I Sacrificed EVERYTHING - It Almost Destroyed Me | Raw Talk Ep. 2

[@Vinnie16920]

Losing a parent is one of the hardest things I believe we can ever go through.

[@ThePretender47]

To add to my comment on your previous video, that's exactly the point, I've lost myself in Society and its rules. I want to break free so that I can go and find the person I am again. My brother passed away on the 18th of December after working his entire life fucking up his body and health, for what????? He was only 53, and I refuse to go down that road too.

[@kronos4136]

For me ( 63)I have no plan in life, I do not see myself as a set character or need to perform according to others, I am what I am and that is simply sufficient for me. I do what I do when I do it and feel no need to explain myself or reasons for anything. Of course that is easy for me because I am single, always have been and have never really needed gratification from others who seem to struggle with the basics. You are what you are and that is sufficient. Those who like me keep in touch and those who dislike me never contact. That is great, Good luck. There is no such idea as balance, as it is subjective and requires one thing or another, the perception versus the perspective. Life is literally what YOU decide it is without precondition or over thinking it. It really does set you free, and never EVER start thinking about how people perceive you, it simply is not your business to influence other people. You always find your place and kind of people without even thinking about it. It's called natural order of things. You fail as a person when you think about everything except yourself and focus on others, That is where we all go wrong, people like you for who you are or not. Again, that is not your business. You simply concentrate on what YOU need to do to live YOUR life, not someone else's.

[@Lucien916]

Success is the joy that you feel. True joy is not dependent on external circumstances. Joy is not something you obtain, it’s something you uncover and remember within yourself. It’s who you really are.

[@BullCityRich]

Cal, it is tough times around the world. The stress in the human collective consciousness effects everyone. Hang in there.

[@caljohndavies]

@@BullCityRich 🤝🏻

[@sonicart1808]

Everything in our universe requires 'balance' to thrive and grow, and we are no different, if only humanity as a whole could grasp this 'fact', then we could all be much happier.

[@sparkshot]

Currently working a 9am-6pm shift, sometimes hour or 2 longer. A lot of mornings I drag my arse oit bed 5am n worknon my own SCC business 2-3 hours before my day job, then after often work on it an hour or 2, cook, eat, clean n hopefully sleep. Live by self 5-6 days a week.....it's bollocks. My hobbies n interests n exercise has become almost non existant but I gotta dig myself out of this "9-5" slavery I fucking dispose the 'lifestyle' n now its doubly hard cus trying to grow own business too. I literally feel I don't have a life at all, just the 1 or 2 days see my partner on weekends. Ive dropped 90% carbohydrates cus it helps me lose flab easier n reduces brain fog so can focus n have more energy.

[@Si5improvement]

Well said mate. Good video. No edits. Just real talk! I watched your previous video about being trapped by society. Totally relate to it. On that video you say about going all in and on this you say not to be too extreme. I’ve been on that pendulum as you described. All in or nothing. I cant do the balance as it doesn’t feel right. I do understand what you’re saying though about losing personality through highly structured routines. My opinion is if you went extreme results you have to take extreme action! I’d love to find some sort of balance to the process but the trap of society allows no time for that. I feel like I have to use every single minute of my day wisely or else something suffers because I have to work full time! I don’t want a Xmas or a birthday give me a day off from sticking to my diet because as soon as I give myself one excuse, that rolls on and on and on to any old excuses such as ‘ well spurs are playing tonight, so I’ll eat rubbish tonight!’ But anyway, love your opinions and the real talk. I’ve subscribed!

[@Roberto-ie6hk]

Stop stop stop. You are ENOUGH ❤

[@caljohndavies]

Cheers Roberto! Just sharing my experiences as I continue to grow and align with my purpose. So hoping someone can take something positive from it 👊

[@agente_ai]

Watched your first video....and decided i had to subscribe to follow up on your story...from Guam, sending you big ups - you can do this, amigo!! Find your path and run it down!!

