I'M STILL FAKING BEING AUTISTIC

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Chloé Hayden

Chloé Hayden

3 жыл бұрын

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@larsha01
@larsha01 3 жыл бұрын
I had no idea having a great vocabulary from a young age is common! From grade 1-3 my biggest flex was my constant use of using the word "Exquisite" and yes my teachers would bring it up at parent teacher interviews...
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
Oh definitely it is guess what there’s an American Actress from Star Trek that has an amazing vocabulary and based on past interviews and what I’ve learnt about her personal history I think she’s one of us too.
@Alex-ph5ir
@Alex-ph5ir 3 жыл бұрын
@@Dancestar1981 Can I ask which actor? I love Star Trek so I'm just curious to know :)
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
Alex Kate Mulgrew who plays Captain Janeway on Star Trek Voyager. I’ve read both her memoirs and listened to lots of interviews and tying the pieces together
@Alex-ph5ir
@Alex-ph5ir 3 жыл бұрын
@@Dancestar1981 Oh, neat!
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
Alex it’s not officially diagnosed by anyone though
@deadphoenixrising
@deadphoenixrising 3 жыл бұрын
Because only visibly disabled people are allowed to be disabled........... people are really stupid at times.
@fightforyourfreedomsnow
@fightforyourfreedomsnow 5 ай бұрын
My mothers logic 😒 meanwhile I’ve fallen through the cracks 🙃
@Autistic_Pixie
@Autistic_Pixie 3 жыл бұрын
If someone mentions something I’m passionate about, I will NOT shut up until every last ounce of knowledge is out.
@xcherryxxchanx3425
@xcherryxxchanx3425 3 жыл бұрын
Lol same my interests include sailor moon and dolls
@theyxaj
@theyxaj 3 жыл бұрын
Don't interrupt me while I'm still getting a thought out. I won't respond and I'll keep talking until I'm finished XD THEN you can share your bit and I can listen
@leelove6722
@leelove6722 3 жыл бұрын
Haha same my class breakout group started talking about the promised neverland and I needed more of that talk lol
@IsSheShells
@IsSheShells 3 жыл бұрын
Anime and league of legends.
@artisticautistic9664
@artisticautistic9664 3 жыл бұрын
Same
@jamiefraser1505
@jamiefraser1505 3 жыл бұрын
I think a thing about being well spoken is also "talking at people" vs having a conversation. I can talk to a camera, write/give a speach, because nobody is going to answer me and I can script it beforehand if I need to, but I can't hold a conversation very well most of the time, because I have to be spontaneous and react to other people
@madelinefangirlingtomany3716
@madelinefangirlingtomany3716 3 жыл бұрын
I’m really shy but when you know me I never stop talking
@dani01949
@dani01949 3 жыл бұрын
Madeline Fangirlingtomany sameeeeeee
@amywonderland9297
@amywonderland9297 3 жыл бұрын
Literally me! XD
@jado627
@jado627 3 жыл бұрын
Same!
@artisticautistic9664
@artisticautistic9664 3 жыл бұрын
I mean.... if I get the 'floor' in a conversation, it's all over.
@samormond2624
@samormond2624 2 жыл бұрын
Ditto!
@antiquixx4414
@antiquixx4414 3 жыл бұрын
I love how pre-diagnosis everyone treats you somewhat decent (sometimes, they just think you’re quirky) and then you get diagnosed and now you’re an alien.
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
Not the case for me certain people treated me rubbish the whole time regardless
@antiquixx4414
@antiquixx4414 3 жыл бұрын
@@Dancestar1981 Agreed, but, people took me as just a weird funny person who was just “quirky.” Thats why when diagnosis hit me like a truck people were like “ew”
@robokill387
@robokill387 2 жыл бұрын
@@antiquixx4414 A lot of people think autism is a character flaw or mental illness, or think autistic people lack empathy and are violent. That's why.
@shenqingqiu-sqq5319
@shenqingqiu-sqq5319 2 жыл бұрын
my freinds also treat me normaly until i tell them i have a disorder then they betray me once they know
@KillerGothChick
@KillerGothChick Жыл бұрын
Yeah or the wonderful phrase "you don't look austic" ...wtf am I supposed to look like?
@annesmith7841
@annesmith7841 3 жыл бұрын
I am autistic and selectively mute and slowly scouts has become a safe place for me. The first 4 and 1/2 months I was there my leaders didn't hear me speak and then now I will speak to almost anyone there and look forward to it as a break from family life and was slowly becoming more comfortable going on camps.
@lemonlikethefruit
@lemonlikethefruit 3 жыл бұрын
Scouts (in the UK) was a safe place for me!
@user-cj2dx5tf8g
@user-cj2dx5tf8g 3 жыл бұрын
Omgg I'm so early. I just recently got diagnosed and your videos have been helping me so much! Love from the Netherlands💛!
