I spent a day with GENDER-FLUID PEOPLE

[@AnthonyPadilla]

come back next week for *I spent a day with CDAWGVA* MEMBERS WATCH UNCENSORED & AD FREE▸ kzbin.infojoin

[@seems_goodlol]

don’t care

[@Alarm_theclock]

OH EM GEE

[@doyoulikemyname6147]

Anthony! I HAVE TO TELL YOU SOMETHING! hi.😊

[@38823]

CONNORRR YESS IVE BEEN WAITING FOR SO LONG AAAA

[@alexisisghostface]

I don’t know what to say but Hi 💀

[@pettymillennialsoup9873]

Oh shit. I went to college with Dorian. And watched Anthony since college. Never thought I'd see those two worlds colliding.

[@wangxian_]

wow that's cool

[@iconsumecoal]

Lucky! I’m such a big fan of Dorian 😭😭

[@AliceFlynn]

What were they like in college?

[@pettymillennialsoup9873]

@@AliceFlynn Quirky, goofy, super outgoing, huge bookworm. Dorian wasn't non-bonary yet so they'd wear big bows in her bows in her hair and liked to wear skirts with knee high socks. Loved reading philosophy and economics. Was pretty much a straight A student. Was outgoing but pretty straight edge (no drugs, alcohol) rarely went to parties but would go to every school event that was basically a talent show and sing with her i think was a ukulele. Theres a lot more I can say but yeah. Cool person.

[@mehlanie13]

​@@pettymillennialsoup9873so in short, they were an introvert's extrovert and an extrovert's introvert

[@ecowo57]

I feel like more genderfluid people should be interviewed, not necessarily in this channel but in general, because the gender fluid experience can be so different

[@proguner]

idc

[@wangxian_]

totally agree, i need it

[@ecowo57]

@@beastaslayer1411 I think as long as 1 they are people who are already known as genderfluid 2 they know the risks I think it's okay

[@MicrowavedFurby]

So they can talk about how indecisive they are or what?

[@proguner]

@@beastaslayer1411 agree to disagree

[@orionzspark]

I never thought I'd see Dorian and Anthony in a video together but I'm here for it!

[@Arxari]

Samee

[@DinosaurNick]

Same! I saw them in the thumb nail and I'm like "HOL' UP!"

[@jeffandonuts3945]

Same!!

[@Gabriel_Blair]

i watch anthony often and i saw dorian and recognized them cause my girlfriend loves them and immediately shared it with her lol

[@DinosaurNick]

That's couple goals right there lol@@Gabriel_Blair

[@faithBrewarded]

Brendan talking about how she felt like something was lacking when she dated gay men made that piece in my mind click. Maybe I resented my past relationships because I felt like I was expected to be the girl in a heterosexual relationship, when in reality there's a part of me that didn't feel involved/felt rejected at the time.

[@faithBrewarded]

I didn't know Brendan before she's such an icon

[@ev7568v]

same here!

[@JoTheAnomaly]

“Born male but dying a woman” is an incredible quote.

[@doctorchristianjensen]

No.. Let’s not contribute to delusions.

[@AC-ov5ny]

@@doctorchristianjensentrue

[@doctorchristianjensen]

@@AC-ov5ny The pronoun warriors are getting one step closer. I only agree with the OG LGBT.

[@Azura2242]

@@doctorchristianjensen the og lgbt?

[@doctorchristianjensen]

@@Azura2242 Yes.

[@lexidarling]

Anthony having Dorian on is the crossover I never expected but needed nonetheless.

[@Strawberrypersonoffixial]

Truth

[@WishGender]

am not gender-fluid but I love hearing different perspectives, especially on experiences I’m not familiar with

[@Guavy.]

Genderfluid is my favourite drink

[@SunIsLost]

yea

[@SunIsLost]

@@Guavy.yep

[@Nick-yp6uf]

Do they turn gender solid if they get below 0 Celsius

[@Pouing12]

Sadly they do! I once had to defrost one of my gender fluid friends. 😞

[@heatfromsapphire]

@@Pouing12Same here! Had to thaw out a friend’s gender by driving 6 hours out into the middle of nowhere. Annoying to do, but anything for a friend, I suppose

[@coheed_2113]

As a gender-fluid, yes in the winter sometimes I get stuck until someone turns on the thermostat

[@amayazingamaya9622]

​@xBrokenSagex This is why I don't leave the house! Finally, someone gets it! We also boil if it's too hot 😔

[@coheed_2113]

@amayazingamaya9622 I know but like sometimes if It’s really hot I’ll turn into a gas and I can fly!

[@mabblepabble]

brendan is so inspirational tbh. as someone who’s agender and is constantly stressed about how they present/how others will respond/etc etc, seeing someone who’s so *comfortable* just *being* is great. like i need to let go of expectations, and just enjoy being in the moment and being me.

[@SunIsLost]

Yea

[@Dr_Mingus]

No he's not

[@STRcircaFKR]

​@@Dr_Mingusthe algorithm thanks you

[@Dr_Mingus]

@@STRcircaFKR yessir

[@Space_Weirdo]

Same

[@flynnjf]

dorian's style and the mustache were a huge inspiration that helped me keep my love for makeup through my transition- the flamboyant album cover totally changed how i thought about self-expression through makeup. love them as an artist sm

[@thickums8198]

Wild to see Dorian on here. We went to college together and they were so kind and a great energy to be around. Happy for you Dorian!!! Keep breaking the binary

[@k._mx.anthrope]

we love seeing Dorian Electra helping small KZbin channels like Anthony Padilla become famous

[@xiomararivera9449]

im pretty sure this channel isn’t small. and also anthony has been famous for a while.

[@xiomararivera9449]

but i love seeing dorian on anthony’s channel.

