I'm Over All These

[@taratrenise2935]

" My mailman held my hand too long, handing me my package." 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@sweetbrownsuga504]

Tara Streeter 😂😂😂😂

[@crossing.the.cosmos84]

My boss tapped my shoulder

[@geocyo8835]

Yeah amid everything else he said that was serious that line was funny as shit

[@ssprice1000]

😂😂😂 I swear I was in Walmart screaming & laughing

[@yanna_4wellness]

I damn near fell out my chair!🤣🤣

[@dragonfly517]

If he was supposed to pick up on her non verbal cues, then how come she didn't pick up on his?

[@inmytravelstoday]

Bloop!

[@bri7193]

Non Pavé bloop bloop!

[@dragnfly138]

Thank you

[@pickmeisha]

Bloop! (had to do it, lol)

[@kahluaqueen]

and she was NON VERBAL!!!! OMG I can't he was supposed to go psychic and read her mind??

[@greenapple8883]

Thank you, this was a date, I'll even take it as far as calling it a bad date, but rape, it was not!

[@donitaballard5928]

Rule #1 If you ain't fucking don't come back to a man's house.

[@liveyalife2987]

Donita Ballard Well said!

[@eboni257]

Simple enough!

[@lrs1519]

Right clearly HIS non verbal cues by rushing that check told her that he was trying to hurry up and get some. If she wasn’t trying to go all the way she should have went home. What she thought, y’all was rushing back to his house so y’all could bake some cookies and look at television? She clearly hasn’t been dating too long if she couldn’t pick that up off him. Poor guy.

[@inmeekwetrustztv3064]

Donita Ballard yyep

[@kickinitwithkaici]

"My boss tapped me on the shoulder... Mee Tooo!" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@tinamarie2484]

Kai'Ci Krooklyn 😂😂😂 that whole bit he did about that took me out

[@bimyou6285]

Kai'Ci Krooklyn the mail man held my hand too long delivering the package 😂😂😂

[@judgementalt]

I'm not saying Aziz is completely innocent. My issue is that she brought her feelings to his attention, he acknowledged them, and APOLOGIZED! Is that not enough? Why now try to come out and ruin his career?? I forgot, for a check.

[@embracethebright1587]

I dpn't see how she can get money fot it. She is not releaseing her name.

[@lkez2]

Tamacia Ellis She was anonymous, so it couldn’t have been for a check. She literally wanted to ruin this man’s life for revenge for a bad date which is evil. Hopefully, someone doesn’t do that to her career as well.

[@embracethebright1587]

lkz 2 I think she has been doxed already. And if that is true. The internet will come for her soon. She better hope some crazy dude with a vendetta doesn't come for her in person.

[@tillyj2132]

Tamacia Ellis .....i totally agree with you. And to Aziz' defense, I can say he's INNOCENT ! First of all, you leave the restaurant to go to his place...that's an agreement since we are having a good time, let's go to my place...(mutual feelings). You re drinking wine and kissing while you are seated on counter top....( you don't need a genius to figure this out). Let's put anatomy into perspective here, 99.7% of human beings are sexually aroused by kissing..period. Now when he attempted, she said no and he stopped! So I'm perplexed by her #meToo outcry!! I'm pissed because I have a son and when this shit gets out of hand, any teenager or young miss can scream out "MeToo" because she didn't get her way in the life of a young man on an upward direction of Life. So they need to draw a fat line in this movement. #bitchgotmepissed!!

[@falidisu2139]

paradox Aziz Ansari's accuser's real name is Abbey Nierman thedirty.com/city/manhattan-city/abby-nierman-does-not-deserve-to-be-anonymous/#post-2235267

[@jrh4707]

Pretty soon... we won’t be able to even get a compliment from a guy.

[@lilbaby245]

I'M TELLING YOU! Men are going to stop approaching women because of all this shit.

[@jeremiahgamble1983]

Ok?! " he said I looked nice and it made me feel uncomfortable, yes I want to press charges against him " girl please these women are pissing me off with this Shit

[@crossing.the.cosmos84]

Yup

[@bodybyfisher44]

JR H Yeap!

[@jasadin]

I will not be up in HR for telling a woman that I thought she looked nice from 6 months ago. Fuck that.

[@09mjeternity]

I have made out with men in a dark room, and I didn’t want to have sex and when I said I didn’t they respected it but I didn’t feel assaulted at the idea that they wanted to have sex. That’s normal to feel that way. That is sexual assault. If I don’t say anything I can’t expect for him to read my mind if I feel uncomfortable with anything, as I am not mute and capable of speaking my mind like a mature adult. Case closed, she’s wrong.

[@NotTheMomma]

That sounds like a regular ass date...😒

[@niknikky]

...And that's the problem.

[@britneyhouston-escajeda]

Kathryn Dorsey sounds like she should of have been more clear but no thats not a regular date. Not every dude treats women like that its a type of man you allow in your space. I've dated plenty men that didnt force a sex thing after dinner or a date...you have to use more discernment

[@NotTheMomma]

She wasn't forced, that's why it wasn't assault. They conducted in oral sex...

[@eboni257]

Pretty much!

[@chatty2164]

chardonnay jackson right he even called her an Uber. Rape then an Uber? Doesn't add up. I agree with you.

[@CurshaOnika]

I as a woman thought something along these lines..all of theses things she said started happening from the restaurant to the apartment that she did not like and yet, not once did she get up to leave. She kept sticking around incident after incident.

[@lilbaby245]

YEAH! When I further think about it, it parallels what his college friend did and was feeling. I mean we're all grown. So we all know when someone goes to the residence or hotel room of an individual they JUST met, they aren't going there to play Scrabble. Those "non-verbal" cues say "we're about to fuck."

[@HelloFriend513]

Cursha.Onika I agree. If he was acting funny at the restaurant, why go back to his apartment . Why not call it a night and go home.

