I’m 50 years old Japanese man struggling with midlife crisis. Things that my wife hates me.

[@OrigamiTree]

Don’t ruin your real-life relationships for your KZbin channel (coming from a KZbinr).

[@JohnSmith-qb7si]

I hope he reads this. Don't listen to what a woman says, but what her actions do. She left because he has a yt channel?? BS. She left because she is fed up with her life. If everything he says it's true...: 1. I agree, Don't show childrens faces etc. on the internet or at least be in agreement with wife. You can dial down the content. 2. You sacrifices everything: No friends. you're last in the family , needs permission from wife to go surfing, children dictate your decisions, go to work in the week - takes care of children on the weekend etc. Now she wants you to give up yt to serve her more? Give up your toy collection?(that's the hidden message behind the "untidy house"). 3. She has a semi - volunteering job and she finds in stressful. Really? She can't hold a job, so she wants you to stop spending money on "useless hobbies" like toys and spend more on her. 4. Children are naughty . Why? There is no man in the house. in her mind you're at fault. Look: Happy wife, Happy life will bring you only misery. Woman live of emotion and her life is stagnant. She feels that she has to control everything. What she says is more: ME, ME and my needs. What about your needs BUDDY? Grow some balls. Tell your wife, you're not her roommate and you need some loving, Also you love your hobbies so don't give them up, she will resent you even more. Put in boundaries for her and the children. You're a team leader at work. BE THE SAME AT HOME. Women subconsciously love a strong man, but despise weak ones.

[@LearnGrowHealThrive]

He is a covert narcissist...a man developmentally arrested in childhood...all he craves is public admiration like all narcissists do. He does NOT want to adult. He does NOT want to be an equal partner to his wife. He does NOT want the responsibility of parenting his children. Like all narcissists he is addicted to public admiration...and he will be addicted to it until he takes his last breath. Like all narcissists he is incapable of true self-reflection. He only looks at himself when he's about to feel shame for being left by his wife. He is essentially a junkie and addict, and his drug of choice is public admiration, and he is going to destroy his life, his wife's life, and his children's future, all so he can get that drug he so insatiably craves: narcissistic supply (read: public admiration). 5 Tik Tok channels 5 You Tube channels He is incapable of true, emotionally mature, self-reflection on how he is betraying everyone around him and set on course to destroy everyone around him, all for that drug all narcissists insatiably crave: narcissistic supply (read: public admiration). You may be a KZbinr. I doubt you are a covert narcissist like this guy. He is a classic example, right down to all his new clothes hanging in his closet still with the tags on them. smh He is a man child. He is incapable of being a life partner. He doesn't want to parent. He has EXTREME mommy-issues, like all male narcissists.

[@localboyxx]

50 Japanese men: "No"

[@LearnGrowHealThrive]

@@localboyxx Yes, essentially what he says by his actions and choices.

[@InfernusFlamesKaito]

Ooh!~ Very lovely origami

[@vmorita]

I honestly think you shouldn’t make your relationship public.

[@handerly7992]

He wouldn't get all the super chats otherwise, ofc he's gonna keep doing that.

[@N02tradamus]

@@handerly7992 whats super chats?

[@luisluis5306]

@@handerly7992 kayfabe

[@shavonme]

shut up, if you dont want to know get out of here

[@vmorita]

@@shavonme congrats. It’s noticeable that you’re well educated.

[@christinevandegriend1773]

You check your channel … but do you read your comments? Like 100 people, including myself, told you it was a TERRIBLE IDEA to ask your wife to film your conversation.

[@sbaumann8810]

Next video, how does a 50 year old Japanese man get out of the dog house?

[@DeeJay_USA]

This guy uses KZbin to complain and not fix things lol

[@davidisenah]

He read it then proceeded to do it anyways

[@tehutty]

As a filmmaker I disagree. He asked for permission. He was denied of it. He was respectful. Sometimes when doing movies we take risks to speak out the truth and the reality of the situation. Sometimes we use fictitious characters to portray reality, as Kieslowski did. Never deny yourself to show the truth trough the medium of film. It is therapeutic, it gives sense to life.

[@mrmaga6889]

It’s all fake, it’s a montage

[@teec.9805]

Bro, just get off youtube and get your family straight. And stop letting your kids dictate you and your wife’s anniversary dinner

[@astroboirap]

hhaaha

[@antondavidovic3996]

I think he should stay on KZbin, but stop posting private stuff. I enjoy his videos where he shows Japanese products and plays retro games. The man is allowed to have an hour a day to himself, he works 12 hour shifts everyday during the week and then does all the household chores during the weekend.

[@pabloguzman8472]

he should start a skincare channel with his perfect skin for a 50 year old. Imagine reaching his age and looking so young

[@baseguitar02]

lool, he likes the attention just let him make videos...

[@X862go]

So she should control him 24/7?

[@fink94]

Ditch the channel buddy. Your Family, your wife are way more important than us.

