Why Foreign Men Struggle Dating In Japan

[@takashiifromjapan]

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[@StrangerSome]

Perfect! Thank you for putting in this work and effort to connect our cultures and countries. I am looking to travel there next year and I’m so excited and nervous. 😅😂

[@dragnoft619]

is you very tall japanesse man or is foreign people short looooooooooooooooooooooooooooool

[@jakenbakeLIVE]

I definitely don't deserve to be the thumbnail on this video. I am no expert in this field haha. But thanks for having me Takashi!

[@takashiifromjapan]

But look at the comments! People come here to hear your opinion haha Thank you too🙏

[@meowzzies]

Hi Jake :)

[@izuegi1400]

I have seen some Jake's videos ,which seemed to be too disrespectful for japanese, some for men and others for females. This man make me so disgusting as japanese. If I see you in japan, I must apply osoto-gari for you.

[@VANADISORD]

😂

[@GoldenMusashi]

He is expert in the chinese department.

[@Specialist7]

Rupa nailed it the first 5 minutes of the video, I dated a Japanese girl for about a year while living in Japan and she was looking at it as serious/having family type relationship as they tend to set things on a timeline, date for how many years, get married, do stuff together for about a year or so then start a family etc... If you're not serious they don't want to spend the time. Of course the whole foreigner can be three different things. One they're attracted to the fact that we're a bit more upfront as opposed to Japanese guys who are a bit more timid and shy. Two is they might see a foreigner as a one time, do something different in their life but ultimately marry a Japanese guy because they're not used to the language barrier/customs etc...Three... dare I say this, the ones learning English and/or live closer to places with a bit more foreigners (city, US bases etc..) want something different and want to live/get out of Japan scenario as that's all they've been to all their lives not to knowing that Japan life has been great for me IMO. A lot of girls in Japan have this agreement type mindset where if you tell them you like/love them then its really that. Whereas if you do this whole actions speak louder than words kind of deal, they take notice but they wont have a clue until you tell them. So my #1 advice is just be straight up to them and they will with you.

[@clarencegilkie7369]

Asian women don't like black men

[@hainavidotcom]

Agreed, Just be blunt and straightforward in what you want. Very easy to do. If you want to sleep with them, then say that is what you want. ON THIS DATE AND THIS TIME. Break down the entire itinerary for example. Dinner at 8 A walk in a park and scenic cab ride at 11 Sex afterward. Trust me, it works on most. NOT ALL if they're westernised?, fugettaboutit...not happening.

[@clarencegilkie7369]

@@hainavidotcom Asian women don't like black men

[@hainavidotcom]

@@clarencegilkie7369 Where is your proof troll? Because I have empirical data that says otherwise. As in multiple children, happily married, and wealthy in Japan. Troll elsewhere.

[@Bluespicygreen]

So it sounds like they take verbal consent very seriously. I like that a lot.

[@Celtic-Texan]

Maybe it's a generational thing, but I came to Japan in the late 80's, and it was super easy dating. I took an immediate interest in the culture, learned enough of the language to navigate my days, and it worked. Granted I was in close proximity to folks used to being around gaijin since I was Air Force in Okinawa, but when I moved to mainland to Fukuoka it wasn't the case, not many gaijin were around at all, but still was incredibly easy to meet girls highly interested to go on dates. Anyway, met the love of my life in Fukuoka in 1993, and 30 years later, 27 years of marriage, and 3 kids, we're happy in Texas!

[@nuraycamci1770]

Your story put a smile on my face, happy to hear your marriage still going strong☝️

[@purpledevilr7463]

Can I just say that you are just overall cool. Celtic-Texan is just an excellent profile name. And the Japanese family aspect. Just a really cool mix of cultures involved here.

[@chessai2121]

Crazy, my dad was stationed in Japan around this time (Marines), got married about 27 years ago, had 3 kids, and lives in Texas (his whole life outside of the military).

[@traciannveno]

Wow that is so wonderful! Thank you for telling us xo

[@stvk99]

uh oh... hope it wasn't that "super easy" as it was for some of your military colleagues in Okinawa

[@cobaltecl1ps317]

I love watching these interviews because he so polite with all his questions and gets right into the heart of it

[@takashiifromjapan]

Thank you so much for watching!! Actually some of the interviewees are my real friends lol It’s fun ti interview someone I know haha Check their social media in the description!!

[@simmiegreaves1078]

wow u got jakenbake I see PagMAn

[@Manishkatuwal135]

Please interview some jpnese to know how they think about nepal and nepalese people please takashii

[@jakenbakeLIVE]

You are a legend Takashi!

[@mugen8602]

@@Manishkatuwal135 I doubt they think about such a small culture 😅

[@becreative2461]

So you are a scammer you interviewed your friends what an ass are you, you should donate the money you're making with this video

[@xyphxer]

as an asian foreigner here in Japan, who looks like a Japanese or rather won't be able to tell me apart unless I speak, it is harder for us, compared to someone who looks totally foreign. haven't seen any interviews on the opinions of people who looks japanese but is not and their experience

[@sethaldrich6902]

That's tough man, probably impossible for you to date. Sorry man. That's worse than when foreign women come to Japan and try to date foreign guys here.

[@rodrigohernandez9940]

@Seth Aldrich the things Is at least for me, i came to japan to meet japanese people and experience there culture. I wouldn't want to date a foreign woman when I can just do that back in my hometown. So yes I could see why it would be hard for foreign woman to date foreign men

[@azul1964]

Well, I guess it will be easier if you speak Japanese fluently

[@uropy]

Speak perfect Japanese. I am Chinese but speak perfect Japanese. And I have my best dating life in Japan. There is no other way. Speak native level Japanese

[@litttlewing]

Same in most asian countries dude. Us ppl who are in-between aren't exciting enough. I've experienced same in S.Korea and Hong Kong. White dudes have it a lot easier, been like that for many years now

[@JawsFan27]

From personal experience, it's hard being able to tell exactly what Japanese women are thinking. I've had dates where things seemed to have gone very well that resulted in complete silence a day later with literally no explanation or reasoning. The language barrier is somewhat of a problem, but most women I've met were able to hold conversations well enough to get their thoughts across.

[@DG-qj9lw]

Let’s be honest, that experience is not unique to Japanese women.

[@alexlei2235]

@@al1999 men have too much freedom, with rigid traditionalism and conservatism, this will not happen, as in Russia, Belarus, Iran, Turkmenistan, Saudi Arabia, Qatar and North Korea lol

[@alexlei2235]

@@al1999 Nah your comment is just kinda funny. People are allowed to have their own standards, man and woman. If they don't choose you then tough luck.

[@balbaal9393]

@@alexlei2235 This AI dude is either trolling or a magnificent specimen of incelus primus. They don't reproduce very well so they are pretty rare, it's a nice find!

[@alexlei2235]

@@al1999 You're right. Women had less rights 80-100 years ago, and they were only allowed to stay at home. I'm glad many countries have evolved since then.

[@omardavila9160]

wow, your thumbnail really paid out!! Didnt expect JakeNBake to be featured in your videos. Good job dude!

[@LauraAdamsRodriguez]

That Australian guy's attitude was great, he even asked Takashi questions which I found really nice of him

[@kaz7690]

Dude has amazing energy, would love to have a friend like him for a drink

[@splitfeys4566]

you can tell he is a successful guy - confident, presents himself very well and has charisma

[@lancele6832]

You're beautiful Laura ;)

[@splitfeys4566]

@@lancele6832 and you're a simp no wonder you're still single

[@chgfygbfyhvf5986]

korean dont like happy and charizmatic people? im from poland and we love them@@user-xf4wx1fp3m

[@R0CK0Nbaby]

That was really interesting! As a Chinese woman from the USA with dating experience here and abroad, I get really turned off when men seem to only be interested because I'm Asian, like the concept of "Asian fetish" or "yellow fever" turns me off, and so when you interviewed that 3rd guy who said it's a weird turn off when women are only interested in him because he's foreign, that was really refreshing for me to hear! I shouldn't be surprised to hear this happens for men too, but it IS my first time ever hearing a guy say that, so that was cool. Thank you for your always interesting and insightful videos Takashii!