[@IrisAugustine]

There has to be a balance in all things. If a man decides to force himself on a person and rape them that person should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law Providing PROOF. Too many mens entire lives have been destroyed due to vindictive women who have lied. Also in this case this woman claims incident after incident and then tries to say her non verbal signs should have been picked up on. This is the reason that many get side eyed when legitimately speak out about the abuse. If we want to be taken seriously then the law should be followed by ALL. The man who rapes with proof should be convicted. The woman who brings unsubstantiated claims or out and out lies should do the same amount of time. Period to maliciously falsely accuse someone and destroy that persons reputation and lively hood or the mental and physical burden of being raped. They both are equally damaging to the individual. This woman is suspect as hell. You see the signs and continue in the situation I can't even.

[@Star-Mac10]

As a well established Black man, Tavis Smiley knows the OPPOSITION like the palm of his hand. He's too smart to fall for the old okey-doke. He's innocent! Now, Russell Simmons is a different story. He was a FOOL with power. And what makes it worse for him is that he's BLACK...he should've let the history of the Black man in this country guide his pathetic and self-serving actions.

[@jrh4707]

Star Mac yeah i agree. If you’re Pulling your Johnson out you’ve went to far lol

[@loisrattler8448]

Star Mac If I'm not mistaking, didn't Tavis Smiley say that he and that woman dated for a while.

[@Star-Mac10]

Lois Rattler Yes, he's admitted to having long-term relationships with women in his company. That's not a crime.

[@stumpylily]

When stories like this come out, I think back to Merlin Santana. That beautiful man had his whole life ahead of him, but a lying teenage girl was the cause of his tragedy.

[@dominicanprincess7511]

stumpylily Exactly I remember that too that was so SAD 😢 what happened to him.

[@dzejnalukovic9920]

stumpylily Absolutely! Still sad thinking about Mr. Santana's tragedy.

[@karenwilson5320]

Yes you are correct. I forgot about that.

[@amandaharris4373]

I forgot about that! Sad n the sad part is the girl never got charged for lying

[@latoyajohnson8695]

I remember that story I wonder what ever happened to that young girl

[@75dbest]

As a grown woman, when I’m in a situation that I’m not comfortable with I leave!! Point blank period! When she said she didn’t want to have sex BUT still stayed at his house THAT is a problem!!

[@annahsmith913]

75dbest its not.... you can hang out with a guy at his place without sex. However.... you have to say that.

[@niknikky]

Why is that a problem? Is it that hard to believe that a woman would go to a man's house without there being an expectation of sex?

[@inmytravelstoday]

You don't go back to a man's home, ESPECIALLY, a man that you do not know.

[@girlinterrupted9792]

Let's keep it ALL the way fonky. Had this been Aziz from the bodega, she would have left his ass at that restaurant. But because this was Aziz from TV she wanted to see how it would play out and went home with him.

[@annahsmith913]

girl interrupted or Aziz from the chicken Shack lol

[@zyairerussell5012]

Thank you!!!! Somebody finally said it👏👏👏

[@wandabyrd3511]

Zyaire Russell right!!

[@seeme8125]

yesssssss. . . I so agree !!!!

[@robinlight]

Amen

[@ddivar]

THANK YOU!!! As women we have responsibility too. He didn't invite her over to play cards, he wanted sex and stopped when she said no. She thought she was gonna get wifed up and when that uber came, she got salty. If you feel like a date is not going the way you like, it is time to leave. Do not go to his house, hotel or any room alone with him. We all knew it would come a time when certain women would take advantage, but this is overboard and harming the cause.

[@SewingwithPatrick]

Rachael ... "And when that Uber came, she got salty." Biiiiiiiiiiiiiii!!!!!! I'm totally DONE. 😨😨😨😨😨😨😨😨😨😨😨😨😨😨⚰

[@Cj-jl7wz]

See this is why Rape victims don’t get believed because of this crap. So Aziz story really pissed me off. Meanwhile she said she texted him and they talked about it and he apologized. So I don’t get what the point is of her coming out now. They are saying their is a physical no as well as a verbal no. But unless your being attacked why can’t you just say no. I have said no plenty of damn times.

[@itsniquenique45]

Cj Alter Some people feel powerless out of fear. We don't know her situation

[@Cj-jl7wz]

itsniquenique45 I get that , that can happen but that’s not what it was in this case. Especially the way she explained it. It just seem like she wanted attention.

[@AlphabetSoup123]

A-MEN! She seemed to be more upset he won a Golden Globe and wore the #TimesUP pin than that she had been "assaulted." How is it that they had a constructive conversation way back when and now she wants to paint him as an asshole who just used and abused her and threw her to the side. Aziz Ansari doesn't belong in the same category as these other men.

[@lilbaby245]

According to Aziz, when he texted her the next day saying he had a good time, she tells him she didn't after she further thought it over. This story is paralleling Dineva's college story. This heffa felt "dirty" after sucking dick and getting ate out on the first date. That's not his fault. He didn't make her feel that way. She made up in her mind that she would be nothing more than some ass to him and thought she shouldn't have done the do. Especially if she was seeking a serious relationship with him. Or his head could have been bad. But either way, there was no coercion or abuse of power there. Just some buyer's remorse.

[@annahsmith913]

This isn't the case here. But I've been in a positron where it's hard to say no. I mean a guy comes at you on the street you're likely to give him what he wants just to get him off your back.

[@crystalpalms6049]

He's not talking about being pulled in a alley and violated. He talking about creating situations then screaming victim. I agree with you Ms. Dineva

[@bokc]

My heart goes out to sexual assualt survivors; I have met some women whose lives where forever marked by those experiences. The women who choose to lie about such experiences are trash and make it harder for assualt survivors to come forward because they don't want to be shamed. Ladies, you have agency over your lives and body. Own it and own your decisions. If someone assualts you, then report them ASAP.

[@ariellastrawberry]

It diminishes real me too stories. It pisses me off

[@liveyalife2987]

creolejoy. Exactly!

[@jasminee1357]

Now I'm not ever one to victim blame and I have experienced sexual harassment as well... but we're setting a dangerous precedent in how we view these instances on a spectrum. There is a difference in feeling that a sexual encounter was not satisfying or one that you regret after the fact. Do I think there were some cues that she put out? Yes.... but how subtle or how overt those cues are, are up for debate. Ultimately, when you're not feeling comfortable... you have an obligation and duty to yourself to say something that leaves no room for doubt. We can't expect anybody to read minds and then be upset later. Fuck being polite, if you don't like it, say something

[@latoyajohnson8695]

It’s THAT SIMPLE!!!

