I stole a dude's girl.. and learned an important life lesson

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[@Denmosocial]

Become a Socializer so this doesn't happen to you haha

[@SquallSZ]

Or keep from stealing other people's girlfriends ? 😅

[@dominicsmith743]

Well when you say and do things like that, people aren't gonna feel bad if you get jumped for stealing the wrong guy's girl. If someone's mad enough, being a socializer won't help you.

[@samukelisiwemudau3553]

I am 22

[@marko9695]

I started dating a girl who was in a relationship once, and a year later she found someone else. Remember fellas, if she is willing to cheat WITH you, she's willing to cheat ON you

[@Hitokiri1912]

Feel like that's a given

[@sacred3995]

crazy u actually had to experience that yourself to learn something like that lol

[@eloinpuga]

You had it comming man

[@marko9695]

@@eloinpuga Absolutely 💯

[@marko9695]

@sacred3995 When you're a young kid who has never been in love, it's easy to fall for the lies. "He neglects me", "he is abusive", "I like you so much". The first thought of an inexperienced kid isn't "she's a cheater", it's "she's mistreated and needs a better man". Love is crazy like that, irrational. I posted this in hopes some teenager sees it and makes a different choice.

[@theM4R4T]

You didn't steal her. She used him to get into the show for free to see you.

[@TatraScrambler]

Exactly, just like a foodie call.

[@stevenvicijan4338]

Yep, like a show before a director's cut.

[@keifer7813]

Can't steal from somebody when it was never theirs

[@nathanricetalks]

Imagine being this dude and then stumbling upon this video...😭

[@soccerguy5581]

Would he be able to guess that it's specifically his girl tho?

[@justjase10]

With such detail about the band , her saying she's going to "hang out with friends", the drive back home, I'm sure he'd be able to piece it together

[@nathanricetalks]

@@justjase10 that's what i thought... However, idk how many similar scenarios played out at QOTSA concerts, they're pretty big.

[@ozzyv3419]

​@@justjase10 And he was in Denmos school.

[@calltyshon]

​@ozzyv3419 I know right. Which means the guy either knee him personally or saw him many times already before smh.

[@LoukoumianosLoukoumios6969]

I am 19 and I managed to break through the "Nice Guy Syndrome" a year ago...but I had to go down the rabbit hole of self-improvement

[@balekman2412]

Gg ! This is a trap that most men fall 🫡

[@davidt1621]

You're so lucky. I didn't learn it until it was too late and went down the wrong path. Take it from a man who's almost 40 - listen to ol Denmo. He's right.

[@warrr_machine]

💯

[@999triple4]

Going through the phase to

[@addi.1813]

Good for u bro keep it up

[@JaydenLyleHylton]

Yeah 26 here. I'm not sure what happened I just started to care less and less and became excited about things I genuinely liked. I think after one really bad date my mentality changed quite a bit as well. For any dude struggling to talk with woman it's not as bad as you might think. Just be genuine and have a life beyond dating! I'm far from Mr Denmo over here but I have advice for yall. Talk to people. Period. Girl guy whoever learn how to talk to people about anything at any time for any reason. I think a huge issue with guys is that they focus so hard on wanting this girl and getting the girl they get nervous. And forget they're just meeting a human they don't even know if they mesh with. And also there's nothing wrong with being nervous. Heck if you're funny enough you can make a joke about it.

[@nathanlawlor627]

Great advice, Jay!

[@HoangRoxXD]

26 here, struggled with dating in my early 20s. Jay is completely right. Just enjoy your life, work out, and be interested in socializing with others. You find out how easy it actually is to get with women or make friends when you take the pressure off of trying to make others like you. Just like yourself and be present with those around you. If you’re struggling with enjoying your own presence, then there’s some self work that has to happen. Mental health and confidence is a muscle as much as your own physical health. Practice good habits, do things for yourself and everyone will come your way.

[@roxxaviguetero8168]

Thank you for shating this advice

[@roxxaviguetero8168]

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[@user-wx6ri4xq2g]

I converse with anyone I see in public who doesn't have their nose in their phone. Relatively rare these days. It's mostly older guys, they can be a real joy to talk to. Especially since I don't have a dad, I've relied on the wisdom of strangers I've met for everything from learning that ticking noise in my engine was my timing belt and I better replace it ASAP before it damages my pistons to what characteristics to look for in a wife. These conversations are life changing and give me life. Much better than some vapid 22 year old girl who's getting by in life on daddy's money and by being hot and has no other positive characteristics. Which by the way, I'm in NYC, and EVERY attractive girl I meet between the ages of 20-35 is on their parents' dole. Is it like that everywhere else? I haven't gotten a penny of financial support since I was 17!

[@billytessio6326]

I'm the guy whose girlfriend left for a US fighter pilot who was "just a close family friend".

[@ADHD799]

Yea dude it’s like a cops wife cheating on him with the plug.

[@kristoonz]

Don’t beat yourself up. I’m the guy whose girlfriend of 5 years left for her salsa dance partner. As cliche as it gets. Still stings

[@bicboi1930]

Never let your chick dance with other dudes besides her dad, ​@@kristoonz

[@thiagoexe8780]

@@bicboi1930 Bro, there's nothing he could have done. He could have just predicted it and not invested too much.. It happens.

[@vgn_wrld3413]

but guess what, it doesnt mean she made the right decision.

[@peterhenriksson1512]

Men get attracted to what they see, women to what they feel.

[@Hitokiri1912]

I'd say it goes both ways

[@LEGOAgenda]

Not true only shallow men if you are like most do that .

