I’m Still Working in Retail: John Green Solves Your Problems #13

[@valeriefstewart]

I'm the Valerie that this video was for and this was actually very helpful and you said things I didn't even think about. Thank you!! Definitely working on my SMA goals.

[@raylyttle2952]

Valerie Stewart best of luck to you in all your endeavors! You're definitely not alone in this perceived problem.

[@valeriefstewart]

Thank you! I really appreciate that!

[@Allovimo]

I absolutely second what Hannah has said. Because of various job-related things, I didn't move out of my parents' place until I was 30. I struggled with depression and anxiety because I wasn't moving in the "right" direction. It took a lot of time and effort, but what I found worked best is to start being more gentle with myself. Set goals, strive for them, but also ease up on yourself and start believing that you're worth it. Our parents and even some of our friends might still believe that older societal norms exist, but trust me - there's many of us out here living lives that are outside of the "get married and have kids by the time you're 35" contingent. And the great thing is - both lives are completely and totally fine. Ease up on yourself and listen to your heart.

[@MrHairyGoat]

I'm 26 and I'm sorta in the same situation as you. Still live at home, only work part-time. Have a hard-time finding a full-time job in my occupation. I wish you the best, Valerie

[@marieisawesomeable]

Hi Valerie :) while I usually agree with the genius that is John Green, got some stuff to alter/extend. First things first, rather work on your Smart goals, or at least your Smat goals ;) he actually mentioned it in all his examples: the time frame is super important. And yeah the R as in realistic is basically the same as attainable but whatever 😉 other than that, I would try to focus on the moving out part, trust me, it helps so much, even if you can only afford to do so by appartement sharing or something. Also, think about why you find working in retail to be problematic. Do you really not like it? Because if it‘s just because of what people might think, screw them. I wish you all the best 👍🏼

[@nithinsrivatsa4726]

" That's not a penalty, all he did was stick his head between the other player's legs" Got me😂😂😂 I can imagine John telling us "context is everything"😂

[@starpasta]

+++ Same. Made me chuckle too. :)

[@machiel5888]

I must say, John, that as a fan of Hankgames who has watched you play FIFA since 2012, this is one of the most entertaining seasons I’ve seen so far! Your commentary is equal parts poignant and entertaining and the gameplay is balanced and competitive for the first time in a few seasons. Loving every video, even if they’re not the most popular.

[@ssrkinz996]

"Live you life, not other people's" *Is playing FIFA, a game where you live the life of a soccer manager* Oh John, you're wonderful.

[@erin-xn4zu]

does the audio seem kinda quiet to anyone else or are my headphones just on their deathbed?

[@MammaMia]

dans.squareflake it's quiet

[@TaoChen100]

Good to know it's not just my audio...

[@flamingice77]

yea this episode was definitely more quiet then others

[@isaacbriefer193]

I thought my audio was off at first, but it’s good to see it’s not just me

[@RithSV]

Wimbledon just played Oxford in real life... And John was there with 10 P4A donors! :D Oh, and the Dons won!

[@someguy7567]

John was in England? Why does no one ever tell me these things?!?! We were in the same country and I had no idea!

[@blairelliott3311]

This advice from John has hit home. SMA goals seem like they could help me move out of my house in a few years.

[@jolenesnow1032]

I was Valerie 10 years ago. I started working retail to "get me through college" but when the store was closing after I had worked there for 9 years and I still had not gotten through college. So I went back to school. Continued to work retail part time and got my Bachelor's of Social Work. Now I have my dream job.....and I still work part-time in retail because my dream job is at a small non-profit organization without medical insurance. But life is good.

[@crawfordbrown75]

Oxford's badge isn't a bull, John😂 Funnily enough it's an *Ox*

[@kellycrawley4861]

I just randomly had the need to check this channel

[@MiddleAgedNerd]

First time here? Welcome!

[@kellycrawley4861]

Middle Aged Nerd first time on this channel, long time fan of the vlog brothers. Thanks!!!

[@CrescentCitySweaters]

John should watch the highlights of the real Dons-Oxford U match. The toilets were majestically in focus at the end, reminiscent of their virtual commode brethren

[@MiddleAgedNerd]

This comment needs bumps.

[@Julesdoesstuff]

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[@4mpersan]

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[@sylviaodhner]

I'm 33 and still living with my parents because I've never been able to afford to live somewhere else. Over the past 10 years I've struggled a lot with job and career-related stuff, and I think one of the most important things I've accomplished is to work through the psychological hangups I have that discourage me. A few years ago I thought to myself "oh wow, I just thought seriously about my future without having a mental breakdown," and that was a huge milestone for me. I celebrated it. I started writing lists of things to do every week. Not huge things, just things that would contribute towards moving my life forward. I started keeping an eye on my anxieties so I wouldn't fall into ways of thinking that would destroy my confidence. I made a point to talk to people who would encourage me in the ways that were most helpful. I think John's advice is on point. It really helps me to internalize the idea that my success is not the same as what other people might see as success, and that the things I do to make money don't have to be the things that define me. I make most of my money as a customer service rep, but when I'm networking I define myself as an illustrator. I don't even know what I want my life to be like or what my dream job is, I just have some ideas of stuff I think I'm good at and have a high tolerance for.

[@oliviamercer2186]

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[@mbrach98]

#FreeGeorgeLong

[@douglasrau5094]

Did anyone else catch that in the course of this video, Rotho went from being 14 to 12? No wonder he can't focus on football--he's Benjamin Button-ing!!! Soon they're going to have an infant in the goal cage!

