I regret divorcing my ex husband??

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[@centtwinz]

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[@LebohangMmihi]

Divorce is never a good thing, but dying with a bitter heart for someone else's happiness is worse. 😮

[@Alegria-Alegria]

I wish I could like this comment a million times. You hit the nail on the head.

[@nnennanwoke1598]

Over agree!

[@mpumelelozungu3093]

They always say they value their happiness but once they get it regret it

[@Makgosi-gadi]

Divorce is not easy...not at all. I have been there

[@nnennanwoke1598]

@@Makgosi-gadi you were there witj human beings, who could look back and say how is/ are the kid(s)? It its this baby's birthday- happy birthday kid. No. I was there with inhuman and conscious evil ones. There's a real difference. Worse than the worst!

[@lifeonthetablewithnoxolom719]

My kids told me I should have left a long time ago instead of exposing them to a home of toxicity

[@KaraboApril]

Staying for the sake of children will never be a good idea, because you will be raising broken children as you will be hurting as well stay if you are treated well, go if you are disrespected

[@beatricenjeri8502]

True

[@alwaysbullish2024]

So true . I literally know kids that are dealing with dépression because their parents decided to stay in a toxic marriage

[@keshiaritchie9764]

I totally agree. Staying wld be a abnormal family just the same. The home is already broken.

[@jackiesithole4185]

My mom stayed because of us, but we became damaged kids/adults emotionally and spiritually. My siblings are still struggling. Staying in a marriage for the sake of the kids is a no-go area for me.

[@mokilisto]

I come from a married parents home and it's nothing to glorify. Aim to raise healthy (emotionally and physically) children rather than worrying about statistics and how you appear to others.

[@Woo-Gang]

you can say that again

[@nolubynature9513]

💯

[@Kita-ow9zh]

I don’t regret divorcing my husband. He was a narcissist

[@fruitinspector8247]

Best thing you did for yourself and your children if you have any.

[@thalithamngomezulu457]

I disagree. Staying in a toxic family circle is worse to children

[@awethuzanga1631]

And got another now?

[@barneyjoseph3375]

Said the real narcissist..😂🤣😅

[@LizzyMaboe]

Me too and for the sake of raising happy children i feel blessed and happy everyday of my life

[@yolisamrso9827]

Its her story and conviction... why should she change her story to suit you. Why are you guys so triggered by her honesty....its seems like many are offended by her own truth. Divorce is not always good.

[@victorvukeya9091]

A big AMEN. Thank you for this comment. People advocate for divorce as if it's the only solution. C'mon guys..

[@SiyandaCarl]

​@@victorvukeya9091 The internet is filled with childish people who have very little actual life experience.

[@tumelofaith9524]

Well said

[@chizobaani4037]

100%

[@jeanethmpha2622]

Absolutely truth ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Alegria-Alegria]

There are adults still dealing with trauma wounds caused by their parents toxic marriages, instead of ' staying for the sake of the children' it's better for mothers to 'leave for the sake of their children'.

[@nolubynature9513]

Exactly 💯

[@DoxaKalombo]

it's also a good thing for booth parents put the happiness of their children first.

[@blacdawglaverse114]

I would advise anyone who is in a toxic relationship to go through divorce. But not because of silly things like feelings.

[@dorianfranklin1399]

Same! Feelings/we grew apart- nope!! Toxic and abusive relationships- get out of there!

[@JusticeSA_]

The amount of comments from ppl who are pro divorce is shocking.. hence we have dysfunctional societies out there...there's nothing to glorify about a broken marriege.

[@SiyandaCarl]

It's absolutely shocking, and notice how it's all women. I'm beginning to wonder now, what type of men do our sisters like? They tend to say the same things about the guys they marry and have kids with, does the majority of them have a specific type of man that they are drawn to? Why is the cycle being continued? How do we stop it? I honestly believe that a lot of people need counseling to improve and heal different aspects of our lives. We need counseling as means of checking if we don't have any hidden traumas and things alike, we also need pre-marital counseling (counseling before marriage) to check if we're getting married for the right reasons, and with the right partner, we need pre-parental counseling (counseling before we have children) to check if we're in the best mental state to be parents. We're very broken as a community, we need to start doing better by taking action now, I honestly believe that this will save us from a lot of trouble in generations to come.