@anubisfan161
@anubisfan161 3 жыл бұрын
Wow I am from The Netherlands aswell.
@markl4730
@markl4730 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, I was diagnosed at 19 and same
@RealMaGicXz
@RealMaGicXz 3 жыл бұрын
if you got any questions feel free to inbox me i can give you my snapchat or something and answer any qquestions you have or support you i got diagnosed at 14 im now 25
@bringer-of-change
@bringer-of-change 3 жыл бұрын
Don't worry to much. You've simply taken an evolutionary turn towards a way of existence that may serve more useful In today's And tomorrow's time
@poppysummer8001
@poppysummer8001 3 жыл бұрын
The one about fashion I relate too. I’m actually a fashion student and I am also autistic and people don’t seem to think they fit together but I love drawing, designing , styling clothes and sewing and all creative things in general. People also don’t know as soon as I get home I take my “ fashionable “ clothes off and put on all my most comfortable clothes and have myself surrounded by blankets and all my fluffy things and I am always making sure my clothes are comfortable 😂😂♥️ also I love your channel
@kar891
@kar891 3 жыл бұрын
So many people are artistic like you. Good luck!
@elisakrivas
@elisakrivas 3 жыл бұрын
I can act and sing on stage in front of audiences, but I can't make a speech. When I act, I'm not me, I'm a character. When I sing, I don't know who's paying attention and I don't have to look at the crowd itself; I can just look in the center and people think I'm looking at them; it's easy; it's MY singing and, thus, my music for the l moment; it doesn't matter if people are paying attention or not or if they like it or not. Making a speech, though? I have to engage my audience; it's personal, me and them; it feels one-on-one; I have to work harder to keep their interest; I have to make sure they understand what I'm saying; and I have to affirm that they care about what I'm saying. If I fail at these, I'm talking to the air and I might as well look like an idiot talking to a wall, so I feel so much more pressure. Being in front of the audience themselves, though? I get your point, I can do that too.
@idkidc4594
@idkidc4594 3 жыл бұрын
This is exactly how I feel. Everyone was completely socked when I said that I wanted to start acting and they fail to understand that getting in a role means I'm not myself and when I sing on a stage I can just completely ignore the audience and just focus on my singing. Giving a speech really is terrifying because it's me talking not a character, and I'm afraid to open the door when the delivery guy brings the food, or going shopping and having to face the cashier let alone talk in front of a big crowd.
@AliciaGuitar
@AliciaGuitar Жыл бұрын
I was a performer since i was a child, yet i have selective mutism and was placed in special ed. You absolutely can be both. Its exhausting tho. I was a buddhist nun for a while and disrobed because of the social rssponsibilities and public speaking... i was good at it but it was too hard on me and i was often very ill after a speaking engagement (hospital ill, needing iv and everything)
@elisakrivas
@elisakrivas Жыл бұрын
@@AliciaGuitar omg! To the last part, I’m so sorry! I hope you are doing better?
@crystaldawson4465
@crystaldawson4465 3 жыл бұрын
I can normally pick up if someone is autistic after a short conversation. I figured alot of autistic people can pick up on others too. But I feel like that's because I moniter other people's behaviour so much to make sure my behaviour is appropriate. I ran into a guy in Kmart and I picked it up after a few sentences and then he said his autistic and I was like same woo.
@sunflower4568
@sunflower4568 3 жыл бұрын
The "apology part" was so funny 🤣 you're awesome princess Aspien 💙💜💙
@fenixmeaney6170
@fenixmeaney6170 3 жыл бұрын
Neurotypicals only know how to empathize with the way other neurotypicals emote We can empathize with most neurotypicals and neurodivergent
@artisticautistic9664
@artisticautistic9664 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah it's kind of messed up that autistic people know more about nts than nts know about both themselves and autistics combined. Makes me kind of mad
@JD-zh5nv
@JD-zh5nv 2 жыл бұрын
@@artisticautistic9664 you know nothing about it.
@artisticautistic9664
@artisticautistic9664 2 жыл бұрын
@@JD-zh5nv if you want to believe that, fine. I don't actually care what you believe, think, feel, or do, since you're just a faceless nobody on KZbin that I'll never meet in real life so.
@JD-zh5nv
@JD-zh5nv 2 жыл бұрын
@@artisticautistic9664 same at ya. But you you still don't know anything about it.
@artisticautistic9664
@artisticautistic9664 2 жыл бұрын
@@JD-zh5nv you're not me, you can't know what I know.
@Msmollylinhanhthai
@Msmollylinhanhthai 3 жыл бұрын
I should let you know I am Autistic. I have been watching your tiktoks and your videos. Recently I’ve learned to accept my stimming because I’ve grown up in society where I was told my stimming was r**** , so I became ashamed of it. Recently I’ve learned not to mask anymore because there is nothing wrong with me or my stims. Anyway, watching your videos and tiktoks have helped me learn to not mask and to stim freely. I feel so free now when I stim and don’t mask. Thank you for giving me hope and keep up the videos and the tiktoks. I really look up to you. Thank you for being you. Love you.