[@AmbiCahira]

I relate too but in a different circumstance. I play video games and there are so many gamer guys that have this dream of a gamer girlfriend so I've encountered many guys in those games that attach like leeches if they find out I'm a gamer girl and it is so creepy when people attach before knowing you as a person. Big ick factor. I'm also Swedish and while it thankfully is less common now there are occasionally people with a Swedish fetish too. The creepiest was a man from Africa that approached me in the library in my home town and starting to stroke my arm saying he had never seen light skin before and started touching my hair and stuff, then asking inappropriate questions. I definitely haven't had to deal with it to the degree you've probably had to deal with it but you are not alone and my heart goes out to you! ❤️

[@R0CK0Nbaby]

@@AmbiCahira Thanks for sharing your story! Must be disheartening when you hope to make some great friendships from gaming only for them to weird you out like that :( Also your encounter in the library is definitely very creepy! Ugh, so sorry to hear it, and I wish you only better and better experiences from here

[@wadexyz]

I've heard this perspective quite a few times, and I understand why it would turn you off as perhaps you find it dehumanizing. I would try to reframe it a bit though....and I realize the difference is quite subtle. I don't believe all men have an Asian fetish per say, but I believe they know what physical features they're attracted to, and as such, the opposite features (i.e. - a classic blonde party girl, for instance), simply won't be attractive to them (in most cases). So if you find out that guy has dated asian girls in his last 2-3 relationships, that's not enough, unto itself, to call it an Asian fetish. You could argue that this is a deep rooted issue on the part of these men, but I think that's jumping the gun...and it could simply be more of a function of his biology. Just wondering though, what signs do you see when you think the guy is "only interested in you" because of your Asian-ness? I think a lot of relationships start out like that anyway where physical attributes may have put 2 people together (regardless of types involved), but after 2-3 dates.....both of you should know if there's something more there. Anyway, just my 2 cents.

[@brianpso]

Can you please elaborate on what makes someone liking your appearance a bad thing? Like, aren't you always doing the same to other people when you first get interested in them? If you like their face, you get interested, it's that simple. So if a guy finds asian eyes (the rest of the features vary a lot depending on the person, but the eyes are always very similar) attractive, then what's the problem? What even is this so called "asian fetish" or "yellow fever" thing? As a brazilian I never heard of it. I'm intrigued.

[@pandainpearls]

@@wadexyz As an Aussie with Asian background things I would look out for...always talking about my background or ethnicity, stereotyping (eg: asian girls do this or that), putting down certain aspects of my ethnicity but glorifying other bits, putting down other ethnicities or races (eg: I prefer asian girls cos white girls are too feminist etc...). There are too many subtle signs to list...

[@Vietnomeez]

You should definitely interview foreign Asian men about dating in Japan. I myself found it more difficult to date in Japan than in America because Japanese people's perception of me was that I looked Japanese or even Korean even though I am Vietnamese American. Other Asians such as my indian and Indonesian friends found some unique difficulties dating in Japan as well. Being Asian in a homogeneous society is quite difficult because many Japanese girls I meet would rather date someone who looks completely different than someone who look familiar to them even though the cultural and language differences are vast.

[@propogandalf]

I guess I kind of understand the mentality a little bit. Like they think if they're gonna go foreign they're gonna go big/as foreign as possible. Although I would think South Asian is different enough in terms of appearance and culture.

[@NoMusicNoSoul]

Well, its not really racist but they dont find non white attractive. some exception being the black americans. if you get really close them they will tell you that they find black people scary(one of the girl told me). Also, I have seen the image of non developed countries is not good so they dont wanna associate with that. usually japanese girls have very limited knowledge about the america or some other countries. They think its heaven and everything is good, they are gentleman. I know a white guy he use dating app he starts with sex talk and get laid 70% of the time, if an asian guy do that he will be called a pervert..

[@maegalroammis6020]

three big reasons why japanese doesn't make good friends: first, they makes zero efforts to speak other languages and anyway when we try to speak japanese they laugh at our accents and they don't forgive bad pronounciations secondly, they refuse to show their feelings no matter how polite, kind and respectful we are. just because they refuse to put us in their priviledged friendship circle (in fact it's only when they get drunk, it's pathetic) and thirdly, they love to criticize the others in their back. they judge them without knowing us they don't give us any chance. they don't tell our mistakes, how can we improve ourselves. i like japan, for what it has naturally, but i do not get why its locals are so well seen in the world. they don't deserve so much of praise as "super kind-hearted people"

[@1nvisible1]

*All five men are so good looking they look like models. I do not think any of these men have trouble dating in Japan, in the Outer Space, or even Under the Sea. But if you interview to a guy who looks like Jack Black or a young John Lithgow, you might get a different story.*

[@kimjong-un5074]

So as an Austrian you have easy play you say?! 🇦🇹😉

[@cupwithhandles]

It's fun listening to the Australian guy. You smile with him as he speaks. Takashii smiled a lot too. He'd be a great presenter. I like how he turned into the interviewer at the end.

[@hipsonsogbo]

He's as fake as they come, would never trust that guy, his hand gestures were way off, and he spoke with a very unusual tone and expression

[@bastobasto4866]

@@hipsonsogbo agreed lol

[@bastobasto4866]

@@hipsonsogbo I think the word is affected

[@roymurrayanderson7573]

Yes, when I was in my early 20’s I managed a Japanese restaurant (for my English mostly) I was the only white American. I began dating the most beautiful Japanese young lady . She had only been in the u s for 6 months although her English was very good. After about 3 months she asked if I loved her and my reply was yes I believed I did. Her response was then why won’t you marry me. It was an eye opening and difficult for me to process. I was the only son in my family and our culture was so different. We dated for a tumultuous year and things became to difficult to continue, but we were both under 25 and not ready. Still I (and she) remembers our time fondly. She called back when I turned 50 to see how my life turned out. Voicemail. I couldn’t return the call.

[@MuzzaHukka]

Why not?

[@cattysplat]

@@MuzzaHukka Probably changed her mind and felt embarrassed so blocked the numbers? It's a bit strange to go asking about your past dates 30 years later. Might have been a idea under the influence of alcohol haha.

[@tsdobbi]

"She called back when I turned 50 to see how my life turned out. Voicemail. I couldn’t return the call." What's astonishing about this story is you lived in the same place with the same phone number at 50 as your early 20's. I mean I'm younger than you but grew up without cell phones (I didn't get one until I was 22). I don't even remember the landline number for the house I lived in through highschool, lol. So it's astonishing this chick would remember the number of someone she dated for one year nearly 30 years prior and that you still used the number.

[@Th3LastGam3r]

@@tsdobbi I can confirm this story. I was the phone.

[@unknownunknown5244]

@@tsdobbi I vouch for him I'm the phone number

[@The4Tifier]

When my sister heard that Japanese women would take 1 month until they go out on a date, she immediately said that it was so they could do a whole bunch of preparations for the date (new clothes, make-up and hair appointments, skin treatments, etc.)

[@sayantanmazumdar3]

So, which McDonald's are we going to today?

[@Paul-yk7ds]

I think it's mostly because they have busy work schedules in Japan

[@AnonymousGameWarden]

American woman should learn something here

[@lololol924]

@@AnonymousGameWarden Id rather they didnt. Do you really want a first date with a stranger to be such an intense weighted event? A months worth of preparation when you don't even know if you like this person? I don't oppose dating with the intention of getting married down the line, but it seems like Asian cultures in general hit the gas on the expectations WAY too soon.

[@Flor-i4z]

@@AnonymousGameWarden Pathetic If a woman Is at at least average looking dont need to take 1 months for checking clothes make up and others treatment because She can do this in few days 🤦🏻🤦🏻🤦🏻

[@saintsataniko2116]

It's amazing: The half-Japanese guy from Brooklyn may as well be any Italian guy from Brooklyn, from the way he talks, to his outfit and his posture. He's still a New Yorkers through and through.

[@burningdaylights]

I just posted the same thing. Shout out to that dude.

[@sagarbehera]

He is more New Yorker than the ones left behind in New York 🤣

[@kellymoses8566]

Because he was raised there.

[@Peter1999Videos]

@@sagarbehera NYC accent is not dead yet, hes living proof

[@bryancole842]

Definitely GAIJIN. Born outside of Japan (Gai) + person (Jin).

[@nickxplore4265]

How's nobody in the comment section mentioning how goddamn wholesome and chill that first Aussie guy is!? My dude's got a massively likeable personality!

[@pagodebregaeforro2803]

Cool dude, dont be ashamed of being gay for the guy. 😂jk, dont take seriously.

[@hatman3636]

@@pagodebregaeforro2803 Lmao you got him

[@kendalson7100]

​​@@legendsofcelestite.officia5398I thought he seemed too cocky and overconfident. And, well, dumb.