[@gabriel.ruschel]

I disagree we're obviously more important to him

[@JohnSmith-qb7si]

I hope he reads this. Don't listen to what a woman says, but what her actions do. She left because he has a yt channel?? BS. She left because she is fed up with her life. If everything he says it's true...: 1. I agree, Don't show childrens faces etc. on the internet or at least be in agreement with wife. You can dial down the content. 2. You sacrifices everything: No friends. you're last in the family , needs permission from wife to go surfing, children dictate your decisions, go to work in the week - takes care of children on the weekend etc. Now she wants you to give up yt to serve her more? Give up your toy collection?(that's the hidden message behind the "untidy house"). 3. She has a semi - volunteering job and she finds in stressful. Really? She can't hold a job, so she wants you to stop spending money on "useless hobbies" like toys and spend more on her. 4. Children are naughty . Why? There is no man in the house. in her mind you're at fault. Look: Happy wife, Happy life will bring you only misery. Woman live of emotion and her life is stagnant. She feels that she has to control everything. What she says is more: ME, ME and my needs. What about your needs BUDDY? Grow some balls. Tell your wife, you're not her roommate and you need some loving, Also you love your hobbies so don't give them up, she will resent you even more. Put in boundaries for her and the children. You're a team leader at work. BE THE SAME AT HOME. Women subconsciously love a strong man, but despise weak ones.

[@Shadowl]

@@gabriel.ruschel Exactly. Probably he'll do much worse without these videos. People want to control everyone's lives. If he wants to keep doing these types of videos, let him be. And if you don't like these videos, well, I have good news for you, there are thousands of other channels on YT.

[@unit9754]

Well, he makes some money from it at least. Wife and kids are just a money sink

[@fink94]

@@unit9754 well that's a stupid comment. Congrats

[@gaylathrom]

Be more passionate about your family than your KZbin channel. Your kids are trying to get your attention. You are sacrificing the people in your life for a community of strangers.

[@christinevandegriend1773]

Would you PLEASE STOP saying “my wife left me?” Because leaving the house for 6 hrs because she needs a well-deserved break from the kids and her duties is not what “leaving you” looks like.

[@MagicPlants]

same it's just a language barrier

[@ruxsack4021]

She left him "for several hours without answering calls" It's over. Old girl didn't just go on a walk lmao

[@ohnoohnoohnoohnoohnoohno8737]

Yeah it bugs me too I read a comment that talked about how he supposedly takes hours to go do fun activities by himself WEEKLY so it pisses me off to hear him demonize her for taking a single holiday afternoon to herself.

[@seren3462]

It's a language barrier problem. Try learning a 2nd language instead of rotting and complaining.

[@britflip]

@@ruxsack4021lmao

[@Itryo]

She obviously doesn't like that you use your channel to express your emotions, instead of communicating with her, your WIFE.

[@matx6666]

As far as we know, she doesn't understand English which is why this is his outlet.

[@CarloCrux]

I appreciate that he wants to be honest with his viewers, it is a very rare quality in this KZbin industry. The part that worries me is if he is using his channel as a way to dump his emotional guilt so that he can relieve himself of having to carry it. I understand that he can also just be asking for help and there's nothing wrong with that. I just hope he knows that family should always come first, even if it is at the cost of your hobbies. You only get to experience your childrens formative years once, be a good example for them.

[@vrroomm]

@@matx6666 captions can be translated, +anyone they know can come across his videos, it’s quite humiliating to have random ppl or possibly ppl in your life such as friends, extended family or coworkers etc. to have such an easy access to your very personal and private situations

[@LukoBala]

​@@CarloCrux she doesn't like that she is getting exposed for being a horrible mother who doesn't work while her husband slaves away all week while barely making enough money. then she has the nerve to ask him to take care of the kids in the weekend... why exactly? is she going to go work in the weekend? so she gets 2 days of break during the week from her only job at which she is awful (raising kids) but he has to work his normal job during work days and do her job (kids) in the weekend. And then princess is upset and threatens him to leave him? I want to see what man will take princess with 2 kids and support her while she does nothing. This guy is such a fool for how she is letting this woman take advantage of him.

[@wizardry31]

​@@LukoBaladamn 🥶

[@anu1776]

兄弟よ、家族を最優先にしてほしい。つまり、動画の投稿を減らして、特に奥さんとの時間をもっと大切にし、家を率いる者としてしっかりと家庭を管理することだ。あなたは家の長であり、家族を導く責任を負っている。もっと良いロマンチックなパートナーになり、子供をしっかりと管理する父親になることを学ばなければならない。長い間あなたを見てきて、あなたが危機に陥っていくのを見るのは辛いが、あなたなら問題を乗り越えられると信じている。

[@FlynnMcTaggart]

100%

[@Nataliannnnnnn]

Он никому ничего не должен.

[@bullabuck7535]

Upp

[@KingMarcusTheThird]

I agree

[@chief1376]

⁠@@NataliannnnnnnExcept if he’s married with kids … then he kind of owes it to his wife and kids to be a better husband/father.

[@susanam.826]

Your wife just told you she doesn't want to expose her private life online, and what do you do? Post a video about your private conversation online. You can have a successful channel without it. Focus on your family, educate your children, get your home in order, pay attention to your wife and stop being a big baby.

[@ryu855]

To that might not even work Dealing with a Japanese person He wants answers He doesn't know what to do The best thing for everybody to do In the comment section Is that just listened You're so quick to give solutions Just listen He's Japanese He might not even be looking for a solution For all we know For all I know I've been watching him for him Probably about 3 months now I would suggest If you're going to Comment Research the culture So you can approach The Situation Sensitively Because the American way to solve issues Isn't always the best Especially when it's coming from The viewpoint of another culture

[@ryu855]

This is also coming from a Japanese perspective She's not worried about Westerners seeing her kids She's worried about The Japanese community saying her kids It's not about us It's about with them

[@corrado]

You say that, but you still wanted him to tell us what happened.

[@susanam.826]

​@@corradoI'm here for Japonese culture.