[@lily-_-]

I work as a supervisor at a call center, and my job can be essentially summarised as helping others set SMART goals to improve. I was equal parts excited and low-key embarrassed at instantly reciting what each letter stands for the second you mentioned SMART goals :P

[@azialifaziz6652]

Interesting (and I'm its not totally comparable of a situation) but I'm doing fine at college but I don't remember the last time I had a coherent and connected conversation with any member of my family What you said about the importance of making the lives of the people around you happy is so true. Perhaps that is the most important part of life

[@EdwardCree]

We always value that which we lack. If you have great relationships with the people around you, and a crummy dead-end job, of course you're going to start thinking that career advancement is the key to happiness. Conversely, if you have a really fulfilling and lucrative career, but only a handful of arms-length friendships and no love life to speak of... guess what, you're gonna overvalue relationships and take your work for granted. Both kinds of person exist, and while John's advice about not being too obsessed about your career is valuable for one kind, it's harder to give general advice that's useful to both. It's not as though there aren't _also_ social pressures labelling the _other_ kind as a failure! So the advice I would give to Valerie, and everyone else for that matter, is to try to spend more time taking stock of your successes, and less time dwelling on your problems. Of course, that is far, _far_ easier said than done; having been through depressive episodes I know how intrusive and insistent those negative thoughts can be, and how hollow or irrelevant one's victories and advantages can seem in contrast. (In theory, there should also be people for whom _that_ advice is wrong - per Slate Star Codex's "Should You Reverse Any Advice You Hear?" - but I'm not sure there are actually people whose problem is that they're too happy…)

[@Starlysh]

This is something I needed this morning.

[@Chef_PC]

Somebody needs to transcribe these videos word-for-word into a compilation. Including, and especially, the FIFA talk.

[@rosianna]

Smart goals: specific, measurable, attainable...retweetable?

[@FlosBlog]

John Greens concept for success: setting SMEA-Goals

[@ihartevil]

nobody at 27 can live on their own with a career for the most part anymore I am almost 30 and trying to still get my dream job it seems like it will never happen though I won't give up because I can't or else I will die thx for this ha bisky game play I love you

[@vladtepes97]

every time i watch these videos i feel the need to reach through the screen and shake john's shoulders until his eyes rattle around in his head. dude, you need to pass the ball around, not just straight ahead down the near wing every time. also, there's much to be said for personal contentment and happiness. if valerie feels the need for more "achievement, yes, small goals will help her to pick up some momentum in that direction.

[@kherichi]

BF: Hank plays games? Me: This is John. BF: But it's hankgames! Me: But the icon is John. BF: Do they share a channel? ....not sure.

[@rafasowden7685]

Long time friendships are hard to keep going.

[@connerfields4753]

It's hard to talk and play, especially when advice-giving.

[@MrSandv1ch]

MA-NUEL ROF-FO!!!!!! What a legend.

[@connerfields4753]

Loved this needed this.

[@Jacob_3175]

You should bump up the difficulty... 0 losses in 11!

[@crawfordbrown75]

Jacob Ritchie Would end up being relegated... bit like real life then😑😭

[@JunesGo]

Specific Measurable Accepted Realistic and Timed Accepted is important because only when you accept that your goals are worth pursuing will you be committed to achieving them. Timed is important because otherwise your goals will forever be goals for tomorrow.

[@aaditbhatia6551]

theIcyToad Huge fan of VAPID goals.

[@JunesGo]

yup, VAPID goals are my favorite pas-time activity

[@aaditbhatia6551]

theIcyToad Did you watch Grey's vid?

[@JunesGo]

oh yeah, I completely forgot where I actually knew about SMART and VAPID from (just assumed it was from one of the many people who gave me inspirational/useless advice while I was unemployed)

[@aaditbhatia6551]

theIcyToad SMA goals, VAPID goals, self talk... this math teacher stuff is way too much for me.

[@michaelthierry2556]

There's something oddly personal about being first

[@Tristan-sr1ek]

When do we get to see your face again, while playing fifa?

[@oliviamercer2186]

What I learned SMART is (for anyone interested) Specific Measurable Achieveable Realistic Time-sensitive

[@caitlynjones2147]

Oh yea, I never got my shootout at Chuck E. Cheese P4A perk, anyone know when those are going out?

[@qdHazen]

> Rotated squad ahead of match against Top 4 team. I think I found the problem....

[@SteelersCardinals1]

If I didn't have a beard and my hair was long again, I would look exactly like Other John Green.

[@bkohn]

Love AFC

[@atmunn1]

Here's my problem: I want to switch from Windows to Linux but am too lazy to do so.

[@64standardtrickyness]

John why did you decide to sponsor the AFC wimbleton?

[@czdaniel1]

They had a good story :)

[@64standardtrickyness]

Can you explain? is this a business deal or personal?

[@nikkiwilliamson4665]

He made a video about it when it first happened on the vlogbrothers channel

[@nikkiwilliamson4665]

Video is called something like ‘our strangest project’

[@MammaMia]

I did not realize you could foul on a video game sport. I wonder how they code that in?

[@kellycrawley4861]

I guess I have good timing

[@JohnTCano]

"Live your life, not other people's." ....what the fuck is my life?

[@rehan8480]

I am a quitter. How do I stop?

[@MehekNaresh]

John, I can barely hear you. Can you sit closer to the mic

[@DannyMercer1993]

Oxford, that was the worst penalty kick I've ever seen. Stick to rowing and books.

[@alexanderallison7131]

This was my far the least dubious advice of the series

[@jackhughes3488]

It would be better if u played 3/4 in each episode instead of 1 long game it’s boring like this!!