I'm still grieving. (Never really spoke on this before) | VLOG

[@theafrodzac]

To everyone that has lost a loved one.. I'm sending you a huge virtual hug and kiss. May the memory of them give you all the strength you need to live in love.

[@scarletletter68]

Thank you. I lost my best buddy in December of 2019 right before Christmas. Last year I was miserable and I still miss him like crazy.

[@theafrodzac]

@@scarletletter68 You're most welcome. You'll always miss him and it's okay to cry, scream sometimes & reminisce. Just don't get stuck in sadness/depression he wouldn't want that for you. Therapy is a good release if you ever feel like you're stuck in depression. Grief is never easy boo...just take it one day at a time. I know it's easier said then done at times.

[@1960genius]

thank u so much.

[@tamikaartis175]

Thank you and may god keep you blessed and highly favored amen🙏🏾

[@lindasanderson4829]

Thank you 🙂

[@busagyrl8109]

My best friend unexpectedly..I still have moments of crying..it's been 4 years. She was an only child so I now help her mom with some of her bills every month so she can survive. They laugh alike talk alike so it's still kind of hard. Now her mom is one of my best friends. I know she would have done the same for me if I had passed and my mom needed help.

[@jennifercarter3346]

You are a beautiful soul! I am so sorry for your loss.

[@ladyt4062]

Wow, what beautiful blessing that you are! So sorry for your loss.

[@YT4Me57]

God bless you. You are truly doing His work. 💖

[@Luv2shop803]

I’m so sorry you lost your bestie. That’s so kind of you to be there for your friends mom.

[@TorrieLashay]

Sorry for your loss. You are a sweet person to care for her mom. Blessings to you. ❤️

[@bangieb0]

I’m a 43 year old widow and I lost my husband August 2017. I literally was just beginning to be able to breathe again and turned around and lost my Mommy in December 2020 from Covid. I have no idea which stage of grief I’m in. I’m literally just taking it one day at a time. Prayers to you❤️

[@redbonescorpio79]

🙏🏽

[@Luv2shop803]

So sorry for your loss

[@bangieb0]

@@Luv2shop803 Thank you

[@shantellesteele]

Prayers for you❤️

[@babigyrl._]

🙏🏾

[@MrsBroandKKShow]

My mom passed away 2 days before Thanksgiving, only 6 weeks after a lung cancer diagnosis. I'm an only child. I'm devastated. I have my mom's house, car, EVERYTHING. I just met with her financial advisor a month ago. It's like, I don't even want this money. I just want my mom. We were closer than close.

[@dblccole]

I'm so sorry. I'm an only child also and extremely close to my Mom as well. 🙏🏾❤️

[@MrsBroandKKShow]

@@dblccole thank you. I have a husband and 2 girls. They're only 7 and 2. My oldest is still having a hard time too. I'm surrounded by love but it's not the same.

[@joib8447]

So sorry for your loss. Only child as well my passed in 2019 from cancer.

[@Darknlovelyone85]

Sending my love to you.

[@exhale1913]

🙏🏿❤️🙏🏿

[@kembafrancis5905]

I lost my first born son 4 years ago at the age of 2.5yrs. I think I have accepted his passing but what I find most difficult is when you meet people and they ask you “how many kids do you have”? It’s tough to answer but I do acknowledge my precious baby boy because he is my son nonetheless. So here it is. I am a mom of four boys everyone! 💙

[@mirandaallen5028]

🧡

[@brooklyngal73]

❤️

[@sonyblues]

You definely ARE a mom of 4 boys!!! Including this precious one that anybody asking will definitely meet if they end up in the good side after their time on here... So it's up to them to do what it takes to ever meet this cutie 💙.

[@anitapatience6332]

💖💖

[@lessiedavis9015]

I tell people I have a son and a daughter in heaven

[@staciamj1]

Meechy was just beautiful and smart. She is missed, was a huge follower.

[@scarletletter68]

Me too! I watched Meechy before Vaughn

[@banandous3356]

@@scarletletter68 me too 😇

[@jenb1261]

@@scarletletter68 Same, I found Vaughn through Meechy’s channel.

[@RitaReeB]

Grieving is a cycle. You're never truly "done" grieving because you're constantly moving through different stages of the cycle.

[@donnac.3273]

I understand you grieve. My sister past 5 years ago from aneurysm. I just spoke with her 3 hours before she went to the emergency room. I just was able to say her name 3 months outloud without breaking down. I had to get therapy because I fell into a deep depression. She was my heart. It is a pain, I never felt before. I miss her everyday.

[@Caprivlogs]

so proud of you for getting therapy! the stages of grief; shock, denial, bargaining ,anger, and acceptance. never in that order. so many people will never go to therapy, it is such a stigma ,but is needed to begin to heal.