[@susanam.826]

​@ryu855 I think he knows very well this is what brings him the views and he's capitalizing on that. Also, if he doesn't want peoples opinions, he shouldn't expose himself like that. I don't think he minds the opinions at all. And I'm not American.

[@ovinophile]

Guys, I think *we* might be the reason AJ’s marriage is falling apart. We gotta stop watching and commenting!

[@funicon3689]

wouldnt be the first time clout chasing destroyed a marriage

[@zerohayabusa7315]

Is that his name? I never heard him introducing himself. But I don't think that we shouldn't watch his videos anymore. If you look at the comments, you see a lot of good advice he probably wouldn't think about. Maybe we can even help him. I also think that he spends too much time with his KZbin channel, but it seems like he hasn't realized that it is a problem until now. At least I think it's good what is happening now, although it's scary. But now he knows about the issues and can begin to solve them, which is the first step!

[@cadrillion]

I think AJ is in reference to AskJapan

[@LearnGrowHealThrive]

Yes, it's us. We are the problem in his marriage. He has no responsibility for exposing his wife, children, and messy home online. It's us. Please tell me you are being facetious?

[@Shadowl]

Not me.

[@anthonykarnes6804]

Its a trend...i see youtubers who make content like this and pity themselves way too much. Its dangerous

[@shawngoral3987]

@anthonykarnes6804 Did you see this trend pop up this year? Looking back the algorithm exploded for me late spring. I was drawn in at first to comment but with one channel I felt like the person was addicted to the attention. I unsubscribe from them.

[@LearnGrowHealThrive]

It's not a YT thing, it's a covert narcissist thing. They are the victim for the public admiration they crave. They are developmentally arrested in adolescence.

[@anthonykarnes6804]

@shawngoral3987 I've seen it blow up more so this year but I've seen some here and there in the past couple years

[@Stryk3out]

No its not

[@spikeboy101]

Can u understand how frustrating it is for your wife to see you're not making much money, while collecting toys but you're also tight on money, not really focusing on your kids and spending as you said 100% of your effort onto KZbin and then you ask her to expose her face and life to the world cuz u want views?

[@henrytep8884]

Stfu spike boy. Let this man live his life

[@kneel1]

for real - I love the guy but even I get frustrated sometimes at the videos and can only imagine what the wife is going through

[@per_growth]

spot on

[@ryu855]

No he can't This is a Wife It sounds like she's Not up front With her emotions So you can't tell How bad it bothers her On top of that He really doesn't want to deal with it As a man So he has to Tiptoe around the subject Because the Japanese Are nonconfrontational Turn up front Subjects I'll give you an example Over here in America Or in the West for that matter A woman will say It's really hot in here Can you turn on the air conditioner That's straightforward But a Japanese woman Won't do that Show vaguely say Oh boy is it hot in here But she's really saying Turn on the Air conditioner Instead of saying It's hot in here Turn on the air conditioner She's tiptoeing around The Issue Same issue here It's just more complicated Because the Japanese or indirect And this is what you're witnessing in the video So you're asking him to be direct with his wife But being direct Is a western idea Maybe the Japanese have adopted this And then 10 or 20 years I don't know

[@JohnSmith-qb7si]

Yeah , I agree with you said, except she doesn't want to work, because the volunteer job is to stressful . Imagine a real job. So instead of helping she's telling him to give up his hobbies. That's not really fair.

[@godstomper]

Dude stop. Your wife is getting upset with you and might divorce you. Respect her privacy.

[@SnaabbeamSneebers]

Guaranteed you wouldn't say this if it was the other way around. No one cares when women complain about their husband. THERE'S LITERALLY MILLIONS OF KZbin VIDEOS WITH WOMEN NON STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT THEIR HUSBANDS AND SHARING DETAILS AND LITERALLY *NOBODY* IN THIS COMMENTS CALLS THEM OUT. I AM SO UTTERLY SICK OF DOUBLE STANDARDS

[@godstomper]

Actually I would. ​@SnaabbeamSneebers

[@Tschoii90]

@@SnaabbeamSneebers dont start a gender war in the comments bro

[@john_g_henderson]

5 TikTok accounts and 10(!) KZbin channels is way way too much. You need to pick whatever is your most successful channel (I’m guessing it’s this one?) and delete all the rest. This will free up so much time and relieve so much stress for both you and your wife. Do it today.

[@WhimsicalShark]

Pretty sure 50 years old Japanese man is the antagonist of AskJapan and his wife is the protagonist! It's an M Night Shyamalan Twist!

[@kneel1]

As much as we all definitely love you, I 100% understand your wife's frustration. You are not listening. The things you listed on whiteboard we have all also been saying in your comments since the beginning. Wishing you all the best, though.

[@princesskitu]

Bit of advice? Step away from your youtube channel and devote time and love to your wife. You are sharing way too much info about your personal life and its making your wife unhappy. See the warning signs before you lose your wife.

[@JateStones]

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[@albertbush9361]

Right, the role of advisors can only be overlooked but not denied. I got financially free at the age of 49 with over $1.6m in investment account alone. I was shocked that I made more money with money than with hard work, even my CEO income. Earning "return on investment" makes me more happy. (But I still enjoy working)

[@JateStones]

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[@albertbush9361]

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[@Jayraymond897]

How were you able to make that much? Seems like I'm not lucky enough.

[@albertbush9361]

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[@jomaramomas7682]

Bro dont publicize your personal problem with your wife, talk to her in private. Spend time with her, talk more to her. I think you are the problem here.

[@Lord_Catra]

I agree. It is disrespectful to publish such personal information.