[@Mxgalodonn]

Women also get attracted to what they hear

[@excalibro8365]

Can't feel what you can't see. Both men and woman value looks above all. The better your looks is, you can get away with having less in other areas.

[@benziongoldsmith7388]

you have to figure out if she feel attracted to you or she is attracted to how you make her feel about herself. you need it both ways and a realistic way to maintain both for a relationship(if both attractions aren't present it has no chanceto evolve to love [which not every woman is capable of]). if she is corrupt and/or vain than the one undermines the other.

[@DerTechNick]

From a guys perspective, wanting someone who is unpredictable and "full of mystery" is the worst thing you could do... I don't get it.

[@IvanKoretskyy]

I know right. Just keep in mind, men are simple that want simple. Women are complex that want complex. Guess what, I fucking hate giving complexity, I just want to live simple. Complexity breeds weakness because there's no answer. Simplicity breeds strength because it allows you to know.

[@christianrodriguez5346]

Brother because the reality is most woman that are young and immature are like this. Try this crap when they are older and mature and she won’t take you I guarantee it. If you are a long term guy ignore these types of girls. If you want short term girls then do exactly what he says in the vid. Key to a woman is literally nothing. Do you and live a healthy life. The right one meets you at the right time. I am 22 and I repel most girls my age cause I have a serious vibe. Women from 25 and up are super flirty and direct with me. Girls my age just want fun and experiment which I can’t do cause of my faith. If you are young talk to them but never look for something serious unless you found someone serious like you which is a different story.

[@justasgriskevicius3492]

I'm a guy, I'll tell you, you think this is crazy and I get it, but I used to be bullied in school, and there were a couple of friends that were always nice to me but i took them for granted and instead always tried to look cool and be liked by the bullies. I don't know how it works, but it's not female related. The same thing applies to onlyfans. There are porn sites that offer high quality HD 4K all different angles and perfect lighting of hot girls getting destroyed and yet onlyfans creators earn tens of millions of dollars from poorly shot videos of softcore porn. Whether it's hard to get or what, i don't know, but this mindset is all around us, and it doesn't just apply to girls

[@Denmosocial]

its almost like men and women are different

[@DerTechNick]

@@Denmosocial I get that not knowing something about a person has an intrinsic value which makes men more valuable as they could be much better in the unknown "stats" than anticipated. But women probably put way too much weight in that exploration value.

[@aishmusic91]

The problem I see with all of these "dating advice" experts on youtube, is that they all push for "playing the game" with women, but they completely miss the point of relationships, and were probably never truly in love with any women in their life. Dating is not for "fun", it's for finding a person who completes you, it's supposed to be intimate and with high stakes. It shouldn't be a "game" because people are not toys. If you use all of these "fancy tricks" on how to lure X amount of men or women into your "dating game", then all you will be left with in life, will be games and toys. Not with real genuine partners, who actually care about you enough to rescue you in your time of need.

[@DerSchakal523]

But 97 % of the guys can't get any woman w/o playing the game. It's the modern woman who forces them to play something.

[@aishmusic91]

​@@DerSchakal523 the only reason the modern woman forces men to play games, is because men agree to play games. If no men would be willing to play, women would have no choice but to return to decency and dignity in relationships. And that's the whole point - playing games isn't a solution, it's just band-aid that provides a short-term solution, to an otherwise deep and long-term problem. What's the point of getting a woman, if you pretend to be someone else? Neither she nor you will be happy with the result. You'll both just become miserable.

[@DerSchakal523]

@@aishmusic91 I agree with that. But from my point of view, it won't be helpful if one single man exits that game if all other men don't. This includes not only the 80 % of all men that are unattractive to women, but also the 3 % alpha chads. They won't quit. And this means, everybody is either forced to join the game or else to go MGTOW.

[@aishmusic91]

@@DerSchakal523 just now you agreed with my statements, which means you agreed that playing games leads to misery. So why is your conclusion that men have no choice other than WANT to become miserable? Once you objectify another person, you automatically objectify yourself as well. Not having a good partner is terrible, but having a bad partner is many times worse. There is no need for MGTOW, just stop playing games, focus on yourself, and if a good women approaches you, maybe give her some attention and see where that goes. Don't overplay your hand.

[@peterhenriksson1512]

What you search is what you find. If you have nothing more important to do you can make your life " a game" but playing games usually become boring in the long run.

[@ahmadkaien]

Learned this the HARD way. If she cheats with you, don't be surprised if she cheats with anyone else. If she's taken, she's off the table. No matter what, unless you just want a smash with 0 loyalty

[@thx1136]

You don't lose you girlfriend, you just lose your turn...

[@ermetetrismegisto5341]

I'm 38 and I'm just learning how to not give a fuck. I went to work in a supermarket just to get girls in their 20s 30s who cares. Just this morning I got kindly rejected from a girl but ehi who gives a fuck! The feeling of not beeing afraid anymore is so powerful. I'll try with another one tomorrow. If you are a man you can make your life beautiful. I'm 38 and I'm having the time of my life. I've never been happier!

[@hieronymusvonlipschitz]

You're 38! Thirty eight! This is high school level crap. Grow up

[@commodore6430]

Why are you going to work somewhere just to get women? No wonder you getting rejectee

[@dopefreshness77]

Why work at a supermarket just to pick up girls? That’s not how I choose my employment. Especially getting up there at 38 there’s gotta be a better way to find quality 20-30 year olds..

[@rand827]

​@@dopefreshness77 well lemme put yall onto some game...target, bath body works, Starbucks, etc on Saturday and Sunday mornings you'll find em in droves. Complaining about bullshit. Like getting kicked out from the bottomless mimosa brunch. Just put on ur best cargo shorts and Magellan shirt and hit them parkin lots!!

