]

You shouldn't have to. If I don't want to, I don't want to. It had nothing to do with her. She didn't ignore his boudaries, she trampled all over them

[@MsLaetitia26]

​​​@@Sunshineboy2002 exes aren't family. Ur wife wouldn't expect you to have a nice relationship with her. Or she wouldn't be an ex. But family is different. Normal people expect you to keep it civile with family even if you don't get along. And the way OP formulated how he's not closed with his family can lead to misunderstanding that there's not a deeper issue going on. And that it's just a problem of far from the eyes, far from the heart.

[@ccelms6581]

100%! He can’t move forward in any relationship with that attitude, at least not one that is healthy. My heart bleeds for him though. He says he’s not angry anymore, but that’s NOT true!

[@MonicaO-si5tw]

@@Sunshineboy2002it wasn’t her right cheating is awful simply leave. Horrible you had to deal with that I’m glad you’re happy at least now

[@RandomTrinidadian]

Sarah's savior complex couldnt save her relationship. She clearly did not love OP enough to respect his boundries and genuinely thought she knew better.

[@heffa3821]

serves her ignant ass right

[@willambonney]

Some people just can't get the idea of the quote "what's dead should stay dead" Be it past issues, traumas or family drama. Personal experience....that wall we put up, don't scratch at it... you won't like what happens next...

[@wiej007]

Yeah... She didnt understand that some things are beyond saving or dont want to be saved/fixed.

[@treevenewson]

OP definitely needs therapy and help. His scars are deep.

[@albertgongora6944]

Yeah this is exactly why you just tell people your family is dead because technically the poster did say the only family he did have was technically deceased

[@sinistersingh1168]

Wait wait wait, op moved in with his girlfriend then how she moved out her own apartment??

[@CyberKhan252]

AI tend to forget what they wrote I guess

[@Radicalist-Manifesto]

Coz Artificial is Fake Intelligence

[@Akeila-cg2ng]

😂😂same thing I was thinking 😂😂😂😂

[@crystald8465]

Exactly 😂

[@treevenewson]

Bad AI

[@akumamako1119]

Your brother's threw you away at the age of 14, you owe them nothing.

[@Sylvia-ps8tg]

At age 10.

[@missytanner3501]

They lost their parents too, and were barely adults themselves , he didn't think what his brothere going through

[@vsovereign3]

​@@missytanner3501 did his brother bother to explain? Or was it the easiest route they took? OP was lucky not getting @b*$ed in foster care at 10.

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

Mrs. Patel is the best. Intervened when it was necessary. and why this girl can't let things go .. my ex used to have a saying "why go where you aren't wanted??"

[@DCD762]

Regarding Sarah's parents I only have one thing to say, a very old saying " Hell is full of people with good intentions "

[@Radicalist-Manifesto]

So guy moved into girl's house, has a fight, and then asked her to move out..😳 What kind of a sh*t up bull is that?

[@myraidmyst2536]

I was about type the same thing. Is it another fake story?

[@judysuber4262]

Thank you... I'm leaving...No you are.🤨

[@blackmoonlight2309]

I feel OP dumped his years of hatred and anger on Sarah for a simple honest mistake. Like he never told her why he hates his brothers and she did it for the first time. It was too harsh and I am glad Sarah was saved from such a toxic person

[@RedneckRealist]

They didn't know how to be parents, sure. But they knew how to be brothers. They can rot in hell for abandoning their little brother.

[@Sunshineboy2002]

This story is something I can related to. This guy got really BIG trust issue and his GF was unlucky testing the water herself.

[@kimnordling3335]

Your response, "I owe you nothing. Don't contact again."

[@JBF-7]

He moved into her bigger apt. When they broke up, she moved out? And he was able to pay for this bigger apt on his barista wages?

