"I'm Not Attracted To My Husband" - MEAN GIRL DEFINED

[@Jaclyn]

Here’s a link to the TikTok I made about this video! Follow me on there if ya want!! ♥️ vm.tiktok.com/TTPdkJGjwU/

[@christopherbarker1048]

So I watched that vid and just damn. I'm not in a relationship and I'd be like "Wait she's not attracted to her husband? Why the fuck you marry him then? I left a comment saying "No one falls in love with personality at first sight"

[@sheikhfadhilaljahdhamy6751]

You are a drunkard, its not good for you, I personally also don't see you reasonable i.e. You are not serious. Is social media just there to waste my precious time

[@taylorm6769]

I don't think they even know what their trying to say sometimes they act like if there's emotional attraction then the physical can't matter anymore and you must be with the guy. When to sum it up if you need both physical and emotional then date someone you got both types of connections with. If you only need the emotional then date the person if that's all you need. There point about physical can't be the only aspect well that's obvious. They act like they are force to date someone their not physically attracted to when really their not. Date the person who you got the connections needed for you to be with them and see where it goes or if they don't then don't date. Their solution to their problem is not a solution but it is a waste of time on both ends theirs and their partners.

[@roundsdm]

I know the way they went about their video is *why* you didn’t & i can imagine it being difficult to do so, but please try to consider asexuals & demisexuals if something like this comes up again,.. their video was so so damaging to the community for multiple reasons that you actually mentioned yourself- but so was this one to some degree unfortunately,. & the comments reflect that in a very hurtful way,.. 😞

[@gusy629]

For the record, these girls are ugly inside out already. Meantime, I need a glass of wine as well.

[@elizagem1244]

If my boyfriend said PUBLICLY that he wasn’t attracted to me not only would I be humiliated but I’d be so heartbroken…. And if I were married to him I’d get a divorce

[@evangelinabalcioni9296]

Agreed. If my husband said that about me even privately and I found out, I wouldn’t say I’d get divorced right away but it would definitely put divorce on the table.

[@andreakoroknai1071]

yeah, time to call the lawyer imo

[@MrFanboyjay]

And nobody at all in their right mind would blame you.

[@whateverthefuckiwant4289]

Exactly. And imagine if this went the other way, like Dav and Zach would just make a video about how they aren't attracted to their wives.. I'm sure the two girls would love that..

[@alexusbratva878]

i recall that is something they (the church) taught us at Sunday school. "Marriage, finding your spouse, is not about 'physical attraction' but the unity you two have together, with God" yada yada...For a long time i felt vain for wanting to date someone I thought was attractive (as i got older I ask God stay outta my love life, i don't wanna be in a lackluster relationship)

[@roseblack3436]

Girl defined: "Pray for your perfect husband." Also Girl defined:"I'm not attracted to my husband." Glad to see how all that prayer worked out.

[@gwendolynstata3775]

"God's a 'close enough' kinda guy"

[@TheUnplannedLove]

Idk, I got exactly what I prayed for in a partner 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@gwendolynstata3775]

@@rowanquynn9964 oh, damn, sorry you had to go through that

[@jclyntoledo]

@@rowanquynn9964 Did you find a better church or faith community?

[@jclyntoledo]

@@rowanquynn9964 I hope you didn't turn away from God 😰 remember the church failed you not him. Either way I hope you are doing better emotionally and mentally 🥰🥰.

[@rainbowsam2335]

If my partner told the entire internet they weren't attracted to me when we got married I would probably divorce them instantly

[@sofialara297]

I'm surprised their husbands have been able to tolerate them for this long

[@Hey_Jamie]

Well her partner is gay anyway so he’s definitely not attracted to her, either.

[@bludaizee24]

IKR! Like how disgustingly inconsiderate!

[@punkrockmetalqueen92]

Then don't get married because you have way tougher battles to go through

[@rabbit__]

@@Hey_Jamie that's a false rumor. And whether or not he is, the only person with the authority to speak on that is him. None of us have that authority.

[@brooke9147]

And the sad thing is they don't "believe" in divorce so these women are expected to live with these men forever and fake happiness. It's gross and so unhealthy.

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

"It's gross and so unhealthy." Isn't that the description of all their videos?

[@danic2514]

Yea it seems that while it’s an awful situation they probably don’t even have much of a choice. Would probably be considered sinful to even want to feel something towards the man they want to marry

[@Scottishlass22]

I thought they were not religious

[@k0lpA]

@@Scottishlass22 how ?

[@curlyhairdudeify]

They are serving God. They only love God, and their only purpose as godly women is to start churning out kids.

[@JulietteVeronica1201]

If you're not attracted to someone but appreciate them as a person, that's literally just friendship.

[@jilldurham5498]

Remember you still have a relationship when you're just friends with someone

[@JulietteVeronica1201]

@@jilldurham5498 True but it’s not necessarily a romantic relationship like dating or marriage should be

[@jilldurham5498]

@@JulietteVeronica1201 yes true. I have a relationship with my mom, dad and animals and other relatives and church members whom most are married.

[@HMMELD]

I went from almost being married to just friends to the same one - it's not the same.

[@TheBigChubbyBunny]

No it doesn't. You could be Asexual but Romantically Attracted to them.

[@rorolilred]

I honestly think that the attitude of "girls, don't be shallow, give that 'nice guy' a chance even if you're not attracted to him" is a huge reason why I was so easily manipulated and coerced into sexual situations I wasn't comfortable with in my late teens/early 20s. I didn't want to be the shallow bitch who turned down a "nice guy" because I wasn't into him so I felt like I couldn't say no to any creep that came along - took me way too long to learn that not being attracted to someone doesn't make you shallow. Also, no-one tells men they should date women they're not attracted to.

[@Sam_Wilson]

I’m sorry you felt pressure to date people you’re not interested in. A guy can be a “nice guy” but still not be attractive to someone. It’s crazy push/force someone to go on dates with someone they aren’t interested in, no matter who they are! I think that guys are also ‘told’ to date people they aren’t attracted to though. I personally felt a lot of pressure in highschool/early university to just “give people a shot” if they showed interest. I think it ties into the idea, which is still pretty common where I live, that women don’t need to/shouldn’t go after men; so when they do, guys are ‘supposed to’ just go with it. It’s a weird one, cause I think I understand the expectation that a woman is ‘supposed’ to give a ‘nice guy’ a chance; and yet guys feel pressure to go along with women who show interest in them, even if they aren’t particularly interested. Mostly, I think it boils down to supply and demand haha, as weird as that sounds. There seems to be more guys that want to have a sexual or committed relationship with a women than the other way around. And this creates an imbalance where more guys are going after women than the other way around. So when a women goes after a guy it feels like a unique opportunity that you ‘shouldn’t’ turn down. It’s strange

[@libera7161]

Me too

[@laurazaetz9505]

Gay men are told to as well.