[@RoscoetheGreat]

I stole a dudes girl and I only figured out why that dude didn’t give af that I did😆 sometimes hooking up with these girls feels like clapping a soulless bag of blood and bones, it’s not very enjoyable, finding girls with the same morals, respect, and value for themselves as you do is the best advice I could give, and you definitely won’t get that from another man’s woman if she gives you the chance, I’ve also noticed that what I used to think were 10s are actually solid 5s, and what I used to think were 5s are usually solid 10s, so look outside of the box a little

[@artcruz5603]

🔥 🔥 🔥

[@TylerN-ce6to]

The older you get as a man, the more you realize integrity and intelligence is in short supply in the dating pool, and you start to value it a lot more. Hot women are extremely overrated - they bring SO MANY headaches into your life.

[@te9591]

Sure, it's not you making them soulless?

[@RichObiQuan]

interesting, i actually agree. been thru similar.

[@dissident112]

Women who pass themselves around in their 20's and can't really pair bond really just sabotage their long term happiness, because self respecting men can see through their nonsense.... the only guys that will put a finger on them will be the ones who they don't really want. They don't really understand this though... society and culture doesn't teach them any of this, it's all "you go girl" nonsense from the left and peer pressure from social groups to increase body counts.

[@BarronBarca]

If she can leave him for you then she can leave you for another. Never think you’re any different in a cheaters eyes.

[@Zenz_Mz]

I’m almost 25 and I’ve learned you gotta be clear and direct in a playful way and play it hella cool if anything happens(she wants you too, rejects you, friendzones, etc.)

[@Ace.0.0.0.]

True that. Old guy here. When dealing with all people, be 1)polite, honest, direct. Even when it's tough. 2) have the spine to enforce point 1. Have reasonable boundaries. Even when it's tough. Do this by standing your ground, or leaving as the case may be. Don't trash others, and put yourself first.

[@overnightdelivery]

I think you also need to be able to handle rejection as if doesn't bother you at all. Impossible not to be upset on the inside but if you shrug it off the outside, she may even change her mind thinking she made a mistake. Since you acted like she wasn't the big deal that she thought she was.

[@Ace.0.0.0.]

@@overnightdelivery I concur. Yrs ago I had a GF who fired me. Instead of begging with her to take me back, I only said something like so we're done? Thanks for the memories. Then I showed her to my door. I could tell this was not how she anticipated things would go. Soon after she re-hired me. Although I never re-applied.

[@Shah-of-the-Shinebox]

If she's willing to leave one guy for another, its definately a habit for her.

[@metalspinda9594]

I'm 37 and I am coming into actually a lot of resistance and abrasive behavior from women...versus being COMPLETELY ignored by them 2 years and 10 pounds ago. So I suppose I've still got work to do. But at least things are changing for me!

[@zxorizonn_3111]

keep going u got this!

[@Blast_XRP]

36 here fam! A wise man once said better late than never. Let’s do this!

[@commodore6430]

Yeah but that isn't good. That means that they don't like you.

[@metalspinda9594]

@commodore6430 Your point? If 10 pounds lighter finally made me visible to women, what do you imagine 30 pounds lighter will do? Feedback in the field is valuable information any way it comes! It can't help you if you aren't willing to look at your shortcomings constructively once they've come to light as a result. I'M on a mission! 😎

[@commodore6430]

@metalspinda9594 the point is that if you don't fix what your issue is, you're just going to make life harder. Like it's cool that you're out there and stuff, but I'd rather be not out there at all then just digging ditches making my life twice as hard

[@donaldjohnson-ow3kq]

it's always just your turn. Remember - the last 10 guys were also her "soulmate" lol

[@nathanlawlor627]

I'm 24 next month, I've typically always been the 'nice guy' and in hindsight I've always put way too much focus on the girl. Ive been part of the Socializer community for over a month now and my whole mindset on dating has changed. I've started to put the focus on everything that's going well for me and I've stopped giving as much attention to the girls. This mindset has actually helped me secure a date and I see more enjoyment with the girls now instead of feeling so much pressure

[@albertlevins9191]

Man. I needed this channel 20 years ago. You are doing God's work. People who take your advice will get a shortcut in life. I know most of this stuff, and I still watch just to see if you know something that I don't. You usually do. Keep up the good work man!

[@arturofernandez725]

39. This has happened a few times but I put it together when I was 33. Went to a bar to meet a friend and ran into a girl who I only met once. She was a friend of a friend and she was there with some guy. She came up to me and said "you're so and so's friend" and I said yeah that's me. And she said I see you're doing MMA now? And I responded almost, BJJ. I was not dressed to impress at all, but she ditched the guy, came back to a friend's house that we both knew, we hooked up, and then I drove her home in the morning. Just be natural.

[@MegaAvalonn]

Stories like these don't help me at all. All they do is make me hate women, which isn't good. Yes, I get it, I'm sure there's methods to winning female attraction, but I can't help but to get disgusted when women behave as you describe. It's like you have to appease their "inner cavewoman" to get ahead. It's not a pleasant thought or feeling. It has a way of hardening the soul and turning your heart into iron.

[@commodore6430]

Bruh that's a choice. You obviously don't understand female nature well enough because if you did you'd know women have been like this since the dawn of time. God made them this way so you better accept that before you become bitter asf

[@user-fe2bu5pq5t]

As a woman I'm curious why you think this way?