[@lovewins8914]

Omg😢😢😢😢😢 same here. 💜💜💜🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿 My sister passed unexpectedly eight years ago from an aneurysm. I had just seen her that Monday and spoken to her that Tuesday, and that Wednesday I got a phone call that she had passed. It has been eight years and I still grieve her. My father passed two years later on my sister‘s birthday and we truly feel like he got sick and passed from hard grieving because he was just fine before she passed. I was able to deal with my dad‘s death a lot easier because when he got sick and went into the hospital, I was able to see him, touch him, kiss him, tell him that I loved him, but I didn’t have the same opportunity with my sister. I also went into protective mode for my sister‘s daughter, who at the time was 14, my children who were very close to my sister their auntie, and of course my parents. I carry so much weight for everyone else that I did not have time to grieve. When I did go through my grieving, it was extremely tough in bed. Therapy helped me out a lot, and now I try to help those around me who are dealing or dealt with the same thing by speaking to them and telling them my testimony. I seeing lessons, love, and a big hug to you for your loss and I pray that God continues to bless you and your family.💜🙏🏿

[@donnac.3273]

@@lovewins8914 You got mr crying 😭😭. It was so hard to say her name. I made an alter for her when I could say her name outloud last month. It consisted of her favorite things. She known for her red lipstick, she loved Red Hots candy, and Old Navy tank tops. I talk to every day. Her spirit helped me I know it sound strange but I feel her presence with me.

[@lovewins8914]

@@donnac.3273 And you keep doing whatever it takes for you to get through Donna. For me even after eight years, it’s still not easy sweetheart but I keep pushing. I talk to my sister a lot as well and so to my dad. I talk to them both as if they are sitting right beside me. That is also a part of my healing. You are strong but there are times that we get tired of being strong, so when you feel the need to scream, scream, when you feel the need to cry cry because every tear that you drop, is a liquid prayer to God. Love you sis and I will be praying for you💜💜💜🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@faithlovlet]

I lost my brother this year and it is very hard it's like you don't know if you are coming or going I just pray and talk to God ask him to give me strength I have my days of going in and out of depression my brother and I was very close .no one would never understand unless they have experience it . I just lean to God I can't do it on my own

[@Marcie_does_it]

My grandmother died 2014, dad in 2015, mom in 2016. I’m married now and have a completely different life, but there’s always a cloud that hangs over me. I’m blessed, and busy, and love my life, but there’s always an underlying sadness. I think this is how it’ll always be. I’ll never be who I was before. And that’s okay.

[@Luv2shop803]

I’m so sorry for your loss 🙏🏾

[@exhale1913]

❤️🙏🏿❤️

[@faithlovlet]

Sorry for your loss I've just loss my brother so I do understand the life changing it's hard to process but I take it one day at a time..

[@mrstiffanybanks]

Exact same for me 2014, 2015, 2016. My grandma was expected, she was 92. My parents however was totally unexpected and I believe that’s the worse. It effects me most during moments I wish they could be here for like my kids graduations and such. Prayers sis 🙏🏾

[@callynt]

People leave us physically. That's it. I still hear my departed loved ones voices in my head some days. There is no timetable on grief.

[@sharonhunter7855]

I understand Mrs. Vaughn, I lost my hubby last year and I still talk like he's waiting for me at home. So, I understand totally.

[@samantham9056]

We all miss Meechie, thank God you have a strong platform to keep her spirit alive, b/c Meechie is living through you! Keep pushing Vaughn you are so strong and inspirational

[@withlove_star]

I lost my little sister In October last year. She was 19 and passed in a car accident. I think grief is so individual. It's different for all of us but you just take one day at a time. Peace to you Mrs. Vaughn, you have been so strong. Even talking about it, I would have been in tears.

[@withlove_star]

@Pioneer Academy Thank you! Peace and love to you as well ❤️

[@jelly2249]

I lost my mother during my pregnancy with my daughter. Today is actually my daughter’s 2nd birthday and I swear I feel my moms presence more on important days like this. I still talk to and about my mom like she’s still physically here because I can feel her.

[@1977pinkpanther]

I still watch your sister’s videos. Her spirit will always be with you. I lost my grandmother Nov 13, 2019. So 2020 has been a blur. Plus I found out that my daughter which was born with spinal bifida. Has autism. That’s another blow. My grandmother was the last grandmother that I had. Every time I go to her grave. It still feels fresh. Just feels like she’s been out of town and I can’t talk to her 😭. Praying for your strength, and anyone who has lost a love one.

[@LadyCaramel33]

I lost my sister almost 13 years ago. For the first few years, I had to wear something of hers every day. As time went on, I gradually stopped. During the pandemic, I realized that I have been wearing the last pair of earrings she wore everyday.

