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[@samjensen392]

God, the constant flip-flopping between, “I feel so ugly,” to, “Guess what? I’m ✨hot✨ now” is SUCH A MOOD

[@stuff1784]

Hell yessss

[@Skyler-wj7fc]

Mental and Emotional stuff can be really tough, we understand, and we are here for you. Thank you for being so vulnerable with us to express what's going on and how you're feeling and things will get better. And for the record we all think you look amazing and absolutely stunning

[@tiny1073]

Keara is such an awesome person. Honestly.

[@ryanmorejon5813]

Agreed

[@kenzie6933]

period

[@0rchid6lues]

never feel bad for sharing your emotions. we need more people like this on social media, especially in the lgbt community. take your time to take care of yourself and go easy 😊

[@blandinelong33]

Ok so I'm only at 4 minutes into the video buuut : I relate soooo much on the exhausted kind of day as well on the pixie cut- bangs not looking *normal* and feeling ugly and blaaah... I want to tell you you're not alone ❤️ I want to say also that good mental health IS a privilege, so don't shame yourself or excuse yourself for having days off or feeling disphoric or whatever. Yes you have many privileges in your life and being grateful is the best thing in the world but also : you have the right to go through your shit. Being queer and struggling with mental health are 2 freaking big stuffs...! Sending you love and softness and sunshine 🐰❤️✨

[@KearaGraves]

this is the sweetest message ever🥺💕 i love you so much and thank you for being here ❤️🌈 i wish you lots of warm hugs & sunshine back 💛

[@ABloomAtMoonrise]

Well I’m genderfluid, but culturally in the culture that I was partially brought up in (I’m a mix of two races/ethnicities) I was taught that hair is genderless and that hair is hair and both men and women should grow out their hair and have their hair long as our hair means something sacred and you only cut your hair when someone close to you dies. So, I’ve really never felt that hair crisis when it comes to my genderfluidity…so yeah. Also, Ik that “feeling ugly” thing when it comes to being genderfluid, and I also go through that emotional roller coaster when it comes down to feeling dysphoric or just having any type of anxiety. Just always know and remember this; you’re an amazing and beautiful person no matter what okay, and you’re so loved and we all love you and support you! 🥰❤️💖💕 P.s. I also absolutely LOVE your new haircut! And you’re not an ugly person okay? And you’re never ugly.

[@kaiya33123]

I have hair JUST LIKE YOURS and this was incredibly relatable in terms of gender dysphoria and I am just so proud of you!

[@ryanmorejon5813]

Keara it's okay you let out some things that you needed to let out and that's good and I still support you regardless of what other people will say ❤️🏳️‍🌈

[@Agoraphobic_Luv]

We are here for you luv! I hope you feel better soon! (You are stunning btw and I love the new hair cut)

[@KearaGraves]

i love youuuu thank you for being here 💜

[@Agoraphobic_Luv]

@@KearaGraves I wuv you tooo! Always 😊😌

[@ryanmorejon5813]

Agreed 💯

[@BeautyMonster1000]

I can totally relate to you feeling burnt out. I feel that way a lot, including now and it's the worst. I really hope you feel better soon love! By the way, personally I love your hair and you're not ugly! Just be sure to take care of yourself because self care is so important, especially when you are feeling down on yourself. It's hard to remember to take care of yourself when you're struggling. I would know because I go through that a lot. ☺❤

[@CrustyElbo]

I'm sorry you've been going through all this, I agree there does seem to be more bigotry and hatred in the world recently. My apartment neighbor found out I was gay a couple weeks ago and shouted the F word through the wall with his friends for an hour at night. Hopefully all this bullshit energy in the world will pass soon.

[@kellijayne6674]

god, that's awful, i hope you're alright

[@mercurytheplanet3326]

Thats terrible that there's people that judge and are mean to you we support you stay safe if you want make sure they don't try to do anything bad

[@batnoir2724]

omg hearing you call yourself ugly made my heart CRY. you are literally so fecking attractive! And I am JEALOUS of your hair. i WISH I could pull it off. so I really hope you find eternal peace with your hairdo. (also the hair clips looked really cool!!!!) love you xx

[@tippi9454]

Coming from someone growing out a buzz cut- I find cute headscarf’s help me to feel more feminine when that’s the way I’m feeling that day, also hair gel is great for styling when it feels like it’s not sitting right 😌hope you feel better about your hair soon, sometimes it’s good to remember that ur more than ur hair. Hair is very temporary and changeable xx