[@sinistarz0253]

@@kendalson7100That’s what western or overall girls like isn’t it?

[@trizvanov]

Being an extravert is something that gets actively promoted in Australia. You tend to see folk that "act" that way to generally be in sales or marketing.

[@nivramfitness3612]

Keep up the good content Takashi. I’m learning more about the Japanese culture with every video you post. ありがとうございます.

[@TrixieMatteI]

oh no... dont turn into some nasty sexpat cause you idolize some random culture.

[@akkamal6999]

About the Australian guy. Congratulations, Takashi. You found yourself a new friend

[@echos9396]

Takashii!!! Love your videos man, you're by far my favorite Japanese KZbinr at the moment as I will travel Japan one day for sure and I love learning about your guys culture. Cheers from New Jersey, USA!!

[@joepaa2674]

i like the first interview.. really casual and fun !!

[@bubbatyy-yt]

Didn't expect to see Jakenbake here lol

[@allindiaprowrestling8676]

He is literally in the thumbnail and yet you didn't expect him?

[@bubbatyy-yt]

@@allindiaprowrestling8676 Meaning I didn't expect him to be in one of these videos. Not that I was surprised he popped up mid video?

[@lmao2351]

Yeah this guy somehow always manage to interview youtubers and streamers without notcing it himseld.

[@jacobpalmares4396]

Fr lmaoo

[@BillyC500]

@@allindiaprowrestling8676 Myself, I wasn't 100% it was Jake before watching.

[@jonathankent6877]

I lived in Japan for a year and a half and did the english teaching gig, this was back in the 2005-06. It was a great experience and I did date women casually but traveling around the country, meeting regular folks, and experiencing the culture were among my top memories. Nothing negative to report, such a great period of my life!

[@angelocoli8972]

Why leave? Got home sick?

[@CtrlAltRetreat]

@@angelocoli8972 It's not as easy to permanently immigrate to Japan and even when doing the English teaching thing, unless you get a more permanent job, it's unlikely you'll keep getting those visas extended. It you want to become a citizen, it takes quite a lot of doing and the rest is often quite difficult to pass for foreigners as the Japanese fluency requirement is no joke and kanji is a huge hurdle for most folks without an Oriental background. Jps are hospitable with strangers and hope they have a good time, but only in passing. This applies to other Japanese as well, if you move into an area and don't do the rounds and pass out greeting gifts to the locals or follow the disposal rules, you can quite quickly find your situation getting less than optimal. Ie, when in Rome... But that means a lot more work than in many places.

[@LadyAstarionAncunin]

You were still in the honeymoon phase. Live here for years and you'd get a better idea of what is what.

[@maegalroammis6020]

three big reasons why japanese doesn't make good friends: first, they makes zero efforts to speak other languages and anyway when we try to speak japanese they laugh at our accents and they don't forgive bad pronounciations secondly, they refuse to show their feelings no matter how polite, kind and respectful we are. just because they refuse to put us in their priviledged friendship circle (in fact it's only when they get drunk, it's pathetic) and thirdly, they love to criticize the others in their back. they judge them without knowing us they don't give us any chance. they don't tell our mistakes, how can we improve ourselves. i like japan, for what it has naturally, but i do not get why its locals are so well seen in the world. they don't deserve so much of praise as "super kind-hearted people"

[@balmaceda01]

​@@maegalroammis6020straight shooter. That's what I like to hear.thx for the insight

[@als1668]

Takashi your English is getting stronger, I could see it from your interactions in the interviews. Love the content. Keep up the great work brother.

[@emmetmurray5102]

This is the best utube channel I've ever watched. The interviewer/presenter delves into so many aspects of Japanese life. I really enjoy watching these videos. I'm looking forward to watching more of them..

[@RockSolitude]

Seeing Rupa in this video was a trip. We used to hang out in Melbourne a few times. If you're reading this Rupa sorry I never contacted you more or we never got to hung out when you were fresh in Japan all those years ago, I was absolutely swamped with work at the time (and freaking out trying to find more). It's crazy how far you've come.

[@911eVoX]

Is this Emily?

[@vishnubilimoria6906]

is this bartholomew

[@vladimirgluten781]

is this quandale dingle?

[@bignasty389]

Is this Gru from Despicable Me?

[@titlasagna2172]

is this Dwayne TheRockSolitude?

[@MrShem123ist]

When the first guy said "Oh my gosh" after knowing that the topic is about dating, I felt that. 😂 Anyways, great video! メリー クリスマスたかしさん!

[@ktqtbooty]

omg I haven't seen jakenbake in forever! tysm takashii, amazing video as always! 🤠💗

[@ingvarkarlson5982]

that australian bloke is a god of charisma. I've been listening to him for about 5 seconds and I already like the guy.

[@purpledevilr7463]

The first guy really sold the experience for me. Straight forward confessions. Organised times. Just suits my personality.

[@sophiaisabelle027]

We appreciate your effort and hard work. Happy Holidays and God bless you.

[@GK-wx6xo]

I struggled because I'm Australian and very direct whereas Japanese girls play a lot of games and expect you to be able to ignore what they're saying to your face and understand what they aren't saying. It's a game where you don't know the rules until you've been there long enough to figure it out.

[@boofboyriq]

I think that’s not just Japanese girls 😂

[@znaz9012]

@@boofboyriq As an international student most women don’t say what they want but Japanese women are dark souls of that

[@GK-wx6xo]

@@boofboyriq true but with Japanese girls it’s like they’re on steroids when it comes to confusing men

[@shabu9ine]

Theze hoes fr

[@winwinmilieudefensie7757]

Not all people are the same .. even in japan .. basic communications… try it

[@soybeans4580]

Takashi my friend, you are blowing up. Last time I checked you were around 50k subscribers and now you’re 545k subscribers. Keep up the good work!!

[@supercaveman]

The kokuhaku confession is by far the biggest difference between Japan and other countries. It is understandable in some ways but at the same time for Westerners, it can seem so abrupt and unnatural. Like if you expect a kokuhaku after a week or two, then everything changes and you’re automatically on the path to getting married in their eyes. It just seems extremely fast in many ways. I don’t know why Japanese people don’t think it’s fast. It’s kinda nuts.

[@khov]

when you mean kokuhaku you mean asking for a girlfriend or asking her to be your wife after 2 weeks?

[@toromaru0912]

@@khov asking for a girlfriend

[@DrAhzek]

Japanese are quite conservative and traditional, like most Asians. It used to be similar in Europe or America back in the days. The expectations of marriage, of having kids / family at certain age, "old goods lady after 25/30 years" and so on. Also, no matter what most people may think or believe, marriage was a form of transaction for most of our history. It is not an institution of "love". I mean, why would you need a paper to prove you love one another? You need it only for formal reasons and as a guarantee of it lasting till death or really serious fuck-up (but that is no longer valid with divorce being considered something normal). In Asia, marriage is still often considered a form of "investment", a cold calculation, and that's why a lot of people tend to treat it differently than we do. You can easily verify someone's income and prospects, it doesn't take years to show up. Not that it's wrong because most marriages in the west end up loveless anyway so here you at least have that "calculated part" still keeping you together.

[@khov]

@@DrAhzek i feel like love is a gamble no matter how many years you know someone is still a gamble to choose someone especial that understand how hard is to maintain long term relationship

[@ImLure]

@@DrAhzek “Marriage is a transaction” the fact that more people do you not understand this is the sole reason why most marriages fail in the west. Everywhere outside of Western Europe and US/Canada, The women pretty much understand it’s give in take and that love will be there but it’s a horrible foundation. I bet if more western people actually talked to immigrant women and men living in the west, some will find out that the foreigners are together because usually the woman had nothing to begin and she met the dude when they were like 16-18 and never left. Aka Survival

[@fancytoxicsoda]

Happy to see your channel grow Takashii

[@gerardoguerrero5614]

I will say I am all for how upfront Japanese women are. It’s better to say if you are interested in someone and not waste both peoples time. I’ve been planning on going to Japan sometime soon in the future, my intention isn’t to date but it’s nice to know what to expect👍🏼

[@majalaughcomics6570]

You are an amazing content creator. I am amazed by your simple, yet eye opening video. Japanese people are extremely polite, careful, and respectful. You can see your care toward the subject, and everything involved. You make me want to be a better person. To think an entire country can be so proper, polite, and organized. Japanese people are incredible. I’m sure you make Japan proud by showing the world such a wonderful side. Good luck with future videos!

[@notequalto5179]

I love your channel Takashii! It has really helped me with practicing realistic Japanese past textbooks. I will be visiting my friends from Tokyo and their family this Spring!

