I’m Not Sure if I Can Trust My Boyfriend

[@rajmathew6220]

I'm with John when he says "if you lie about something small, you're going to lie about something huge."

[@SpaQueenRocks]

Trickle-truthing is a bad sign 😒

[@HOLDXSTEEL]

Eh not true

[@sarat9567]

I broke up with a guy over green bean casserole based on this exact sentiment.

[@rajmathew6220]

​@@sarat9567 Can't really tell these days if it's not in person but if that's not sarcasm, thank you for sparing him lol. If it was sarcasm, all I have to say is the message between the words matter, too, and based on John's conversation, I'm pretty sure this statement was said in the context of manipulation, not white/insignificant lies.

[@sydguitar99]

That makes no sense bc there's some small lies you can tell to not hurt someone's feeling vs big lies that can affect someone's whole life

[@nicolejenkins2609]

Run. Run. My evil ex was exactly this. Little lies became huge, constant lies.

[@Roseberrylove]

TRUTH.

[@michellec3349]

“That feeling always comes back” that’s because he already broke the trust. It’s perfectly normal to think he’s going to lie again.

[@phoenixcain3552]

The woman totally fogged when you asked her about her parents. When she says "they showed up in their own parenting way", my alarm bells went off. Would have been good if you probed on that statement. It sounds like it would have fallen like a house of cards

[@jennyjones-tw5hp]

Children of abuse, don’t like to talk about it or even really admit it was as bad as it was. You get crapped on by everyone “they did their best”… even when they are terrible and continue to be terrible.

[@phoenixcain3552]

@@jennyjones-tw5hp yep, this 100% true

[@LeslieStinson]

I was also surprised he didn't probe. What an odd way to phrase your relationship with your parents.

[@BassBwoy3]

Dear People...stop moving in with people you just started dating. Just stop. The person is still a stranger, is not legally committed to you. If things go south, you have no place to escape to.

[@tracym8952]

People move in with strangers all the time as room mates

[@greenAbbot]

This goes for doing everything in a relationship too quickly. getting married before you trust, someone doesn’t provide any magical protection against being lied to either.

[@alluringbliss4165]

When do you move in?

[@andreacomiskey2249]

@@tracym8952they don’t have an intimate relationship with ROOMMATES

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

@@alluringbliss4165ideally after marriage.

[@14elvira14]

Deloney: "He's a liar." Anna: "oohhh myy goshhhh noooo" 😂

[@amber-simoneingram7608]

I literally cackleddddd at thatttt😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@ashley-js5rk]

Run before it gets deeper. The more you’re tethered to him the harder it is to leave. Think logically. Your peace and calm annnd your sanity is more important.

[@karenpollicina8582]

Totally agree with you.

[@dk1828]

I don’t know how you do it, Dr D… I genuinely appreciate your existence 💚

[@heatherheather7107]

He has sewn the seeds of untrustworthiness. The relationship is never the same after. You needed John to confirm your suspicions. I’ve been there. Lying becomes second nature and they don’t see it as harmful. Ever. Move out and count your blessings. Thank you for calling the show because this is way too common. 👍😊

[@rachaelskibbe7899]

I have been in that position and I wish I knew John and his wise words when I first started the relationship. Because he lied about small things and my intuition kept telling me something was going on. Something was going on and I didn't listen a little over 2 years later and I'm heartbroken. Leave while you can before you get in deeper. The lies are only going to get worse.

[@deirdrekiely6187]

You don't need John. Rely on your intuition.

[@Marilyn236]

She sounds incredibly immature, hard to listen to, really.

[@David-wo9un]

Imagine attempting a relationship with her!

[@deirdrekiely6187]

​@@David-wo9un There's no gun to any guys head forcing him to date her!!

[@TheHeartWeCarry]

She sounds very sweet, trusting and hopeful. I hope this experience does not rob her of those wonderful qualities and she can move forward in life with them still intact while adding wisdom.