[@leonelablets8317]

Oh sweetie, you are such a beautiful person, I'm sorry you felt that way, but I personally think you look amazing with your haircut! I send you a lot of love, you are perfect just the way you are💖

[@ryanmorejon5813]

Same here 110%

[@victoriaveliz9187]

I am genderfluid and I have cut my hair 2 months ago. I had long long hair and now nothing! Sometimes I really love it and sometimes I wanna cry. Woman, man, non binary, lots of genders go inside of me that is very dificult to find the correct cut, correct clothes, lot of things. I perfectly understand you.

[@finch3333]

The hair definitely looks good on you! Gender fluidity does that sometimes, there are ways of styling the hair to look masc or fem depending on how you feel, it just takes some work:) Also, wigs! They are helpful if you want to wear them.

[@SettingSunset]

Hi Keara, as someone who can relate to not feeling good with how you look, I'm so happy and proud of you. You are such a happy and brave person, and I look up to you so much. Thank you so much for being able to vulnerable with everyone! The ability to be vulnerable with others and yourself is such a big part of strong mental health and I am so happy that you are able to do that! Watching your videos makes me feel so good about myself and it brings such a cheer to my day! Thank you so much for inspiring others! Have a great day! 💕🙃

[@elisazips2384]

thank you for this super honest and "real" insight on your life that day.. helped me a lot accepting chaotic emotional days..

[@star.light-306]

its good to know i'm not the only person feeling like this. the hate around us makes it hard to prioritise our general day to day goals and tasks. sometimes it helps to think about what we can do to spread kindness and love to outshine the hate. or maybe theres a cause you can work with to try and make a difference, help you feel like you're making a difference. with the haircut crisis, i feel you on the never-quite-satisfied front. we're complicated people so of course finding an outside that expresses who we are is tricky. with wanting to look different day to day, it helps if i put less pressure on looking exactly right and focus on my actions to express who you are. but also getting a few wings helps too! :) you look gorgeous though, i appreciate you sharing your thoughts with us. you got this :)

[@RecklessSweetheart]

As a female identifying person who has a more androgynous style and short hair, it takes a while to find the short hair style that works for you. I found mine last year doing something different and I have kept it since. You are entitled to all of the feelings you have. People look at you differently when you don't fit the norm but if you like you, then nothing else matters. Much love to you.

[@purple00k]

Awww 💜

[@purplecarrotstirfry]

Thank you for saying this. I recently got my hair cut short because I wanted my look to fit the way I feel a bit more masculine/androgynous on the inside, and I'm having some trouble adjusting to the cut. I'm not liking it as much as I hoped I would. But your comment gave me some perspective that maybe it's just not the right cut, but that's okay cause my hair will grow out and I can try something else

[@ainsley6244]

I'm so sorry that you've been going through all this, I can totally relate. My mental health is shit for one, and that's in part to being closeted, but I'm also just depressed. Last year I got a pixie cut, and the same thing happened to me: I liked it at first, but then it just got progressively worse, to the point where it was really hard to see myself on Zoom everyday for online school. Please don't feel bad for sharing this stuff with us, we love and support you so so much. You're not alone in any of this ❤

[@penphoria]

Keara, I feel like you are putting too much pressure on your hair reflecting your inner self. That is never going to happen and it is also not important. Don’t strive for it to be perfect, just something you feel fine with.💕 Also, it’s completely normal to love your hair one day and hate it the next - all humans feel that way sometimes. And if you want to just exist, then simply just exist, without any labels, without trying to look a certain way and most importantly without trying to be perceived a certain way. You are never gonna be regarded by others as you regard yourself. You’re never gonna reach that perfection of expression. Trying will only make you feel frustrated and inadequate. It sucks, but it’s something we all have to live with. I believe you strong enough to endure it. ❤️

[@kevinanderson7425]

I may not have a job, but as a college senior I can relate to the part of overworking yourself. There are some days where you just want to to quit, and I personally overpower myself to the point to of exhaustion. It's important to take a step back an realize we can get through it

[@jgulliver6730]