[@louiscipher2939]

If her husband got on camera and complained to the world that she's unattractive I'm sure she would react in a calm and rational manner. Right?

[@dauser4]

she said that she's not attracted to him, not that he's unattractive. that's a completaly different thing. although also tragic. it seems to me being attrected to your bf/gf should be a deal breaker.

[@louiscipher2939]

@@dauser4 Even if that's true my point is still valid.

[@dauser4]

@@louiscipher2939 yep 😄

[@saynotohookups]

@@dauser4 Either way that is messed up. There's nothing wrong with marrying someone who is physically attractive and you should definitely be attracted to them from within, if they are not they should have moved on and waited for the right man.

[@Scottishlass22]

💯❤️🪬And he’s such a nice guy like 😳 wtf are u ok love I would lose my💩🤷🏻‍♀️

[@trashpanda3544]

When it comes to girl defined I always think of this passage from the twits by Roald Dahl. It's even more relevant for this video in particular. "If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until it gets so ugly that you can hardly look at it. A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely." It's one of my favourite quotes from his books and it's very true when it comes to people like girls defined.

[@5050TM]

But doesn't this also affirm the opposite? That is a Christian guy is so great and amazing inside that you're the problem if you don't see them as attractive? I would just leave all of the flowery sayings alone (as wonderful as they are) and just say that if you find someone physically attractive then you find someone physically attractive. Because we really only think this applies in a platonic way, not a sexual way. Someone can be super nice and not turn us on, which is the real topic.

[@trashpanda3544]

@@5050TM I was using it to say that girl defined may be attractive on the outside but their beliefs and prejudices make them ugly and less attractive. We've all met those people who look like models but then they open their mouth and they become instantly less attractive, whereas sometimes you meet someone you find unattractive but the more you get to know them the more attractive they become. Girl defined is an example of this, they can be the most beautiful women in the world but as long as they spread harm and ugly thoughts they will forever be ugly to me. Also you can find someone beautiful and not want a relationship with them. Finding someone beautiful and kind doesn't equate to sexual attraction. The quote bring up that no matter how ugly you are on the outside as long as you're a kind person you will have a beautiful soul. I don't know how any of that has to do with sexual attraction.

[@bluebell560]

Beautiful quote, really felt it in my soul.

[@Fiona-68]

I adore Roald Dahl

[@Trainwithnotracks]

That helped a lot..thank you!

[@heyidaroo]

These girls so obviously come from a culture where people in their lives have told them “but he really likes you, you should give him a chance” I grew up with people telling me this, and it messes with your mind. It makes you feel like you’re broken simply because there is a guy who is ideal boyfriend material, but you’re just not into him.

[@loralea3142]

I'll add to that with sometimes the same line is used to gaslight and dismiss someone who's trying to communicate that this person is unsafe and crossing boundaries/disregarding consent. Not wanting to "give them a chance" is a very important gut instinct that we need the right to fallow and express

[@DaveSCameron]

Fantastic bodies tho hey *

[@thepresence365]

Same. I've been called shallow because I wouldn't go on a date with someone I wasn't attracted to.

[@AnastaciaInCleveland]

I totally understand this. Something similar happened to me, but I actually married the guy. It didn't end well.

[@graceking9723]

ooo feel this. been there. it messed me up for years.

[@SamanthaShelley]

Nothing says “marriage is sacred” like dating a guy for a few months and not finding him attractive whatsoever. Then saying that walking down the aisle and on the Internet. 🙃

[@zachcoats4849]

How can you say stuff like that about someone you are currently married to? Like it's one thing if you say that shit to a therapist or counselor but she just straight up told her large audience about how unattractive she found her husband. Like that is so insanely embarrassing!!! I would go on an absolute downward spiral if I was the husband, like I would never be able to truly see myself as attractive again. It's just messed up on so many levels.

[@heathercameron1485]

Right? If my husband did the same thing, I'd be so hurt. It would ruin all of my joyful memories of my wedding day, the day you are made up to look your best. It would make me question everything.

[@watbebe]

And not just that, you'd probably never be able to trust your spouse again...

[@ireneswelt]

Being attracted to someone doesn't automatically mean they are attractive and vice versa.

[@jamirose2342]

Especially since men react especially well to compliments because women are the fairer species and men don’t think they are all that attractive so hearing it “validated” would arguably break down his self esteem. Sad.

[@MaryTheresa1986]

I hope he divorces her shallow ass.

[@essie-marieford8611]

Don't forget Jaclynn, these girls literally do believe you can't be friends with guys. I grew up in similar environments and it was so TOXIC!! I as a woman was taught that it was impossible for me to be friends with men, because we ladies would be leading the guys on. The only reason I would want to talk to a guy would be if I wanted to have sex with him. which lead to a LOT of confusion in my teenage years!! Love your videos and thanks for breaking the cycle.

[@MiaRosenbloom]

I understand that not everybody marries for love, but if you're not at least mildly attracted to the person you marry, you're setting yourself up for a life misery. lol 😆😂

[@UlexiteTVStoneLexite]

And I think that if you're not marrying for love you're making a mistake also because if you don't have love there you are still going to be miserable for the rest of your life. If your partner doesn't reciprocate love and you settle you're going to be miserable for the rest of your life. Just look at my parents 😁

[@MiaRosenbloom]

@@UlexiteTVStoneLexite I agree, people should marry for love.

[@Hey_Jamie]

Her entire life has been misery. She just thinks that’s how it’s supposed to be and has always been told that’s nirvana. She doesn’t know how actual life is.

[@Kanyon85]

@@Hey_Jamie Yeah, they come from a deeply religious background so they're taught to not only put religious compatibility before everything else, but even to just ignore every other way to be compatible. It really is sad.

[@shannonraby5547]

I just think that they are so awful, they are making my ears go to hell, and they are not attractive to me because they have no souls, and they are assholes.😂 Who does that to there husband on their wedding day.

[@coolgirlcorgan]

bethany literally hates her husband, her entire instagram has been about not criticizing him and just loving him and working on the things she dislikes about him lol

[@lisawise4204]

Yikes! As someone who is on the asexual spectrum, I don’t feel “attraction” the same way most other people do. But cannot imagine going on the internet and talking about my husband this way! On our wedding day, I looked down the aisle and saw the man I would build my future with, the father of our son, and a few years later, our daughter. The person I CHOSE to marry. Whether or not I always feel a spark, I know this is the person I chose to build a life with, and that is enough to attract me to him.I am definitely attracted to my husband.

[@starry65]

thanks for your thoughts. it was interesting to read your thoughts on attraction from an ace perspective.