[@crystalpalms6049]

As a women i agree with everything your saying. We've been trained to know that if im going to his room/house at 2am or whatever time we already now Whats up even if we act like we dont.

[@jwill6312]

As with any "movement", #MeToo has gone too far. This protest was supposed to be about men in authority abusing their power to pressure women into sexual situations, and has now devolved into a one night stand going home disappointed after bad sex. Gone are the days of personal responsibility and discernment. It's amazing how some weak people know how to talk themselves into a sexual situation but don't know how to talk their way out of it. The same way she opened her mouth to let the dick in, is the same way she should have opened her mouth to let the words out. If she changed her mind and didn't want to continue, she has every right to do that, but she has to say it. Ruining an innocent man's reputation because you were to weak to say you changed your mind is not what the # MeToo is supposed to be about. I didn't grow up around weak women. All of the women I grew up around have no problem voicing their opinions and they are as baffled by this story as I am. Non-verbal cue? 🤔

[@prettyinink1661]

Very well said. Im so glad women felt this way 4 years ago today . I never could find an opportunity to be vocal about it bc that would bring alot of heat ...I mean what woman doesn't support another woman claiming sexual assault ? But im so glad im not alone . Agree 100 percent 👌

[@KarmmensWorld]

Thank you I been saying this. Ruining these men's lives cause they want some attention . OVER IT BABY

[@karenwinston2833]

Carmen Brown - I stand with you sis! Enough already!!!😐

[@peppermint9531]

Carmen Brown...I definitely agree 💯..I Understand NO is NO, but coming from someone who got raped on my way home in the daytime, grabbed by some young guys, kicking, screaming pleading tryna get away. I didnt go out to dinner or somebody house, engaged in sexual pleasure, teased or expected for them to just know i didnt want them, then scream rape or sexual harassment. I have a son and I'm tryna to teach him to try not to put himself in situations like that, but then again he could get mixed messages.

[@chatty2164]

Carmen Brown I'm with you

[@kistylez2004]

you're not crazy!!! speak that truth... body language speaks more than words to guys sometimes... but women have to open their mouths and say what they want or dont want, mean it and show it with their actions. where im from if you not fuckin you dont go to they house. make them treat you like a lady by setting clear verbal/nonverbal boundaries

[@MayJuneJuly9]

When you go out with a man, you have to act like a lady. You don't go back to his house on the first date unless you know something is going down. You will go to his house after you become comfortable, and when that time comes he will know what he can and cannot get away with and won't disrespect you. I don't see where he did any wrong. Men have to be more careful about who they spend time with.

[@boozindallas_411]

M. Coleman I agree wholeheartedly! As a grown woman, I know better than to put myself in a uncomfortable situation. This one situation is not a case of rape or sexual assault.

[@britneyhouston-escajeda]

Preach!

[@latoyajohnson8695]

Very very true!!!

[@itsmemydarling]

I'm a 23 year old woman. She was trying to pull it w the nonverbal cues. Like you said, he did nothing wrong

[@Taggimit]

A lot of women may disagree, but I have to agree with you. At what point do people take responsibility for their actions? By no means am I victim shaming, but hearing this story in particular made me 🤔. There was no force, and at any point I'm sure she could have left. Was he supposed to read her mind??

[@mzblkcarib186]

Quiet as it kept.....you kept it real on the Azizi issue...not the fact He is my favorite but this is a bandwagon. I understand She didn't want to be a Hoe...but there are actual victims out there who need their justice from thier agressors. But some females are a Mess for the real Women who is strugglin out there

[@mercedesrepair6838]

Her twitter handle is/was "snack.hoe"... Look it up in Urban Dictionary.

[@littlefinger5199]

SHE TRIED IT!

[@j12aka]

A non verbal cue could be brushing his hands away, putting your hand up to keep him from getting to close, etc. I agree Aziz did nothing wrong and women like that make it difficult for real victims. He didn't rape nor assault her. There was nothing to tell. She looking for attention. Now Tavis.....I don't know.

[@angeleyes3319]

How about we do away with non-verbal cues all together? If you don't want to have sex...If you don't want to feel like you are coerced into having sex. Then say NO! After that it is on the man and a clear case of rape if he proceeds by force, coercion, or threat of violence (which is the legal definition of rape). We can't play coy with our safety.

[@angeleyes3319]

They tryna get Tavis because he had sexual relations with workers in the company and they are trying to say that PEOPLE felt coerced to have sex with him because of his position over the company. Even though he had relationships with these people. Usually it is a company's policy against fraternizing with subordinates but now I guess it's a crime. Lawd...

[@92cgray]

I’m glad you commented!! when I heard the story I was like what is a non verbal cue? I couldn’t understand what that meant.

[@latoyajohnson8695]

And that check!!!!!!

[@learningtruth7044]

I was victim of date rape I went to the guy house was kissing on the bed and when he wanted to take it futher I said no at that point I should've got the hell out of there but being young the guy was very aggressive I was afraid to leave. But from that I learned not to put myself on that kind of situation again and if I don't want to have sex I leave immediately. Once she said no she should've left staying says you changed your mind. Women must know when to leave if they feel uncomfortable period

[@annahsmith913]

Learning Truth you learned nothing but blaming yourself and that's WRONG. Please seek help. Even if you went to his place.... if you said no anything beyond that is rape. Please get therapy cause none of what you said was your fault at all. You have a right to change your mind and you have a right to be respected.

[@Life4all41]

Yea but if you’re intentions are different than his and you’re at his house then you should leave. It’s not her fault HE decided to be aggressive but it is if she decides to stay. I mean we have to stop blaming men for wanting sex. If we don’t want it we can leave and never look back. Until he physically restrains you then the choice is tours. Just bc you’re afraid to leave doesn’t mean he’s at fault. It means grow a pair and stop being so scared. Simple.