[@notyarrs]

​@@xiomararivera9449it was a joke

[@mossymargiela]

@@xiomararivera9449this is a very common joke where you say the opposite of what is real.

[@xiomararivera9449]

@@mossymargiela can’t tell the tone through the phone so idk 🤣

[@phosphenevision]

it's weird to see dorian being genuine for this long without a heavy layer of irony or sarcasm 💀

[@wolfsign9168]

dorian was my genderfluid awakening. i cried listening to their songs and spent like a week in such gender confusion lol. so awesome to see them here now

[@FernStone]

totally relate , I mean I now know I identify as a woman , but Dorian helped me realise my sexuality which is pansexual !! and helped me realise the masculine energy I do have is very valid and I can use it whenever I want !

[@beastaslayer1411]

You’re a saddo and are thinking this insanity is normal

[@LordPerrin]

Def made me open to my own bisexuality and how I aesthetically coded myself

[@Pouing12]

I will always stand by the fact that Dorian transed my gender 🫡

[@Imakebigotsseethe]

The way Dorian just has that effect on people ☠️☠️ cus same

[@marsrobinson3322]

I think that Anthony has done more for the queer community than people give him credit for

[@SunIsLost]

yep yea

[@coolsaige]

currently in a gender crisis rn. only reason i’m here

[@monytontana5184]

What she said about "shedding society's conditioning & listen to the internal monologue" resonates with me so much. Brendan gives me much hope for my own future as a transfem with a boy's name ❤

[@DinosaurNick]

As an agender person, I look up to these two, especially Dorian. I'm an older gen LGBT (I'm 40) and I just came out as Agender a couple years ago. These younger LGBTQIA+ peeps being comfortably themselves makes me feel more confident. I oddly relate to what Brendan said about dating gay men. I only dated straight men, and it felt weird because they'd see me as a girlfriend and I'm not a girl. I'm not a guy. I'm just me. I'm amasculine (agender + Masculine) and I mostly use neutral words but I'm fine with being perceived as a guy too. My pronouns are they/per/e/it and I didn't feel happy about my sexuality until I started dating bisexual and pansexual people. I'm pansexual myself, but also demisexual and I'm polyamorous. I've lost friends and family just for being openly happy and openly myself. I'm grateful to those in my life who support me.

[@poison-LICKTHEPOISON]

We love old queer people

[@DinosaurNick]

I dunno if I should feel offended by this or not XD@@poison-LICKTHEPOISON

[@poison-LICKTHEPOISON]

@@DinosaurNick I'm not trying to be offensive if it comes off like that

[@zerpente3]

​@@poison-LICKTHEPOISON 40 isn't old..

[@RudolphRobot]

Dorian helped me so much to express myself without the constrictions of Gender, like the way of almost mocking Gender Stereotypes and creating something completely different in the meantime. I love them so muchhhhhh

[@chefbenito1]

Tom macdonald opened my heterosexual awakening

[@Lovely-u2x]

As grandma trans, you… respectfully sound insane…be whatever but this is not a transsexual-mocking gender but crying oppression for being confused…right

[@drunkenprayer8390]

I'm not gender fluid but a lot of the discussion in this did feel very real. I definitely identify as a straight white man, but I have worn feminine clothing in the past and enjoyed it and not felt like there was anything wrong with it. Obviously cannot 100% relate to the experiences of these people, but share a bit of the same feeling that there's nothing wrong with expressing that it's okay to be yourself. It's difficult to express without feeling like just because I like wearing non masculine clothes sometimes that I have the same experiences as these people who actually have to live as themselves 24/7 and don't have an explicit gender. I guess the simplest way to express it as just some solidarity with being someone who doesn't feel like anyone should be pushed into a corner. Maybe a little of it comes from being into rock/metal/goth music and how open that community is to accepting everyone expressing and experimenting with fashion and sexuality/gender without saying "Oh hey you are this or that."

[@Arthera0]

The discussion is real and we solved it a while ago. We decided that the box a man and a woman should behave in was dumb and we removed it. Doing more feminine things doesnt make you less of a man. just a man that tends towards the feminine side. This whole gender thing is building boxes again where people should fall into. its just as reductive as the male/female box before.

[@ViDeTool]

You don't have to be anything to fit. A feminine man. A masculine man. You are still a man. No need to change that.

[@starchaser1437]

I'm genderfluid Lesbian and I just wanna say that you are valid and it honestly makes my genderfluid identity feel validated when you say you relate but are comfortable enough to say and know you aren't genderfluid. It's beautiful to see and I hope more people can open up to themselves and truly feel secure in their own bodies/identity doesn't make you queer or trans to feel secure in who you are weather it's straight, gay, cis, trans, ect

[@Soundwave._]

Really interesting perspective and definitely agree on the front of gender being more complex and it being perfectly fine to be binary/cis but still present in different ways. Just as a caveat plenty of non-binary and/or genderfluid people do have explicit genders, sometimes more than one explicit gender.

[@drunkenprayer8390]

​@@starchaser1437 it's nice to hear that but also sad in a way that something as little as that makes you feel validated when you really shouldn't need anyone to make you feel that way because your identity is valid and you deserve love and respect and to be comfortable in your own body, regardless of what anyone else thinks or feels.

[@BrandonRogers]

👀

[@LeeBuildz]

What are you doing here? Lol!!

[@kagu2811]

Neato

[@yshktdhnkppfffryu69]

Hey Brandon! What ru doin here?

[@eleventh_chicken]

The eye emoji is the best way to express any emotion, from confusion to excitement (also I loved your interview)

[@MrMcNuggettt]

why are you here lmao

[@kaelobRs]

Dorian is everything. People forget their refinery29 classics like "our musical ode to the clitoris" and "the history of vibrators" which were HUGE bops lol.

[@Faithwashere918]

I love how nice Anthony is with all his guests on his show ❤

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Anthony's farts.