[@sergi339]

I was about to write the same when I read your comment...Totally right, these things should be managed in private...

[@Ryemoon062]

Definitely. It does seem like she doesn't feel loved enough by her spouse and then having to be housekeeper and mother on top of that, which is why she left to take a break. He should talk about her with touchy subjects like this, Not us.

[@sergi339]

@@Ryemoon062 Exactly., they need to talk.

[@TheBaldOne]

Hey mate, I used to like your channel and as a 40+ year old identified with some of the stuff you were saying. But I can't take it anymore, I don't know if something is getting lost in translation or you're just clickbaiting like hell, but I'm unsubscribing. I sincerely hope, if your problems are real, that you get all the help you seem to need. There's a lot of good advice in some comments in every video. I understand some things are not under your control, but your videos are starting to get more and more clickbaiting and depressing and I feel like you either have a serious problem that KZbin can't fix or you just created this persona to get views. In any case, best of luck to you from a 40+ year old also struggling with life and the burden of responsibilities.

[@KevinPhillips_kw]

Agree 100 percent. This all seems too clickbaity. He saw he got followers quick talking about familty shit and decided to go for it. I used to respect him, but now I think he is just another Asian liar who deems money more important than soul.

[@billliew7752]

Now that your wife have told you what she don't like and you are here talking about her further. Not wise... Speak about something else, don't draw your family into this. You have to respect your family members man.

[@OfTheUSSEnterprise]

Eight billion people love 50 year old Japanese man. Only one doesn’t. Unfortunately, she’s the most important. 😭

[@ruxsack4021]

Clearly she ain't when she openly disrespects him.

[@mattj5492]

@@richardb6609 when he turns 51 😂

[@ahmedalouffi]

we dont really know him to say we love him

[@antondavidovic3996]

@@MomeGnome Because he works 12 hour shifts everyday to support his family, then he does all the household chores on weekends to give his wife a break. Cut him some slack. I don't think he should post his private stuff online, but he obviously needs to vent somewhere. Everyone needs someone to talk to and he has mentioned how he has no friends, probably because he doesn't have time for friends with his hands full with his job and family... He's also allowed to have some time each day for himself to do some things he enjoys. The KZbin channel also probably helps him and his family financially.

[@LearnGrowHealThrive]

NO. No. He has 140+K subs...no even 200K yet. She is definitely the more/most important one.

[@JannBeats]

i think on that whiteboard you are missing "not respecting your wifes feelings" like man, dont ask her to go on camera on the internet exposing extremely private stuff and then justify it like "its to show real life situation between couples" you cannot put someone in that situation specially your wife. Please have a proper conversation.

[@shavonme]

calm down, he just ASKED her, stop being dumb, there is nothing wrong in that

[@WalrusesAreTheOne]

I think this man might have Asperger's or something. Because the culture in Japan is very rigid, society does not tolerate people who don't follow the norm. He might feel shut out from his society and withdrawn from his family because he finds it difficult to communicate with them. So KZbin becomes his outlet for airing out personal problems, which I'm not against, but he clearly struggles with balance and knowing what's appropriate.

[@SnaabbeamSneebers]

If this was the other way around you'd side with the woman in the situation. It doesn't matter what situation it is. Women side with women, period.

[@vrroomm]

@@SnaabbeamSneebers you know every woman in the world?

[@jamesrice1257]

She has valid points. You have self awareness. Find a way to do more activities as family that don't involve being youtubed or atleast respecting privacy/boundries of your wife and children. The problem that everyone shares with you is finding time and resources/money to be able to have quality moments with the ones we love. Cleaning and keeping the house tidy should be a family joint activity. ❤

[@evoz4489]

Agreed. If the children are potty-trained, then they are old enough to start helping with chores in an age appropriate way.

[@HApqzr77]

Your wife will be angrier if she sees this video as you are disclosing a significant amount of private information.

[@shavonme]

nobody cares what you think, in 30 years they'll be gone and no one will remember this, guys like you are so soft it's incredible, buy some balls

[@Teutoburg09]

And right after she explicitly told him she doesn't like him sharing their private information.

[@kornbroetchen99]

I think she doesn’t understand english. But ofc no excuse to ignore her feelings.

[@Tschoii90]

@@kornbroetchen99 auto-translate on youtube has gotten really good

[@justsaying.8017]

Google translate….

[@meme-vg2fu]

WIFE: "I hate that you only think about KZbin and give me no attention!" 50 yo: "Cool…but can I put this private conversation on KZbin?"

[@agrayfisch]

STOP HIDING IN THE CLOSET! SHOW HER YOU ARE A TEAM! PUT IN EFFORT FOR HER!

[@monkeh86]

3:25 - why would you even ask your wife that? Of course she’s not going to agree 😂

[@C_In_Outlaw3817]

🤦🏾🤦🏾🤦🏾 fr bro

[@vmorita]

Man, this is so weird…. If I do it to my wife, she would divorce immediately.

[@susanarodrigues4864]

Hi, I'm really glad you talked to your wife. Now that you know what worries your wife, it's a matter of correcting your mistakes and respecting her opinion. As for your social networks, the trick is to strike a balance between your family life and your life on social networks, but prioritizing your family, of course! Hope u can find the balance to be happy and make your family happy. Kisses from Portugal

[@Pilado]

First, love you man hope everything works out❤❤

[@selgeaus]

Your wife has 2 young kids and 1 grown up kid in her house then. And the bottom line is YOU JUST WANT YT VIEWS

[@mvieira13]

Do you even read the comments on your videos? On the last one I saw many people telling you DO NOT publish your personal affairs with your wife online. Get off social media and put your life in order, we would much rather watch you working on fixing your life. This self pity content gets boring fast.