[@annahsmith913]

Mrs. Miller bitch.... you are wrong on soooo many levels. I can decide to have sex with a guy AND I CAN CHANGE MY FN MIND AFTER THAT AND HE HAS TO RESPECT THAT. ONCE I SAY NO..... SEX SHOULD NOT HAPPEN AND IF IT DOES IT'S RAPE.

[@janedoe-ex5wo]

@@Life4all41 Wrong. No dude should ever make a girl feel afraid in a sexual--or any--situation. You talk like a dude can't control his dick or himself once he's aroused. A decent man backs off and asks a girl if she's ok if there's any question that she's not totally into it. And then he respects her decision, either way. This idea that men just blindly fuck away and women have to protect themselves from it and that's completely normal is bullshit.

[@msgina8093]

As a woman I am very torn with believing all these ladies... it may have happened to some but I believe some are jumping on a bandwagon.. I’m thrown off with this “nonverbal “ communication.... you can’t be in the moment of kissing a man and saying he should have your mind of saying “no”. It would be different if she pulled away and he kept kissing her and pulling away would be a non verbal communication.. I pray the bandwagons don’t make a mockery of a much needed movement and kp real victims silent.

[@caole88]

You are not crazy!!! When I heard the news I was disgusted!!! I do not think you get to accuse people because you do not like them, it’s not right. In her own words she didn’t want to continue and wanted to leave and she did. She does not mention being forced to do anything. I am not into accusing people because they do not want to date us or other. The real “Me Too” movement is for real victims female and male and we have to understand what abuse means. I do not feel that lady is a victim at all and my sympathy is with real victims!!!

[@chatty2164]

caole88 love your comments

[@caole88]

Kristen Collins thank you dear😊

[@serenityserenity9829]

You said it exactly how it needed to be said regret is not rape!!!!!

[@latoyajohnson8695]

Not at all

[@Beverlyhillton]

Thank you for being you. I am such a supporter, Your spirit and vibe really resonates with me.

[@sistagirlzsanctuary3804]

#metoo# and not the other me2 but the me2 on how much I love myFunkyDineva!

[@Naja0423]

I been w my man for YEARS and even he can't pick up the smallest non-verbal cue.. hell, they rarely pick up verbal cues.

[@HeyMonica]

Yes!!!!! Finally someone is saying something!! I thought I was the only one who felt this way..This is getting out of hand! If these women keep on doing this these men are gonna go buy these sex robots that’s starting to circle around ... Then they’ll start complaining men aren’t showing them attention..... ijs

[@HeyMonica]

Violet Sun I’ve been sexually harassed PLENTY of times! Being in the military especially so I do know about sexual harassment but at the same time some women don’t know what it actually is.. the story that funky dineva is talking about isn’t sexual harassment. She said stop he stopped..... like what’s sexual harassment about that? He didn’t continue he stopped... like come on..

[@HeyMonica]

Violet Sun but she was kissing him tho.... but in her mind she didn’t want it.. but she was allowing him to touch her but she didn’t speak up until he pulled it out...how is that even fair? How? He can’t read minds.. it’s a very thin line...If you don’t say anything but then expect for him to know you don’t want sex and you’re doing the act how can anyone know you don’t want it if you don’t say anything? Explain?

[@f3042]

Violet Sun You and your husband are correct- society must stop babying men. But society must also hold women accountable for our actions. You don't want a man to treat your daughter the way Aziz treated his date, as you shouldn't. But I'm sure you will also teach your daughter not to put herself in certain situations so there is no confusion. If your daughter goes on a first date with a stranger and decides to go back to his home, you know that your daughter's actions will signal to her date that she's interested in moving forward with the evening. That's why you'll probably teach your daughter not to behave this woman behaved.

[@HeyMonica]

Fe R and to say no from the jump.. each situation is different and this is a reach.. a long reach.. women like this are making it harder for women who actually get harassed...

[@echance12]

Whats about to happen is men are going to stop even wanting to be around women out of fear that they gonna get accused of something. i also think men are going to side eye every woman

[@marcotroop]

I understand it's frustrating. Seems like everyone is coming out of the woodwork, the lines are getting muddied and I completely agree with you on the Aziz allegations. We don't want to discouraged the the people that have been legitimately assaulted from coming forward and these REAL predators held accountable.

[@itsniquenique45]

Marcus W. Yes everyone comes out of the woodwork about this specific issue because it's vastly underreported and has disgustingly low prosecution rates. Let's be real

[@marcotroop]

itsniquenique45 I agree %100! The point I was making was it "appears" that way because of the number of accusations coming out of late. This is due to the dialogue being opened and the victims being empowered to speak up and out. This is what we want. That said, we don't want to lump them all together because there is grey area and you will have people taking advantage of that. We need take these on a case by case basis so everyone is heard, no one is discouraged to speak up and the ones that are taking advantage are identified and don't continue to hurt the movement.

[@Moca-Mist]

Aziz better fight her to the fullest extent of the law. Aww hell naw!!!

[@alansmith5851]

Lory D lol the law ain't on a mans side! These women know what they are doing and the good women turning a blind eye to this.

[@doodle1976]

OMG! THANK YOU for Saying THIS! The whole situation is WAY PROBLEMATIC!!!

[@deborahmcclinton115]

Dineva I have been a victim of sexual assault when I was a teen and the first thing I said to myself is that I did not have any business in that room where it happened. You are 100 percent right. Alot of these allegations sound shady and I am tired of them too. It takes away from the real cases of rape and assault. You aint wrong Dineva.

[@Chevaun8230]

Stop going on 1st dates @ night ANYWAY ladies! Don't even pressure yourself directly or indirectly. Tryna b a woman with a girls mindset. No means NO all day! However the best cue for "I'm not fucking" is things like " Meet me @ Starbucks" or Jamba Juice.

[@traceycrutchfield1338]

To the women that were more afrid of losing their reporting this should be ashamed. To the women that were truthfully abused my heart goes out. But to the Chicks are using this to blatantly destroy folks should be ashamed

[@traceycrutchfield1338]

Typo more afraid of losing careers

[@KaneneProductions]

We need the conversation & dialogue regardless of any allegations.