[@d3_VV]

Turn to Allah before you return to him.

[@eevo4954]

"allah" is a fictional character hope this helps!@@d3_VV

[@itxelites]

@@d3_VVnu uh

[@basmentchild4879]

more like allah deez nuts@@d3_VV

[@axelfrl]

W for the genderfluid community tbh

[@sherIfpawz]

ally

[@ねこ男の子]

Trans women of Stonewall. Fought to be called trannies. It's our culture. Because we know we're not the same as women. Kids of today are offended at the word. So they want to remove stigma, which is courageous. But it's hurting all of us.

[@SESKE_5]

Yessir

[@JohnMcSpringle]

based pfp

[@WhiteNoBeard471]

Fr

[@raylange7611]

i used to identify as genderfluid before i realized i am a trans man :)) it was such a safe way for me to experiment with my gender. although i am a trans man now, i still hold gender fluidity close to heart.

[@Wynnie1121]

Saaaame except I'm transfem now

[@StormyTalks]

I also called myself genderfluid and now I'm a trans guy! Very interesting!

[@annec9268]

NO HATE but i always wanna see more enby people of color/gender fluid people of color get interviewed/talked about because society has a way of making people feel like if nonbinary/gender fluid people aren’t white/slim/conventionally attractive then their identity isn’t as valid or their identity isn’t real again no hate towards anyone in this video

[@stormydayolivia]

Hi!!! I agree, I think we can help this when Anthony reaches out in his community posts and linking him to BIPOC and people of different body types of whatever he happens to be researching! I've been trying to share more diverse people of whatever he is going to interview in those posts, I think it will help. :) and nothing you said was offensive!

[@annec9268]

@@stormydayolivia thank you for the reply! i’m gonna start doing that i always thought it was like a one and done deal that he has people he picks himself and we just ask them questions, appreciate ya 😊

[@lukeraphael371]

Because there is hardly any!! Over 90% of people who identify as gender fluid are •White •female •under the age of 35 (these stats are from New Zealand, we had a census earlier this year) They would have literally been goth or scene kids 20 years ago 😂

[@jareyoujoking2351]

Thank youuuuu

[@tecneon]

I appreciate Dorian being really chill about it , always enjoyed their music 😎

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Anthony's farts.

[@modestrocker1]

fist time dorian has been chill ever - its amazing to see them not being an egotistical asshole

[@berryinj]

@@modestrocker1 what are you even referring to

[@slvtg4rd3n]

@@modestrocker1 bruh what dorian is literally so chill what r u talking about

[@duckatali]

@@modestrocker1 you should watch the interview they did with Fantano they were super super chill throughout the whole thing... they're always just that chill.

[@ivygenesisluvsu]

is this how I find out I’m gender fluid?! lmao I’ve always felt too “feminine” to be a man and too “masculine” to be a woman and I had always gone back and forth if I was trans, non binary, or if it was simply bc I’m bisexual but this has opened my eyes…. I’ve always been in search of a label that kinda helps guide me to getting to know myself even better and I think this might be what suits me best. Sometimes I wake up feeling super “girly” and wanting to wear dresses and stuff, but half the time I feel very “manly” and carry myself in a more masculine way and dress in a more masculine type outfit… so thank you to anthony for this very insightful video!

[@NagadirGame]

I feel like that is just being normal human

[@lmcb8447]

​NagadirGame : idk tons of ppl dont feel like waking up masc one day then fem another 🤔

[@NagadirGame]

@@lmcb8447 The thing is, people think beying masculine or feminine is when you pick up a certain clothes, or wear mascara or whatever. What I meant is, that society changes and what is considered masculine or feminine changes too. So associating feminity or masculinity to such surface level things is bullshit I like to wear sexy things one day and baggy other one, does not make me gender fluid, that is just normal

[@Lovely-u2x]

The word is cross dresser none of this is related to the disorder of transgenderism

[@Lovely-u2x]

@@lmcb8447then they need a doctor

[@manaveshwarsingh7521]

Brendan looks like such a fun person to be around!!

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Anthony's farts.

[@d3_VV]

Turn to Allah before you return to him.

[@MindTheMadness]

@@d3_VV Allah does not exist

[@namantherockstar]

Anthony inspires me.. My parents said if i get 50K followers They'd buy me a professional camera for recording..begging u guys , literally Begging...

[@weenage_skurtbag]

Sup bots...I agree 🕺

[@13Mangamaster]

Genderfluidity can be really confusing when you don't have anyone in your life that are really sharing those experiences in the same way you are, but hearing Brendan say there are "two little beings coexisting" REALLY hit different for me. I've never had another Genderfluid person confirm the "Seperate but together" feeling I struggle to explain to others, and I'm crying 😭❤

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Anthony's farts.

[@d3_VV]

Turn to God (Allah) Before you return to him.

[@coolestguyevslikeever3861]

@@d3_VV your mother

[@THEBIGGESTOFMAN]

​@@d3_VVcan you stop commenting islamist propaganda

[@waberoid]

I never heard it put that way before honestly. For me I just feel one way or another, never thought or considered the two being but it can make sense. Some days I guess there are times the two fuse and I am not sure what I am feeling so go by they/them XD

[@katiehansen1329]

I love the open-mindedness in this video. People just existing and being themselves. No need to fit into any specific box if you don't want to. You can just exist as you are.

[@caleschnell]

Lawlessness

[@stormydayolivia]

I love their styles!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm not genderfluid myself, but I find myself leaning fluid when it comes to stereotypical gendered fashion.

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Anthony's farts.