I went through a similar thing when I cut my hair, I think the initial shock of it not looking perfect all the time hit me hard too! Once mine got a little longer it sat nicer and I started to love my hair again. I admire you and love your hair no matter what you decide to do with it and it’s so hard but try to remember that your self-worth is not linked to a haircut! You are incredible 💛

[@mathilde._.n7097]

First of all, love your haircut !! I don’t even know how many times I regreted a haircut after I washed my hair but anyway ! The only solution I found to avoid disphoria w my hair is just buzz it haha x) I’m letting it grow back so now I’ll know what I Look like w différents length and wich one works best for me! Long process, not gonna lie but I do feel good or at least okay w it almost every day !! So nice :) And since I cut it this short (my head was like totally shaved at one point) I’ve been taken for a boy 2 times and it felt great !!! No more « oh what a pretty young girl gngngn » bullshit and I love it ! Anyway, I hope you’ll feel better soon, sending you good energies from France !! :)

[@chelseydowney2374]

Mental health is so important to discuss and I have had some really terrible days exclusively towards work and such. But I understand how it feels of being overwhelmed.

[@lunar_lucky3541]

8:43 I was genderfluid for 2 years before I realized that I was non-binary, but from my genderfluid experiences, the reason this happens is that when you are "presenting more masculine" but you feel more feminine, you often feel out of your own skin and it is actually proven that especially with genderfluid or queer people, even if you don't realize, one of your biggest fears is giving yourself the wrong label and not being "correct"(emphasis on quotations!!!). When you present yourself in the way that you feel is most comfortable at the moment, you feel confident in your body and it feels like you are the way that you were made to be. For 10 years before expressing myself, I struggled with dysphoria every day and I can tell you it is a shitty feeling. when I first came out, my neighbors put up trump flags and came pounding on my door screaming and I felt so ugly that I didn't go outside for 3 weeks and that just made it worse - the best way to fix this is by telling a loved one about your problems and I can assure you they will help you through anything I love you so much and you helped me through my dysphoria and hatred - you made me feel like I was free to be me. Know that we all love and support you so much P.S. omg I love your mug

[@octoberrose243]

I think your hair looks awesome, and honestly your hair always looks awesome so do whatever makes you most comfortable. I relate to never being satisfied with my hair. I’m girlflux and sometimes I want it to be really long and other times I want to chop it all off. Your coming out video helped me figure out my own gender. Thank you so much!! 🌈💖

[@paulahillman1100]

I’ve been feeling the same lately keara, among other things… like anxiety and depression and more… it’s been tough. But we will all make it through and ride the waves

[@bellaturner313]

I'm sorry. We all have good and bad days, but it can be a struggle sometimes to get to the good. Just hang in there and surround yourself with people and things you love even if that's the most you can do. It helps :) Also, I personally love the haircut. It looks really good on you. And good luck on your audition!

[@esnabi31]

I’m so sorry that happened-that sounds absolutely INFURIATING. I’m also sorry you had a hard mental health day. But thank you for sharing it with us. I REALLY relate and it was nice to feel seen. I also have sensory sensitivity (like in the mall) and feel the total exhaustion. These are super anxious times and I think that definitely contributes to it. I feel that SO much. And in regard to the hair issues, have you ever considered a wig? Or something like that for those days that you want your hair to be really different. Also I LOVE your hair!

[@emmavanwyk5164]

I got pretty much the exact same haircut 3 months ago and went through the same stages of hating it right after the first shower. It gets better. You learn how to style it how you like it, and when it grows out for like a month I find I like it a lot better!

[@pastelcpid3043]

1:23. Yeah I actually started feeling like that this Christmas and since then I’ve been going into a spiraling depression. But what has always helped me is getting into a new environment. It doesn’t need to be anywhere far or anywhere fancy but sometimes just new environments that make you feel safe is almost always what helps you to feel your happiest. Ps. Sending all the love ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@lindseythew2585]

WIGS WIGS WIGS!!!! I keep my hair short and buy many wigs. It’s so good. It’s like i’m a little avatar i dress up

[@iloveyoi.3]

I am going through the same rn with the whole hair situation. My advice would be to experiment experiment experiment. I have had over 20 hairstyles within the past 8 months. I’ve done it long, short, permed it, styled it with different gels, used hats, beanies..and pretty soon you’ll find what you like. But keep in mind that what you like will change..for example you’ll find a hairstyle and find that you like it for 3 months then you’re not feeling it so you move on with another one. You’ll never be set on one hairstyle for the rest of your life. Just have fun with it! You cutting your hair this short is only one step closer to euphoria

[@agloos8123]

thank you so much for posting this Keara, knowing you go through this stuff too and that it's normal and not shameful is so validating, your honesty and vulnerability are inspiring, thank you

[@charlenechan8189]

just one and half minutes in and i TOTALLY FEEL YOU. i feel the same about social interaction and i promise you’re not alone. thank you so much for being real on here and sending love, i hope you feel better

[@emmasworld5350]

You can take a day to yourself Keara. Sometimes you just need a day to relax and do self care.

