I Regret Freezing My Eggs (a 2-year reflection)

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I share my experience and regrets about freezing my eggs two years ago while working full-time in New York City. If you are wondering "Should I freeze my eggs," I hope this video provides one perspective. Stay healthy!
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00:00 Intro
00:22 Why I froze my eggs in NYC at 30
01:39 Egg freezing process overview
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04:34 Why I regret freezing my eggs
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[@all4yoojin]

To those who have gone through egg freezing, is currently considering, or decided not to, I along with others would love to hear from you! What was going through your heart and mind as you thought about this? Please share as your comments not only help me but other women too!

[@ClaudiaM-om4em]

I would say, to increase your chances of finding a partner, change your hair and your style, a longer hair and no fringe may help you look younger, use makeup and dress well, don't be afraid to be a little bit less conservative outwardly. You seem very intelligent and kind so all you need to work on is appearance, not so hard for you as you are beautiful already, make the most of it. ❤

[@ClaudiaM-om4em]

Wow I just read you are 32, still young!! Don't dress like old lady. If its comfortable, embrace more west-like outfit and hair styles

[@grasweg3]

​@@ClaudiaM-om4em How the heck did you assume she's looking for advice?

[@ClaudiaM-om4em]

@@grasweg3 why would it be wrong? You could come at me if the advice given is harmful or wrong, but I don't mean no harm. If you feel combative when someone gives you advice, you know subconsciously their advice is true and it bothers you because of your pride. Also she is very pretty and seems very nice. She says she is having a hard time dating. Women should uplift women

[@immnotaboutthatlife2086]

@@all4yoojin I always thought I was super fertile but life happens. People tell me, oh you’re so young, it will happen one day and it’s very sweet of them but some things are out of your control no matter how hard you try.

[@11jjjj11]

I went through my 20s being sure I was going to freeze my eggs and become a mother as late as biologically possible. I’m going to turn 30 next year, just quit my high paying corporate job to make a transatlantic move to study something creative, and now I don’t want to freeze my eggs anymore. I realized my desire to freeze my eggs came from fear. I didn’t trust that my future partner could be reliable so I wanted to grow my assets as big as possible before getting kids. I somehow had this thought that I had to have it all figured out before becoming a mom, and I guess it was because I didn’t trust in my ability to deal with situations that arises after giving birth one step at a time, which essentially is how life always has been and always will be. This fear also pressured me to prioritize survival and wealth accumulation (which I wasn’t even good at lol) rather than choosing a career path that I felt truly happy with. Now I let go of a lot of these fear and am much happier. Sure, I may or may not be able to conceive naturally in the future. While I would still love to have children, I now just decided that if it happens, great, and if not, I’ll still find a way to be happy and be a great aunt. But I realized that stressing over the future is what would drive my egg quality down early on anyways, and the best thing I could do for myself and my future family is to enjoy my present life and take a pristine care of my physical, mental and spiritual health right here right now. Thank you so much for your refreshing thoughts, Yoojin. Much appreciated.

[@4imee198]

This. Some of us go the opposite of "care free" and get anxious about the future. We can only count our blessings and live and love authentically at the moment 😊 (is not always a romantic partner but something that gives our lives meaning like friends or family)

[@emirose8795]

I honestly related so much to this. I have been down the exact same path & am just now trying to live one day at a time & not fret about having everything "together" before entering the next chapter of life (marriage, family, etc.) Wishing you all the best on your journey

[@leoprg5330]

Quality of eggs lowers with age, not by stressing about future. I am a man in his late thirties going through surrogacy and our agency only offered egg donors in their early twenties which is correct way because their eggs are most healthy. A surrogate can be over thirty but the genetic material is crucial for successful process. It's a cold fact unfortunately.. I wish everyone success and happiness.

[@loremipsum7ac]

​@leoprg5330 it's totally correct to say that egg (and sperm) quality decline with age, but the rate of decline is dependent on many factors, one of which *could be* stress. Hoping on a successful surrogacy journey for you

[@GoldenKay19]

Your comment is like you were reading my mind, that’s exactly how I feel thank you so so so much for your perfect articulated comment 💖💖💖

[@rodela6025]

Thank you for telling your experience. In my case, I would have loved to be a mother at 30. But when I reached 35 and still couldn't find the right person, I preferred to freeze my oocytes because I began to feel like I was in a race against time. Now at 37 I do feel like I found the right person and we will surely start trying soon. In my family there are many cases of infertility and I know it can break your heart, if I try and fail at least I will rest assured that I did everything I could within my power, I have no regrets.

[@mizoyarol9873]

The problem is that you believe that Hollywood BS that there is a "right person" there is no right person we all are full of flaws...ones should lower his standards and settles when the minimum requirements are there....

[@ooXChrissieXoo]

@@mizoyarol9873 you’re missing the point, because there are definitely wrong person lol so a person is wrong if they are not the right person. No one said they need to be this Mr.Perfect, but just the minimal good, which has proven to be difficult to come by.

[@rodela6025]

@@mizoyarol9873 On the contrary, if you do not want to have a child alone, it is necessary to find the right father for your future child. I had many relationships with men who appeared and disappeared. I even think I had very low standards because I was always with men who didn't value me. I met my fiance 3 years ago, he is an emotionally mature, stable man who knows what he wants, with him I feel safe having a child, we are going to get married in November. Exactly what Hollywood sells you are toxic relationships, what we have is love, friendship and companionship. I love him and dream of making our family. Never lower your standards!

[@rodela6025]

On the contrary, if you do not want to have a child alone, it is necessary to find the right father for your future child. I had many relationships with men who were not reliable o didnt want to have kids, its not easy. I even think I had very low standards because I was always with men who didn't value me. I met my fiance 3 years ago, he is an emotionally mature, stable man who knows what he wants, with him I feel safe having a child, we are going to get married in November. What Hollywood sells you are toxic relationships, what we have is love, friendship and companionship. Never lower your standards!

[@asiyaheibhlin]

As someone who became a mother at 27 (I'm now 29)- I can say that having children later in life is more difficult because of the lack of energy, among other things. My father had my 3-year old brother at 51 and when my brother is 18 my father will be 70. My brother is half-Japanese so I expect that he will fall in-line with Japanese culture (they all live there) and he will have to care for my elderly father the moment he becomes old enough to live his life. A selfish choice. And the wife had my brother at 38 and she struggles to keep up with such an energetic child. I wanted to start a family at 15. I still wish I had the opportunity to do so. It sucks being an older mom.

[@yennlow]

I froze my eggs at 36 and finally had children at 41. I couldn’t carry them on my own though. Egg freezing only buys you a few years. It also left me with a pelvic infection which resulted in 3 surgeries over 3 months, leaving me scarred, infertile and one less ovary at 36. Looking back, it’s hard to pinpoint which decision led me here. I spent too much time in bad relationships and getting over them. When there were good ones, I chose to relocate for better career opportunities. It takes 2-3 years to nurture a serious relationship. In hindsight, one can only do that many in her “prime”. It was stressful to continue risk breaking my heart and date in my mid and late thirties when men at the same age just didn’t share the same concerns. While I did pull it off, I’m considered the lucky few among my friends. I’m really happy and grateful to have my family now. I just wish I could enjoy that sooner. All those travels I had and the papers I publish, they don’t compare at all.

