I'm 65. I Avoid People Now. Here's Why...

[@CandleOfWisdom]

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[@dinopersonal6907]

Great insights for how I’m feeling at the age of 62 🙏🥰

[@andrewswift2683]

And me too, as a recently retired 60+ year old.

[@audialiastt2601]

Most adverts, especially after the highly repeated ones, steal time that can be more beneficial and rewarding.

[@emmanuelamakye9992]

@@andrewswift2683

[@LynnEbury-k7s]

Does anyone else feel the same as me. When I was younger, I used to CONSTANTLY worry about things which now seem trivial. Mostly money. I realised that ALL the things I need to be TRULY happy can't be bought. They were already within me. NOW, I feel SOOOOO MUCH freeer, happier and contented. Life is a GIFT that's why it's called the present.

[@David-o9z1v]

I USED TO BE A PEOPLE PERSON BUT PEOPLE RUINED IT!

[@CandleOfWisdom]

I hear you, and I completely understand how experiences with others can sometimes lead to feeling that way. It’s okay to step back and prioritize your peace and well-being. Surrounding yourself with people who genuinely uplift and value you makes all the difference. Wishing you comfort and fulfillment on your journey!

[@ervinhodge2613]

So true people befriend u to try and harm you. People not genuine any more.

[@Maria-ue2qd]

Me too😅

[@truelies3690]

Best thing to do nowadays. Most people have issues and just want to use you and drag you down with them. Stay away from them and don't talk to them. They are toxic zombies.

[@Reflexiones-k5g]

It’s tough when past experiences leave us feeling that way. Sometimes, taking a step back and focusing on what brings us peace can help restore our balance. Remember, it’s okay to embrace solitude and prioritize your well-being. You’re not alone in feeling this way!

[@stevenpace1849]

My Aunt Lucy said it best: "The more I'm around people, the more I love my dog."

[@curbozerboomer1773]

Mark Twain said that!

[@earl-d4n]

my old girl is 17. I call her friend.

[@zamfully]

Omg perfect me as well

[@cjsteele9594]

Damn straight!

[@yokoarcher2607]

😅❤the more I am around people , the more I love my dog and painting. Thank u for sharing.

[@robertmichelin7352]

I've pretty much stayed away from people my entire life, I'm seventy. I can say that ninety five percent of the grief that I've experienced in life has come from other people. I get along with me fantastically, no arguments and i don't have to talk a lot about much.

[@CandleOfWisdom]

I completely understand and agree with you. Being at peace with yourself is truly priceless, and sometimes the best way to avoid unnecessary grief is to focus on your own well-being. Wishing you continued peace and happiness in your journey!

[@cboyer7]

"Hell is other people." Jean-Paul Sartre

[@steveballard515]

I don’t hate people, just prefer it when there not around

[@emmasalva6311]

💯 I agree it happened to me I'm like Queen now everyone vanished n I left alone but I enjoy my life now as a gift frm God.

[@emmasalva6311]

Loneliness is the failure Trust n Love for God.

[@shirleywilkes5412]

I value my time because it's a gift I'm 75 and every minute is a gift. It's ok to say no!!

[@johndoe-qg7jp]

Not all😮 But if you feel they are likely to be toxic, then avoid 👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏾

[@sereneanna4040]

God bless and keep you✝️👑⚖️🛡🗝🗝🕊🕊🕊 Everyone need to protect their peace esp in these very choatic and evil times😂

[@moniqueb.4551]

Am 60 yo. Yes, it is ok to say no... and it feels sooooo good..

[@teeparhampp3251]

I agree , and when I say NO I've learned not to worry about what one think. No harm meant just don't want to.

[@user370Z]

"No", is my favourite word Shirley! I'm 75 too. From Oz

[@Armafly]

To be alone and independent is the greatest gift I can think of.

[@jimwalsh9717]

I am just turning 60 and I feel the same way. I have been cutting out some relationships that were toxic. I actually cherish solitude.

[@Huckfintress]

Very well said - I’m 61 and I really enjoy and cherish my own company. I have been through a lot of trauma from a narcissistic relationship that ended eight years ago and really changed me. It broke me in so many ways, but it also gave me strength and courage to be self-sufficient and really no choice at times to be completely alone everyone needs to learn how to be alone in life, it’s actually a beautiful place to be to be able to be alone to cherish being alone. Solitide is blissful. I cherish time with my daughter, son- in- law and my sweet granddog. I am friendly, outgoing and always have been but I am not open to nor do I need a “ friend “ group - most of the people I thought were friends throughout my life were anything but that - they were the antithesis. Be kind, gentle, forgiving to yourself and protect your peace of mind at all costs ✌️❤

[@DaisyCruz-yr3bu]

@@Huckfintress Amen 🙏 well said 🤔🕯🌎❤️

[@MultiXmas2011]

I can empathize with that. socializing isn't my priority.

[@cherylguffey6220]

Same. I turned 60 in August.

