I Studied SELF ESTEEM In Thousands Of Clients & Learned This...

Most people ignore this, but they really shouldn't... This video highlights the top 3 mistakes that destroy self esteem!
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Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!
His record-breaking programs Transformation Mastery, Transformation Mastery Live, Transformation Mastery Live Advanced, Transformation Mastery Academy & Transformation Mastery Mentoring help people around the world achieve the HEALTH, WEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS & HAPPINESS they deserve!
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I Studied SELF ESTEEM In Thousands Of Clients & Learned This...
How to raise your self esteem and build self confidence! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals the root cause of low self-esteem and how you can improve your self-esteem today... A clear-cut, easy-to-follow process!
This video will teach you how to be confident and how to be more confident in yourself by increasing your self esteem and your self worth.
Discover the root cause of low self esteem and how you can improve your self esteem today!
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[@JulienHimself]

95% of people struggle with self esteem! 👉 This video will provide you with a new approach to raising your self confidence and self worth! 👉 BOOK YOUR FREE COACHING CALL: bit.ly/2S9YVum 🚨 WATCH ME NEXT - The cause of social anxiety: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jGfPqKqQjZyhnNk - My favorite social anxiety challenge: kzbin.info/www/bejne/d4bNZ5qEZdRnrbc - My full STEP-BY-STEP social skills method: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pnS9lX2ffLiebsk

[@TransMeditation]

Letting Go done correctly is so so valuable, I cannot find words for it. It helped me so tremendously in making self confidence more and more permanent and still is helping after 1 year of practicing it whenever facing situations that challenge my confidence. Incredible.

[@davemccombs]

Boilerplate CTA, likes his own post too, shameful little scam

[@brooooooo404]

hey Julien great point and I would add something. I think the outer and middle rings are not completely useless, if used correctly they can make a really cool synergy while you transform your inner self. Upward and downward changes can reinforce each other.

[@aviapoIis]

Listening RSD Blueprint Decoded and Transformation Mastery gave me the the most profound experience of my life, that I can only describe as reaching the "Esteem Bubble".❤ Most people use shrooms to get to experience what 10/10 Unconditional Self-Acceptance/Love feels like, when essentially its just one of those mental muscles that we all have and can cultivate and maintain with our daily actions, influences and routines towards the more positive.💪 You can always tell how strong your mental muscles / emotional bank account is, whether its: Shame vs Esteem, Fear vs Courage, Hopelessness vs Faith&Adventure Frame, Complaining vs Gratitude, Aimlessness vs Discipline/Focus/Motivation, Derping&Distractions vs Presence, Isolation vs Social Momentum&Togetherness Bubble and so on. When you reach 9-10/10 levels of any of those states temporarily or more permanently as a state setpoint, you just feel amazing and alive, just like sauna and cold showers often give you that "10/10 Health&Energy Bubble" spike compared to how you feel 2/10 after that all-night netflix binge full of cheetos, caffeine and alcohol at 4AM. Just weak and bankrupt energy wise. But for me finally cultivating that Unconditional Self-Esteem, Self-Acceptance and Core Self-Worth at the core identity level, has been the best thing in my life. I hope that Tyler And Julien would hype up even more how radical transformation it can be to change your entire self-worth and self-image, because most self-development just focus on managing negative thoughts, emotions and actions on a superficial surface level that will never lead into that massive change of your whole worldview and how you experience life in a totally new, healthier, happier and lighter way. Now its crazy for me that no one is talking about this! But sadly, its probably because almost everyone are still experiencing that deep heaviness and unworthiness as their default emotional state set point, because of how common traumas and social conditioning are nowadays. Most people rather mutilate themselves with hormones and surgeries than reconnect back into that total sense of unconditional love we once had and also felt towards ourselves. That feeling you get when you are in love and in a new relationship, should be how you feel towards yourself all the time. Just something you deserve by default, and should never need any qualifications or reasons for. My best wishes for everyone that are on the journey to reclaim that part of themselves back into their life.❤ Along with Blueprint Decoded and Transformation Mastery, this meditation/exercise was also the most helpful resource in my journey to experience that first "10/10 Esteem Bubble" of total unconditional self-acceptance/love for the first time. I made a remix of it for free to make it even more enjoyable way to practice cultivating Unconditional Self-Esteem daily/weekly and to maintain those gains for anyone interested. kzbin.info/www/bejne/qGjMm6ZrjL9shq8