[@hardshell9236]

Wow seriously 2-3 years🤣my great grandparents met one day on the factory and were married within a week. Had 4 children, survived WWI, WWII and lived together until their death. There is huge mental problem with modern generation 🙄

[@nolabae]

​@@hardshell9236 your folks were raised in a completely different world, can't be compared with the times today, their homes were $50 also lol

[@nunwithpipecleaner]

@@hardshell9236 Seems like whatever generation you're from lacks empathy and decorum. Not everyone wants to decide to get married and have kids within a week of meeting, and it's not sound advice to tell people to do so either.

[@psinschktz1192]

Hey, I am so happy for you that you have a family now. I agree with you, I also made expensive decisions that affected my health and I also wish I had met my husband earlier and not at 39.

[@Ayonokyoji]

as a gym freak I thought am in a grave danger for refrigerating my boiled eggs ....and few minutes into the video I realized this not about "the eggs".🙃

[@kikithepupper6774]

Lolol wrong video😂

[@YourHandsomeCrush]

I thought it's a skit video about she got poisoned because consuming eggs from the fridge 😂

[@jjQlLlLq]

Not a gym freak nor a gym person at all, but I would agree that there needs to be a lil more detail than just "frozen eggs", lol.

[@km4940]

🤣🤣🤣

[@all4yoojin]

Hahaha 😂 your comment made me chuckle. Your boiled eggs are safe!! Stay healthy and have a great weekend

[@user-dd8kk2cm6l]

I am 34 and I froze mine 6 months ago. You are the first person I have heard say that they regret it, quite surprising. I had no weight gain, just bloating for about 7-10 days. I had no issues with muscle loss etc, I have a friend who done it one year ago. She also has no regrets or had issues with weight gain. The only hard time I had was taking the pill for a week. It didn’t make me feel good and it makes you bleed, and then your period comes straight after you stop taking it so I felt like I was bleeding for forever. Otherwise everything was fine.

[@all4yoojin]

Hey! Happy to hear that your egg freezing journey went well. Maybe I overate thinking that I should treat myself during the period hahaha. Sorry to hear the bleeding was rough though… I think the side effects hit differently for everyone. It’s been 3 years since freezing my eggs and my feelings toward the experience haven’t changed much. Probably won’t do it again😂

[@zoeydeu2261]

My bestfriend had her eggs frozen at 30 and afterwards struggled with weight issues for a while

[@NightinGal89]

Omg that sounds bad. I'm 35 and pondering freezing but dunno, it's an expense and I'm not sure I even want kids. I'm just thinking maybe at some point within the next 15 years I might change my mind

[@user-dd8kk2cm6l]

I just think some people need to weigh up what’s more important to them, potentially gaining weight or having the option to have children for the future. I know what I would pick, even if I am not sure I want children. If I have the privilege of being able to afford it I wouldn’t miss this chance, and I will never regret this. My sister will do egg freezing next month.

[@simplytenga]

​@@NightinGal89I am 35 too, single with no prospects, wondering if I want more kids ( got one when I was 19, not sure if I want to do the journey again), in that case I need to freeze the eggs. Very confused about this subject. Of recent I have started to believe that I dont know how to date, and am not motivated to go on dates like I used when I was 32 yrs and below, I feel exhausted about dating. Sometimes I wonder if I will regret not putting enough effort to get a partner.

[@crunchyfrog63]

I don't regret it. I had it done in 1998, 2 cycles, when I was 35. With the technology of the time, they had to be fertilized 1st. It was not something I had ever heard of anyone doing before, and it certainly wasn't being advertised. I just knew that I wanted to preserve my reproductive options. Money wasn't an issue, as I had recently gotten a substantial inheritance. This wasn't about pursuing a career. More about getting my head together. In any event, it was successful on the 1st try, and I now have 15 year old twins. In general I think it's a good idea to keep your options open if you're in a position to do so.

[@h-di4qd]

Wow, that's so interesting that they had to be fertilized first! Did you use a sperm donor for that?

[@crunchyfrog63]

@h-di4qd They didn't have the technology to freeze unfertilized eggs effectively until some years later, so yeah, I used donor sperm from California Cryobank. There have been a lot of changes in the technology and protocols in the last 26 years. I'm happy to answer any questions.😁

[@aaa-my5xy]

so your kids are technically chronologically 26 then?

[@crunchyfrog63]

@aaa-my5xy Well, they were conceived in Nov of 1998 (my 2nd cycle) so a little less than 26 years ago, and that's conception without adding in gestation, so something between 24 and 25? Anyway, I've heard of I've heard of children being born from donor embryos who were actually conceived before their parents were. Kind of strange to contemplate.

[@h-di4qd]

@@crunchyfrog63 woah, science is crazy!! thank you for sharing your experience! congratulations on your twins

[@shonen84]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Although I’m a guy I’ve also been in a similar mindset. I’m worried about dating, work and family, and how to juggle it all. I’m very aware of the “clock” that we’re all on, my ex-girlfriend was 33 when we broke up and our parents are getting older too. I had briefly discussed egg freezing, she dismissed it in the end. Nothing to do with breaking up, things just didn’t work out. And just like you said, fertility treatments are like a stock, nothing is guaranteed. I’m turning 40 in 10 days. I hope I’ll be a good husband to my future wife, a good father to my future children. At least I can continue to try to be a good son and take care of my parents.

[@user-ns7xr5fq1i]

Surprising how many people go through the same struggles, but still it doesn't help and dating is so hard. Probably now the world is more individualistic, people communicate less. I'm a woman of 38, I broke up with my bf couple of years ago because he didn't want to have children. And now I'm single, still no children 😅

[@Mamika_AFK]

Welp, u guys are a match then! 😆

[@DianaSanchez-dy1yu]

Happy birthday and like the previous person commented you too might be an option for one another. All the best !!!

[@zizi5721]

🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@zizi5721]

​@@user-ns7xr5fq1i Sperm donor?

[@mariastathopoulos744]

My IVF journey started when l was 35 as a single woman with donor sperm. I had 6 failed blastocyst implantation cycles. l had my 2 children by IVF at ages 37, my 7th cycle and 39, my 8th cycle. A woman's fertility naturally drops markedly by 30 years of age, significantly drops from 35 and thereafter to less than 1% by age 40. If you're worried about gaining weight before pregnancy, you'll find pregnancy quite challenging. There isn't a guarantee that an egg will fertilise and grow into a blastocyst (5 days post fertlisation). There isn't a guarantee that the implanted blastocyst will stick to the uterine wall. There isn't a guarantee that you won't miscarry. Freezing eggs is a gamble. IVF is a gamble. Parenthood is a gamble.

[@user-jy6vp1zm9m]

Not exactly true. Women at 45 have a 3% chance of conception but 90% of eggs are abnormal.