[@SunIsLost]

Yea

[@kinashy8863]

Same

[@SYRLEY06]

I don't understand the label, but same. As a female, my fashion goes just off what I like and what's comfortable. I will 100% wear my boyfriends hoodie to dinner coz its big and warm. I will look at the men's section for cool band t shirts but I like the women's tighter fit jeans more. I'm not into make-up and nails and hair etc. But I still see myself as a woman and nothing else, which is what confuses me a little when someone attaches these things to their own gender i guess? I can't understand it though coz I'm not them.

[@kinashy8863]

@@SYRLEY06 i just want to clarify that they are talking about a specific feeling and clothes are just expression of that feeling. But you're right, we can't fully understand it. We just have to understand that they feel it

[@two-headedrat6954]

I love this, I’m gender fluid too and I literally do g have any other nb friends right now to talk to. I lives listening to their experiences and totally feel the same. I’m afab so when I lean towards feminine cute stuff some people are like giving me that look (?) like “finally you’re acting normal” and it’s so annoying.

[@butteredpopcorn9588]

THIISSS! I have a somewhat same experience. I, too, am a genderfluid born as a female and since I was young, I am not that comfortable wearing a lot of "girly clothes" unless I really need to since I'm more comfortable with "manly" clothes. Now that I'm trying to explore my feminine side, most people around me get shock or tell me I'm finally behaving normally.

[@clonetrooper1998]

relating so hard to this!

[@beastaslayer1411]

So from the first six words you shouldn’t be speaking because your rights must be removed

[@Strawberrypersonoffixial]

Right? Tell me about it.

[@TallysFuture]

@@beastaslayer1411okay beastslayer1411 put the tablet down and quit watching Andrew tate

[@tlightsylvan]

i fully have facial hair & my dad still introduces me to all his friends as "daughter." womp womp lol.

[@brettpruefer7541]

Ughhhh that’s so annoying, I’m sorry

[@Chimzilla27]

I have been waiting for this episode! I personally have been exploring my gender identity and I identify with Genderfluid the most! I love to hear everyone’s experiences!

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Anthony's farts.

[@Alex-vh9jq]

zamn@@p-__

[@waberoid]

A way that helped me was just having my friends call me by a different pronoun for about a month and I promised myself I will not ask them to top stop until the end of the month. At first it was very weird, kinda cringed but it only took a couple days and it started to feel right. The cringe was just the past being like "This isn't right" so the boundary was broken and now I am way more comfortable with who I am. So what happened at the end of the month? I felt comfortable enough to let it go for 3 more months lol

[@namantherockstar]

Anthony inspires me.. My parents said if i get 50K followers They'd buy me a professional camera for recording..begging u guys , literally Begging...

[@SunIsLost]

Same

[@dnphnex]

brendan explained that feeling of being 'wrong' perfectly for me!!

[@naut7560]

everybody gangsta till somebody drinks the gender fluid.

[@FoodEmporium-g3i]

I feel wrong for reading this comment

[@catpunk4194]

As a genderfluid person it makes me happy to see this, it was definitely hard to grow up in a conservative family. Seeing other genderfluid people and hearing their stories has helped a lot.

[@marlinaq7524]

I can understand, I'm gender fluid too and my catholic family say things that hurts sometimes. I was waiting for this video so much i literally was praying for this video because isn't too much information about us

[@beastaslayer1411]

First four words mean you shouldn’t even be existing

[@Imakebigotsseethe]

​@@beastaslayer1411 Oh cus you said so?

[@lovrboi]

fuck off if you say that to anyone then it’s likely the other way around

[@FoodIsOverrated]

That must’ve been so hard for you. Do you want sympathy points?

[@Gii7077]

Honestly I'd love a 'i spent a day with relationship anarchists' cause i feel like they'd have a lot of interesting things to say that could be useful to others and cool to hear about.

[@LargeAndAttractiveFrogs]

I saw Dorian on their My Agenda tour in Toronto and it was one of the most affirming and wonderful experiences of my life. Their music (especially in the Flamboyant era) was a big part of my self-discovery and development of self-love as a newly-out transmasc nonbinary person and somehow also helped me free myself from the religious chains that were holding me back from being my true self. Can't wait to see them for their Fanfare tour!!!

[@doriansdemonn]

Dorian talking about their mustache was hella freeing. I felt that lately, too. I’ve been in the same boat and allowing myself to wear more feminine things without having a masculine element and still be firm in my identity. I noticed they stopped wearing it and saw them wearing more femme stuff and said “yeah. Yeah I know, bitch. I see you.” So glad to see them actually say it out loud.

[@fundiptimes]

I feel the same way!! I'm gender fluid too & seeing them without the mustache, even though I've always thought of it as just So Gender™, was still cool because they're not strictly androgynous in the way that they add feminine & masculine elements, they're gender fluid, and that's honestly just so validating

[@JennWanderer]

I absolutely adore that people can have public conversations like this about things I struggled with growing up in the 80s and 90s.

[@harrison00xXx]

Dont believe in the brainwashing, so the nonsense told to you!

[@YMilkshake]

and yet there's still people that are calling it brainwashing... holy crap why can't people just let others live their lives... it feels great seeing people like you who are glad that topics like this are now perfectly normal to talk about, thank you ^^

[@cheesypickles7783]

ppl being like "youre just a tomboy!!!! youre a girl!!! gender is stupid reeeeee!!!!" like my guy IM genderfluid and i still love feminine things and clothes. i just also happen to like being called a he/him sometimes and be seen as a guy 😭 "its a delusion!!!!!!" last time i checked this wasnt part of the criteria for delusions but okay!

[@rightwerk]

I agree with “ppl”

[@cheesypickles7783]

@rightwerk didn't know all tomboys were suddenly okay w he/him pronouns and they actually DO want to be guys and see themselves as men wow! i thought all that "tomboys are still women" stuff was true but now i see the light! all tomboys are actually just he/him's! thank you for that! 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾

[@rightwerk]

@@cheesypickles7783 Wtf are you talking about? Tomboys are women since they are FEMALE. “Seeing themselves as men” means NOTHING. Man = adult human male, woman = adult human female. I don’t give a fuck about some person’s self-declared pronouns. Gramatical gender is used to refer to a person and their biological sex. It’s not up to that person’s self-identification, ever.

