I’m not looking for a soulmate…at least not the romanticized version of one!

I stumbled upon one of my older poems titled ‘Song For Soulmate’, from 2009 or so, and realized I’d changed my mind about the idea of a life partner.
There’s a few soul connections (if we believe on them) that we can seek, pursue or experience:
Soulmates,
Soul crossing,
Soul Ties,
Twin Flame…
I now find myself saying, what’s really important is stability, compatibility, love and other values/priorities. Without the element of ‘soulmate’ necessarily being a part of it all.
“Once you have a partner who gives you that sense of ease and comfort, try not to obsess over whether they fit every characteristic you imagined your partner would have. Are they not as tall as you imagined? Ignore it. Do they come from a different kind of family background? Talk it through.”
“You may find that building a team-like relationship to face life’s challenges feels very much like the soulmate you have been seeking. The difference is that you formed it rather than found it.” (Psychology Today).
I know relationships are very layered and complex; so consider this video one version of one angle 😀
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[@nyarango85]

This woman's voice...damn. Why is she NOT on radio?

[@k3ygvrv]

Lol who listens to radio nowadays?

[@nyarango85]

@@k3ygvrv Radio has gone online inform of podcasts

[@joysitati]

She was on TV before

[@royalusala8527]

Just like Jada, Janet, many of us... We many times become more aware and wiser after failed relationships that to be honest were chosen majorly due to looks/height/status... Time teaches us what really are those things that are essential and will last! Unfortunately, that is usually after some dodgy substandard choices that failed!

[@mimoojoyce]

True, this is all me

[@WanjiruMuya]

Nowadays soulmates we are finding them when they've got no soul😂😭. I love these segment Janet❤️ Mos voice😩😍

[@annegachanja3468]

😂

[@norahmutisya1615]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣wow

[@dace254vevo8]

Whoever will read this... Kindly know that what we humans are searching for, cannot be obtained by anything or anyone in this world. genuinely know God for yourself, that helps you pursue everything you desire but knowing haita ku satisfy... This is not colony crap passed down to us, it literally took me 25 years of trying so many unnecessary things to know that... this knowledge helps one know when to stop or catch themselves when they are just about to place their complete satisfaction on anything... blessings beautiful people...

[@TSanya98]

You talk and the whole room is quiet 🔥🔥🔥

[@victorkirui5090]

You are really talking sense Janet!!

[@gracenduta8382]

why do we always like/ try comprehending about relationship/ marriage, outside the owner of this institutions, which is God our creator, who knows you inside out, and your God ordained spouse inside out ... There is true happiness in Goldly courtship then marriage..when you know this committement is approved by God, for God, then you settle, knowing there is a cover..

[@diyside]

It's the western way of looking at things and it never brings joy just more confusion.

[@rogath_silayo]

@@diyside The African way is polygamy which is the worst..

[@diyside]

@@rogath_silayo it was in the past but not common now at least where I come from

[@taji2022]

In my opinion, what does not work for someone will be framed as non existent or bad.....but the same same thing works for others and in our context, they have real soul mates.....so you are right when you call it 'your angle' because its from your end and not someone elses....

[@Joyful-gu5bj]

Self love is the most important n beautiful thing before you look for your soul mate.

[@gma765]

My Sister from another Mother, my role model, my mentor my forever Girl.. I really learn a lot from you Janet

[@hamisisalmah8764]

Whatever you are saying is very true you are talking from experience that comes with growing older that passionate love is not sustainable

[@sugarhomelycuisines]

Soulmate can be your mother, child, dad, sister, brother, friend... Not necessarily your wife/husband /patner

[@njerimwashegwa1768]

Consider letting go of the person you couldn’t do life with

[@k3ygvrv]

Jada said that Pac wasn't her romantic partner, he was her very good friend who understood her who never wanted any sexual things from her. She even tried to make him kiss her but he refused. The reason she loves him is bc men like those are rare in a woman's life that's why she always ranks him highly. About soulmates, i think this term refers to the person who ticks all of your boxes or majority of them. Which if we're going tbh isn't going to cross your path easily, so you'd rather go for a partner who you co exist well with.

[@dorinelilian4360]

Wow.....Jada as a reference point smh!!!

[@k3ygvrv]

@@dorinelilian4360 I'm just pointing out sth that was said in the episode lol

[@itsjuliam]

The common definition of soul mates has always been MY definition of fantasy. (Don't come for me, y'all 😬) My own definition of a soul mate is a partner who (in addition to compatability etc) sees the best in me + the excuses I make not to reach for my higher self. This person will call me out (of complacency) & journey with me. Applies vice versa.

[@gracenyawira6120]

And we also have to accept the fact that I may not be the soulmate to my choice of life partner

[@Janice-sd7hl]

Ilove tis gal,since KTN ,wish yu well

[@padamar1]

Nice topic .... Difficult at the same time....Soulmate very rare if I can compare; a soulmate is like the rare type of blood group we find among us , for example blood group AB- .... dificult to come accros with someone with that type but they exist , 1 for a million......... I wish I could put my comments in French I could illustrate what I have just said.

[@RosyKilele]

You have such beautiful hair❤

[@wabbzykreations]

where did you, julie gichuru, kirigo ng'arwa go to, we could catch up for a brunch soon huh!!

[@mboyaian]

💯

[@hamisisalmah8764]

This is very true soulmates dont exist

[@LloydWaihenya]

@Janet, Im your Soulmate 🙂

[@wanjirungokonyo3028]

I don't know if soulmates exist...

[@kevindrago3404]

shit your still stunning aasf hope you get what you lookin for.

[@anotherintrospekt6596]

Janet umepata?

[@davidw.4524]

You're getting old lady, shinda tu hapo...na hii life you're not guranteed how long you'll live so enjoy it while it lasts. Ukipata jamaa jibambe nobody knows about tomorrow

[@mercykirugu8371]

Must a soul mate be of opposite gender

[@tumwesigyemoses-tu8wk]

Yes