I'm a 30 Year Old Virgin/Forever Alone

[@dante340]

Thanks for sharing your story, I relate on so many levels. One of my weirdest social anxieties: Whenever I frequent a restaurant/ store, and the workers start to recognize me as a "regular" (and sometimes even predict what I'm going to order), I get SUPER uncomfortable and will most likely never go there again.. I know they are just being friendly, and there is nothing wrong with it, but it just makes me feel so embarrassed.. almost like I'm being exposed in a way. It's hard to describe.

[@GhostOfAdam]

Yeah I get this too. I have no idea why. It makes no sense at all.

[@Logan69420]

Relatable

[@nn0nx3j]

Can I help you find anything?

[@rand0m742]

​@Tail Raiser In my brain, that sentence translates to: "Hurry up and buy something or get tf out. You look suspicious and you're wasting our time." 😖

[@tadghostal8769]

It is the ever enveloping panopticon effect that you feel crushing your soul.

[@hyde4004]

Never have I ever related to something so much. The thought of sex feels completely alien, like it's not even a part of the world I inhabit. Like it's a thing that only happens in movies. Interestingly enough I've been friends with a "cool kid" since kindergarten and the juxtaposition is mind boggling. It's always wild to me how he can effortlessly go talk to any group of girls at a bar and take any of them home if he so chooses. It reminds me that indeed, there are real people whose lives are like that. I certainly don't blame other people or women. I'm not good looking, although not abhorrent either, but I truly don't think looks are my biggest issue. Sure, being hot would help a lot but my looks would be enough if I was good socially. But alas, I am just good enough socially to recognise how terrible I am socially. Really quite an awkward spot. The self hatred this generates is a bit much to deal with at times. I feel so incredibly uncomfortable in my own body that the thought of intimacy, sex and flirting is quite honestly laughable to me. I have no grand conclusions, just wanted to type this out to vent and I guess let you know how much I relate.

[@prunelicious7437]

@Xyz confidence I'ld say

[@Ludo045]

@@prunelicious7437 confidence is bs. An ugly dude wouldnt be able to do what his friend did.

[@prunelicious7437]

@@Ludo045 You would be very surprised. Saw a lot of ugly dudes being so confident that instantly they shine in the room, it’s all about your personality and confidence. In the same manner I’ve seen some handsome men having issues because they are socially awkward.

[@Ludo045]

@@prunelicious7437 Oh please, the old talk about knowing the rich man unhappy and poor man happy bla bla bla... Make you wonder why people want to ger money, why people invest in surgery to improve their looks.

[@prunelicious7437]

@@Ludo045 Well rich people are obviously happier than poor lol I mean both have their type of struggle but I’ld definitely pick a rich ones haha. And confidence is a real thing I’m telling u, my brother in law is super ugly imo but he has such an attitude (super extroverted, social and kind of a little bit narcissistic) that he’s able to “manipulate” others that he’s a super good deal. But if I’ve ever seen him without him talking just standing there, I’ld probably think “wtf did my sister see in that ugly man?”

[@johnmilius3031]

Sexual intercourse seems unreal, actually alien to me. Impossible. Women have always treated me cold as stone. I can't even imagine them loving anyone or anything.

[@GhostOfAdam]

It does seem like something that only happens on TV or something.

[@armanijohnson4272]

What women don’t owe you sex or anything if they don’t like you or want you then fuck off

[@rahulkemp8347]

@@armanijohnson4272 are u woman?

[@armanijohnson4272]

Rahul Kemp yep are you a man

[@rahulkemp8347]

@@armanijohnson4272 yeh. are u american and possibly fat?

[@JamesFT]

I applaud you for making this video bro. You seem chill and well-spoken. Funny and introspective as well. I think you will 'make it'! Good luck bro.

[@GhostOfAdam]

Thanks man!

[@bvzv]

Youre me and I am you. Too relatable.

[@iamthatiam4637]

And i am that i am.

[@192OOIDJJ3]

@@iamthatiam4637 lol

[@iamthatiam4637]

@@192OOIDJJ3 Thank you

[@192OOIDJJ3]

@@iamthatiam4637 No problem brother

[@grunkasvunka2988]

One thing I've learned with having social anxiety is: Don't be so hard on yourself. Nobody is that perfect that you imagine.