[@ramabaiapparao8801]

Good for you.

[@HumanityStandsWithPalestine]

At 54 years old I've realised that my inner peace comes first. No more bending over backwards to help those who are ungrateful.... and it's mind blowing how they ALL just end up wanting to suck your last drop of blood from you 😢 I too, avoid people and it's the best decision ever.🙌

[@CandleOfWisdom]

You’ve made a wise and empowering decision to prioritize your well-being. Protecting your inner peace is truly life-changing, and avoiding negativity can open the door to so much more clarity and happiness. Stay strong-you’re on the right path! 🙌

[@frankgaspar8184]

TIME- THE MOST PRECIOUS POSSESSION OF MANKIND...IT IS PRICELESS- WITHOUT IT..LIFE IS USELESS..!!!

[@michaelharrison3602]

I'm 73 and I'm never happier than when i can spend the whole day doing what i like without having to listen to other people telling me how difficult their life is and accepting every invitation to parties, dinners drinks etc. I go when it suits me to see these people 😅n​@@frankgaspar8184

[@jcszot]

Amen! Me too!

[@nadoushable]

Me too .

[@szvqorwnpstahskypfwmp9821]

I am 34 years old and I tend to avoid people because they are toxic.

[@janiemiller825]

Unfortunately truth… lol 😂

[@bipollife]

Good to have learned so young

[@paulthomas3841]

Toxic, that is a new word for me,

[@sereneanna4040]

You r smart😂 Peace of mind is Priceless ! 🎯 I trieď to be nice and was too kind🤦 And I was like driven to the walls bcos that vvery relative was rather toxic, difficult...😂 And finally other vvery close relatives realised the same thing. They also avoided her, everyone need their peace🤔🕊🕊🕊

[@audialiastt2601]

@@szvqorwnpstahskypfwmp9821 people can evoke and harbor spirits causing them to be toxic. God did not create us this way. We were born into a world thus so.

[@amazingLife-a]

At 80 years old I've realised that my inner peace comes first. No more bending over backwards to help those who are ungrateful.... and it's mind blowing how they ALL just end up wanting to suck your last drop of blood from you 😢 I too, avoid people and it's the best decision ever.

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Appreciate the wisdom you’ve shared here ☺️

[@donnaatienza8001]

aww I'm happy for you

[@SVmathfarmer]

SCAM ALERT!

[@Leo-z1v]

I gave up on talking to people long ago. I stay in my lane. I only talk to people when it’s necessary. And that is very very little

[@Satishd24]

Very authentic words sir..absolutely right..no need to indulge with toxic people. Just focus on unselfish.. no need to gossip..❤❤❤ from 🇮🇳 india..Mumbai

[@stephenalevesque2361]

Me too

[@rogergardner7740]

Same

[@antoinettebeglar7986]

Amen 🙏🏿

[@sonjamaggard8474]

Wow, just retired and though something was wrong with me until I read this. Now I’m at peace with my solitude ❤

[@michaelharrison3602]

Friends and family usually value you for what you can do for them 😂

[@roklaca3138]

Benefits, benefits...

[@Mzalendo-l6b]

Very true. Human nature is opportunistic.

[@billyarsenault1970]

I am usually fine with that its family and I like helping out regardless- Also I may need them eventually 😅.

[@wisconsinfarmer4742]

@@billyarsenault1970 Yup, if I think I am injuring myself by being helpful, then I back away.

[@subirmaitra1259]

Very very very true.

[@timpearce3314]

After my divorce at 50 y/o I have lived on my own , worked for another 16 years now retired, gradually got shot of the "toxic" people in my life who used and abused me and love every minute ! no dependants ,no debts , just me and my cat , there is so much strength in solitude I am not alone I,m with myself and at 69 now I savour every moment, Be strong be alone, .....

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Your journey is so inspiring! It’s incredible how you’ve turned your life around and found strength in solitude. Wishing you many more moments of joy and contentment-you’ve truly got this!

[@harryedwards9318]

Good for you but that cat is a Huge part of your conscience

[@Лилия-ы3т6ц]

Cats are the best friends.

[@СветланаНикольская-ы4ф]

You are right, I am agree with you.

[@rogergardner7740]

Angels with Whiskers

[@lisaammons4655]

I am 55 and I enjoy being alone, loving my inner child❤

[@brijeshpant814]

Roots of our happiness are in childhood, explore and enjoy the life.

[@gregcugola779]

It's not an, 'Inner Child'. It's an, Outer Child'. We're all just big kids. We never, 'grow up'. We, 'grow down'.

[@irenemorley75]

@@gregcugola779 What ?

[@gregcugola779]

Growing up is just a term meaning to get bigger, implying maturity. We don't grow up. We grow down. Distancing ourselves from our childhood. Inner Child, Outer Child. Again just stupid terms attempting to describe something that doesn't exist. The child exists. It's neither Inner nor Outer. It just is. We never, 'grow up'. We are who we always were from birth and before birth. And before that. Here to tell the truth. That was the contract before we decided to come here. Tell the truth. Because the whole world lies.