@beth3065
@beth3065 3 жыл бұрын
Princess Aspien: "I've been pretending this all time because..." KZbin: IFOOD
@tatharelprincessoferegion8162
@tatharelprincessoferegion8162 3 жыл бұрын
I taught one of my teachers a word once . . . she had no idea an otter's den was called a holt but I knew the word because I read Redwall way too much 😂
@PixelPi
@PixelPi 3 жыл бұрын
Chloé, as a fellow autistic, I have watched countless of your videos here and I can tell you unequivocally that you are emphatically autistic. I'm very proud of your great advocacy work on our behalf, the work you are doing is helping to pave a way to a better future for all of us that are on the spectrum.
@larsha01
@larsha01 3 жыл бұрын
See I have bad emotional control meaning I wear my heart on my sleeve and feel deeply
@ashewashere3441
@ashewashere3441 3 жыл бұрын
You wear your heart on your sleeve??? Lol thats so weird? I've never seen any clothes like that???
@2002stylan
@2002stylan 3 жыл бұрын
Emma Parkes YT - LMAO SHUT UP
@larsha01
@larsha01 3 жыл бұрын
@@ashewashere3441 poor you... I guess you're missing out. missing out on a lot... including kindness. honestly, I feel bad
@chloecozart365
@chloecozart365 3 жыл бұрын
Omg I don’t fit the shy stereotype either..and I feel so awkward when talking but I do anyway to test the waters..bc I desperately want friends.
@briannacook211
@briannacook211 3 жыл бұрын
I have not been diagnosed, but from the research I've done and a lot of "thats me" moments, I think i may be autistic. I brought this up to my mother one day and she laughed in my face and told me I'm just not. I have a cousin who is autistic and he is very low functioning, so thats the stereotype she sees when she hears the word. I want to talk to my doctor but am afraid of being laughed at again. 😣
@kar891
@kar891 3 жыл бұрын
there is such a broad spectrum of autism. There are people who are high functioning like this girl is.
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
Lots of women high functioning often misdiagnosed with bipolar or adhd, depression and anxiety and ocd all symptoms of being Autistic
@alyssamoody2992
@alyssamoody2992 3 жыл бұрын
@@kar891 I am one of those, BUT recommendation--we don't really like functioning labels.
@cinnabonbon
@cinnabonbon 3 жыл бұрын
@@Dancestar1981 i was misdiagnosed with adhd, so can confirm
@skmuskanrahaman1690
@skmuskanrahaman1690 2 жыл бұрын
Okey guys I might be a NT but I think there is no such thing as high functioning and low functioning.
@NotAyFox
@NotAyFox 3 жыл бұрын
This is an excellent video with lots of good information on what autism actually is. Definitely going into my spectrum research playlist. Also, now I feel an inexplicable urge to order a phone case with a built in aquarium. Love that.
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
Ooh good choice as an Aspie female I find spending time near water extremely calming
@nialalewis3316
@nialalewis3316 3 жыл бұрын
I had a Centrelink appointment once where I was told straight up that I must’ve been ‘cured’ of my diagnosis of autism because I was successful at university...the nerve and ableism of some people...all I wanted to do was learn more about my special interests in a scenario where my role was clear 🤦🏻‍♀️😂
@aspieangel1988
@aspieangel1988 3 жыл бұрын
I face this too. They always say “you’re too high functioning to be autistic” or they say “Aspergers isn’t autism or a disability” and although I’m happy Aspergers was declaring to be a differring ability now instead of a disability it’s very insulting when people say I have a false diagnosis. It’s ridiculous society expects us to mask who we are too :(
@robokill387
@robokill387 2 жыл бұрын
It's also blatantly false that "aspergers" (it's just autism now, but I'm just using the old term for clarification) isn't a disability - around 80% of people with "aspergers" are unemployed or underemployed because of workplaces not putting reasonable accomodations in place for them. People forget about sensory overload or the need for routine and consistency, because they can't see them. They just see "social awkwardness" and reduce "aspergers" to that. Also, people forget that being able to do a job isn't useful if you can't pass an interview.
@siennaabbatangelo6966
@siennaabbatangelo6966 3 жыл бұрын
Chloe thank you so much for this video! it was hella informative, thank you for teaching me all i need to know wow!
@gmc.1032
@gmc.1032 3 жыл бұрын
ive recently realized after a TON of research on autism that i am in fact autistic. i was afraid to talk about it with my family but somehow my dad found out and told my therapist who approached me about it at a session. now even after i did all this research i had a lot of trouble explaining to her why because i wasnt the one who brought it up, i had no clue it was coming and didnt know how to react. she basically just told me that im too self aware to be autistic and im too empathetic to be autistic and a whole bunch of other stereotypes which made me extremely uncomfortable and i couldnt explain what goes on in my head bc i had no preparation. i can go on and on and on about it if its on my terms and thats usually how a lot of my conversations go. im only really comfortable around people i know super well (a select group of friends) and im a complete nut case around them bur im the complete opposite around people i dont know or am uncomfortable with...or phone/ videocalls.
