I made Tteokbokki because they didn’t want the Steak I made for dinner | MyHealthyDish

[@plantlover2]

TaboOki~ is all I heard It's messing with me 😭

[@goldenhanxe]

glad im not the only one 😭

[@remirobot2000]

I can't with the pronunciation, like when I heard that I'm like what

[@plantlover2]

@@remirobot2000 lol same

[@plantlover2]

@@goldenhanxe fr tho I was scrolling through the comments trying to look for people mentioning that

[@kieralovesjaredleto]

I’m not even Korean and I was confused lml

[@starwberriez]

"so im making tobokki" 😭😭

[@plantlover2]

The way she pronounced it is messing with me. (Edit) why are people just now coming at me on a comment I posted NINE months ago like be so fr.

[@Bilal_is_joking]

Who asked

[@plantlover2]

@@Bilal_is_joking me?

[@Bilal_is_joking]

@@plantlover2 I disagree

[@mousehouse8119]

​@@Bilal_is_jokingyou've been saying that on everyone's comment. Get a job...

[@PersonWithStupid37]

Even as a non korean, I have never heard an Americanized pronunciation of Ddeokbukki and it took me by surprise 😅🤣

[@plantlover2]

You say the t sound

[@plantlover2]

Like tubolki like read this and that's how you say it

[@DoesAngelsHaveWings]

​@@plantlover2 no it's not

[@bbrobin1011]

@@plantlover2 it’s pronounce “Duck bow Key”

[@plantlover2]

@@DoesAngelsHaveWings oh sorry I was trying to explain it but I explained it wrong my bad

[@bwingbwinggwiyomi]

Thank you for helping your daughters have a healthy relationship with food, and doing your best to not cause eating disorders in them 😊 you're a great mother and thank you for not neglecting them and letting them starve. Now I'm craving spicy rice cakes lol

[@MyHealthyDish]

Thank you ☺️ they actually had some of the steak too 🙌🏻

[@Cmariiie3]

@@MyHealthyDishyay that’s amazing progress!! Little by little mama

[@dezimonae1214]

My Grandmother was the same way with my dad. Never ate a meal that he did not desire. Now years later as a married man he expects the same out of my mom. She always, always has to cook two meals if she wants to cook something that he doesn’t like. Most the times she settles for whatever it is that he wants because she comes home from work too tired to do all of that. So I believe, because I’ve seen first hand what this can do to your children in the long run, is not the best decision for your kids. Not hers specifically, just any parent. And most people don’t have the funds to do this. Speaking of funds, the starving children are in Africa. Not these ungrateful kids who already have food on their plate and refuse to eat it simply because they don’t like it. The only thing good is supposed to do is fill us and keep us alive. It’s not a pleasure it’s simply fuel to the body.

[@Perpetuallytrying]

@@MyHealthyDish that’s a win! You are doing great

[@monikapiatektheythem4501]

​@@dezimonae1214​ if you think so, read about the damage that eating food you don't like does to you. A lot of damage. And only because your father is a parasite and acts like a little kid doesn't mean, that respecting your children will will make them act like that. Also, making people guilty of their preferences because someone else is starving is like suuupeeerr toxic. don't worry, someone else will eat that steak. They are not ungrateful or something. If someone told you to eat, I dunno, a bug, would you do it? Because you know, there are people starving, and there are people on the earth that eat bugs. I just want you to know, that a lot of these children find some kinds of food just as disgusting as you do with bugs, to the point where they could literally vomit because they ate something they didn't like. so the next time you will want to shame someone and call them ungrateful, consider it first.

[@mattiebird758]

My mom use to say, "I'm not a short order cook, what I make for dinner is what the family is having." (Not in a rude way of course) So this is rather foreign to me. It was impart that yes she wasn't a restaurant lol but I always believed it might have also had to do with us not having the money to make several different meals just because. You and your family are very fortunate to have the opportunity to pick what they desire like this.

[@ITyraxI]

Money and time are huge factors for sure in why what this lady is doing is not common.

[@alostprincess1]

Exactly in normal circumstances this isn’t practical or realistic- maybe on a weekend or some special occasion but not really real

[@bonsaibaby8257]

@@alostprincess1 everybody’s “normal” is different. I find it strange that people think if things aren’t done the way they do it then the others are wrong. It’s ridiculous. Why can’t people do things differently without being shamed??