[@tequilamonster3940]

Takashii - LOVE your videos. Super informative about Japanese culture. A little drama with the 2nd interview-- that father had to keep running after his kids. Super, unintentionally funny! Keep up all of your good work Takashii

[@clarencegilkie7369]

Asian girls don't like black men

[@LGmaster28]

Dude is so wholesome humble and he gives his all. Thats the kind of content that deserves likes. Gambate !

[@danielviianovvieiradesousa6560]

The first guy that you interviewed was a really good choice. everything he said was interesting and he also asked you some questions back. great interview

[@docko84]

Charismatic dude

[@TS-xb8qg]

The last guy went from brooklyn accent to Japanese in 0 seconds flat.. pretty impressive .. i know his grandma is proud.. 👍

[@miixfixxgarage]

It seems dating a person is taken more serious-like in Japan. Very nice.

[@sayantanmazumdar3]

Well, it's one those few 1st world nations left where people wanna date with the intent of marriage since day 1.

[@miixfixxgarage]

@@sayantanmazumdar3 Unlike in the West where marriage is a binding contract where if divorce is imminent a new financial arrangement of alimony (child support if children are involved). It's as if marriage is another means of capitalizing off it's citizens.

[@maegalroammis6020]

moral of story: don't date japanese, you're only about to waste your time.

[@ReservedSpot]

@@miixfixxgarage Huh it seems this rampant capitalism should be regulated a bit more…

[@miixfixxgarage]

@@ReservedSpot That would be a nice change up but how will lawyers, and judges pay their country club dues if hypothetically speaking were to treat relationships with the expectation of an endurance race instead of a 1.5 hour rom-com flick. America unfortunately will soon have a rapid decline in births due to laws in place that are blatantly a disadvantage for women and the overall formalities of dating due to the country's ununited historical origins therefore making America one of the least ikely location to maintain a healthy and mentally stable relationship.

[@Whateverrandomname]

Takashi you’re awesome, keep up these vids!

[@luh96]

I felt the first one but from the perspective of the woman. I'm super shy and people are not really interested in me. I'm also at fault because I want to chat at least 1 month before meeting in person, maybe longer if the workshedule does not fit in. On the second date I was really in panic to even ask if I can hold hands with my date. For me it's such a big step to feel the warmth of another hand. The first kiss was 3 or 6 months later and I thought I would faint haha. Idk why I am like this, in Germany dating can be more distant/cold but I am still the weird case 😅.

[@eafesaf6934]

What? What part of Germany do you live that you say dating is cold? Ich komme aus Bayern Bro. Welche Hürde hast du denn erlebt?? ::)

[@luh96]

@@eafesaf6934 NRW Bergische Land. Im Vergleich zum Rheinland (z.B. Köln) ist man recht unter sich und Dating fühlt sich oft eher wie nen Business Meeting an 😅 Sehr Listen-abarbeiten-mäßig. Daher kam auch selten vom Date mal ein Move für Körperkontakt bzw. war es nie wirklich "notwendig"/besonders in deren Augen, wohingegen für mich so etwas wie Händchenhalten schon was sehr besonderes ist 😅.

[@eafesaf6934]

@@luh96 das ist definitiv neu-Land für mich lol. In bayern ist es mir fast zu persönlich. Wir sind zwar auch kalt hier aber eher gegen fremde als gegen die Person, die man Daten tut..

[@eviuze6259]

@@luh96 Kein Mann hat bock 3 Monate auf einen Kuss zu warten wenn Lara von nebenan nach einer Woche bereits ganz andere Sachen küsst. Ausnahme sind natürlich ähnlich schüchterne Männer die dann zwar mitspielen aber auch irgendwann an Interesse verlieren da die "Beziehung" nicht voran geht und sie somit die Lust und Hoffnung verlieren jemals etwas ernstes mit dir zu haben. Stell dir das mal so vor: Wenn ich dich nach einem date frage und du kommst mir mit "ich hab in 2 Wochen zeit" wird kaum einer dabei bleiben. Wieso sollte er auch? In 2 Wochen hätte er dann einen hauch einer Chance auf Hände halten geschweige denn auf einen Kuss. In der zeit könnte er zocken, Party machen , trainieren, nichts tun oder potenziell mehrere weibliche Partner finden. Männer verschwenden ungern Zeit und Energie also wieso sollten sie auf dich warten? Ich glaube du wirst deiner Antwort näher kommen wenn du diese frage beantworten kannst.

[@luh96]

@@eviuze6259 Naja bisher war immer viel Verständnis, oder es dauerte von Seiten der Männer länger weil dann bei denen Job/Studium dazwischen kam und fanden es eigentlich cool mal jemanden zu haben, die Verständnis zeigt und nicht an die Decke geht ^^. Gleiches andersherum. Besonders im online Dating finde ich es auch nicht schlimm wenn man mehrere parallel kennengelernt und dann erst Feedback kommt, ob man mehr Zeit investiert, oder eben nicht. Alles Kommunikations Sache. Meist habe ich sogar eingeleitet wegen Händchen halten, aber die Männer waren dann dran like ne. Es harkte bisher halt an der Grenze Küssen/Sex, aber da kann ich rein medizinisch keine Kompromisse machen (das 2.) da muss ich halt geduldig sein und dran bleiben, bis ich jemanden finde wo einfach alles stimmt ^^. Wie du sagtest, es gibt Männer die ähnlich ticken, man muss halt aktiv suchen und drauf zugehen :).

[@acheng8366]

It seems like most Japanese girls date in order to get married rather than find a short-term partner. That's why they take dating seriously and date with formality. Most of the foreigners in this video, if not all, are short-term visitors. It doesn't make sense to date a guy who will only be in Japan for a few months or years, let alone they don't even speak Japanese fluently. If a foreign person has a permanent job in Japan with stable income, has the intention to permanently reside in Japan, speaks Japanese fluently, and respects local culture and custom, I don't think it's hard to date and get married with Japanese girls.

[@truthtelleranon]

Despite this, seems like wives cheating is socially accepted in Japan. Kinda contradicts the whole “commitment” idea

[@oldtwinsna8347]

they have to get married by 30 or else get branded as a goat and bring disgrace to their parents. the only exception to the rule are the highly intelligent ones who can become truly self reliant as a doctor, scientist, or something along those lines. not that pink collar type of job that is known for a large percentage of the females there.

[@trynafvck]

@@truthtelleranon They marry due to the sense of obligation rather than love. After marriage they cheat without hesitation.

[@lisamemeson]

@@truthtelleranon not only this but why go through all that trouble just to find out the girl embraces said toxic culture of theirs? so get real OP because it would be hard regardless if someone could do everything you stated considering what is normalized in japan and what isn't.

[@birbshid]

The girls from Japan I've met absolutely did not take dating seriously lol

[@Alex_1729]

This Australian man has done a great service, really interesting to hear all that. And of course. Takashii thank you.

[@mailman1021]

I’ve had some pretty interesting dating experiences here. Most day to day life outside of the major cities or foreigner friendly places are non eventful. People tend to not make a lot of eye contact, avoid your gaze or won’t approach you if they don’t know you. They are usually self-conscious about their English ability which prevents them from trying to strike up a convo. Plus, the whole “don’t bother” people vibe of the culture makes social interaction on the daily a little awkward to just start talking to strangers. Now, the night life especially in major cities or foreigner friendly places is a 180 from that. After a few beers things can get rowdy and people start to become chatter boxes, especially the younger generation. My dating experience has been lots of confusion and even some racism by older parents who won’t let their daughter date or marry a foreigner. Japanese only they say and get mad at her if she asks to date a foreigner. We had to end that relationship out of respect for her relationship with her family. The other girls, even though they knew some English (elementary level or some junior high level) and wanted to learn with me, just got me hella confused and wouldn’t communicate. Had one girl break up with me only to tell me a month later that she thought we were still together. Those are wildly different goal posts there girl… sheesh. One girl thought we were a couple but she only spoke to me once or twice a month and we met for a date around once a month. Super weird. Now, I am with a girl who is very fluent in English, while I am still learning Japanese and she is totally ok with moving to another country if that’s where life takes us. She and her family don’t care. If you want a serious and less stressful relationship, I would recommend finding someone who is high school level or higher in your language and has international travel experience. Not just someone who dreams of it and thinks all foreign men as out of a Disney movie. That was another weird experience I had…. some girls here have some odd fantasies about foreign men like the movies. Overall, night life and daily life are totally different and cold approaches can be very culturally awkward outside of the evening/night scene if your Japanese level is too low to properly flirt without causing them stress thinking they will have to speak another language.