[@lemondedetr]

Thank you for doing these videos, truly. Not only for people to be seen, to have someone to look up to or to explain how they're feeling themselves, to educate people... but because you do it in SUCH a respectful way and everyone is always very well spoken. It is a pleasure to watch these kind of things nowadays. Love from Europe ❤

[@d3_VV]

You have to change that “Love from Europe❤” to Love from Hell

[@SunIsLost]

Yea

[@SunIsLost]

​​@@d3_VVDo you think anybody cares? 😂 Dream more.

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Anthony's farts

[@lemondedetr]

@@d3_VV thanks, but no thanks

[@PatLund]

I don't really understand it myself, but all that matters is that they are happy and comfortable with themselves.

[@UrRandomKiwi]

❤❤❤

[@panny-cake4590]

Yeah, so long as they are not indoctrination the children and teaching them about sex at an early age. Then it doesn't matter right? Oh wait...

[@StarIsbar3lySane]

We stan genderfluid allies ✊

[@TallysFuture]

We need more people like you. Love the pfp🫶

[@aaa99876]

you did understand one piece ❤

[@geckoZen]

omg i relate so much to Brendan's experience of being genderfluid, particularly when she says she likes the world to perceive her as "she" but for more private settings to also be seen as "he." i feel that a lot, but for the inverse as a transmasc person myself. like i'd refer to myself as "she/her/a girl" in some instances, but when other people who don't know me like that refer to me that way, it's like, no, doesn't feel right. that's why my displayed pronouns are he/him. i feel like publicly identifying as genderfluid is kinda tricky for me because i worry a lot of people have an idea in their head of what that means, but the genderfluid identity is really a lot more fluid than people might think. and i'm personally worried people would see the label "genderfluid" and use that as permission to stick to only calling me she/her, and that would hurt. it's easier to describe myself as a demiboy if i want to be more specific about my gender identity, but i have always felt since i was little that i'm genderfluid and how i feel and the way i present myself can shift between male female and neither or both. not in aesthetic, my aesthetic is flatly always masc or at least butch, but in social cues like voice inflection, stance, movement, language etc. when Brendan brought up being able to express a more masculine side in comedy and improv, that, THAT, that's the feeling. I love that. To be able to usually be perceived as masc, but also be able to express a more feminine "character" in comedy or dance, that's what i love. That's how i love to exist. That's my kind of genderfluidity. it's so nice to hear someone else put it into words, even if it's on the opposite side of the spectrum from me 😂

[@muliebris6338]

woah their genders are fluids

[@maryfreegirl2029]

Gender fluid?? Can you put in bottle??

[@muliebris6338]

@@maryfreegirl2029 bottled gender

[@thegentlemenandmrcheese7636]

@@maryfreegirl2029the fluid Spider-Gwen uses.

[@akabshwosbwbd]

i always appreciate videos like this because while im a queer person and know and understand the complexities of gender identity, I know that this the first time for a lot of people to hear n learn about these topics!! thank you (:

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Anthony's farts

[@beastaslayer1411]

If you are that person you shouldn’t speak because mentally deranged people don’t deserve to

[@Sylvanari]

Seeing Dorian without a mustache is like seeing your dad shave his face as a kid

[@daryna94]

I feel like the soul is androgynous anyways so it makes sense that some people express themselves in such a creative and nonconforming way

[@YMilkshake]

If there is such a thing as a soul, why the hell would it be conformed to a gender? Makes no sense lmao

[@maiv9434]

Oh my god the "dating gay men" part hit so close home istg 😭 It is such a big issue that is really hard to deal with. I love my mans and he loves me, but he loves the woman that I am and I can feel it. It's such a struggle to get over that with someone interested only in one gender.

[@NoiseDay]

Fr I'm not in the dating game rn but I don't think I could date a straight man. I need to know that my partner sees me for who I really am.

[@blumarinegirl]

listening to gender-fluid people talk about their experiences is so important. i think we need much more representation of gender-fluid just as other genders!! i love seeing other gender-fluid ppl like me

[@Hello_Sidney153]

no way as a genderfluid person the thought of an anthony padilla video on genderfluidity crossed my mind probably less or just over 12 hours ago and HERE IT IS LET'S GOO (also dorian electra cool! been meaning to listen to their stuff!)

[@durianfox]

If you want any Dorian Electra song recommendations my personal favorite by them is freak mode

[@cricket.7947]

I like 'Idolize' and 'Man To Man' a lot... they're also the only songs of theirs I know I've heard and immediately liked enough to remember right away. Dorian is awesome.

[@cambo338]

I think with everything going on at the moment, all of the transphobia and barriers being put in place to LGBTQ+ people, especially in America, videos like this are helping me get by. Thanks Anthony

[@droptherapy2085]

Yeah it sucks. We all need to organize to defeat project 2025

[@dolofonosesostrefis]

@@droptherapy2085 Just looked this up, what the actual genuine fuck is going on in America?? I knew they were regressing but this is horrific.

[@rifter4478]

Get help. Homophobics are one of the best people on the planet and homosexuals deserve life imprisonment.

[@BANANASAUCEYUM]

Lol go visit the Middle East or China or Africa and see how lucky American queers are lmfao

[@joshiugh5438]

Dorian talking about the mustache just confirms the energy that their style and content in more recent times already communicated, this kind of again and again finding yourself even deeper, finding new confidence in genderexpression beyond the first big "here i am" kind of moments, which is so relatable as a genderqueer person myself. I feel like one can really see the personal growth between the two albums that are out and also torwarts the next one

[@arinicole5641]

Yesss this one’s for me! Love that you’re covering this topic! Discovering being gender-fluid has been such a wild and amazing journey for me and I’m glad I found out I am

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Anthony's farts.