[@bruceblunderfield5431]

I can fully understand this guy! I have mine, I'm happy with my decisions and refuse to let others try and "FIX THINGS", break that respect, don't try to come back. I don't hold a grudge, just not interested in helping others who have deeply hurt me feel better about themselves. End of story. 😊

[@alexanderlangston280]

A lot of people in these comments think “he needed to go to therapy” or “he went to far over this one thing” but no one is talking about the OP himself saying he wants to remain in control of his life after a lifetime of having no control (his parents dying and being in foster care). The problem is that the gf took that control away because of her savior complex. Everything that followed was an extension of him no longer having control again. Everyone in the comments ignoring that and saying something to the tune of “too far” or “therapy” should remember that this started because the one person he trusted was the same person to disregard what he felt (again, foster care 2 electric boogaloo). The brothers and gf’s family forcing conversations would only make it worse

[@wesley4125]

Yeah, he reacted to the first loss of control by cutting out everything. That's not a healthy response, despite the boundary being clearly disregarded. The boundary breaking was obviously misguided, but not malicious. Dude def needs someone to talk to, he's a broken thing

[@lbjohnnyjohn]

So, Sarah pissed him off one time in the year they were going out just because she felt he needed closure. I will agree she overstepped, but is this a fireable offense? She did what she did out of love not malice. It's not like his brothers molested him and she wanted him to see his abusers again. The brothers should have stepped up, but they were basically kids, at the time. Weren't they both in college? What were they to do sneak a teen into the dorm rooms? How were they going to take care of him and still go to school? That's a big ask. Also, the way he was acting i don't think he ever loved Sarah. Why could he not have forgiven her? Again, it isn't like she brought them to his place. I know love and even the ones i was mildly in love with was heart-wrenching. He talks like he doesn't give a shit at all. His boss asked him if he was ok once and then didn't get involved. His girlfriend heard him complain a lot about what he went through and tried to help. Here is a tip for this fool. If you don't want people to care about you stop complaining like a whiney b!tch. Sorry for the strong words, but the more i type the angrier it makes me. He is like "How dare you try to help me, DIE DIE DIE". Grow up dude seriously.

[@crimson_Slime_]

One of the brothers was in college and the other was just starting a new job, He was 10 so the brothers wouldn't have had to look after him overly much bar making sure he had food, clothes and went to school. He tried not to talk about his family with the gf but she kept asking him over and over about it and when he opens up to her about it she gets a saviour complex about it and thinks she can fix the broken family by ambushing him with them, if she really wanted the help him she should have gotten him to talk with a therapist before even broaching the topic of him talking to them again so he could work out some of the resentment he has towards them. She just wanted the gratification of having fixed his relationship with his brothers as she thinks forgiving family is a given no mater what they have done to you. She couldn't see it from his perspective as she can't see why a family could end up that broken in the first place and though she knew what was better for him without listening to what he wants. He could see that she would never understand his point of view and did the only thing he could do and broke up with her, it's better than him staying with someone that will not respect the boundaries you ask for and from the way she kept justifying herself after shows that she wouldn't have changed her mind and may have eventually done the same again. The relationship wouldn't have lasted as they have fundamentally different view points on family and both don't seem like people that would have changed their view points on this, so the brake up would have happened no mater what just would have had more resentment and arguing along the way.

[@standardgigachad3297]

Yeah, OP was definitely outta line here.

[@tylerrubchinuk6778]

Clearly if this was a real story and the OP was a real person he would/should go to therapy…because boy that’s a lot of baggage to carry around

[@crimson_Slime_]

He may not be able to afford therapy and some people don't think therapy works and wouldn't want to waste their time doing it, we also don't know if he has gone to therapy before as a child and just didn't mention it in the post.

[@dgcf3426]

This is not real. The story is made by AI. These shits are hilarious to me bc of how stupid and inconsistant they are. I can not understand how any one can listen to these things and have the slightest bit of belief that any of its true. Like at the end he throws the girl out of her own apartment lmao. I pray everyday for people like you... And sincerely hope that god sends some inteligence your way...

[@hypnoticrelaxation9365]

Sarah got lucky. Can't start a family with someone that doesn't believe in family. One time he says that he wouldn't tell her any details because he didn't want to talk about it, then got mad because she knew what I said... LMAO

[@jujubees5855]

She learned her lack of respect for other's boundaries from her "perfect" parents.

[@oyohval]

OP's idea of happiness is being angry and alone. It may be best for him as his ideas associated with family may prevent him from ever having a functional family.

