I’m Stuck In The Fantasy Of A Past Relationship That Ended Years Ago

[@ModernDatingMastery]

*Dwelling on a past relationship often stems from idealizing the good moments while overlooking the reasons it ended. Reflecting honestly on the lessons learned can help shift your focus forward.*

[@Connery007neckache]

-Corey Wayne

[@AMo1-]

How did you type in bold

[@treead67]

them rose-colored glasses can be a b*tch lol

[@narutoshadowclone1]

This definitely reminded me of my childhood friend and back in 2015 life wasn’t going well for him. He dropped out of college and was working at Taco Bell trying to make ends meet. He got an opportunity to work at Ford as an electrician in Cali, but passed it up due to his girlfriend not wanting to be long distance and not willing to go with him or leave her family behind. A year later, she dumped him for being complacent and not having a “Big Boy Job”, which she considered working in a factory etc. then she kicked him out and had the new guy login with her and her family. That was some nasty work.

[@IsraelSocial]

Happened to me for 2 years, until i saw the love of my life with other dude, oneitis is a thing that i suffered for years until i had to fight with my thoughts and stop been romantic with thoughts of the pass, if she really loved me she never let me go!

[@victordove9891]

You say this over and over again “character is destiny”. It’s easy from the outside to see it, but when you’re in it and build an emotional connection, you put the blinders on, because your ego is involved. It’s crazy how frequently these types of newsletters come out with the same theme. Thank god for these videos lol, none of us are really experiencing a unique experience, just a slightly different flavor.

[@Jolson17929]

She didn’t want to move with him, that’s a sign to move on completely

[@supremegaming8794]

Timing of this is crazy

[@keeperofknowledge4120]

For the guy that wrote Corey, to help you snap into reality, here it is. All those nights you were pining after her, she was in another man's bed not giving you another thought! Also, you need to create a list and write down all the negative things about her. She's not perfect. She's a cheater and a liar! At best, she told you those things to keep you on the backburner. What does that cost her. Nothing. She gets to keep her relationship, altough she cheated, and she has you in the background if she gets bored. YOU ARE BEING USED. What you need to focus on, is what is broken inside of you to accept emotional abuse?

[@Herewegoagain9876]

This is very well said and very true. I went through this very deeply being married to an immigrant and got green card scammed. She abandoned me and flew off to another country to meet another man.

[@NorCalDubber]

I feel for this guy but dude needs to let her go and read the book. He’s got her on a pedestal…

[@RabidWolverine47]

He needs to read the book and penetrate life with masculine experiences. The pursuit & purpose. Cant be masculine while being an anxious limerant with nostalgia overload on a dead relationship.

[@NorCalDubber]

@ very true, but having her on a pedestal is making him ignore the red flags. We have all been there. It’s hard to make the change, but pain will help motivate him.

[@Connery007neckache]

He probably has a little bit of oneitis too.

[@Hexadecimal_QueenofChaos]

the guy is in a victim mindset and is beyond overdramatic and embellishing a simple college relationship. saying "I'm desperate for answers after years of suffering".... so much negative self talk here... the "problems" in this guys life exist only in his head, nobody is forcing you to be "desperate" and only you consider yourself to be "suffering"... the girl has moved on years ago, the dude is over idealizing the girl and situation... there is no perfect woman, this is where a lot of guys mess up the situation because they expect too much from the woman and don't know how a real relationship works, its two people who respect each other working together by choice, not a needy man who expects the woman to be perfect while he just becomes her simp and then gets upset when she isn't perfect or isn't interested in him.

[@mavrk.d]

Still friends with the ex, move on to the next.

[@JohnADuerk]

Solid relationships require compromise. She didn't choose him (by staying) and he didn't choose her (by leaving). He hasn't met someone better than what he misremembers their relationship to be. Their time together has been idealized in such a way that it obscures the facts. This is unhealthy because it inhibits him from finding someone more suitable where he lives. Then, she cheats on her current boyfriend because they have history. Yes, we're fallible as human beings, but that's totally unacceptable. And while it sounds like fodder for a Netflix show, it's not what you want for your life. We get hung-up on the past when we choose to live in (a distorted perception of) it.

[@georgybest5135]

4:15 "Escape at Dannemora", great show.