[@mariastathopoulos744]

@@user-jy6vp1zm9m Even if 3% chance of conception at 45, that's 97% chance of not conceiving per month. Odds are stacked against conception and a healthy baby. Freezing eggs is just one component of IVF. Current statistics are: Women's age and IVF It's a common misconception that IVF treatment can overcome the effects of age on fertility. A woman's age also affects the chance of success with IVF. In Australia, the chance of a live birth from one complete IVF cycle (which includes all fresh and frozen-thawed embryo transfers following one ovarian stimulation) is about: 43% for women aged 30 to 34 years 31% for women aged 35 to 39 years 11% for women aged 40 to 44 years.

[@KateeAngel]

Life without kids is much better. Why torture yourself for such a questionable "prize"?

[@mariastathopoulos744]

@@KateeAngel lf you don't want kids, don't have them. Not everyone is suited to the lifestyle and sacrifice. I always knew that l wanted to be a parent even from young adulthood. Be true to yourself.

[@rossysullenberger4616]

God! How did you survive that many cycles. I tried 3 cycles without success and quit.

[@MsJustice4ever]

I totally get why you did it. When I was 29, my biological clock was screaming at me so loud that even though we weren’t in the best financial position with my partner, we had our 2 children in quick succession, I was 30 and 31 when they were born, my now husband a couple of years older. Yes it was more difficult financially than if we waited longer.. but no regrets because children need so much energy, it’s not just the question of being fertile, but can you be an active parent and take part in their childhood without struggling due to your age.

[@SaraGasmi-tr4so]

I'm glad you had your children, may they always bring you joy. Can u please explain what u mean by "my biological clock was screaming at me"?

[@MsJustice4ever]

@@SaraGasmi-tr4so the way I felt that my biological clock was screaming at me was that I was very aware that I’m running out of time at close to 30, so if I wanted multiple healthy children, I have to hurry up and have them ASAP. I also didn’t want to have them as an older mother, because even if conception isn’t a problem, pregnancy complications are more common as someone ages.

[@akina1053]

Glad to hear you feel that you made the right choice. The biological clock is real. I never got the feeling of " my body clock screaming" but I remember vividly the strong desire to hug every cute babies I saw.... I dis know I was 4 weeks pregnant already. We can't stop that instinct.

[@nolabae]

29 is still so very young. As society has done a number on women.

[@adararelgnel2695]

​@@SaraGasmi-tr4so i can explain it also. Mine was screaming at me at the ripe young age of 22. It was a desperate innate, internal, animalistic desire to have and raise children. The only thing i can compare it to is being hungry and desperate for food. It was some kind of deep and instinctual need.

[@user-vs9qz6ro7z]

Childless, infertile and never wanted children and I will never do. I am extremely happy with my decision. Zero regrets.

[@Rayhuntter]

evolutionary dead-end

[@user-vs9qz6ro7z]

@pirata-xw4on That's the point, people have it here. I don't. End of story. :*

[@alexacarrillo4339]

@pirata-xw4onsociety tends to tell us we will regret not having kids. My daughter doesn’t want kids at all and she gets so much flack for it.

[@alexacarrillo4339]

@pirata-xw4on even with the Dr that is on the list of known Drs that will do a tubal ligation on younger women she was laughed out of the office. With her health she really shouldn’t have biological children if she wanted them or at least never get pregnant if she was desperate for kids but she doesn’t want them so I wish she could get sterilized. I understand Drs are covering their butt against things like lawsuits but she does need it.

[@elifrost7890]

By your logic, people who make 1 or 2 kids are evolutionary dead-end two, since they don't actually reproduce (2 kids only cover their parents mortality, with 1 you as good as a single person with no kids)

[@yothiga]

As a 35 years old I really want to freeze my eggs but I think I will never use them if I don’t have husband anyway.

[@SongofBeauty]

Same. Single, I’m in my 30s and yeah I won’t be freezing anything or getting married any time soon.

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

Don’t freeze them. It’s not a risk free procedure. Look upthread! It can even cause the loss of ovaries

[@blueshoes5145]

If you find someone later and can’t have kids…just adopt. A lot of kids need to find parents but no one takes them in. Actually even if you don’t find a partner, you can adopt and raise them as a single parent.

[@rengurenge]

​@@blueshoes5145My mom wanted to adopt but they want 2 parent home (she was married so no issue there) and she was too old for it (almost 50). She had place and money but it was not enough.

[@monicamanzano3458]

​@@blueshoes5145You are very right, adopting is wonderful, the bad thing is that, at least in my country, it is super difficult, the authorities ask for a lot of procedures and requirements; almost no one achieves it.

[@lisa39978]

This is incredibly insightful. Thank you for taking the time to revisit and reflect on your decisions and sharing them. Oftentimes we see people going through with it because that’s what society is selling at the moment without really thinking about what are we buying?

[@natashaj9580]

Thank you for sharing your experience! I am recently married, and 33 years old. The thought of having a child at this stage makes me feel scared because there is so much I want to do before having children. But at the same time, I have the fear that as I age, I may go through the pain that my friends went through, struggling to bear children.

[@Roaming725]

I am feeling the same! I feel like a few years of our "do what you want!" years were robbed due to the pandemic and now we are at the age to have kids. I'm taking notes from relatives a few steps ahead of us to build a support system that will help us do some of the things we wanted to do pre-kids, even after we have kids, if blessed.

[@2002Sheer]

Life doesn't have to stop when you have kids! Please don't wait if you don't need to.

[@SiliconValleyMommy]

I wish I had a child earlier so I don't have the physical challenges that I do today. I get tired very easily and now I have one, but wish I didn't have pain and exhaustion when playing and taking care of my child. And if I had her earlier, then she would be older today so I can travel with her to farther places.

[@lllllllllarose]

33 years old me is already struggling with fertility 😂 dont wait any further

[@gailainsley6939]

I will still rather do it than not. Peace of mind is priceless. 🙏🏽💖

[@all4yoojin]

That’s a good point, Gail! I definitely became “lazy” when it comes to dating😂 haha. Definitely feel less pressured!

[@gracegui4910]

Omg thank you! I need this sort of encouragement. I used to be in nyc. Terrible dating scene. I’m a single, driven, successful, and talented 35 yr old but I’m probably not going to freeze my eggs. Same as what you said. Would rather put this money into traveling and having fun. I recently went to OBGYN for check up and I was told to get an egg freezing consultation. I think there might be some incentive for doctors. After all fertility clinics are profit driven. 😅

[@user-bx4kj5le4u]

For someone like you I cannot think in a single place on earth where the dating scene would be good for you. If NYC is bad what other cities do you think would be good for you?

[@esm1817]

Oh goodness. I don't think it's bad to focus on travel and such instead of a costly, time-consuming, and somewhat invasive process that may or may not give good results in the future. No disregard for anyone who does freeze their eggs, I promise. You could do a lot of traveling for $26,000. In fact, you could do a lot of just about anything more fun for $26,000. And potentially meet a husband to actually have the kids with instead...because you're out of NYC then. There are decent guys out there. I'm pretty sure they exist. The trick is finding them because actually the dating process is terrible everywhere else too.