[@teamhop]

Hey guys I’ve got some really great news to share with you, Jesus Christ, the Son of God, died on a cross and resurrected on the third day so you may all have eternal life. If you believe and repent of your sins and put your faith and trust in Him as you would a parachute jumping off a plane at 25000 feet up in the air, He will give you eternal life in heaven as a free gift and I promise you, He will change your life forever as He did mine. He is the ONLY way to heaven and He loves you all. Please think deeply about this with urgency because this is your eternal life and soul, you don’t know when you could die, meaning you could die at any moment, so please consider this with all your heart. If anyone tells you that Jesus isn’t the only way, they are lying to you and they don’t care about your future. Thx for reading

[@davidfarnell512]

Shoutout to the guy who’s dad left, I don’t know how he held it together like that. I haven’t been through any of that, but I’d have been crying like a five year old girl with a skinned knee.

[@princeamu]

Yea that shit hurts real bad

[@stacielivinthedream8510]

Thank you for being a real man with feelings! ❤️😍🥰😇🙏😊🌝🤩💯💥

[@guaranteedV]

A real person with real feelings who also seems to know about how a five-year-old girl with a skinned knee cried at least one time in her life. That's precious.

[@rtinmotion]

I thought the same thing! I was crying enough for both of us. Lol God bless him

[@debbiebrown872]

Goodness graceous that made me CRY!!

[@reforma720]

To the young man that talked about his father and admitting that he thought he was a loser and no one likes him, that was very brave to admit in a large group of people. You really helped me out by talking about this and I'm guessing everyone in the group as well. Thank you for doing this, it's nice to know I'm not the only one that thinks this way. By the way you are far from being a loser, in fact you are the total opposite, in my book you are a winner!

[@CorePathway]

Oh it’s easy for me to admit I’m a POS in front of strangers I’ll never see again. It’s HARDER for me to have a real relationship, to admit this to a (male) friend, of which I have few.

[@ThePowerMoves]

That was creepy AF. You don't do that publicly in front of people, emberassing a man in front of cameras, without any clinical psychology experience.

[@Florianpimpf]

fuck pleasing people be real instead. how u want to work on it if your coping 24/7. he can walk out all the time. the weakness is hiding. thinking you will implode if something happens. this is a self help seminar. u go there to change. changing isnt comfortable. its not what u want but its what u need. his hole teachings are based on being real. So fucking be honest. SHOW THAT UR HURT. WHATS SO BAD ABOUT IT.

[@Florianpimpf]

its embarassing cause society hides and shames it. and u believe it. all those things tell you youre not good enough. when u stop labeling whats good and Bad. accept everything that has happend and will happen. u will be free. but first u have to let go of hiding for people. u wont get to the point of being free when ur still stuck in coping. go into thriving. be honest with all the good and the Bad stuff. thats how u let go of pain. because then there is no good or bad. there just IS.

[@Florianpimpf]

​@@ThePowerMovesthe comfort zone of hiding isnt necesarrily comfortable its just know. going into the unknown isnt pleasant. but going to a self help seminar means that u want to change it. So everything is better than what ur doing rn or you wouldnt want to change it. and that is the first step. getting aware of everything that is hurting you to release the hurt and accepting it so you can let it go.

[@aviapoIis]

"Healthy Self-Esteem Is Not About Proving Yourself And Others That You Are Worthy Of Unconditional Love, Its About Identifying And Letting Go Of All The Excuses, Beliefs And Traumas That Ever Convinced You Otherwise."❤

[@JulienHimself]

YES! 🙏

[@ayidbinich1509]

What's up with "I don't deserve anything" or "don't take anything for granted" ?

[@shaniecegullison]

Yesss love this sooooo much

[@thebbksociety]

@Dru Baxter niklo bhai vha se. Create an opportunity far away from there and leave asap.

[@bayousbambino427]

“Letting go”? You don’t just “let go” of something that’s baked into your core identity, like it’s a used chip bag-if you’ve been raised as a child to believe you can never be good enough, that’s what you’ll live your entire life believing and it governs _every_ choice you ever make. For some, “letting go” of that is effectively reinventing themselves as entirely new people, which is _extremely_ difficult when you’ve experienced the same “you’re not good enough” messaging through your adult life, too; every time you’re laid off, ghosted, forgotten about, turned down, flat-out rejected. Only people who’ve never been traumatized could say, “just let it go”.