[@nickg1789]

This is what happens over Xmas when you're stuck in and watch too many Hallmark channel movies😅😅 ..it never ends well😮

[@blueaeagle11]

Kinda in the same boat. I’m stuck in the past because i can’t find someone new i feel the same or am attracted to like my previous. Have not communicated with her. Got her blocked on everything and don’t even want the relationship back. Hopeless feeling when you scroll online dating and didn’t like a single one then run out of people. But coach is right. Create the space.

[@AlexMurrell-d9c]

I have fantasies but I do not act them out. I have read 3% man, six times and it has helped me.

[@maherajjo6304]

I had to listen the part where he said you “unhealthy attachment” maybe like 20 times. That’s so true

[@toadman5184]

My girl says that women don't really do LTRs. "If she loves you, she will follow you anywhere". A man in an LTR is an option.

[@bobbyzeiger5760]

The legend returns!

[@_thebigsteve]

He's in love with the total package and the fantasy of her being better than she actually is. I can relate with that and still struggle in a very similar way. I've had the opportunity to date a couple people that were beneath the total package value so I declined. I'm hoping I find her superior candidate but we will see and in the main time I'm living life and trying to be the best version I can of myself, although its like walking with a limp.

[@GangsterSedGaming]

my ex was wishy washy and always broke up and came back because she's "confused". because i was kinda weak at the end. but when she came back again at the end I told her please dont contact me unless you want to act right with me and that i loved her but i deserved to be with someone who was sure about me. 10 days later she called me at night and i was busy so i went to text her when i was free but i found that she blocked me after i ignored her call. should i try reaching out or is her blocking me a test to see if i would panic and chase like the old days?

[@Ohenry0828]

No, you’re done. Move forward and find someone else who will appreciate you. I’ve learned from my past not to go back after a breakup. It’s like going back to the trashcan if someone catches you digging in. Don’t let that happen to you.

[@SelfieStickAdventures]

Take a cold shower everyday for 3 minutes. Full cold. You'll feel better & start moving on.

[@yungdynamic471]

Vanessa carlton said it best. She would walk a 1,000 miles to see a special someone lol. This girl didnt. Guy needs to get a clue

[@CoachSteveJandS]

I've heard it called "the phantom ex"

[@gregscott3677]

😂 The roommate was tried of hearing about her ... Haaaa

[@Hexadecimal_QueenofChaos]

this dude is beyond over dramatic lol.... over embellishing the simplest college relationship lol

[@Tobinounet]

I'm so confused here. Isn't Coach the one who ended up breaking up with someone he loved because she wasnt moving to his place and stayed in the UK yet saying she was 100% in love with him?

[@CoachCoreyWayne]

read the book

[@itumblers]

Coach Corey Mayne! 👨🏻‍🦲 great video!

[@altvctr]

That's something that guys tend to do. Interestingly, almost no women have this kind of storyline. We could learn this from the ladies.

[@pythonpatrol1110]

I normally find fault with the women in these videos, but not in this case. Sometimes moving away with a person isn't an option no matter how much you love them. I want a future with my current girlfriend, but the reality is that I wouldn't be able to leave my job behind to follow her out of state if she got another job offer. I have three years to go to get to my pension at my own job. Leaving with her before that time simply wouldn't be an option, but it wouldn't mean I love her less. Life just sometimes gets in the way.

[@Hexadecimal_QueenofChaos]

"I'm desperate for answers after years of suffering".... so much negative self talk here... the "problems" in this guys life exist only in his head, nobody is forcing you to be "desperate" and only you consider yourself to be "suffering"... the girl has moved on years ago, the dude is over idealizing the girl and situation... there is no perfect woman, this is where a lot of guys mess up the situation because they expect too much from the woman and don't know how a real relationship works, its two people who respect each other working together by choice, not a needy man who expects the woman to be perfect while he just becomes her simp and then gets upset when she isn't perfect or isn't interested in him.

[@rich1217]

Wow I only just watched escape at Dannemora last week. Woman was a serial cheater

[@TheTacticalEngineer]

Coach, I want to become calmer. Make a video on that.

[@AMo1-]

It’s a choice to be calm brother. Don’t let anything outside make you react, all you need is within you. Good luck

[@janco333]

Ez, get on the treadmill for 1 hour a day. Guaranteed to make you calmer.

[@nneisler]

Welcome to divorce :(

[@eugenefontenot7898]

Gm coach.