[@Artkatie]

This mans life and videos are slowly becoming more and more sad... {{Edit: I don't know what to believe in anymore. Now when I think about it, this man kinda has a "poor-me" attitude to things like the replies said, I guess I've been too gullible, but I dunno, we as viewers only view what he shows us. I guess I'm just gonna remain gray on this matter.}} {{Edit2: more and more as I watch this video, I get what the comments are saying.. this man is putting all his energy into KZbin instead of his *family*, that is insane... Maybe he isn't what he acts like on camera. I've not really been up-to-date on his videos so I might've missed some stuff.}} {{Edit3: I think this man is playing the victim, he says he spends a lot of time on his phone checking his KZbin if I heard him correctly, that's not healthy, especially when you have a *family*, I wonder if he checks his comments...}}

[@jenniferalcarmen7354]

He hides in the closet 😂

[@hawwndawg]

bruh have you not been paying attention at all? he's the 50 year old midlife crisis man, its been sad from the beginning.

[@TheKimichan]

Marriage is a compromise. Maybe you can cut down on the posting and spend more time with your family and cleaning up.

[@RantePlayz]

@@richardb6609 i was boutta say, they live long asf.

[@IamaNewCreature]

@@richardb6609 yes, many live up to 100, but it’s still rare. I wouldn’t say it’s the average lifespan.

[@Izuhu]

Words have power my friend, stop manifesting your reality. If you keep saying you're a man struggling with a mid life crisis, you will always be such.

[@N02tradamus]

You don't have a drinking problem but KZbin addiction :/

[@officialnicholas1]

He is otaku :(

[@thatdutchguy89]

And a VR addiction 🥵

[@seren3462]

I enjoy your channel, just PLEASE explain yourself to her like you explain to us. Show and tell her what you feel or else it will be too late.

[@DonSmithington]

Hello! I really feel for you and appreciate your honesty in sharing this. It sounds like your wife is feeling overwhelmed and disconnected and she needs more support and presence from you. My advice would be to take a step back from KZbin for a bit and focus on rebuilding your relationship with her. Maybe set specific times where you focus 100% on your family-no distractions, no phone, just quality time. Also, respecting her privacy is huge-showing her that her boundaries are important might help heal things. I hope you both can work through this together!

[@PcRoX123hackedACC]

50 year old Japanese man can't stop making videos and uploading them to KZbin.

[@x.eli_the_great.x2569]

1:KEEP POSTING BUT KEEP FAMILY STUFF PRIVATE 2:SET A FOUNDATION OF DISCIPLINE FOR YOUR KIDS 3:SPEND MORE TIME WITH YOUR WIFE 4:POST ONLY ON WEEKENDS THE TIME YOU HAVE DURING THE WEEK SPEND TIME WITH YOUR KIDS 5:DONT MAKE US PRIORITY,YOUR FAMILY IS IF NOT YOU WILL END UP LOSING THEM GOODLUCK JAPANESE MAN

[@leopold_taylor]

Please please focus on your family and your kids. Forget KZbin.

[@bradfaulkner9121]

I think I speak for most people saying that we love your channel, seeing how you live and cultural differences compared to our own. However, you are blessed with a beautiful family, something many of us would die for. We (your fans) want you to be happy and completely understand putting this channel on indefinite hiatus to try and reconnect with your family and to fix what's broken, make new memories with them. Your KZbin channel will be around forever, but your family might not if KZbin is your main focus. Sending love ❤️

[@wrightvcx2249]

His wife seems like a bigger person in the marriage. And he is a 50-year-old kid. Kudos to her for sticking with the marriage. I think both should separate.

[@antondavidovic3996]

Chill, that is no reason for a separation (yet). People these days break up or separate for the smallest reasons, I swear. Let them work it out

[@wrightvcx2249]

@@antondavidovic3996 IT NEVER WORKS OUT.

[@KennethSenados]

Exactly. He is a big kid.

[@Tschoii90]

@@wrightvcx2249 unless it does

[@deadspace1080]

She doesn’t even have an income…

[@eirilie]

Your wife values privacy and wants a reliable partner to share the burden of raising a family. Social media isn't your job. Focus on what matters, and stop using this as your sub-conscious escape from reality. Thinking and talking can help but does nothing with action. Confront your anxieties and work through them day by day. You are a 50 year old man, a father, and husband, yet you trample the vows and boundaries towards your wife and aren't around to set a good example for your kids. Your wife was willing to talk to you about it and may just be staying with you because of the money, faith you'll pull through as a father or maybe both. Regardless of the reason, your family needs you, now is the time to change before it's too late.

[@mondoenterprises6710]

A room full of let's face it, useless toys. Sell them. Change your life. Read books, play with kids. Exercise. Go offline. Stop this family youtube channel for the good of your family. You seem like a good guy but you are the father, parent, and adult. Listen to your wife. She is a smart lady.

[@SnaabbeamSneebers]

Lmao, how would you know ANYTHING about his wife? OHHHH that's right, it's the "women are wonderful effect" on full display.

[@jebus56162]

​@@SnaabbeamSneebers wow lol, incel alert

[@pimmspimms5462]

@SnaabbeamSneebers Given that we know nothing about his wife, why do you assume that she isn’t smart? She might be, she might not be… the only thing that’s certain here is that your anger is completely out-of-proportion and is making you look unhinged.