[@naumimosiane7300]

​@@SiyandaCarlAmen.

[@tamaramkula7913]

This is a difficult one. Some situations are unbearable. You can't stay with someone who emotionally unavailable. That's the worst torture.

[@theemapsmash]

For the sake of the kids, I believe u should bcoz the kids are going to suffer anyways. Once u have kids, u need consider their mental health and wellbeing.

[@tamaramkula7913]

@@theemapsmash this is also not right as the kids need a mentally strong mom if you stay in the situation which diminishes you, undermine your intelligence and takes away your confidence you will not be the best version for your kids. It is damaging to kids seeing their mom cries almost everyday. But it's up to individuals. I would rather get out and heal for the sake of my children. God is able to give you peace and restore your life outside that useless man who does not value you.

[@ememmariaoffiong2284]

I absolutely agree

[@ezinneerhirhieneeukaogo1439]

Woman are raised to seek happiness, fulfilment in marriage and from their husbands. This is a recipe for heartbreak for no human can be prince charming and give you butterflies all the time. When one finds fulfillment in other meaningful ,moral and legal pursuits ,it's easier to bear an emotional unavailable partner. You'd be too busy to notice.😊

[@MphoTlolane]

Toxic relationships can cause depression. .. which is equivalent to insanity.

[@tholakeleshezi8819]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@tracysimms7586]

Agreed but that is why discernment and being equally yoked is very important. I was married for almost 10 years and I wish I had the dicernment that I have now.

[@congressmashava7773]

Discernment to not marry wrong? Very much agreed with you. The issue is not when you have already married most of the times but , not going into wrong marriages would have saved many of us so much trouble . May our children be guided by the Holy spirit

[@dorianfranklin1399]

@@congressmashava7773 amen!!🙏🏾

[@bongythwala9840]

I think she was the one causing problems in her Marriage ,I will never regret Divorcing someone who's Abusing me Social, Physical, Verbal , Emotional, because staying with those thing ,it like am killing my self ,my kids will be Orphan soon.

[@Mbaliekeswa]

Did you watch the full video?

[@Perseverance.Nosizwe]

😂😂😂😂You could be right about her when saying hence it was her

[@nnennanwoke1598]

Over agree! I sende guilt in her confession.

[@Perseverance.Nosizwe]

@@nnennanwoke1598 mmmmhhh it's guilt 😂

[@MphoTlolane]

It still hurts children when they see their mother hurting.

[@tkasiam8322]

I don't regret leaving my ex, I come first before anyone.

[@congressmashava7773]

I separated from the father of my child to afford my son a mother who is alive, sane and healthy. I was not functional. I was not able to be a mother. I was no longer capable to look after my self let alone my son We were not living a happy life. I know the statistics, but don't stay and die and leave your kids to be orphans or have a depressed dysfunctional mother

[@fifs4sa]

Pray about it strongly. If that is the person you have to be with, God will make a way and make it healthy. Lesson learnt.

[@yolisamrso9827]

Its her story...dont try and convince her otherwise...

[@sontovero3404]

Statistics my foot

[@sontovero3404]

Which husband?Somizi

[@masiyamothwanga]

Pls children growing up in a two parent household with parents married doesn't not alway equate a normal family 😂

[@desertdetroiter428]

What? Lol…of course it does.

[@DoxaKalombo]

Hey actually growing up in a two parent household with parents married it is a normal thing for it comes with creation of God.

[@kinnene]

Can be married but very dysfunctional. Married doesn't always equate to normal.

[@masiyamothwanga]

@@kinnene exactly what I'm saying

[@desertdetroiter428]

@@kinnene married is WAY more normal than being in a single mother household. And it’s a helluva lot less dysfunctional too. Most prisoners come from single mother households.

[@simcelilethikazi6157]

Divorcing someone who doesnt appreciate my presence was the smartest thing i ever done for myself....