[@missmlb3842]

When he burns her..this is when the life lesson come. She isn't street smart when it comes to relationships..but she will learn through this experience...then the maturity will come. It's gonna hurt

[@funicon3689]

she needs to grow up

[@thelifeofmaryd.2494]

​@@funicon3689 it's not about growing up. It's about learning from history and she doesn't have much history yet. Did you come out of the womb knowing everything?

[@thelifeofmaryd.2494]

Her problem isn't that she's naive, it's that she doesn't seem to be able to receive wise counsel and criticism. "I don't understand why he lied about something so little." Because he's a liar. "But, why did he lie, though?"

[@jeanlaubenthal698]

@@thelifeofmaryd.2494 …She hooked up with him too soon …believed his lies and he will never respect her.

[@michaelallen1154]

This girl is nuts. Literally headed for serious problems down the road.

[@meghangantt717]

She didn’t even realize that moving in after 6 months was fast? What?! Girl what

[@s.ivainesu]

@@meghangantt717 because it is so 'normal' now, more people cohabitating than married in the west

[@jeromehenry4484]

Caller sounds very immature, like she's in junior high. Why would he lie to her? Because he can. Because he wants to. Because he felt his past relationships were none of her damn business. Because he wanted easy sex from her. It's a long list of why's.

[@Latte-dq1tb]

Exactly. She’s determined to learn the hard way.

[@emilyk.5664]

I don't think she's nuts, but she sounds really naive and immature.

[@sarilorraine573]

Anna, I did the same thing. Run. Run now. Cut your financial losses, ask your parents for help if you need to. This happened to me. The first lies you figure out and then you can’t stop digging, it makes you sick. They never come clean. He never came to me and admitted any of the things … the more I dug the more lies I unconverted. He would say he had a change and realize what’s important but he still would keep things to himself. It’s hard Anna but if he’s going to change , you can’t be there to help him because he will just keep lying and get better at keeping it from you

[@jeanlaubenthal698]

Any lie makes you an accomplice! And a lie gets a lie back. Take it seriously. He does not respect you.

[@jeanlaubenthal698]

She is trying to figure him out…leave him and save your life.

[@amandahamill8903]

I think eventually Delony went “she is going to have to let life teach her”.

[@marylee3206]

Ok had to chime in on this one. Due to trauma response, I lie all the time about stupid things to protect myself from people’s reactions. It’s a survival technique. I’m working on it but I still find it easier sometimes, especially with explosive parents or partners. I don’t lie about big things, I don’t cheat and I’m not a bad person. I bring a lot to the table in relationships. Long story short: sometimes we’re just trying to survive, not harm people

[@Sleepypenguin44]

I'm more bothered by her impulsive decision-making of jumping to living with someone she barely knows etc. and the way she over emphasizes the need to know everything. It's reasonable for someone to say that three months of dating wasn't a relationship to them without needing to explain it further. He could be a liar and a bad guy but there's nothing presented here to support that. We just have someone who jumped too fast and is now backtracking and digging. By her own admission he's not even hiding his phone etc. This all her. Completely her. I don't like people like this who need to dig and dig and dig into every single thing. They don't stay in my life long.

[@madisonandthefarm]

I completely understand, especially if we are people pleasers

[@rachelgooden9981]

I know what you mean

[@dahliaherrod4301]

I get it. I do it too. It's not fair to the other person though and certainly doesn't engender trust. The other people are well within their rights not to trust me. Our responsibility is to work on being people of integrity

[@rocknrollresignation93]

Moving in with someone after only 6 months is insane

[@Ara-xs2vg]

My cousing got married after just 5 months of knowing her boyfriend (they got engaged after just 3 months of knowing each other)

[@dylancalandro5161]

My girlfriend moved in with me after knowing me for a week… we will be together for 3 years in January. Not weird at all. 6 months seems like a long time to me

[@USpatriot741776]

@@dylancalandro5161 That's nuts

[@rachaelskibbe7899]

Her response to John when he said that was insane!!

[@rachaelskibbe7899]

​@@dylancalandro5161is she your fiancee yet?