[@nightshadebrown7593]

Funny how people are your family when you need something from you. They abandoned him now he's older you want to hang out with him craziness. If a person can't be part of your struggles they shouldn't be part of your success😊.

[@mandalorethemaximum1408]

Op mentioned that his mom died, his brothers abandoned him and his extended family did nothing, but not once was the dad mentioned.

[@jrockkiddo]

Going behind someones back is not helping, it's knowing what you're doing is shitty but wanting to feel good about yourself.

[@tannertanner8769]

OP moves into Sarah's place and when things get bad he kicks her out?

[@MizzShortai]

If he had forgiven Sarah she would have went even further thinking she knew better. It disgusts me when SO's do things like that.

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

people who try and force 'famblee' reconciliation despite what they have done, are abusers themselves. they are clueless and not to be trusted. and her P's are just as bad. and it's NOT mistake. it was a CHOICE.

[@stryder2009]

Yeah OP sounds like a weak minded person. Not in control of his emotions. I would never break up with my girl for this nonsense. That’s not the worst thing at all. Specially if she wanted to help me. As angry as I would be, I would have fixed it. Specially if she was a wonderful woman aside from that issue.

[@danielcole9641]

Op really needs therapy if this is true. You had someone that not only really cared about you, but their whole family did. You gave them no serious info about your family. The fact that OP snapped everytime it was brought up goes bounds to explain how not over it he was. OP also knew how big of a family person she was. Yes she messed up, and you deserve to be upset about it. But to cut off everyone that was close to you because of it goes to show just how much your past still controls your actions today.

[@Mika_Serv]

either this story is fake or op is extremely unforgiving

[@LordoftheSerpents]

There’s a big difference between walking away and running away. A brave man stays and faces the enemy and walks away a warrior. A coward runs away which is exactly what OP has been doing ever since he aged out of the system. Here’s a little advice straight from me to everyone: the past is never truly dead. No matter how far you run, no matter how hard you try to hide, no matter how many doors you try to slam and lock or phone calls you ignore or numbers you block, our demons will always be there waiting to greet us so you’ll be left to either let them in and overtake you or you face them.

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

the foster system is designed to dump them into welfare many times. and it is fraught with peril. but, do NOT interact with toxic family. no matter what

[@justinchristoph3725]

I wonder how Sarah would react if she had been sexually molested as a child, and then the OP got in contact with her molester and tried to get them together so they could "heal"?

[@ravenzyblack]

Neither of his brothers molested him. They just abandoned him. They are not the same.

[@justinchristoph3725]

@@ravenzyblack It is the same. Maybe not the same thing exactly, but both are traumatizing and not forgivable.

[@stephenwh1987]

OP comes across as a sad bitter person who’s obsessed with having control over his life since he didn’t growing up. Having no interest in reconnecting with his brothers I get, freaking out at his GF I don’t. He overreacted and destroyed what sounded like a good thing because Sarah tried to “fix him” and he’s committed to being broken. He’s also been working part time at a coffee shop for years, isn’t learning anything about how to run a business, and plans to open a coffee shop of his own self financed; Sarah dodged a bullet with this guy.

[@Z1pZ1p3r]

As tragic as this story sounds OP is not marriage material. Which makes the fact he and sarah even entertained the idea laughable.

[@goatkiller666]