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
Female autistics are just more self aware in general
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
Using the phone is really difficult for us unless we text message and have lots of time to process information
@RosscoAW
@RosscoAW 3 жыл бұрын
Leave it to Reddit. "Ohhh, you can't have a legitimate reason to justify having a harder life than me. I'm a straight white male that doesn't have as much wealth and as hot a girlfriend as I deserve, it doesn't get worse than that, stop trying to have a harder life." ???? Okay, Mr. Privilege. *cue end gross counter-stereotyping*
@matmat1617
@matmat1617 3 жыл бұрын
Your videos are soooo amazing Chloé!!! I always watch them as soon as I know there out!! I have Asperger’s syndrome and selective mutism. I’m from Australia, I have to go to bed soon so I’m watching your video in the morning and I can’t wait
@mayac9903
@mayac9903 3 жыл бұрын
Chloe, you are just amazing. Your voice is so special and powerful - you are helping to increase awareness and improve the lives of others simply by being yourself. I’ve just found your tik tok which will certainly lead to another binge watching episode of autism awareness videos - honestly the best kind of binge watching . Sending lots of love 💜
@eisdamme
@eisdamme 3 жыл бұрын
If I had an online presence I am sure this would be leveled against me as well, which I find hilarious. Partially because I was diagnosed not once, but twice, and the second time was at a center that specializes in adult autism (especially in women) and was signed off on by two MDs, a team of psychs, as well as an nonprofit agency for disability so that I could receive SSDI, which in the USA is quite hard to get approved for. I was approved on the first try. BUT. I am sure because makeup and alt fashion are two of my biggest (lifelong) hyperfocuses ...I SuReLy am NoT AuTiStIc. Yeah, yeah whatever. Anyone who has ever lived with me would probably choke themselves laughing to hear that. It's maddening that this is an actual mindset that people have. Ableism, ignorance, stereotypes all feed into it but I just don't even get what a human would even GET by faking being autistic. I was hyperlexic as a child, which is its own thing but also has a lot of overlap. I studied drama in school to try and "blend in" (spoiler: it didn't work) and went on to scholarship for costume design, though I had a rough experience in college and took a medical leave, a mental health leave, and almost didn't graduate. While in theater proper, I was great at memorizing the blocking and the words, but repeatedly told I was too "practiced", "rigid" and nothing about my acting was "natural" or "messy". NO SHIT. I would hide in my room to eat because of sensory issues/social anxiety around the cafeteria. The only friends I made and kept took me three years to find ...and they all ended up being either autistic or ADHD. I can write fiction and stream of consciousness visceral narrative, but I'm rubbish at talking in front of even one live person. More than that? Terrible. I lost 30+ jobs due to communication issues and executive function issues from age 18-31.
@dani01949
@dani01949 3 жыл бұрын
eisdamme where is this center that specializes in adult and women? I would really like to get a diagnosis but in my country I haven’t find something similar.
@eisdamme
@eisdamme 3 жыл бұрын
@@dani01949 I went to Spectrum Services in NYC. (Both my psychs were young and female, and generally knowledgeable about different presentations/modern criteria, etc. A friend is also getting diagnosed through one of their clinicians.) www.spectrumservicesnyc.com/
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
Role play situations you are going to experience in life practice until you are able to respond how people expect it definitely helps
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
Daniela Alvarez they do exist that’s how I got my diagnosis in Australia at the age of 23
@eisdamme
@eisdamme 3 жыл бұрын
@@Dancestar1981 I have done this my whole life, and though it helps somewhat, usually what I envision is not the way the situation ends up going. It also doesn't really get easier the more I do it. It's just as hard, and often just as unpredictable every time. Luckily (?) I don't find myself in social situations much anymore, as I am disabled and 95% homebound.
@heckinstellar
@heckinstellar 3 жыл бұрын
i just saw a tweet saying women can't be autistic, we're just lacking maternal instinct and being childish 💀💀💀
@chloeshayden
@chloeshayden 3 жыл бұрын
Girl tag me in the tweet I’m ready to fight
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
Rubbish lots of women are autistic and some don’t get their diagnosis until they’re in their sixties or seventies
@clarathecat1233
@clarathecat1233 3 жыл бұрын
Ur personality is exactly like mine And I'm Autistic too-
@thestoryofmylifediaries7641
@thestoryofmylifediaries7641 3 жыл бұрын
My too
@Princess_Pixie
@Princess_Pixie 3 жыл бұрын
Omg trying to be fashionable AND make sure your clothes meet your sensory needs! This is exactly how I shop
@Yours_sincerely_thedreamer
@Yours_sincerely_thedreamer 3 жыл бұрын
The thing you said about the being shy stereotype is soooo true! I think it is hard to classify a lot of autistics as introverts or Extraverts. For us it really really depends on the context. For example my singing teacher thought I was the most outgoing and Party crashing person ever, same as my harp teacher. And then on parties I would barely say a word, same as in large groups. Except when they are discussing “one of my topics” than nobody can stop me speaking😂 but it’s still very exhausting though...