[@Blockclub4980]

My friend is so upset that her obgyn haven't mentioned egg freezing when she was in her early 30s, and now when she's over 40 can't conceive and doesn't have frozen eggs... So, maybe it's good that your doctor at least verbalized it's an option...

[@henrythecat3094]

As a woman over 40 I regret putting other things first than creating a family and having children.

[@all4yoojin]

thanks for sharing your thoughts

[@yourbestie702]

Why is that? And what did you prioritise over starting a family? Asking as a girl in her 20s😭

[@henrythecat3094]

@@yourbestie702 I was trying to show the world I was an independent woman. Unfortunately this type of mentality sometimes gets you involved in bad relationships (men that don't want any commitment) also I assumed I was super fertil and I took contraceptive pills which masked endometriosis symptoms. When I finally got married with a great man didn't know I had endometriosis. It took a few years to get diagnosed... too late 😪..

[@henrythecat3094]

@@yourbestie702 it seems YT deleted my reply. I was trying to show the world I was an independent woman. I assumed I was super fertil and birth control masked endometriosis symptoms which I found out too late.

[@goldfish09]

Sorry to hear that. I want to point out that many single women in their 30s have been searching but just not found the right person. There's a common social misconception that if a woman has reached 30ish unattached, she's been putting other things first before having a family. In my case I spent my entire 20s trying to find someone, knowing I wanted a family. It's a mixed bag and I just wanted to remind wider audiences of this -- women cannot make a husband and children appear in their 20s just because they want to.

[@tonysxDD]

my cousin just had a beutifull baby girl at 42, and the husband is like 54, you have time, you just need to keep very healthy, and your partner too

[@mothmos]

that's a huge age gap, i hope she's really happy with him and not just took him out of desperation or low self worth

[@joshy2joshy]

@@mothmos That's completely irrelevant from the video and the point of the comment.

[@mothmos]

@@joshy2joshy huh? not every comment has to do with the point of video? i think you're just triggered by my comment. the original comment shared that their cousin 42 yrs old married a 12 yr older dude. and i just said i hope she did not take the 54 yr old dude out of desperation and low self worth? is there anything wrong? why are u triggered?

[@satu8869]

Please also think about being parents so late. Im 35, My Mother died 10 years ago, my father is 90 too old to be an active father. I struggle feeling like an orphan.

[@Rosabear26]

​@mothmos yeah and personally being a woman in her late 20s and having old parents kind sucks.my dad is in his late 70s and my mom is in her mid-60s.I don't think people consider the position that puts thier kids in.

[@mr.mellow9269]

you have such an amazing way of expressing ideas, very engaging, thank you!

[@all4yoojin]

Thank you, Mr. Mellow! I appreciate you being open-minded and listening🙌

[@santosknives6278]

I have a military nurse friend that tells me that many of the kids that arrive at her hospital were concieved with this sort of processes

[@candyluna2929]

What, they get more sick?

[@yaninad5766]

That’s complete lie. You don’t give that kind of info to a nurse lol

[@candyluna2929]

@@yaninad5766 yeah I am curious to this too. How does a doctor or a nurse know this

[@canesugar911]

That's a lie. There is no way for your military nurse friend to know

[@santosknives6278]

@@canesugar911 Well I don´t know how she knows it really but I do not doubt it, she did told me the women were older and the boys usually have more problems than usual, get sick more often and etc

[@taylogs]

You’re certainly inspiring. I came for the business school admissions tips and stayed because of your personality. Interesting how we have very different views about something, but I still can seat trough your whole talk. Good luck with the freezing! And hope NYC is treating you well 🙂

[@all4yoojin]

Aww thank you kindly, tay! This video was the one I was most nervous about posting and I appreciate your open mind. Best of luck with your business school application!! 🙏

[@taylogs]

@@all4yoojin I bet it was nerve wrecking. Nevertheless you did an awesome job 👏 you’re a great story teller, will keep learning from you for my future videos. Thanks 🙏 Don’t want to go back to PKU Guanghua so my targets better accept me haha

[@isabellevasconcelos1597]

I froze my eggs at 36. It had no impact on me. No fat gain, no infection, no pain, nothing. I am now 39 and pregnant naturally. I don't regret at all. It give me a piece of mind. That I had a plan b, if.my plan a would fail. I also live in Canada and only paid 4000 $ cad.

[@Greatmount]

I am a little shocked that she mentioned how much she paid. Many large companies cover it. My company covers IVF entirely in the US beyond regular medical benefits.

[@yanasosnovskaya864]

@@Greatmount not every company pays, even major one. And beyond that there are conditions to cover IVF.

[@esteelai6428]

Love your honest review of your journey, as we all need to know the pros and cons ❤❤❤

[@user-cs1xz]

amazingly done video thank you so much! doing my 2nd ER this summer

[@all4yoojin]

yayy!! best of luck

[@lauravillanueva2175]

I am absolutely grateful to have seen this story. It is a difficult situation either way. Truly. None can ever truly know how much the journey alongside life will mark us finitely nor permanently. Thank You for sharing your time and Story. I’m glad to have stopped in and heard it. Very well done. Be Well ❤

[@espinoname2988]

I think there's a huge problem in our society with relationships and friendships. No one cares about anyone else, no one wants commitment, people prioritise moving for work to their relationships and it's just part of the propaganda that modern media sell to us of being strong individualistic people that focus mainly on their careers and their personal growth. We all believed it, and are ending up isolated and depressed. I believed this too when I was younger, but at 22 I met an amazing man, and within a year or so my mind was changed. Nothing would be more important than my relationship with this person, no job, no opportunity, nothing. Nothing ever felt as fulfilling as feeling completely understood and loved by someone and loving them back in the same way. In the last years we've moved together and adopted a dog, and again, it gives me so much purpose. Having a small creature to take care of, which loves me, which needs me to guide her and to grow, it's the most fulfilling job I've ever had. I imagine actual maternity is an expanded version of what I feel with my dog. This doesn't mean that I would completely ditch my career, there's also playschools and later schools, grandparents etc. But I think that coming back to a loving family is the most fulfilling thing ever, and it should be prioritised over getting the best job, the highest pay or whatever promotion. My mother always prioritised her work over her family, and she ended up divorced and having huge relationship problems with me, her only child, now she doesn't want to get retired at 65, cause what is left otherwise? Unfortunately, days and life in general have a limited amount of time and you have to set priorities and choose, most people can't manage to have everything to the perfect level they would desire.

[@user-vg8ez9cu6u]

THIS RIGHT HERE. 👏 👏 👏. YOU ARE VERY WISE FOR YOUR AGE, YOUNG LADY. HOLD ON TO THAT MAN FOR AS LONG AS HE'S GOOD TO YOU. MARRY AND HAVE YOUR BABIES WHILE YOURE YOUNG & FERTILE

[@SR-mv2mf]

I am single at 35 and no eggs frozen either

[@all4yoojin]

I hope you know that you are not alone. Stay healthy❣ in the end, that's all that matters

[@crunchyfrog63]

I was 35 when I got mine done. It's certainly not too late. Got pregnant with my twins ten years later.