[@gwenk903]

I'm ace as well and I feel this way about my bf! I don't think Girl Defined has heard of romantic attraction before? Why does everything have to be sexual?? Oh because they love to demonize it with their "us vs the world" mentality 😮‍💨

[@romainsavioz5466]

@@gwenk903 because you know the bible

[@Apoplectic_Spock]

Thanks for sharing your perspective!

[@marshmallow4646]

I'm attracted to my boyfriend, not completely attracted in the physical sense, but that doesn't matter, there's so much else that "attracts" me and I love, I can't imagine marrying someone and saying you're not attracted to them on your wedding day

[@firehawk2324]

I'll be totally honest, there was ONE time where I looked at a couple and asked my husband, "Why is she with him?" It didn't take long for me to figure out the actual question I should have been asking was "Why is he with HER," because she was a horrid human being. Don't judge people by their looks, judge them by their words and actions.

[@MsTinix]

Imagine seeing your future wife walking down the aisle, stopping, wisper "I have no attraction to him but here we go" to someone AND GO THROUGH WITH THE WEDDING? Omg these men need better women in their life....

[@ocdmusic]

It sounds like a Married At First Sight wedding lol

[@UlexiteTVStoneLexite]

No they don't their husbands aren't any better at least not Bethany's. He might not be ugly on the outside but he sure is ugly on the inside

[@MsTinix]

@@UlexiteTVStoneLexite what does that even mean

[@mikefamm5712]

@@MsTinix I think they mean that their husbands are just like them in regard to being unpleasant, unaware of themselves, and demeaning to their spouses.

[@UlexiteTVStoneLexite]

@@MsTinix sorry talk to text didn't work correctly. I said their husbands "aren't" any better I didn't catch that. Their husbands aren't any better and they don't necessarily deserve better women because their husbands are pretty terrible at least Bethany's is. Kind of controlling and kind of misogynistic

[@MsPoliteRants]

So, I wasn’t super attracted to my husband when I met him. I saw him as like a six I guess. But he was so funny and smart and a great guy. Over time we became best friends and once I admitted my feelings to him, we had moved in together within a month and were married in six. Now I see him as a 10/10. I’m EXTREMELY attracted to him, and I was that attracted to him on my wedding day as well. Like… it’s one thing to develop feelings and sexual attraction but…. Not AFTER getting married.

[@HippyNinjaSimmy]

Honestly, if people like them find you unattractive... You're probably doing something right 😅

[@UlexiteTVStoneLexite]

Lol probably

[@yourmajesty7124]

I’d take it as a compliment

[@livgrace8070]

solid point

[@janycebrown4071]

Lololol 😂 TRUTH

[@HMMELD]

Good point

[@BlueberryElla]

That's so sad! She doesn't even find him attractive, she's only married to be married.

[@starry65]

i'm a lesbian and i grew up in homophobic pentecostal house. i tried to force attraction to men for a long time. attraction is supposed to feel good. you shouldn't try to force it. you'll be miserable.

[@HMMELD]

Good pont

[@agstinacueva1673]

Christians are the most closeted individuals

[@lunaccodesign]

This is so accurate! The brainwashing!

[@lacey892]

💯💯💯

[@emilybear4832]

I didn’t think about it like this but what if she’s really just not attracted to men. She will never know the beauty of being happy with a woman. The complete connection I felt when I finally felt when I accepted my gayness and got with a woman was, to this day, one of the best feelings ever. It was like “OHHH! So this is why I never felt whole with a man”. I know it’s a stretch but growing up as a Christian, she’s probably terrified of even considering an attraction to anyone but cis men because she would go to hell…. 😩 like I said, I know it’s a stretch but what if

[@momoproblemos]

I feel like physical and emotional attraction are both really important. I dated my husband for years before marrying him, and I’m so glad I did so that I could make sure I was emotionally attracted to him. I am and happily married for 2 years and expecting twins ♥️ it’s important to love all of your partner before marrying them.

[@mjh7236]

It is genuinely so sad that 1) Kristen's husband has surely seen this and 2) These girls have been brought up to be that desperate for marriage, to believe that their only value is being a godly wife and mother, that they would try to force attraction where it's not there or act like it doesn't matter if you're repulsed by your husband.

[@UlexiteTVStoneLexite]

Indeed. It really is sad and it's even sadder that they are pushing this idea on to impressionable young girls. It's really sad that they are telling young girls that you don't have to be happy in your marriage you just have to get married

[@Hi...ItsLizzMitchell]

In a harsh way, I hope this video leads to a conversation that leads to divorce. Like a blessing in disguise

[@TheKatarinaGiselle]

Watching them makes me think thank god I was born more “selfish” because even when _I was_ a Christian, I’d never date somebody I wasn’t attracted to! First off..I feel like..it’s even more selfish in a way..like how horrible and mean for your partners! Plus, sexual attraction MATTERS in a relationship, especially when you make a commitment to spend you entire lives with that person! And how fucked up to basically chose a man that you aren’t attracted to?! Like, we all have needs..it’s selfish for anybody to do that! If my man said he wasn’t attracted to me...oh HELLLL NOOO! These women’s minds are completely distorted. And I take back what I said about me being “selfish”, that was facetious. They are the selfish ones and both them and their husbands must be completely miserable and living a lie!

[@TheKatarinaGiselle]

@@elizabethkraszewski6603 wait..I’m confused. What do you mean by school specials?

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

You're not being fair. She did say you shouldn't be repulsed. But as long as you can stomach seeing your husband, go for it. Ridiculous.

[@thisismycupoftea3974]

Even as a demisexual I don't understand what these guys are talking about? My husband is never what I pictured for my dream man but I've never felt attraction to another person, the way I feel for him and that started building within the first month of knowing him. Likewise I have dated guys that my friends thought were attractive and I was like "really? I guess so." Which is when I realised I was wasting their time continuing the relationship. You don't marry someone and hope the attraction comes later.

[@QuinnfuryYT]

I've been with my husband almost 13 yrs, and I could never be so cruel, there's more to attraction then just sexual.

[@vannahvengeance1992]

Exactly. My fiancée and I have been together for 10 years. Of course I am physically attracted to him, but there has to be an emotional connection as well.

[@Mypenisissmallbut]

I’d say if emotional or sexual attraction is lacking, you setting yourself up for misery both are necessary for a relationship let alone marriage.

[@angelarice8418]

They say "the world" says true love is only sexual attraction to a gorgeous person, but I think this is more of a projection on their part. Their own brand has been historically focused on looks.

[@BeanWaterJunkie]

Something that really gets under my skin is people who shit talk their significant other. There are a number of people who used to do this at my work and one of them was a guy whose wife actually worked there too. There's a big difference between venting to a friend or something vs disparaging your partner to a group of people let alone a public space. Super trashy.