[@BruceLeroyUK]

Such an engaging and natural story teller

[@Shiro642]

“I died when i was 13” i get you man... i wish i was rebellious at that age, and experience life. I was a sheltered child. I am doing good now though. But i am 30 now. I feel like being a sheltered child took the ages 13-27 and threw it out the window. If you ask old millionaires, they would do anything for youth. Youth=Life

[@pab1972]

30 is still young dude, something wrong with your mindset

[@Shiro642]

@@pab1972 delusional? 30 is not young. And like i said i feel much better the last couple of years ever since moving out. By the way, most great historical figures accomplished their missions but their 20s. Newton invented calculus at 26, Einstein developed his theory at 26. Napoleon became a general at 24. Alexander was 24 when he conquered. So please tell me how 30 is young? Lastly the body decays at 39. Men’s testosterone declines

[@pab1972]

@@Shiro642 you want to change the world or get a girlfriend? the f*ck? you're at your best when it comes to masculinity or growth when you're 30+ and also you know who you are by that time, therefore it makes you more attractive, best time to get some action!

[@Shiro642]

@@pab1972 what? What does a gf have to do with this? I was saying 30 is old. Its funny because you are trying to change the topic. Explain to me how 30 is young. Your testosterone decline from 30-39. A mans peak is in his 20s and if you can’t believe that then you are coping and lying to yourself. If your 20s was crap (in terms of dating), what makes you think anything will change in your 30s?

[@pab1972]

@@Shiro642 my f*cking browser window shut down when I had a reply ready for you. I'm gonna make it shorter because it f*cking pissed me off. 1) There are ways to increase your testosterone level. There are some 50-year-olds who still can do it like rabbits. 2) 30 is when you're a full-grown man, therefore you should be the most attractive version of yourself when it comes to manhood and masculinity. They say 27-35 is the final time for a single man, but these days there are no boundaries. You can play around until you die and nobody should bug you about it. 3) My dating was a nightmare when I was in my early twenties. Now it's more like a dream (not all the time, of course, but that's just reality). You can start from zero and end up as a hero if you do the f*cking work. Sorry for swearing, but I like it.

[@pinkybananas1]

brooo you're a great story teller and hella funny. i know ur just telling people unfortunate things about your life but they way youre telling them is very entertaining and funny

[@_sadgirl_8730]

yes, he's very well spoken too

[@TheHamsterMaster]

You seem like a genuine, down to earth guy and it would be an honor to be your friend. Keep your head up brother.

[@PetiteDuck4587]

Honor is glazing

[@TheHamsterMaster]

@@PetiteDuck4587 hell yeah. So are glazed doughnuts 🤘

[@JohnSmith-nj9qo]

I can relate to a lot of things here. When I was in school, I couldn't relate to my peers. All of them were out partying and having an awesome high school experience which allowed them to develop socially. Meanwhile I was at home by myself which in retrospect seriously stunted my social development. As a result pretty much everyone my age have successful careers, are getting married, starting a family, etc. and I'm still at home alone just like when I was a teenager. I'm so far behind that I've given up hope of ever catching up. I just want to say thanks for making this video and helping me feel slightly less alone.

[@yoleeisbored]

I'm an ugly asian american girl and I mever got invited by my peers either

[@brianmeen2158]

I have a friend that is in your exact situation. He has OCD and social anxiety and was a recluse in high school and college - he just worked all the time and completely Neglected his social life. Never dated . Fast forward and he’s now 34 and has no social skills and no friends . He is very introverted too which doesn’t help . He has been in therapy but he said he feels like an alien . He’s missed out on important life experiences and even if he dies develop a social life if some sort he’s still so far behind. Plus, most women are going to be very weirded out if they meet a guy in his mid 30s that has had no relationship experience. I try to encourage him but I see the pit he is stuck in

[@sofiastar2933]

same here, i'm 21 next week and missed out on this part of my life too. i'm only just going to my first music festival with my parents next month as i have no friends

[@TotallySearch]

It's just society, some men win, most lose, and we have to just deal with it in some way. I personally talk to my online brothers to deal with the lousy women. Don't think negative, live life to the fullest on this cruel earth.

[@straightciswhiteguy]

dude, you can't say "i personally talk to my online brothers to deal with the "lousy women", and then follow up with "don't think negative".... wtf do you think you're doing by talking to your online brothers about those "lousy women"? explain to me how that's thinking positively....

[@TotallySearch]

@@straightciswhiteguy I'm spitting facts or memeing about women. I don't hate women, I just hate how they act but if you just accept it as human nature then you can be turn positive instead of always negative.