[@SpuffyFreakable]

I'm 34 and I never considered freezing my eggs. I think I only wanted to be a mom when I was a kid, and that feeling only diminished over the years. I also have no patience for dating anymore. I'm actually more at peace being single than when I dated. And I really like my life the way it is.

[@marydlf]

Thank you for this video and sharing your experience 🤗❤️ I had this thought torturing me throughout my entire late 30s, whether to go through this process or not. I was single and in therapy recovering from toxic relationships and situations. In the end I realised that it was a fear based decision. I knew I was perfectly healthy and I trusted my body and my life path. Now I’m almost 42, and got pregnant naturally 2 months ago after our 1st try. 🙏🏼❤️ I’m so glad it happened now, because I prefer the version of my present self much more than the one of 5-10 years ago. And I honestly don’t care what society thinks because everyone’s story is very unique. To me, staying physically, mentally and spiritually healthy is what’s most important ❤️ Much love and blessings xoxo

[@sheilaroninson1361]

🎉

[@cristianmolina9140]

You seem like a good and focused person, in the current society is really tricky to obtain a suitable partner I wish you the best

[@vasilikichaintini722]

Thank you so so much for this honest video! Good luck with everything 😊

[@all4yoojin]

Thanks for listening, Vasiliki! I appreciate your kind words🙏🥹 have a restful weekend

[@AnhNGUYEN-tg4np]

thanks for sharing. Very informative!

[@all4yoojin]

Glad you found it helpful! Stay healthy🙏

[@queeniegong2801]

Thank you for sharing! This is really helpful

[@anainesgonzalez8868]

This video is SO important. Thank you ❤

[@all4yoojin]

Aww! That makes me happy to hear it. Thank you, Ana!❤️

[@RadiantSerenity-meditations]

so honest!my best friend froze her eggs in here 30's too.she gave birth to a kid at 40 so now she has some spare eggs.when you share about the body changes,So Real.really grateful this option is available for ppl before they start chemo.May you stay healthy! enjoying your channel.

[@ElleKay4Life]

This is so refreshing! Thank you.

[@takishaedwards273]

This was such a great video!!! Thank you from a 28 year old who hasn't found someone yet and thinks about this a lot!! Very informative!

[@GoldenKay19]

Thank you so so much for this perfect video and your explanations 💖💖💖

[@souldancersbyjennifer]

I just randomly stumbled upon your video, but wow....what a poignant, deep and honest sharing. So many young women need to hear this.... at least I hope they do. Thank you for putting this out there.

[@NTTP-rq4em]

I’m 37yo asian and keep my eggs frezzed 5 years ago. Recently, I realized my AMH test was dropped to 1.8 (normal women’s has >2.0).It also means my egg is reduced monthly. However, I’m still single and I’m happy to be single. I too old to change myself to fit any guy out there. And I don’t want to be single mom, who choice to delete my child’s dad from their life. I have to pay alot for keep my egg freeze for… I don’t even know for what. But, If I had a second choice, I still decided to keep freezing my egg. Because the world is so hard for women. If I losing giving birth ability, It means I would not be treated like a normal woman. I don’t want that feeling. And who knows, I would change my mind in future or my child’dad will appear soon!

[@Rayhuntter]

actually the world is super easy for women, society's lies and evil ideologies make it hard.

[@olga_b344]

Thanks so much for sharing this ❤

[@kristageorge5811]

loved the honesty

[@all4yoojin]

Thank you, Krista! 🙏

[@ermolaevatania]

I think freezing eggs makes total biological sense; I froze mine twice (had 2 cycles) when i was 32 yo, now I'm 36; last 4 years were as stressful as it gets, I'm glad I do not need to freak myself out about the quality of my eggs. Now, I might use in couple years; huge problem is the cost of the procedure in the USA, it's 10k+ per cycle; I did it twice in Barcelona for 5k and it included 4 years of storage of each batch, so 1 cycle + 4 years of storage was only 2500, which is very accessible in my opinion.

[@meln4214]

Wow thanks for this tip. 26k is a lot. Beyond the reach for most .

[@nunyabiznes33]

Haven't watched the rest but remember a story of someone who froze her eggs, and discover they were unviable years later.

[@beewest5704]

It's still better to freeze fertilized eggs.

[@meln4214]

That's sad. Also heard a story of a woman's eggs or embryos being dropped and getting destroyed by accident. That is so heartbreaking.

[@user-vg8ez9cu6u]

That's why you should freeze before the age of 25. At least 2 cycles. Chances are you've got plenty of good/normal eggs in each batch retrieved. Waiting until late 20s or early 30s is still risky. Many more abnormal eggs, and fewer each cycle.

[@user-vg8ez9cu6u]

2 cycles because some eggs will die when defrosted. 2 cycles helps compensate for that loss. And at this age, you bounce back/less impact on your health from the IVF drugs.

[@lisavincent4092]

Wow love the idea to put the video on to not feel alone!

[@mishael.aljuaid]

I did it because I had to go through chemotherapy, in my case it was a necessity i’m not sure if I’ll ever going to use it because I have other problems with conceiving, but it gaves me that sense of reassurance which I paid a lot to have it

[@Mochiii26]

Interesting to hear different opinions about egg freezing. KZbin’s algorithm has been suggesting so many egg freezing videos to me. I’m 27 years old and I want 2-4 kids. I am thinking about freezing my eggs so I don’t not have to rush having them. First I would like to enjoy and travel with my boyfriend, get married, and save up a bit before I have kids. I think by freezing my eggs it will buy me some time, and even allow for me to maybe stay at home with them. My bf is financially stable and I think if i push back having kids for a few years he believes that he can afford to keep me home taking care of the kids. I hope everything goes well for me, and same to you!

[@linda_cyber_manul2077]

Thank you, its really interesting thoughts

[@CrazyHermitVizard]

You seem very self reflective. You need someone similar. Write 3 of the most important things you want in a partner. I can show the math of it but more than 5 items make the search impossible because you can’t hope to meet more than 3000 or so people

[@all4yoojin]

Hey again Buh! I feel like I now look for only one thing in a partner haha. Until this person (is he alive?!) shows up in my life, I'll enjoy living and produce more videos hehe

[@CrazyHermitVizard]

@@all4yoojin that’s a really good idea actually because eventually you will attract people who will resonate with your videos

[@kikip3057]

I have always been child free, even since I was a child myself. But in my late teens / early 20's I thought of selling my eggs as well. I found out that because I'm adopted, they don't accept eggs from adoptees. But I also like you, still thought about the process and wondered if I should do it for myself. Maybe even have them frozen and then let someone adopt the eggs. ultimately, I decided not to because of the health risks - esp the increased possibility of cancer. my adoptive Mom has had breast cancer on and off for 3 decades and it's been horrible seeing what she's had to go through all these years. thanks for making this video that talks about egg freezing issues that most people don't mention!

[@dwisuryaningsih4584]

My mom is pressuring me to have kid using surrogate since there's no way I'll want to get pregnant myself. I chose to be childfree 20+ years ago (I'm 44 now). She threatened not to give me inheritance if I don't want to do egg retrieval. My in-law is the same, if I don't produce biological kid, there'll be no inheritance for me. I was torn to give in to the idea, as long as I don't have to take care of the kids, but your video makes me realize that I can gain weight & that there're some other side effects. Thanks for making me realize that I don't need to sell my life for money.