[@gregcugola779]

@@irenemorley75 The universe created itself out of nothing. We are composed of nothing. The further you look, The less you find. The CERN has confirmed this. Matter doesn't matter. We are all an illusion. Nothing is real. There is no definition of reality. It isn't cast in stone anywhere. You give life meaning because you perceive yourself to exist. Time, another illusion. A human construct. There is no certainty, Only uncertainty.

[@svetlanayashirin443]

I am 65, and agree with every word. Thank you

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Thank you so much for sharing that! Wishing you continued peace and joy on this journey-we’re all learning and growing together. ❤

[@joewebster2851]

I'm 59 and also agree

[@feralforest]

Im 43 currently. I made this decision at 40 and it has been a life changer and saver 🙏🏻

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Thank you for sharing 🙏

[@pauldeal547]

I’m glad that you found this out at a young age, I was in my mid-60’s before I realized this!

[@donnaatienza8001]

yes indeed I agree

[@donnaatienza8001]

love being to myself

[@donnaatienza8001]

aww good for you!

[@skeezer180]

I am 79 love my own company the solitude gives me time to think of my beautiful parents who have passed away

[@marilynhoward4561]

You will see them again.

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt sentiment. It’s beautiful that your solitude allows you to cherish memories of your parents. Those moments of reflection are truly precious. Wishing you continued peace and comfort ❤

[@gloriadenning3860]

I think of my parents all the time , I'm 78, I don't even understand my children nowadays they are quite nasty, one doesn't even speak to me. Loyalty seems to mean nothing.

[@irenemorley75]

@@gloriadenning3860 I can't imagine calling my own child nasty, maybe there is a reason your child doesn't talk to you🤔

[@MayerMarieTherese]

Thank you for your beautiful example of honouring your parents by thinking and reliving your experience with them. God Bless.

[@Lennyjana]

I am 72 years, I enjoy being alone. I have no time to get bored.

[@JanPiwowarski-c5q]

Feel the same way

[@megalaikannairam9975]

Exactly😂😂❤❤🎉

[@hannasteissberg9206]

At 56, it is already time for this. ❤ I need all my energy just to get through my day.

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Absolutely, taking care of yourself and conserving your energy is so important. Prioritizing your well-being is never too early or too late. Wishing you strength, peace, and moments of rest and joy every day. ❤

[@suzyvegalicious5646]

I'm 71 and really resonated with this video. Thank you🙏

[@Advicefortheelderly]

To everyone who reads this, though we’re strangers and may never cross paths, I want you to know that I genuinely wish you all the best that life has to offer. May you find strength in tough times, joy in the little things, and the courage to pursue what truly matters to you. No matter where life takes you, I hope luck finds you when you need it most, and that kindness, peace, and fulfillment fill your journey.

[@Absolutely-nothing80]

Thank you my dear friend. I wish you the same. Lots of love and best wishes.

[@namehcvl4884]

Thank you so much for your good wishes. I wish the same for you my friend. I hope you have a wonderful new year 🙏🙂👍

[@DamirVidovic-pf2pk]

That's sounds nice in words, thank you, but you only really mean it if you helped produce that if we did meet. People have to depend on others, otherwise we wouldn't have shelter, and food.

[@Tiziana-x1t]

God bless you for your absolutely wonderful thoughts and wishes !

[@gailflora1835]

I am a 69 year old woman, and every word you say is true and relatable! ❤

[@TheBuddhaWithin-s3d]

Aging doesn't mean losing connections, it means making space for the ones that matter most. This video is a beautiful reminder of how to live authentically and with purpose. 🌸

[@vickieyoung7122]

When everyone has died ,at 69 it's impossible to make new meaningful connections because you don't have a history with them...even if you did find people that want to become friends.

[@darrena4163]

​@@vickieyoung7122the history starts at day one if you need new people in your life and want new people in your life it's up to you don't make it impossible I retired 9 years ago I've had many opportunities to start new relationships I'm 65 most of my friends are in their 70s and 80s I met a neighbor during covid we have a great relationship he took me to a Bruce Springsteen show he's 50 something please do what's best for you nothing's impossible life's a journey live it.❤

[@gilbertperez3536]

I agree 1000 percent

[@SusanWilliams-g7r]

This is me. Too many toxic people are around. I’m 71 and I put my energy into my pets, family and artwork.

[@pricklycactusblossom6790]

Even from my husband I separate. I don't want to discuss or work it out with anyone. My mother said I was always like this. I've tried being with people. But THEY love their controlling behavior. I'm almost 74. I just want time with my Sovereign Father & His Son. I help where I can, give when I can...I don't want thanks or accolades. Please leave me be.

[@lilac624]

Agree..So many toxic people are out there

[@JavierTorres-py6rp]

I will be 67 soon and I have avoided people all my life. Life is hard enough without having someone else make yours harder. I'd rather be with animals.