[@BuffyNoir140]

KaneneProductions FD you are right on the mark. The things you were saying about not going to the hotel room, kissing, etc are the same rules many women have been taught. But they throw the rules away.

[@Ilove2teach52]

@Funky Dineva I said the same thing. This shit has got to stop! And side note: I have this wig

[@StrngAzDiamnds]

Latisha me too lol. I hate This wig now

[@Ilove2teach52]

Liah Ford 😂😂😂😂 gurllll I still wear mine when I go down to the beach😂😂😂

[@tamikamayes8071]

The wig tho yes!!!

[@jojopemb2218]

As a woman, I am in NO way victim blaming or shaming. However, with that being said, Aziz isn’t a man who held a power dynamic over this woman. It’s not like Weinstein or Cosby, where the woman felt compelled or forced because the man could “make them or break them” so to school. Those men have endless supply of money, influence, power, control, and resources and could ruin a woman’s life or career in a hot second. This is different. A man u just met a few hours ago for the first time isn’t inviting u back to his house to play cards or debate politics and current events.

[@so.many.obstacles]

We don’t know the history of these alleged victims. Also, Dineva don’t assume that women have been talked to about sex and dates because we all didn’t growing up. As a woman that has been sexually assaulted throughout my life beginning at the age of 4, there is not manuscript of how you will react when/if it happens again. The last time I was sexually assaulted I was 21 and I just froze because I went back to being a defenseless child being assaulted. I was finally able to stop him but it took a moment for me to get there. Why? I couldn’t believe it was happening and I didn’t know what to do because I was scared and alone with my aunt’s husband. I digress...

[@MayJuneJuly9]

So glad you are posting videos today.

[@tamarakasman4850]

I agree with you.

[@bemoore4]

at about the 8:30 mark, you nailed it. Ol' girl was down for some first date sex and if Aziz had said, "i love you", she would have f*cked him twice. But he was treating her WAAAAAAAY too casually and that hurt her feelings. As you stated, her having hurt feelings is valid, but that doesn't mean that Mr. Ansari did anything illegal. You could call him a cad, but a "predator"? that's going way too far.

[@indiasavage7]

It's not ya'll. It's white women.

[@dancinonasmoothedge]

indiasavage7 correct!!!

[@runawaypacman]

You got a point. They always msking up false allegations

[@teeahrahahnet]

No we do not need to stop telling our stories. This is needed but I agree this story specifically pissed me off. As a woman who was actually sexually assaulted by a grown man at 16, it really pissed me off with this stupid ass story. It should've never been published.

[@oleeshanorris5343]

My mother told me it was inappropriate to go home with a man on a first date. He will not look at you as a lady. She told me I should wait to give him pum anyways to make sure if I actually liked him because the pum gonna cloud his mind...

[@hushanimation2855]

*This is so true. Some women do lie/exaggerate. I once went into a store with my cousin's ex girl/baby mother. He was waiting in the car for us. When we got into the car, she told him how a couple of guys was bothering her and trying to holla at her and such. I was shocked and didn't know what to say, cause I knew she was lying. He was cursing and getting mad and was about to go into the store to give them a piece of his mind. My cousin has a temper and many gang connections. She was telling him don't do it, let it go and that she was okay. Bitch is twisted. It turned her on to see him get riled up over her. When my cousin dropped her off at her house, I straight up told him SHE LYING. THOSE DUDES AIN'T SAY SHIT TO HER. He looked dumbfounded.*

[@lrs1519]

Virgo Girl Rising that is sick. Now what would she have done if he went in there and blew somebody head off? Now she’s an accessory to murder.

[@lrs1519]

Virgo Girl Rising it sounds like she craves attention. How immature of her. Especially to play off the fact that he has a temper. It’s also very controlling. She’s dangerous to be honest.

[@ebonywhite1388]

Tavis ain't having it at all

[@trinigerian]

I think part of the problem is that we have a long history of sexual interaction between men and women. Men are supposed to be the aggressors and a women simply receive. To this day that code still exists and many abide by it unwillingly. A woman wants to be the aggressor but feels she can’t. She may also still want sex to mean that she’s loved. After the deed, there’s that internal emotional conflict because the sex didn’t happen how she imagined it. That’s not all cases, but it’s more than none. Another thing, we need to be able to openly speak about sexual expectations. Men need to be able to flat out say, “can we fuck?” instead of “would you like to come over and watch a movie?”. Transparency would help out with those situations where signals got crossed because men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Either we need to learn the language of the other planet or have one common language so that all parties are on the same page from the onset that sex is expected or not.

[@dragonfly517]

trinigerian This is the best comment! But sadly the way things are now that could be considered harassment. I read the story 5 times and still don't understand why she went back to his place after she felt uncomfortable at the resturant

[@elliedee8829]

This is sooo true. I might genuinely wanna "netflix and chill" while he's on a totally different page. We need to be adults and set realistic expectations...ask the difficult questions. A little honest communication can go a long way.

[@trinigerian]

Right!! We play the ditzy damsel in the distress when it suits our needs then wonder why we're not treated equally in the workplace etc. We have to stop playing both sides of the fence.

[@shantellakaladypersephone8671]

@@trinigerian Yes!!!!!!

[@franklingreen8724]

A conversation, a real one that is, needs to be had on the definition of rape. Rape is not a joke. It is a real crime that does not require a delayed response. There is no guessing whether a person has been raped or not.

[@Pattiannsplace]

I think that I am qualified to comment on this issue. I am a rape survivor, sexual victim many times over. When you grow up fat, sometimes people take advantage. I give talks about the very subject. While we have to be careful with victim blaming, the victims need to be very clear about their accusations. For instance, if someone says something to you, that is sexual in nature, your first response does not have to be to call TMZ when all you had to do was tell the offender to Step Off. Also, every uncomfortable situation that you might find yourself in, is not sexual abuse-it may just be immoral, ignorant, or inappropriate. I was sexually abused as a child-I was powerless. As an adult, I was raped. I am a survivor, and I have no time for innocent people being made to be monsters, on the strength of an accusation being made by a woman. Wrong is wrong, and it's wrong to disrupt people's lives like this.