[@mandy7168]

Same here

[@GODISLOVE-b4q]

So if he's a good father to his own children but is not a good husband to his wife doesn't deserve divorce is what you mean?

[@esthershine2486]

😂😂😂me too. Am almost calling that woman wicked she divorced and now free and she doesn't want others to divorce 😂😂😂 does she want women to die in marriage 😂

[@simcelilethikazi6157]

@@esthershine2486 she's losing her mind🤣

[@esthershine2486]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂​@@simcelilethikazi6157she doesn't want to wish good things for others.

[@estheropokunimo8805]

Your reason for the divorce matters a lot. If you divorced out of pettiness, then your own wahala but if you divorced an abuser then you n your children did the ryt thing so the reason matters a lot ok.

[@GODISLOVE-b4q]

Her thinking is not make sure 😂😂😂😂😂

[@AllthingsHealth_]

I think there’s more to what she is regretting than what she is accepting it really is. Especially if you took time to listen to the whole episode.

[@GODISLOVE-b4q]

That statement nje haikhona! When you are not being treated the way you should be treated by your husband or wife the best is divorce that will save you from dying premature death, peace, respect and happiness is a must in marriage!/relationship if you are not getting those, you better know your worth and get out, imagine if you don't get out Phela you are going to live your whole life miserable.Hell to the No to what she's saying.

[@kgoriorigoldlooks8179]

Okare onyaka somizi

[@TheIncredibleKnox08]

True dat😂😂😂

[@tholakeleshezi8819]

Yooo I agree😂

[@fruitinspector8247]

Not ALL marriages are ordained by God.

[@oliviapeters5893]

Maybe the husband is a good father

[@mpumelelozungu3093]

Now she's back in these tough Streets

[@97VIRTUESHEART]

​@@mpumelelozungu3093 But not a good husband. Many men see women as breeder of children for them. Those type of men can't be a huband

[@praise-tehilam3167]

Ng ng I don't believe in staying on marriage for kids. Sometimes in staying ur still affecting the kids negatively. We lost Osinachi to death because of that very reason. If it's wrong leave,my view

[@congressmashava7773]

We don't divorce because we no longer even love our partners but because the situations are so toxic for ourselves and our children. It takes a lot to make the decision to leave It is after having done everything and all that is left is to leave if you still want to be alive and functional. It takes women a lot to finally get out. It is not easy raising children alone but against a toxic home it is better. People have killed themselves and their spouses and even the children because they could not handle separation or divorce. Much love Be kind to yourself Yes u doing better than you think

[@bunikiehange4619]

I really don't regret it one bit because I believe children also need to grow up in a healthy environment, there is no way you can Parent well if you are depressed on a daily basis.i wouldn't even feel bad for my children to in that static.I will not advice anyone to divorce their spouse but if must save yourself than go ahead and save yourself as you will also save your children from growing in a toxic environmenenvironment

[@mandy7168]

We can never do suffer in the name of our kids they will grow up and have their own life for us is not to remain with them in a toxic environment that will destroy them for life , I don’t regret my decision ever

[@thakanetlatsi5434]

I will never regret my devorce bcz if I stayed in that marriage ,I would be dead by now or loosed my sanity bcz of a selfish man , whom I ended up thinking that he never loved me from the very beginning,bcz there's no kind of abuse I didn't go thru in that 8 yrs of my so called marriage 😢

[@bunikiehange4619]

my dear mine.was 7 years if I didn't leave I could have end dead...I don't regret it one bit

[@congressmashava7773]

@@bunikiehange4619 I get you sisters.

[@kingkony6252]

That is the most truthful thing. Divorce destroys people. People act happy but damn you feel the loss

[@maryokoidigun7921]

How I wish my sister had divorced her abusive husband, she would have still be alive today!

[@user-ex8xj5cz3g]

People who have not experienced what you say, those who have never wore your shoes, will not understand what you say and they will criticize you for what you say. However, whatever you say is true and I applaud you for saying your truth.