[@MsAaprill]

Wow, I do not mean to be disrespectful but these are horrible families… how can the pressure you into something you do not want? That must be a cultural thing I assume…

[@user-vg8ez9cu6u]

Based on what you've written, you shouldn't have kids. Please don't. You cannot have kids with this type of mindset. It's not fair to them. It's OK to be child free. Enjoy.

[@berlinatunjungsari1244]

Indonesian name, not a common for Indonesian to chose to be child free. Can I know the reason?

[@elizabethanne6871]

Thank you for this video and for your honest perspective. In my 30s, many people were pressuring me to freeze my eggs. There was no thought given to what this would do to me, physically and emotionally, not to mention the cost. I never had it done, for religious reasons but also because I never liked the idea of injecting hormones into my body and I didn't have that kind of money at the time. I met my husband at 38 and just got married at 40. We're trying for a baby now and im at peace with the possibility of it not happening for us. It's great that there are more options for women now, but just because a reproductive technology is out there, it doesn't mean it'll be right for every woman.

[@luanagarcia3119]

Why is it wrong under a religious perspective? I'm christian, so I'm curious about the problem behind this practice.

[@user-vg8ez9cu6u]

​@luanagarcia3119 no religious issues with freezing eggs or sperm separately. Issues arise when the eggs are turned into embryos as the belief is that life begins at Conception. The destruction or disposal of embryos is where the problem begins.

[@luanagarcia3119]

@@user-vg8ez9cu6u when does the issue happen? When the embryo thrown away?

[@user-vg8ez9cu6u]

@luanagarcia3119 correct. This presents a moral/religious issue for those who belief life begins at conception (sperm fertilized the egg and a new DNA is created). Some denominations believe that infertility is a sign that biological procreation is outside of God's will for that particular married couple. Though this doesn't extend to adoption or fostering of orphans. Some religious believe the intentional creation of embryos (outside of the natural means of procreation) is morally wrong.

[@user-vg8ez9cu6u]

@luanagarcia3119 there are other moral/religious issues after that with regard to joining a husband's sperm with a donor egg, or a wife's egg with donor sperm. Some clinics are now combining three DNA strands of two women and a man into the embryo or two men and a woman into an embryo, which is deemed an abomination. This is because of the sanctity and unity of marriage being between 1 man and 1 woman according to Judeo-Christian scriptures. Another moral/religious issue is the business side of ivf. Paying people for their sperm or egg or to be a gestational carrier of the embryo. Hope this helps.

[@z0mb1e564]

Thank you for frankly sharing your experience.

[@camellaliu7704]

Thank you so much for sharing

[@DulyDullahan]

Did you have any side effects when you were taking the hormone shots and when you take your trigger shot? I saw someone else who took IVF (I know it’s not the exact same but the process is somewhat similar minus the fertilisation part) and she had a lot of bad side effects.

[@LucianaCristinadeOliveira]

I'm still single at 40 and tired of meeting men who don't even bother wearing proper clothes for a first date. It's been years of time consuming energy trying to meet people who don't even show up sometimes. The world is just lame right now.

[@lightinthedusk]

I’m considering doing this but worried about the potential long term side effects like weight gain etc. I already struggled with weight when I was younger, and generally find it hard to lose fat due to genetics (probably an endomorph). I’m never hugely overweight, but I end up being “skinny-fat”/untoned or chubby if I don’t exercise regularly. I tend to gain weight fast. You say in your video that your body had not fully recovered afterwards. It’s been a few years now. Did your body recover in the end? How long did that take, and did you have to do any specific things to help it along?

[@franny5295]

I did IVF for male factor infertility, hubby had a vasectomy years prior and it had been too long to try to reverse it, and I had none of those problems. I sincerely doubt that the egg retrieval process has any long term effects on the body unless you do it repeatedly and can't conceive. There is definitely some serious bloating but it went away. I got pregnant our first cycle and even with that, my weight went back down to baseline within 6 months of the baby being born. If you stress eat during this process because it's uncomfortable, you're gonna gain weight but that's a calorie surplus thing. Not a egg retrieval thing. Whatever you decide to do, good luck.

[@wendyhsu4608]

Thank you for sharing ❤

[@madalinamarian9688]

I’m obsessed with your shirt ❤ Where did you get it from?

[@jjdrama]

A brave, interesting, and informative video. I never seriously considered freezing my eggs. I met the my husband in college when I was 20, we got married when I was 33 and had our first kid at 34. I'm hoping to have a second, final baby in the next year, but I feel like even that is tempting fate. My friends having babies in their late 30s recently had to use IUI and IVF. I did not choose a field that pays well enough to justify egg freezing, but perhaps I would have made different choices if I didn't have my future husband.

[@aspiring...]

Wow. I had egg freezing in my mind recently but not seriously as I am not in the emotional space right now. I loved your video, it's so informative so i will share it. Please ignore the nasty woman blaming comments. I understand just how hard dating is when you are waiting until marriage.

[@user-cs1xz]

how many eggs did you freeze? my first ER i got 10 mature and frozen. at 33...

[@all4yoojin]

it sounds like you had a successful first ER!! The number of eggs frozen can really vary from person to person due to so many factors, so it's important to remember that everyone's journey is unique. The most important thing is that you're taking steps that feel right for you and your future. I didn't share my number because I wanted everyone to treat their experience as is. Wishing you all the best on your journey!

[@nleem3361]

Wish I would have done it in my 30's. I thought I'd meet mr right. Luckily, I have, but I'm 45 yrs old and it's the last year I can do it, if I'm going to do it. I'm just now looking into it. So glad for the KZbin docs explaining egg quality, but wished I'd have known how it worked sooner.

[@goodfornothings]

Yoo looked so beautiful with long hair ❤

[@shyandlovely3439]

My problem is i have really bad anxiety that kept me from dating and forming any type of relationship. I just turned 29 and i have been thinking of my fertility lately, my parents have been telling to get married and have children for 4 years now but the idea of having sex really scares me and disgusting to me, some days i want a kid because i am afraid i will regeret it when it is too late 🙃 and other days i don't. I just want have a kid and get it over with, but i have to start socializing first, and that is the hard part. I can close my eyes and just do it, but it is the social aspect of meeting people that i am having a hard time with. So i have been thinking about freezing my eggs

[@GoldenKay19]

I hope you will find your answers maybe try to socialize a little bit first going to activities etc first short time things and then built from there and see how it goes and maybe trying therapy meanwhile if you can it may help 💖

[@bryonyrigby2468]

If you do want kids, you don't have to have sex to do it - there's a few people I've heard of who conceived through going to a fertility clinic and getting IUI. But some countries won't let single women access this (so research what the rules are in your own country and consider going abroad for treatment if not).

[@loveangel5309]

I think it’s too soon to jump into collusion here me age 42, I’m finally doing embryo transfer tomorrow with the eggs I froze at age 40. I regret not freezing my eggs sooner. If only gets harder…. And I did not meet my soulmate until age 42! And I could not get pregnant naturally either due to health issues like andenomyosis… I think you made the smart choice.