[@grapesarepurple2636]

​@@alostprincess1it is if you have the resources for it. You're using your phone rn, on internet and leaving comments. Someone out there doesn't have time to do that, they have to work day and night to survive. So by your standards, that person can call your way of spending time "not practical or realistic". But you won't call that. U might be unwinding after a long day at work or something. You would be offended if someone said you're being impractical. Isn't it? Think about this.

[@NotAnotherHousewife]

​@@alostprincess1 That's actually not true I always make different things for my kids for dinner. Most of the time my little kids will not eat some of the things I make. I usually make something different for the little kids. It's not a big deal that kids are picky and they want to eat something else. I'm really surprised people make such a big deal out of it lol

[@anusha__kr]

At my home,whatever mom makes, we eat. We all see mom put a lot of time and effort to make us food, so I cannot even imagine asking her to make something else and she having to cook for me again. My mom will do that but me or my sibling won't ask her that..we might make it ourselves sometimes, but almost all the time we eat what she makes..and I'm grateful for all she does for us

[@rara3039]

Same here!

[@sama-ep5ri]

Me too

[@aishwarya.sxbsoundaryavb3638]

Sameeeee

[@lisasternenkind6467]

Same here

[@Anime_no_joō]

My kids have the audacity 😂. I can make a 5 star meal and they would want chicken nuggets and Mac n cheese. But now that they are a little older they appreciate "grown up food" (as they call it) more.

[@bonsaibaby8257]

I thought I was the only one that made spicy rice cakes for my kid because he wouldn’t eat the dinner I made.😂

[@fabiennemitchell2371]

Thanks for explaining what the food item is.

[@bernadettecphehlo2053]

It's necessary for them to eat healthy and still have a choice. I love that, well done mothers. 💞

[@Emma-Maze]

Thanks for being so kind and not letting your kid skip dinner to "teach a lesson"

[@FrogeniusW.G.]

How is it pronounced and what is the spice in the box she put in first (before butter)? Thank you so much!!

[@lalygamboa4997]

@@bernadettecphehlo2053 ttoboki it's not that healthy ...

[@mousehouse8119]

Oh the pronunciation is crushing my soul 😱

[@caseygreyson4178]

She is Vietnamese, not Korean.

[@mousehouse8119]

@@caseygreyson4178 imagine if she was Korean and butchered the word that badly 😄 but seriously, I'm aware she is not Korean but she can at least attempt to pronounce words of foods she is cooking correctly

[@Ebunoluwa13]

​@@mousehouse8119 Right? I'm all the way African and I can pronounce tteokboki properly lol. She's at least Asian so close to the culture.

[@Bilal_is_joking]

Who asked?

[@aestheticcc]

@@mousehouse8119 right? Like she’s showing off her damn recipe but can’t even attempt to pronounce it 🙄

[@StickyNote347]

Growing I couldn't complain what's made for dinner is what's made for dinner eat it or don't eat. It wasn't a bad thing it taught me well

[@rubyblue7119]

Ok... But that's was your home and this is they're home so what exactly was the point of your comment?

[@StickyNote347]

@@rubyblue7119 I don't know I just never saw a house hold where you could change your dinner like that. Interesting view for me and this is my point of view

[@dezimonae1214]

@@rubyblue7119 You need to contact KZbins customer service immediately and then what is the point of their comment section.

[@rubyblue7119]

Hmmm, sounded more like scrutiny than an opinion but whatever 😒

[@rubyblue7119]

@@dezimonae1214 and you need to construct your sentences properly so that I can understand what your saying.

[@SuperNova-nl5eb]

Jesus Christ, if I was like "no I want this" when my mum cooked something else, I'd have to eat air for the rest of the day

[@barchu83]

me too

[@Leleche]

Same but I ended up with an eating disorder because of that. I DID eat air lol... Now I have had a 25years eating disorder because I had genuine phobia of certain foods.