[@spartanx169x]

Why would you only speak to a girl once or twice a month and only go out once a month? what were the dates like? Was it just coffee or a lot more? Did you discuss what you were looking for in a date/GF? How many dates actually took place?

[@mailman1021]

@@spartanx169x why would I? what were the dates like? coffee or a lot more? discuss what you were looking for? how many dates?..... would you like my social security number with that? geez.

[@OptimusPrimeribs]

rude of you. that person asked good questions. You shared a lot about yourself so it makes sense that someone would suspect you'd be open to sharing more. Just say you don't want to talk about it.@@mailman1021

[@Bread-vk8fl]

The best advice here is: date japnese girls that traveled outside japan. 4 years in Tokyo and I approve 100% what was said

[@Fazzmania64]

Really insightful comment, learned a lot

[@JamesJuiceful]

Keep up the great work! I love watching and learning from your videos

[@gallaxian]

I’m a western man who has lived in Japan and dated a number of Japanese women over a period of several years while I was in my early twenties. I found the biggest difference to be that the notion of casual dating isn’t as common there. I was surprised that many women were marriage-minded from the get-go and seemed to assume that it was my object as well. While I was not adverse to marriage - I eventually married a Japanese national - it wasn’t my focus. This mismatch in expectations caused me problems with some women I was dating because they felt like I was leading them on if we had been on a number of dates and I wasn’t already seriously considering them as a possible spouse. Just dating for companionship and fun with the possibility that the relationship, if it lasts, could eventually result in marriage wasn’t enough. It didn’t seem to matter if I told them at the outset that I wasn’t planning on marriage any time soon; they didn’t seem to hear or believe me.

[@Rajin90]

I'm a "western" man too. But I wonder: What is the purpose of "casual dating"? Dating is for finding a life-long partner to have a serious relationship with. If that's not the goal, why even bother? Companionship is what the bros are for. And if you're feeling horny: that's what a well-trained right arm is for.

[@gallaxian]

@@Rajin90 Not everyone who dates is looking for a spouse or life partner. Foreign tourists and expatriates, especially, might merely be interested in meeting Japanese nationals for the experience or a desire for companionship and/or sex during their stay in the country. Some Japanese women are open to flings and dating when marriage is not necessarily the object but, in my experience, they are very much in the minority.

[@alienrefugee51]

@@Rajin90You won't know what type of woman you would want to be with long-term, until you've tested the waters... at least a handful, or so dates with different women. It takes some experiences to figure this out. You could date someone for a while, things are good, but you get to a point where you feel like something is missing, or that you don't really connect all that well. It takes time to really know somebody and their true colors can come out down the line. You don't want to get stuck in an unhappy marriage because you just "settled". This is even more important when you're dealing with a different culture altogether. You may come to realize that the culture wasn't your thing, but you don't know until you test the waters.

[@lordkronos5470]

I wish he interviewed me lol. I had more than a dozen dates with japanese women in the last three years in Japan. The most annoying things would be: 1- if someone finds out you have a girlfriend or dare they always ask:" is she japanese?" As though it's a great accomplishment. It feels like I'm belittled if she's a foreigner or she's not good enough. 2- there's always a drunk ojiisan that coccbloccs me. He'll try to be friendly and ask questions but overstays his welcome and after awhile would ignore me and just talk to my date. I heard young guys do it too. Did it to my friend. 3- japanese girls would talk about serious relationship but they could be lying or could be for language exchange or look cool around their friends. Especially college girls. Don't take them too seriously, they look innocent and loving but they're the same as any other girl in the world. "she's different". She's not. 4- cheating: my first tinder date was with a married woman. Cheating is very common and sex hotels make it so. Many couples live in other prefectures and might cheat. They might have a boyfriend or girlfriend so they don't look lame around friends or family. But they'll cheat or look for a foreigner friend to flirt with but might not cheat. 5-Japan culture: married by 25. They're a stigma about being over 25 and how bad it is not being married. Some might even rush the relationship just to get married but as easy as it is to get married it is ready for them to divorce you. 6- Japan can be very very conservative. Especially with the idea of being a housewife. Most ladies want to get married because they're tire of working or living with their parents. So they want to marry a successful man that can take care of them and they no longer have to work. With foreigners, especially military, they might want to use you and maybe even as ticket to leave Japan and live abroad. 7-they stereotype. They like hip hop or basketball they like black guys. They like Hollywood movies or maroon five they like white guys. They like Spanish music or anything then you guessed it, they like Hispanics. Korean... Etc. They have a type and no matter how ugly the guy is, they love it. 8- communication: someone's there's a language barrier but someone's japanese girls don't really excited they're feelings. They're not confrontational so they'll keep they're feelings to themselves. 9- if the japanese girl has left her country and studied abroad or has at least traveled, it most likely that your relationship will become really good and she might be open to your customs and be more patient about language barriers etc. If she never left her country and in many cases , her prefecture, this isn't going to last, she's only dating you because she's curious. 10- last but not least, they can't cook. 8/10 foreigner girls I have met or went on a date with could cook. 1/10 japanese girls couldn't. They're answer was they usually still live with their parents and their mother cooks. The few that could cook had children. Single mothers or they were a little older. As for foreign girls with japanese men, I heard they are very kind. Cleans your apartment, might even buy you stuff. Very gentlemen.

[@lordkronos5470]

Theres good things but maybe that’s a different video. lol

[@clarencegilkie7369]

Asian women don't like black men

[@yeeehawwdy2638]

You’re spot on for everything except just because a girl likes hip hop doesn’t mean she likes black. I taught dance classes and hung out at hip hop bars and only 3 girls in my 4 months teaching liked black men.

[@lordkronos5470]

Btw I’m just generalizing based on experience and observations

[@lordkronos5470]

Good things are: Japanese girls like to share costs on a date. Not all but most do. Let them! Don’t let your manhood be defined because a woman shows interest and wants to pay for you. They’ll open doors for you or hold the umbrella. They want to show you they care. No one will think of you as less of a man but might be jealous of how lucky you are.

[@christoph3187]

I tried dating Japanese women but had a hard time telling if they even liked me (my culture is very direct). With one girl in particular I was meeting, hugging, kissing on the cheek, spending time with her alone talking through nights but also felt she was kind of pushing me away and was guarded. So I shied away, anyway ten years later I’m in Japan. I meet her again with other friends and they outright tell me she told other people we were a couple. I was dumbfounded and certainly may have said something to the point of „no, we were just talking“ which seemed to hurt her although I didn’t get why (my wife was with me and surprised to hear this too when I had just introduced her as a friend…😬💀). Anyway I think cultural differences can be difficult to bridge if you’re not really aware of the differences, so thanks for this video! Would’ve helped me back then bc I really liked her but thought she didn’t like me.😅

[@MoloBolo-nl6kx]

Shit like this is why I like planet earth.

[@solev657]

Lol

[@maegalroammis6020]

three big reasons why japanese doesn't make good friends: first, they make zero efforts to speak other languages and anyway when we try to speak japanese they laugh at our accents and they don't forgive bad pronunciations secondly, they refuse to show their feelings no matter how polite, kind and respectful we are. just because they refuse to put us in their privileged friendship circle (in fact it's only when they get drunk, it's pathetic) and thirdly, they love to criticize the others in their back. They judge them without knowing us they don't give us any chance. they don't tell our mistakes, how can we improve ourselves. i like Japan, for what it has naturally, but i do not get why its locals are so well seen in the world. they don't deserve so much of praise as "super kind-hearted people"

[@RawBlue]

Basically every first interaction between people who are attracted starts out superficial by your looks. Some people find people different from themselves interesting as well. The problem I feel is if a girl will approach any foreign guy just because they are foreign and vice versa with "yellow fever" jumping at any Asian girl. You find out if you like their personality after that but if you don't and still stick around because of a fetish that's wierd

[@clarencegilkie7369]

Asian women don't like black men

[@theflyingdutchguy9870]

jup exactly. thats why i didnt understand the guy saying its a total turn off. i mean youll notice soon enough if that was the only thing that attracted the person.

[@dissolution9843]

​@@theflyingdutchguy9870 Well it feels very superficial to have the initial interest be something as shallow as race. It's the same reason celebrities have trouble building relationships with fans because there's always the thought in the back of their head "What if they're actually dating me because I'm a celebrity". If they're very in love with a superficial part of you they can be very convincing that they love other parts of you too. Ideally that interest falls off quick in an obvious enough way that you can tell if there's something more than just the initial fire. But sometimes that passion will persist for a period of time that ventures into long term relationships before inevitably blowing it up which is the thing to be avoided.