[@Gotoworkkk]

One year later, she’ll call back. We got married. I still can’t trust him. Things have gotten worse.

[@anaguerrerosholisticwellbe2788]

And then a baby

[@djm322]

Take it from someone who learned the hard way, once a liar, always a liar. Trust your gut, I wish I had.

[@michellelee487]

She’s not going anywhere because she’s so desperate for love. And he knows that.

[@philwill0123]

Thank you. The desperation to cling on. She don't want to admit to friends and family that he's a bust. She put all her hopes and dreams on him. Embarrassment will trap her in the relationship. Also delusion. The idea that he lied, she couldn't cope with it.

[@user-dc5kc4gl5p]

She’s like the first one to go in a horror movie

[@David-wo9un]

😂😂😂

[@deirdrekiely6187]

Best comment of the Day!!

[@Lesobre]

She sounds 13.

[@jwaterlotsof1260]

These kids want to move in and do everything ASAP and it ends badly . I work with a young girl who bought a house with her partner after 12 months of dating . My face made her ask a lot of questions . After 8 months the cracks are apparent . She does everything in the household and he just plays video games and drinks .

[@Bringon-dw8dx]

Not defending this. But at least where I’m from the only way to get on the ladder is in a pair, houses are unaffordable for single people. When you are paying obscene rent every month, paying off some landlords mortgage, people get desperate to buy.

[@annaelisavettavonnedozza9607]

I could see an apt but a HOUSE???

[@deirdrekiely6187]

​@@Bringon-dw8dx You should never buy real estate with someone you're not married to.

[@GwendolynVinson]

Hit 200k today. I'm really grateful for all the knowledge and nuggets you had thrown my way over the last months. Started with 14k in June 2023

[@VipMan-o6j]

A lot of people keeps talking about investments and how investment trade change their lives. I really need to engage myself in someway of earning more income and stop depending on the government...

[@EvelynMercy-l9r]

I've always wanted to trade Crypto for a long time but the volatility in the price has been very confusing to me although I have watched a lot of KZbin videos about it but I still find it hard to understand.😔😔😔

[@EulaliaSantiagoh]

I work at a restaurant here in Houston Texas. Things has been really difficult as I'm a single mom and trying my best to pay bills and take care of my daughters.

[@GwendolynVinson]

Big thanks to Elizabeth Marie Hawley

[@GwendolynVinson]

people are ignorant of profitability in bitcoin investment and that has been the major issues limiting their investment

[@vizualmenace7055]

hits you with the sorry😅 for moving in quick

[@SilverGirlAu]

Why would he lie? Because for some people lying comes more naturally than telling the truth... it's a part of who they are... run lady...

[@anaguerrerosholisticwellbe2788]

I dated a guy who, when asked, he omitted his last relationship. He ended up building an intimate relationship with someone from our group of friends while we were together. He also exhibited controlling tendencies. Lasted 1 month

[@creativegaze]

Six months? Dump him immediately. Move on. And yes, moving in after 6 months is so dumb.

[@florentinaduquin8256]

I’ve been there girl, accept what you are seeing and experiencing. They will downplay it when you call them out, but they LACK integrity and will lie selfishly for their own convenience. It’s true, they think they are smarter than you, please be careful and if he doesn’t fully admit he is wrong and changes and you FEEL better in your gut then you won’t ever feel safe around him.

[@BT-xy5bx]

A young woman doesn’t just move in with a guy after 6 months of dating but then again i have seen girls move in with guys after just a couple of weeks of knowing. She’s done it before. Sounds very naive.

[@DreamAwayLullaby]

1) shouldn’t have move in before marriage 2) shouldn’t have moved in within 6 months. 3) had she waited a year she could’ve found out the lying before being in a vulnerable situation where credit is involved 4) she sounds young and dumb. Sorry. 5) if her parents were that great why did she feel the need to leave them so soon 🤔

[@greenAbbot]

Living with my wife before we got married was one of the best decisions we’ve made. Getting married without living together first doesn’t provide some sort of magic protection against being lied to.