[@bonsaibaby8257]

@@Leleche there are many foods out there to choose from now that you’re an adult

[@eunicer4107]

Yep! Same. Though I value that lesson as it taught me to not waste food

[@nalgasdetitanbooty6476]

​@@eunicer4107 Yes! Finally! These comment section is not a vibe dude 😔 like my mom would have killed me, cause 1 food is not free 2 I'm not taking in count the effort that she put in 3 it's important to be able to accommodate to what you are able to have 4 there is people that can't have what I have People like her are forgetting why parents where like this in the first place

[@sabrinanabi3508]

People don't get how hard it is when you're cooking for family that don't like the same thing, I know exactly how this feels and you do an incredible job as a mom to make sure everyone is fed ❤

[@sincerelyablackgirl]

My mom hated cooking for us for this very reason. She just started letting us do it ourselves or ordering out. And when she did cook it was something that at least most of us ate

[@bellarose7100]

@@sincerelyablackgirl your mom is smart

[@grrgrr069]

we could never ask our mom to cook something different after she had alr cooked dinner 💀

[@tsumebones13]

I would've been dead meat.

[@ladyindaroom]

Everyone’s parents doesn’t have it like that financially to cook an additional meal. Those of you who had parents who told you to eat what was cooked, was not being mean. They did what they could for their household and what financially worked for them❤

[@jaeebaee2353]

100% agree with you. Especially multiple kids households. My mama was a single mother 5 kids. She, I guess you could say was "old school". Wasn't mean or forceful. But we always ate what was giving to us.. It wasn't a discussion nor a thought one of us would even have 😳

[@Mmmtruk]

Being grateful for the food you already have is such an important value. Once your kids get used to the parent bending over back for them like making a separate meal because they’re picky is not some thing I can see being healthy in the long run

[@hamsterstyle6152]

you don’t know that at all, you’re speaking from your experience so don’t tell people what their parent’s intentions were when you don’t know. People can have enough money and just choose not to properly feed their children. Just keep that dumb sh*t to yourself because clearly you’re one of those idiots who had a sheltered childhood but you think you had it hard so now you go around telling everyone not to complain about their own traumatic experiences because you can’t fathom the idea of other people going through something worse than you. You are not the main character. You are not a template for how people live. You can’t just make a statement universally defending every parent. Just accept the fact you had a good childhood and stop trying to tell people to respect their abusers you dumba*s

[@jaeebaee2353]

@@Mmmtruk 100% agree with you as well. . I do childcare, have for 9 years. All of my 5 kids eat fine for me. It's really no fight, yelling or anything. But they go home and won't do the same. I have one mom who complains to me about it alot how bad her kids are cus they won't eat dinner at her house but will eat for me and just want like snacks and junk. But in the same breathe, she'll be that mom who boast about being the mom who feeds her children waffles all day long. Literally breakfast, lunch and dinner I kid you not. It's so strange to me. I always think how that style parenting works for the long run. What does one do if you go to a friend's house? You really gonna expect your friend to make whole different meals for your kids.... yknow? Kinda sets them up for failure because no where else treats them like that. And that's not even me being mean. But you put your kid in a sad situation because they don't understand why things at home might not work for other places. Then you frustrate the teacher/babysitter/friend whose cooking for your child.

[@bonsaibaby8257]

@@Mmmtruk my son is completely fine. He doesn’t expect his friends parents to make him something different. Cooking something different for your child doesn’t make them an inconsiderate brat. It’s how you teach them.

[@heyyzle_]

As a fluent korean speaker (I'm Korean), it's funny seeing non-korean ppl complain about her pronunciation lol. It was not perfect but understandable and fine👍🏼 I don't know if she's korean or not, but I love that she's making Korean food and say 떡볶이 instead of korean spicy rice cake or something

[@Cyourix]

Also people be acting like the pronunciation was like the whole part of the video😭

[@user-vk4cv6ut8x]

“so i’m making tAboki for the girls”

[@Bilal_is_joking]

Who asked?

[@user-vk4cv6ut8x]

@@Bilal_is_joking i asked. im the guy who asked

[@Bilal_is_joking]

@@user-vk4cv6ut8x I disagree with you

[@user-vk4cv6ut8x]

@@Bilal_is_joking ok 🤷‍♀️

[@Bilal_is_joking]

@@user-vk4cv6ut8x ok cool 💙

[@mi6135]

My parents would include us in what was being made, but we all had the same thing. They would say “so we were thinking a salad and stir fry for dinner - what do you want to include in the stir fry? “ we would chime in and help with the prep. Imagine having 5 kids and you let them all pick out different meals 🥲 I don’t get this at all

[@Cinqp_]

I mean instead of saying this why don't u appreciate how she is doing all of this for her daughters