[@aluumina]

Questions from the end for reflection: 1. Why do I hate myself? 2. Why am I not good enough? 3. Why is success not for me? (Or why don't I deserve success?) 4. What am I hiding? (What an I afraid people will see?) 5. When did I first start betraying myself?

[@JulienHimself]

🔥🔥🔥

[@lovingthisagain]

Thanks. Is there a second part to this video?

[@girtskaucis5058]

And what to do with answers on those questions?

[@Heyehyeyeyey11o11o]

​@@girtskaucis5058im thinking the same

[@shogoracing4294]

“Nothing is worth ever compromising your authenticity.” Love it Julien. That’s so true!

[@JulienHimself]

Yes! Glad this resonates!

[@Kundalini_Goddess]

Why do I hate myself? Why am I not good enough? Why is success not for me? What am I hiding? What am I afraid People will see? When did I first start betraying myself? Disconnecting from me? Saying yes when I wanted to say no..

[@mackfin8869]

I feel the same .you put it so well

[@Sunny-se2nu]

One word: Toxic Shame. If you look at the consciousness scale. Shame is worse than fear but it works below conscious threshold so some people may not be aware of

[@thylovsynnah7904]

​@@Sunny-se2nu the root is condemnation I beleive.

[@keanudaniels2428]

This video had me knees to the ground in tears. I didn’t realise it but I had a similar trauma with my father and felt the emotions as if I were there. I called my dad as well and he told me that he has been wanting to hear me open so badly. Thank you so so much Julien, I can’t express how much this helped me❤

[@OlaHermansson]

Me too, I had a hunch, a theory, a path of studying and some minor "tests" but not this insight. Its so true. This explanation is The acual image on the puzzle from wich I only got parts of.

[@teamhop]

Hey guys I’ve got some really great news to share with you, Jesus Christ, the Son of God, died on a cross and resurrected on the third day so you may all have eternal life. If you believe and repent of your sins and put your faith and trust in Him as you would a parachute jumping off a plane at 25000 feet up in the air, He will give you eternal life in heaven as a free gift and I promise you, He will change your life forever as He did mine. He is the ONLY way to heaven and He loves you all. Please think deeply about this with urgency because this is your eternal life and soul, you don’t know when you could die, meaning you could die at any moment, so please consider this with all your heart. If anyone tells you that Jesus isn’t the only way, they are lying to you and they don’t care about your future. Thx for reading

[@drewmonroe8586]

The fact that it took you probably a decade to realize that is the sad part. You lived that life with the trauma hanging on your head

[@MaikelK]

This event was life changing for me. So happy I went to see you live, Julien. Since the event I have been doing the releases on a daily/weekly basis, depending on my needs. Over the past year I've experienced some crazy intense emotional releases through your guided meditations. I've never felt this confident and free in my entire life and I'm killing it socially, financially and professionally right now. Thank you Julien, I love you

[@nareshs8764]

Can you elaborate your journey? How you were in past and how you are now?

[@teamhop]

Hey guys I’ve got some really great news to share with you, Jesus Christ, the Son of God, died on a cross and resurrected on the third day so you may all have eternal life. If you believe and repent of your sins and put your faith and trust in Him as you would a parachute jumping off a plane at 25000 feet up in the air, He will give you eternal life in heaven as a free gift and I promise you, He will change your life forever as He did mine. He is the ONLY way to heaven and He loves you all. Please think deeply about this with urgency because this is your eternal life and soul, you don’t know when you could die, meaning you could die at any moment, so please consider this with all your heart. If anyone tells you that Jesus isn’t the only way, they are lying to you and they don’t care about your future. Thx for reading

[@user-bj9lc9sz4j]

Hello! Killing socially, financially and professionally are probably not enough precise terms. I do not think I understand the meaning. Would be pleased to hear the meaning directly from you! We will find out!

[@ucallmeDave]

Congrats Michael! 🎉🎉

[@M.C._3369]

Respect to you for implementing everything you learned 👊🏽

[@QuidamByMoonlight]

“The road to enlightenment is paved with disillusionment.” What a gift this guy is to be saying what he’s saying on KZbin. He’s perfectly on point!