[@pab1972]

@@TotallySearch If you dont like how the table is set, turn over the table. You don't have to play by the rules to win. If you're not particularly handsome there will be men out there who are perceived higher than you, no matter what you truly represent. That fact alone allows you to f*ck the status quo and do whatever you have to get the results you desire. Look up some lessons from uncle Underwood, fictional or not, it may help, big time.

[@li6706]

Pretty much my perspective. 95% of men will lose, 5% will come out on top. Winners and losers. And the losers should be happy with the scraps they get because statistically it won’t get any better. Do what you can, make as much money as you can, anytime a woman shows interest, pursue but don’t simp for her, if she likes you she will allow you to fuck her if not, don’t simp and waste your time further, move on.

[@morrowindboy4333]

what does it mean to win?

[@eman151511]

Played this video expecting to click out of it in a few mins at most but stayed for the whole thing. I have a lot of similarities with you but on the surface it wouldn’t be obvious we are similar. Keep making videos you have a great voice for a KZbin channel!

[@jakespristinememes237]

This is the most relatable video I have ever seen. I am not exaggerating.

[@pipejocun]

DUDE i loved this, thank you for sharing. I empathised a lot with your fears and your self aware part (the "i know maybe this is ridiculous but it happens and i feel like this" part) because it helps you acknowledge a problem and that's a big part of coming to an agreement with it.

[@johnbunnell3529]

All I ever do is watch KZbin videos too. Enjoyed your story/stories I usually ramble like that in my head.

[@apealeal3973]

Youre actually entertaining.. cant believe im gonna finish this whole thing and i feel the need to watch more

[@ShaitanDaDon]

This was extremely relatable. Especially the supermarket butcher thing. I work at a convenience store and I feel that about every customer I interact with every day. Im only 22 rn I hope I improve with this..

[@matthewskingley3105]

You definitely seem very intelligent, believe in you mate

[@deving7322]

Hey man, I went through that same anxiety problem. I couldn’t sleep without the light on and would get like 2 hours asleep. I’d wake up and immediately have terrible panic/anxiety attacks that would not stop for days and days until I went to a psychiatrist and got put on medication. Was on it for two years and finally got off of it a few months ago. I was paranoid, constantly thinking about the worst things, and have racing thought (racing thoughts are the random thoughts that don’t make sense when you are falling asleep), it scared me to death. I would really look at going to a psychiatrist. Other “incels” I’ve seen have awkward personalities and think they are more intelligent and better than everybody. You have a great personality and seem like a really great dude. Go to a doctor man, tell him what you’ve said in this video, they can help you. Truly wish you the best

[@Baulx138]

Lmaooo the ending killed me. The way it cut off is just synonymous with your personality. Love the stuff man, subscribed!

[@aaronluu9360]

Few things that helped me Try to win but do not care about results Balance is key, improve but have fun Consistent Repetition is key both focused and unfocused are fine

[@theguypersondude]

This guy is my mindset. I feel ya buddy.

[@RockLou]

You're the most likeable guy ever

[@Annabelle66633]

I’m going to die a virgin 😒😔

[@billnye7625]

Not for long. I’m on my way.

[@Dunnolol101]

This is the first video in so long that made me crack the fuck up. I can relate so much, jesus christ you just made me realize my social anxiety is so fucking irrational. Thank you I love you so so so much.

[@MrRocksW]

That story about the butcher is very relatable to me, I had a similar thing with the cashier in the shop next to my office, I'd see him every day at the same time and would never know how friendly I should be. I'm 30 years old similar situation, I appreciated your video.

[@riccardodiluca6862]

Dude, that supermarket story killed me xD You think too much about meaningless shit. When you say "hi" you're just being polite. There's no pretending in that. One thing I've learned in my life is that people do not give a fuck about you. Much less in a country like the US, where you go to the supermarket in your pijamas. That fear of judgement is all in your head. Everyone is too busy thinking about their own shit. Making fun of eachother is a true hobby when you're in high school. After that, no one cares.

[@Luna-zs8rc]

wow, feels like you’re telling me my own life story

[@joliejoestar4171]

You’re an amazing story teller

[@philipcorcoran2996]

Dude it’s all in your head. Your an attractive, down to earth , self observant person. You just have to take that first leap.