[@assss55]

Super helpful!

[@all4yoojin]

Thank you! Good luck on your journey wherever you are.

[@olga_b344]

I’ve watched this a couple of times now. Thanks so much. Wonder if they gave u any skincare and supplement restrictions? Did u have to stop using retinol skin care and stop using CBD?

[@all4yoojin]

Hey! I'm glad you are finding this useful. For supplement restrictions, I was told no omega 3 due to bleeding. I didn't use retinol and CBD so I didn't get instructions there - I highly recommend speaking with your medical professional!

[@olga_b344]

@@all4yoojin thanks so much. Really appreciate it! X

[@VardeS1990]

My doctor has prescribed me omega 3 as a supplement for preparation of this process.. I have doubts now

[@olga_b344]

@@VardeS1990 why do u have doubts on Omega 3 supplements?

[@VardeS1990]

@@olga_b344 since you mentioned in your above comment that your doctor asked you to discontinue omega 3 supplant.

[@Lczzy]

Whats the cost of keeping it year after year?

[@linkcell]

I just subscribed so that i can get notified about how you feel about it at 35. ❤

[@loungingcat]

Weird that youtube pushed this video to me but I learned something new. Didn't realize egg freezing has become so popular, I thought it's still science fiction or at most only the rich does it. I never wanted kids, it amazes me how women would go through so much and spend so much just to freeze their eggs, and so much worry goes into selecting the right person to have kids with.

[@all4yoojin]

It's fascinating how the algorithm works, right?? I'm glad you found this video informative. Egg freezing has indeed become more mainstream and accessible. I was watching a Netflix documentary on how much it cost back in the days (I mean it's not cheap now but it was definitely for the mega rich when it first started out). I find it incredible how far people will go to when it comes to planning for their future. Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts! Cute cat by the way ;)

[@mina_loi]

what happens to your eggs if you end up not using them?

[@graceneal1742]

Thanks for sharing ❤

[@all4yoojin]

Hope it was helpful! Thanks for stopping by 🥰

[@MFDElk]

Thanks for sharing.

[@all4yoojin]

Thank you for listening 🙏 enjoy the rest of your weekend

[@moldenm5239]

It is an insurance policy you hope you don't have to use. Either it is due to age, illness or other circumstances when you may use this insurance policy. Better to have it than not have anything at all if things go wrong. 30s is harder for dating as people become attached or married compared to 20s when most are still single or in relationships. The clinic sounds like a dating environment for guys who can live up to the high expectations of these likely 30s career women and want a family intention.

[@all4yoojin]

Hahaha your last sentence cracked me up! Dating never gets easier but funny how we are wired to look for love throughout our lives. I was talking to someone who lost a loved one and rekindled an old love interest. She’s in her 70s!

[@olga_b344]

Love your video. I’ve just done two cycles and I’m thinking of a third cycle (to improve my numbers). I also saw changes in my body. Did you regain your muscle mass and lose the fat now? And how long did it take you? ❤

[@all4yoojin]

Hey Olga! Happy to hear the cycles are going well for you! Yes, I’d be happy to share about my plan on muscle gain and fat loss on a separate video. Stay tuned and stay healthy🥰

[@olga_b344]

@@all4yoojin thank youuuuu xx

[@chrisoc6dz]

Thank you for your sharing. I learned some women in their late 30s have to go through many round of IVF cycles because there is only one or even zero egg, even if they accumulate some eggs, the quality is not ideal. So IVF is a nightmare for them. So I think it is much better to do it in 20s or early 30s so you have more chances to have healthy babies. Besides now men also have various fertility issues which would waste a lot of precious eggs. IVF is not a guarantee indeed but it gives hope.

[@cosmicgalaxystudio1539]

Don't know why i saw this on my tl 😅 as a single 33 yr old who doesn't know if im ever settling down i have always been curious with egg freezing but i know is hella expensive. this video kinda helps tbh. Tho I do dreamt to have a child but also don't wanna push myself if it doesn't happen. We don't know what happens in the future i might met the loml 6mons or 1,2 or 3yrs.. I'll just live my life the way i want to & not pressure myself. Life is too short. If it's not for me, I wouldn't beat myself up.

[@CaliforniaDreams-eb8sx]

Ive read testimonials of women who had their period return after doing yoga, changing their diet, taking supplements, and after detoxing. Janet jackson had a baby boy at 50. Even if you speak with nurses, women giving birth after 50 isnt ultra rare. Seems the health of the body is more important to fertility than more people realize

[@meln4214]

No it's ultra rare. Some women's eggs aren't viable even in their late 30s. It is an individual thing. 😢

[@CaliforniaDreams-eb8sx]

@meln4214 you maybe right. But I wouldn't be surprised. Many times in science, we've said stuff like "the brain doesn't grow new neurons after age xx, limbs can't be regrown, spinal cord injury is permanent, etc..." but there are always exceptions. There are documented cases of kids regrowing a new thumb. The body is more plastic an amazing then we probably are aware.

[@clairepianist]

Imagine a world where egg freezing is covered by insurance. Wild thoughts.

[@ZhangXiaoYing-ur6tn]

感謝您公開分享您的經驗。 你一直好有幫助。 再見. 😊

[@all4yoojin]

我很高興你喜歡this video！謝謝

[@ZhangXiaoYing-ur6tn]

@@all4yoojin 💖😊

[@stard9864]

Adoption?

[@missalicesmiles]

I froze my eggs two years ago too and i don't regret it at all. The only part i didn't like was pricking myself, sometimes twice a day, with needles If i experienced OHSS, perhaps my answer would be different

[@kerimzunic]

Thank you for the honest account. This sounds quite bad. It's time people wake up to realize that 30 is not the new 20. 30 is still 30.

[@all4yoojin]

You are right. 30 is not the new 20. There's a book that I really enjoyed by Meg Jay (The Defining Decade) and it resonated with me. Thank you for listening, Kerim!

[@kerimzunic]

@@all4yoojin I liked it too. Your video reminded me of the book!

[@MeghanBean]

@@all4yoojin I read that book in my 20s and it ruined me… I was already successful & it just made me get in my head I think there’s a balance bc it’s important to know the facts, but I don’t care for fear mongering esp towards women

[@KateeAngel]

Real science shows fertility declines only after 38-40 years old. Why are you talking about 30 years old as if that's old? If woman has fertility problems at 30, most likely she also had those at 20, she just didn't know about it cause she didn't try to become pregnant back then. My mom gave birth to me at 41, with no IVF or bad side effects. And that is not rare. In fact, in countries, where fertility is the highest cause women have kids up until menopause, amount of kids born after 40 is very high

[@aspiring...]

Yes but knowing that still wont help me find a good partner.