[@notreallyafamousartist695]

@@user-fe2bu5pq5t what.. did u not watch the video and here what she did, sure “she didn’t owe him anything” but u do owe humanity , she used him then dropped him and smashed another guy . She’s narcissistic and hedonistic. This guy is also a hedonist. Why on earth would any guy lead with love and be a gentleman when THIS happens. This is why mega said that, it’s disgusting

[@PatagoniaAries]

​@user-fe2bu5pq5t because it's truth, if you study history

[@floki5605]

​@user-fe2bu5pq5t I think because he realizes how superficial dating is. It's not even necessarily a guy thing, more so a dating thing. There is no "true" love, because everything is contingent on winning her over. And if she finds something better, she will leave (like the girl left her friend to go hang out with jack).

[@SpacemanCaveman]

35. Always had some success in my twenties with long dry spells. Got married at 26 and divorced several years ago. She left for a lesbian impact play dom. No kidding. Reentering the dating scene was brutal at first (doesn't help that I'm 5'4") but with some dedicated self-improvement in all aspects, strategic use of dating apps, and not giving a fuck things picked up substantially. I'm now with a woman who I truly to believe is the love of my life. My biggest regret was marrying at 26. If I had known then what I know now about women, my god, what my twenties could have been. Not to mention I'd be about 100K richer. Guys, please do not marry until after 30, if ever.

[@mrrespect4874]

I’m 21 years old, I recently discovered self respect and stopped being a pushover because of it after getting dumped by my ex. But now I have a problem of thinking all women are self centred, ungrateful, narcissists. I don’t believe when a women tells me something anymore unless I have heavy trust in certain women, I only go off of what I believe they want or need rather then what they say they want because of it. Any solutions towards this problem, am I right or wrong in my ways

[@sasapetroski981]

Don't waste your 20s on chasing girls, find job you like and start earn money, in your 30s then when you have money start with chase girls

[@christianrodriguez5346]

I have the same thing. Don’t believe a word a woman says. Pay attention to what she does. Live your life in a healthy manner and continue being you. Eventually they come to you.

[@karsynupton6787]

Actions are louder than words, if she wants to, most of the time she will, even the shyer ones

[@christianrodriguez5346]

@@karsynupton6787 If a woman truly wants you she comes to you. If she doesn’t it is cause she has entitlement issues so you dodged a bullet or she sees you as an option but nothing more. They always go after their priority target. I attracted a ton of them that are my age but they don’t commit with me since I am a serious dude and I have a backbone. I don’t tolerate bs. Chicks 24+ are super direct with me and flirty. If anything they are way better than the 22 year olds cause they are more developed physically and emotionally. I compared experiences. The key is to attract women to you and show you got options. If you got options she has to prove her worth. Always ignore them btw. They feed off of attention if you don’t give it to them they get nuts so fast that they will do anything in their power to get into your cone of vision so you come to them. I experienced this first hand with one once. All you got to do is break her to your will. Never approach them. Let her come unless she is shy cause those won’t break. The outgoing ones though never let them in unless you want something casual and nothing serious. The outgoing ones are never long term chicks and are the ran through ones. Quiet ones are good for long term. It depends on you as to what you want to do and what you want as to short term or long term. I have always been a long term guy so I practically ignore all types a majority of women to begin with cause most aren’t worth it. There are a lot out there for casual though. It depends on your preferences.

[@christianrodriguez5346]

@@karsynupton6787 they don’t recognize it either that they are doing it too. They mentally prepare themselves to do things but they don’t realize they are doing things physically different which shows their true intentions to the guy if he is aware. For the love of God btw if anyone sees this, if she ever says she is busy block her immediately. No one is busy that they can’t communicate with you. Literally that is the biggest lie in the world cause you are telling me they can’t talk even for 5 minutes out of 24 hours in a day. Biggest cap that so many guys fall for.

[@Sh0ckmaster]

I'm fairly sure I've been that guy that lost the girl to some other dude before. I'm smart enough to have at least ghosted and walked away rather than simp for her though, which is a small crumb of comfort. These days I've definitely learned a lot about what women are like. I hated using dating apps, so all my approaches were done the old fashioned way and when I met my current girlfriend it was at a singles event. I spoke with her and her friend and a few others, but she was the only one I felt was worth pursuing so on a whim I asked for her phone number as she was leaving. That was mid-December and we're still together.

[@Sixsoul]

I've been both dudes. Neither is a good feeling. Maybe I have too much empathy but I feel nearly as bad when I'm in the good spot as the bad spot cause I know what the bad spot feels like. That said I'll take the good spot every time no way in hell am I ever going back to the bad one. Better him than me I guess

[@soccerguy5581]

That's honourable

[@brixby1593]

Denmo here putting some banger content as always 🔥

[@MetalDrummer666]

I’m 25 and I’m a musician as well. I don’t typically go out to talk to girls, hence why I’m watching your videos so it’s usually dating apps. I’ve had similar things happen to me before. My first two relationships were emotionally abusive so now I’m more timid with women. Trying to change it though because I’m sick of relationships not working out and women walking away when I don’t want to. I’m glad I found your channel bro. Your content is genuinely making me rethink things and restructure my life, goals, and abilities

[@nathanlawlor627]

Yo dude, that sounds tough! I guarantee when you start enjoying your life without girls, it becomes way more fun hanging out with girls and setting up dates. Also, being brutally honest, you've got to drop the dating app and get out there in the real world to build your confidence

[@MetalDrummer666]

@@nathanlawlor627 I made a point the go out after work today and talk to a few girls. Talked to one girl that was really sweet and it was really easy and she seemed into it. Made me happy. I gotta do it more and it’ll be even easier. I’ll ditch the dating apps soon. I paid for one like an idiot and so far no luck of course. I’m trying to talk to them with zero expectations and it takes a lot of the pressure off honestly. Still currently in a slump but the more I do this, the better it’ll get

[@Hitokiri1912]

Don't look for girls just keep improving yourself and focus on your music

[@HirokiPlays]

From my experience, if you can steal her, she will be stolen. The best thing you can do is go through life neutral and naturally until you meet someone that you both click with each other. There should never be an expectation of someone else in a 2 person relationship. When it comes to dating, sure, but not at the serious stage. As they say, easy come easy go.