[@Ebunoluwa13]

It's not about letting them pick but not letting them go hungry. Some fussy children will eat if parents refuse to make something else but genuinely picky eaters will just go hungry instead or cry through eating which will create an unhealthy relationship with food that will affect them into adulthood. The best way to solve this is to ask your kids what they want to eat BEFORE cooking. It's not a crime for parents to eat according to their kids once in a while rather than saying 'this is what we're having because WE (parents) want it and you (kids) have no choice'

[@DoesAngelsHaveWings]

Me neither, it's not healthy. It's how picky eaters are made. My family and basically everyone i know do it like you. I have some food aversions due to an illness but that would only effect part of my plate if it even did. Like swapping the vegetable or meat out. Not getting a whole new seperate dinner

[@PotatoPieYT]

@@Ebunoluwa13 but she said they didn’t want the steak not that they didn’t like steak

[@arieanne3507]

​@@PotatoPieYT But she also didn't include the reason they didn't want it.

[@dogboyified]

damn . . if my mom made smth for dinner and i said i wanted something else i simply would not be on this planet anymore

[@tsumebones13]

🤣

[@lilianaxs]

I would've been screamed at if I asked for something else for dinner 😂

[@rainbowwarrior5282]

Me too

[@yeseniaortiiiz]

Y’all are so dramatic..she pronounced it wrong, it doesn’t change food. She doesn’t need every single one of yall to correct her…she knows by now 💀

[@pinkpalette]

fr

[@TheSeanathon23]

Yeah I lived in Korea for three years and no one there pronounces western food right either lol

[@jessicaajirotutu525]

It just sounds funny the way she said it. I'm sure they weren't tryna be mean

[@goldenxyoon702]

Fr tho cringey koreaboos be thinking they are better than everyone bcos they pronounce one word 💀

[@Justthegoodstuff-gh2xx]

​@@jessicaajirotutu525 1.6k ppl liked the top comment, and people are genuinely angry about it. Everyone is geared towards being offended these days.

[@BAMCarter12]

Everyone talking about tabooki I'm here for the steak n beans 😋😋😋😋😋

[@alexathebloom]

If i told my mom that i wanted to eat something else instead of the food she made she would have yelled at me like "EAT IT OR STARVE OR COOK IT YOUR SELF" and would say all her history about the people who can't eat but only when she is mad but if she is in a good mood she would say " MAKE IT BY YOUR OWN and would help me a bit "

[@yayjdjfjfbd591]

Yikes, it's really not the lesson you think it is

[@ma.liaaaa]

As a korean ive never heard tteokbokki so americanized lol i love it

[@Brie-fi4ci]

See as much as I do appreciate this parenting approach I think I'm going to do what I was told being raised like my parents never starved me but they were like if you dont want it make something yourself, which in my mind brings more positives which is learning how to cook, appreciate cooking, and if your like me and was too lazy half the time to cook just sucked and up and ate what my mom or dad cooked, idk now have a weird tolerance of food bc of my dad though lol😅

[@Amy-dm5ih]

Oh my gosh, me too. Like my parents always told me to eat my food or make something myself and now I will eat most foods , obviously some things I won’t like, but now I actually do like the foods that I do eat and I appreciate good food. It always frustrates me when I see kids who are really fussy and won’t eat anything and their parents are desperately trying to come up with new ideas all the time and it ends up in the child getting unhealthy food and just having their own way.

[@Brie-fi4ci]

@@Amy-dm5ih so true I've seen so many pickey eaters that expect their parents or people around them to cater to them to which I'm like what the heck, like I get catering to kids under 7 but 7 and up kids that are mature enough or are able to learn can learn to make a simple sandwich, salad, or mac n cheese. Bc if I cook something I'm not making anything else 🤷‍♀️

[@crunchychicken2]

Yeah. I think the reason why I've never noticed a picky eater in my life is because most households in my country can't afford to cook separate meals for whoever doesn't want to eat the meal that was made. We all grew up being grateful for whatever is served and trying new ways to prepare the foods so that everyone can at least enjoy the one meal. That way nothing is wasted, money is saved, and we don't put even more load onto the parents.