[@adorkables4986]

I understand, I've lost my big sister in 2009 from domestic violence and we didn't get any justice so the guy is still out walking around. I see him sometimes and it hurts. I've been in counseling and my mom just recently went to her grave for the first time which is a huge step for her. We miss her terribly. She was killed on our dads birthday which makes it even more harder to celebrate his birthday. It's been tough, I always wondered what life would be with her still here. She was the life/light in our lives and always had a smile on her face. I've been wanting to move from the city because it just remind me of the pain of losing her but my parents don't want to leave so I stay to help them. But enough of me gibbering lol, but yes, I definitely understand the loss of someone close and special in your life. She was 19 years old and I was 17. We were two peas in a pod. I loved her dearly. ❤️

[@redbonescorpio79]

💜🙏🏽

[@candiappleblack]

💕💕💕

[@Twilight_Again]

💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝

[@AprylGunnSherrod]

I am praying for you Vaughn. This grief thing is so incredibly hard. My mom passed in 2017.... almost 4 years ago and I feel the same way; like my Mom (and Dad) are always with me. It’s hard because I have to literally remind myself to speak/ think of her in past tense as I have my young sons I don’t want to confuse them. Most people around me don’t truly understand the grief process, including my husband. In times like this: it is comforting to know you’re not alone. Sending you positivity, love and light ✨

[@MszMekaa]

My mom passed away Oct 24, 2016 the same day Anne and KK made it earth side. (I’ll never forget their bdays). My name is Tameika and Meechy was also Tameka. So y’all are like my innanet family! I first found y’all going natural in 2012 actually Meechy before you. I’m not sure where I am in the grieving process. It’s like I don’t want to grieve cause then it’s real, but I know she isn’t here physically. Spreading love 💕 to you and anyone in any stage of grieving. All we have is our faith to get us through daily 🙏🏾

[@rowseyk21]

Meechy is a beautiful soul this world will never forget. In a short time, she impacted so many. I am so sorry you and she didn't get to journey together longer. 😥 Love watching your relationship and hair videos. I'm still rocking styles I learned from both of you. Big hug to you.

[@marshamarshamarsha7152]

Grief - My Mom. It’s been almost 12 yrs and I still miss her sooooo much! Take your time and continue to cherish your memories of your sister!! OAN: watching your blog and I’m like, is that Steph’s voice. My coworker!! She’s a true gem & a sweetheart!! Excited to know you’ll be partnering with the RTP campaign. Good stuff Vaughn!! 🙌🏾❤️

[@cece3j]

I big chopped back in 2009 and I was a youtube magnet for years soaking up all the natural hair content. I remember you & your beautiful sister!! SIP Meechy Monroe!!! I can definitely relate! Grief is a process I lost my bff suddenly from a stroke in Nov 2019. I relocated from NYC to TX in 2016. I went back home for my birthday & cousins wedding in Oct 2019 first time since I moved. I didn't get a chance to spend a lot of time with her while I was there and the very next month she had a stroke on the same day my brother in law died unexpectedly it was a double blow. She passed 9 days later and I couldn't get back home to her service. My bff for 35 years since I was 11 my grief has been unbearable at times and then 2020 hit with the pandemic. I'm still trying to process it all. I look forward to going home in the Fall and spending time with her daughters.🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️

[@charb423]

Hi MsVaughn, I want to give you my experience which is going to be super hard for me because I am going to be transparent for the world to see. I have an almost 20 year old son and his father passed away when he was 2 years old. His father was 22 years old at time of death and I was almost 21 years old. It was definitely unexpected and I went through so many stages. So much so I wouldn't listen to certain songs that reminded me of his dad or talk about him. I didn't keep pictures of him up because it was too much. Fast forward now, I have almost 7 year old in a really great relationship with her dad but I still hold on to my son's father memories. I still have his ashes and pictures of us in high school and baby show photos. Its in my closet in a keep sake box but it is hard to move forward or give them to our son who don't have much memory of his biological dad and looks up to and consider my partner as his father. I am still trying to figure out how I feel and what stage I am in. I recently can listen to music from back when we was in high school and go into the closet and see like his pictures and ashes and not be emotional. My son from time to time will ask me to tell him a story about his biological dad and I can tell him a story without crying or saying I can't. He appreciate these stories. I am at peace but I can't accept him being "gone" yet. There is no timeline for grief or going through a lost. It is almost 18 years since he been gone and I still get that heaviness as I am writing this but no tears I promise. I don't express my emotions openly but I feel this is a great place to share and be transparent because I am not alone. Thank you for sharing your feelings about grief of your sister and allowing us to share and grieve with you. You are not alone love in this process. 💜

[@nivristyles703]

My granny passed away last year. She was in a nursing home. To me with the pandemic going on and the nursing homes closed, I feel like she is still in there. It’s hard to drive by the facility she was in. I did one time and had to pull over. I still talk about her a lot.