[@warrenbuffet6126]

Wait you think it makes more sense to get married before moving in? That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. Why would you make a life long commitment with someone before you’ve experienced how they live and how you live together. You know that’s completely backwards right?

[@lindsey5365]

I believe that moving in together before marriage is wrong. People here defending it like it’s super strong for the relationship are in for bad news. I knew a couple who lived together 12 years before marriage with 3 kids ended up cheating on each other later. Admit you just can’t handle the thought of marriage so you can just leave when it’s convenient for you when problems come

[@sherryd3299]

Sounds like her parents weren't there for her. She sugar coated that answer too.

[@redhood5264]

​@DreamAwayLullaby some women don't consider themselves cows too 👍🏾

[@Parakeetfriend4215]

Not a person that you can trust. Let him go. There's no relationship without trust.

[@AlorsonDanseX]

What a day America 👀 What a time to be alive...

[@michaelconner1771]

I tend to agree with your sentiment.

[@saucequeen4885]

God Bless America!! Trump for the W!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🇺🇸🙏🏽🫶🏼☀️❤️

[@greenAbbot]

Never thought the day would come we’d have a felon rapist who lied about a stolen election, but never provided a shred of evidence. Never provided a shred of evidence that immigrants were eating dogs, Kept making promises that some amazing healthcare plan that never existed was going to magically appear, Cheated repeatedly on every single one of his wives. What a day.

[@philwill0123]

​@@saucequeen4885you putting god and Trump in the same sentence.... Oh dear. Enjoy your r@pist in chief...

[@Finallyretired2022]

Just a side note he was saying I was with a girl for 3 months, then another girl for 5 months. He’s just hopping from one girl to another as a place to stay. I don’t think he really signs the leases he just let the girl do it.

[@xhaltsalute]

Some people are just liars. They lie about anything and everything. Walk away now. Or hurt like hell for a lot longer.

[@Jarcano8]

She can't Trust him, obviously. As usual Dr. John you are on point. ❤

[@joseamaya697]

I’ve been a person who’s lied in a relationship. I know there’s no excuse for lying but some us grew up with toxic parents. I would get yelled at for being honest and having needs. Yes sometimes I’d lie to my parents so I wouldn’t get hit or yelled at. Those things carried over to my relationships and I’ve realized I did it out of fear id be a disappointment or get yelled at. Some do it because they’re just liers and others because they have stuff to work on. I’m working on it and just wanna be honest and not get punished for making a mistake. Just my 2 cents

[@annareginelli9180]

I like the way he says “Anna”. John is also correct in his advice.

[@deirdrekiely6187]

It says a lot that this girl had no clue that moving in after 6 months is *WAY* too soon. She's terribbly naive. Where are her parents to talk her out of this??

[@philwill0123]

Hands off. Which sounds the norm.

[@1whical]

Stop. Moving. In. With. People. You're. Not. Married. To.

[@argiehercules1374]

Marriage.Does.Not.Solve.Any.Problem.Marriage.Is.Not.Protection.Only.Trouble.Thanks.For.Making.Us.Laugh.😂😂😂

[@peterzotti6430]

I like Delony a lot but sometimes he needs to drop the psychic mind reader act... We all know you are good at it... We have seen you do it, but its still better to just ask questions and get information the old fashioned way...

[@flashthecorgi2053]

The problem is he just doesn’t have time. I mean take this call for example it’s 18:47 and this was the last call for this particular show. He just doesn’t have enough time to ask all the questions he wants to. He has other meetings to attend, AND he shares this studio with his colleague Ken so he’s on a time crunch.

[@SnifferSock]

The "your body knows" line is getting old too

[@snopure]

I think it's a method of skipping to the point. These aren't supposed to be therapy sessions in which the patient could just talk.

[@peterzotti6430]

@@snopure he could skip to the point easier with questions instead of guesses...

[@deirdrekiely6187]

Agree. It's very annoying. Deloney is not a psychic.