[@evatawilliamson993]

I feel the same way...I was always helping people but when I needed help I had to go to Jesus...but that's a good thing...He's a constant companion ❤❤❤ 😊

[@JulietSpoto-pn2lx]

You and I are ahead of the game of life. The road to hell is BROAD! 🙏

[@evatawilliamson993]

@@JulietSpoto-pn2lx that is so true..

[@DamirVidovic-pf2pk]

No one is always helping people. Do you OBEY Jesus?

[@JulietSpoto-pn2lx]

@DamirVidovic-pf2pk HNY to you. God is for All of us!

[@stefaniasiembab2231]

Jesus heping others through you. Thank you for helping others. 🙏

[@humanthreadsus]

This video feels like a conversation with an old friend. It’s reassuring to hear someone articulate exactly how I’ve been feeling-focusing on simplicity and meaningful connections is truly life-changing.

[@VivianMasters]

I am 66. I have great neighbors and live in a wonderful community of interesting people. We aren’t on top of each other and are busy but we are there for each other.

[@CandleOfWisdom]

It’s wonderful to hear you’ve found such a fulfilling environment. Wishing you continued joy and connection in your community! ☺

[@VivianMasters]

@ thank you. I think less crowded conditions help. We are in a small town in an area where there can be weather conditions that cause problems. I think that is how people learn to work together well. I hope you find a better place so you can have more support.

[@2bNot]

My life went downhill when a family bought 3 of the 6 houses closest to me. They are all narcissists in my opinion. The prying, the insults, the over competitive rivalry and undermining. Kicking me when I was down etc.. Now they are all suddenly trying to be my friend which is highly suspicious, and invasive. I could write a book about it !! Now I avoid as much as I can, which is an anxiety response maybe, and limits my freedom. I always need to lock the doors etc.. Yesterday I had the 3 main offenders all at separate times, trying to interrupt me when I was obviously flat out on a difficult job. I got rid of them but did not finish until 10 pm.. Now my back is seriously in pain. We could have really been a benefit to each other, but no, they are toxic. Predators. Turns out they also have strong connections to 'israel' and share some of the same traits. I have had to put cameras on the house and yard. There's always a bright side however. More solitude..ignoring the knocking on my door.. I have had to build a resilience to the judgements or manipulations of others. I value real friends very much. Acceptance of the reality strengthened my personal choices. I have built walls and put up gates. I try to be wiser, not unhappy.

[@VivianMasters]

@ why don’t you sell your house to them for an extra high price and buy a house in a new place you enjoy? Your house sounds like a trap.

[@DottieStanley]

I love and cherish my solitude. I thank my Mother for teaching me how to play by myself really well at a very young age. She enjoyed her solitude too. If people have not evolved enough, I really am not interested in spending time with them. I have gotten very picky about who I spend my time with. I am very selfish with my time now that I am in my late 60's.

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Thank you for sharing your story. It’s beautiful that your mother instilled such a valuable lesson in you from a young age. Cherishing solitude and being intentional about who you spend your time with is a true sign of wisdom and self-respect. Wishing you continued peace and fulfillment!

[@kevintewey1157]

As. If we feel like we have so much time to waste

[@georgiafrancis9059]

Right, when anyone needs you THAT bad it's like being smothered to death. I've traveled alone and loved every minute. I don't have a problem sitting alone at a dinner table and have noticed that everyone in the restaraunt is focused on their own companions and could care less about me!

[@JuanValdes-n3q]

I am 62 now and married to a wonderful woman, I don't feel that I am closer to the end, but closer to an awesome beginning, that is the reason I live in peace. Jesus, my Lord, is waiting for me with open arms, and that is victory in life. I am a winner.❤😅

[@lindaardigo5456]

My mom would teach us to make our own fun. 😊

[@AwakenLifeMastery]

Being alone and independent is the most valuable gift I can imagine.

[@panjaipansang5663]

I'm 50 and have been feeling this way for years. 😅

[@CaneFu]

In 69 year of life I finally decided that my cat is the best company there is.

[@DennisNorried]

I’m glad to here someone else say this, I’m 66, it’s 2:30 in the morning and I’m alone in bed with my cat, reading all these comments sure gives a person peace of mind 🙂

[@marcuskelly5768]

My cat brings me huge inner peace. We very close, cos I rescued her at two weeks nearly dying

[@ЗулейхаАзимова-я2т]

💯 % true! Thank you a lot for the insight!😊 Solitude is not a punishment but a blessing, a gift. I now stay away from fake friends.

[@florenciomendoza1212]

These wonderful thoughts are true. At 65 , happily accomplished, I’m happy more than ever. Tho alone. I’m peaceful 🙏❤️

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Glad you’ve found peace and happiness in this chapter of your life. Being at peace with yourself is such a beautiful accomplishment.❤️"

[@dogegamer3288]

It’s taken a whole life for me to learn this lesson. Here it is. There is a huge difference between like and love. I love all people but I dislike almost all people. The only way you’ll understand that is living it over time and realizing it. Bukowski was spot on when he said (paraphrased) I don’t hate people its just that I do better when they’re not around.