[@audrey8275]

I don't think it's fair to assume that she had some "fairy tale" scenario of how things were going to play out in her mind- we don't know what she was thinking and I don't think there's enough information to make that conclusion. However I do agree this wasn't sexual assault. She had to have known what was going to happen when they got back to his apartment. He rushed them out of the restaurant and to his place and it just seems like common sense would tell you "he's gonna try to sleep with me when we get there." If she didn't want that to happen, she could've said "hey the date was great it was nice seeing you again, but I think i'm gonna head home for the night. Let me know if you wanna do this again." But she didn't. I think she knew what was going to happen and maybe even wanted it, but changed her mind later once things got heated for whatever reason- and that's possible and ok. But she should've left after that because it was clear that sex was what he brought her home for, not to just watch Seinfeld on the couch. I think this was a case of just regretting a sexual experience that didn't sit right with you after it was over, which happens sometimes, but it's not fair to look back on it and say it was sexual assault now that you think about it. And it's definitely not fair to add this to the #MeToo movement which is supposed to be about men abusing their power to make you submit to them. Aziz had nothing to hold over her, they ran in completely separate circles and he never threatened her career. I think what pissed me off most was her saying she decided to speak out after seeing him at the Golden Globes. It just made her seem bitter about him winning an award. It's like being bitter about an ex having moved on and being happy when you're still moping about it. Aziz isn't totally innocent but this doesn't belong in the movement which sadly isn't being taken as seriously anymore bc of this. Sorry for the essay :/

[@anewsession3907]

The grand jury (aka we the people) have not actually indicted Tavis yet.

[@palois2022]

No and yes; Dineva nailed it for the most part. Yes bc youre talking about white women in America. And they can be very indecisive and like to flirt. No bc most women know you don't go to his house tounge kiss legs spread and think you've sent cues that say no sex. Its like warming up a plate of food, putting it in front a hungry person after asking them if they want it. And when they stick in their fork say, That's mine! Flirting involves non verbal cues, but if you're rejecting a man you must be crystal clear and speak up. Subtlety is not to be used when No Thank you is your message.

[@francita0076]

FD I don’t agree with your commentary sometimes but you are 100 percent correct!! This #MeToo is some white women privilege mess.

[@caramelkisses50]

This has to be one of my favorite videos from you. And that speaks volumes because I have been a fan of yours for the past few years,And I thoroughly enjoy your videos. But this video has said everything and more . And NO IT IS NOT YOU!!! This needed to be said. Thank you for this one.

[@bennieharris2165]

TMZ has turned into Undercover racist now. I find that show quite disturbing

[@nea415]

Bennie Harris Their comment section is the most racist I’ve ever seen. It’s disgusting!

[@sheismelanin8889]

They tear down blacchyna on a regular but so does her own people

[@adebeautybox]

Love the content of your channel. I have to teach my son about these games!

[@yans21]

As a woman I agree with you. I was all for the metoo movement but on twitter and facebook all I'm seeing is stuff that paint women as these special victims. I am no victim and from the moment dude rushed me through my glass of wine I would be calling my uber and as we leave the restaurant it would be pulling up and that would be last time I saw him. She knew what she wanted and he knew what he wanted and they both thought they could win. Was he a gracious host? No but she could have left.

[@TruthSerum101]

If your description is accurate, Aziz DID NOT NEED AN EXCUSE; but if he did need an excuse, "That's what men do," would not be a good one.

[@k.giselle8218]

I'm so sick of this too bc people that are really victims of rape and sexual assault is being overshadowed first if I go out on Date 1 and after dinner why would I go back to his hotel or apartment? If I go back to your apt it is often implied that we will engage in some type of sexual encounter. It is no different if a man call me and ask me to come to his place at 11:00 pm talking about we just want to talk If that is not my attention either we remain in an open space or I take my ass home simple put. Yes I have the right to change my mind and a man should respect that which he did Often times as women we have sexual remorse and we start feeling guilty because we want a relationship or treated with respect but having sex on the first date often times don't suggest it and we start rethinking how it looks. For Hollywood hoes plenty of them chicks made Millions of money and most of them were at the top of their careers and now that they are no longer relevant bc younger prettier women have now entered the workplace you want to speak out. Why didn't you turned down those million dollar roles and speak out

[@Jamaal.R.]

Girl keep these new videos coming. I’ve been watching you from afar since LHHA season 1 reunion. I just subscribed this month😂 and I’m glad I did. I saw your interview with K. Michelle and it made me like you even more. Keep up the good work. I’m here for it ❤️

[@bfieldsism]

While I agree that this Aziz story is bullshit, I have to say you grossly undermined rape culture. And I do think there is room for accurate criticism of the “metoo movement” while still expressing for the radical change in how men should treat women’s bodies. For example, I wholeheartedly agree in if we are going to widely publicize the accusations, then we should then follow the story through its completion (but I think that has more so to do with the way our society consumes media). At the same time, (not only in Hollywood) men have allowed their power (as obtained by inequities because of perceptions about women being “fragile”) to abuse women and this very same power dynamic helps them get off.

[@livingmyalterego8617]

What camera/device do you use to record?? The quality is BOMB!!

[@KaneneProductions]

The takeaway that may be old as time: “I was debating if this was an awkward sexual experience or sexual assault." Aziz ain't a victim. Not discussing & growing people will be the victim, here.

[@truartist5379]

Let me start by saying, thanks . You are one of very few KZbinrs that keep it consistent. Not flaky editing or contrived behavior. Seems like when KZbinrs' channels gain momentum, they change. Thanks for your dedication!

[@KaneneProductions]

Shout out 4 Pia's car 😂😂

[@Speakingwithlove247]

You don’t go up to a man’s room late night thinking you’re going up for tea and cookies! What you think an entertainer wanna do? Get to know you better? Chile please these females know what time it is...