[@SnifferSock]

2:50 who failed to raise this lady?!?

[@feleciah8639]

It’s sad we’re still being taught to ignore our intuition and not truly teaching how to tap into it 🙄

[@ozzycortes]

Never cohabitate in 6 months of relationship. 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@teresalucas657]

Been there done that talk to the manager of the apartment building and be honest with him get out of that lease! Where there’s one lie you see there’s 50 more you don’t! Your life is more valuable than to be shocked up with a liar. God bless you stay safe.

[@wf4983]

That here is a good exercise for trust building within yourself: I mean, it's both: your distrust/ gut feeling is right - it' s the role of your gut and intuition to amplify the point that you need more information and reassurance. But then, if you have that, it's the role of your heart (leaning towards him) to work on your inner peace. And if you can't let it go then: what is still missing for you to trust? It' not: you have to be always cautious OR you can't ever distrust. It's a process. I still have to work on that 😅

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

6 months is too soon. I’m glad he addressed it.

[@pattibase2293]

She sounds very young, as in 18-20. Which is why she is so naive.

[@Norcal_raiderfan2]

That voice cracking made my entire week doctor! Making peoples day once again

[@bonjoursophie]

This relationship is gonna last maybe 2 more months, max. Just Anna alone is a walking red flag.

[@savleensur8670]

When I met my now bf I told him right away that I was still dealing with my ex and it was a recent breakup of 1 month, I think that truth helped us get closer. I emotionally clocked out of that relationship long ago

[@LucyBlue0823]

I don’t think it’s appropriate to ask about body count on a first date.

[@argiehercules1374]

-Why would he lie? -Because he can. Next, question. What will you do with that information? Stay with him? Run, honey, run

[@t1sg]

But her body's clearly telling her not to put that shovel down. When the love bombing fog dissipates her body is telling her to pick up that shovel.

[@defipie]

This is dumb. It opens up a can of worms to be overly specific about the past. This is a totally reasonable thing to brush over. It was clearly something he wasn’t proud of or didn’t take it seriously

[@chilloften]

Pace your self girl. It takes so so long to know a soul.

[@libbeylibbey]

This poor girl! If she doesn't get out now her life will pass her bye! ! She will be 12yrs down the road with him in a tangled heartbreaking traumatizing mess! THEY DO NOT CHANGE! HE SHOWED YOU WHO HE WAS!! NOW YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE IT!

[@commanderbarbie2550]

John did a great job trying to get a real answer out of Kahmala. 😂

[@judybaker3196]

What did he lie about?

[@temposhop8739]

The way she laughs, apologizes to Dr. John but then says "reallllllyyyy?" in that high pitched voice really annoys me and seems disingenuous. Not someone I could trust. I've learned to avoid other women who speak like that. A couple I know will switch that voice off too. Very unnerving.

[@Johnwick-wm9sx]

The guy is deceiving her, she is not seeing it!!! What a shame.😮

[@cathyosullivan718]

Anna sounds so young- is. She a teenager?

[@temposhop8739]

She's an adult woman infantilizing herself. I've had experience with women friends like this and have learned it's a red flag. I wouldn't trust her any more than I trust her guy.

[@jeanlaubenthal698]

One would learn something from each relationship that is worth sharing.

[@deirdrekiely6187]

She sounds like she's 12!!! Very naive.

[@mspino5245]

Is this girl serious? 6 months? You dont even know this guy!!!

[@Gotoworkkk]

Agree with you 100%!!!

[@N1xteR]

So, when a woman lies about her body count first date is becuse she is not "Safe" but when a guy lies about who he has been with "Before" you he is dead cold liar? this sexism is making me back fram delony. I been watching for long time but recently realised how much he goes for the woman side of every issue.

[@N1xteR]

Delony always talk about how body count shot never matter but now it does not.