[@DocterGordon]

I'm glad Julian exists. I am filled with so much hate. Glad people like him exist makes me have a shred of empathy again

[@JulienHimself]

🙏🙏🙏

[@Pausereflectandbreathe]

Wow! This is intense and very helpful for sure! I used to be that person who hides and pretend everything is okay until I was depressed, didn't want to be with anybody, hated family and friends, hated the world and looking for answers. I found God and pursue Him. I read the Bible cover to cover, no skipping a page and changed my life. I found the love that I didn't know I had, the unconditional love we are all looking for. For me it was my mother who didn't care about me but when I learned, understand and know that I know God was, will and always be with me, I didn't care anymore if my mother couldn't and will not love me. God's love is more than Enough. Thank you for this video! Very helpful indeed! ❤️🙏

[@sillygirl1139]

This guy is doing great things for ppl and seems like a really cool dude to look up to. How many men struggle with this stuff and society tells them to 'suck it up'. There are a lot of men (and women) that need this.

[@JulienHimself]

🙏🙏🙏

[@RhythmAddictedState]

The exercise at 12:00 is CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy). Some psychologists specialise in it. Very useful in getting rid of core beliefs that are false and holding you back in life. Thank you for this video, I was feeling down but it inspired me.

[@suktsk986]

What Is the name of the technique?

[@RhythmAddictedState]

@@suktsk986 Cognitive behavioural therapy

[@alphasiera1757]

So cool hehe

[@jamesgentry13]

I've heard others thst done thst therapy is very intense and causes a lot of hurt.

[@michelleha3390]

Hey I normally never comment but this is the first video that ever truly spoke to me. I’ve never heard anyone understand self hatred the way you do and explain it so perfectly. I feel like I was finally heard and found the catalyst to my improvement. Thank you for guiding me and thousands of others Julien.

[@yokoumiko7108]

Poor boy, he feels like a loser because "nobody wants him", but he doesn't realize that he can put aside the opinions of others to focus on what he thinks of himself regardless of what others think. I used to feel the same conflict with myself when I was in elementary school because my classmates pushed me aside but I soon realized that I was not the one with the problem but the others, I noticed that bullies need to do less to someone to "feel better with themselves", since then I no longer cared about the opinion of the people because I convinced myself that I should not care about the opinion of someone who is rotten inside.

[@talithahope4779]

Self-hatred can even come from a person you don't remember. Let me explain. A few months ago i had to go to therapy because I had a huge anxious attachment breakdown after a loved one died; I hated myself to the point where I felt I had no "self." I also was incapable of being alone, incapable of processing loss, incapable of emotional regulation, and begging for validation from others. I came to realize through therapy that the breakdown was caused by the fact that I never in my life grieved my mother who left me when I was a toddler, and by the fact that my mother had bipolar disorder and therefore regularly neglected me (and even isolated me from others) during her depressive episodes. I remember NONE of these life events, i barely remember my mother in any manner and i had no clue i was neglected nor isolated. Yet, my self-hatred was tied to a woman I barely remember. It's completely crazy. I hope more people learn that this sort of thing can happen, that things which you don't remember or don't rven know happened could impact your self-esteem, mental health, and life SIGNIFICANTLY.

[@encouragingword799]

Wow!! I have been journeying down a very similar path. My mother was bipolar as well, and narcissistic. I was always not enough, not important, not valuable, not smart enough, and should feel guilty for ....something or other. Wasn't until recently that I understood that my present perception of me today, stemmed from a mother who easily helped instill these distorted views. It runs so deep. I thank you for sharing and will pray for total healing❤

[@visualize25]

Wow that was such a visceral experience seeing that man being able to be open and honest about his dad in this seminar. Such a really powerful message about honesty and authenticity which I really needed to hear today. Thanks Julien

[@JulienHimself]

Yes! Massive respect to him for having the courage and willingness to do the REAL work! 🙌

[@samaelangelus321]

This is essentially therapy, looking in to find the answers. Not in a bad way, we all need it. You're in your own way wherever you go.

[@MsGeorgie68]

This brought me to tears. It"s so true. Be real with yourself and others and you will feel and be free.