[@d3_VV]

Turn to Allah before you return to him.

[@mcoctreyvon5639]

@@d3_VV lmao not everybody has ur beliefs

[@mcoctreyvon5639]

yeah lol@4realek31

[@_aoe]

@@d3_VVturn away from allah

[@Brainfly-]

Even as a gay man who just loves expressing their queerness, Dorian's unapologetically queer music and image have definitely inspired me and helped me embrace those sides of me I felt the need to suppress. It's amazing to hear both of their perspectives of gender identity and expression and it's even more amazing to see pretty much the entire comment section being absolutely lovely about a subject that tends to attract a lot of ignorant people.

[@theclockworksyndicate]

Fluidflux person here, just figured that out back in 2022, definitely agree with the constantly discovering thing lol. My personal experience is that my gender sorta feels like it operates on two different axises(axes?) with one being the masc/femme binary and the other being the like, presence or lack of gender. Where the center point is they/them, the right side slides she/her, the left slides he/him, and going up gets you closer to a mixed set of pronouns with the apex being fine with anything and the going down gets you, in my case, generally more eldritch feelings. And my gender is like the old bouncing DVD logo just going around the plane formed by those two sliders. Like, I like to associate my genders with a little short sentence blurb so as an example of that eldritch feeling is my current one of: She/It, The avatar of an ancient forest's mycelium network taking the form of a fae witch. And I know not a lot of people are comfortable with it/its pronouns so I don't really mind if people don't use them for me, it's mostly just my way of saying I *do not* vibe with having gender right now, I am a creature, I am feral, the binary is less important compared to the eldritch horror skittering around your house.

[@ShinyGallade25]

You understand lol

[@d3_VV]

Please see of you can survive one year in a muslim country saying that shit

[@ThilieTourmaline]

Dorian has been one of my favorite people for so long and feeling less alone as a gender fluid person myself. Love seeing them on here! And Brendan is so wonderful too!

[@staysafe_eatcake6587]

I myself am trans, but hearing other trans people's experiences and thoughts concerning their gender presentation and identity helps me process my own thoughts in so many varied, thoughtful ways! I truly appreciate them taking the time to speak about their experiences, it enriches the whole community :) edit: also can we talk about their hair?? so pretty!

[@SakeShinobi97]

Never expected to see Dorian on this channel. Looking forward to the new album!

[@itzhexyjay]

As a genderfluid person, I'm so happy to see people like me be recognized. I'm still in the process of becoming my full, true, self. I'm afab and would like to use any/all pronouns, but my parents are stuck on the idea that I am a woman. I used to hate being female presenting, but now that I've found people like this just doing it for myself is enough to keep me alive.

[@arieepotter384]

I identify as genderqueer because I don’t really exist within man or woman or both or neither just I’m me and I don’t put myself in one category or the other… same with my sexuality!

[@lolilo2759]

I recently found out I am gender-fluid. I wasn’t feeling well today, but this video is so exciting. I know I am going to love it. Whenever I meet other gender-fluid people, my heart aches. I love the community

[@mynamecausesconfusion9829]

I relate to a lot of aspects of this subject. I was born naturally Androgynous, but I didnt find comfort in identifying with any gender stereotype. I just never saw a reason to label myself other than for sexual preferences of others. Motherhood has sealed my acceptance with my body and who i am. I no longer desire social validation.

[@gardenshed6043]

I gotta admit. I still don’t really *get* genderfluidity. But just because I don’t get it doesn’t mean I can’t respect genderfluid people.

[@makemakeshow]

I spent a day with hyperpop artists next?

[@AlishaN-qj5iz]

I'm not gender fluid but gosh I hope to be able to reach the level of self-acceptance and contentment that Brendan has reached. Beautiful video!

[@andrewhaywood3853]

Thanks Anthony and guests. I’m a Trans guy and I’ve watched this to educate myself as I haven’t naturally understood what non-binary is because I don’t feel that way. So I’m practicing what I preach when I expect others to educate themselves about what it’s like to be Trans. It’s been really eye opening to see the concept of non-binary fleshed out by real people - it’s true that representation really matters.

[@anotherton4763]

OMG DORIAN THIS IS NOT THE COLLAB I EXPECTED

[@Aries_Alwayshigh1]

As a gender fluid person im so glad you made this video because there's not a lot of people really talking about being gender fluid in a positive environment

[@tealgotwings5559]

As a genderfluid adult myself, God damn I loved this video♡ Genderfluid is such a different experience for everyone :) It comes with goods and bad in different ways. Especially the sentence that, life is a journey to constantly finding out new things about yourself, is something I tell everytime I talk about this topic :)♡

[@Lovely-u2x]

Speaking as someone who transitioned in the 90’s…you guys are not trans, or in our umbrella-this just seems like a social contagion with bad outfits

[@ozy-mq8ei]

@@Lovely-u2xas a genderfluid person, genderfluid people ARE under the trans umbrella and can identify as trans, whether you like it or not.

[@aidenbagshaw5573]

This is awesome! I’d never really thought about my gender until a few months ago, when I saw your interview with non-binary people, and I remembered times when, as a boy who mostly socialized with girls at the time, I felt like I couldn’t join them for their more “girly” activities because I wasn’t supposed to. Fast-forward to me being 20, and watching that interview. I had recently come out as pansexual (which I now know isn’t quite right, but I don’t care to label it), and decided to start experimenting with how I saw myself. I realized pretty quickly that I’m most comfortable presenting how I already did, but allowing myself to “give off more of a gay vibe” when I feel like it has just made my days a little bit nicer. I guess I’m a cis man, and I’m definitely not trans in any way, but in my own mind, I don’t like to think of myself in terms of gender. I’m Aiden. That’s it. It’s really quite freeing to know that you don’t have to stick with your assigned gender, even if you end up sticking with it anyways. To all my fellow cis people; go forth and break whatever gender norms you feel like! If you don’t, that’s okay too. In terms of gender, just do what feels right, and don’t give an eff about how you label it.