[@HMMELD]

Agree

[@Kiriuu]

Deadass I would rather die then talk shit about my girlfriend. I don’t understand whats the point in dating if you don’t care about them to the point where you talk crap????? Talking about this on KZbin for the world to see is humiliating as well as disrespectful to the husband. If I knew my girlfriend wasn’t attracted to me I would cry.

[@yawbamoah2217]

What is the name of the tu channel they posted on

[@amberrose4320]

i agree. i have always felt strongly that if you’re in a healthy relationship, you should only be building your significant other up publicly. of course we all need to vent at times, but those are things you should not share publicly - you share them with trusted loved ones who know that your significant other has a good heart and treats you well; people who understand that you’re just having a frustrating moment and will not hold it against your significant other.

[@LipSyncLover]

sooooo trashy. i ended up internally hating a coworker just because of how shitty she was to her partner.

[@jordans2177]

Due to past experiences, I’m an absolute stickler when it comes to having that initial physical attraction. Any artificial attraction you manage to drum up through emotional connection will never last. You end up unfulfilled and he ends up destroyed emotionally. Never again

[@bananabrain2996]

Same! I'm reluctant to go on emotional connection alone because that can come out of loneliness and end up very one sided

[@bludaizee24]

After nearly 20 years my husband can still get me instantly flustered from across the room with just a word & a look. We're still so attracted to each other. I can't imagine these women's marriages even lasting 20 years. Nevermind being attracted or even liking each other. They remind me of a line from an old song "She ain't pretty she just looks that way."

[@mmalove98]

This made me cry

[@UlexiteTVStoneLexite]

Lol cute. My husband and I have been together for 16 years and yeah, same thing.

[@jerombe352]

That is so wholesome and I love it

[@kelliemorris84]

Together 23 years and married for 17…(started dating at 14 and 16) and I still have the same spark I did when I was a teenager. My husband feels the same way.

[@c2e.7877]

I think they will stay together for quite some time, you know religion, divorce being a sin etc. Ok but your marriage is adorable, much love to you and your husband. To many more special moments like these, as little as they may seem.

[@erin-shhmerin3704]

If I had heard my husband say he wasn't attracted to me on our wedding day and that he had to eventually force it, that would TOTALLY change the dynamic of my marriage for the worst.

[@livingmorganism]

I had a friend growing up that developed a crush on me. He was a really really good friend, super kind, generous, we shared a lot of the same interests. I tried dating him for a little while when he came clean about his feelings, but no matter how hard I tried I couldn't make myself be attracted to him. Every time he got close I just felt super uncomfortable and gross. We dated on and off for a while because I was so confused, every time we were friends I felt like we could try more, but every time I tried I just couldn't. Physical attraction just can't be forced.

[@HMMELD]

Quite true. I had a friend like that too, not growing up but later on. Very similar feelings - we both finally resigned to being just friends - although very good friends - the best friend I ever had. But it just didn't work romantically b/c of those same exact feelings you had about physical attraction. It cannot be forced or faked - it's either there or it isn't.

[@xSwordLilyx]

I had the same experience but he took me to the movies not on a date and then tried to kiss me. No. Not friends anymore.

[@hidden_jem_]

Just ended a two year relationship with the same issue. To be fair I have had a lot of sexual trauma that confused me so it took me a long time to admit it just wasnt working, especially when he admitted he really wanted me to go back to therapy to fix said issues. Yeah, no. I'm going to go for myself. Not to be more sexually active with you. We are still good friends now

[@_plantlife]

@Niphyra yup and the fact that media likes to push it too like how many "romantic" movies always push childhood friend into lover. brain washing everone ,like if it worked out for you cool but then their would be others telling you that you should cause your such good friends and i would always say repeatedly that we are friends and nothing more, this way of thinking has ruin so many friendships.

[@UnCreativeBeliever]

I would NEVER believe my spouse was attracted to me (no matter how much they tried to convince me or not) if I heard my spouse say this, there is NO going back

[@saynotohookups]

Yes!

[@anngladstone9130]

They really give off the vibe that being married is more important than who you're married to. How sad.

[@Eiuol81853]

I wonder if how they were raised in the Church affects their lack of seeing the importance of attraction. It's like they got married out of moral/social obligation to their family and social circle rather than out of emotional/physical attachment to their spouses. They hit a certain age (I believe Bethany didn't get married until her late 20s), they wanted to have sex, so they found an eligible bachelor and got married to do the screw. I think all of the laughing and giggling has a lot to do with how romance, marriage, and sex is discussed and handled in Evangelical circles. These are grown women talking about not being attracted to their SO/husband like teenagers in a high school cafeteria. The video has over 1,500 dislikes, btw.

[@elmoworld850]

I think that being raised in those circles breeds you to be so desperate. That doesn't excuse her behavior, but it explains it. I remembered that she even said that she is relieved that she got married before age 30 because she thought that she was going to be alone forever.

[@Thi-Sen]

@@elmoworld850 Exactly! Back when I was a teenager in church, my Sunday school teacher straight up told me that I was supposed to feel desperate so that the perfect guy could “save me”.

[@Keish03]

When I was in highschool I started dating the first guy who was into me. Literally. I was NOT attracted to him in the least but my friends pushed and said that it didnt matter bc I would "grow to love him" and that it was better than being alone 🙄. I dumped him 2 weeks into the "relationship" because I decided I would rather be alone than be w someone I wasnt into. Not to mention it felt so shitty to lead him on. My friend also proceeded to date the first guy who showed interest on her. She was not attracted, so she cheated on him for years. I continuously asked told her to break up with him bc cheating is gross....she said she was not gonna miss out on a "husband material" guy just cause she wasnt into him and that she refused to be alone. Yup..... Gross

[@cookiemocher388]

Dam hope everyone's doing good now, or at least out of that situation

[@Keish03]

@@cookiemocher388 I haven't seen her in years and we graduated in 2007 😅 but I know she dated him all through college. Dont know if they broke up or not. Me on the other hand, am happily married to my husband who I actually find attractive 😀

[@sofiamaran8566]

Had a very similar thing happen to me when I was in high school. There was this guy who was into me and I didn't like him at all, but my friends pushed me to give him "at least a chance" bc according to them "it doesn't matter if you don't like him, you can just date him for a while to get more experienced and to improve your self-esteem!". I flat out refused to play that kind of games and I felt bad for such a long time, it literally took me years to realize how (unfortunately) common this sort of thing is... I also later found out that the main reason they were being so pushy was bc one of them had set her sights on a guy I also had a crush on and she wanted me out of the way to pursue him, but that's another story lmao

[@UlexiteTVStoneLexite]

Damn your friend was terrible to you and that guy

[@Keish03]

@@UlexiteTVStoneLexite yeah, we didnt remain friends for too much longer. She was a compulsive liar and Im starting to believe she was a Narcissist 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@ginao6810]

This is the problem when you’re part of a culture that doesn’t do male/female friendships. The only way to know a man is as your husband. They They have said publicly that they believe male/female friendships to be “inappropriate”. They gave the example of one of the sisters was on a church planning committee with a male friend and she added her husband into their text chain and emails so that he knew nothing inappropriate was going on. That sounds so patronising and untrusting to me. Way to miss out on so many enriching friendships. I adore my guy friends they add so much to my life (and I hope I add to theirs).