[@bushy9780]

"What's it like dating foreign *guys* in Japan?" hahaha Even Takashii firing shots at JakeNBake. Twitch chat vindicated.

[@therealkami]

I saw the Team Liquid jacket and was like "Wait..."

[@louisconnors8616]

Jake is Gay :)

[@DiamondFlame45]

@@louisconnors8616 Is he?

[@dimitrilee6286]

@@DiamondFlame45 no he has a girlfriend, her name is Water

[@louisconnors8616]

@@DiamondFlame45 No really, its joke that he is from his stream

[@Prismalpink]

Quick relationships really freak me out as well. It’s a problem in Korea as well, where people only date for good looks, and where girls compare each other. It’s frustrating.

[@jiminswriter4209]

That’s not true.

[@HelloHollyling]

@@jiminswriter4209 yes it is. A good looking guy in Korea has zero problems getting girls. I work on my looks a lot more so than other guys, so places like Korea is ideal for me.

[@jiminswriter4209]

@@HelloHollyling No, it is not.

[@HelloHollyling]

@@jiminswriter4209 you’ve never been there.

[@jiminswriter4209]

@@HelloHollyling I have been to Korea many times. What about you?

[@systemBuilder]

I love your videos I think they bring people from many countries together which is really important in this world, right now.

[@Zenrei03]

The American didn't say it, but they're called "gaijin hunters". Most of the time it's a very weird situation. Sometimes they just wanna leave Japan and want someone to take them to their home country with them. As soon as I say that I don't plan on going back, a big chunk of them lose interest.

[@jasonhaven7170]

They're not common

[@Zenrei03]

@@jasonhaven7170 Um...I didn't say they were. However, depending on your location, one's experience may vary. They're numerous enough and have a pattern consistent enough to have a moniker attached though. I think that speaks for itself.

[@effervescentevanescenttran6331]

This is typical throughout Asia, though. The reality is that the majority of Asian girls are looking to leave their countries through the foreign guy, and move to his country. And if they don't get what they want, the relationship may eventually go downhill. Especially if the guy just stays in the Asian country. Just saying, based on experience. It's all understandable, but foreign men in Asia do need to understand the harsh realities and practical considerations. It's usually quite difficult for both people to be content with the situation, over the long term.

[@jasonhaven7170]

@@effervescentevanescenttran6331 This is simply not true.

[@SuperGGLOL]

@@Zenrei03 he’s just saying it’s common bro. He’s not accusing you of saying it’s not.

[@Shanghaimagic]

Things have obviously changed a lot in Japan. When I was there in the 80s/90s I didn't have any problem whatsoever dating Japanese girls. The. primary key to getting along with them and having them express interest in you is to first appreciate Japanese culture and secondly learn the language. I started speaking pretty fluently after 2 years and that of course allowed me a wider variety of girls to date.

[@Dodong0]

I’m jealous that you started speaking fluently after two years… I studied in middle school, high school, university with perfect marks… I’ve now lived in Tokyo for 18 years, and I’m still can’t consider myself fluent.

[@ArkNeuron]

@@Dodong0 Some people learn language better than others. I just started taking Japanese seriously again 3 weeks ago (I've been on and off for about 3-4 years), and while I feel like I could pick it up relatively quickly, even picking up kanji and whatnot, I don't know to what extent I'll be able to expand conversational fluency due to having a relatively small word bank to work with currently, as well as not personally knowing anyone that knows the language. Still, that's a long time to be exposed to it. You'll get there, I believe! (anime and music help quite a bit, despite what people say lol)

[@nousername2942]

It was the Bubble economy and people were feeling good. The US went through similar during this period

[@xxlvulkann6743]

@Daenack Dranils Foreigners in japan were rarer back then. So all the girls were probably attracted by his "exoticness." Now, there are more foreigners, it isn't as enticing.

[@Grim67894]

@daenackdranils5624 As if whites don't have yellow fever for asian women whilst treating asian men like trash, racism works both ways

[@Tathy_Pikachu]

Although Brazil has a very different culture when compared to Japan, when people date, after a couple of times it is expected that they define what kind of relationship it is: serious dating or whatever. Some couples do also exchange rings to set the relationship as official. They are usually made of silver and worn on the right hand.

[@sabinasabino141]

I guess it kind of depends, I don’t know how straight relationships work, but uhh, never happened to me. I always felt things to be quite ambiguous. And defining relationships, even very intense and long standing ones, to be something that happens over time. Namorar and dating aren’t really the same thing. Namorar has a connotation of seriousness and formality that dating may or may not have, ficar is more common when people are getting to know each other.

[@junko4166]

You must live in one of them cozy small cities down south or something. Brazil is casual sex central bro.

[@jchan2299]

Not going to lie. As a foreigner living in Japan.....I don't mind it. I move a little slower. I found that living in a more rural area can be difficult. If there is a big foreign influence then it's a little more open. But living in the city would definitely be easier in terms of dating. In the end you can find a good partner regardless. ^^

[@holliswilliams8426]

I think the trouble is sometimes either (a) there is a language barrier or (b) the foreigner's Japanese is ''too good'' and they get intimidated as they want to use the foreigner to practice or show off their English.

[@DementedAnimalz]

awesome seeing jake appear in a video, would be interested in seeing more of his insight when he is back in japan again.

[@AliothAncalagon]

I have never been to Japan, but following my limited perspective on Japanese culture through many different media and some social studies it does seem as if Japanese men, and women as well, also kinda struggle to date in Japan. I wonder weither the japanese way of formalizing relationships might actually be more of a burden for everyone involved. Especially looking at how incredibly busy Japanese people always seem to be.

[@VermilionLotus]

You're absolutely right. Even between Japanese people, dating can be difficult. A big part of that is the work culture and how busy everyone is. I think that's mostly why the birth rate has been so low for so long: people just aren't starting families like they used to. Not only do people simply not have enough time to form attachments, but the cost of living (like in so many other developed countries) has gone up to the point where it can be an economic burden to raise kids.

[@AliothAncalagon]

@@VermilionLotus The economic burden to raise kids is probably an issue that will require many countries to come up with a structurally solid solution at some point, not just Japan. I wonder how those solutions will look like. Maybe thats just me as an outsider, but while I know of quite a few western countries that try to improve the situation, even though its almost always too little too late, it doesn't seem as if the Japanese government tries to do anything to solve the problem at all.

[@nousername2942]

​@@VermilionLotus This is absolutely right. I believe we will also see birth rates fall through the floor in the US, too, because it's simply impossible to afford a family home for most people here. That, and the fact that we are working just as much if not even more, for way less stability than the Japanese get for their time. Straight up, the only thing Americans have time to do anymore is work their lives away for garbage pay. I have no contact with my extended family anymore, and I barely see my parents either due to this. Making friends right now is a joke, there's no time to do anything, so we all just game online. I really worry about the future of the US, we've never been so divided with such a lack of understanding of one another. Work life balance is extremely important and Japan has been lucky so far.

[@return4570]

The low birthrate seems to reflect this

[@OfficialKraze]

Omg im so stoked to hear what Jake the expert has go say

[@SeanVito]

Seems about the same as anywhere else. Just strict schedules because of focus on priorities. Language barrier and culture are the biggest obstacles. If it gets serious, family usually becomes an issue due to clashing cultures. This is why the older generation says "marry into your own;" it is so that there will be less issues and a smoother relationship. But love is love so if it's worth it, go for it.

[@jspohl]

It’s very sweet of you to do your part for international relations. I feel like I’ve been getting signs from the universe to study Japanese this past week for some reason. 🌸 Maybe before I travel the world. And then today my CD player was stuck in Japanese language mode. Which may be divine humour.

[@AdovianDones]

Signs are real, go for it!

[@solev657]

Do it

[@richardyasushiii3848]

You could ask most Asian-American men who are natives of the US and Canada the same question - although difference is that we were born and raised in North America - and still face this struggle. At least in Japan I could understand the linguistic and cultural obstacles; but when you can speak fluent English and are still treated like a foreigner in your own country, that's an issue.

[@kingstonsteele7820]

Some turn to the dark side...

[@ronalds9478]

That happens everywhere. Go to Miami and the board walk there, and if you don't look hispanic, you will be swarmed by people trying to get you into their restaurant or sell you something as they think you are a tourist from abroad. This goes for anyone who isn't hispanic, they are treated as foreign.