It’s weird how Sarah and her parents treat the breakup as punishment for a past deed, and make the somewhat reasonable assumption that the punishment is way out of proportion to the “crime”. And in that light, they’re not wrong. But that’s because they don’t understand some fundamentals. Punishing someone pre-supposes that maintaining the relationship itself is the goal. Punishment only has value as a teaching aid. You like to go to the pub to have a few drinks, then you drive yourself home, while drunk. On this particular day, you nearly run down some people in a crosswalk. Your spouse would punish you, because she expects to be with you after you learn that driving drunk is dumb and bad. Her goal is to make you be a better father and husband, and especially a better driver by not driving drunk anymore and because you’d understand what crosswalks are for. But if we change that scenario slightly… say the hypothetical you is also VERY racist, though you’re usually really good at hiding those beliefs… except when you’re drunk. You still head down to the pub, still have a few beers with the lads, still drive home while still drunk, and still nearly run over some people in the crosswalk. Those people were black. Because of the being drunk, your mask slips, and you tried to run them down on purpose. But also because of the being drunk, you’re not very good at vehicular manslaughter, so the black family was not harmed. On paper, they’re both the same thing: while driving drunk, you almost killed this family. In the first scenario, punishment would make sense. She still wants to be with you once all this stuff is sorted out. You’re basically a good person, but exhibited poor judgement. Once you learn HOW to be the good person you are, the problem is solved. In the second scenario, you’re not a good person. You know how to be a good person (or, at least, how to pretend to be a good person). Punishment for almost killing people will not help you grow, except maybe you get a little better at pretending to be good. So the hypothetical wife of the hypothetical you should just leave. At your core, you’re a bad person. And this time your wife’s motivation is to protect herself from you (either you’re abusive, or you’re likely to spiral out of control, go out in a blaze of glory, and take her with you). So when she dumps your racist ass, having all of your friends and family try to badger her into taking you back, they’ll talk about ‘It was just one time, and nobody was actually hurt, so what’s the big deal, anyway?’ But she’s not punishing you for the past action; she’s using that past action to shine a light on your core beliefs. Them, based on this improved understanding of who you really are, she nopes on out of there, because you’re a garbage person, and she wants nothing to do with you. This is also called the straw man fallacy. Back to OP: he’s not punishing her at all. The “one simple mistake” is just showing him who she really is. And based on that, he doesn’t want to be with her ever again. Though, based on his other comments, I might be willing to concede that she and her entire family are so fundamentally nice, they’ve never had to deal with bad people who pretend to be good. And sure, her “bad” qualities are a belief that she knows what you need more than you do, and an extreme inability to respect consent (or, in this case, an inability to respect a lack of consent).

[@DCD762]

OP only mistake was keeping his past hidden People like his blood family should always be outed for what they are. As for Sarah, any spouse incapable of respecting their partner boundaries should not be in a relationship... EVER

[@Mop222]

How did he kick her out of her apartment? He had moved in with her!

[@kathleengenieve3804]

Sarah had good intentions. Will the road to hell is paved with good intentions. I know this isn't a real story based on the fact that the guy said he moved in with Sarah , BUT THEN HE TELLS HER SHE HAS TO MOVE OUT. So why is Sarah moving out of HER APARTMENT!?!

[@annemariebell6970]

I like the stories, but the bouncing game in the background makes me dizzy.

[@MegaMegaman87]

There are sure a lot of people blaming OP here. But after that childhood I would want nothing to do with my family either. And why does he owe his girlfriend a quote explanation ? It's his story not hers

[@kaljlowe]

Hold the phone. I thought OP moved into Sarah's place.... Why does SHE have to move out when they are breaking up? AI forgot the plot to their own tall tale!

[@robmerrell1745]

This is the first of their Readit AI things where I thought OP was a dick.

[@surefireboom8demetro911]

bro couldn’t stop talking about his gf i skipped so much of the story to get to his brothers

[@justingame4459]

Yeah, when you think about though there was barely that much about the brothers. When you begin to think about it.

[@geraldineekhator5428]

The brothers let him know where he stood with them long ago and some people don’t understand that for example Sarah and her parents. I’m glad that OP moved. The next step would be if things get worse is to change his name and appearance. If nothing else move to a different state to start over again. I have seen people who don’t really care about their family members but try to save face by pretending to care about the person and to cover up for other people in their lives that push them to care. Kevin and David took him for granted thinking that they would be able to make up to OP later on not realizing their actions spoke for them at that point in time.

[@tobennaokoli17]

So OP moved into Sarah’s apt but kicked her out. And Marcus had a foster family but also aged out of the system. Either I’m not fully aware of how the law works, or these channels need to vet their AI stories better.

[@crimson_Slime_]

aging out of the system means that you are no longer a ward of the state(becoming a adult) and he would have moved on with his life hence them losing contact. He moved in with her when they first got together and a few years had past by then and they may have moved places or when the lease was renewed his name was the one used.