[@Indigoglo1111]

As someone that always wanted a traditional family and wanted my children to have their father around. I don’t regret my divorce at all. A toxic environment is not good for anyone. I waited till my youngest was 16 and I feel like because I waited the toxicity in the marriage and in my household became more toxic. If the marriage is creating a negative situation and toxicity in the household it is not, a good idea to stay in that situation.

[@davidsithole4614]

Better divorce than found yourself in the grave. He found himself in 25years in Prison.

[@humidg355]

My friend's husband verbally and emotionally abused her. It affected her and the children. She discovered the harm the toxic environment had on the children a few years later. It is better to step aside for a while to allow the offending partner to amend his or her ways. It also helps the victim to heal and make the right decisions A brokem relationship is better than having bitter and emotionally damaged children who will become abusers or the abused

[@rosebellewaihenya4888]

Divorce is like leaving Egypt, you keep looking back. My mum didn’t divorce and we grew up in a very violent and toxic environment, we all now are divorced from men who were more violent than my dad. Staying for the kids only teaches them to accept the unacceptable. Her advice is wrong

[@Name-zl8zj]

I thoughr staying in my abusive marriage, I was doing favour for my children but the truth is i was destroying them mentally, emotionally and spirituality. I regret i did not divorce him early.. staying in a toxic marriage is hell on earth.

[@NompumeleloMhlungu]

I can relate 😢 i sumtyms feel d same way lukin at ma kids raising dem alone😢😢

[@DoxaKalombo]

thank you my sister for realising your mistake.. Remember Make peace with yourself and ask Go to forgive you. And remember the thief cometh to steal and to destroy and to kill but I come for them to have life and have it more abundantly.Thank you for realising the pain also you course your children.

[@BlessingAdachukwu]

Am a better mum because I divorced. I was in pains and transfering anger to my child. Am sane and happier and am raising a happy child not a bitter child

[@foreversunshine2585]

I divorced him after 20 years and that was the best decision I ever had made. He was the first man and it will be the last.

[@ankneter]

SHE DID THAT MAN A FAVOR . GOOD FOR HIM..!

[@Advic77]

I love my children, I will do anything in the world for them. I will go to the end of the earth for them but the most precious thing they had you took it away from them...A father in a home.

[@portiamagaqa1536]

She has done something to her husband 😅i think he was a good guy 😅

[@khabomajola2463]

It's a personal choice to stay or to leave. Some stay for the kids, and some leave for the kids, so it's truly a personal choice.

[@user-ex8xj5cz3g]

This lady is smart and 100,% right. You do things for your children's happiness at times. Parents must consider the feelings of their children because there's indeed a difference between a child who grows up in a broken home and a child who grows up in a family of both parents. Parents need each other to raise their children. Yes some marriages are toxic, but it's not wise to jump for divorce when things don't go well because there are professionals like marriage counselors one can consult before bailing out, for the sake of their marriage and children. It's not nice to have both parents and suddenly be left with a single parent, it takes a very long and a painful time to get used to that. I was part of that statistic, I know from personal experience. You feel the void left by the departed parent whilst you're living with the other parent. Some parents are selfish because this happens because of infidelity, it's not like they're in a toxic marriage but they make wrong and selfish decisions forgetting what the consequences will be to their children, they cheat and get divorced when their spouses discover that.

[@kiya3328]

Staying in a horrible marriage will do more damage to the kids. If you are angry and he is angry, the kids will never know love and will grow up to be bitter adults that create more bitterness for themselves and people around them! The "normal" social standard family cannot be achieved by everyone. And that is Ohk. We need to give ourselves more grace and enjoy this gift of life.

[@johannarathebe3092]

IT DEPENDS WITH PROBLEMS I DONT REGRET at all if I stayed they would not known me or even went to schools they went to DEPENDS WITH PROBLEMS CEECE

[@BridgetMathonsi-i5i]

I totally disagree a bitter wife can't raise happy children divorce is yr door out not yr children's yr X can still b in their lives

[@ideyiinnocent5774]

I noticed one thing about women when it comes to romance break up....they lie alot no single fault from them....zero accountability...