[@robertwilson7736]

That's crap mate some blokes just don't make the grade

[@mtndewprettygud6416]

Let it be corny idgaf - I want a triforce tattoo on my hand cause damn did I wanna be link when I was 5 years old. Now I'm 25 & would still rather be fighting demons blessed with the power of the gods than...whatever tf I'm doin. I feel you on OOT that games still got a grip on my sense of self. Solid video man

[@JoeyJ0J0]

I can relate to this, after I hit my 30s and started getting help, I realized I didnt want a partner nor did I care about intimacy, I am much happier now

[@straightciswhiteguy]

you didn't want a partner, nor do you care about intimacy, simply because you've never experienced what it's like to be intimate, or have a partner. if you met someone you felt comfortable with, and she spread her legs and offered you the golden ticket... you would have an entirely different mentality. saying you "realized you don't want a partner and don't care about intimacy" is a defense mechanism you've created in order to deal with having never experienced an intimate relationship. i'm glad you've gotten help, i just think the advice you've received was terrible...

[@JoeyJ0J0]

@@straightciswhiteguy some people just don't want or need relationships

[@straightciswhiteguy]

​@@JoeyJ0J0 i know some people may not "need" relationships to survive... but that doesn't mean their quality of life wouldn't be drastically improved if close intimate relationships had been developed. saying some people just don't "want" relationships... again... easy to say if you've never had one bc you don't know what you're missing out on...it's a coping mechanism. it's a lot easier to give up and just say "i dont want a relationship", than it is to actually put in the effort to fix whatever is going on with you that's made you undesirable. but ignoring the problem doesn't make it go away, nor does it mean you're better off by ignoring it. human beings are social creatures. we all need relationships in order to see the best versions of ourselves... that is indisputable. i sincerely hope events will transpire throughout your life that change your thinking on this... bc i think you're giving up on a part of life that makes it worth living...

[@tjlnintendo]

Straight Cis White Guy You’re trying too hard to be an arm chair psychologist.

[@straightciswhiteguy]

@@tjlnintendo i have no idea what an arm chair psychologist is, but i'm trying to help (what i see as ) struggling souls who are going to end up depriving themselves of many of life's greatest gifts, because they've been given a spectrum of bad advice. call it what you want, but if i can get one person to re think some of this nonsense, than it's worth it for me. bc i wasn't always comfortable in my own skin either.

[@owlmanz8171]

you dont seem like an "incel" imo ur a cool guy

[@angelface8210]

Alot of incels are good guys. I KNOW. A BUNCH OF THEM IN PERSON so...

[@andrewzakai3896]

A trick: watch movies at flixzone. I've been using them for watching loads of movies during the lockdown.

[@nikolasjeffery3225]

@Andrew Zakai Definitely, been watching on flixzone for since november myself :D

[@Rock-iw7ov]

Incel means "involuntary celibate", or anybody who wants to have sex but doesn't or (can't). Lots of incels are good guys who just don't get laid

[@Zombie-lp8bx]

Being an incell means you haven’t had sex. A lot of good people have never been laid not all incells are bigoted misogynistic people.

[@bizznick444joe7]

My whole 20s was ruined from being a nice guy. I wasn't a nice guy when I was in K-12 though but somehow I was traumatized and turned into one to avoid confrontation. I was pretty rough and tough when I was in middle school on the other hand but I started avoiding confrontation in high school which destroyed me.

[@judgeholder8112]

You wanna be true online friends with me? I can really use a online friend to talk to. I’m sorry about that.

[@bizznick444joe7]

@@judgeholder8112 Eh I like to keep to myself but you can find me in the comments here that's far as I'll reside and maybe I'll respond. I'm just saying this because I don't want to be rude or you running away from me.

[@judgeholder8112]

@@bizznick444joe7 I understand. All good and no worries. Have a good 1.

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

@@judgeholder8112 lol no offense but u don't just "become true friends" it's something that happens out of the ordinary, like a maricle or something

[@judgeholder8112]

@@iiCounted-op5jx lol I understand. I agree with you.

[@treysparling5924]

Dude you seem honestly cool and funny. most incels I would not want to even have a conversation with them because of some of the abhorrent shit they talk about. you got this

[@Ken-wf8fo]

I had a 4 hour panic attack from weed. Omg same bro

[@taurus_gang]

Im a 30 year old female Virgin and I thought I was the only one thank you for not making me feel like I was the only one in this world

[@taurus_gang]

@Brown Incel nope not at all but I am looking for something long term and don't wanna have any kids until my life is fully together

[@zombie1235801]

@Brown Incel femcels doesn't exist >life fully together so no chad wants you huh?

[@vulk7183]

@@taurus_gang See a female virgin is completely different from a male one Most girls start doing it at around 13 Female virgins make a choice, male ones don't

[@Soundeagle3456]

@@taurus_gang your life will never be fully together, your standards must be high.