[@Treesina454]

Me too. Till now. My parents don't really make dinner that often. We do all eat together in the living room. But it's usually me( with the help of my sister or mum) that makes dinner. But that's only like 3-4 times a week. Other then that. We are free to have whatever for lunch, breakfast and dinner. If my parents do decide to make or provide lunch, breakfast or dinner . I'm free to just eat whatever we have in our pantry if I don't want it. And honestly, I think that it's a really good strategy. I get to explore new recipes and foods on my own. And it's made me mature much faster ☺️

[@arieanne3507]

She's also a person showing recipes online. This was an opportunity to show another recipe..she probably doesn't do it all the time and as a cook she most likely shows them how to cook as well.

[@flyingdordish1160]

Guys chill, I'm Korean and I have no issue with her pronunciation cuz it's not like she's native anyway

[@victoriaaletaaustria2817]

Not all kids' whims are indulged. With my dad when we're growing up, we learned to appreciate and eat what was cooked on the table. My mom was a great cook so no reason to be choosy or go to bed without dinner plus a spank and no crying. We learned to be not choosy and be grateful. My dad said there were many kids who didn't have any food to eat so we should pray to God we were not in those situations and be happy and contented.

[@treasure7278]

I'm sure she has parents who raised her too. No one asked for your family history. She's cooking for her family and that shouldn't be your concern.

[@leila.7754]

You got taught that you can’t have foods to dislike or else you’re a bad kid💀what’s so cute about bragging that an adult put their hands on you whenever you were a normal person and had foods you didn’t like💀💀people these days Also there’s a difference between being choosy and being a regular person

[@Yabdsfave]

‘My daughter likes a lot of mozzarella cheese’ and then proceeds to put a normal amount 😂 I was ready to see those rice cakes covered in cheese

[@tiad7453]

The way i just heard "They wanted -- the bokki" 😭😭 at least she spells it right 😭

[@nolongerwoman5714]

I grew up in a home where I had no business complaining about the food. Eat or don't eat was the premise. Well, after 12 years of eating disorders, I'm finally starting to develop a healthy relationship with food

[@Imanina-kh1ju]

I'm so proud of you!! ❤️❤️ Keep going !

[@CarbonatedCondensation]

My parents would never do this for me; they’d just make me eat what we were having. Only a few times, however, I really complained and had to make myself a sandwich or something. I find different upbringings interesting.

[@ayy589]

I’m all in for not spoiling kids by unreasonable demands all the time, but the occasional fulfillment of what your kids want and going the extra mile for them doesn’t really spoil their whole personality imo. I think a lot or almost all of us have had our mothers go the extra mile for us, it’s how moms are and many times can’t resist doing so. Let her parent on her own terms and not boss her how she should. That’s where the internet goes wrong causing distress and feeling worthless/guilt for so many mothers.

[@sunrae3877]

Definitely not "almost all of us" lol but glad your mom did that for you ! :)

[@ilana1912]

Thank you for not forcing your daughters to eat what they don't want! I grew up being forced to eat things for breakfast when I was little (well-intentioned) but I learned to find ways not to eat or I hide food when my mom looked away so it looked like I was eating. Eating many things just made me feel sick and it wasn't worth forcing! No point in having a bad relationship with food or between parents and children over anger at them "choosing not to eat" when it makes them uncomfortable. I now happily eat breakfast in the morning. 🥰

[@eclipwzeeeee]

Ta-bow-ki HUH 😭😭🤣🤣

[@christianc3032]

get over yourself

[@eclipwzeeeee]

@@christianc3032 🤣🤣🤣

[@SweetCammieEyes1]

We have the three bite rule. Take three bites and if you don’t like it cool. We also don’t prepare meals that we all do not like. If the boys want Alfredo sauce but hubby and I want red sauce cool. If her girls don’t want NYStrip steak what’s the problem

[@formula1fan359]

I actually would do that, I’m a picky eater and I feel like if my parents did this to me i’d be less of one lol

[@Gfy165]

They said no to the food. If I didn’t eat the food prepared for me as a kid I didn’t eat. And my step mom would make me eat it for breakfast the next day.

[@SP-LW.55.11.5]

But NO, carry on because you're clearly cultivating a HEALTHY relationship with food.

[@matchamorphosis]

You people are on your loser shit. shut the fuck up and get a life.

[@xxnekonekox]

How? by letting your kids be spoiled, lazy and entitled? unless her kids are like under 12 they can heat up some sauce and rice cakes in a pan themselves. This some enabling bs.