[@CandleOfWisdom]

That's so true. Thank you for your sharing!

[@mikepeek5655]

Very good angle.

[@kateseverein7650]

Resonates so much, thank you. I was told by a doctor once many many years ago that i needed to become healthily selfish - its taken a while, but i cannot do without my silence, my peace, my garden, my pets

[@waynesilva3129]

For me I find very few people that can hold my attention for very long. I’m happy with my own company and there is no drama in my life.

[@gabriellagrace4734]

I hear you!

[@beverlywalker3773]

Such an eye opener. It happens so naturally at 68. I absolutely love my me time and watching how things have changed.

[@ceciliapanganiban3359]

Im 68, thanks for the wonderful insight. I enjoy serving in our church. I live simple and loving God.

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Thank you. It’s so inspiring to hear about your dedication to serving in your church and living a simple, loving life. Your faith and approach to life are truly beautiful-may it continue to bring you peace and fulfillment. Wishing you many blessings!

[@mikeporro3311]

Me to, I Serve and am a Tonsured Reader in the Orthodox Church. Been there 10 years. Most of the founders ( old crew) have died in the last 10 years. All The new people that are coming (Catechumens) are young and just look at me like I'm a leper. And have formed their own little clique. I May be moving on. After the Nativity Season.

[@Satishd24]

❤❤❤ from 🇮🇳 india mumbai..keep moving with possitive mindset ..God is with u..

[@brucewalters8635]

I'm a 70 year old American man. I lived alone for 14 years. It was between the ages of 48 to 62 after which I came back from Mt. Shasta in N Cali in 2015 to be with my daughter and granddaughter here in PA. I'm so glad I had the opportunity in those 14 tears for self reflection and active growth. I was able to acheive things that would not have been possible in a relationship. Time was my own and for the most part I made good use of it. Time is our greatest asset if we use it wisely.

[@mikepeek5655]

Yes time but I think our health go hand in hand with time. If you have no good health then you may not have much time. Lol

[@gugumkhwanazi9482]

I'm 64. I've experienced most of the above. I've also learned a lot from this video. Thank you

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It’s an honor to connect with someone as insightful as you. Wishing you continued wisdom and joy on your journey!

[@clarencekitsculwadlepu5605]

I learn a lot from you

[@BlaineAlisonClark]

I am 64 and I totally understand your philosophy. I thought maybe something was wrong with me, because I enjoy being alone now. Good to know I am not alone. Yet I am alone in a good way

[@mokssolon1184]

I'm 68 and I'm exactly the same ,just imagine how small my circle is I speak less than 100 words everyday and spend 12 hours browsing and searching for content like this video

[@omkarahi]

I am 75 years old and I have been following this way of life for last 15 years after retirement. People call me unsocial but I do not care. Thanks for explaining this philosophy which I am sharing with friends who call me unsocial.

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Thank you for sharing your experience. It sounds like you’ve found a way of life that brings you peace and fulfillment, and that’s what truly matters. Labels like 'unsocial' don’t define us-living authentically does. Wishing you continued joy, health, and peace in your journey!

[@omkarahi]

@@CandleOfWisdom Many thanks for the prompt reply.

[@AlviSultan]

🇨🇦 @omkarahi, let's be honest, you are not only unsocial but selfish... just kidding. This is how life normally evolves. Stay blessed. 🙏❤🌷🎉💐😀

[@omkarahi]

@@AlviSultan Yes, I am extremely selfish as far as my health is concerned. I spend one tenth of my pension on charity but I never attend marriage and other parties of relatives and friends because my daily schedule may be disturbed. I was pleasantly surprised when I found all my friends and relatives attended my son’s marriage function, some without invitation. They knew that I am straight forward, unsocial but principled.

[@Goldenphilosophy88]

This video hits home. At 65, you’ve earned the right to prioritize your peace and well-being. Avoiding negativity and unnecessary drama is a form of self-care that comes with wisdom and experience. Thank you for sharing such an honest and relatable perspective!

[@prafullamishra-b1c]

I am 79.Your suggestions is practical Simplicity is the main thing required in this age.

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. Simplicity really is a treasure, especially as we grow older. Wishing you many peaceful and fulfilling moments ahead!

[@Indianabrown123]

I agree with you 100% that we should embrace simplicity the older we get, but as someone in my late 30s, I have always embraced simplicity from a young age, and it has saved me from a lot of life stresssl Being a people pleaser and always saying YES to everything and to everyone may cause you to get sick or take you to your grave early. In this life, the older I get, I realize that most people are very fake and are users. And this is why I am teaching my children to learn to set boundaries and to enjoy their own company from an early age.

