I Sat With My Anger Long Enough Until I Realized It Was Grief

[@InnerResearcher]

What are your thoughts on this topic? Us using one emotion as a “disguise” for what’s at the core?

[@nigelasipa4150]

I appreciated the humility and introspection you displayed here and I'm glad you're working through your emotions. This resonates with me because I've felt frustrated with my housemates lately but more so, I feel my anxiety conjures these scenarios of me confronting them of my issue with them. However I'm afraid the worst version of me will intensify things to a degree I may regret so I refrain from it. Don't think that's helpful either but I hate conflict and as someone with autism, it's very difficult to develop socially. Thank you for sharing and I surely hope you get to make of these.

[@InnerResearcher]

Hey there. Thank you for sharing. I also hate conflict - and avoid it at all costs - hence why i think all my anger, frustration, and irritation which was suppressed for years is coming out now. There are healthy ways to release anger without involving others/directing it at others, but its such a powerful emotions we need to find a way to release it, otherwise we’ll recycle it. Thank you for sharing Nigel!

[@becoming_conscious]

Very authentic vibes coming from this video. The world needs more of this.

[@InnerResearcher]

Thank you very much 🙏🏻

[@becoming_conscious]

Wonderful channel! You have some real emotional intelligence :)

[@InnerResearcher]

Thank you 😊

[@悲しいだから-l8c]

in life, there are 2 sides 1 is good and bad so when you put so much time into your good side and ignore the other usually that will cause you many problems and that might be what causes your anger, and sadness. I could be wrong, not sure but that is what came to mind first :) sorry for my English still working on it.

[@InnerResearcher]

This is in a way what i mentioned in the video. That for years i was so focused on being happy, positive, etc - that was the only one side i functioned from. Hence now the other sad asking for my attention!

[@Dmogul]

Omg 😳 I felt this deeply, I think this is what I do, I’m realizing so much right now Omg this is deep, it makes so much sense

[@InnerResearcher]

Dmogul! Right?! This realization is often tough, too… is it anger for you as well, or another strong emotion?

[@Dmogul]

@@InnerResearcher it’s anger, I’ve had a chip on my shoulder for a few years now about a lot that’s happened in my life and things people have done

[@InnerResearcher]

@@Dmogul I understand and so hear you... I've was in a funk/cycle for years where I just went through life seeing other people as the "problem" to my anger. Yet, no matter where I went or who I was with, it kept resurfacing. (lol). So the only way to deal with it is look within, and that's the most painful + difficult thing. I'm with you.

[@lorasolomon5112]

Thanks for sharing this great topic, it is very insightful. This will be a great help...!

[@InnerResearcher]

Thank you 😊 an important topic!

[@Ryanmuniverse]

Thanks for sharing this. I feel like I've been so angry and frustrated this past year and I've started taking it out on myself again, which a few years ago I'd never have done. I've even told a friend that these past few years I feel as though I've not been able to slow down and now I think I know why thanks to your video. & also I'd say these past 6 months or so I've really noticed myself putting on this forced positivity and I've been feeling ashamed for it because it feels like I'm being very artificial for it. It's good to know it's not just me.

[@InnerResearcher]

Thank you so much for sharing this with me. I totally understand how you feel. I'm glad to hear my video spoke to you. I've was in the forced positivity cycle for years and it's so tricky because we get reaaaaally good at deceiving ourselves. We are the greatest of liars to ourselves. It takes so much honesty, effort + bravery to look at things as they are. Thank you again for sharing this with me!

[@farazsiddiqui7171]

Nice video! A lot of times behind my anger I found was hurt and grief.

[@InnerResearcher]

Indeed. Spot on. Thank you for sharing.

[@sid-uk4jx]

What are some key takeaways you took from the book “The courage to be disliked”?

[@InnerResearcher]

Ooft, quite a few. And now you asking me this makes me want to re-read the book all over! (perhaps a plan for the weekend....). But the biggest takeaway was that when we live our true values, when we do what WE want to do, when we become our authentic/real selves and do what pleases US -- someoneeeeeee, always, will not like you. It will clash with their views, their beliefs, how they live. So if you dare to be yourself and do whatever is best FOR YOU - you have to have the courage to be disliked. p.s. I guess I just repeated once more the title of the book haha, but it's just so spot on :) what a good insight.

[@abzalhalaki8380]

Love

[@InnerResearcher]

🙏🏻

[@taralpatel708]

Anger does not resolve anything

[@InnerResearcher]

Anger indeed doesn’t resolve anything. However, it’s still an important human emotion that needs to be addressed. It’s also not so much about “acting out” anger how we normally see it, but anger that is self-direct at ourselves and is often kept “under wraps” is just as bad. Hence why it’s important to work with it and learn ways to release it. 😊

[@taralpatel708]

@@InnerResearcher I write rhythm and poetry To release my anger

[@InnerResearcher]

@@taralpatel708 that’s wonderful! What a great practice

[@taralpatel708]

@@InnerResearcher to me rap and hip hop is a piece of art