[@airconsama3960]

I seriously can’t believe how accurate keara described everything they felt in words during the first four minutes,because i feel like that too that often but can’t describe it in words and people just think I’m lazy and complaining about nothing,now that I know a lot of people also feel like this I feel a lot better.

[@Luka-nx8hx]

Genderfluid person here!! When I am feeling more masculine, i put my hair up in a beanie and hide it (i have an undercut growing out so that kinda looks cool) and when Im feeling non binary, i do the same thing but let my bangs out of the front of the beanie. I am AFAB (and I havent told my mum) so I have long ish hair, good for when im feeling a bit more feminine :)

[@tinakrisnaibot3233]

All these stereotypes...🙄 Longer hair are feminine!? lmao 😅

[@Luka-nx8hx]

@@tinakrisnaibot3233 just my personal preference :)

[@everythinggirly333]

This whole video was a mood! I agree with you on just feeling "bleh", it sometimes just overtakes you but then randomly your happy! Love ya videos :) Hope you have a good day!!

[@Liebling_li]

Feel same(( My anxiety and depression recently up to sky too. Considering war in my country and constant fear probably that's obvious, but still, Im pretty worrying about my health Men just 🖐️😤 sometimes Im so over them You look so so beautiful 🥺 and we love you content and you❤️ sorry that you feel all that sad emotions (((

[@Alexluvsstarz]

i think it might be dysmorphia bestie:/. you look gorgeous alright? its hard and i know that, but you will be okay. try focusing on the things you love

[@browncat6990]

Keara you literally look so cute snuggled up in a hood n stuff, it’s ok to feel confused and upset and not feel pretty/handsome all the time. ily

[@garbgerat]

Hi Keara! Its gonna be okay! This whole this was relatable and you aren’t alone. Its also okay to have days or weeks that you just are so ew and hate everything including the way you look. Its all gonna get better soon and your hair will start laying the way you want it to lay. Also it perfectly okay to be upset about something no matter how small the problem is! Also for the record you don’t look bad at all! And I’m sorry that the experience you had at the store was bad as well! I hope your day gets better and you get to just relax

[@ellie9380]

when i cut my hair the first time i got REALLY BAD dysphoria because i felt like i didn't look as masc as i thought i was going to but i also didn't feel like i looked femme enough to be "pretty" it was super weird, and it got a lot better when i got comfortable with it and learned how to style it how i liked. you're not alone and ily

[@ellie9380]

also it looks SO SO GOOD! you look so cute omg

[@Emma.1020]

I understand 100% where you are coming from right now Keara. I have been having a hard time lately 2. Btw I got my hair cut in the summer and had a similar experience I absolutely hated it but then my mom talked me into trying to style it in different ways and it made me feel wayyyyyy better about it. I would recommend trying different styles for your hair it helped me a lot, btw your hair looks great!!!

[@mintpeach1379]

I get it, there just are such days, know your not alone for that though. And BTW, you are my hair inspiration, every time you get a new haircut, I feel like I want that cut too. Thank you for sharing all that with us, and showing us, that we are not alone with these feelings ❤️

[@kitty2549]

You look amazing and your a great person so keep going through this I promise you will get through it

[@alliii]

The beginning is exactly how I feel, I have been wanting to get my hair cut to around my jaw length but the shortest I have had my hair was around my shoulders. With how my face is shaped I feel like it wouldn't look good either, so I'm really procrastinating scheduling an appointment while being so close to just cutting myself because I hate my hair so much

[@alliii]

@@whatsyourname9581 same..