[@DaisyCruz-yr3bu]

​@@Indianabrown123💯✋️

[@dearestdi]

I am avoiding people since 43 years old…solitude make me peace

👍

[@gloriathompson4010]

Same for me. I am on my own and liking it. Don't seek friends that doesn't matter to me. Don't engage in petty conversation with friends who do not value my company. Now I have few friends, who really matters, those that move on I don't seek to restore my friendship. This goes for family members as well.

[@jmz37]

I'm 38 and simplicity of life is all I need now

[@earl-d4n]

my biggest appreciation of alone time is reflection. I don't dwell on having alone time, but it is welcome.

[@catherinevillorente311]

Good I saw this page while I'm sipping my morning coffee. This is for me too. Love to hear it's inspiring because I changed my ways after retirement from my job. I'm 62 and I'm embracing solitude. I'm happy, relaxed and contented.

[@beverleybrangman2191]

At 72 I believe there is much wisdom here. Thank you.

[@MrElhabib123]

Your values come from within ❤

[@mayashri622]

I. Have been living alone from a very long time.i lost lot of peace living amongst toxic people. I have a roof above my head and food on my table.i live alone but it is peaceful. I love my life.

[@HienTran-ce8yi]

Same with me . After 65 years old I want to be alone and feel Peace

[@LucyYoung-n3j]

❤❤ I used to be a people person now at73yrs, I prioritize my health just focus what is best in life to be able to live life healthy to 120

[@lindahanley5042]

I’m 65 and also cherish my alone time, and also agree with everything that you are saying. ❤

[@barbarablue271]

You hit the nail on the head, 100 percent true. I'm 79 an am cleaning house. Ppl all around low perception of what's going on,, an toxic. They talk about how holy they are but don't act it.

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Staying true to yourself and your values is so important. Wishing you peace and clarity as you continue to create a healthier, more positive space around you.

[@paulpalatty337]

I am 69, and almost everything in this video resonates with my life. It's inspiring and valuable. Thank you so much.

[@rodneyallister9877]

I am 80 years old And live alone When you have worked all your life People don't respect The old people My dog has moor respect for people

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Thank you for sharing your perspective. Wishing you peace and comfort-you deserve so much more respect for all you’ve given through your life’s work ♥️

[@LimitlessThinker]

Animals are much nicer than people. You are right!

[@evangeline1307]

I agree. I love privacy in my own little space with my dog. ❤❤

[@jimwalsh9717]

I sgred animals love people unconditionally. However, I actually love to interact with old people 70+. The stories Nd wisdom that can be gleaned are extraordinary.

[@irenemorley75]

@@jimwalsh9717 Me too but some are grumpy and bitter about getting old.

[@VickiTrusselliArt]

I am 75. I needed to hear this today.

[@Emmy-J]

Just turned 68 and love being alone. I was a complete extrovert but now in my 60's I did a 180. The world and its people have become very ugly and I can do without that in my life.

[@petramansfield1461]

I am 71 years old. I recently fell in the trap of giving and giving. I was badly betrayed by those I thought valued my friendship and support. I felt betrayed and very disappointed. I needed to hear this. Thank you!

[@kimzeck9827]

❤❤❤

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Thank you for sharing. That’s such a tough experience to go through. I’m really glad this message helped, wishing you strength and peace as you move forward ❤

[@mayashri622]

Giving.ha ha there are only takers here.my own sibling cheated me in many ways.financially, emotionally and abandoned me . But God is with me guiding me every moment and though I live alone I am at peace.

[@fredrickochieng8112]

Very true people will always let you down

[@christinatang]

I Am Always Alone but Never Lonely. It’s Just Me, Myself and I but I Love It. I Am My Best Company. I Thrive In Solitude 🌟

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Love this 😊

[@DanielOrtegoUSA]

Living alone feels less painful now than it once did, and I’ve grown to find a certain peace in it. Being well past 65, I can see just how much my outlook on life has shifted. For the first time in over seven decades, I’ve come to realize just how many things I misunderstood or got wrong, especially when I convinced myself I wasn’t so bad. It’s been a humbling wake-up call-one that makes me reflect deeply on the person I was and the person I am now. 🙄

[@modaanimlh]

I even reject to gather with my brother and sisterinlaw! They just criticize whatever I do, and I always have to keep silent to avoid conflicts! So painful. When I dont travel they say why you never go anywhere. When I travel a lot ,they say why you go to same places all the time!!!

[@live_well_JmP]

All what you said is exactly whst i am doing now. Protecting that peace of mind we had been longing for is my priority now. At 64, i am happy with this principle. This is my way of loving myself now. And i deserve it.

[@CandleOfWisdom]

It’s wonderful! Loving yourself and protecting your well-being is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. You absolutely deserve it-wishing you continued happiness and peace!

[@bahargrantham]

So many thanks ❤ for ur wisdom as a 63 year old woman from Australia I truly was thinking of doing my self in but ur strong words stop me! Please do take care always an be the voice of unspoken ❤

[@CandleOfWisdom]

I’m so grateful that the message reached you at the right moment. Please know you’re not alone, and your life is so valuable. Keep holding on and seeking strength-it’s a journey worth fighting for. Sending you love and warmth from across the world. ❤ Take care of yourself-you matter so much!