[@nickmonkey284]

Good video Implementing a lifestyle plan which is so unbending is never going to be a good idea long-term It’s unsustainable and exhausting and cuts you off from almost everyone However, to achieve really extreme results, the sort most people can only dream of, such an approach is necessary You’ve got to take your pick All the best

[@BartekMisiek1122]

Keep doing mate, great video ❤

[@Valera_Scotland]

I've lost touch somehow. Moved away from Bristol and had a family. I'm happy to have my boy, but it's a struggle to remain yourself at your core... it's a work in progress and I'm hoping to regain my spark Finally I'm sorry about your mum... I'm also in the public sector....Poole is very nice no? I loved living in the south West P.s. I've given up on drink and junk food. Small changes are important You are so right about losing yourself, losing your humour and so on ..... it's vital to try to stay yourself, and to be thankful for what you do have in your life too Good luck on your journey

[@Jimmy-i1q]

I would like to add, your looking at life from the perspective of being trapped. While your digging a hole underneath your imaginaire fence, you don't realize you only end up in another fenced of reality. You need to free your mind, I know it sounds almost mad, but it's the only way "out".

[@caljohndavies]

Smart words mate thank you. I'm gonna be sharing more about my journey soon 🤝🏻

[@Jimmy-i1q]

@@caljohndavies I must add, you strike me as a kind person and you will find your way as we all do. Feeling lost is also, just a feeling, thanks for sharing, let's make this journey together.

[@jmac4952]

Here's what I did. So many years ago I had an idea. Pretend there's a God always reaching out and I was the one that cut off, unconsciously. My racing mind cut me off. Since then I've said one version or another of I surrender to God, and also asked, "Who am I?" surely a million or more times. I did it to attempt to reprogram my own mind, if possible, to consciously reconnect to God. It's been years now and either I have brainwashed myself into believing something that's not true or I actually am connecting to God. The way this seems to be happening is God just takes all of my emotional and mental trash and guides me through it on some very deep level. And he shows me the world is not really real and neither is the me I thought I was. This has worked for me. Or I'm going crazy. It does dispel suffering as well. And the strange thing is I catch "my mind" now actively surrendering stuff to God on a sort of auto pilot mode without my consciously initiating it. And there is a growing sense of continual release and connection to God/source, whatever we want to call it.

[@BeEarthAware]

Yea same! Aligned to a higher power and life unfolds in an amazing way.. highly recommend watching billy carlson "the secret of the merkaba light vessel" .. explains the science behind it 💫

[@1almostblue]

You're not crazy. It's real

[@Jimmy-i1q]

He mate, feel your struggles, it's all perspective steered by a believe system. I'm a 62 man, retired and a Dutch guy living since 2010 in a small village in the German mountains (lived my whole past live in big cities in The Netherlands). I hear you and you seem to fall from one trap into the other. It sounds like you went for a live changing route by believing this starts with a sixpack. It also seems your few is that there is more to live then just living it. Let me tell you, more is a big as a illusion as less. It's like people who go out in the weekend. I would always leave a great night when it was at it's peak. My mates would always stay until they got kicked out believing they got "more" out of it. It's just bollocks, most night the last hours it was only trying to replicate the optimum feeling that left them all hours before. Because as life is fading, so is every experience. Your idea of freedom seems also to exist in a believe system it exist outside of you, it's not. You would go absolutely nuts being locked up, while truly free people have a free mind and feel free in any situation, even in prison. You have a lot of deprogramming to do.

[@habagun737]

You are a good man

[@Samuel-r1x6k]

Car looks very nice though, that's a bonus!

[@pete801]

Summary: A video about a dude that restricted unhealthy food and drinking alcohol and became miserable.. he has a job he doesnt like and wants to go travelling instead😂 Conclusion: he will sometimes eat rubbish and have the odd drink so hes less miserable 😂 He then states if you want life guidance contact him

[@caljohndavies]

@pete801 haha couldn't have summed it up better if you'd tried! I got caught in the trap of hustle culture and online influence during spells of poor mental health, tryna be a coach etc. I'm gonna be sharing more about my honest experiences in due course. The past weekend was a serious wake up call!

[@7SideWays]

Appreciate the summary. I was getting lost.