[@FireflyTM247]

I just lost my dad suddenly on 4/20/2021 and I’m all over the place with emotions. I’m the strong one but I’m also his only child so I haven’t had time to process it fully. I broke down at work and I don’t cry in front of anyone. So yeah, grief is an ongoing process and it doesn’t have a cut off time. May Meechy continue to Rest In Perfect Peace. You your family are in my sincere prayers. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@dcocolove808]

Yes I lose my mom at 12 My uncle who raised me at 21 My grandma who raised me before I was 30. I carry them all in my heart and I do speak of them every time I remember something they did,said, just moments. Having so much lost puts in a different reality at the same time you can remain present. I really believe in spirits.

[@beverlyjones9699]

My mom...nearly 30 years ago. Still speak about her like she is in the other room. Healing is not linear. Allow yourself the grace to feel whatever comes when it comes. I love your vlogs. They are never boring!😍

[@anitaglover2047]

I lost my Mom who was my best friend in 2007. I go back and forth with the 5th stage of grief constantly over the years. It’s like you know there gone and with you in spirit always but it’s hard. It’s a consistent process though. Prayers to everyone who have lost loved ones 🙏🏾

[@SashieETV]

Yes, I lost my dad and I’m in the reconstructing and working through phase even though whenever it gets close to June (anniversary of his passing, Father’s Day, and his birthday), I feel pain and sadness. You and Meechy’s chemistry was amazing. So sorry that she’s no longer here in the physical sense but I know she is with you in spirit through memories and so much more.❣️

[@rndiva2u]

I think the stages of grief fluctuate. I lost my Mom in 2016 and my grandmother in 2019. We were all so very close. Somedays, I find myself managing it well. And other days, I find myself back at ground zero. Grief has no end, it's with you forever. Some days are just better than others.

[@msjayeparker]

I love you SIS!!! Hey my Anne!! Time is known to heal wombs but it never does for me! Love yall❤️❤️❤️Vlog#148 you know I lost my brother and my aunt in January and my brother was the next best thing to my dad after he passed in 2015. I have my days of grief but I know GOD is a healer!!❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@karenbell3900]

I lost my heartbeat on Dec 29, 2020 and it's been difficult to grasp the idea that he isn't here physically; but I feel his presence near me every day! I truly understand where you are coming from concerning your sister...Much love and peace to you💕💜💕

[@sweetnaturalmommy4902]

My best friend. We were like twins. She had such an infectious laugh. I still have dreams about her as if she's still here. I don't think there will ever be day I don't think of her. And honestly, I'm still in disbelief. It was 4 years on May 1. You're always in my thoughts, and I'm always rooting for you.

[@deidreej]

I loss my dad a few months after Meechy! We are at peace but like you Vaughn, I talk like he is still here. He was where he wanted to be(his home state visiting family) and he died doing what he loved helping people. Straight freak accident. There is no time limit to grief. The other day I walked into a dark kitchen, that was his space, and I cried. I walk in there every day but something about that day..... Vaughn, whatever you do, just don't hold in your grief. If you feel like crying, shouting, staying in bed, do it all. Just release it! 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@micheledean6039]

I lost my sister in 2014 and I think I’m pretty far in the grieving process. I can speak of her without breaking down. I do say her name and think about her daily! I’ll get emotional sometimes but like you, she’s omnipresent so she’s everywhere now for me.

[@stronggiftfromgod]

Yeah Vaughn I hear you. I remember hearing about your sister passing as I was subscribed to you both many years ago. I lost my husband Feb 2020. Definitely hard being a young widow but just taking it one step at a time. The grieve cycle for me is not linear and I continue to go through the stages and sometimes go back through them. I wish you comfort and strength. Sending my hugs and love! ❤️

[@iamshe3275]

I lost my dad on February 8, I was sooo angry for two months...I'm just accepting the situation and now I cry all the time. It's hard to keep doing the everyday things knowing he is not a drive or call away.

[@sassteann]

Thank you for always being so transparent about your life. May God provide comfort during your healing. I can relate, as I’m in the midst of grieving the second year loss of my daughter’s Father.

[@Ruetendom]

I found you through Meechy. I cried so much when I found out Meechy passed. I never knew her but she helped me so much with my hair journey when I was in high school in Australia with not much representation here. Continue to Rest In Peace Meechy. You are missed

[@BrendaBrown62]

Thanks for sharing I am in the same stage with the pass of my dad.I am a daddy’s girl soon to be 60 and it’s going on 3 years and I miss him, feel him, smell him, and see him in dreams

[@t.sledge2678]

My 1st cousin was like my sister, she passed October of.2020. I haven't grieved, I always think of her being in the hospital like she was so many times. Just waiting on her to come home, but I know she won't🥺. I completely understand.