[@UlexiteTVStoneLexite]

There is it difference between being attractive and having attraction towards a person. A person can be attractive without being a supermodel.

[@ireneswelt]

💯

[@S.J.Vanderwood]

Yes, absolutely!

[@loryb1040]

Takes me back to my internship I did at pathology when I was 15 And the lab technicians who were all women casually talked about how they wouldn't have thought they'd ever get married to their current husband's because they're not that good looking. I specifically remember this one lady who said she gave him a chance because she was bored and went for him because he'll appreciate her more since she's out of his league ... And the others agreeeeed Like what??

[@misslicorice]

I think they're trying to say, "Don't marry someone SOOOOOO ugly that your kids will be ugly! But you definitely don't need to be sexually attracted to your partner as a woman because who cares about your enjoyment as long as he's a good Christian man who wants to marry you!" They keep contradicting themselves because they can't come right out and say that. 😂 They somehow manage to be both mean and yet at the same time tell women they aren't allowed to have standards.

[@neptunegrl3425]

I don't agree that all ugly people have ugly kids though. My parents were never that attractive and some people say my youngest sister is adorable. My dad waited awhile and had a third child with his second wife. It all depends on how healthy the parents both were not just that the father be attractive. Attractive doesn't always equal healthy but I still think women deserve to have a choice on who they date too attractive or not its still a personal choice.

[@Gabster1990]

I know an ugly woman with a good looking husband and their kids are definitely not ugly.

[@Gabster1990]

For me at least I have been deeply attracted to plain looking men and felt meh towards men who were considered good looking by society standards.

[@saynotohookups]

@@neptunegrl3425 Exactly. It is a personal choice.

[@Damsel_in_This_Dress]

Their entire 'ministry' is full of contradictions. They babble on and on about how girls shouldn't be 'guy obsessed' but then that's all they talk about. They post vids about how your single status shouldn't define you as a woman, and how there is more to life than wanting to be married, when they are completely obsessed with being married. I'm exhausted after watching a few minutes of their vids. I don't know how anyone can take them seriously.

[@slayne7675]

I literally used to be the same. I’d force myself to like men just because he was a half-decent guy and my friends thought he was attractive. I’m also…a lesbian😭

[@GaaraJunkie]

This was triggering because my mother tried to force me into an arranged marriage to a guy that wants me to ‘change my ways if I am to marry him’ (put on a scarf, speak less English, and remove my tattoos & piercings) She said that this man will be my way to heaven if I obey him and bear his children I don’t want kids and I wasn’t attracted to his demanding pompous a$s either For 3 weeks, she called me an abnormal defect and a loser that is fu*king a demon, to wear me down to say “yes”, then called me a transsexual lesbian and sent me to a psychologist for conversion therapy… I’m a straight college girl I need to graduate and get out

[@missmaddy]

I hope you get out of that abusing environment! 🤍🤍🤍 Stay strong and true to yourself!

[@EpicKate]

That is serious abuse. I hope you can escape soon. I'm so sorry you aren't being treated with the love and respect you deserve.

[@Earthling108]

Islam? I’m sorry dude. I know what that feels like

[@dutchik5107]

Ah yes. Because it is easy to remove your tattoos. You really need to get out. She sounds like a psycho. How are you a "transsexual" for not being attracted to someone. And how would you then be a lesbian? You'd be straight.

[@talloncusack]

I’m so sorry, I hope you get away from her and get to live your life on your own terms

[@boopdot9106]

as someone who tried to force attraction in a long term relationship... it's absolutely miserable. The amount of guilt and pressure you put on yourself, just because you know they're a good person and do love them to an extent... yeah no, do not, it's terrible for everybody involved

[@adamn7777]

Arguably a small nitpick but one of them says "by the world's standards" as if what's attractive is the same around the world. While I haven't seen this experiment done for men I have seen a couple experiments where editors from a bunch of different countries around the world were told to edit a photo of a woman to make her look beautiful by your country's standards and no 2 countries had the same picture at the end

[@RosalindPeters]

I get what you mean, but I think in this sense, they mean ‘the World’… Christian lingo for ‘sinners’. I.e. “be in the World but not of the World”

[@lisawarsh-chartier9473]

I heard that loud and clear too. What a silly thing she said, " by the world's standards ". She means to say, my high school's standards. Or my standards.

[@jamirose2342]

So I saw that also and I learned an interesting study done about what men find attractive So according to that when men see a woman who they find attractive and if she makes eye contact with him it boosts his dopamine so there is like a magnet that makes him feel good about himself. But he feels an equal amount of dopamine if she sees a woman who he doesn’t think is attractive and she avoids eye contact with them… funny.

[@adamn7777]

@@Username-eq7fh It was an article elsewhere. I don't use buzzfeed

[@fallenbee]

@@RosalindPeters to me it sounded like they were talking about gay people because people with their thought process believe gay people don't have romantic feelings and their relationships are just sex and sexual feelings- but again they could be hinting to millions of different things.

[@beththedarkmage3359]

"You cannot start a relationship without physical attraction" My demisexual ass in a relationship of three years: Yes, but also no

[@freethinker3161]

I genuinely think I might leave if my wife humiliated me publicly like that.

[@salemsmith777]

My mom always talks about other people’s relationships and “relationship checks”. She says the whole “she is way too good looking for him idk why they are together”. And every couple she meets she has to say “idk I wouldn’t put them together”. She’s obsessed with relationships and making it seem like hers is perfect. When I told my mom about this guy I dated and how sweet he was to me she was like kinda insinuated that she felt as if it “wasn’t fare that I found a guy that treated me nicer than how her boyfriends/husband have”. I am currently saving to move out.

[@claraficati0n]

this is so funny to me cus i also didn't think any man i was with was attractive and then i realized oh that's just cus i'm lesbian

[@WrenBird449]

Ah, the days of "the only guys I find attractive are the ones that look indiscernibly feminine" and "she's so beautiful, I can't stop thinking about her, I want to be her best friend" before I realized...

[@mindajane]

That's me lol

[@Emilyweasel2023]

Me too, I didn’t work it out for the longest time that I really fancy women.

[@nikkimclay5474]

the guy I married at 40 was the man I always knew I would marry although he is extremely attractive I thought he was too quiet for me, so after meeting him at 21 I ran away ! Turns out we are soul mates & his kindness is what wins me over as I turned out to be chronically ill. These girls are mean.