[@FineAsHell]

Currently 21 years old and living with my future wife. I started my self improvement journey back in highschool, so like 5-6 years ago. I began to step out my comfort zone everytime i had the occasion and that completly changed my perspective on life. From the introvert shy skinny no purpose in life nice guy i used to be i became the man that works everyday towards his goals and that reflected into my dating life as well. I think the best lesson i learned is that in order to get the girls you must not chase the girls. Live your day by day life, work on your purpose, keep doing what you must do as a man and one day you will find the one you are looking for.

[@trqster]

I'm a gent in my late 40s and I tell you Denmo knows his sh*t! I used to be just your average mr. nice guy up until my late 30s when the switch flipped, after getting red pilled and let me tell you young lads out there, I had the time of my life dating many younger attractive women for a few years. Now I'm 'settling down' with a +20y younger beutiful woman and life is great. Because you're a man and it's never too late. Work out, eat healthy, learn game, grind and enjoy the life you're born to live!

[@Davethegoat19]

Dang bro you aleast look in your late 20s

[@trqster]

@@Davethegoat19 Hahah I wish, but tbh can't deny looking younger helps approaching younger women

[@Twisthiphop]

Love the audio, the new videos' idea sounds great but we love the raw ones too

[@oscarreyes1056]

I'm 26 and when I was 25 I took this girl out who I went to high school with and not being able to escalate and be flirty. On one date she would tell me about how this other guy from her work was taking her to Lake Tahoe and spending a few days together. This made me lose some attraction and made me want to pursue her less (how tf you telling me you'll be spending intimate time with another dude?). Looking back, this was a double nice guy scenario, the other guy planned everything for them and she didn't seem too excited about it and I was just too 'friendly' with her too make her feel anything romantic. I guess this is why women will choose the chad every time because every other guy doesn't excite them.

[@johnmendoza5907]

This cut like a knife. Facts. Thank you for sharing.

[@erikmisenis9702]

21 and I constantly keep rejecting women. Have had quite a few women try make moves but I’d much rather focus on my financial goals rather than waste time hooking up with random women. Not sure if I’ve got the right approach to it, since I do question myself about it sometimes, but my gut always just tells me to stay focused on my goals and ignore women for now at least

[@TumeloKhumalo33]

I swear I'm you from another reality. I'm also 21 with good looks and I'm constantly rejecting women. I won't lie, sometimes it's because I feel like she will get bored easily and leave once she gets to know me. But most of the time I reject them because I'm not where I want to be in life, hence I'm on a self improvement journey. I pray we succeed with not only women but in all aspects in/of life👍💯

[@erikmisenis9702]

@@TumeloKhumalo33 Cheers to that brother🥂

[@RiderZer0]

Be careful. I did the same thing. I’m now 31 and worth a couple million. But I kept the close friends I had and generally stayed away from women. Now my friends all the left the state. I’m in a place where I have money, but I now have to restart making friends, and finding real true friends is very difficult. Maintain your goals and social life. It’s a balance.

[@giovannisalamon2706]

48 year old cafetaria loner at work. Have tried talking to some girls in the cafetaria. Your videos resonate with the social dynamics at work so I am watching them. Sometimes you need to see the forest for the trees and this can offer some perspective.

[@octaviustoliver-flient3374]

I'm 20 years old and I started learning to break through nice guy syndrome over a year ago. It was arguably the best thing that ever happened to me.

[@portman8909]

Nice guy syndrome is a meme. Being ugly = nice guy.

[@tooks9281]

I experienced this so many time. First time I got my reality check in my 20s when I met girl and she was ready to leave her bf after all he did for her. We knew each other only for month.

[@Bammyy]

21, I used to watch this channel a LOT before my girlfriend chose me. I'm attractive and I've never dated before, I didn't even have to try. I just didn't bother with girls and a girl randomly came to me

[@Denmosocial]

atta boy so my videos helped you I assume?

[@Bammyy]

@@Denmosocial yep, focused on myself

[@expiredfroyo]

Ain’t no way the legend replies

[@ThatMexicanGuyLuis]

27 here, I’ve realized I get more attention but also I’ve been thru a lot learning about myself. Just recently I got the grasp of speaking to women outward directed. I could bet on this, the best women to speak with are the ones who wanna talk to you. I don’t wanna confuse guys n let them jus go about there business without talking to girls or people in general. The BEST dates, friendships, relationships are when the girl has an interest in you from the glance or just how you spoke to her. But usually for me if I don’t feel like there’s fuego at the start I’ll follow thru with the process of getting the number or date

[@anisenkrill6179]

I'm 50. The 90's were easy when I was in my early 20's and I figured out how to approach. Even back then, most guys were using friend circle or bar game. I think cold approach is still far superior today for many reasons number one being that so few guys do it.

[@equinoxb8711]

Did the same. Ruined a marriage. Caused so much drama and sadness. Thing is, it was up to me as a man to stop the destruction of her marriage... She actually didn't even try. In the end he took her back and had another kid with her. The lesson here is that there're so many single women, no one should steal someone else's wife or gf

[@alextrainor2552]

Ive had three married women, two of which i fell in love with. They absolutely throw themselves at you. Marriage makes some women miserable and desperate for attention. They will leave once their done with you tho, no matter how much they told you they loved you.