[@MegsDai]

I feel the same with my dad that passed in January of 2020, the waiting feeling isn’t as bad right now as it was for the first 6 months. I’m not sure if that feeling ever lessens 🥺I totally understand

[@kialewis7408]

I lost my best friend in August of 2020. It was unexpected and I have a hard time accepting it. We were best friends, sorority sisters, line sisters, colleagues, etc. I miss her so much and I find myself crying out of the blue sometimes.

[@1960genius]

I send you a cyber hug today Vaughn. The chaplain that came to visit me at my workplace after my mom died said "only you can decide when your grief is over". It's been almost 6 years and I'm still grieving. I've accepted it but it still hurts in my gut. God bless you.❣️

[@CallMeTink]

YOUR SISTER LEFT AN AMAZING AMOUNT OF INSPIRATION AND INFLUENCE BEFORE HER JOURNEY💛👑 YOU KEEP HER SPIRIT IN OUR HEARTS AND WE LOVE YOU VAUGHN

[@trbphotography11]

I feel your pain. I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my mom 8-28-20 and then my grandmother 1-20-21. I've had to suffer through the 1st everything without them. This is the first Mother's Day without them. I haven't in a while but I found myself reaching for my phone and strolling to call them. It's still doesn't seem real. 🙏🏾 for anyone suffering.

[@msbgr8]

My best friend died unexpectedly. She was in the hospital, but had been released from ICU was stable then she coded. I'd talked to her the day before. Called her 2 hours after she'd passed and her brother answered. My heart dropped and it's like since then I haven't been able to pick it up. We were going to grow old as besties, shop and travel together. I miss her SO MUCH. July 15, 2015 seems like a lifetime ago. 😭

[@naimad.7647]

My heart goes out to you! My mom passed 22 years ago in June and sometimes I think I am still grieving. The funny thing about grief is that it comes in waves like the ocean. Some years I am consumed with emotion and other years I laugh and smile. The pain never goes away yet tme makes it easier.

[@takishajohnson7145]

My mother has been gone over 10 years. I still have issues acknowledging it. It literally hurts to say it. I just keep moving with life and do the best I can to get through. I still can't process it.

[@CenteredInUnity]

I’ve been in grief therapy since my father’s transition three years ago. I’ve learned their is no timeline for grief. I miss my dad every single day but each day is slightly different. Hugs

[@feliciaward6816]

My mom passed away 5 years ago, and I didn't know until someone told me that I was doing the same as you which is talking about them as if they are still here. It's extremely hard no matter how long they have passed. It is definitely a process.

[@MegsDai]

I didn’t even realize it, I do the same with my dad, so does my mom and my 16 year old daughter. It’s hard not to.......

[@tashataylor8242]

Hi Vaughn! I lost my mom ten years ago, and I still speak of her as if she's still here. I have days when I think of her, and I start crying out of nowhere. I know the saying is time heals everything, but it's been rough for me.

[@ntownsend100]

So glad I found this video. I buried my mama 2 months ago, and everyday feels like it just happened yesterday. I’m dancing through the various stages of grief, and giving myself a bit of grace to do just that. Blessings to you and yours, Vaughn. 🙏🏼❤️

[@wandac3676]

The best part about your vlogs is that they're real. We can all relate to grief, vaccines, and a delicious omelette 😋💓

[@ladyt4062]

I am keeping your husband and all sheriffs, police, and other first responders in my prayers!

[@nikki2424]

Lost both my mom (2013) and my dad (2009) and then my grandma this past November 2020... still grieving... I still have my mom’s voicemails...these were three of THEE closest people in my life... my mom and I were legitimately best friends... and my grandma was my world... two of the strongest women in my life are gone and I often wonder who can I look up to??

[@YesLioness]

It's really tough because, the person's spirit never dies, so you feel it in the present and you carry it with you through life. Yet you still have to acknowledge the reality. For me it's a constant state of denial. Trying to live in the present moment but frozen in time. The last days, the memories. It requires surrender not understanding.

[@anitapatience6332]

I'm so sorry 😥😥💖💖

[@YesLioness]

@@anitapatience6332 Thank You. It is the bitter sweet aspect of life.