[@Heartyisok]

Honestly I can’t get over how good that steak looks

[@khusbookhushi3974]

"Eat whatever is served or go make something" picky eater habits was gone in 3 days man lmaooo. Thank you tho mom.

[@monicalopez8634]

Yup!. Thats what MY mom did!. Eat it or go to bed hungry. Period!

[@zaina.a]

I love to see mothers caring for their child’s needs especially the ones most don’t find necessary, ur food always looks amazing and also do u have the recipe of the tomato soup u made once the video where u talked ab one of ur daughters being picky and stuff I just thought that looked amazing and wanted to try! Thank u

[@CactusJinx]

That’s a really cool frying pan!😮

[@delaneyyy813]

its a wok i think

[@novawaffles2818]

@@delaneyyy813 girl, you must be crazy. there is no way in hell that can ever be called a wok. i have that exact same pan, and it’s just a nonstick frying pan lol. (sorry if this offended you, i just thought this was really funny)

[@Mary-sh2bp]

I don’t have kids, but I would probably tell my children in the future that I will make them that next time, but wasting food is not good. Eating dinner that you make will make you feel good and next time, ask them what they want for dinner, so you show them and validate and respect their wishes too. Parenting then and now is different, but you worked hard for that dinner and your hardwork need to be appreciated too. I have Asian and my parents would just let me starve if I didn’t eat what they made me, haha😂

[@saymaislam1057]

tteokbokki is so good, but why are we turning down that juicy steak?

[@Whispy_paws]

As an American I hear people saying it common in Asian households to eat what your parents make you but that’s still true in my family you eat what your served or you don’t eat but different things work for different families

[@asugarholicslife]

I'm following you because I like your positivity around food

[@annalynnkoz2135]

I’ve been buying Korean rice cakes for a while now! And I eat them plain and dip them in soy sauce because I haven’t fully understood how to eat them so thank you for this!!

[@susanreed8186]

That looks delicious 😋

[@hustlegamefam1839]

I'm definitely going to try this with my kids! # 🙏🏾💛✌🏾& BLESSINGS!

[@midorilee3700]

Never saw the sauce made with the additional ingredients. It looks delicious. Usually the sauce is too spicy for me. Gotta try this. Thank you for sharing!

[@ViewingWhateverThisIs]

I think it's really sweet that you went out of your way to make another meal for your girls even though you made a meal already. Both meals look really good. My mom wouldn't have done that for me unless one of my siblings wanted what I wanted then she would have made something for us. I just started making my own food whenever my mom made something that I wouldn't eat.

[@SB-os8xk]

“so i’m making tobokii” 😭 look i love her content but this just made me cackle

[@vannagomez08]

Wow definitely different parents from when I was a child. If we didn't like it...TO BAD TO SAD..we had to eat it. But very thankful we were made to. I don't waste food and am grateful for all

[@leila.7754]

Yikes. “Idc if you don’t like something, I’m gonna force you to eat it”

[@vannagomez08]

@Leila. yup! And it has showed me to appreciate any food that comes to my plate. And I am not picky

[@lilith3059]

I mean ,it just depends on how the child reacts to it too cause my parents for exemple were very much 'eat what youre given or starve so i would just starve' and if they did force me to eat id be sick. ended up faiting from malnutrition and cps got involded for neglect and only then did they try to cater to my liking of foods but it was too late cause anorexia developed as a toddler and never left. Both approaches can be very harmful to kids and parents should be more mindful to it if they can afford it. The approach will only work on some kids cause i definitely dont appriciate food i just hate it from it

[@leila.7754]

@@vannagomez08 hope you get the therapy you need❤️

[@vannagomez08]

@Leila. not sure why I would need therapy but okay.

[@vcasxsnk]

if i say this to my mom, a woman i love and admire to the core- would throw me out of the house.