[@mark9294]

@@pimmspimms5462well they aren’t saying she isn’t smart, just that we don’t know anything about her. We don’t know if she’s smart or not. We don’t know about her foibles or problems because 50YO man is probably at least considerate enough to not put that on full blast on the internet. It’s equally unreasonable to assume that she’s perfect and “smart”, the truth is somewhere in the middle.

[@RarebitFiends]

Yo, don't choose being a social media influencer over your family. I like your content, but if it's ruining your marriage, you must stop.

[@handerly7992]

you better believe she'll never come back after sharing her private messages.

[@darrenjones3080]

Ten youtube accounts and five tiktok accounts, damn!

[@Mehran-e7y]

I used to enjoy your videos, but now I’m getting a bit annoyed. Here is why your wife is mad: - You are literally talking behind her back in every video to thousands of people whilst watching Vr - She asked you to take her out for dinner on your 14nth anniversary which you used your kids as an excuse not to go - You have no charge in your house hold and let a 4 year old control you

[@dr.eldontyrell-rosen926]

Re: messy toy room: BOX everything up, sort into boxes based on your preferences to keep similar toys together for example. Vacuum the room etc. Return sorted toys neatly to the room.

[@moonpleiades99]

You got to get your head out of your butt and take control!! Drop the kids at grandma's and take a vacation with her!

[@peilinglim8797]

😂 He put grandma in the old folks homes remember? Karma has befall on him 😂

[@robinlook]

I'm glad that you were able to talk through things and I hope you guys can apply all the changes. Family is a treasure, worth keeping.

[@joshhoke5637]

I want to be helpful and constructive here and there is definitely a cultural difference but I honestly don't think it would matter. You aren't interested in receiving input and just clearly want to vent to us, random strangers that have no stake in this. This is not the time nor the place. Get your priorities right now or suffer the consequences later.

[@yuripetrovic7606]

@@joshhoke5637 It's sort of his job. He's not asking for help, input or constructive criticism and never had asked for it. That's something people keep making up Watch if you're interested, ignore if you're not. If it bothers you so much, forcing yourself to watch it only to get upset and complain in the comments is backwards.

[@joshhoke5637]

@@yuripetrovic7606 🙄 when you make your life public and come into this arena you make yourself open to whatever the universe brings your way. If he didn't want others opinions he would have kept it to himself. I offered nothing but an opinion in the first place.

[@yuripetrovic7606]

@@joshhoke5637 That's true of your comments as well as his videos. You felt compelled to watch, felt compelled to have an emotional reaction and felt compelled to talk about it. But you seem confused or even upset that the same may happen to you.

[@joshhoke5637]

@@yuripetrovic7606 lol you are building a case on a house of cards. Continue 😆

[@yuripetrovic7606]

@@joshhoke5637 Yes, yes. We can all talk about whoever puts their thoughts and/or life on the Internet, but we can't do that to you. Because your opinions and life are sacred.

[@gts447]

Just leaving for 6 or so hours is not really a big deal, I wouldn’t call that being left by her, and she said she needed a break and was going out. And she doesn’t take your call bc how is it a true break from the family scene if she has to take calls from husband.

[@elysionkm]

Look after your family and children first!! KZbin and others can come second!!

[@chrisgraham2123]

We’re watching a divorce happen in real time people

[@FIREGHOST195]

Yup and he doesn’t seem to care.

[@ShinmegamiPersona]

I’m disappointed that you don’t give the kids to a relative or someone you trust and spend one day off with your wife to a spa or a day out shopping.

[@mark9294]

Well you need to have someone to trust with your kids in the first place, I don’t for example

[@PlaAwa]

Hey bro, no big issue. It's great that you can discuss these things together. You need to have a social life outside of your family, so KZbin is important however you will need to reduce usage immediately. In the worst case, maybe Fridays only, which might be difficult at first if there's an addiction to it that you haven't realised. Maybe 3 times a week to start. You will enjoy it more too. At the same time you need to let your wife know that you are going through a crisis so it is a bit harder than usual to cope with all your responsibilities. That social media provides your only outlet at this stage.

[@christopherhunt6463]

I really think we're being too hard on "50 year old man". I agree that he needs to give more of himself to his kids and wife. But his wife has gotta give too. She doesn't work. So he has all of the financial responsibility on his shoulders. That's why he's trying to make his KZbin channel successful. "Shopping" aka "spending money" sounds like a very selfish way for his wife to relieve stress. Leaving her children was wrong. Both parents need to honor their marriage vows. They need to focus less on themselves and more on each other. They need to focus more on their children. Their daughter is clearly crying out for love and affection. I hope for the best.

[@ManOfLegs]

It must be quite surreal being in the wife's shoes. Come home from stressful day at work, to hear your husband sitting in a closet speaking a different language. I think this has hit a point where there is too much of a disconnect between what she wants and what the husband wants. I reckon supporting each other *should* be very simple. But I don't think they both desire the same sort of support. This situation will likely get worse, because I don't think the husband knows (or remembers) how to talk to his wife. This is truly a midlife crisis.

[@PastPresentFutureEndofTime]

Acting up or acting out negatively and curious about everything is the term you were looking for regarding your daughter.

[@lililinda6947]

I was a stay at home mom for first five years of my daughter’s life and was sucked in/guilt tripped into volunteering in her kindergarten class. Was happy seeing my little girl at school and yet the most stressful job I’ve ever done 😓kids are tough. I work in healthcare and it’s nothing compared to that insanity

[@psychedelian87]

Urgent family meeting.. "wife, we run out of noodle soon" "oh" "wife, you have nothing to say?" "okay".