[@ltarleton7527]

I don't think there's a time frame for grieving. It's natural that as you continue to take care if things concerning your sister that you would relive memories. Continue to keep her memory I love. I use to watch you guys all the time and attend events. Also, your vlogs are never boring....it's life! 😊💛🙏🏾

[@joyjoy730]

My older sister passed almost 3 years ago. She was like a mother but also my best friend. She struggled so much health wise before she left so I find so much solace in knowing she’s know longer in pain. She was my biggest supporter besides my husband especially when it came to my children. She was there every step of my other pregnancies and now that I’m on my third baby and she’s not here, this pregnancy has been extra hard emotionally. I even went through a period of not wanting this pregnancy. I know she wouldn’t want that but my kids didn’t get to know how much she truly loved them as if they were hers. Keep your head up Vaughn and allow yourself to feel all the feels. Peace and light ❤️

[@shelovesthemso6252]

I lost my 32 y/o younger sister in 2007 though it feels like it happened recently. Her passing has put me in a strange sick to the stomach, sad, want to lose my mind kind of place. It’s hard to explain really. I don’t speak of her in the present. In fact, I rarely speak of her at all. It’s not that she is forgotten but it’s just that if I speak her name or look at a picture of her (I’ve done neither in 14 years), I feel such a pain and I want to scream from a primal place in the pit of my stomach. I never ponder which of the 5 stages of grief I’m experiencing because I know that the stages can overlap, you don’t have to experience each one and they don’t have to be felt in a specific order. My emotions are all over the place. Though I’ve learned to laugh again and I do experience general happiness sometimes, I’ll never be the same.

[@prettyinpink1980]

I’m in the forever part of grief. Forever missing my mom. Forever crying for her. Forever sad. Forever wanting to hear her voice. Forever wanting to hug her. Forever lost without her. Sad to say. Missing you still mommy.

[@mickeyChelleTV]

Yesss!! I lost my daddy 10 years ago and I do the exact thing most times. It scares me because I carry on like he’s around. I’m a serious daddy girl and I’m still carrying on as such❤️

[@NaturallyGG]

Hugs to you Vaughn! We still remember Meechy and yalls amazing bond. Her spirit will always live on :)

[@TheMrsEl]

I have lost my sister I memorialized her by naming my first born after her. I lost my grandad who was like a mother and father to me and I talk about him like he is still here and I swear he is ❤️❤️

[@kmurray559]

I thought about Meechy after watching one of your earlier vlogs. She was so beautiful...Take your time with grieving..it’s a life long process. I’ve lost a few people very close to me and I cry at the drop of a hat... it’s the small reminders of the moments that we’d wish that we can share with them 💕💕💕💕💕💕hugs.

[@dmshirlee61]

I lost my sister over 26 years ago (she was 35) and I lost my mom a couple years ago (she was 83). I can deal with my mom’s passing better than I could with my sister’s death. I think it’s because my sister was young.

[@rosaguthrie3434]

You can't put a time on grieving for someone Especially someone that was so dear to you. I lost my Dad over 10 yrs ago and I just think of him on an extended vacation. That's how I cope with it all. Praying for you and with you my sister 💕

[@dizzyguy-y21]

You should consider converting your formal living room into an office. It will get more usage, and it's large enough that you can still have a sitting area for guests when you need it.

[@Theediyhunter]

Meechy was a beautiful spirit. Sending you peace, love , and light.

[@YachitaDa-monique]

You are def. growing as a Autism Mom when those evaluations start to get easier! I’ve been in this thing for 12 years now. Sending you all the love and peace. 🥰

[@DD9773H]

I pray everyday for those who are bereaved and for whatever stage they're in with it. I pray for you and your family for your loss and you're grieving process. I'm glad that you felt okay after Anne's meeting. The Vlog might have seemed boring to you but I did not think so. Thanks for the vlog & for sharing a part of your life.

[@Gracie4012_]

I had a close cousin pass away when I was a very young age. I was 6 and she was 5. And although we were kids it really did affect me. I still like to talk about her as if she was here because we were that close. My mom is the same way about my oldest brother's dad. She met him when she was 15, married at 19 and he passed away right after she turned 21 and my brother was only 3 weeks old. She's told me many times how she would even talk to my brother about his dad when he was baby even though he couldn't talk back. That's just how grief stricken she was. I think it's normal and part of that person's process to deal with it. I love to hear her still talk about my brother's dad because that was her first love, her best friend and she was so connected to him. I honestly think people who pass away who were close to us never truly leave us so to me it's ok. Meechy was amazing and loved so I understand ❤

[@buttafly591]

Awe Anthony looked like he was on the phone. He was so patient. Thank you Anthony. She had a hard day. Ur cushiony chest was a nice place for her to regain her emotions. You guys are great together. God bless!

[@kimranz2413]

I think he was hiding the logo on his shirt, he still kept the phone positioned. I agree she found comfort and peace laying on his chest.