@phoebelianna7226
@phoebelianna7226 3 жыл бұрын
I cry every time I watch one of your video because I relate SO HARD!
@carrie9960
@carrie9960 3 жыл бұрын
This was very helpful for me thank you. I’m going to show my girls this. They have a new diagnosis and honestly 2 of them it was hard for me to see because they seem so friendly where my others keep quiet or to themselves more. I subscribed to you for them. ❤️
@poppysummer8001
@poppysummer8001 3 жыл бұрын
I think it would good if you do a video directed at newly diagnosed Autistics to give the information you’ve learnt and help them understand more as I’m somewhat recently diagnosed and watching videos of yours and others have helped a lot so having a video about it would be so helpful for some people.♥️♥️
@9crutnacker985
@9crutnacker985 3 жыл бұрын
I was going to comment but now it comes to it, where to start. Too many things to say. it takes too long. So I'll just say I love the positivity & enthusiasm you can put into you videos. Does me good (mostly). Surely it must be draining doing that though!
@RosscoAW
@RosscoAW 3 жыл бұрын
Same. So many half-typed replies I've backspaced out of for lack of being too rambly and unable to complete each.
@evie4265
@evie4265 3 жыл бұрын
me and my friends love quiet places. but we are the loudest we know.
@wantingoneangel8976
@wantingoneangel8976 3 жыл бұрын
Evie's Universe+ I hope you do not mind me saying, but I so LOVE Pusheen and I LOVE your Pusheen icon:)!! I also LOVE that Chloe love's animals because I do too:)!! I especially love Cats:)!!
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
My mum still tells me off for being too loud I’m a 39 yo female Aspie
@evie4265
@evie4265 3 жыл бұрын
@@wantingoneangel8976 sadly i changed it to match my interests changing but i love Pusheen to, i themed my room around her!!!!!!! i love Chloe's animals, especially her frogs
@evie4265
@evie4265 3 жыл бұрын
@@Dancestar1981 lol, I get told off for having an outside voice when im whispering, nts just dont understand
@becd2239
@becd2239 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you! You help validate me when I am coming to terms with my autism at 36. Keep shining you beautiful fairy. xoxo
@knightoftheday1
@knightoftheday1 3 жыл бұрын
I relate a lot to this video thanks for making it
@nickclarkuk
@nickclarkuk 3 жыл бұрын
My teenager recently got diagnosed with adhd and asd ... and depression struggling with school and life . You give me hope that everything will be okay in the end . Thank you .
@uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuh
@uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuh 3 жыл бұрын
I find it horrible how uneducated people call Autism an illness and say that "you suffer from it"... No, I don't "suffer" from anything mate, I live with it and I have no pain with it. I remember around a year ago on the news a reporter was talking about mental illness and brought up autism/aspergers and described it being an illness and saying that children "suffered"... 😭
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
No we suffer from other people’s ignorance and how so many neurotypical ‘a treat us with disrespect
@robokill387
@robokill387 2 жыл бұрын
@@Dancestar1981 Agreed. I'm perfectly happy with myself and am perfectly capable. What I suffer from is lack of (really quite simple) accommodations and respect. I have a university degree in STEM, and it took me 4 years to get a job because employers were unwilling to allow me to do a work trial (with no pay, mind you!) instead of an interview, and I couldn't pass an interview. I'm able to socialize OK once I get comfortable with the people around me and get a chance to figure out how they're likely to react when I talk to them. But many companies won't give you a chance, they just assume if you can't hold eye contact, you're automatically untrustworthy, or if you're nervous, you're automatically unconfident. They also these days often ask completely ridiculous, deliberately unclear questions that don't make sense and have nothing to do with the job, just to see how candidates react, which is almost designed to exclude autistic people. example: "If you could take anyone on a road trip with you, who would you take and why?" “On a scale of 1 to 10, rate me as an interviewer?"
@sallyjardine6873
@sallyjardine6873 3 жыл бұрын
I love your videos. They resonate with me so well and express some of the thoughts and feelings that I would like others around me to understand.
@wantingoneangel8976
@wantingoneangel8976 3 жыл бұрын
Chloe, I so LOVE this video:)!!! I LOVE that you have a sense of humor and light heartedness in your videos:)!! I am not autistic, but I believe you because I know what it is like to be accused of "faking" being in physical pain because you can not "see with your naked eyes" my injuries as well as you "con not see with your naked eyes" my auto-immune problems. Also, I can not wear denim jeans because of my arthritis as well as my bladder disease. Any way, Chloe, I am so happy that you are popular too because you have so much love for animals and I so love it when you say, "different; not less", which shows love meaning that all human beings have great value:)!! Sending happy vibes and love from America to you
@ivure
@ivure 3 жыл бұрын
Lovely video! Your videos remind me that we're not alone, and it's okay to be different.