[@studiovlogchannel9353]

Could you make your videos in full screen? Just watched about 3 videos and still watching this one as i write this i do like your videos, i've also subscribed now and liked the videos i watched but would love to see the videos in full screen although i'm sure this won't happen or even be seen by the KZbinr just thought i would still ask

[@theresapaylor3528]

He threw her out of her own apt he moved in with her much nicer place

[@yolandabranner6200]

You will never heal Holding on to anger. When you talk about it to someone the healing begins. Your running,you will never be happy unless you confront it. It was wrong what your family has done. You say trust. You should have told Sarah about what happened. That would have started your healing and the new beginning you desire.

[@moneylover318]

Actually he did tell her after she hounded him. After He said everything she should have respected his decision

[@NotMeah]

Don't dig where you know you aren't welcome

[@morrisedwards2887]

first off, he never tells girlfriend why he feels the way he does. she was only trying to help her boyfriend. she needs someone with more stable emotions.

[@crimson_Slime_]

you don't know that he didn't tell her about the full story and how he felt about it. He could have mentioned it multiple time over the years together and he thought she understood till the day he gets the call from his brother, She just saw a broken family and thought she was doing the right thing by fixing something that didn't need fixing and broke the trust OP had in her and with his background I can see why that would be a deal braker as it's the loss of trust in his family that he doesn't want to talk to his brothers and she though it would be a good idea the go behind his back and try to get them back in his life, if she wanted to help him she could have talked with him, got him into therapy to work it out on his own time and then see about getting him in contact with his brothers again but she jumped to just giving his number to the brothers and by the fact they showed up at his place she even gave them his address.

[@BotWhisperer]

OP will be alone his whole life. Its ok to want a safe space, but theres no way he explained to sarah his life in such a way that she understood him. He still hasnt learned this despite losing his new family, he lost more then he will ever know. Frankly at this point he deserves to live with his self induced isolation

[@Doczlady]

have her scummy parents removed and BLOCK THEM

[@ningbronsin9826]

Op is too harsh on his brother’s honestly

[@nidhigupta4115]

I think op treated Sarah very badly. She and her parents are right. She was trying to help. If you don't want it, argue with her, put your foot down...but to throw her out and block her and her parents who were always nice to you.... I think Sarah should find someone better for herself. This OP is an idiot.

[@teewms738]

He moved in with Sarah because her apartment was nicer. Why did she have to move out?

[@aliciaaz2356]

Honestly, this dude deserves to stay alone and miserable until he gets some serious therapy. Like, cut the brothers and the other family out? Just fine. That's honestly a good idea. But they cratered their relationship with someone who made one mistake? And a mistake that could have been avoided had OP told them the severity of their family issues?? Like "we aren't close" is a WORLD of difference from "I got orphaned at a young age and my brothers and surviving relatives tossed m in the foster system and I now don't really understand the concept of healthy family". OP let their past turn them into a festering pit of resentment, and then let the first person to truly mean them no ill-will walk unprepared into said emtional minefield. THEN OP got mad their girlfriend hit a mine. No one would have been prepared for that crap. She did OP a whole world of good and OP just threw her away. She deserves someone healthier than OP, for certain. OP needs tons of therapy, cause yikes. Also, how tf do you throw someone out of their own place!?

[@moneylover318]

So that still gives her the right. Go behind his back and try to reunite family. I've heard stories like this where they've told their spouse or partner everything and still try to do the same thing

[@Sunny85b]

Dude needs to go to therapy. He never told his girlfriend about his past really how he was abandoned. He killed that relationship. 100 the AH in that. Yes he got abandoned but he's going to be alone for the rest of his life because he won't get help.

[@frankgriffiths7747]

He should of told her everything that happened with his family so she would of understood his trauma my wife was like this i told her everything from me watching my step dad unalive himself in front of me the bullying i received due to that my bio dad been forced to choose between me and my brother by my step mum how my bio mum doesn't make my life easy at my wedding she made a right scene it's all i remember about my wedding so my wife now leaves me alone when it comes to my family and will support me whatever i choose to do with them just cause i had a chat and told her everything

[@eskimolost2012]

Would tell them that sibling died when you put them into foster home never contact me ever again. Only try to reconnect for money

[@justingame4459]

It was more about his ex-girlfriend than his brothers in this story.