[@MsNaturalevolution]

"Do what's best for you and your family. And be well." LOVE it! But I lost my mom unexpectedly July 2019 from Sepsis. Grief, I'm finding, becomes a new normal. This week has been hard. I don't have to think that Mother's Day and her birthday are around the corner, the body knows, like memory foam. I have been crying and hurting like it is July 2019. These downpours comes in waves. I can't control it. I don't know when it'll come. And I still talk about her like she's still here.

[@christinam81]

I remember your sis. I was a subscriber to her channel. She had such a beautiful spirit and beautiful! She is definitely missed 😔

[@kittykat1124]

Hello Ms. Vaughn:. Listening to you speak about Meechy. I hear to grief in your voice. I lost my Sis.Aka Bestie in 1996. And girl it still seems like yesterday. I could always count on her to help me with my 2 sons or just a laugh from her jokes. Missing her never goes away and it's like a part of me has gone away. I simply go on knowing she is no longer suffering and try to focus on the good times we had. Just remember to be thankful for having had her in my life as you had with your Sis. Chin up girl she would be so proud of you .God bless you and family.

[@tonyaeveryjohnson6293]

My mom and day passed away 11+ years ago and I still speak of them in present tense. I’m still actually grieving after all those years. Currently seeing a psychiatrist due to anxiety and depression because of my parents transition. So I truly understand what you’re saying. My the Lord give your family and my family a peace that surpasses all understanding. It’s hard.

[@snewo]

I get it. I also talked about my grandmother (she raised me) in the present tense for a decade. I didn’t realize it until a coworker asked if I was going to see my grandmother on Mother’s Day and I told them she had died years prior. They looked at me so crazy. To cope with the loss, I had to pretend that I just hadn’t seen her in awhile instead of facing the fact that she wasn’t coming back. It was weird because I had gone to the cemetery multiple times to take flowers but I was still struggling with reality. I randomly had a dream where someone said she was dead. I thought about it later that morning. Babyyyy....The break down I had at work all those years later lasted for hours. My mom died a couple of years after that moment and I knew I had to face the grief head on because I wouldn’t have survived it otherwise. The show Starting Over was on around that time. Iyanla was dealing with someone dealing with a loss. Every exercise she gave her to do I did. That was lowkey my grief counseling. lol it really helped tho.

[@CG-of9sh]

Thank you for sharing, Latrice. That couldn’t have been easy. Reminds me of the KZbinr Peyton Maree Charles, who has a very similar story with her grandmother raising her and her passing. I remember the show Starting Over; it was really good!

[@ReasonsWhy5]

We understand Vaughn, we all loved Meechy too. And yes, I know how it feels to lose someone so close.

[@nikkiep23]

I can totally relate with you Vaughn. I lost my mom 11 years ago and l've just been able to talk about her or say her name without crying uncontrollably. I'm an only child and we were besties. What makes it challenging for me is that she died unexpectedly at 54 years old. I'm sure what stage of grief l'm at but l think about her everyday and talk to her. I still havent been able to visit her gravesite because for me it makes it too final. I then lost my uncle ( her brother) and l lost my grandparents last year 6 months apart. Every person grieves differently and there's no wrong or right way to grieve. Thank you for sharing Vaughn.

[@theadventurousintrovert]

I lost my late husband to brain cancer in 2008 and it took about 3 years to be at the level of acceptance. Now with my mom, she died in 2013. Some days I feel that level of acceptance and some days, I find myself not being able to breath. Ive found myself crying in the middle of a store, having to pull off to the side of the road. My moms death hit me in a way I've never felt when I've lost someone. I don't think there's really a time line when it comes to grief. I just try to live life to its fullest and allow whatever emotion that I feel, wash over me. Hugs to you.

[@jacks1022]

You guys were like the same person. Lol I still have photos from the birthday party you guys threw for her in Chicago when you let supporters come. That was such a wonderful time and I really appreciate you and your family allowing us to participate. ❤️

[@kaibozeman7734]

My parents passed away in a house fire in 2012 of November I was there and survived, I talk about my parents all the time to people like they are still alive, I think it's a way of me coping and keeping their memory fresh. It's no expiration on grieving and we all grieve different. I would say just remember all of the memories, sometimes I just bust of laughing or crying about my parents. Sending hugs!!!

[@Namaste0130]

Meechy helped me with my twist outs. As far as I’m concerned she’s still here helping me. Light and bright and fun. Like you. I’m still subscribed to her channel. My heart leapt when I saw the vlog with you and your sister talking to your mom virtually. She really reminds me of Meechy. There’s no time limit on grief. Our loved ones keep the same real estate in our hearts. Be well and take care

[@MJBrickWorld]

The Monroe Sisters gave me the confidence to go natural. I loved when Alex would pop-in on some of the videos. 🙏🏾❤️

[@OriginaNaturalBeauty]

Anne bobbing her head to the music in the back seat made me smile..... 🥰

[@kahinagrant187]

My mum died when I was 15, I was the same way for a very long time. Its been 10 and a half years now and I am absolutely still grieving. I'm just discussing it in therapy properly for the first time now and I feel like it's really helping me.