[@LearnGrowHealThrive]

No, it's the rice. Japan is low on rice.

[@bullabuck7535]

Lmao😂

[@Sound_of_a_Raven]

You and your wife are talking and exploring together what's wrong. That's the key to success. Fix everything together.

[@Teutoburg09]

Your wife said she doesn't want you airing your family's laundry on youtube. And what do you do? You tell the whole world about your very private conversation with your wife. You just don't get the message.

[@Franck-kb7np]

Someone said eveyone know deep within ourselves exactly what is needed to be done to fix a situation but for some reason we tend to resist or refuse. Your list seems accurate to me and is a good start. But honestly there is some situation whether you are believer or not that can only be fixed by praying the Lord. I love your channel not for you to be sad but for all the stuff you show us as I never been to Japan and I will definetly visit one day thanks to you. I will pray that things get better for you my friend.

[@Bromance802]

She didn't like that fact that you're making content out of a very private issue. Your priority is in the wrong place and you have to be real with yourself and consider your family first before the youtube.

[@Exuprince]

I think you need: 1. To treat your depression professionally. 2. Not making your relationship public and instead of doing youtube videos from your closet (or every evening retro gaming) - to spend all that time with your wife. Doing something fun, meaningful, conversation.... 3. To get your life something meaningful in her life beside raising kids. Hobby or something.... 4. Work to improve your financial situation.

[@rsandilands]

Dude, what started as a whimsical insight into your personal life is quickly turning into a train wreck. Get of KZbin and put this energy into your family.

[@Enbix]

You are the man of the house. Being a good father and a good husband should be your #1 priority. KZbin should be a hobby.

[@hellolaifu2229]

I have regrets too, but without them, I have nothing 😢

[@Erin60147]

I just heard it said when you look back on your life just remember the good times. The past is the past. No more beating yourself up. Forgive yourself❤

[@MoonriseJT-Official]

I totally understand! Unfortunately, sacrifices must be made. Dealing with any type of addiction is not easy, but it’s courageous that you admitted your problem that’s the first step toward acceptance. Perhaps you could discuss with your wife the possibility of having a designated day to check your channel or create videos, but of course, it should be less frequent than before. It’s important for her to understand your hobbies and find a way for both of you to make it work without causing stress. Completely removing everything might not be effective taking small steps can lead to better results. I hope things improve for you, and never lose hope. Ignore the negativity from others, their judgments can hurt and only make things worse. Remember, the sun will shine again! Even when you feel down, try this exercise: tell yourself, (I feel good today, it’s going to be a great day!) ☀

[@TheDaigoro75]

take a break from KZbin and focus on sorting things out. Record videos if it helps get things off your chest but keep them private until things settle down

[@wrath231]

We love you dude, come back when you feel better

[@PastPresentFutureEndofTime]

Next time maybe ask another parent from the school to watch the kids so you can take your wife to dinner alone.

[@tyruswillier7358]

its good to talk with your wife about anything, but especially your relationship. try your best to make things right, you have a good life and a family to love; you should appreciate that. I feel like you need to communicate with your wife more, the channel should be a second priority to your family. but i also feel like you talking about your feelings and connecting with people online is a good thing for you. you'll have to work to strike more of a balance between your family and your hobbies.

[@zerohayabusa7315]

Did you also tell her how you feel? That you often feel alone and depressed? That's important too! I agree that you should spend more time with your wife. Please take her words serious! But I think it's also essential that you feel ok. I like your videos, but there is no need to upload a video every single day for example. Maybe a good compromise would be to spend more time with your wife and just make fewer videos. It's not too bad to mess something up, but it's significant to fix things afterward!

[@Orientalbackyardgarden]

I just noticed your t-shirt 😮 You are a very adorable Japanese 50 year Old man. I like you continue your YT life, but not at costs of your marriage 😢

[@lisaward8024]

There are a lot of dynamics going on here. I lived in Japan for 11 years, so I can see some Japanese things going on here too. 1. 50-year-old Japanese man has spent over 10 years every day, working on his KZbin channel; he’s very popular and he’s not likely to give it up anytime soon, nor should he, but yes, he needs to spend some time, helping to clean around the house, his toy room and play with kids etc. 2. His wife and daughter should really ditch the kindergarten, since they are becoming manipulative by making his wife do extra duties like a full time job for almost nothing and the girl is stressed out, too. Find another kindergarten, or stay home. School is not compulsory until age 6 in Japan. Trouble is, nobody is home to clean up the house, but this was not an isolated case when I lived in Japan! All of these situations are compounding each other.

[@ProudTeenOtaku]

🙌

[@Cre80s]

You will not win this. Just because you see this channel as something positive for you doesn't mean she is under any obligation to see it as positive for her or the family when she sees it as negative. It is not anonymous enough. Had you instead started the channel masking your voice and face and keeping it truly anonymous, that would be different. But you "dragged her into it". The nature of privacy changes in a marriage/family.

[@LeeFoxPhotoshop]

Don't stop making KZbin videos! I think it's a really bad advice I read here. KZbin is a huge chance on earning a decent amount of passive income. Besides this it's his hobby and outlet for emotions. His wife should understand this. I would recommend reducing the time spend on social media and even implement some dass where you don't look at your phone at all. Try to find a good balance so your family is happy too. It's definitely possible! I honestly don't mind if you don't show your wife and kids, it's kind of your style to only hear from you. I like it and I think this way you can respect your wife's wishes for more privacy. Keep going you are doing well as a husband as far as I can tell. Most husbands in the west are doing way less and would never (for example) take over the cooking on the weekend....