[@beamoyo2096]

There are a few reasons to why 1 can seek divorce. Once you have made the decision you need to align your body, soul and spirit to current self. You definitely need counselling so to find yourself ❤❤❤

[@janemuller2066]

A divorce is the dissolving of a marriage union between a wife and a husband. Children affected by divorced parents still have access to both parents if the parents choose to continue to be their parents. Divorce statistics are for the married couple who for whatever reason/s choose to separate themselves legally from each other. Living together as a "notmal" family doesn't mean it's part of a "%heslthy" normal family. What happens when the kids marry and you sit in a loveless, lonely and disrespectful home environment 😒 Many times this is how our children repeat what they have become accustomed to and repeat the toxic cycle of unhealthy marriage relationships

[@justinamusyoka4986]

If you admit you regret divorcing ,then it means you feel empty and still missing the beasts you escaped.I think we should learn to love ourselves and teach our children the same.Marriage is not for everyone,and many have died trying to protect the family image.

[@jordanjohn-paul1015]

No man. If something doesn't work out then let it go.. you did not deny your kids a normal live as you say... you proved to them that you are strong enough to leave a toxic marriage and not stay for the "sake" of kids...

[@user-hv9nh4up6s]

Devorce is a good idea cc if u are faced with a toxic abusive marriage.Just wear oogklaps n forward u go n c life the other way round🎉

[@NaloMagugu-jb9ho]

Even the bible says don't divorce god don't like that 😢😢😢😮

[@rbee2062]

When the bible was written ,there were no lazy men ,no working career women ,that bible is out of date

[@user-zy2nn7df5w]

God hates divorce but allows it in the case of infidelity.

[@esthershine2486]

God hates divorce not the divorced 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂i can't stand being tortured in marriage in the name of marriage. I'm aware that God loves me more than marriage

[@user-nu3zr2dc6r]

CHILDREN❤ NEED A SAFE RESPECTED HOME😮.. NOT A TOXIC AND DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOME. NOT GOOD FOR A CHILD AT ALL. AND THAT THE TRUTH☝️

[@dipzy21]

Palesa is speaking of her own experience, ladies don't try this at home it's a terrible advice

[@Sal-yd6th]

Children are happy as long as both parents are happy. I would rather be a statistic of divorce than that of disfunctional family.

[@user-gg4kl3pz9e]

As much as you regret guys, it's also abnormal to stay in the "normal family" with the sadness of unhappy marriage. Children grow up only if one party is able to exercise and treat them well....by allowing another party to be in the picture by maintaining the parentalhood while they're growing.

[@emmanuelkgadi3004]

You have the power to protect your peace, you can't sacrifice your life for the sake of your children, in the marriage that is not working

[@musatsotetsi2443]

Somizi was the best husband for you just that he decided to take a wrong way 😢. Therefore don't regret dear you were married to someone that was not made for you. Your rip was Sogaga.

[@modupeadekunle3579]

BITTER TRUTH.

[@rosepeter8996]

GOD hates divorce too....i think is not a good thing.

[@Lihlume0322]

Some plp were in toxic relationships. I don't think there can be anyone that can tell a person to divorce. They back you when you have already taken that decision. Plp could have been dead if they hadn't divorced. People are in toxic marriages.. Those of you guys,in toxic marriages, divorce please

[@user-wu8pp7ez1b]

I will never regret leaving someone who is abusive if you stay with someone who beat you your son will be abusive too when he became a man because he thinks it's nomal maybe your husband was not that abusive because there are abusers out there

[@ThaboNongxaxa]

I'm glad she admitted that.

[@janethtemu6581]

So you divorced him with no genuine reason?

[@sontovero3404]

Yes why regret

[@africansister]

Don't bring up children in a fake normal family. Divorce is necessary when abuse replace love

[@amukelanisiwela1358]

Life itself is hard, being single is hard because you spend life by yourself. Marriage is hard because it's not a selfish thing, both wife and husband work and die to themselves for a healthy family. Divorce is even harder because you once loved that person for you to hate them to a point of divorce. Choose your hard at the end of the day you will still suffer. Good news is that God is there with you. He loves us even in our bad decisions.