[@devhxh1558]

OP needs to get therapy. You can't hide your past from your partner... At some point you need to explain why you hate your brother lol. So she can make better choices

[@wolftal1178]

I’m sorry, but I think he reacted terribly. Yes, she shouldn’t have gone behind his back but to break up the relationship over something like that is ridiculous. It’s obvious she didn’t understand. Her idea of family is to be together, she came from a different background so obviously she sees things different. That doesn’t mean she can’t be trusted. The guy has become so bitter with life he can’t trust anybody or only gives them a single chance, you can’t live like that. I admit he’s had a really horrible life and his brothers should have stepped up. Nevertheless, in a way, I think the girlfriend was right the way he’s reacted to the slightest mention of his past shows that he is not over it. She shouldn’t have pushed it and she should’ve respected his privacy, but I think he did overreact in this instance.

[@moneylover318]

I would told her everything. If she tries to do the same thing she did here I would give her another Chance, but if she contacts them again and tries to meddle in my family were done no 3rd chances

[@wolftal1178]

@@moneylover318 quite right I mean for heaven sakes, everybody makes a mistake and it’s obvious he wanted everything his own way. If we’re damned by making one mistake, that means we’ll never be able to do anything.

[@moneylover318]

@wolftal1178 In your opinion what would happen if she still kept the trying to encourage you to talk to your family even if you told her everything. One thing that at least made me upset was That she gave way his number. That to me I would be furious No matter. The intention

[@wolftal1178]

@ yes, you’re right that was awful of her but then again, I think it was more naivety than actual meddling. I don’t think she actually understood the trauma he went through as as he kept clamping down all the time. I think she didn’t really understand his emotional distress.

[@moneylover318]

@wolftal1178 Oh. I meant we've got me angry. Was about the phone number part. I'm saying what would you do if you told her everything about your past and she repeatedly tried to get your family together

[@justingame4459]

What makes no sense here is that they don't actually came back for help, It only says then the title but they don't ask for anything. Doesn't change really anything though But want to make the point clear.

[@vinnyhughes007]

"You need to move out"... Of HER OWN apartment?? You're the bum that moved in with her🤣🤣🤣

[@Kronos381]

14:10 -The road to hell is paved with good intentions. That's life

[@vernette39]

OP should get counseling.

[@oyohval]

Agreed, he could maintain boundaries but his anger will prevent him from ever being happy

[@hessa2838]

Is not this the same Sarrah who invited her husband's psycho twin sister?

[@Motion.Lotion]

Maybe, if you had given them the entire story l, you could’ve avoid it all.

[@link238_]

You need to fix the inconsistencies in the story, you moved into her place but then you kicked her out.. that's not how that works. This guy you knew 10+ years ago who you haven't talked to in years randomly sent you an email that he was moving to your city, how did he know you lived there, or your email address. Please update the ai prompts

[@dylanhunt4303]

ayeah... OP is an AH... he'll end up a bitter old single man

[@cherylsherpinski2436]

This sounds so fake; he moved in with her then tells HER to move out & she does. He works at a coffee shop & she has a career so obviously she makes more money so how can he afford an apartment that she had before they got together.

[@standardgigachad3297]

Kind of a dick move to break up with ur girl over that IMO

[@djehoti]

broken and alone yea!

[@theforgottenone687]

I remember the same story but instead of brother , they were sisters the genders were switched but the story is identical IDENTICAL NO DIFRENCE NO AT ALL just the fact the genders were reversed that is the only difference

[@misakaOneesama]

Dude, I would ask if OP had any friends... That girl truly loved him and there are thing we can't understand unless we had experienced them. Even though trust is something u can't easily earn back, I don't think that girl was teying to do something bad to him, but only thinking from her perspective how to fix things. He allowed his dark past to dictate a lot of his present and future and that would hunt him in future relationships.

[@RandomTrinidadian]

If that girl really loved OP, she would have respected his boundried and not gone behind his back in contacting his so called family.