[@MyssQT]

What happens a lot of times is that people think more highly of others than they do of themselves. The only person in that situation who had deep feelings for her was HER. She somehow expected him to treat her with more respect than she was giving to herself. In the end when she realized she would have been just another girl to him (not some very special one of a kind lady) she was angry.....mostly with her self. Some people prefer to say they were a victim rather than say that what THEY did was stupid,wrong, unwise etc. Like Dineva said most people know how use a stereotype to their advantage and that's what she did. She became the damsel that was taken advantage of when the truth is she disrespected herself....he hadn't known her long enough to invest that much emotion into her well being......That was HER responsibility!

[@latoyajohnson8695]

Well said!!!!

[@latoyajohnson8695]

Wanna bet this lady was white?

[@lynnsutton1080]

I was taught to never put myself in compromising situations. In totally understand what you're saying. These conversations are long overdue, and I do believe most of the women speaking out, but some of the stories make no sense but still the men are guilty until proven innocent.

[@sicksadworld6221]

Nope, you're not crazy Dineva. It's not just you. As a matter of fact, this video had me breathing a sigh of relief because I was beginning to wonder if I was crazy. Everything about this Aziz accusation screams 'THIRST' to me. It's also unfortunate that some of the real victims on this thread are gonna completely ignore the overall message in this video and accuse you of "victim shaming" when you're CLEARLY not.

[@Fineandquaint]

This is THE BEST VIDEO Funky D! Thank you

[@Heemi30]

I agree with everything you said.

[@Logansworld92]

I swear, I feel like I just left Sunday church service with a good message lol you spoke 100% truth! Let me hit that subscribe button

[@Millennial_Matriarch]

Hit the head on the nail in regards to people manipulating stereotypes.

[@dianerichards5135]

This is one of your best videos Dineva. Point clearly and precisely made even for the slow to follow. 👏🏾

[@voyeur2you]

This has got to stop. She gets to remain anonymous while he gets his name drug all up and down these internet streets. If she remains in the dark he should too cause he cannot get back his good name. She had a bad date because she had two good legs to walk off

[@angeleyes3319]

I had a man tell me that he was told by a woman that a woman can have sex with a man even though she doesn't really want to in her hearts of hearts. Even if the woman doesn't tell him or say no, it is rape because she didn't want to do it deep in her soul. He should have "known" what she was feeling in her soul. Wtf?! If you don't say no, stop, I don't want to do this, how the hell is he suppose to know? A night of regret sex does not equate to rape. This is the reason why people jumping on the Me Too movement is dangerous to the real discussion about sexual assault/rape. People don't understand that that man will be labeled for life as a rapist over your one night of regret or because you thought this man would love you after sex when women they clearly tell us that it's just sex. That part is not right. Keep the place of sexual assault/rape to the real assailants.

[@GinaJonesStillettoQueen]

Emmett Till all over again

[@carmenpearson9634]

I think the biggest thing she did wrong was NOT telling him "No" and then just leaving. I don't think there's anything wrong with her going back to his apartment and making out, but she needed to be strong enough to verbalize telling him "no" and that this is not what she wanted. We as woman are strong enough to do that.

[@Juniper122]

NESSAGRL When men especially brothers complain about the me too movement it reminds me of all white people complaining about black folk talking about slavery. Same shit. TF!!!

[@TheBiancawonka]

Jazminne H. Z i know u did not compare women lying about assault to slavery.

[@cynthiabates3807]

Eliza M. Not all these women have been raped some of them say they have when they don't get their way. Then when a woman really does get raped its going to be hard to believe because there has been too many false allegations.

[@Prince-newyork]

Oh please what he was complaining about is the people abusing the me too movement. Suppose some lying white woman accused your boyfriend, husband, brother friend etc of assaulting her because she was upset at him for turning her down or she just wanted to be spuiteful you wouldn’t want them to be vindicated if they are innocent?! Everyone agrees that guilty men should be held about being held accountable for their actions and saying a innocent man should be vindicated doesn’t change that.

[@heffasaywhat8259]

Im assuming she meant how some white women would accuse black men of rape because they were either A caught messing around with one or was blatantly lying. Which resulted in those men being lynched, tortured, killed or forced to leave town before he was killed. I.E. Emmit Till, Willie Lynch and a host of other men in the South especially

[@BELIKEJUATER]

Reach of all reaches smfh

[@wyshbon]

Thank you! I just subscribed to you page! Keep the truth comin, Sir!

[@ariellastrawberry]

Now funky you not gonna put the responsibility on women to not be raped

[@SNicolesPlace]

creolejoy. Is it responsibility or accountability. If someone goes to the most hood neighborhood in their city at 10pm and walks up to an atm to withdraw $1000 and then walks through the hood with the money just waving freely in their hand and flashing it..... if they are robbed- the robber is guilty- for sure BUT that person also needs to look at the choices they made that put them at risk.

[@tron5395]

I haven't seen the accountability versus responsibility perspective really examined in the hysteria. It's actually a strong legal principle that should be part of this whole #MeToo conversation. But right now the momentum is public crucifixion over justice.

[@bkawiseone]

One of your best videos to date! This movement is getting absolutely ridiculous, and I ain't with the shits!

[@monicaw4264]

I find it funny that people are over these "allegations" lol this has been happening for years and you're tired of it?!?! HA!

[@xPROGNOSISx]

Monica W exactly. And who gives a damn if you’re “over it”?? The people affected aren’t over it so shut up. 🙄

[@TheCarnivoreSoprano]

Monica W The point is when people constantly make bogus allegations it dilutes the struggle. It ruins reputations and it makes people distrustful.

[@HealthWithHilary]

SuperPhdiva EXACTLY, and that was the point of this video. Instances like these are detrimental to true victims. Fortunately I am not a victim of rape/sexual assault, but if I were, I'd be highly upset with all the women coming forward about an inappropriate ankle rub.

[@april_thinks]

Right. It must be nice to only be annoyed by these things. I guess that's a privilege that comes along with only dressing up as a woman - you don't actually have to be subjected to issues that affect us. And all these people commenting who got their law degree from Law and Order SVU Institute are killing me. Sexual assault can is anything from unwanted fondling to rape. This woman hasn't even released her name so how is she going to profit from this. Aziz career is going to be just fine just like all these other guys who have been out of order.