[@tigreremodels4684]

But how about you and your English girlfriend? She still moved away and didn't stay with you..... Was she not Madly in love with you then? Not saying this to attack you but honestly asking.

[@mirrorglassgames]

He ended it for the most part. Not to mention his mindset of absolute abundance allowed him to find others

[@CoachCoreyWayne]

it's detailed in the book, which you clearly haven't read

[@tigreremodels4684]

I have read it many times. But she still decided to leave and not stay with you. But anyway. Wasn't trying to attack you. Just trying to understand why she decided to leave and study abroad and didn't stay with you.

[@zjomamma1904]

@@tigreremodels4684 She had to move back because of the field of her studies wasn't available in the States.

[@tigreremodels4684]

@@zjomamma1904i know that but he says in this video a woman who is madly in love stays with the man... She doesn't leave. So that's why I asked the question. I can see he felt attacked but I legit wasn't trying to attack. It's an honest question.

[@Anthonydp]

You look like Jason Statham

[@Wisdomwed]

Coach, both my wife and my gf said they're thinking about leaving me the same week because I'm not "masculine" enough. One before Xmas, one after. What do I do to ensure my gf doesn't go through with it and finds me more "masculine" without me putting any effort into it, since I might appear even more "less masculine" by putting in more effort in a lame attempt to win back her affection by acting as a pleaser? Phew, Coach, this masculinity + dating stuff sure is a lot of mental work I tell ya.

[@RabidWolverine47]

It's clear you HAVE NOT READ the book 15 TIMES! Walking away is the strongest negotiation position & the courtship never stops! READ THE BOOK.

[@TheLastOfTheSurvivors]

My bad this is bait, you’re only hurting yourself living like you do. Lashing out and acting so childish

[@TheLastOfTheSurvivors]

@@RabidWolverine47all youre doing is promoting the channel by commenting, and further commenting. If you weren’t such a child, you’d have the maturity to walk away and actually live your fucking life. Not waste your days trying to bait and harass dating coaches. You’re on a low another level of creepy and immature and that might be why all women avoid you like the plague

[@Wisdomwed]

@TheLastOfTheSurvivors Don't be a hater, dude. There's no such thing as a stupid question, plus I liked, commented, subscribed and even replayed it. Why do you always gotta be so negative? We're all at different parts of our relationship and social dynamics learning journey.

[@Wisdomwed]

@@RabidWolverine47 You're right though, we're always selling, always, whether we are aware of it or not. Always be closing. Always!

[@kendallhurley8596]

❤

[@alexwaters9203]

First

[@janco333]

First response to first comment

[@ClientCustomer-l6w]

Can you answer me why i approached 6-7 girls with all IOIs ( i dont approach any girl who doesnt give me signs of interest) i waited 5 days to reach out ,and did not hear back ? I think you're rule for waiting 5 days is false honestly Can you answer me ? Bcz i am starting doubting your stuff , i read the book 17 times , and cant even get a date with interested girls i approach ??? I hope i get an answer.

[@mirrorglassgames]

It doesn't say wait 5 days to reach out. And honestly, asking for a date on the spot is the best chance of success. And on top of that, most women aren't going to be interested just because you gave them your number. Ask for a date on the spot, you'll get the REAL answer almost immediately

[@ClientCustomer-l6w]

Bro he says wait 5 days to ask them out , and girl waving and you and shit , qnd coming to you when you ask them , is a sign of HIGH ATTRACTION 😁😁​@@mirrorglassgames

[@ClientCustomer-l6w]

​@@mirrorglassgamesu didnt even read the book 10 -15 times 😂😂😂

[@CoachCoreyWayne]

it doesn't say you must wait 5 days. You can make instant dates on the spot or wait a few days. If they never replied after 5 days they either weren't really interested and just gave you their number to get rid of you or you didn't spend enough time to create rapport in person.

[@ClientCustomer-l6w]

@@CoachCoreyWayne bro you never said spend enough time to build rapport 😭😭😭😭 u just said dont exceed 15 minutes of convo with her , and all girls i approached were 5 or 6 in the attraction scale, so they were interested ,( girl waving at me and stuff is not interested ???)

[@jimjames9779]

From Google... The quote “Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner” is from the 1995 movie Heat. The line is spoken by Neil McCauley, played by Robert De Niro. Difficult, but can be done!