[@taurus_gang]

@@Soundeagle3456 my standarda have to be high just because i rather get to kmow somebody and get married first before i lost my virginity 😒 that was hella ignorant not true at all

[@The_Absurdistt]

You, sir, would make an amazing comedian. Can relate to everything you said... Respect!

[@theunlicenseddoctor]

Your anxiety symptoms sounded very similar to some of my experiences. I had my vitamin D checked out and it was extremely low. After supplementing it to an appropriate level (took a couple to months) my anxiety became like night and day. I highly recommend checking it out.

[@bizznick444joe7]

I haven't had much sun myself. Maybe I should go out into the sun. I've been quite a shut in for 3 years straight. Sure I did go to work during COVID before I got fired but still I feel like I haven't gotten sun in a long time. Maybe it will help me maybe it won't. I thought I was getting enough vitamin D from meat as it was.

[@CutieRain1]

So sorry you went through that. But damn you are good a story teller.

[@deergreen1997]

I'm in your same aituation and I'm 26. I'm scared and think ill be alone forever.

[@johnkalisk3610]

Bro don't feel bad I'm 28 and a virgin. I mean I feel the same way about women it sucks 😭😭

[@unisangalaxystudio]

Same 28 and never had a relationship only 2 rejections One in college 9 years ago to a Japanese girl, the 2nd one this year to a Filipina girl who destroyed my heart and will never get another crush again. Crazy how guys who are uglier than me are dating yet not me, I been told am sweet and this and that but dating a no. Hopefully I save up to travel to Japan again for the 4th time and rent a girlfriend. Plus am dark skin Hispanic guy so asian girls don't really find me attractive and not into my own culture.

[@R3TR1BUT1ONz]

Overthinking is robbing you of your own joy. :(

[@GhostOfAdam]

Yeah, pretty much.

[@finn3935]

TriforceOfAdam because you are attractive and have an actual personality. you seem interesting to talk to

[@ljupcetrninkov4602]

@@finn3935 did you just confirm the looks-pill lol

[@finn3935]

ljupce trninkov what

[@finn3935]

ljupce trninkov why are you equating attraction with looks? in my comment i’m literally talking about his personality and the way he carries himself, that’s what makes him attractive. but if you were wondering if i think he’s visually appealing, yes. but that’s not what i was initially talking about

[@neski311]

Bro yeah! One time I smoked and it gave me the worst panic attack ever

[@90asdfghjkl]

Guys who go around honking their horns at women are putting out the specific energy and intern are going to receive the similar energy. These are guys looking for easy women with little to no self value, if you’re looking for something real, these are the type of actions you want to avoid. You simply need to just be yourself and you’ll eventually attract someone that’s like you. If you’re confident in who you are, as you are every day, you’re going to exude confidence, in other words, just live life as though it’s something you’ve already done. You also never want to lie about this if the question ever comes up be honest, you don’t want to ruin the trust chances are they probably already know 🙏 stay positive, I’ve been in your shoes and yeah your right, everyone is scared because we are all human

[@johnbeavis6035]

I can relate to this a lot

[@obe22099]

I was waiting for you to sing for 21 minutes...Now i have to go to bed being disappointed.

[@bizznick444joe7]

You'll just have to jerk this one off

[@capriomrowkicz1751]

Incels are Kings😎.Grettings from me to you Bro!

[@breakdancerQ]

It sounds like you have some crazy anxiety for things that could happen, on a level that I definitely don't think is normal. Not saying this as an insult in any way, I just hope you are seeking help for it because that's definitely not normal and keeping you back from living to the fullest.

[@Candie5000]

I think that’s the coolest thing ever!! You probably limited by your environment but i most genuinely think this is awesome 👏

[@NationalismDjazair]

You should do radio man, your voice is very good and a very good storyteller

[@192OOIDJJ3]

Sht, you seem like you can hold conversations. Something I can never do. You'll be fine.

[@dissolve3925]

This is so relatable in so many different ways. don't be afraid be who you want to be you'll never know until you try.

[@augustt8282]

wow , the way you speak and present yourself, don't sell yourself short you've got potentials! and you are self aware , you just need to push yourself to overcome your childhood traumas and to reconnect with your inner child.

[@kristinaal-ashqar9902]

You carry yourself well and you seem very intresting to talk to. I dont imagine youll be in this situation forever either.

[@Skeeter_Dee]

get this mans a hair cut and a new wardrobe lol

[@JimB.Walken]

Nah, hes fucked

[@straightciswhiteguy]

@@JimB.Walken lol... you're an asshole

[@Ludo045]

@@straightciswhiteguy why ? She was gaslighting him.