@milliem9141
@milliem9141 3 жыл бұрын
As a fellow aspie I absolutely adore your videos!!
@sarahbrassard3285
@sarahbrassard3285 3 жыл бұрын
Omg the apology though,me when I tell my teachers I'm autistic and they answer...no your not!!!
@tuliah9025
@tuliah9025 3 жыл бұрын
So I'm not ugly, I'm mixed, very loud, and I'm a girl. And I'm autistic.
@robbiewales3007
@robbiewales3007 3 жыл бұрын
Excellent video as always Chloe
@sammiperry8260
@sammiperry8260 3 жыл бұрын
I know how you feel because even though I don’t fit what they think I should be as far as being autistic people tend to not believe me either. I love your videos. They helped me understand myself a lot better. Keep being awesome!
@ReineDeLaSeine14
@ReineDeLaSeine14 3 жыл бұрын
Makeup was one of my SpIns for like...4 years lol. Your style is awesome.
@finnprobert9789
@finnprobert9789 3 жыл бұрын
I struggle to pick clothes one that don't give me sensory issues and two that actually match so I have 8 of the same outfit
@RealMaGicXz
@RealMaGicXz 3 жыл бұрын
i love this video answering all the things that people think you cant be austistic i got diagnosed when i was 14 i live in the uk and went through a mainstream school and didnt come out with terrible results despite being bullied the entire time. also might i add that austistic people are good at things but there that one thing that austistic people are into with a passion mine is technology i am really into technology from computers to phones to gaming anything technoloigcal im into. also if anyone has anything they want to ask or just want someone to talk to about autism just inbox me im happy to help
@adalie4632
@adalie4632 3 жыл бұрын
Yeeeesh!! Burn them haters!! I’ve gotten told stuff like, “you can’t be autistic because you don’t look autistic” or “but you got diagnosed too late in life, your parents would have noticed a lot sooner”.
@jennifernybergpixie7958
@jennifernybergpixie7958 3 жыл бұрын
Same
@teodorasavoiu4664
@teodorasavoiu4664 3 жыл бұрын
Oh god fuck these people. Every time I get told this kind off stuff it makes me feel all sorts of angry, then I spiral into questioning my entire life history and moral compass if it happens on a particularly bad day.
@allyskaleidoscope
@allyskaleidoscope 3 жыл бұрын
I feel this just got diagnosed after 14 years of being overlooked developmentally...like idk who I am...but I get uncomfortable a lot...bc I mask people don't think I have abilities
@madelinefangirlingtomany3716
@madelinefangirlingtomany3716 3 жыл бұрын
That top is adorable😍
@Tenareful
@Tenareful 3 жыл бұрын
I've seen a few people who I have been like yup probably autistic but its completely because of the way they are reacting to the environment because it's how I react
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
Autistics are generally good at identifying other autistics we seem to have an inbuilt radar for it
@ishaaq79
@ishaaq79 3 жыл бұрын
Hi 2weeks ago my brother got diagnosed with autism u help soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much
@EADalton02
@EADalton02 3 жыл бұрын
I have the same issue as yours, I would even say my personality comes off a lot like yours. Bubbly, expressive, loud and because of this people just think I'm a little weird. And when I tell them I'm autism they always seem shocked because I don't for the stereotypes. I got quieter in class than at home but still pretty confident but I then I got bullied etc and got quieter and quieter. Most the time people didn't believe I was autistic because I as well behaved. I was also really friendly, decent at making friends but it's hard to keep friends. I normally get the you don't look autistic but sometimes you do and that's it painful cuz like they think it's ugly people or it's that I wear glasses. I'm really good at eye contact unless I'm getting told off,
@cararosesummers2463
@cararosesummers2463 3 жыл бұрын
I started following a couple of months ago and I can relate to a lot of the stuff you say , I've told my mental health doctor and they're like it just anxiety and I'm like no I have anxiety it feels really different and my twin was just diagnosed to be on the spectrum as well as ADHD , our guardian didn't really care for us well growing up
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
It runs in families there is a genetic component
@disdrac
@disdrac 3 жыл бұрын
7:50 this! ❤️ Personally it's anime conventions and boardgame events. 😊
@jordanbarrett4934
@jordanbarrett4934 3 жыл бұрын
Shes beautiful
@AngstyRat
@AngstyRat 3 жыл бұрын
I remember when I was in SPHE class and I raised my hand to say something when I realised I was about to start with "Well, from an evolution standpoint, isnt it beneficial to-" and then I quickly put my hand down because I knew the rest of the 13 year olds in my class wouldnt understand 😅(I was also 13 at the time)
@nategetsreal7605
@nategetsreal7605 3 жыл бұрын
You rock! And you're so much fun! Thank you!