[@CurlsofaCPA]

Grief is so personal and I feel like it never goes away we just learn to manage. I've lost friends, my grandmas, and coworkers and sometimes i forget they are gone and then when i remember i feel a little sad again. So happy you are able to talk about it because I'm sure there are others going through it as well. Sending some prayers and good vibes your way :)

[@magbarr2760]

Awww. I think I found you from following Meechy. I hope you feeling like she is with you is comforting. Praying for you and all of those in the comments who have shared their grief

[@ChanteShivaughn]

Omg girl! I lost my Cousin almost a year ago. She was really like my sister because my Mom passed when I was a kid so I grew up in their house, with my Cuz... it’s the hardest thing every time grasp! The grief had me depressed for the whole year 🥺

[@Txsweetcheeks]

I lost my mom 4 yrs ago (5-1-17) I can’t put into words the way I feel each year but it’s different every time. My siblings and I talk abt her a lot and that brings tears and joy at the same time. We decided today to go to go to her favorite breakfast spot in her memory and that was good for us. I try not to think too deep into her loss, I feel all my feelings whn I need too, I cry, or I just do things I knw she loved. I still deal with issues like sleeping problems and anxiety due to losing my mom. But I’ve learned from grief counseling and therapy how to cope when those issues arise. May 1, 2017- My Mom May 2, 2018- My Uncle May 3, 2012- My Grandfather. 💜💜💜

[@veronjeremiah9088]

My mom passed away in 2018 I am still in shock mode that she’s not here ; I have my moments I am not hurting as much as before but I just miss her grief never goes away we just learn to cope better 🥰..take your time momma you’re not alone

[@06brighteyes]

Hi Vaughn, My lil brother passed away 3 1/2 yrs ago. Last Saturday I finally released his ashes at the beach. Are I should say my husband did. I couldn't bring myself to do it. Most day when I think of him I'm smiling bc he was such a good man with a big heart. Then there are the days when I feel like my heart will burst. On those days I pray & Thank GOD for doing what was best for him. I wish we had more time with him but he was in so much pain. I'm glad he's not hurting anymore. Now he visit me in my dreams and when I tell you. I wake up with the biggest smile and a full heart. GOD IS GOOD. I don't know where I'm at when it comes to grieving. I just take it one emotion at a time. Keep speaking her name Meechy watching over you. GOD BLESS

[@sawanuslegrand-fleming408]

So sorry for your loss. 🥲🙏🏽

[@Bossladylj]

I lost my brother almost 27 years ago and I still grieve. So I certainly do get it.

[@MareiaPass]

I kind of understand what you are going through! Me and my sisters are very close, and we loss our oldest sister to covid in April 24, 2020 , so hard for us, and we are still dealing with different things of my sisters, and we are still talking and remembering things that made us laugh and etc.... but I know where you are coming from, Love you and your Family!❤❤❤ may God Bless you all! And may Heaven smile upon you always🥰🙏🏾

[@charrich7921]

Definitely NOT boring... I love watching anything you post. Please don’t underestimate how entertaining you truly are. Supporter for life.💕💕

[@CorettaJG]

Lost my close cousin Rita. I feel the pangs every family event. I like when we look at pictures, tell stories and talk about what she would be doing or saying. I think I am in acceptance. But I miss her so much.

[@anitapatience6332]

Hi Ms Vaughn 🤗🤗 I'm so sorry that you're still struggling with grief. I understand it completely though. I lost my best friend to a heart attack 6 years ago and I'm still grieving. I talk about him almost daily and the memories I have are all joyful. I think I'm still in the denial phase even though its 6 years later. I will say a prayer for you and hope it gets easier. Much love, Anita 💖💖

[@sonyahferris5510]

Grief is real...My sweet mom transitioned last year March 25, 2020 from Covid-19 and it's been extremely hard I literally cry EVERYDAY.. It will be 7 yrs on Sunday June 13, 2021 that my brother my twin was murdered by his co-worker and I still cry.......crying now as I type these words. I know they are both with our heavenly father and I know I will see them again.. Praying for you my sister because I totally understand this pain!!!! Meechy was such a beautiful young lady and I loved all her natural hair tutorials and so much more about her. Ms. Vaughn her beautiful spirit shines within you. Peace and Blessings to you my sister!!

[@bohosweet]

I think the hardest part is the unexpected overwhelming moments that they have transitioned like when I see something I know my gg would've loved and go to buy it for her, or hear a similar laugh... instant tears. Hang in there it's a process for sure, sending love