[@smeebworld]

Dude the butcher story is sooooo relatable I have the same internal monologue anywhere in public

[@anthonyroberto1817]

@GhostOfAdam I am a 23 year old virgin. I relate with you on a million different things, from anxiety to talking to girls. The only way I've been able to stop feeling sad is through self-improvement. I go to the gym, joined clubs, make an effort to socialize/engage, dress nicer, and actively buildup my career. Does this equal gf? Of course not, but I become a better person.

[@bizznick444joe7]

Honestly "becoming a better person" is pretty overrated. There's a lot of people that don't better themselves with girlfriends.

[@Ludo045]

@@bizznick444joe7 Exactly. The whole grifting talk by redpiller is a serious scam. Yes, one should work to get a carrier etc.. the whole bettering yourself, building a personanity etc.. to get a girlfriend is stay garbage considering how people never do such thing, dont go being gym rats, dont read 2563255 books just to feel intelligent etc.. to get gf.

[@NemesisX94]

​@@Ludo045This. You're either good enough or not.

[@raypist5938]

I was terrified of having a seizure so fucking bad that i couldn't even take a shower because i was afraid of seizing up and and falling and hitting my head and dying. I've struggled with hypochondria for years and just now got it under control.

[@ebeaver15]

Stay strong man. You seem like a really cool dude and it'll happen for you someday, I promise.

[@GhostOfAdam]

Thanks man I really appreciate your comment.

[@demolitionizer7686]

@@GhostOfAdam so tell us, has it happened yet

[@GhostOfAdam]

​@@demolitionizer7686 Ha. Not yet, though my focus has kinda been on other things. My view on it has always been "if it happens it happens, but if it doesn't I'm not going to lose sleep over it." I mean, at this point, it's mostly just a curiosity -- like "that seems like it might be cool." Honestly, I think I probably have psychological issues I have to work through first before anything like that manifests in my life.

[@jonothedudeguy]

@@GhostOfAdam legit hire a prostitude to get some experience man

[@bizznick444joe7]

I think in this point of our life it's best to just see what social interactionis we can grab if there is any left.

[@JustSomeKittenwithaGun]

People telling him to cut his hair... 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@JustSomeKittenwithaGun]

@Wrestling • Judo MS I care because guys with long hair can look good. I personally prefer it on them. So mind your own business and stop pushing this cookie cutter concept of the perfect man.

[@JustSomeKittenwithaGun]

@Wrestling • Judo MS Wow... It's rare to find someone who agrees with this.

[@sour3000]

This guy can do stand up💯

[@bizznick444joe7]

So he's funny?

[@ryux]

Define Overthinking: "There you go - a 21:13 summary of overthinking"

[@robertwilson7736]

Dear sir when girls don't fancy you it's a bummer I've had it all my life I get hassle in the workplace I will be glad when I can retire and be out of it all

[@devvejebaited3565]

Love your Chanel Bro, you are a great Story teller

[@crxmdx9199]

You have a great sense of humor! 😂 And your catchphrase should be, 'more on that later'!

[@jakomin1291]

It's good for you, the society now is becoming woke. You are purify from disgust.

[@sofiastar2933]

this is so scarily relatable omg.. i used to always think they were acting too! i dont know what its like to have a crush either, i used to think i was asexual too. i think you are autistic, i am and it took me a while to realise that, like the whole not understanding others and thinking relationships are just acting... such a eye opener when you get that diagnosis :/

[@N_L_23]

I really hope I don’t end up making one of these vids in 5 years

[@rodrigorafael9514]

I feel totally awkward even watching romantic plots or situations on TV

[@iamthatiam4637]

I use to feel that way. But it went away quickly.

[@theheartbreakkid783]

I just turn the channel

[@iamthatiam4637]

@@theheartbreakkid783 right to something like family guy

[@theheartbreakkid783]

@@iamthatiam4637 naw imma just watch some dragon ball z

[@iamthatiam4637]

@@theheartbreakkid783 hell yea. You know what you talking about. And omg 😱 jaren from super was a beast. At first i loved broly but jaren is better. I liked broly cause he didn't care and just did what ever. Pure evil. Jaren was just crazy strong and vegetia vs topo god of destruction was amazing. Just pure amazing.