[@starryserenades]

This is so weird. Like, there’s several ways they could have said their statements a little differently and made their points bearable: “I’m not sexually attracted to my husband” “I’m not romantically attracted to my husband” “My husband isn’t conventionally attractive” “Physical attraction was not the first thing that drew me to my husband” “Love at first sight isn’t always the case” And so on. But, instead, what it sounds like some weird confession of finding the husband borderline repulsive (at least that’s what the tone sounds like) but dating/marrying him on a dare but learning to tolerate him anyway. It’s the exact vibes of the bullies that dare their friends to ask out the unpopular kid. I think there is a point to be made that the “love at first sight” trope isn’t everyone’s story. And I think they could have made a decent video talking about other kinds of connections are in a relationship. But, like all their content, this is just superficial and comes off catty.

[@debradowner8761]

First 2-3 sentences would still be incredibly hurtful to hear.

[@starryserenades]

@@debradowner8761 they could be - but I still think they’re better than this weird mean girls video they made.

[@debradowner8761]

@@starryserenadesMentioning those things on a public platform period is incredibly hurtful for a spouse to hear. I would be crushed to hear that in person, let alone hear it through a youtube video.

[@starryserenades]

@@debradowner8761 honestly, a decent person would have talked to their spouse about the commentary first (since it was about them) and worked on a better script. But, in terms of KZbin algorithm, if they needed a clickable statement those would have been better. Not good. But better.

[@safala]

Is she attracted to him now? Because if so, she could've said "I got attracted to my husband only after we got married." It wouldn't be a good advice (marry even if you don't feel the attraction), but at least it wouldn't be hurtful to the husband. And it would still be true. She could've also said "when we got married I wasn't as attracted to him as I am now/ I wasn't attracted to him but his so and so qualities made me realize he was the guy for me." These aren't good either but they are FAR better than what was said.

[@sylvia1797]

they're claiming hollywood teaches people it's all about physical attraction, but in literally every other rom com the male romantic lead starts out dating some really hot woman whom he breaks up with at the end of the movie because he realizes they have nothing in common aside from attraction and then gets together with the female lead whom he actually connects with. like, it's literally the opposite message of what they're saying it is??

[@Rose122291]

I would never in a million years go on the internet and say that I wasn’t attracted to my fiancé. She literally just admitted she married him so she wouldn’t be alone. I don’t think looks are everything in a relationship but you do need to have a spark between you to make it work. I feel terrible for their husbands.

[@ireneswelt]

Either you marry someone for their looks or not to be alone?? Okkkaaayyy?? Maybe she knew what a great man he was and loved him for this?

[@anonomous8649]

@@ireneswelt There needs to be a compromise with the two. They were essentially just saying that if you want a life partner, choose wisely so that life will be more fun and less miserable (i.e. feeling obligated to stay with someone you don't love and aren't attracted to). Don't just marry on a whim or based on a rush to be with someone or anyone. And physical/emotional attraction does kinda play a huge role in all that

[@SMP1993]

@@ireneswelt If you’re not attracted to the person you’ll share a bed with, you’re going to be miserable in your marriage and make your partner miserable as well. To be entirely blunt, I would never marry anyone who I didn’t want to look at naked and have a lot of sex with. Does that mean that’s the only thing you base a marriage on? No. Of course I want to enjoy their company and enjoy having conversations and hanging out with them fully clothed as well. But the idea that you can like a person’s personality and intellect without the physical element and have a happy marriage is one of the more damaging consequences of modern day Christianity.

[@kittytthatkatty]

the wine you’re drinking is from where i studied abroad!!! so cool!

[@emilyk3825]

Isn’t this just so giggly and relatable?! 😬 This is a weird thing people do. Like “checked all the boxes, so I guess this guy wins regardless if I’m even interested in him!” What kind of cringe..

[@Nightfighter82]

And then she treats him like he owes her something for being with him.

[@graceking9723]

i was raised in a fundamentalist christian community and this is really how young women are subconsciously trained to find someone. i got out thankfully but looking at stuff like this makes me feel so bad for these girls

[@graceking9723]

but worse for their husbands like good grief

[@leahnibert3849]

The AUDACITY of these girls, presenting themselves to be loving, good Christians, while the one is publicly disrespecting her own husband and they're both making a big joke out of it... and also have they seen themselves? That video was so awful. They both should be ashamed of themselves.

[@nightlyoko626]

I feel so bad for her husband imagine hearing her say she didn’t love you. If I’d heard this I’d divorce her immediately

[@HMMELD]

I assume they both got that worked out - their mutual dislike of each other - before she made the video.

[@ireneswelt]

She didn't say that.

[@leahnibert3849]

Right! This shows she has no respect for her husband. It's disgusting.

[@AdAstraPerAspera137]

"You can cultivate that when you're married." Ummmmm no. Absolutely not. Nope. Hell no. That's not good for your psyche or his. No one should force anything onto themselves or their partners in a relationship before or during a marriage. I'm a Christian too and I believe in the core value of treat others the way you want to be treated. If the tables were turned, she probably wouldn't be so committed to what nonsense she's spouting. God does not want us to force attraction or manipulate ourselves into unsatisfactory relationships.

[@alexandracenuse9419]

I wasn't entirely physically into my husband, but when we talked on the first date I just... He instantly became attractive lol🤣 so yeah, attraction is important, if not physical, at least mental.

[@danielllleX]

Fellow sapio-sexual here and true story!

[@AliviaHaven]

Idk why but it made my little Tennessee heart happy when you said bless his heart 😂😂😂

[@ripley2995]

The wine sip of silence after reading Bethany’s IG post… I feel like I was thinking the same thing as you girl 😂

[@p0t.n00dle4]

As someone on the ace spectrum, I tend to experience attraction differently to a lot of the people I know. Generally most of my friends are immediately attracted to their partners, they meet with the purpose of dating and that's the foundation of the relationship. For me attraction takes time to develop, usually, the people I end up being attracted to are friends I've known for years and years, who I wasn't initially attracted to. I'm not sure why I am this way, but my best running theory is that I need to form a strong connection with someone before i develop physical attraction to them.

[@JohnnyEnigma]

This video from Girl Defined is gross. In fact, this is making Paul and Morgan EVEN BETTER in my eyes. So they are the winners!

[@extrasagrada]

say what you will, but Morgan gave up her entire personality for that D lol so she is definitely into him

[@spiceupyourafterlife]

Christ, at least Paul and Morgan actually *LIKE* each other!

[@philippafranceshirst]

Right? You can really tell how much Paul & Morgan love each other and how attracted they are to each other 5 years into their marriage

[@slashandbones13]

Regardless of any disagreement you might have with their social views, you can tell they are very compatible as people.