[@markg1531]

We can only find peace in God. Nowhere else.

[@oshu1688]

I'm nearly in my 60&truly u are not alone,u simply choose to love yourself more this time!

[@minombre5555]

This video discusses the many virtues of being introverted. Most introverts I have met are kind, thoughtful and quiet, most. The supposedly socially adept extroverts are often narcissistic emotional vampires who rely on others for entertainment and to be recharged. I much prefer the occasional quiet company of other introverts.

[@marymary1945-f8x]

That is exactly how i feel now at 79. This wisdom came by falling and standing up. I rather be alone than having people around me wasting my precious time.

[@patriciagonzalez7815]

I live my life this way since my retirement 3 yrs ago and I am loving it!! I find that people exhaust me and I need my alone time to recharge and renew my mind, body and spirit ❤

[@CandleOfWisdom]

That’s amazing! I’m so happy you’re loving this chapter of your life! ❤

[@basicwm9]

The more i get to know people the less i want to be around them. Im 62 i have empathy for people im just more happy by myself

[@Rootsreggae777]

Agreed 👍🏿 I’m 60 and I’m living my life exactly the ways u explained. I found inner peace, I truly enjoyed solitude and I feel healthier spiritually ✌🏿👍🏿👍🏿🙏🏿

[@annieyoung7998]

Thank you. This is exactly what I've been experiencing. Great validation I I'm 68 and just subscribed. Thank you ❤

[@johngborglah8469]

I love people, help people, house people, lend to people, pay hospital bills, educated many but I am the most hated and vilified by the same people.

[@CandleOfWisdom]

It’s heartbreaking to see kindness met with ingratitude, but your generosity speaks volumes about the kind of person you are. Remember to take care of yourself too-you deserve peace and happiness as much as anyone else. Stay strong!

[@Ayesha-iz6uy]

Same here.

[@mayashri622]

Very very true

[@Jaxx-t8v]

That's gratitude for you 👌

[@silverqk2246]

People are bitches . Stop helping.

[@santaclause373]

I'm 49,,,and been avoiding people as I reached age 40,,, they will most definitely hold you from making progress in life,,and they love projecting their problems on you,,,I used to try and be super woman helping the world,,until I realized nobody helped me,,now since I mind my own business I can see what I was missing out on,,,peace and making progress

[@Signaman-z9d]

63 and I've been doing this twenty years. A break up sealed my lone wolfe status. I don't do drama especially other people's.I couldn't live with anyone now. Set in my freedom. Partners are hard work, like I was. I wouldn't visit myself on anyone at this stage. It's only that I'm in a position to do some bucket list stuff. I'll have to push myself I've become lazy and need a kick up the arse to get going. Motivation low at the moment. I'm banking that the new year will bring a new found will to push past the negative attitude.✌️❤️

[@CandleOfWisdom]

You’ve embraced your freedom beautifully. The new year is a perfect time to refocus and tackle that bucket list. Wishing you strength and positivity-you’ve got this! 👍

[@AlGrant-bh9or]

Same here. Taking my break after 44 years of work and compromise. It's my time now, I'll be a little lazy when I want. Cheers.

[@mikepeek5655]

This may sound crazy but at 71 I can tell you it works. Only listen or read positive things. Change your diet to keto or carnivore which is still keto. The energy and mind shift because of the health benefits is amazing. Follow Dr Berry , Dr Berg. Exercise but don't push too hard. More oxygen is a great thing. Take long 30 min to one hour walks. Learn to meditate Results are amazing . It's all brain food. FYI. Carnivore diet is animal based. A big lie ...animal fat does not clog your arteries . Fact. It's a proper human diet. I am proof of that. Low low carb. Go for it. Good luck.

[@arlethapappas3325]

So true ! At 80 I’m living my best life… quietly.

[@victoriacritchlow9069]

Im 64 and disabled. Always a people person helped everyone but have found now im unable to do much people have disappeared. I thought it was me but now i know its how people are. I am learning to be me and if people dont like it thats fibe im putting myself 1st now and enjoying it. I have a handful of close friends and thats enough. Quality over quantiy alot of people let me down now they cant

[@CandleOfWisdom]

You’ve come to a powerful realization. Prioritizing yourself and embracing the true friendships that remain is such a valuable shift. Wishing you continued strength and peace as you put yourself first! ☺️

[@donnaatienza8001]

yes indeed quality over quantity

[@donnaatienza8001]

I don't like being in a rush at all at this age

[@donnaatienza8001]

forgot to say I do miss the past often

[@WiseElderly]

14:09-16:50 Your perspective on solitude is so refreshing! It's empowering to see solitude as a gift rather than loneliness. Such a valuable message!