[@MrPmacdonald101]

Youre a great guy Adam You dont owe the world social interaction and I get why its hard for you. Also that Butcher I 100% doesnt give a shit man he probably appreciates you saying hi and doesnt pick up on it when you dont. just my two cents

[@MrPmacdonald101]

Also I would 100% smoke a joint with you and we could drive around and listen to queens of the stone age!

[@GhostOfAdam]

You're probably right about that.

[@cathrynm]

I think -- 'mentalcel', you called it, basically,

[@computermariobross]

Whenever I overthink on romantic relationships, I just cut myself by thinking "I don't know, I'm tired", because I don't... and I am

[@cosmicdust7098]

Ok Chad

[@jay-kq5kv]

When I hit 31 I knew my life was over

[@chriswood1210]

You're probably better off in the life situation you're in now. Now you can accomplish your life goals, you other wise wouldn't if you were tied down in a relationship

[@9ALiTY]

I checked Out Your music It is Impressive & Composed quite well

[@9ALiTY]

If You show Women You music I'm sure they'd be impressed too, don't give up Yet. It took me awhile to somewhat dealwith/get over my bad Anxiety but it can be done.

[@ominiouspressence4853]

Im not gay, ur a pretty good looking guy. U will get a woman for sure. Just put urself out there more.

[@gracedean1865]

Just came across this video and really enjoyed it. Your really funny and I found the part about saying hi to the meat guy very relatable!! Great video 👏

[@resoluton]

I subscribed, you sound like a cool guy.

[@jamesbyerly766]

And you said it. You lack the courage to push through it. "Embrace the suck" is a statement we said in the military. Constantly staying comfortable is terrible for development.

[@bizznick444joe7]

Becoming old is just a new suck I have to embrace at age 36?

[@climberis1]

Sounds like you still romanticize what teens do. The secret to teen years and the growth there is the ability to transition to an adult. No one has a similar experience, but the main commonality is personal responsibility, overcoming obstacles (social, physical, mental) and a transition to adulthood

[@BottomGTopg]

It is possible that never got to do what teens

[@bizznick444joe7]

I think this inability to grow up is from a very minor feeling of being molested, some form of trauma causes this.

[@Ghost-ul8eu]

You don't look 30 at all you like you are only 19 years old you have aged beautifully.Dont ever let any incel call you ugly because your not. Im sorry life has been hard on you.You are going to find someone one day my dude. You also have a soothing voice have you ever done any radio stuff?

[@GhostOfAdam]

Thanks. I really appreciate your comment. And no. Ha. Never been on the radio or anything.

[@originalman3843]

Hard because he hasn’t dipped in used p sleeve??🤔🙄

[@bizznick444joe7]

We'll see once he hits 36

[@Soundeagle3456]

why would incels call him ugly, they think he is handsome, what the hell is wrong with you people, making assumptions.

[@JJJJ-he8bz]

I’m not concerned about my body because I know I could fix that if I really wanted to. I’ve evolved to the point were I don’t get really nervous in social situations because through trial and great failure I learned how to deal with those situations. I just don’t care anymore.

[@AZrakoon]

Dont worry about being a virgin, its better to wait to give it up to someone you care about, and they care about you. It will come eventually.

[@stripes497]

Perhaps, you do not realize how Fortunate and Blessed you are. Just think that you DO NOT HAVE AN STD and/or an unexpected child from a previous relationship. I have known many people who have gone through such painful and agonizing situations. I am over 55 and STILL A VIRGIN!!! I was very depressed and saddened to be in this situation. However, one day I realized that I DO NOT HAVE ALL of the baggage and drama that is associated by having extra marital relations. My advice and counsel to you is to focus on pursuing a career and making money. Don't concern yourself about women too much. At some point, the beauty will fade and they won't look ALL that great. Take care of yourself and be indifferent about women. You are a smart young man and have your whole life ahead of you. Women will come to you on due time.

[@danielcervini2545]

I’d be fine sitting next to you for a 19 hour nonstop flight from New York to Sydney. Have you considered doing standup comedy?

[@GhostOfAdam]

The thought has crossed my mind before. I might eventually give it a shot.

[@truthshallsetufree1295]

Thx for ur virgin story its takes alot if balls to make a video on this i to deal with this im 27 and woman just don’t like me i accept this and just will just have to learn to not like woman and forget about them

[@oshiondagreat2306]

Incels are the new goth kids. Soon the oddball guy will become a new trend.

[@myheatgoesboomboomboom1655]

Man your just like me ever since i was 11 i stoped going outside excapt school i used to think how uncool im for not going to partys only at 27 im now 28 i went to live in a hostel and it changed my life i got me a grilfriend i got a job im not geting hospitlazied any more life is good today i had sex

[@InterestingExplained]

Congrats! How did you find a girlfriend?