[@brandonhonaker5493]

32 and I was that guy who lost my girl to another man but it’s one of the best things that can happen you as a young man

[@Darbas67CHO]

16, had to move schools several times, that's when I learned to quit the "nice me". Though at every school, I have always been the only "different" guy who had the balls to even approach a bunch of girls so they fall for me easy since the other guys are too afraid to ask them out themselves. I wish more dudes my age would at least try to socialize with the girls.

[@miguelzamora2011]

I’m 31. I’ve been cheated on, I’ve cheated, and I’ve been the one she cheats with. I can’t trust anyone

[@harpersnyder2297]

Same here bro. World's too crazy. I never knew these things growing up but now.. man, sometimes it feels like i want to stay being a child forever bro

[@kirjuschaks]

Faithfulness is not the same for men an women. Men can exercise sexual options and still love their girl. Girls cheating is the highest form of betray

[@cocorico128]

"ignorance is bliss! Why oh why didn't I take the Blue pill?"

[@dissident112]

People realize our raw genetic nature and the true nature of incarnating on this planet as any species... life is savage. Nature doesn't care about your feelings. It goes against the narrative of the socialist utopians who claim to understand "the science" but they really don't. Nature doesn't care about the religious right's moral commandments, or the woke left's philosophy on accepting 80 genders.... they are both philosophies of control. Raw nature is survival of the fittest. The people who run societies keep people in a carefully constructed box as a method of control through cultural brainwashing. Break free of the box.

[@schuylerjones1099]

21. Got out of a 16 month relationship in January. I was a little rusty getting back into the dating scene. I tried cold approaches as well as dating apps. Girls I met in person tended to be more accountable as far as following through on plans. However I did have some good luck on hinge. Just had a 3rd date with a girl I met there and it’s going really well. My dating advice would be to have as much fun as you can on the date. Don’t be afraid to plan something unusual or spontaneous and splurge a bit because you’re only young once and you’ll make some good memories. Some recent dates I went on was a fancy rooftop bar, comedy show, PopStroke (mini golf place), and feeding the ducks at a park and cuddling up in a hammock after.

[@mikieemiike3979]

Don't be too eager. I've been the ugly guy with no swag that no chick wanted as an adolescent to a man that women would pursue in my 20's. I literally had girls asking me out. Girls would tell my sister that I was attractive etc. I'm married now and my wife always tells me not to flirt with chicks while I'm running errands. Lol I'm a mild flirt but I keep my distance. I'm not naive I'm sure my wife would talk to an attractive guy, but we're both respectful to each other. We've both been there and done that been screwed over and appreciate our honesty and loyalty toward each other.

[@jimmillhouse5912]

I disagree with the term stole. This implies that she had no choice in the matter, like stealing a horse. If she obliges to leave you for him, she wasn’t stolen from you; she made a choice.

[@JustkoolFOREVERK00LMK]

Denmo is back🔥

[@cc_par]

you know something about this really resonates with me. i was in a situationship with this pretty girl who honestly i really liked… but she would keep inviting me over to sleep over and cuddle for like 2 months. in all reality it was a good situation but i said yes EVERYTIME because i was lonely and bored with my life. she definitely picked up on this eventually and decided not to see me anymore. it sucks because if i was in a better mental space it wouldve had a better chance of being a successful relationship but yeah really good point there. make it casual and convenient rather than a primary focus.

[@RonnieD1982]

hey man that was not the lesson. No offense but the lesson was to give it to her in those 2 months. You know that. Make that your primary focus: Not suppressing your masculinity when it screams at you. That's the real lesson there. How do I know? Well in your comment you described a situtation I had had to a T. There's something else 🙂You'll find yourself in such a situation again mark my words. Do not suppress your instincts then.

[@jesusvargas9242]

You could probably simplify it by saying, be yourself without expecting to get a girl. Basically be friendly towards girls you’re interested in but also don’t cling to them or you’ll look desperate. Have hobbies have things that interest you, go do them and be social enough to get some outside attention. Once that’s done you might have an opportunity to naturally talk to girls, even when talking to them don’t expect a relationship. Having a personality is probably better than simping and relationships don’t start over night… well some might, but usually that only works for some people

[@kingasif9265]

I’m 32 and never had a gf!

[@mannycalavera1848]

This was by far one of the worst redpill stories I have ever heard. Just the idea of me being in the skin of that guy, makes me never want to try dating with a girl ever. You can't expect anything from them.

[@Jakensik]

SAME!

[@KubiG1000]

I'm afraid it was over for that guy even before she met Denmo in the gym, he and the time she spent with him was just a slightly better option for her than sitting at home alone watching some Netflix. And all this time she was probably 'looking for other options'

[@bigz5262]

Not all women are like this ho from the story

[@RD24LFG]

Yeah this guy just spouts mumbo jumbo. He proves the red pull is correct then goes on to say, "But go out there and do it anyway". No dude. No man with a brain should be focusing on these modern women. They are hot garbage.

[@thiagoexe8780]

You're right. You shouldn't invest in a girl who is not interested in you, hoping that she will develop feelings for you. She will not. It makes you look needy. Accept women's nature and try to see things from their perspective. Just like in the video.

[@fritagonia]

I am 32 years here, having a hard time taking action and mostly thinking about the past and the social skills I used to have.