[@lisawise4204]

While I disagree with the vast majority of what Paul and Morgan say on their videos, I agree they clearly enjoy being with each other. And further, you can tell how excited Paul is that they’re having a baby, which is something they’ve both wanted for some time. He seems very supportive of her as much as they have a complementarian relationship. I can’t imagine Morgan coming in her channel and saying she wasn’t attracted to Paul (even though in one video, she admitted that she found him a bit weird when they first met).

[@cherrypie789]

Hi Jaclyn. Loved everything you said in this video! 💪 As a devout Catholic woman, I can't stand those two women. I hate that they are using "christianity" in such a wrong way. Despicable. They are utterly delusional and cringeworthy. Anyways, great video on your part girl!

[@Slipknotyk06]

The way these ladies talked about their dudes was disheartening for someone that has been exactly where those guys were. It's fucking abusive. And they were so nonchalant and lighthearted about how horrible they were being that you can tell attempts to hold them accountable would fail. They don't deserve what they have.

[@talloncusack]

Yep, it can basically just obliterate a person’s self esteem :(

[@amelialacey6281]

I’m at the i won’t be attracted to anyone ever again stage rn 😂 felt it when u said that

[@tsukikage]

I want everyone to be clear that A) there are many types of attraction (aesthetic, sensual, romantic, platonic, sexual, etc.), and B) even talking about just one of these types, not finding someone specifically attractive isn't the same as finding them UNATTRACTIVE (i.e., you may find them essentially neutral rather than bad looking). I've definitely started dating people I found aesthetically neutral at the beginning, and I became quite sensually attracted to them the more I dated them. (Note that I am asexual.) I'm happy to enter into a relationship with someone I'm romantically attracted to as long as I'm not sensually turned off by them, though being sensually attracted from the beginning is nice. I know I'll develop a sensual attraction as time passes.

[@SpecialBlanket]

Same.

[@katiesnider3137]

@Haley Clyburn Same. My partner was someone who I had developed a strong bond with before I started feeling physically attracted to them first.

[@MrBuns-yi2hk]

Jesus this is terrible. If my partner told me, no, made a video talking about how they don't at all find me attractive I would be devestated.

[@Apoplectic_Spock]

"Yeah, just cultivate the attraction AFTER you're married!" 🤣 Well, good luck with that!

[@marina-qt4qh]

this is genuinely such a dangerous message to ingrain into women. i myself, have struggled and continue to struggle with my identity as a lesbian because i have always tried to "give men a chance" even if there wasnt attraction at all on my part, simply because i was told something could be born out of it. Whether you are a lesbian or not, if you arent attracted to a man that is pursuing you, u dont have to reconsider giving him a chance because he seems to be a nice person, we dont owe men who are atractted to us a relationship!

[@naruarthur]

i understand "giving a chance" to someone you are not attracted too, but going all the way to marriage? that is a recipe for disaster you can not be attracted by appearance, but you should be attracted by something else, anything else, before start a relationship

[@nanamiharuka3269]

the lack of emotional and just general maturity and self-reflection is astonishing…I mean even I as a 19 year old I realized that someone might be very “attractive” objectively (like have all the traits you like in a person) but if there is not physical attraction or “butterflies” whatever you call it then that’s just lying to yourself and that person and might end up hurting that person because you’re actually forcing it…

[@KreeZafi]

Of course attraction is something that can grow over time, because often you're not just attracted to someone's physical form but you're attracted to them as a person. But like Jaclyn says, you shouldn't get into a relationship BEFORE feeling any attraction to the person and just hope it comes later!

[@Olivetree80]

Yeah seriously, that's not how that works, you can't force it or expect it to happen. I understand that experience, being romantically into someone but not sexually attracted to them, when you're not asexual, sucks. But for the sake of the other person and yourself, you just have to let it go. People get into relationships for weird reasons though.

[@ReggyCupcake]

“You do you. And you’ll just only be doing you.” When I tell you that I laughed way too hard at this 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@indigothecat]

Who knows, maybe one day they will realize that they were meant to enter the Sapphic Tradition and stop this foolish charade.

[@JulietteVeronica1201]

That's what I'm thinking

[@tygirwulf]

Looks like they took that advice of not losing control of yourself and having sex before marriage all the way to "make sure you're not tempted to ever have sex."

[@SunBloomSketch0831]

My boy friend and I were best friends for a year before we started dating, and at the time, I never thought I'd be attracted to him. He was different than the guys I normally dated (arrogant, condescending douchebags, lol) and I just wasn't mature enough or therefore ready to appreciate that, honestly. I've always been very attracted to the jocky, cocky "pretty" boys, and although my boy friend is attractive, he just didn't fit what I was drawn to back then. After a year of really getting to know each other and growing so close as best friends, that spark ignited and we've been together for almost 4 years 😊 best relationship either one of us has ever been in 😊

[@watbebe]

Although that sounds nice, what you're saying is sort of contradictory. You say he's attractive but you didn't find him attractive, those are two opposing statements. You weren't attracted to him (as in had no special feelings at the time), but still thought he was attractive that's different.

[@spiritedsodamnfaraway]

@@watbebe I don't think so, seeing if someone is conventionally attractive doesn't mean you will/won't be attracted to them personally. "I never thought I'd be attracted to him" doesn't mean *he's not attractive*, does it

[@watbebe]

@@spiritedsodamnfaraway It's been edited, and that is not what I said.

[@spiritedsodamnfaraway]

@@watbebe You said that Otter wasn't attracted to him and he was attractive are opposig statements, I'm purely saying they don't have to be. That's all.

[@Delihlah]

@@watbebe hm, true. You're not wrong. I think some of my friends are very attractive (to my standards) but I am not attracted to any of them/wouldn't date them. So I can see what you're saying.

[@Aiden-zl4ht]

I would straight up cry and have extreme psychological damage if my bf ever said that about me.

[@katrinakeith8066]

Damn, I’d feel like shit about myself if I was that woman’s husband 😔

[@bookwormdownunder]

I almost married someone I was NOT attracted to. Dodged a bullet

[@fruitanimura3960]

i think this mindset (meaning girl defined's mindset) comes from conflating sexual and romantic attraction tbh. i'm demisexual, so i'm never sexually attracted to someone on first glance, but i sure as hell can appreciate some good looks... more often than not, i see a cute person and i just want to kiss them, hold their hand, or simply get to know them. attraction doesnt always mean sexually, hell, you can be attracted to your friends and desire nothing more than to hang out with them

[@TheKatarinaGiselle]

It’s not only miserable to force a relationship with somebody that you are not attracted to, it’s immature and completely irresponsible and selfish. Their behavior absolutely disgusts me! They shouldn’t be an influence on anybody, let alone young indoctrinated girls and young women.

[@jaimiesmith9502]

I would love to be a fly on the wall when her husband and his family hears all this shit she’s saying. I will never understand SMH 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@everything_is_illuminated619]

It's also very upsetting to consider that they also believe sh*t like you should give yourself joyfully to your husband to meet his needs and I'm no expert but I'd imagine forcing yourself to have sex with someone you arent attracted to probably does something weird to the psyche.