[@TheGabrielPT]

no offense but you're definitely "mentalcel" as they say... did you try therapy? I tried and it significantly dropped my social anxiety, I used to have like 8/10 social anxiety a few years ago and now I'd say I'm at 3/10

[@GhostOfAdam]

I tried therapy, but I didn't find it helpful. I think the problem was that I think I kind of "present" well (I don't think I come off as having mental issues, on a surface level). I think she just kind of assumed that I was just a little shy and just needed some encouragement to go to like meetup.com or something. I would like to try it again at some point, though.

[@goomerperez]

@@GhostOfAdam show her the video!

[@bizznick444joe7]

I wished I fixed it sooner.

[@bizznick444joe7]

@@GhostOfAdam what did you find in your meetup

[@GhostOfAdam]

@@bizznick444joe7 Mainly just people who were much older than me.

[@EbkDot38]

I've been an incel for two years

[@McRemmyBaby]

Since 2002 kinda then 2004 i was mentally blocked, I’m now soon 35, the only one came back into my life for a second 2 years ago but yea. That’s it

[@yolocrayolod6668]

I think a lot that my time has passed I’m 26 and same situation but thinking in the past when I was 9-10 I just occasionally thought “when I’m older I’ll have a gf” then from “12-15” I knew I will never get anything I believe my time has past and 15 was the limit age and if I didn’t have at least 1 gf by that age it was all over and indeed so far it has been like that, and some how I feel kind of guilty whenever I think of try something or even trying to talk (in a flirty way) to a girl I like I also always think they’re going to reject me, have boyfriend, or simply are not interested and also I have this stop1d idea that I must be with a virgin woman as well 😂 Like if woman reached 25-29 yo virgin😂 I’m just so delusional

[@Amero2323]

An incel is simply a guy who wants to be sexually active, but isn't. That's it. None of the crap about being owed sex or whatever. That's feminist propaganda and you shouldn't perpetuate it. They are not on your side.

[@NemesisX94]

This. I'm so tired of people misusing the word.

[@tom1921]

Damn this guy isn't even bad looking. What hope is there for the rest of us?

[@bizznick444joe7]

I'm beginning to think how good you look isn't 100% of how you make it. But to reach that point it took me 36 years to realize that. Yeah when I'll start looking not so good in my 20s when I wasn't even that good looking to begin with. The blackpill isn't 100% true. Height is usually more important

[@Soundeagle3456]

@@bizznick444joe7 height is blackpill

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

ongg bro if this guy is struggling there's no hope for us

[@chuckcollins2349]

​@@bizznick444joe7Apparently women don't find him attractive,our opinions are irrelevant.

[@clementineslaughter6904]

I was thinking the same thing. Is he just lazy? Why in the world is he a virgin? He seems like such a cool guy. I'm 27 and a virgin so I can somewhat relate.

[@Ethereal_Ghost]

I think there is a solution to your type of 'inceldom' . It is intense loving kindness/forgiveness meditation - like at least 30 minutes a day and more towards yourself when you start. You will rewire your subconscious to like yourself.

[@NsIX3]

Adam, you're a good looking dude who has a lot of potential with women. You kinda remind me of Chester Bennington of Linkin Park. Ditch the beanie and get yourself a a good haircut/style. Maybe buy some new clothes, and try and get yourself out there. The right women will be understanding of your situation, cause not everyone's perfect. I lost my virginity at 24, not because I'm an incel or anything....but I just didn't care about relationships, or getting laid in general till I met a girl off a dating website. Don't let it be a big deal, cause it really isn't. You're very well spoken and women would love to hear your stories.

[@N0ts0H0tT0ddy]

Oaft, I’m 21 and still a virgin lmao

[@Soundeagle3456]

his problem is he doesn't care

[@justin-alexander]

its not worth it, society is the current madness, stay single stay alone, focus on yourself

[@AndrewJackson-gw1ej]

Man that supermarket story with the butcher was hilarious. Just the way you spoke about it made it sound 10 times more funny. Sorry if it's a serious topic for you. But i get it. Been in similiar situations before.

[@greganderson2239]

I’m not a virgin and I actually have a fair share of options when it comes to woman but I will say that you can be alone and still be in a relationship.. meaning, if you don’t know and love yourself, and rely on someone else to do that for you then you will forever be alone. Don’t rely on a woman to define you, you define you and the right one will come along after hopefully. Keep your head up