[@s.ivainesu]

@@N1xteR please link the video where he said this and didnt hold the woman accouintable

[@N1xteR]

@@s.ivainesu Name of video is "I Lied to My Husband About My Sexual History"

[@s.ivainesu]

@@N1xteR pk, will watch that. however that is one example, you said he sides with women and doesnt do the same for men so that requires multiple examples

[@alluringbliss4165]

@@s.ivainesuDelone is biased. He even encouraged a young man to work 3 jobs to support his unfaithful wife.

[@sakurisake4201]

If she believes her boyfriend is lieing to her than break up with him. Ugh she sounds young. 6 months is way too soon to move in with a boyfriend.

[@temposhop8739]

She sounds young because she's infantilizing herself. The voice is part of it.

[@JustinCase780]

Six months would be too much time wasted for any romantic comedy.

[@alluringbliss4165]

What does even mean

[@veronicamz123]

Perfect explanation 👍🏼

[@jackhoff7712]

This woman sounds suffocating, I feel more sorry for the guy than I do her.

[@askquestions1236]

is his name Kyle?...

[@STAR-LIGHT.1111]

I think she should talk with him about that and be truly vulnerable. Watch if he emotionally connects and want to make you feel safe. Not just words but also actions it's his duty to make her feel seen and heard. But lies are already not good to begin with.. Sad for Anna she seems like a good person❤ Dash hudson has a great video on that manipulators love speed.

[@oksuredani]

this was hard to listen to. she sounds way too immature to be going through with all of this.

[@jeanlaubenthal698]

He’s very open when she catches him.

[@jadeinthewoods]

The reason someone would lie about their ex and act like their relationship wasn’t serious, is to keep them around. “She’s just a friend, it’s not like that”. If he can convince you that there is nothing between him and his ex, you’re more likely to accept his “friendship” with her. He’s keeping her in his back pocket. She might not even live in another state, he may just be saying that. You don’t really know because you can’t trust him. Like John said, he’s a liar.

[@darkcircle899]

I really tried to give Dr. John another chance, but his clear double standard for men and women turns me off every time. There was another episode where a man found out his wife and mother of his child about being a prostitute before they met. he never called the wife a liar, he never told the man to leave her, in fact, he encouraged the man to stay. Now he’s against this woman being in a relationship with her boyfriend because he lied about a relationship he was in for three months. The double standard is crazy. I can’t keep watching this dude.

[@travis1118]

This is too accurate. I remember listening to that call and thinking exactly what you just mentioned.

[@alluringbliss4165]

You are correct but I still watch it.

[@ChristieCats777]

I don't really agree, these two are kinda strangers, while the previous call re prostitution was a married couple.

[@meghangantt717]

John says the same 5-10 things on repeat; I already know everything he’s gonna say. I stay for the callers

[@lcct635]

Wife for 10, 15 years os diferent than a 6 months boyfriend. The wife have Very long time to prove who she was in longe term,

[@RileyN138]

This whole air head act is too much for me 😒

[@howmoon67]

I have not trusted my former boyfriend for years. I wish I would have demanded and asked over and over again about his phone and have the tough conversations about what is needed to build trust.

[@Amy-vx9lz]

ANNa is ANNoying! Bless her heart but I’m glad I don’t have to listen to her beyond today. I hope she gets it sorted though

[@temposhop8739]

I thought the same thing. Talking over Dr. John like a middle schooler with that infantile voice.

[@anniecammie]

She's young. We were all young and made bad decisions. She was smart enough to call in because something felt off. Hopefully for her sake she'll take some of his advice.

[@Mike-md3sh]

Ana sounds like a 13 year old.

[@ambernelli7791]

And not just in the sound of her voice, she sounds very immature in actions.

[@Mike-md3sh]

@ambernelli7791 thats what I meant by that, very child like mentality.

[@temposhop8739]

I've had to distance myself from a few women friends like this. I'm no scholar in the matter, but this infantilization package seems to come with a dark side. The women I knew would switch it off and were abu$ing their men, too.

[@Mike-md3sh]

@temposhop8739 ive seen that also. It's a way to dodge accountability from my experience.

[@sopranosd]

She also sounds like an idiot.