[@Alicewonderland5280]

Your not alone. I know it seems like an empty phase but trust me I know. It felt like an empty phrase form me to until I realized their are others who also suffer alone. I struggle with Smiling Depression and self harm. But it will get better. When ever I harm myself I make a wish. My next wish will be for you. So keep your head up. ❤️

[@lexo3121]

First time I got a short haircut, I had a similar experience (and of course, my mum preferred my long hair). Styling a short haircut after long hair for a lifetime is a learning curve, just learning how to dry it and even learning how you want to improve upon it in haircuts to come. Having a change such as a whole new haircut can make you feel kind of vulnerable because you’re not used to feeling good and confident in it yet. It’s all it is, just insecurity and then the layer of familial disapproval. Feel what you’re feeling, but it will get better 💕

[@eemiaa10]

I now have the top "long" as in like a Bob but then I have a fade on the rest of my head. That way when my hair on top is down, I can pass and the fade is mostly covered. But when it's up, I look masculine. It's okay to change your hair. Who we are changes as we go and our hair is a reflection of that. 🥰

[@jennsumbera6435]

i can't even explain how important you are to SO MANY OF US 💛 you deserve all the happiness in the world keara, thank you for trusting us as much as we trust you! SENDING ALL MY LOVE 2SDAY ♥️

[@crazyawesomegirl90]

totally relate to the never being satisfied with hair (I'm also genderfluid) and my solution so far has been to routinely changing hair, like cutting it in a short bob and letting it grow past my shoulders, and then cutting it again etc. I know that there will be days when i don't like my hair but knowing that whichever hair I want in that moment will return soon kinda helps?

[@squirrel6536]

Your mini rant about gender & fluidity is SO relatable. And the hair thing. Right after washing my hair and braiding it and taking it out when it's all floofy and curly I LOVE it. The rest of the week I just spend my time looking at other gorgeous queerfolk & going *that. I want that*. Your hair is super cute tho.

[@skyenicodemus1156]

I’ve never felt more related to a human on this planet. It’s been so constructed that we are forced to invalidate the way we feel and I know how it feels because I do it all the time but it’s ok to express when you feel shit. You are strong, beautiful and never forget that!!❤️

[@michael_the.girl.]

Aww, Keara!! I felt you SOO MUCH in this video. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences 💚 Sometimes it just so nice to know you're not the only one feeling like that 😊

[@mosskataoka4602]

I hope you feel better let yourself feel your feelings you feelings are valid

[@brynworden6108]

You are not the only one! Socializing and errands feel so much more draining now than they did pre-panini. I hope things get easier for you and you have so much support here!! 💜

[@TheDivineDragon]

Awww I love you and here for you, we support you and appreciate you got everything you do and love you.

[@caffeinered]

Listening to to you I does sound like your expending more of yourself than you are able to recover. So anything that unexpectantly draws more heavily on you, may leve you overwhelmed and your fight or flight takes over before you are able to process what is happening in the moment. Which in it's self can be stressfull, disorientating and upsetting. With anguish it can cause when you are then unable understand 'why am I feeling like this" at the time. Hopefully soon things will balance out for you soon and you can recover some of your own energy.

[@abu9714]

oh honey, you're amazing and watching you makes me feel a lot better every single day, you deserve the best🤍

[@Plantje1999]

I really appreciate you sharing your struggles (eventhough it is sad you are struggling ofcourse). I actually have like the exact same hair lol.

[@oliviakittridge8932]

I've been told an undercut with long hair on top is a good solution! You can tie it up and have the shaved sides on short hair days and let the long top part down on long hair days!

[@tryingmybest4918]

I just got a pixy cut for the first time in my life. I got it last Friday after having a bob of various lengths all my life. The difference in the mirror is shocking. I keep startling myself in the mirror. I have gotten mostly great feedback but one of my friends greeted me with “don’t worry, it’ll grow back” and my brother laughed in my face. I’d be lying I’d I said this didn’t at least hurt my ego a little. Something to keep in mind is this is such a big change, you are probably still getting used to it, it’s going to take a little wile to get used to it. Also you have to find the cut that suits you best. Maybe this one didn’t work so have some fun with it! Another thing styling wise, i feel like gell is so har and difficult to pull off. I have been using hair moose and it works really well and my hair isn’t so freaking crunchy. Also, your hair is in shock right now, you just made a drastic change and it is trying to figure out what us happening. This is something my hair dresser warned me about. I had this patch in the back of my head that for the first 5 days stood straight up, no amount of product could help it, and that has gone away. So don’t judge your hair too much right now. Give it a few days to cool off. We’re in this together dude, once you get over this hump it’s great.