[@lisabacher5750]

Thank you! Have been trying to fix my outer circle for a while - and given in. Recently started then to work on circle no. 2....and now that I have seen this, for the first time ever, I truly understand why all this won't work. Like, truly. Bowling my eyes out and utterly grateful that I have stumbled accross this video. Every word got to my core. Brave young man that talked about his dad. Not only because of the crowd, but because it takes so much courage to say it out loud to yourself.... Again, thanks Mr. Julien. Kind greetings from Austria

[@axoNNNessj]

Your messages, tips and explanations are so powerful! I can totally feel it. Thank you! Something that also helps me from time to time is to encourage myself to start a sentence with 'honestly,...' It helps me to sort of poke more easily under some resistance layers. Honestly, I feel hesitant about posting this. Honestly, I feel like what helps me doesnt matter, and shouldnt be heared or expressed. Honestly, I feel doomed to be ignorant, and my offerings less valuable than anyone else's. Honestly, my intentions are caring and loving, but honestly it doesnt matter if there is at least one person in the world who knows better. Honestly, I hate feeling so small and self repressed.

[@gigapoo2911]

i love you for doing this ❤❤❤

[@JulienHimself]

🙏🙏🙏

[@elliel9042]

The 'theory' is very well communicated here, however, I am concerned about the method of therapy. There is a risk that a participant may, e.g., be over-compliant (with the teacher here, and also with their father). This could later feel re-traumatising. Therapy needs to be conducted in a very safe setting. I also don't think he should have called his father until much more work had been done on their relationship so that he had reflected deeply on how the relationship functions, and has prepared himself well for any potential fall-out.

[@nicoyou11]

You are a brave man to be open publicly about your struggles. It has already helped me in a huge way!

[@lilzcc5051]

Thank you so much for opening up like that. It helped me finally to figure out a piece of my Hurt. Je bent zo veel waard ❤️

[@sporegazm]

Not sure why you popped up in my feed...but perhaps my phone has been listening to my self hatred talk :/ I have been so hard on myself my entire life. And even people around me tell me I am. some very powerful stuff in this video. Lots to chew on. Props to you. You seem very passionate, genuine and knowledgeable

[@JulienHimself]

Thank you! Glad this was insightful!

[@up-scale8168]

I glad you appeared on my feed. I am one of millions who struggle to identify emotions and intelligently act on them especially those which society looks down upon - Jealousy, hatred, affection, lust. I was in 6th standard when an angry person very close to me called me a jinx. He said that the time since when he has not been achieving anything was the time when I was born. All at once I was blamed for his business losses and misfortunes. All I felt that day was nothing but a mix of victim and evil. I feel the effect to this day. I feel uncomfortable looking at him or he looking at me. I stumble at my words with under confidence when I talk to him and try to conceal my emotions with a fake smile. Since then I have only been trying to act unaffected. When he asks me something I suppress my judgements and reiterate someone else’s opinions fearing of not offending him ever again. I have been giving my best pleasing him since then. Sorry, I couldn’t muster courage to forgive him. And I am also aware that not forgiving someone just becomes a cause of your own bitterness. You must shed your past miseries to grow. But it’s truly hard to forget about a punishment you never deserved.

[@garvitsaini3963]

I truly resonate with your story man! Sometimes people say to you something they shouldn’t have. But human is an epitome of mistakes. You must have made many mistakes too. In our endeavour to be too much human we forget that underlying us there is a normal creature that will have no existence after a century. Life is not as complex and hard as we make it. Forgiveness makes it simpler and happier. You deserve to be happy, don’t let someone affect you badly. I appreciate you accepted your unpleasant piece of past, something like this has also happened with me. Best of luck! Whatever unfair and unjustified they said to you isn’t your problem, it’s theirs. :))

[@grzegorzwyrwichwast1294]

A great example of not recognizing your value is this brave young man in a blue sweater. He had a lot of courage to answer these questions. A guy with big balls and he thought he was a loser.

[@Noor-sl5ep]

Your dad leaving you just shows what kind of a person he is. You dont have to blame yourself for such a thing. You even don't have to talk to him if you want to.

[@Adam_Lyskawa]

A couple of times in life I told people... all. That IDK, should to be said. Did it help? Not really. Except maybe now I know sometimes the communication we imagine is just impossible. They will not understand you. It's not even their fault. You would not understand them. Communication is overrated. Everyone is in fact perfectly alone inside. We will never truly know each other. But does it really matter? I learned that speaking with action works a little better. It's harder, it doesn't ALWAYS work, but sometimes it does. Talking works hardly ever. Maybe because I'm autistic. Maybe not. I rarely see people fix things with talking. And if you want to do something about it just now, nah, it's not how it works either. But it's almost sure that there will be a time for that. When you would not expect it at all.