@ThisGirlReviews
@ThisGirlReviews 3 жыл бұрын
please do an updated room tour
@thesoupteacher4943
@thesoupteacher4943 3 жыл бұрын
We are so, so similar in so many ways. It is so refreshing to watch you. Makes me feel less alone. A question that came up recently - What are your thoughts on the word “disabled” when referring to autism?
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
We struggle with certain things but society definitely disables us even more
@charliesheffield1891
@charliesheffield1891 3 жыл бұрын
Words are were hard to me to get out especially when I’m around people who don’t get that I have Aspergers.
@BramLastname
@BramLastname 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, as someone who's moved from a turbulent household with a bunch of weirdos to a calm neurotypical mono-gender household. Sometimes it's better if they stop asking.
@MissAlissa15
@MissAlissa15 3 жыл бұрын
Being from the US, Australia seems like such a safe place for aspies. So many creators, researchers, and information I come across are Australian. I want to move there haha
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
It’s more accepting than the US but it still has a long way to go
@mercurbee
@mercurbee 3 жыл бұрын
3:29 plus a lot of people will yell at you and hate you because you don’t understand HOW to communicate like them so the only way to get by is just be quiet
@mercurbee
@mercurbee 2 жыл бұрын
@Lonely Stoner definitely not
@ellie3365
@ellie3365 Жыл бұрын
I love you in Heartbreak High!
@fenixmeaney6170
@fenixmeaney6170 3 жыл бұрын
What was the word and what does it mean?
@gracie6771
@gracie6771 3 жыл бұрын
Hi always here for you love your vidios
@johnnafisher3123
@johnnafisher3123 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Chloe I love your flower crown can you make a video, on how to make them🌸🌼🌺🌸🌼🌺👍🏻
@crystaldawson4465
@crystaldawson4465 3 жыл бұрын
The outfits! I've worn something really cute for a night out but the top was just sensory hell. But it was sooo cute. So instead of enjoying my night out I looked cute while quietly sitting at the bar. While if I go out and wear something that's comfortable but also cute I'll be super chatty and just in my element. But I tend to be too chatty which is a problem.
@josephinee.s
@josephinee.s 3 жыл бұрын
i WHEEZED AT THE APOLOGY PART
@sarah3412
@sarah3412 3 жыл бұрын
Asd as an adult specifically female is new for me. Knowing it make me cry and going crazy since there is same people like I am..i am not that weird.. Then after im coming on track.. i got into research on asd.. but too scare to take assessment. And few days ago I get what it really to prove I am asd person. Then I open up with my mom she say no. So i was so mad and sad!. Yesterday i told my sister(she is teacher) so she had taught about it. And she say No. It is 100% because of your behavior. U aren't asd even 1%. So I did think that way. I just picky as hell with food, i just ignorance and rude, i am just very sensitive to light(i cant even have light at night without glasses). I just being 26 and still throwing tantrum with small things. In my world I only have yes and no. In the middle doesn't make sense to me. I once even sleep inside the car just because my mom told me we going somewhere that day but get postpone next day! Is that make sense ? I used to cope with(masking). But then something hit me which I cannot do it anymore. Since i try to be A but people still hate it. Im being B then suddenly being A after while.. since it hard to be A and B depending situation.
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
Ah sensory sensitivities
@sarah3412
@sarah3412 3 жыл бұрын
@@Dancestar1981 what do u mean?
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
새라 so many of us have sensory sensitivities it’s a telltale sign of being autistic bright flashing lights make us uncomfortable
@sarah3412
@sarah3412 3 жыл бұрын
@Dancestar1981 im still under diagnosis. So im not sure if i am autistic. But i am super sensitive with light. I even wear glasses eventho my power is -0.50 because I blink too much. If i didnt wear glasses I wont see well and my eyes will be tired plus headache. But sadly I was called as vampire because I am the person who love to be in the dark and I will also stay away from light. Sometimes I even get annoyed with it! I hate it so so much 😫😫
@jasminemason1174
@jasminemason1174 3 жыл бұрын
Fuck I'm watching all your videos and SHIT MAKES SO MUCH SENSE. I cut out all the labels on my shirts and the little nobs on the end of my socks (so would end up with holes) because they would drive me INSANE and make me freak out. Also when I go snowboarding I've had panic attacks because of all the restrictive clothing. Also read all the Harry Potter books and others in first grade. And I have a huggeeee vocabulary
@jellybob4569
@jellybob4569 3 жыл бұрын
Don't listen to people that don't accept the real you
@nutjobproductions5576
@nutjobproductions5576 3 жыл бұрын
This is all sorts of banana pancakes awesome! And I got to ask...obviously the black and white parts were severe sarcasm? If that was, that was hell funny!