[@live_well_JmP]

What resonates in me the most is the time when i gave my all to my children as a single mother in all aspects. You are exactly right. There comes a time when you realize that loving ones self was forgotten. But its not too late. At 64, my priority is protecting that peace of mind i had been longing for. At least, before i die, i know i did not deprived myself of self live which i know i deserve the most. Thank you for sharing your life. Now i know. I wasnt the only one who went though hell in life.😊

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Thank you for sharing☺️

[@jackiemansfield8325]

The less humans in my life, the more peace I encounter. But Animals inhance my peace.

[@annstubbs2256]

Me too ❤

[@SprinkleofWisdom16]

I used to believe in the best in everyone, but life has a way of teaching tough lessons. Sometimes, protecting your peace means stepping back.

[@EmanNabih]

Agree. Protecting the peace in your life, which is a very precious gift to hold on to and never let go...

[@HighGek]

I started doing that around 55. 67 now and see everything more clearly and at peace.

[@Mzalendo-l6b]

Very well analysed! In Africa, they'll drain you to your '80s without giving anything back... relatives etc. However, @60 I've already taken your route...no turning back!

[@CandleOfWisdom]

You're absolutely right! People can take without giving back, leaving us drained. It’s inspiring to see you take control of your life-we deserve to prioritize our well-being. Wishing you continued strength and peace on this path-no turning back indeed! 👍

[@rasaqmustapha9014]

💯 Learning to be alone as an African too

[@antoinettebeglar7986]

Thanks!

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Thank you

[@niclim29]

At 51, I’ve come to realize the importance of simplifying my life. I’m gradually letting go of material possessions, distancing myself from draining relationships, and stepping away from toxic family dynamics. I’ve also chosen to distance myself from creating new relationships, as I now prioritize my time, energy, and inner peace. I’ve found true contentment in solitude and the clarity it brings.

[@chriskozak4966]

Incredible video, full of wisdom & positive advices. I’m 63 & enjoying my peace. I’ve gone to chaos with family members & friends, I’m done with all the dramas of people. I rather be with me, my animals & amazing nature, now that’s pure solitude & tranquility that money can’t buy. I’m a great supporter of Peace & Love.☮️😍

[@NinaMarieGutierrez]

This is exactly what reirement is to me. LOVE IT.

[@pamsands1661]

Thank you. At 81 it totally resonates and I have found such peace as I get older.

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Thank you for sharing! Wishing you continued tranquility and joy on your journey! 😊

[@dianelehenbauer9169]

Totally agree A people pleaser almost destroyed me

[@maryanderson6208]

This video is honest and sincere age is the best teacher in every aspect of your life 🙏🌷

[@rickv1778]

I wash I had of known this at 30. Could have saved a lot of turmoil.

[@AllyRoy-jh3ti]

Wonderful message. 100% true & real. I am almost 68 & shares most of these experiences. People might feel I am selfish now. It's ok. It's important for my peace of life. Stay away from toxic relationships. Thanks for this video❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Curlyblonde]

After completing cancer treatments 25 years ago, I applied all of these principles in the bonus years I was gifted. It took a health crisis on my part to realize what my priorities are in life and not to waste time, energy and money on people and situations that are harmful to me and my well-being.

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Your story is truly inspiring, and it’s amazing how you’ve turned such a challenging experience into an opportunity for growth and prioritization. Thank you for sharing this powerful reminder to focus on what truly matters in life. Wishing you many more fulfilling and happy years ahead!

[@victoroldright4381]

65 is young. I'm almost 83 and just now feeling old only because others reaction to me. I was unaware of my age for so many years but I am in good health thanks to the miracles of modern science. I miss talking to people guess that's why I'm here. WTF" it's only life" my late wife never understood why I would say that. I still drink too much and still take risks. I am feeling pretty damn good most of the time. It's all in your mind.

[@CandleOfWisdom]

Your perspective is refreshing and inspiring! It’s wonderful to hear that you’re feeling good and embracing life on your own terms. Staying mentally strong and living fully, despite what others may think, is truly empowering. Wishing you continued health, joy, and those meaningful connections you miss-your mindset is a testament to the power of resilience!

[@michaelharrison3602]

Yes when i say to people "we're all going to die in the end anyway" they say that I'm being morbid. I'm not I've just accepted reality which they have trouble doing. They worry about how grand their funeral will be and what people will say about them in the future.i believe people will be too busy with their own lives to worry about people who no longer exist.You can have a gravestone, a monument or even a statue but you won't know anything about it

[@johnmitchell8925]

How many 💉 did you get, just curious 😬

[@johnmitchell8925]

I agree I'm 64 and still enjoy my daily 🍻 but I've never smoked so there's that

[@victoroldright4381]

@@johnmitchell8925 I got impatient and left butI do about anything maybe a bit slower. I quit smoking with my heart attack in 2016 they installed 3 stints. Prostate cancer had the radiation treatment in 2006.

[@pauldeal547]

Thank you! This was needed at this point in my life.