[@all4yoojin]

Chapters 00:00 Intro 00:22 Why I froze my eggs in NYC at 30 01:39 Egg freezing process overview 04:12 Cost 04:34 Why I regret freezing my eggs

[@GoldenKay19]

I watched this video on the afternoon and the serendipity make me see in the story of someone a post on this same subject and in the comment section, someone asked why no one talk about lipedema it is a disease that apparently could happen after the injection, it could make you body fat but it is different than obesity. Hope this help someone 💖

[@cecilefelix5392]

It has been a few years I have been thinking and hesitating about freezing my eggs. But the process and the cost make me think twice and sometimes I just think it is fate that I may never have a child or find a good partner. In my case, it is not like I wanted to focus on career or get children late. I don't necessarily feel the need to be a mom. I am open to it. But like you, dating is really hard nowadays. It is hard to find an attractive man who wants a serious relationship and respect your values, especially in big cities.

[@olga_b344]

Thank u for being so honest - I didn’t realise there’s fat gain and muscle loss, if you went back - you wouldn’t have done it? I fear I’d regret it too if I do it 😢

[@all4yoojin]

Happy to provide one perspective. There is no turning back time so hard to say whether I wouldn't have done it. Freezing your eggs is a personal choice - I saw trust your gut. You know yourself the best. 🙏

[@olga_b344]

@@all4yoojin bless you, thank you 🙏

[@Obez45]

Question of curiosity if you can't find the right man why don't you fertilize the eggs with an appropriate sperm donor? Because doesn't it get exponentially harder to bring a bady to term the older you get even if you're using frozen eggs.

[@all4yoojin]

Hey obez - good question. That thought crossed my mind too and I liked the idea of going at it first on my own. I initially thought maybe I’ll do another round with a donor but you know how people change their minds and I felt different after going through the experience. Can’t believe it’s already been 3 years since egg freezing!

[@KelvinWKiger]

Wouldn't be even harder to find a man, as a single mom ?

[@IndAfgxx]

Ive read some passive aggressive comments here, just wanted to reassure you that you just decided with what information you had at that time. So i hope you dont live anymore with regrets. I think its good that you did it, you just need to shift your mindset. And also thought that if you dont believe in s. before marriage, I heard many find their partners in the church community.

[@brownvoltaire2722]

Just don't worry about having kids,not everyone has to do it. And you know men also get extreme socal pressure if they can't start a family by 30

[@TeyimPila]

Terrible advice

[@miracle-pi5ws]

@@TeyimPilais it terrible cause YOU wanna have a family with her?

[@Ayverie4]

"Don't worry about it"? If your lifelong dream is to have a family, good luck with that ...

[@miracle-pi5ws]

@@TeyimPila ew she doesn’t want you

[@KateeAngel]

​​@@Ayverie4yet when a person's lifelong dream is something else and they don't manage to achieve it, then people say "don't worry, you can be happy doing other things in life", but when it comes to kids they say "oh no, I am so sorry you are so unhappy and your life is meaningless now". Do you think that such a reaction helps anyone?

[@atap4832]

All the best!!! With marriage and baby/babies.

[@all4yoojin]

@@atap4832 thank you!! Stay healthy!

[@geotj3044]

Ahh Sofia the cvs injection video lady was my bff too! 😂

[@gracegui4910]

I wanted to add I went to Wharton as well by for undergrad.

[@lleew1871]

Hi there! Thank you so much @all4yoojin for sharing your experience!! ❤ I'm a 36yo woman, and a virgin. No disrespect to anyone at all; do what's best for you. For myself, I will not do this because I am believing God for the husband and children, if I am meant to have them. I do not wish to force anything or do anything out of fear. I am resolved to let Jesus get all the glory for my life and purpose whichever way they were planned.

[@Applecitylightkiwi]

Didnt know but makes sense

[@Applecitylightkiwi]

Here where i live its only an option when someone is very sick

[@Applecitylightkiwi]

You need to go to a foreign country to produce

[@misspatvandriverlady7555]

I married at 23, had my son at 27, divorced at 30, remarried at 33, had my daughter at 35, and was widowed at 40. My first pregnancy was without complications; I had preeclampsia with the second, had to be induced at 39 weeks, my daughter was in distress and it was very good that I had an experienced OB/GYN and had given birth before, because she needed out of there QUICKLY! Just an observation about how crazy life can be and giving birth in your 20’s vs your 30’s. 🤔

[@SG-xb7de]

You speak my language! I'm 39yrs turning 40 in another 7-8 months. I haven't even met the right one & don't know when I will. Not willing to settle for less just for the ticking clock. Really contemplating the risks of getting my eggs frozen now vs going natural. By God's grace, I have healthy menstrual cycle & lifestyle. On one side, I do desperately want to have a legacy for my genes, on the other hand I don't want to risk my health by freezing eggs, which at this age may or may not have success either. Should I just trust in God & be positive if God blesses me with babies naturally? If not, I'll adopt. My PCP will be referring me to the fertility clinic tomorrow. Any advice?

[@all4yoojin]

Hi! Hope you had a great weekend and congrats on the exciting milestone. Your determination not to settle and your contemplation of both the possibilities and the risks show a strong sense of self-awareness and a deep desire for what's best for your future. I think you already know the answer to your question :D Remember, there's no one-size-fits-all answer, and every path, including adoption, holds its own beauty and challenges. Keep faith in yourself and your choices, knowing that whatever the outcome, you're moving forward with love and intention. Wishing you strength as you navigate this part of your journey. 💖🍀

[@ayowser01]

Get a cat.

[@SG-xb7de]

@@all4yoojin Thank you so much!

[@goldfish09]

I went the other route: at 30ish, and after a decade-plus search trying to find a good match, I married someone not quite compatible. While having children was the best thing I've ever done, and I have no regrets, an unhappy relationship has taken a heavy toll. I made the right choice for me, and there is no one size fits all solution to this problem, but I think if you prioritize what is most important to you, you will make the right choice in the end without regrets. Sometimes life doesn't provide us with the ideal option, and that's one of the toughest predicaments in life.

[@WILLIAMROOTBEER]

Hey! I just did an egg freezing cycle myself. I'm 26 and I used to work at a fertility center coordinating egg freezing and ivf cycles. We see a lot of women who do IVF in their 40s who have successes and don't have successes. The earlier you freeze (just retrieving your eggs, not fertilizing) the better as successful pregnancy is determined by quality of eggs (not just how many eggs). Keep in mind, not all eggs you retrieve will be mature. Out of those mature eggs not all will survive fertilization so you end up with less embryos than eggs. However, I think it will help you IF you need to go the IVF route should you and a future partner need it to freeze your eggs. If you have the means I suggest doing it so you dont regret it. It can be rough but many bounce back after a few weeks. Constant injections can be rough, i was bloated for about 1-2 weeks after the retrieval but was fine after that. Most women dont regret it imo. let me know if you have questions! I also helped women who were looking into donor sperm options. If you're not partnered I would consider it. Tons of single women did it at our center.

[@asedeyhot123]

If you can ... better to have children when youre much younger.....but if you can't.... Please enjoy your life...... There's more to life than having children...... I got married at 37, wife 35... Her optimism and drive were the first attraction i got

[@itsgracehui]

wowww its so much more expensive in US vs in Canada!

[@all4yoojin]

Yeah! US healthcare is another beast of its own 😂I plan to compare the costs of other medical services in Korea vs the US