[@Rin-jy9gg]

I've been struggling a lot lately with socializing and having the energy to socialize, so I understand that struggle. It's very difficult when the world around you expects you to communicate verbally and you aren't in the mental space to be able to do that without struggling (I'm sorry if any of this didn't make sense, my brain is super jumbled lately so I've been switching words around and I can't seem to figure out what order makes the words actually make sense).

[@claireify1963]

Keara, you are so awesome and I'm so proud of you for sharing this! I think you look stunning!! Things will get better

[@Yellow.police.61]

3:10 I felt so fucking bad I wanted to hug keara so badly. I’m sorry ❤❤

[@Yellow.police.61]

3:03-3:25

[@Cries_In_Vampire]

honestly tho you're one of the few youtubers i'm watching rn because i was getting fed-up with the pointless hate videos they were making. like a lot of the youtubers i followed were just making these random videos shit talking other people for just being themselves. and because of my childhood its really easy for me to join in on that shit talking and like perceive everyone negatively so i really dont need that in my life lol. but you're videos are great and they always make me feel better and make me feel like i can understand myself better :)

[@emmasworld5350]

Keara, your feelings are completely valid. You look so hot with your hair. I am here for you and I know you don't know me but I love you so much. I feel your pain tho.

[@bow3242]

if you don’t feel like seeing people it’s your life you can do what you want!

[@LexiBear99]

I think the new hair looks great on you! I hope you can feel comfortable and love how you look!

[@angelauruena1463]

omg, I felt the same way when I cut mine, so I learned 2 things that day, I do care what people think especially my family and to cut my hair taking into consideration the type of hair that I have (super straight), and ask for no products or blow-drying so that I can see how it would look most of the time.

[@auroralilyz]

It’s been a couple rough days for me too, but we will get through it! I believe in you! Yeah, I feel like the world only gets more hateful over time. It’s really difficult to wrap my head around sometimes, but I try to focus on the fact that there are many people in the world that are kind and pure hearted, you just have to find them. The closest thing I can tell you about the hair is that it looks GREAT on you. And my genderfluid friend Lura says that they like their hair about shoulder length so it’s easy to tie back on masc days, and they can feel feminine on those days. They also say hi ☺️ But I love love love your hair!

[@lumos7216]

Since I've cut my hair I've been happier.. but I still feel like there's something missing. I'm not sure if I'll ever reach a point where I'm satisfied.. So I really feel your struggles. I actually cried of happiness after I cut my hair off, it felt like such a burden. It's weird how something like that can be so important. As a genderfluid person, I don't think there will be the one hairstyle that will forever be the right one. I guess everything obout us is fluid.. I just try to embrace how I feel in the moment and remind myself that it's nothing permanent. My hair will grow, or I can cut it even shorter if I want to. Or I'll buy a wig. Who knows. But it's exhausting and I truly relate to you. Keep going, we'll make it. :]

[@anonymousarmadillo9800]

hey keara, I know you probably won't see this but I just wanted to thank you for being so open and vulnerable, for sharing the low moments as well as the highs. I related to a lot of the things you talked about, especially feeling exhausted and not having enough energy to do anything. videos like this really help me to feel like I'm not alone in these feelings. also, I think your hair looks great! I got a similar haircut a couple months ago and I love it! thanks for being such a wonderful, authentic person 💛💛

[@elenav1287]

Aw Keara you bring me so much comfort recently! Hope you feel better soon 💗

[@itslucymichele5085]

I wanna give you a big hug!! I cut off all my hair and shaved the sides back in 2019 and loved it until I showered and styled it myself and after a few days I had an absolute meltdown to my dad in the kitchen because I felt so ugly. Your mom shouldn’t have said that to you, I think your new haircut is awesome and I think there’s lots of styling opportunities to play with to help you find what makes you feel confident. And if it turns out the style isn’t for you, you can grow it out, that’s what I ended up doing! Your feelings are very valid and we’re here to support you.