[@shannongilmourpeersupport]

Excellent! Thank you for helping others!!!! Blessings to all who are helped by you, and Blessings to you, You have a big heart Julien!

[@mr.t382]

I have NEVER seen such a helpful video - NEVER! Bless you young man - GREAT work / great! Thank you!! Subscribing…..

[@paulbraunstein2290]

Love you all; just always speak up for yourself. I thought it would be easy but this took me months: catch yourself when you call yourself stupid, ugly, evil, flawed because someone who felt bad about themselves told you that 🙂. Best of luck

[@jay.jay.]

@Dru Baxter start saying the opposite of these words to yourself; talk positively to yourself. I did, and it changed drastically how I see myself after 30 years in this earth.

[@natasha.ixtlan]

11:16 This man made me cry... so much related to his words. Just want to give him big hug 💚 So brave!

[@gaara2447]

This helped me realize some things in Life i have never tought of, especially to express how you really feel. Great Video ❤

[@verkanica]

No matter where you go ...there you are! We cannot exape oneself!

[@stephanieherman2861]

WOW! I experienced that a lot but i never thought about it!

[@highdesertbiker]

these videos have been helping me get out of depression thank you so much

[@tile-maker4962]

-Why do I hate myself: I use to blame myself for all that I wasn't among others. I was and still am not sociable, charming, and when I wanted to date someone, I saved myself trouble by instilling doubt in my mind. It was horrible. -Why am I not good enough: The slightest inauthenticity makes me feel critical and fake. Sometimes I feel fragile in front of others because of it. So I blame myself. Why? Because my father found it better to blame others for his short comings. -Why is success not for me: I didn't deserve it. I have too much shame to feel successful. Even if I have succeeded, it feels all for nothing. Like it was meant for someone else. Someone who champions valuing their life. My malcontent for myself is built on the shame of years of neglect, boredom and addiction to pornography. -What am I hiding: My addiction to pornography. -When did I first start betraying myself: You mean rage fapping? When I realized it was a distraction from what was hard to do. That was... come to terms with my environment. Broken family, inability to express myself to those I care or want to care about.

[@raff5184]

Good, now can you let go of all that? Do a meditation/ release or many of them, to let go of all this emotional weight

[@troublemaker1145]

I feel this especially the inability to express my emotions to the people I love. Ever since I was a kid to adulthood I been betrayed and left out by “friends” and family which has led me to believe that I’m worthless and just feels that nobody cares about me for whatever reason. Its made it hard to express since in the end it looks like it didn’t mean anything. It’s hard to break away from that pattern since it’s been reinforced so much but I know it’s just my trauma but feels impossible to convince myself otherwise. We both deserve good things and when an opportunity presents itself, take it, we’re both equal just like everybody else. Our different circumstances has led us to same stage of mind. Just wanted to know that you’re not alone dawg and we got this

[@FrankVergara]

Sublime! This should be known by everyone, to have a healthy society! However, with what do they feed us in this society? With crap limiting beliefs and false needs, to keep us weak and dependent. Let's each one of us be responsible for chosing the influences we feed our minds with. With responsibility comes the Power.

[@visions3]

wow the way you can tap in and lock in to your audience, by taking them down the mental journey, amazing !

[@JulienHimself]

Thank you! 🙏

[@Ethan-jalalabad]

“Until you make the conscious conscious it will guide your life and you will call it fate” - a quote by Carl Jung

[@joaquin3066]

Subconscious conscious*

[@Sunny-se2nu]

"I Am" the concept of self defines everything.

[@cowl6867]

I always thought that I wasn't good enough. Turns I am, I just want to be better

[@warrenamulvey]

Powerful moment with the participant. Loved it! Especially when you grabbed his face... you care, really care

[@JulienHimself]

Thank you! Glad this was impactful! 🙏

[@mord0]

Eh, I cringed at that part. Appears like a Jesus complex, robbins does the same thing and it just comes across as holier than thou. Less invasive ways of encouraging eye contact that allow the participant to voluntarily engage

[@dutchcinephile1362]

Go tru the pain And accepting it Give it a place "healthy" And Carry on Smile to yourself in the mirrior

[@extreme-cm8hb]

That man brought up my unresolved issue of my father dying so young via diabetes. And now I'm doing the exact same thing. I'm letting the diabetes go because I stopped caring. I even went back to smoking cigs again, even though it's hard for me to breathe while smoking, because I could really care less.