[@ceegee5287]

Yea finally a video on this! They’re both so mean lol what was the point of their video?!

[@magzdilluh]

These grown assed women talk and act like teenagers and it's sad and unnerving. I think Bethy and Kirsten have some deep, DEEP seated resentment over their lot in life and aren't allowed to voice why they're so unsatisfied in their lives and it comes out in these strangely blatant passive aggressive Insta reels

[@DeathPetalArt]

I actually always wondered why a conventionally "beautiful" girl married such an average guy, but I assumed he was just her type somehow. NOPE 😑 She sees him the exact same way. Cruel & pathetic.

[@Earthling108]

Which one. The older one definitely got an attractive one, but to each their own

[@dutchik5107]

Sometimes yeah. Sometimes don't give a shit. Sometimes they are just brainwashed

[@tashak.4186]

Beautiful is a stretch. She's a 3 out of 10 at best, very average looking. If she had a better personality she might get to a 5.

[@hennybecca]

I can't find words for how disgusting and heartbreaking this would be for a partner or spouse to hear. I've never heard anyone say something so hurtful, so publicly, and in such a personal way. And for their conversation to be so light-hearted; just a silly, giggly few minutes instead of a quieter more reflective tone with more respect for other people and their feelings? They never fail to disgust and/or make me feel truly sad. And they think their beliefs are rooted in love.

[@ABrainlessThot]

5:20 “it should never come out of your mouth that someone is ‘too attractive’ for someone else” YES YES AND YES. So often I hear that and I’m like “??? Why do YOU care who I’M attracted to just because you think they’re not attractive?” Like okay?

[@wannabehuman]

Not only that but also, attraction isn’t usually based just on looks, and it can grow as you get to know someone. So you can’t really tell anything from across a room.

[@AlleyBetwixt]

I'm also on the asexual spectrum (saw some other comments) and never experience physical attraction to new people/strangers. That only comes if I admire their non-physical traits as I get to know them. So I'd need to develop a long-term friendship with someone before I feel more 'romantic' or physical attraction to them. The completely unimaginable thing is getting married to someone before that has happened. The 'oh, the attraction can come as I get to know them AFTER getting married' idea is a very patriarchal arranged marriage type of thing. Not that that never works, but it's an extremely cynical way to start a relationship. Yikes.

[@br00talcabbage64]

When people think they’re so influential that they are above their own lives looking down or that the privacy of those they know is consequential to what they as “influencers” find important to share.

[@jessicacharlton7347]

This was so mean! I know that sometimes people can become attracted to someone after getting to know them. It would still be really mean to tell a bunch of people online that you originally didn't think your partner was attractive. What they did was even worse then that. She told a bunch of people online that she looked at her husband on her wedding day and told her sister, "I'm not attracted to him at all but here I go!". That's just cruel! If I saw a KZbin video of my husband laughing about the fact that he told his brother that he wasn't attracted to me at our wedding, I would feel betrayed and humiliated!

[@SquishyMain]

Is their channel dying? Seems like they are getting less views, comments, and likes. Rightfully so tho.

[@maybel5012]

what are they sitting on the bed for? they are totally asking for it LOL

[@The_McLaughlin]

I mean... Im asexual... and have never experienced physical attraction...with anyone ever. However there are other forms of attraction outside of the physical realm and I probably wouldn't be in a relationship with someone without another form of attraction such as a romantic attraction. So I partially agree, it's shity to say your not attracted at all to the person you're about to marry as you walk down the aisle. However I wouldn't say that a physical sexual attraction is needed to start a relationship... cuz there are people out there myself included who just don't experience that and to say it's absolutely needed for a relationship would discount every single ace person in a relationship... now it might make it harder to get in one as an ace person but I wouldn't say it's 100% necessary for someone to enter a relationship or for that relationship to work out.

[@CosmicLeoSpirit]

Holy cow! I was in tears and overwhelmed with happiness and excitement with my husband on my wedding day! I couldn't imagine feeling like, oh boy "this guy," and then uploading those feelings on social media! D: . These girls are painfully shallow.

[@bluecannibaleyes]

Shallow for actually loving someone for their personality instead of their looks? LMAO

[@CosmicLeoSpirit]

@@bluecannibaleyes More for making fun of their looks on their wedding day.

[@bluecannibaleyes]

@@CosmicLeoSpirit They didn’t do that but whatever.

[@gooieglopp]

"I didn't even MEET my husband before we got married"

[@weloveTM123]

As a Christian, I agree with Jaclyn on this. Girl Defined are a huge CRINGE

[@SMRCEC]

They come across as the bad Christians the ones who judge others and act like they’re better than others. Same as the ones who use bless you as a weapon

[@weloveTM123]

@@SMRCEC Yes, they are the ones that Christ warns us to watch out for as "wolves in sheep's clothing."

[@brookelynshaw9738]

As a wine nerd, I love watching Jaclyn's journey as her wine palette has changed over time. When they let me I'm somewhat of a human bright cellars for my colleagues, and I havent tried the subscription, but this makes me happy.

[@johnhavel7685]

I’ve dealt with an unrequited love experience where I loved this girl who I was friends with with all my heart it completely changed my world but she did not feel the same she just wasn’t attracted to me like that after knowing me for a couple years. It was probably the most painful experience I’ve had yet and on top of that we are no longer friends which was a whole other level of hurt. I can’t even imagine getting married and finding out my wife never had any attraction towards me. That sounds like a recipe for a miserable marriage.

[@dwentlandt1022]

My older sister use to be very beautiful. When she was 20 she was supposed to start modeling for a small company. She had been with them for 3 months and had many pictures taken by them. They were going to be releasing a catalog within 3 month at that point. The photographer walked outside to smoke and overheard her being really horrible to someone but didn’t see who. He went in and told the “boss” what he heard and they said let it go because they didn’t know what was going on. Until the next day when they were confronted by the parents of the child my sister was being horrible to. They saw cameras outside. Like security cameras and they were asked to review the video. That’s when they fired my sister, blacklisted her with as many companies as they could, because they saw her cussing at, threatening, and calling a 11 year old boy. She tried to get unemployment on the company but lost when all the facts were brought to light. It doesn’t matter how beautiful someone is on the outside. It’s what’s in their heart that makes someone beautiful. Just an add on, my sister is 51, anorexic, drug addict that lost all her external beauty 20 years ago. She looks exactly as ugly as her heart is. But damn, why marry someone you have no attraction to? There’s more than physical you can be attracted to. Heart, mind, humor, no point in marriage if there’s no attraction. That’s just cruelty to the other person.

[@toreason8146]

Damn you put your sister on blast