[@cletotirabassi]

Good ramble. Can relate. Keep going! 💪🏻

[@LionsLambano]

Good advice, God bless👍

[@jrddoubleu514]

Too authentic and you'll end up on your own. Which isn't all that bad if you're fine with it, but most people have dependents, and as such, must be to a large extent, codependent themselves. True independence comes with a cost, most can't afford to pay. Suffering and sacrifice are innevitabilities. It's the choice, and meaning, that matters. (Who and what we suffer and sacrifice for.) I've never been one for needless sacrifice, myself, but no matter how far you will go to avoid it, you will be forced to. That is life. Many people live in/under a capitalist democracy. The first unwritten rule (IMO/E), is that hard work only truly pays if others are doing it (and you are reaping rewards). That's the system. That's the crux of 'hustle' culture. It doesn't always pay.

[@caljohndavies]

Agreed. It's the more 'inauthentic' you are you'll end up on your own. I'm learning this the hard way of late.

[@jrddoubleu514]

@@caljohndavies Authenticity cost me my kids. I say mine. You never really know though, unless you get them tested, and the very notion is a threat to their ego's and sense of security.

[@kennethlapointesongwriter3330]

In a simple view, you can be 'other' determined....or 'self' determined. The first means you try to fit into what everyone or anyone else is doing, saying, etc. The second is you decide for yourself. Pan-determined is you look at the whole enchilada of the first two views as sort of a third, objective view...which then allows you to be 'balanced' as far as the first two. ex. in chess you can be player 1, or be player 2...or you can take a third bigger view of both sides that allows you to not be so sucked into either side.

[@ommanomnom]

Delete your social media or your soul will be deleted

[@caljohndavies]

@@ommanomnom came off it a few times. The last 4 months have been the most toxic. Went down a rabbit hole and couldn't even see it

[@777-hg1if]

You can also ask the Lord to reveal what his plans for your life are, what he wants to reveal to you, and make yourself available to him. Its a short prayer but God is faithful. God bless.

[@nosoupforyou425]

Life is often difficult, wealthy, or not. If not sharing the journey with a real spouse and having children, you often have no reason to strive/suffer. The joy of having a child makes problems pale. My children gave purpose and desire to improve and grow. Without them what would matter for sure

[@triggercky9928]

Always find balance.

[@andybhoy2922]

I think the job you have is Obviously a very helpful one but which might be a Stressful one. I think you lead a healthy and good life. My only hobbie is football which my team is incidentally in a cup final today and i 'm starting to get Nervous my teams name starts with the letter C..... 🙏.

[@AA-Crow]

You've got "The Dreamers Disease"

[@Steve12891]

I got burned out working I’m 46 not working anymore

[@rika6767]

Working for a manager is a disease.

[@TonyMontana-vg6cv]

How old are you, mate?

[@caljohndavies]

@@TonyMontana-vg6cv 31.

[@BrianP-bh1vo]

Hmmmm .... I can't relate to anything you're saying even though you felt compelled to say that twice. My take on you is that you're a pessimist rather than an optimist. How did you help humanity today (the video doesn't count)? Did you meet someone new today or walk up and start talking to a stranger? We're here to help others, not make a million pounds and vacation in Bali.

[@andybhoy2922]

Think you're being a bit hard the guy is just telling his story and i don't see how you can call him a pessimist.

[@anneegeskov3362]

he is in a process and sharing it I think is very brave and can be of help to others I can only say that as a 65 year old I regret that I did not do more with my life. but my life is not over and will do something about it. it is good to have some reflection throughout one's life. if you are in the right place, what do you want. it is not because you are negative, you take responsibility for your own life. that's what I hear this young man doing

[@caljohndavies]

​@@anneegeskov3362🤝🏻

[@caljohndavies]

​@@andybhoy2922🤝🏻

[@PeterMitchell-s5t]

Less is more my friend. People dont understand what this means. Start by dumping social media bs. Yes youtube is this but focus on one,because thats enough.

[@TheWorkshop190]

I dont think we are meant to have routine at all. We are built to be spontaneous and free.

[@fozzydare7987]

Not so, everything in nature has rhythm and we are part of it

[@XeLYoutube]

Youll grow fast. Come milk my 80% 25-35 male north america 475 000 viewers

[@MillennialDiligence-sx8re]

You poor man. the stress is showing on your face. You may need a legit year off. Just to get things sorted. Good luck.

[@jacobb8832]

I know I don't need a legit year off.

[@CriticalEnjoyer]

Good vid. 🤌 Keep on keeping on.