[@gabbyrusso5175]

Keara I gotta say I love the way it’s laying rn, and when you got it done! It looks great on you, and idk if that helps at all but either way 💕

[@asherthehusky7650]

It’s ok KEARA you are the best

[@alyssacope5901]

Yasss femme Harry Potter ⚡I hope you feel better soon, I get like that too and its really confusing! In the moments where you feel like that, notice them, label them as a thought and then move on, they will pass and you'll feel good again, ride the waves 🌊 💛

[@neslin4442]

Yeah i had the same, when i cut my hair short i felt really pretty und enjoyed the haircut but after showering the day after i couldnt look at myself without feeling ugly and sometimes i just started crying it went so bad i had to report myself as sick for the day after. But i promise it gets better really, like after i tried to style it for a few days i felt more comfortable and today im more confident then i ever was with the way i look. I promise, it just takes time. Hope everyone has a nice day and remember to take care of yourself :)

[@fatimagarza1675]

love the mug! I haven't finished the video, but you can always ask your hair stylist how to style it like that again, that happened to me too :( and I have always had long hair too; you're literally so stunning in any way regardless

[@user-Flamewood1897]

I’m so sorry you feel this way about you. And that people are treating you like shit. It’s hard to ignore things like this, and I’m glad you are able to talk about it because this is hard to talk about this shit but I’m glad you felt a bit better in the middle I’ve been feeling depressed and I also have COVID so this made me feel a bit better.

[@skylarwiggin2057]

potential solution: keep the hair on the top of your head long and shave the back/sides. you can have long hair or put the top hair up and have short hair

[@peggy5244]

I'm sorry you are feeling like this, keara💙. You're a beautiful person. Remember this

[@luciaonpointe]

So ik how you feel good about your hair one minute and bad about it the next, but honestlyyyy from an outside opinion; I love your hair sm!

[@friendlylad987]

from how you were talking abt ur hair i expected something completely different but BRO UR HAIR LOOKS SO GOOD. I have very curly hair and its short but I really hate it and your hair is like the ideal hair I would like to have!!!!

[@minaaaaa3647]

Girl you literally put everything I feel on thr daily into words I wanna give you the biggest hug sending you sm love

[@haleyhathaway2201]

I’m sending all of my hugs I understand it’s gonna be OK

[@elisei.c.4079]

Ok, I know I’m super late but I have a pixie cut and regularly wake up with my hair looking like a mess. Beanies are lifesavers. Also get the product that will help it; if it needs curl, get a curl product, etc. and get one that can go in ur hair when it’s dry as well as one for after a shower.

[@Luca_fallz]

Keara, just know you are absolutely beautiful and even though it's easier said than done, don't let the negative affect you ♥️ if you feel the need to take a break to connect with yourself, we are going to be here to support you, don't forget that

[@CC22ball]

You're literally my inspiration 💙🌟

[@anticapitalisthomedesign]

I've really been struggling with my hair & appearance & social interaction for the past year too. Very much in this with you

[@novaleehughes317]

As an answer to the hair crisis, mullet. Not just any mullet, a mullet that is chin lengthish, maybe shorter, in the back, almost buzzed on the sides and slightly shorter than an e-boy haircut on top(with middle part). That’s what I got and it’s really nice in my opinion.

[@alexismarshall7118]

Keara you are an amazing, beautiful person. There is a lot of bad stuff going on in the world. Your hair looks great.x

[@syd2881]

You’re totally valid in feeling this way! It’s hard to navigate so many things in such a hateful world but we all have each other 💜💜 as for the haircut, first of all u look so freaking good! I love the style! So I have a shaggy haircut like just above my shoulders and I have def felt plenty of discomfort around it but I usually try different hairstyles when im feeling a certain way. Like I will put my hair into like an anime guy ponytail if that makes sense? It literally makes me feel soooo much better. Maybe try focusing on different volume styles and like different styled bangs?? I hope you find the hairstyle you love 💓

[@magsfrancis]

When I first got my hair cut short, I struggled a lot with unlearning all the negative social pressures put on me as an AFAB to have long hair and worrying about being judged. This will pass ♥️ It’s okay to feel uncomfortable or weird after a big physical change, it doesn’t mean it was the wrong decision. And if you end up not liking it, hair always grows out. Take it one day at a time, bud ♥️

[@blackcat7395]

you look good! I think part of it is also getting used to the new look - for me I also felt weird about my new short hair in a way I can't describe, even though I liked it at first, for a little while, but it went away and I grew really happy with it! I think it really takes some getting used to it, at least for some people, to be comfortable, and I hope you'll get more comfortable with it soon! I really like the look :)