[@Leleche]

That's sad. You said it as if "haha, joke" but it just sounds really, really sad

[@vcasxsnk]

@@Leleche thank you for your opinion on my life and such an amazing insight on my developmental psyche in light of a culturally contextual parenting opinon, random comment on the internet- but what do i know, i've been raised soooooooo sad that i have to sit here and write a comment justifiying my passing comment, i lack the ability to discern what constitutes a good parent and parenting styles, how unfortunate. im truly, incredibly, deeply, traumatized and i have internalised problematic parental behavior that has been normalised across cultures by respecting the meals my mother, after hours of chores, cooks for me with love and make her do double time. she is so oppressive, i can't even have chicken nuggies for dinner, i have to eat vegetables instead. this is so unfair for my rights as a picky eater. why cant she just make things i like? hail the permissive style of parenting guised as democratic i guess. but what do i know, i am sooooo sad and defensive about this mini comment that i just typed a paragraph. i must've been really hurt and have deep rooted issues from my childhood. truly tragic.

[@vcasxsnk]

bye argue with the wall im turning off notifications lmao op's parenting is not my or my community's thing which a lot of the comment section agrees with and imma now dip have fun replying to my lil comment, ill check back in a few years

[@Imanina-kh1ju]

@@vcasxsnk pls go to therapy. Your mom's parenting is quite terrible if this is the outcome.

[@bunda9937]

the way she said 떡볶이 reminded me of da vinky 😭 so cute

[@hamsterstyle6152]

It looks amazing!! You’re such a considerate mother for listening to their feelings and wants instead of guilt tripping them like most parents ❤

[@kelseyfarmer1473]

You’re such a good mom

[@bee5919]

Tobokie is messing me up haha😂

[@thatlldopig911]

My mother always made two options for dinner.. Option one: "eat it" Or Option two: "go without" I always chose option one! 💯

[@Hooneydew]

Looks great! I believe the pronunciation is closer to duck-bok-ki.

[@tinasoblessed6350]

Everything look delicious 😋

[@jasmineservais8689]

Everyone: She said Toboki nooo!!! Me: your girls dint want New York steak??!!

[@dadeki1389]

Butter in tooeboki my Korean granny is mad

[@queenkristine9590]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 good job making accommodations that are simple. everyone is nourished in the end & nobody had to fight about it.

[@M1ASMM2]

I wish I could eat this right now looks delicious 😋

[@allisonl.2568]

I will gladly eat everything 🥺

[@9uiv._.1ynn]

The pronunciation for Tteokbokki and Gochujang are killing me😭

[@funlo.vingco]

Love it❣️I was a picky eater growing up. NO veggies 🤦🏻‍♀️😬 Spaghetti with meat sauce was my favorite. Hated fried chicken (I woke up from that stupor). Asian household in Hawaii, you could feed me meat and rice ... Or spaghetti...all day. Mom always made more than one main dish and leftovers made for a perfect "mix plate"🙌🏽❣️❣️

[@bonsaibaby8257]

I always have Nishiki white rice in the rice cooker and could eat spaghetti every single day! I never get tired of spaghetti!! 😋

[@alohatvj]

Looks very delicious 😋 😍

[@alliem9404]

My kids can eat what I cook or wait until the next meal. If I’m making something extreme (ex, too spicy for them) I might make them a separate kid meal … but if I had already cooked perfectly nice steak for dinner and they didn’t want it they could wait and see what I serve for breakfast 😂

[@PotatoPieYT]

Exactly! I understand if it’s a dish her girls didn’t like, but it just seems like they didn’t want it lol. They can make themselves a bowl of cereal then!

[@loomonda18]

LOL no way in my household would another meal be made after a first one was cooked. Kinda rude tbh to demand another dish bc you didn't like the original one...

[@Keiko_Southhoof]

I made this and it was DELICIOUS i say😜😋 thank you soo much for this recipe😊

[@rintintin4329]

My mom would never, my gosh I’m jealous of your girls. That looks so good!

[@ashlynnhurley7438]

The childhood traumas are really coming out in this comment section. Maybe y’all should grow up and stop criticizing how someone else cooks for her kids- *just bc your parents didn’t do the same for you doesn’t make it wrong*

[@hahahaha78382]

You should add garlic and sugar or 물엿 to thicken it as well

[@bonsaibaby8257]

She did add sugar. And butter and soy sauce.

[@roopkd]

I’m so glad to hear the better pronunciation of this food, songbyrds pronunciation was killin me!

[@chai_lattes]

This is better?!💀

[@BAMCarter12]

Ohh man ... That steak and green beans look soooooo good

[@tubbymontana7090]

Can’t blame them the sauce sounds bomb 💣 I would eat both 🫢

[@jadebayoba7073]

I would perdonally eat the steak with the tteokbokki oml

[@marybass3673]

It looks delicious

[@msistah247]

definitely making some soon.