[@pimmspimms5462]

It makes me sad to hear that you have ten KZbin channels and four TikTok accounts. Your wife (retreating into herself), your children (naughtiness) and home (messiness) are screaming out for you to notice them and tend to them. I hope that you realise this before it’s too late. Perhaps there’s a part of you that secretly hopes to divorce and is self-sabotaging? You might think that - with them gone - you’ll have more freedom and time for social media, games, surfing etc. The tragedy is that all of these things are meaningless compared to the love and closeness that we can build with our partner and children. 😢

[@battlecruiserna]

you wont miss the water until the well runs dry.

[@mark9294]

Pretty sure it’s run stone dry already

[@sebblackmore3697]

Show gratitude my brother, for your beautiful family. And for yourself and what you have built. Be unpredictable and spontaneous and grateful for the opportunities you have, with your loved ones. One day they could be gone. Never miss an opportunity again. Be the leader you want your children to grow up to be. Solid, compassionate, determined and always a composed, kind friend. All will be well. P.S. sell and give up 80% of the toys and get a trip away, for your wife. And get a baby sitter.

[@Bob-l7m2g]

50 year old Japanese man is going to Cook regardless. Regardless of unsupportive wife or tantruming child. J Man is cooking regardless.

[@SaishsJahshsb-ou9nl]

I can tell by the comment section we live in a world where men can’t express any thing….. With out ridicule or judgement Thanks feminism…

[@taipangwong356]

You were too eager to display self pity, at the expense of your wife's dignity

[@KevinPhillips_kw]

lei hou ma, canto friend, and yes he was. well said

[@Rita_Panetta]

ciao, I would like to point out that the constant sharing of one's life by distancing oneself from the family (and many of us do it) always depends on something. I can say that if we are not listened to in the family, if we are not seen and appreciated for who we are, we will very easily end up on social media sharing our things with others. Has your wife wondered WHY you poured energy here? It's right that you ask yourself questions.... Hi, Rita.

[@sarahmisseslouie]

I think the word is not not that she is naughty … she is undisciplined

[@OzToyReviews]

I agree. The same applies to children on the spectrum. Some adults just pass difficult children off as "a naughty child" as if there is nothing that could have been done to prevent it and puts the blame on the children, as if it was all out of the parents control. I frustrates me that he acts like it is all out of his control and that she is just naughty for no reason.

[@LearnGrowHealThrive]

HE IS THE ONE WHO IS UNDISCIPLINED. She's a three year old.

[@DaRkPlUm]

The comment section really flipped as more information has come to light. I hope you see this, 50 year old Japanese man, but rebuilding the confidence your wife has in you is going to be a slow and painful process. Its the old adage: Hard choices, easy life. One a day or two a week, stay up and play video games. On the others, go to bed when she goes to bed and talk to her. "How was your day?", "How have the kids been?" "How're feeling about our family recently?" Lots of people say it's part of the culture to not show feelings, but that doesn't mean you can't break from the norm if you really care about your wife and her love. We're rooting for you man and, trust me, I know its hard. Have a wife and three kids myself. Been in similar place before, but I guarantee you it is worth it to retake control of your kids, your wife's love and your life.

[@bremencookie]

Look for balance Dude! You are right, you messed up.

[@orderoftheone]

Your community here are sending you a message because we care about you. Just stop posting on the channel for 2 weeks and read all the comments on this video. You have a duty dear brother. A duty to your wife and children. Do your duty while you make sense of it all but stop posting for 2 weeks and meditate so you can get clarity. By the way, all of you beautiful peeps commenting here, saying the same thing - you're all dear friends to him and I'm hoping he listens. Bless you all 🙏

[@aurozappa305]

You guys are telling him to stop putting videos about his private life , but 99 percent are watching him because of it !

[@andreadelsoldato5968]

Its ok you still have time to make things go better but YOU HAVE TO LISTEN TO HER AND ACT NOW!!! Take a break from KZbin, you’ll eventually come back but DONT DESTROY YOUR LIFE BECAUSE OF THIS CHANNEL. I really think you’re a good person, you can do this but for the love of god try to learn from your errors. Good luck from Italy

[@schriftsteller100]

These are worlwide problems

[@ChristianAVS]

For real

[@Temachyotl33]

Don't be afraid. When there is stress conflict can errupt, this can be a good kind of conflict that will make your family stronger if you learn from it. Don't go to bed before resolving problems with your wife. Ask for forgiveness and treat her like a queen. You also need to make her feel like a hot woman, that she is beautiful and desirable. She will love you for that. Dedicate your life to making her happy and you will be very happy. Love your family. I have gotten to know you through KZbin and don't want you or your family to suffer.

[@werthersoriginal]

So in the west this is called commodifying your life. You think "hey it's easy money just to record my daily life" but you invite other unforeseen problems. When I watch some of your videos I think "Wow his life is chaotic because of how messy his house is". Even with this video, I see clothes with tags on them in a cluttered closet. This is what commodifying life looks like.

[@Daaavvveee]

You don’t have to stop uploading videos. Just don’t check KZbin studio. It’s better for your mental health anyways.

[@jonikegami3926]

Possibly intentionally attempting to sabotage the marriage without knowing it? 🤔 family first not content.

[@Fetchdafish]

You seem to know what you need to do. So go do it. Focus on your family. Discipline your children. Show your wife you care. Be a man, don't let your kids bully you. If you love them you'll teach them to be good people who show respect.