[@NextPiece_]

my humble opinion is : you are already worthy you don't have to prove nothing, you already have self esteem you don't have to raise it was never low, but what's there is there are so much negative thoughts about yourself that we make up about ourselves or society does that we start to THINK that we are unworthy or unwanted or undeserving of love and respect then you start to feel shitty about yourself and you go search for how to raise self esteem as a reaction to negative thoughts and judgments about yourself, let me assure you this you don't have to raise your self esteem because you already have it and you don't have to prove nothing to the world because you are already worthy,but there's only one problem how to deal with your negative thoughts that's keeping your true self hidden like gold in the dirt, i would recommend that you practice living in the now and you can learn that by listening to Eckhart Tolle, live in the now don't try to eradicate the negative thought just be aware of them, breath calmly don't try raise you're self esteem, it will happen naturally after you minimize the effect of your negative thoughts about yourself your true self will start to shine and you won't even be aware of it, you'll see that you have become more wise, more patient, more cool and all that by just living in the now.

[@vannarooski8730]

Wow. I didnt expect this to make me cry. A whole room of men that think no one loves or likes them...be still heart.

[@GenrePeak]

The death of my family has put in circles grief I can’t escape from. The anxiety is sharp and daily. I’m a professional musician who can’t concentrate on my work. I’ve tried meditating, many drugs, many therapists. I’m trapped. I watched your meditation video and it was great. I’ve avoided my anxiety all my life and it’s an enemy to fear. I created this. How, how do I tear it all down?

[@raff5184]

Release, release release. Or take his program, better way to "waste"your money rather than on drugs

[@AM-es4mp]

You Allow ur Grief 1st

[@lyndseygolden7546]

You may need a witness for your grief incase some one needs to pull you out. There is a book called ride the horse backwards about doing things “wrong” to all the things that need to move in your life to feel good feelings about your authentic life.

[@lyndseygolden7546]

Grief is a beast keep turning to how to get to feel better that doesn’t take more damage out of your future when you can. Your carrying a huge weight and other people will drop theirs on you to avoid feeling there own feelings the more conscious you are of the velocity of your own subconscious the easier you will find your way out to what freedom it grants you in this lifetime. For the amount of suffering that there is an equal amount of the opposite if your access to the resources of your self and that connection are met you can get there and may find it’s all you can do despite the parameters others want you to stay in.

[@imhotrichandsexy7499]

SAPIEN MEDICINE ON YT! Research it

[@barbarabills5060]

Why would I need to be good enough? Aren't I enough? How am I enough is what I need to be asking...Good enough is just other people's standards that I've adopted for approval..

[@aidancairns1316]

He’s right, nobody is good enough if they are striving to be good enough. But also to say you ARE good enough just doesn’t seem right, it implies you have no where else to improve. But there’s a distinction which is, you are good enough and have value as a person. But do i? Yes because you are made in the image of God. Which makes us all equally valuable as humans. And also gives us the opportunity to be secure in who we are even if life is terrible. That is not say we can improve our lives which is where Julian comes in so helpfully. But this self help practice seems to be taken as it’s own religion when it’s really a part of a puzzle. Wish you all the best in your self help journeys!!

[@anfer_soul]

I love how Julien's videos go from seminar look like to cinematic drama scenes when people own their shit.

[@AikiraBeats]

Man that part hit home for me found myself crying about an enemy that was my friend at one point. I had so much built up and all of it came out as he kept asking him why. I could feel the tears running down my face.

[@paulbraunstein2290]

Aww ; I suppose based on this video confront the thoughts, always speak up for you, and maybe one day call the enemy even if he doesn’t respect you you will be confident that you spoke up. Love ya man

[@soulshipconnection]

Julien, your approach is direct and effective. The wat you guided that gentleman is inspiring! Thank you for sharing your gift with us.

[@JulienHimself]

Thank you so much! 🙏

[@fractals3161]

I could listen to this guy all day, well spoken.

[@JulienHimself]

Thank you! 🙏

[@verkanica]

My father was a good one and he loved me more than he loved my brother..i new that I and I enjoyed it.. however he was an alcoholic and verbally abusive to my mom. We lived in a very small apartment and you could hear him yelling at her for no reason and we would stay quite till he finally stopped and when to sleep. That messed with me big time. I was so angry with my mom for not leaving him. When I was 14 he got a cancer and dyed 11 months later. Then the rollercoaster started. I was so angry with him for choosing that kind of life instead of him being the father I needed him to be. I felt unworthy for so many years as he did. I was desperate seeking attention from everyone in my life..