[@misakaOneesama]

@RandomTrinidadian dude, most of the time people don't want to do what ks vest for them. I didn't like to study when I was little and my mom forced me to do so, even if she had to ground me sometimes cause I wanted to play instead. I think he was over the top for dismissing her love and eagerness to help him because he had an immovable personal boundary. He could have been angry and tell her he didn't appreciate what she did for him cause it was not helping, but also they could have done some concessions and agree to go to therapy or something. His way of having relationships is too obscured by his childhood.

[@RandomTrinidadian]

​@@misakaOneesama still does not change the fact that the ex went behind OP back, totally direguarding his feelings and genuinely believes that she knew better. OP was dong fine until she pulled that stunt. Which is a massive betrayl on her part. Besides, i doubt a actual friend would what sarah did. Sounds like you have a savior complex too.

[@misakaOneesama]

@RandomTrinidadian if my friend is doing something stupid, I will try to help him as much as possible, cause I care for him. That's the point. I've met people who genuinely don't know any better and are too stubborn to see any other point of view and don't want help. She was willing to go against him cause he cared for him. I still think his way of things was too obscured by his horrible childhood, and I can see that by how easy it was for him to root out other people from his life. If u had a friend who was dating a girl u think is not right for him, and u are sure of it, wouldn't u try to help, even if he's in love and will not want your help?

[@RandomTrinidadian]

How is cutting off unwanted family stupid, exactly? How is is it stupid to enforce boundries? If i had a friend who was datig someone who.wasnt right for them, how would i know? Maybe they see something in that person i dont dont and that person make them happy and is not abusive. Which in that case, i would RESPECT their wishes and mind my own business. And if things do.go south, i will be their to support my friend. Not go behind their back cause that is not what friends do.

[@jaynoir8937]

Im only halfway through but unless it was a typo the part where he tells her to move out doesnt make sense considering he moved in with her.

[@GloriousRock]

God it was going SO GOOD until she wanted to play Jesus

[@anthonyherring5329]

There was a story very similar to this except it was a boy and his 2 older sisters pretty much same scenario

[@RedPanda74]

Where was the rest of the family? Why didn’t an Aunt or Uncle take him in?

[@robert-trading-as-Bob69]

How many times will the overused phrase 'MAYBE, JUST MAYBE" appear in this story? I reckon at least twice.

[@NormaFarkash]

Wait a minute, he said it made sense to move into her apartment, as it was bigger. Why is he kicking her out? Come on AI, do better, lol

[@gerardtareo2585]

Dum dum story

[@nzbidzel]

EFFIN AI story... he moves in with her and then HE breaks up with her and kicks her out.

[@KazuyaXtreme]

Op is a moron. He will never get married. I understand about your stupid brothers, but for sarah, it's not fair for her. Especially years of relationship, if you really trust and respect her, you will tell her your past so that in the future she will understand why you're trying to cut ties your siblings and yet you don't trust her enough. This could've avoided if you just told her why you're cutting ties with your siblings. Yeah his a moron.

[@Beans-McGee]

Jeez this ai needs some more programming.

[@hypnoticrelaxation9365]

How'd he throw her out her own house?

[@BHRamsay]

Odd man out, but I empathized with Sarah. Trying to build a family life with someone who can walk away from family is a bad choice. Did she have a savior complex? Maybe or maybe she was imagining what might happen if one of their kids reached out or did something to piss off op enough he wanted no-contact with THEM. Broken people who are set on remaining broken because it's easier to be broken owe it to the healthy people in their lives to just keep walking.

[@gerardtareo2585]

Dis op is sooooo entitled i did not care to finish.

[@franhunne8929]

so much entitlement from the kid to his older brothers. They were young themselves. 24, just starting a job - that is not old. Remember how you felt at that age? Ready to be a kind of father figure? Unlikely!

[@lineline2824]

I was thinking the same thing. What if he had a harder life with his brothers because they couldn't financially support him and themselves. They most likely also had it rough. OP wasn't the only one who lost a mom.

[@tampaxhero5176]

Yea you are the ah. Your brothers were young and not even able to take care of themselves or get their own lives started yet

[@judysuber4262]

I thought 🤔 he moved in with her?