[@tfernandez6806]

She’ll get pregnant and do this her whole life …boring everyone with drama . He can’t win and she looks for evidence . Trust your guts

[@temposhop8739]

100%. The way she talks makes me nauseous.

[@starlingswallow]

I think one thing Anna is struggling with is she's moved in with this guy, and it's very hard for us to admit to ourselves, that we've made a big mistake, and now have to untangle ourselves from someone we moved in with. The benefit of the doubt that she's giving him is shielding herself from having to undo what she has decided to do within the relationship. Anna, cut your losses and run! If someone is lying in the beginning, especially about small things these are huge, red flags! Do yourself a favor and leave ASAP!

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

Stop playing house with strangers.

[@Worldtraveler3683]

Anyway else think this is a bit of an overreaction? Like he clearly didn’t think much of this prior relationship so who cares. If this was the only thing he “lied” about, I wouldn’t stress it.

[@t1sg]

'I need to know'....but my guess is that he wont be willing.

[@fruitfulsoul]

Omg....get a clue she's in denile!!!

[@pamelavesey6381]

Dating is for taking the time to get to know someone. She moved in with him quickly before he cud figure out she is a creepy, overbearing, jealous control freak. Who spies on him.

[@msdixieblues]

Anna doesn't trust him for valid or good reasons, yet she won't let it go. Something else inside of her is very insecure and she needs to address that first before being in long term anything. As John said, she should know how to trust herself without digging that hole so deep of worry.

[@mustangthings]

Doesn’t trust him, moves in with him anyway… ok lady

[@klickingkayasmr7585]

Question for men: I thought you guys lie because you care and want to protect the relationship? Whereas, if you’re honest or too honest, it’s because you don’t care? Right?

[@tyrelkoyle8315]

There is a lot better guys out there.

[@V31lCl0ud]

Who cares. This entire conversation is literally pointless. Also, drink a glass of water every time she says “like”

[@matthewh630]

My man, stop taking the sides of these girls and telling them completely different advice than you would tell a man in the same senecio

[@carolcole570]

Matthew, my personal thought is because men are from one planet and women are from another. John, bless his intuitive heart, knows that men and women ARE different and need to be responded to differently.

[@carolcole570]

I wouldn’t dream of sneaking thru HIS past, because I wouldn’t want him sneaking thru MY past. The past is the past for both of us. Either accept him or drop him. You are being paranoid and this is OVERLY intrusive. This girl is extremely jealous and she will hawk his every move for the rest of her life. Gee, what a WAY to chase a guy OFF. I would NEVER want to be with someone like you !

[@Cod12Osc]

If he was a good man, he would not have moved in with her when they are not even married.

[@jeanlaubenthal698]

She needs to listen to herself and trust herself.

[@temposhop8739]

She should also stop raising her voice like a child and talking over Dr. John. Annoying.

[@a_bamble8328]

Please if this caller sees this - please run. End this. Trust me - if you stay it won’t end well. The lies will escalate and trust me when I say you don’t want to waste 20 years and realise he was showing you who he was all along - you just didn’t trust it. Speaking from experience - people who can lie will also do much worse later down the track.

[@LuhRen]

People have to give their relationships more time to development slowly. People who are hiding things will eventually reveal what they are hiding through their actions or words. Gotta peep the weird ish and evaluate whats going on and taking things slow for the first 6mos to a year will help ppl better do that. Ppl so eager to do anything in relationships is always a red flag

[@sherryd3299]

I don't think this woman will let go of her denial. She doesn't want to face the truth so she won't. This will not end well for her especially for the kids she might have with him. She will probably find out he has huge debt, owes girlfriends money, or other ugly surprises.

[@isadora-e4x]

Dr John was not having it today hahaha

[@jennyo82]

Get out while you can. I didn’t listen to my gut and it led to 20 years of my life destroyed and kids involved. So messy. Get out NOW before you regret it

[@suzettechristine8609]

Noone has even taken their mask off yet at 6 months🤣Live and learn. Don't really know someone at least a year or 2 later.