[@cxa011500]

I'm 44 and still trying to figure this stuff out. 😮‍💨 I've been that other guy. It made me bitter towards women and turned off to relationships overall. 😒 There's nothing wrong with a chick choosing to be with someone else, but it's screwed up for a chick to take stuff from a guy she knows she's not really interested in when she probably knows he's interested in her. The more I learn about how we have to do certain things to make women interested in us, the more exhausted and just disinterested I feel.

[@KoreanChocoBoy]

I dated a girl who was married and I could feel that she was trying to mold me into her ex. I got fat, she was talking down on me, and eventually she broke up with me. She broke up with her ex at least 10 times and I realized if I got back with her, I’m going to become another version of him. So I decided to turn her down even though I’m not the type to do that. After that relationship I haven’t really pushed for a relationship because I’ve decided to pursue women who are more reserved and socially awkward, but majority of the time those kinds of women are not attracted to me. I’m also reserved as well, so no one really initiates anything 😂. None of my exes asked me out, but they’ve always kind of pushed it or made it super obvious. I’m 32 and I hope it happens for me this year and hopefully I can push for more confidence.

[@jessejordache1869]

I was 23 when I figured out how to not exactly be masculine, but establish myself in a sexual context. It's complicated and involves playing a psychological trick on myself. Uh --- yeah. You want to be FUN. You also have to be completely indifferent to how she thinks of you, because people don't judge you -- you judge other people (that's the psychological trick). So if you were talking about a girl you were interested to a friend, and they said "what do you think she thinks about you?", the correct answer is "Oh I don't know, I mean, that's not really something I think about." If you can psyche yourself into this, you'll find women you're talking to, regardless of who approached whom (it'll be about 50/50) literally leaning so far backwards that you can literally make a joke about it. "so what else do you... whoa, I feel like I should dip you or something." It just completely changes the dynamic: maybe your eyes look different when they're in "observer" mode.

[@FirstLast-yv7wu]

I’m 22 I was born with natural charisma n characteristics that lead me to be popular in school and help with dating. It wasn’t until I learned the psychology behind dating and frame where my game started to get bulletproof. It’s genuinely too easy now their is no chase on my end, gives me a lot more time to build myself up and focus on me while still having a fruitful dating life that once you get good enough basically runs on auto pilot where the only maintenance is sex(could be worse).

[@damageinc8441]

Raw dog videos are good my bro. Actually all your videos are great keep rockin you’re my inspiration

[@ExtremeFighter]

Voice is crisp and dope af my man 🫡

[@GameTime-yj6qv]

You make great points. I'm over 40 and married. But when I was young i struggled so much talking to girls and getting dates. That changed when i was just myself and put no pressure on myself to get the girl. Girls like someone who is confident and takes charge, but at the same time is considerate of their needs. It helps if you are funny and are a great listener.

[@StockySnail]

Good tip about talking about the environment. I typically think too much and as you said, need an excuse to walk up to a lady and talk to her. I also have too many older friends that don't like to go out where other people might be at. I've been in all positions of that guy, stolen a girl, friend zoned, etc, and now I just act like myself. I occasionally get excited and fall back to people pleasing and need a slap to get myself out of it and watch a video like this. Online dating is a little toxic (or maybe a lot) as women's expectations seem like they are super high and a guy needs to do everything they see as correct/right, even if it's not necessarily what they will actually be attracted to so sometimes they self sabotage.

[@Crvzy.T]

This vid deserves more attention

[@glassalbertina]

30. Interesting discussion of finding balance between standing up for one’s self and avoiding becoming what you hate

[@xxbeast6073]

21 years old. What matters most in game is strategy, tactics and how you carry yourself

[@TheYoungMontana]

I've been on both sides. Girls I bought tickets for never slept with me and I've gotten girls when I didn't try. Funny thing is that I actually friendzoned a girl myself who bought me concert tickets to go see Green Day.

[@commodore6430]

You want and saw green day? You must not be getting any pussy 😂

[@colegreenleaf9791]

I'm 27 now and I am finally confident around women. Here are my 2 pieces of advice 1. If you have women in your workspace just talk to them, it doesn't matter if they are cute or ugly, skinny or fat, short or tall. You'll learn to lose the putting her on a pedestal thing because you'll come to realize a girl is just a person. They wake up and pit their pants on the same way you do, they have problems, they aren't perfect. 2. In regards to talking to a woman you are attracted to thing this "Thought is the killer of flow" I use this musically but I use it especially when talking to women, don't come to the conversation looking for an outcome, just take it easy and see where the conversation flows naturally, women love to talk, so ask questions. Not just simple things like what's your favorite color but why is it your favorite color and what does it remind you of. That's a whole 30 min conversation in those 3 questions. Also don't over stay your welcome when it feels like the conversation is dying out, say alright I have to go let's talk some other time. It's not hard

[@treznor6992]

My lesson i learned that brass knuckles break your ocular bone, then it fills with blood like a balloon when you sneeze :D

[@treymarwieh-ji7bj]

im 16, and ive learned in a matter of about 2 months how to interact and flirt with women, started with just throwing pickup lines at the local college campus and walkin around my local area to sittin around flirtin and crackin jokes with every women, im confident ive just not gotten the success i want.

[@TheWarRoom]

A good thing to remember is that you can/will lose them the same way you "catch" them. Lead with your money, she'll leave you for a dude who has more. Engage with a cheater, she will "cheat" on you. Win her over because you're an awesome, authentic dude and you're in the game.