[@jabusikhakhane1465]

That's the worse reason I've ever had to stay in the marriage, statistic for who, for what, peace of mind surpasses all understanding, marriage is not an achievement

[@UnfilteredDeepDives]

Owamie. We are still waiting for you to do the interview with the baby mama.

[@anthoniaehikwe128]

It doesn't matter. Never regret making the right decision. Your children will grow up and leave and where would that leave you then. That is if you would still be alive, in your right frame of mind and perhaps your children's safety and sanity

[@happeningske]

Children are our greatest pain 😢😭😭😭😭

[@andriessibanyoni537]

It's time we stop following our hearts and invite God in every step we take.

[@predestinated9248]

If a mother is unhappy it affects the children as well marital abuse can lead to loss of life is it better for your children to be orphaned because of keeping up appearances i wonder

[@mosa1mabilisa]

For the kids....not reason.

[@tholakeleshezi8819]

She is going through some stuff this girl😂

[@travisveal6812]

Try to make it sound good.... They can't just say I f*sucked up... Be honest, nobody really wants you like he did... You didn't care about the kids then, and don't care now....

[@Md0ngwe369]

I divorced and don't regret it, even my kids believe that l took a good decision. It depends on the reason why you decide to opt for a divorce.

[@user-tr3cf8re9x]

I let him and am fine with the children, I didn't dineid him to see children but he didn't want I better chose peace than living in depression. #selflove

[@MazwiDavideMgwebi]

You regret because you miss the allowances you were getting and feeling of a burden of raising your children alone.

[@mikekimble6081]

Exactly YOU WAS SUPER SELFISH 😠 you Put them in and Ugly situation 🙏

[@user-iv2ul5ms3w]

Thanks you for sharing this amen

[@sudaafricanamami2290]

I don’t care…divorce darling. You come first in your own life!

[@ConfusedAlligator-dg4xh]

You still beautiful woman

[@congressmashava7773]

Rather a single parent functional and conducive home than a violent traumatic two parent home. It is a choice. There is statistics and there is human lives . We will always wish for the best. To have our children raised by two parents in a conducive home. That is the best

[@salomemafa5460]

It depends on the reason behind the divorce most kids would like to be with happy parents, kids do understand when they get older and they can see for themselves. Take kids to counseling for healing and acceptance it does help.

[@lahlichauke8335]

do not stay for the sake of kids..kids grow n hv their own lives

[@user-dd8ev6cj1m]

Mme o tswara thipa ka bogaleng, divorce is not good and also living under abusive relationships is not cool but who suffers more, there is a say which explain that when two Elephant fight, only the grass suffered and on this case only kids are deprived of growing under normal families. I grow under a single parent, my Mother being a boy. Unfortunately my Mother was married to our Stepfather who really abusive me and my brother badly and I will never divorce my wife, in sickness and bad times. Once you take time to get married, please make sure that you take time before committing to marriages coz it's not a smooth sailing.

[@frontstreettea]

What she's saying is nonsense.

[@chanorou2075]

What kind of confusing talk and reasoning is this? 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@mpumelelozungu3093]

That's a hard lesson learned

[@cmangaloui3099]

You missed him Manga lawo

[@chaslangavinlinks7828]

You are brave my sister to make such a confession

[@chinasawhyte388]

Madame, it is circumstances that causes pple to divorce. If any situation threatens the life of anyone(an abusive marriage) if anyone remains in that marriage & anything negative happens to them; it would be the person 's fault. After hell fire as the Bible describes it; it is bad marriage. This in my opinion is a naive statement!

[@sosoinno6587]

She hope Somizi would come back lol

[@horlicks3920]

Let it make sense. Why stay in something that you think wouldve been good for them Then youre living a lie. Living without love and pretending.

[@doobsie8944]

Mina I'm also a divorcey and I will encourage anyone to do so tjo, i was supposed to endure HIV and aids for the sake of my kids mxm i don't regrets 😂😅not at all 😊

[@mandisimaake2497]

She doesn't make sense..

[@CorryRyan]

Prayer is the key....God is in control