[@yo2trader539]

@@HFritz-kp8io Half-Japanese people like Darvish Yu will never be treated like foreigners in Japan, because they're culturally 100% Japanese. The current governor of Okinawa is half-American too.

[@NissanSkylineVR30]

Context is always needed. Foreigners, that don't look East Asian, will likely get some Japanese girls that are into those types. They might be into it for fun and because its different since Japanese society is pretty much one singular race. However, the easiest way to date a Japanese girl is still being a Japanese guy or being East Asian (looking the part) and speaking the language. Most Japanese women want someone that speaks the language and understands the culture. This is actually true for most countries. Per example, as an American, you want someone that speaks English but also understand American daily life.

[@kenjiwong4757]

The first guy actually is a good public speaker lol. He uses so many hand gestures that connects to us and I have no idea how could no one fall for him

[@chillinvillain2707]

Go touch grass

[@SuperGGLOL]

You in love brah?

[@CO-jr9er]

Fr dude’s classy as hell

[@Abandonwared]

I thought it was too much personally >.

[@JC-Alan]

@@CO-jr9er Guy had mad swagger

[@dinaari-vgm]

idea: Ask ppl (japanese or foreign) about what music they like? I’m a musician from the US and ive studied japanese music as a hobby. id love to know what people like in Japan

[@clarencegilkie7369]

Asian women don't like black men

[@dinaari-vgm]

@@clarencegilkie7369 i dont see what this has to do with my comment

[@JW0121]

That is such a broad and vague question for ALL around the world. In every country there is the house music crowd , rap music crowd, the beetles hippie type crowd , mainstream radio crowd etc. Although there is certain genres that dominate more than others such as in Netherlands the house music crowd is huge and in France the rap is bigger than house crowd

[@grayson8633]

Japanese isnt really the issue for me, but more so communication in terms of how they are feeling(granted, i learned long ago that girls, or rather certain aspects of cultures, are different in different prefectures, so most of this is coming from someone thats only been exposed to tokyo girls at this time.). They will say one thing but actually feel differently and will never say anything until they stop seeing you. Communication is a really big thing with me , especially from the beginning.

[@g_rr_tt]

「Japanese isnt really the issue for me」 グレーソン様、わたくしは恐れ入りますが申し上げられたことを信じていません。この疑いを晴らさせる為にもし良ければ日本語で何かを仰って頂きませんか。

[@grayson8633]

@@g_rr_tt 断る。

[@trynafvck]

@@grayson8633 BASED

[@cloudchamois7004]

Interesting group of people nice job with the interviews!

[@J.Crime123]

Thats one of the worst things. Being interested in a person just because of their race and ignore everything else what the Person is about is a recipe for disaster. You are not Boyfriend or girlfriend but just Something they can show off to others.

[@scanspeak00]

Except nobody does that. Thats just personal preference and first impressions not what people base relationships on.

[@wrestlingp]

I'm in Korea where's there's similar-ish rules on dating. A big turn off for me though is the scheduling. If someone says they want to date but then ask to wait a month then I'm sorry, I'm out because it usually means they aren't that interested.

[@ChinNationFTW]

I have the same rule set, I don't trust people like that lol. Might be because we grew up in the west. I'm just wondering if that's just how they do things and stick to a schedule.

[@srambition]

the whole thing of having to take an appointment even for meeting your friends in south Korea is weird to me as a south asian.

[@francy80]

Great video! 👍 It was interesting to hear the foreign men's point of view as well. In my view dating shouldn't be so formal. Perhaps we should rely more on spontaneity and sometimes on improvisation. A hug and to the next video Takashi. 😊

[@commentarytalk1446]

It's interesting how opinions vary. I much prefer the formal approach. Imagine your date turning up in a dressing-gown and slippers ala "The Dude" from The Big Lebowski !

[@francy80]

@@commentarytalk1446 Unfortunately I haven't seen this movie yet. However, by spontaneity and improvisation I certainly did not mean being overlooked. Maybe you misunderstood me

[@earlysda]

Who invented "dating"?

[@chrystianaw8256]

I prefer formality over the hook up culture in the west. And I'm a western girl

[@scottianson5133]

I think formality and established ways of how to conduct yourself can be a good thing. In my experience I would prefer the woman to be as honest about her intentions as soon as possible. After all, isn't the purpose of dating to get to know that person and to decide if you want a long term relationship with them or not?

[@megustasonia]

Takashi, thanks for your videos !

[@td3141]

My experiences with dating in Japan was different depending on the situation and social setting. A lot of the people thought I was famous for some reason, so I received a lot of attention from Japanese women. I found while experiencing the nightlife, the Japanese women I met were more interested in hooking up and having fun, whereas if I met a Japanese woman out and about, she was more interested in having a relationship as soon as possible. I met a concierge at the hotel I was staying at, and by the second date she wanted a relationship.

[@skankwave5245]

Are you famous lmao

[@td3141]

@@skankwave5245 not famous at all, but for some reason they thought I was. Everywhere I went there were people asking to take pictures with me and following me around. I think maybe it was because of my size, but I don’t know.

[@skankwave5245]

@@td3141 are you particularly big or small?

[@td3141]

@Clarencewell, that sounds like some wishful thinking on your part, because the truth debunks that. I’ve been to Japan, South Korea, the Philippines, Thailand, Indonesia, and India. Neither my friends or myself had any issue with Asian women. I will admit we did run into a some racist nonsense while in India, but still we had no issues with Asian women.

[@blackadam6409]

@@td3141 are you a big guy?

[@okazay]

To the first guy, just because you make mistakes, it doesn't mean you don't speak the language! Native English speakers make mistakes in English aaaall the time ^^

[@turkeysandwich1998]

2:02 Idk that seems normal to me I feel like 3 dates are a good, I feel like if you don't like the person that much come the 3rd date it's a rap

[@rayc8948]

My ex was Japanese. It was complicated for two reasons - her parents weren't on board with the relationship. Then, when we went back to my home country, there were complications of our families being in two different countries. I think it's harder when you're dating someone from another country / culture.

[@anjuelle3997]

While in Japan, I passed by a table where a man was selling stampers. I would stop, and he and I would have long conversations. Later, he would have me sit at the his table while he sold his items. He made it clear in the beginning that he liked me, and asked me out. The only thing that initially threw me off about our relationship was that I was 19, and and although he looked young, he was 31. He looked no older than 21. I later ended the relationship because he was moving too fast for me. Looking back years later, I kind of regretted that decision.

[@YouNeverKnowWhoIsWatching]

Oh wow. That's an encouraging story, for me.😊

[@jimbojimbo6873]

You done Fd up woman that man put his life out there for you

[@hebahamid884]

That's too much of an age gap

[@kieranflaherty3316]

4:02 My guys like "if you're not going to be polite and say it back I'll just say it for you!" 😂 Love all these videos 🙏 Going to start learning Japanese and visit in approx 5 years time!

[@Chadchadersonthe3rd]

Dude, I fucking laughed so hard at this. I didn't even notice the first time I watched. Unsure why that guy just stared at him lol.

[@ivysaore]

did you see jake and bake?

[@LucaPizzoplus]

@@Chadchadersonthe3rd I was actually confused like the guy from Denmark because I usually exchange the name before saying "nice to meet you". I wouldn't know how to answer too of someone just asked me where I'm from and not the name and then proceeded with a nice to meet you

[@pear-zq1uj]

lmao yeah the guy is just staring

[@owengravity7714]

That first guy sure is confident. That’s cool

[@MissNebulosity]

great video!!

[@eileenchang2096]

In school people tend to “ fall in love”, if both very young, maybe they don’t dare to talk or think about marriage. But when becoming adults, dating but not potentially for marriage is a very strange thing to do. There’s enough stress in most Asian countries already( or any other place nowadays), it’s hard to imagine why would people would have the energy to date if there’s no possibility of future….

[@grouchydude3448]

Love the first guys energy and smile! Bet he has no problem getting Japanese dates

[@clarencegilkie7369]

Asian girls don't like black men

[@TheMediaKnights]

That guy from Denmark was FREEESHHH that drip was killer

[@clarencegilkie7369]

Asian women don't like black men

[@20000dino]

@@clarencegilkie7369 Literally no one cares.

[@clarencegilkie7369]

@@20000dino I'm just telling the truth

[@brandip77]

I don’t know why the algorithm sent me here, but I can’t get enough of this page.