@bringer-of-change
@bringer-of-change 3 жыл бұрын
The fact that people think it makes you look different honestly bothers me.
@robokill387
@robokill387 2 жыл бұрын
people just think they can always "tell" if someone's disabled, and don't believe in invisible disability.
@chloecozart365
@chloecozart365 3 жыл бұрын
I don’t talk at parties much either 😟
@bringer-of-change
@bringer-of-change 3 жыл бұрын
I thought hard about that actually; about pretending to be autistic. Being a person with autism I wouldn't even know how to pretend to be or not to be autistic lol. Its ridiculous that someone said you can't be autistic and pretty at the same time to. Theres a girl I know nearby who's also autistic and I find her SO cute its ridiculous actually. Definitely wanna date her. But the fact that "normal" people don't know this is a possibility is bad. Idk how many girls thought I was hot who didn't know i was autistic.....let the sleeping dogs lie eh? Lmao! XD
@endspeciesism4
@endspeciesism4 3 жыл бұрын
does anyone else have anxiety about greetings and farewells? I've always found them uncomfortable and causes anxiety so bad that one time I fainted and fell down the stairs and broke my ankle. I also find greeting the same people on a regualr basis (like coworkers) hard, the thought of having the same greetings every single time is so strange. I don't know if I'm autistic
@heathwilder
@heathwilder 3 жыл бұрын
Definitely. I hate them. I tend to "smoke bomb" at parties because of the wierd rituals. I'm autistic 😊
@georgerobins4110
@georgerobins4110 2 жыл бұрын
10/10 apology video lmfao
@territhetankedupterrapin6592
@territhetankedupterrapin6592 6 ай бұрын
You're awesome Chloe. I think you're absolutely brilliant and as somebody with Aspergers who has Autism as one of his special interests...you are most definitely not faking this! I find you very refreshing and entertaining to watch! 💙 Also my last ex girlfriend told me I'm not Autistic and she knew this because her ex girlfriend is Autistic, which is the stupidest and most ill-informed reason that I've ever heard considering how differently it presents from person to person, let alone some of the differences in presentation between genders! 🤦🤣
@garyfrancis5015
@garyfrancis5015 3 жыл бұрын
I get sad because life won't always be here. It is sad that any of use could have a heart attack tomorrow. I get sad that life is just a ageing process. Also sadness on term of terrorism, plague 2020 and all the hate in the world.
@rileyhearne5059
@rileyhearne5059 3 жыл бұрын
Hiii
@RoadkilI
@RoadkilI 3 жыл бұрын
Hi
@nadinescott5454
@nadinescott5454 3 жыл бұрын
So true about being quiet..until in comfort zone
@annabellechenoweth9469
@annabellechenoweth9469 2 жыл бұрын
I want purple hair and rainbow eyes. By the way, thank you for making this.
@skiziskin
@skiziskin 11 ай бұрын
I have rainbow eyes!
@jordandraper3546
@jordandraper3546 3 жыл бұрын
i cant wear my school uniform and im struggling to touch my hair :
@CM-uh7io
@CM-uh7io 3 жыл бұрын
LMAO, same. I have a very large, esoteric vocabulary and use a lot of niche words to describe things in a certain, specific way. High school English teachers don't appreciate. 🤨
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
So do I people used to call me the walking talking encyclopaedia and dictionary when I was at school
@katelynmupfupi2427
@katelynmupfupi2427 3 жыл бұрын
I always got accused of plagiarism when I was younger bc the teachers didn't think I would know those words
@zombiesusi
@zombiesusi 3 жыл бұрын
Lol at the eye contact thing. Of course you can look at the camera. It's not looking back at you. I can also look at people's eyes in videos because they're not looking at me. They don't even know I'm watching them. Tho if someone has really piercing stare and their irises are showing completely I tend to only glance, look elsewhere or only listen.
@babyyoda7417
@babyyoda7417 2 жыл бұрын
Wait, at the start, she actually got me, I thought she really was faking, LMAO
@ashleewithane6879
@ashleewithane6879 3 жыл бұрын
I'm pretty sure I'm Autistic. There are two little boys who have sensory issues and I think that they are on the autism spectrum too. Their mom has told me that I am the only person, other than her, that they will stay with. Do you think that people who are autistic or who have sensory issues can sense each other? Because I could somewhat tell the day I met them that they were very much like me
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 3 жыл бұрын
Yes it’s a psychic or spiritual connection I’d describe it as being almost like instinct in the animal kingdom
@pegairheart
@pegairheart 3 жыл бұрын
LOL
@LR-pw9dd
@LR-pw9dd 9 ай бұрын
We still should be distinguishing btw Asperger’s and autism. 2 diff disorders now both on a spectrum.
@jellybob4569
@jellybob4569 3 жыл бұрын
Lol I am loud when on my own
@spudraider737
@spudraider737 3 жыл бұрын
Silk and wool are the worst for me just want to rip my skin off when I touch those fabric
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