[@bye_robin6]

Thank you for this video unc

[@arroww1323]

I’m 20 second year of college, 5’11 good looking after 3 years at the gym. I’m confident around girls, got a good amount of female friends but no luck with girls. Idk maybe because I’m going after quality girls 🤷🏻‍♂️ Never had a girl show open interest even know I’m social asf

[@AroundTheKurt]

Love QOTSA! Nice taste there, buddy

[@brennen4830]

24, My girl of 4 years who I thought I was gonna marry cheated on me with her coworker. Horrible, down on the floor depressed man. I was very confident before this and treated her very well- did about 80% of leg work in the relationship. On my purpose making 6figs and I’ve been going to the gym causally for 5 years. I’m now lower than I’ve ever been but tryna make it work and find that light at the end of the tunnel.

[@misspriss4439]

Save u the trouble. Anyone worth having can't b stolen. Js

[@WitoldWitkowski-fi9vp]

You cannot steal a dude's girl unless she wants to be stolen. Women are experts at putting the blame on the man for their own actions

[@jasonspesak8349]

39 years old now, from 21 to 34 my confidence and good sense of conversation will skills allow me to slay, and I definitely ended up with girls that were above my typical grade just because I was the one who had the balls to walk up to him and try. However, I will say Covid and this online push has changed everything and essentially just fucked it all up.

[@robbytheartist3997]

My wife has BPD. We found this out when we where married. She tended to be promiscuous in her past. I asked to seek treatment, but she refused. Even if it is a from childhood trauma, it is no excuse. I ended up leaving as her emotions and behaviors became to much. She immediately was talking to and with another guy within a week. The abandonment issues are real, I learned that her biggest fear is being alone.

[@esaualfaro3447]

I just turned 30. I still struggle with all this stuff, mostly because I´m very insecure with women. It even become a bit worse when I was very determined to use dating apps and go on dates. SO many women ghosting, but still got many numbers. Only went on a couple dates (no problem, that is normal...) but one looks NOTHING like her pictures and her life is a mess, the other used me for money. Being honest, I´ve been in both places. I´ve been the guy she chose instead of someone else, and I´ve also been the guy the woman don´t want to be with. I believe that is natural.. there´s also been women that are REALLY interested in me, but I just don´t find attractive at all. About my hobbies, I like drawing, gaming, martial arts.

[@davidw.5185]

I lost my 20 year marriage and family. He and my wife worked together. He was unhappy. My wife was unhappy. Together they blew up two families. He could have cheated with a single woman, but he pursued my wife. My ex could have cheated with a single man, but she blew up another woman's marriage.

[@bradpirochta9293]

I worked at a restaurant in a college town. Go to the bar with some coworkers, and end up hooking up with a waitress I had no idea was interested in me before that night. What I didn't know was that one on my coworkers was infatuated with her, but she had shunned him on multiple occasions. Ends up she was just using me to drive home the point that she wasn't interested in him. He was a good guy, but he was broken.

[@jorgenmagnusson6217]

I think the most important thing is to approach with your intentions from the beginning and if she is not down you just move on. If your intentions are being with her romantically but you plan to be her friend first and work up from there etc you will probably waste your time. Be honest with your intentions from the start.

[@MarkBoda]

Great insight! For some strange reason I feel that perhaps it’s more sinister in that you could have been the one to instigate the whole situation. Since when you asked her about the concert, it wasn’t certainty that she would be going, thus maybe she only said yes to him because she knew you’d be there. Shared excuses if you will. Interesting…

[@CyberWisdom2.0]

I'm 20, Can't talk to females easily

[@rafirenteria]

I got a little sad after you explained what was going on 💀

[@autokar123]

great stuff as always daddy. audio is perfecto

[@JohnSmith-ij4xe]

Never be needy and act like you don’t care even if you really do. Am like a magnet and I don’t even try then friends of friends also want me. Treat women with respect and don’t talk and when you talk do more listening and remember what she says. Also read between the lines as that’s when they are the most honest with you as women will lie to you directly but indirectly tell you the truth.

[@portman8909]

Lol so much bs.

[@thedonwu]

i like ur subtitle work

[@Riptidee]

same way you got em, same way you'll lose em.

[@stevenayare6097]

I am 23 and I have been watching jack since his YT prank days, I thought I’d be the younger one 😂

[@emmanuelarthur4722]

Im 16 and I experienced that before doing everything for this one girl and expecting her to be my girlfriend but yeah getting my heart broken led to me wanting to become the 1% of men and going on this self improvement journey

[@MalikCalisthenics]

I am 16 yo and i joined you're community to improve my social skills. I Cold approached one new girl 3 days ago.

[@Denmosocial]

hell yeah brother. glad to hear

[@LGray71]

32 this month and definately have had nice guy tendancies in the past and other lads have ended up getting the girl I want. Looking back, I should've known better after all the videos like this I've watched. Definately learned a lot of lessons from my experiences though

[@lonwestover]

I'm 64, but I've been in both positions. Of course years ago. Enjoyed listening to your story.

[@PaulClipMaster]

Yes, I've had women with boyfriends and husbands come onto me many times. A woman is never really "yours". At best, you are the best available option she has "right now" based on her needs, wants, and goals "right now" which can change any time. Women are most attracted to men who's feelings are unclear. They like a puzzle, adventure, or challenging project. That's all you really need to know about women. When it comes to dealing with women as a man, only focus on yourself and what you want from them and only reward compliance and respect. This approach will make your behavior with women automatically attractive without having to try.

[@joshdodd8686]

Im 23 going to be 24 and i feel like my nice guy mentality is pushing this girl I like at work away to another guy

[@bigrunts9768]

Some dude in the comments just said that his girlfriend of 5 years left him for her dance partner 🤦‍♂️

[@thomaw360]

The band you mentioned is really good man, I never heard of it here in Brazil.

[@startek119]

Man it’s like the more I learn and more women i date the sadder I get.