[@jeff8839]

The hardest thing about dating a japanese woman is you're also dating her family, and they will try to break you especially if you never went to college like me. Trade school still isn't enough for some families.

[@jeff8839]

@Clarence If they're over the age of 40 they hate white people too

[@SuperGGLOL]

Unlucky Jeff.

[@Celtic-Texan]

Nah, like anywhere else, depends on the family, and their socioeconomic position. I was no college grad, and my future in-laws cared less. They did however presume I must have been rich when I told them I owned 3万6千坪 (36,000) tsubo of land. I had to convince them it was no big deal.

[@misterwhyte]

As someone who's lived a long time in Oz, this guy is so unlike most Australians 😂 His mannerism, his energy, his speech... He seems so much friendlier than the average Aussie. I'm gonna guess he's got some background outside of Australia and he inherited that from his family.

[@TheJimbles]

That is a very strange comment. That guy is the epitome of a melbourne guy. A very friendly and kind one for sure, but this is very familiar. He's definitely from a wealthy background, hence he is well spoken and dresses smartly he is also very handsome, but he is very much like most of my friends.

[@misterwhyte]

​@@TheJimbles Aussies are friendly in that they're nice and laid back, but they're not outgoing like this guy is. They're quite detached actually. Honestly, if I knew nothing about him, I would have never placed him from Oz. He really doesn't reflect the average Aussie as per my experience living there as an expat.

[@Keyrose-my3xr]

​​@@misterwhyteas an Australian girl, that guy is the video, I wouldn't trust at all. He gives used car salesman vibes. He isn't friendly but fake.

[@Ricelord4]

This is good to know. As a foreigner who's interested in visiting Japan sometime, possibly for an extended period, I'd like to know what it's like to date in Japan. I have a Westerner's point of view when it comes to these kinds of things, though I did live in the Philippines for 2.5 years. It would be interesting to compare the three.

[@Ricelord4]

@Thawne Yes, I'm aware that international travel (and dating) can be expensive. I already have a passport, so that's out of the way. But it would most likely be on some kind of work thing if I were to go. Maybe I could meet someone there in my downtime, who knows?

[@robwithrbk]

I've heard American men do well in the Philippines. Your thoughts? Where do you live or where were you born?

[@vacilion]

First man is very charismatic and well-spoken 👏

[@solcanosa]

Nice video! It's interesting to see how different dating is around the world. I'd be weirded out if the person I'm dating grabbed my hand on our first date, like it's too serious I guess haha but a kiss wouldn't be weird if I'm into them. And the month in advanced killed me 🤣 but schedules can be pretty busy so I get it Anyways, if you are looking for new video ideas, it'd be interesting to see vegetarian foreigners in Japan and if they struggle to find veggie food. Also, Japanese people's view on vegetarianism. I don't know how common it is there or if there's a word for "vegetarian" in Japanese, but I'd love to see it. Keep it up!

[@earlysda]

I worked at a vegetarian restaurant in Japan for 7 years. There are 2 normal ways to say "vegetarian" in Japanese: 「ベジェタリアン」OR「採食主義者」(sai shoku shu gi sha). There are some derogatory ways too, like phrases that translate into "grass eater" etc.

[@solcanosa]

@@earlysda I had no idea, thanks!! Grass eater lol 🤣

[@eFrog27]

I believe Buddhism is quite common in Japan and South Korea so there are likely many vegetarian restaurants.

[@earlysda]

@@eFrog27 Efrog, there are almost zero vegetarian restaurants in Japan. Admittedly there are several in Tokyo, a few less in Kansai, and almost zero everywhere else. I worked 7 years at a vegetarian restaurant in Osaka, many years ago. . Buddhism is actually not believed by very many in Japan. I would guess that only 10 to 15% of the population really follows it. It is just a cultural thing, to visit ancestor graves etc. Japan is much more deeply involved with Shinto religion, altho again, there are few true believers in that religion, as most just observe the festivals and pray for good luck at shrines etc. Probably around 80% or more of Japanese are really Agnostic or Atheist.

[@theresnothinghereatall]

Interesting that you view handholding as more serious than exchanging saliva with someone

[@scottianson5133]

The main thing that is always emphasized in your videos is the importance of being able to speak Japanese. I can hold very basic conversations with the Japanese tourists I see in Australia, and they always seem very happy to see that I can understand them.

[@BaybeeHypa]

@@zacheray to u

[@LucaPizzoplus]

That's the typical "Nihongo jozu!" they hit you with i would guess. From what I got from the video it's difficult to go from that casual conversation to an actual relationship.

[@ganganbam]

No one cares. Stay away from Japan creep.

[@TonyHavenMusic]

“You don’t hug someone you met first time” Saying that to an Australian haha, when I was in Australia even the border patrol look like they want to give you a hug 😂

[@Keyrose-my3xr]

Australians don't hug unless it's a loved one or gf/bf. Idk why you think we do😂. We are like the British in that sense... no to hugging strangers

[@surprisejj]

its the questions for me! Takashii really had em going deep on the street! no surface level conversation. So fascinating!

[@lighters5266]

3:27 I like how the Australian guy reverse interviewed Takashii

[@J2897Tutorials]

9:11 _"I think that's one of the reasons I've been a little scared to try it."_ Don't feel bad about that, Daniel-san... If you don't even have feelings for the girl, it's good to see that you're not wasting her time, and messing with her emotions, the way some other guys would. And I think everyone will respect you more for that too - not just the girls, but even the guys, because it's clear that you respect their culture. As the lyrics of the wise men say, "only fools rush in." And remember: Wax on, wax off.

[@clarencegilkie7369]

Asian girls don't like black men

[@BigDaddyFreud]

This channel is too wholesome for me

[@fuzzypanda1684]

I lived in Japan for about a year. I think whether dating is easy or hard depends on several factors. 1. What's your race/ethnicity? Unfortunately, many Asian countries, including Japan, can be a bit racist towards foreigners. If you're black, brown, from the middle East or Southeast Asia, you might find it difficult. But if you're American, Australian, or European, it will be a lot easier for you, especially if you have blonde hair and blue eyes, which I don't have. I'm American with brown hair and eyes, which definitely worked against me. 2. Do you speak any Japanese? If not, it will be a lot harder for you. If you are conversational or better, you'll have a lot more success. I had studied Japanese on and off for years and was decently conversational, but not fluent. I knew enough to hold a conversation and most girls would talk with me, but not all. 3. Are you looking at Japanese girls as some sort of mythical, beautiful angels? If so, you'll do poorly. Girls, no matter the nationality, are attracted to confidence and don't want a guy who sees them as "the prize". Japanese girls, despite cultural differences, are just like all other girls in that respect. If you look at them as sweet, innocent virgins who need to be taken on 10 dates and get commitment from you before sleeping with you, they'll be just as turned off as any other girl. Japanese girls do a great job at APPREARING innocent and virginal, but it's just an image. 4. What are your ultimate goals? If you're just there to have fun and sleep with some J-Girls, no judgement here, but that's how you should approach it. There are plenty of girls in Japan who are open to hooking up, even if they act like they're the "wait until marriage" type. But if you want a real relationship, it will be just as hard as anywhere else. All that said, in my time there, I actually went on dates and hooked up with more foreign girls than Japanese girls. Most were from other Asian countries like China, Vietnam, Thailand, Indonesia etc. The dozen or so Japanese girls that I did hook up with were just like girls from anywhere else. I often made the mistake of sleeping with them, then trying to get to know them more and take them on actual dates, when in reality, they just wanted a FWB thing. Once I showed actual interest in dating they bailed. I learned quickly how much of a façade their "innocent" attitude is. Oh, and at no time did I experience any kind of benefit from being a white American. I never was at a bar or club and had a girl interested in dating or hooking up because I was white. I've heard plenty of stories from other guys that oppose that, but for me, it was an impediment being white. Most J-Girls were less interested because of that. So if you're expecting to arrive and have girls wanting you because you're white...according to other people it will happen, but from my experience it won't.

[@MrNz96]

Thanks for putting things into perspective, I'm a mediterranean skinned guy (not white nor brown) and I wondered like what are my chances in japan would be theoretically

[@nk-ve2dr]

@@MrNz96 bro u got to get out that mindset u can get punani literally anywhere if u know how to talk to girls/get their attention u just got to keep trying and it will just come to you of course there are factors that increase your chances such as how attractive you are, your friend group ect. that will just make the process faster but even if u are solo if u keep trying u will smash some sweet asian poontang good luck man