[@netra7383]

she's a great mom for creating a healthy relationship with food to her kids but those parents who made their kids whatever made that day weren't actually being mean... it's either they gave the best of what they had or they go on a policy of being grateful to eat food or they don't want to waste food they've when some parts of the world is dying of hunger. also my personal opinion is the more you eat the more nutrition we get... but again some has sensory issues... it can be a trauma to them to eat everything

[@Narwhal-uz9ih]

If I didn’t like what my mom cooked and I wanted something else she would say “eat or starve” 😂😂😂

[@gussygatlin3093]

It ALL Looks Good!!!

[@leeyotcankok6626]

Looks delicious with the steak

[@ivanl7731]

Went straight into the comments on this one

[@victorialam9044]

Just my opinion, I feel like when I’m a mother I wouldn’t just let my child go against something I’ve already made for them like dinner, for me personally I think respecting what’s made for you is very important and if you want something else you can wait for next time or ask for it so it can be prepared for another day and not just make someone scrap their finished work to make something new cuz “you didn’t feel like it” That’s just my opinion, there’s nothing wrong with what you’re doing pls enlighten me maybe this is some kind of soft parenting???

[@lilith3059]

I dont think is even soft parenting she doesn't do this every time, you can give your child what they want once in a while. Especially if is maybe something they really dont like at all and she probably doesn't want them not eating at all

[@izzyolanrewaju809]

You are amazing my parents don’t really cook dinner so we make it ourselves. Looks super yummy though.

[@kokorywood9036]

Hey this looked delicious!

[@nolacsanail]

Lucky daughters! If our mother cooked us something to eat, whether we like it or not, my sis, dad and I say thank you and eat what she prepared to show our appreciation for the time and effort.

[@Leleche]

My parents forced me to eat what I didn't like or else I starved. That turned into an eating disorder. After 25years I still have an eating disorder. Just because your parents didn't give you options doesn't mean this parent can't. Maybe if my parents gave me options I wouldn't have this disgusting disease.

[@mack_valenzuela]

At first I was like what's wrong with them. Now I want some of that 😂 looks like so much more flavor than steak

[@BlowUpTheOutsideWorld]

Looks yum!

[@manflynil9751]

I've never seen this food before. But when said rice cakes, I understand what it is. I think it's pureed cooked rice piped into cylinders and pre boiled. Which is the same method for cooking Gnocchi Parisienne. Except the gnocchi are made with choux paste which is piped into boiling water.

[@bonsaibaby8257]

Rice cakes are made by adding water to rice flour to make a dough and then rolled into cylinders.

[@manflynil9751]

@@bonsaibaby8257 thank you.

[@ruthlessrays9761]

not the “tteoboki” pronunciation lmao I’ve never heard someone says it like that

[@khadyluvsmsc]

The boki😭

[@icajunwoo]

That steak looks really good 😋😋 You're a great momma

[@Sapphire_lynxx]

"Só I'm making doboki, for the girls" HELPPP ICONIC

[@ruthlalhruaitluangi6229]

it is so heartwarming to see you help your daughters have a healthy relationship with food I really hope i can be like that too in the future🤗

[@ismahanali952]

What does she plan to do with the steak now? Being considerate of your kids is great, but try asking what they would like to eat ahead of time to avoid wasting your time, energy, and tossing that food now 🥴

[@lunarcottage]

Can I have some? Xd looks so yummy had it before and it’s really goood

[@vithevee]

i love how you’re not forcing them to eat what you make them

[@ms.nebraska]

I'll have the steak if nobody wants it 😂😂

[@pinkpalette]

if you’re not Korean don’t tell people how to pronounce korean words… unless you’ve fully studied the language or are actually korean don’t criticize people’s pronunciation.

[@ryenu]

bro she didn't even say that was how it's supposed to be pronounced. also, kinda hypocritical that you're telling her not to tell ppl how to pronounce tteokbokki when you yourself prob isn't a Korean and here you are telling her what she's not even doing is wrong bc she isn't Korean 💀 Koreaboo spotted

[@ryenu]

also, are you deaf bc she never insulted ppl ever in this short for pronouncing tteokbokki wrong.

[@pinkpalette]

@@ryenu I’m not taking about her I’m talking about people in the comments attacking her.