[@misscrackwood]

Labels can help us but also sometimes can hurt when you don't 100% feel like you fit in that label. I'm happy for you you're at a place where you just feel good being *you* no matter what that means! Life is short, let's make the most of it while we're here!

[@guyperson4748]

Shut up. Jews are brainwashing you.

[@thunderclancat123]

brendan in her growing up segment felt so validating for me. it's never like an on switch, just some days I felt OK looking in the mirror and other days i felt off. it wasn't literally the next day either, it was over time. like in January I couldn't stand to see myself in the mirror and was convinced i was trans because of the dysphoria, and in July I was feeling myself and my body and everything felt right. I can't bring myself to label my gender because how I feel about it changes at any given moment, even with the genderfluid label, but i related so much. (I flip between nonbinary, genderfluid, trans, and just settled on queer or nonlabeling).

[@0quin0]

This !! This is why it took me a long time to realize I was genderfluid. Because when I listened to trans experiences, it was always like they had a lightbulb moment or very obvious signs from when they were a kid where as mine were more subtle i.e. dressing in various styles in highschool, that same "off feeling", and more little things throughout my life. Definitely overtime kinda thing.

[@kakonthebed]

I’ve considered myself a trans man for a long time, I think bevause I’ve always felt pressure to be a trans man in the only way I thought was possible. I’m realising that there’s part of femininity in my identity that I can’t ignore, and I’m thinking of perhaps exploring genderfluid as a label. I still have this inherent connection to being a lesbian, and it’s hard to reconcile that with this other side of me that is very definitively “male” (whatever that means. I guess it’s a bit intimidating, because the experience of being visibly queer is not something I want to go back to. But at the same time it might make me happier. So basically what I’m trying to say is that I’m in the same boat as you, I understand how you feel ❤

[@mikoevelynn111]

Day 1 of asking Anthony Padilla to spend a day with Narcissists/people with NPD because I think that kind of video could do a lot to stop the stigma around Narcissists. People with NPD aren't inherently bad people. NPD affects the amount of empathy someone feels, among other symptoms, and this does NOT affect someone's actions.

[@mkdegrat]

Oh totally! I would love to watch that as someone who has struggled with NPD

[@TheRealFrenchyFry]

I’ve been trying to figure out my gender for a while. Once I found out what gender fluid was I immediately took interest. This video just really made me feel comfortable in my own skin ❤

[@bunkayke2554]

23:42 i was having a really bad crisis right now at midnight and this whole part of the negative part of life really pulled me out of it. When not even therapy can. Thanks a lot. You have no idea how much it means to me.

[@korjikofojrr4408]

I just experienced the same kind of thing

[@JamaicanRain]

I have had 0 of a paper written at midnight, including notecards, a bibliography and an outline, that was due at 8. Always fun, not. 😂

[@witchofnewDawn]

I was raised in a Christian home. I was struggling growing up. I am transgender and pansexual. I couldn't be myself. I am struggling with gender disphoria as a kid it was hard. Because of good youtube and people like you, you helped me accept myself.

[@BendyLilZebraBabe]

This is a very serious question. I'm not trying to be rude. I just truly don't understand. Can you explain to me how you can be transgender and pansexual?

[@lendivine_]

Whenever I see my community being represented on here I always feel so safe. Ty Anthony

[@happynealltdpolly]

Don’t mind me fangirling over Dorian

[@Im_actually_a.shark_]

Ugh fr

[@beepboop3928]

ahhhh its rlly cool to hear dorian talk about the mustache thing. I love listening to them talk sm. and brendon is rlly cool and has a lot of interesting things to say too

[@beepboop3928]

mwah mwah mwah I love trans ppl

[@emmahackler7462]

I thought Brendan was such a great voice to bring to this conversation. Gender fluidity is so varied and sometimes it really does get put into a box! I had never heard of Dorian before this video, but I love their vibe! Both of them are stunning, beautiful inside and out ❤

[@JustAHuman101]

Genderfluid person here! I've been waiting for this episode for so long. Love this series

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Anthony's farts.

[@bakatemplargaming2430]

Is mayonnaise an instrument 😅

[@melodygonzalez9545]

What are these comments!😂😅 Anyway I'm glad you finally found the video you've been looking for!🤗 Hope you have a good day😊

[@adeelsohail6603]

You’re just mentally ill

[@beastaslayer1411]

First three words means you shouldn’t even be speaking

[@2idiotsproductions234]

Being genderfluid, it makes me so happy that he finally interviewed some people in our community!

[@YMilkshake]

Just some advice, don't look through the other comments. There are some awful close-minded people in here...

[@pandasylver]

​@@YMilkshakeGeNdEr FlUiD pEpOl aRe meNtAllY hiLL!1!1!1!1

[@KUwUpa]

I've been more interested in learning about different gender identities so I can understand some friends more, and this video definitely is informative. Thank you for all that you all do. Keep being awesome.

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Anthony's farts.

[@jellybean6959]

I’m genderfluid myself so if you have any questions or anything I could try to explain!

[@d3_VV]

There are only two, Male (Boy,) and Female (Girl.)

[@d3_VV]

@@snoozley853You didnt ignore me though👀

[@reynbowarc]

​@@d3_VVya parents definitely ignored you tho otherwise you wouldn't be like this HAHAHAHA

[@OkamiWSDwarrior]

I love how chill and inclusive Anthony is 😭 also Dorian is fabulous always.