[@falidisu2139]

Aziz Ansari's accuser's real name is Abbey Nierman thedirty.com/city/manhattan-city/abby-nierman-does-not-deserve-to-be-anonymous/#post-2235267

[@Nothing_ToTalk_About]

This is why you are my favorite Vlogger! Loved it, nothing but the truth!

[@1TashaLynn]

Your on point about the whole movement

[@patricewilcox]

Why be passively aggressive, indirect, ambiguous, unclear, non-verbal, childish and a liar? Why can't she speak openly and say, "I may be willing to sleep with you depending on how this date goes and what the vibe is like. But, if I'm not feeling it, I'm not down and I'll let you know." This obviously wasn't a situation where he was going to take it anyway, so she was in control. FOH!

[@Star-Mac10]

What has perpetuated the actions of these vile men is not only the SILENCE of innocent women, but also those tramps who have no problem sleeping their way up the ladder. Let's not forget to put them in the equation.

[@annahsmith913]

Star Mac no it's silence. Consensual sex has nothing to do with these predators as they like the CONTROL and not the sex.

[@annahsmith913]

Star Mac the psychology 101 will tell you it's about power and control.

[@doc_ofalltrades2444]

@Funkydineva your reaching at this point. Some people may lie but that does not undermine the true accounts. I’m sorry girl BUT YOU HAVE NO IDEA ABOUT BEING A WOMAN! Men have to be told no a TRILLION times to stop. As a young impressionable teen who grew up in a Christian household I was DUMB enough to believe I could be alone with guys after saying I was a virgin or not trying to have sex. I learned the hard way.To this day there has never been one time I was alone with a man who did not hint, beg or continuously try me. Now I choose wisely. In the mean time and in between time we shouldn’t have to live knowing we’re prey and men are accepted praised predators. Now idk about that situation but don’t say it’s just how men are because that’s atrocious and always has been.

[@Life4all41]

If you said NO and they continued to bother you that’s a problem. If you made a choice to go be with a man alone and talk about sex and he pursued you and you didn’t stop him that’s your problem. It’s ok for men to ask for sex when they’re alone with you. Just like it’s ok for you to go on a date and NOT pull out your own money. It’s ok but you have a choice until they physically take it away form you. Leave. Don’t be alone with them. If you are then make your intentions clear. It’s so simple to do it really is. And don’t be sexual. Some women will dance a grind on a guy then get upset when they wanna go further like WHY even do that. Then okay victim. Stop it.

[@doc_ofalltrades2444]

Are you saying never hang alone with men EVER lol ok. I’m taking it further than physical. Their is a culture in which men feel entitled to sex and think EVERY interaction with a woman is a chance to score. It’s not just how they are... it is a social construct and it can be eliminated. I’m not ok with it and never have been. This is the root of #metoo. If I told you I don’t want to have sex why do I have to plan for you to try. low key isn’t this harassment. Either way it’s not just about what’s a crime. Maybe I don’t want to be coerced either. We have a hypersexualized society point blank. Maybe you ENJOY sex as a foundation of your interaction and life but I do not! Many girls especially young girls DO NOT understand such concepts that are so “obvious” Leaving is not always so black and white either. Why should we continue to just to conform to men as pigs and say hey this is how they are. It seems to me women have to carry all the weight in the sexual realm. Men can be free no restraint, but women must always be avoiding or responding to something. That’s called sexual oppression in my opinion. Also every woman doesn’t encounter some sassy lady that knows the game. That’s dumb to assume. Some people get raped or harassed first THEN pick up on said game.

[@doc_ofalltrades2444]

Mrs. Miller Mrs. Miller Quote “ if you made a choice to be with a man alone and talk about sex and the man pursued you and you didn’t stop him that’s your problem”.....not what we’re taking about here btw! That’s something worse. Not only do you have no outward voice you don’t have one within either. Also not funny!

[@doc_ofalltrades2444]

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[@doc_ofalltrades2444]

@MrsMiller and whoever else. I saw this post and I think it addresses our discussion. Please watch it’s only 1 minute. This is out the offenders mouth. This dialogue NEEDS to be had. No is no the first time not an invitation to battle. Not a cue for me to be convinced. Men should be accountable it is not “How they are” 🤮

[@brunette1234]

You left out some details. While I don't agree with how the woman handled the situation, to say that Aziz did nothing wrong is bs. We are all grown and we can all pick up on when somebody isn't feeling us or when the sexual chemistry is off. I'm thinking that's what she meant by "non-verbal" cues. She might have felt pressured into performing those other sexual acts and yes, she probably should have attempted to leave. There are many women out there who have done things out of fear of how the man may react to rejecting his advances, and it's possible that she felt intimidated in some way. Both parties could have handled this better.

[@annahsmith913]

LM some people don't pick up on non verbal cues.

[@brunette1234]

Annah Smith if you can’t pick up on what it means when somebody moves your hand away from them then I don’t know what else to tell you.

[@Life4all41]

We don’t know if she moved his hand. I don’t think she said that she did either. What I’m trying to understand is how can a woman blame a man for not picking up on NON verbal cues as in not saying anything. Then get upset about it. The truth is you can’t expect someone to read your mind. It’s like with anything thing. I see women talk OPENLY about men as they walk by with prints and say how fine they are and women brag about giving oral to there sleeping partner bc they think that’s what he’ll like to wake up to but how do we know they like it? Maybe he doesn’t but he doesn’t wanna say anything and disappoint. I mean real assault should be talked about not this pseudo read my mind or you raped me bs

[@jamesleon4573]

Mrs. Miller 💯💯💯✔🎯🏆🏆🏆

[@mscreativewon]

You're not crazy or insensitive. How can a person complain about something that didn't happen? She wasn't forced into anything, she said stop and he stopped. I've been a victim of sexual abuse and harassment. And this story doesn't sound either. They had a date. They made out. Nothing happened. I think this topic has opened the door for attention.

[@gianna5642]

FIRST COMMENT 💋🌷🌷

[@AViewFromTracysPoint]

OMG You and these wigs got me dying over here. But yes, these allegations are working my damn nerves.