[@teefling]

i love this. it truly exhibits that gender is not locked down to any specifics, and that whatever you feel is your truth. disbelievers and bigots can whine all they want about gender but at the end of the day, you are what you see yourself as, whatever you feel in you heart. thanks for spreading more awareness about genderfluidity, i hope that this gets out to the people who are still struggling to figure themselves out. you're not alone and you're not making anything up.

[@BobDole1216]

Thank you so much for using your platform to boost trans/enby/fluid voices like this; it means a ton to those of us who are really feeling targeted in the modern political landscape.

[@theoliive4617]

Gender-fluid Hell yeah for an episode interviewing people like me

[@zaboomafooba]

I absolutely loved Brendan and Anthony laughing together at 15:27 this whole part made me smile

[@waberoid]

Being gender fluid, I really appreciate this episode. If it weren't for my friend group I would have never known or felt comfortable to becoming myself over the past 2 years since February of 2021. I never told my parents but that's because they are pretty relaxed about it. They would maybe ask what it means and then be like whatever. They don't really care about how the world is changing, keep saying they are old and they just don't care anymore lol, as long as I am happy and supported. So I could tell them but eh, I'm me. I go by whatever pronouns I am feeling, most of the time I am indifferent and people can use whatever, some days I am feeling more than the other, but most of the time I am just me.

[@d3_VV]

Can you identify as a bird?🐦

[@waberoid]

@@d3_VV Absolutely! Tweet tweet! lol

[@berryinj]

@@d3_VV If you want to identify as a bird I can put you in a cage and feed you seeds forever.

[@D0S81]

okay. so i have no problem with gender fluid people, trans people, any people really. (if my youtube intro is anything to go by) but i have questions. So when Brendan said that in their identity there's a masculine and a feminine. What does that even mean? Because in my eyes wouldn't that be everyone? like I'm male, but i wouldn't say i'm the most masculine person in the sense that masculine means strong. why is strength seen as masculine? my mother was the strongest person i knew, but she wasn't masculine. why is femininity seen as weak? my stepfather was the weakest person i knew, but he wasn't feminine. So what does feminine and masculine mean and why? Why is wearing dresses and having long hair seen as feminine? I've seen plenty of men with long hair, myself included atm, and there are cultures where men wear what could be considered dresses, like in arab cultures with robes. And what's masculine? Pants used to be seen as something only men wore, but now women wear pants, and they are still themselves. I think what my point is, is that none of us are really masculine or feminine. having long hair doesn't make you feminine, showing your feelings doesn't make you feminine, having short hair doesn't make you masculine. neither does having big muscles. The fact that i'm even asking these questions and making these points just shows that gender is a concept we created, that is completely different to sex (which is where i think those against gender fluidity don't know the difference) Masculinity and femininity are meaningless, and i think that one day most of the world will realise this. and we won't be so hung up on only letting certain people wear certain kinds of cloth on their body, or only let certain people only have their hair a certain way. we will all be able to wear what we want, and look how we want, and be who we are without having to label ourselves as anything other than just 'people'. Femininity doesn't make you a woman, and masculinity doesn't make you a man, they are just labels. no more femininity, or masculinity. the only nity we will see ourselves as will be humanity. and just live in a world where we can all be ourselves without having to label each other.

[@robinbennett1686]

SO TRUE OMG. Gender is just something we made up, and now we're dealing with all the shitty consequences of it.

[@Evanescence29]

PLEASE DO A I SPENT A DAY WITH PEOPLE WHOVE HAD STALKERS/ STALKER SURVIVORS AND YOU COULD INTERVIEW MORGES, WHO IS ALSO A KZbinR AND WENT THROUGH A STALKER EXPERIENCE OF HER OWN!!!!

[@vikingflower]

I love Dorian! So great to see them on the channel!

[@altoids2525]

Ik right?? Having Dorian on here is a huge W 🔥🔥

[@coolestguyevslikeever3861]

I dont really get gender fluid really doesnt really make sense to me but if its not affecting me then i dont care!

[@ShinyGallade25]

We need more people with this mentality!!

[@beanids]

Based

[@AspieGG]

based

[@gidoenn9625]

best mentality, even if i dont understand something it helps more to acknowledge it and respect it rather than disrespect it.... because it doesnt harm me in the slightest to give someone respect

[@coolestguyevslikeever3861]

@@gidoenn9625 I don't get all the people that feel the need to tell someone that they don't agree with their way of living and tell them how to live their life based on their beliefs, like as long as their happy and not horrible people, then am happy

[@nobodysXghost]

I’m dating a straight man rn and totally understand… like I can’t show all of me because he’s not attracted to the man

[@randompersonontheinternet9336]

As someone who identifies close to the gender-fluid spectrum, seeing this episode makes me very happy! Thank you

[@chaeyoungsstrawberryfarm3327]

Brendon is my spirit animal, and it’s the speaking before thinking and almost just saying something and then reacting to it yourself. So relatable💀 Edit: why are these replies so sad and bitter, have a little fun guys it’s not that serious.

[@miguelangelcorderoramos-mu5wo]

Then he isn't a spirit animal u re re yeah u definitely don't think before anything

[@beastaslayer1411]

Imagine that’s sad you must be a disappointment

[@miguelangelcorderoramos-mu5wo]

@@beastaslayer1411 definitely live up to the name, thats a bit harsh

[@Alyssa-le9qk]

I’m so glad Dorian feels like they can wear exactly what they want even without the mustache. I saw a lot of people mentioning it in the comments of Dorian’s new vid Puppet but I’m in LOVE with Dorian’s looks for puppet. Love hearing interviews like this - thank you!! 💝

[@daywissink46]

This made me cry!! I was so scared to watch this bc of imposter syndrome. But I felt heard and this was what I needed THANKS!!