[@k_bu17]

I can’t stop crying I love the guy he is so sweet and so cute it broke my heart so much . I cannot stand that he has suffered and felt this way I never thought anyone felt like I feel and it’s awful I pray he is feeling better 💔😭

[@assplundah]

Wow! That was deep! Great video mate!

[@lisarussell8874]

What a beautiful young man, the one who bared his soul.

[@shannongilmourpeersupport]

You have to get honest with yourself. Look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself the honest truth. You know it, you use your ego to hide behind the truth. Because we don't know how to FIX it. You don't have to fix it. Sit with it and then you realize, it's not so bad, and then you learn how to change it. You are not something that needs to be fixed. You are a person who needs to change. No damaged goods here. BLESSINGS! Thank you for this video.

[@narcsurvivors2445]

Being able to self sooth is imperative and a missing factor in my healing for many years , I still have to consciously make sure I do it , I was never shown , I tend to think to seek support or sooth myself means I'm weak , which keeps me from getting well.

[@doggyhhCSS]

I hope that guy found out, that his dad didnt felt that he deserved to have his familiy because of something from his own background and never fixed it. This guy now got the task and can choose to take action or hide - choose between fear or love

[@fitforfreelance]

Wow the trust and intensity here drives the point home!

[@sherinthasneem25]

So I had had to deal with parental breakup n still haunts me .. N yeah they got their life’s figured with different partners ! Me left with no belonging ! So many of my insecurities are due to them .. lack of love.. being afraid of being worthy of love.. being afraid of being accepted.. I have started to acknowledge I have been putting up a mask all my life.. people pleasing.. always helping others for their needs.. putting everyone else before myself.. not letting others hurt due to any of me.. It’s been Hard ! Hell kinda Hard for me to Actually Accept What I have Become ! Everyday, unfolding new layers beneath me- to Feel me ! To Be The Authentic Me ! Love to all who’s going thru any sort of difficulties !

[@heartspacerelaxations6924]

This sounds like it relates to San Pedro experience, people say I felt extremely me. Grounded in true self. Recognising all the crap that’s just ego. Step out of the ego traps and bring them off lightly.

[@Gamerfan2000]

Man, the speech to the guy whose father left him, hit very hard.

[@evileye1]

1. Inside out cause and effect 2. Approach I was good enough from the start. External convinced me I wasn't even if I believe that what stops me 3.to parts to me aware and not aware Conscious Subconscious Why do I hate myself?

[@6anonymous9.]

The Ex PUA or still PUA, social dynamic or real social dynamic. This bring back to memories 7-10 years ago. I was single and lonely. Now I am in LTR nearly 6 years and counting. Thanx for planting the growth mindset and self accountability mind set of continuous improvement.

[@marykateb33]

WOW! This is incredible. So useful! Thanks so much.

[@sapna8888]

One of the best video I've ever seen on self esteem❤️

[@JulienHimself]

Thank you so much! Glad this was insightful!

[@Don_Dries]

I was sad for 4 years. The moment i let go of this one toxic friend i spent about 90% of my free time with and only smoked weed with it all changed. It was a dead weight holding me down.

[@harisdiz.5817]

["Money don't buy happiness but it just so happens that money buy drugs" - Cal Scrubby]. Had to throw this one in here just for shites n giggles. Jokes aside, this is an important video, and it takes an effort to integrate this info into one's life. Good on you, mate.

[@gustavoquaiatti]

That dialog hit me like a brick, such an universe inside each one of us.

[@JulienHimself]

🙏🙏

[@mariankeller5852]

ONE THING YOU NEED TO LEARN..you can't MAKE SOMEONE LOVE YOU if they DON'T .... you can't MAKE SOMEONE STAY WITH YOU if they WON'T..CHOOSE your love interest WISELY.. DON'T LET ANOTHER'S OPINION DEFINE YOU..its their opinion only...it doesn't make it so....NEVER ALLOW ANYONE TO TREAT YOU BADLY..YOU ARE MORE VALUABLE THAN THAT..

[@A22208]

1. Why do I hate myself? 2. Why am I not good enough? Is there a part of me that does not believe I am good enough? 3. Why is success not for me? 4. What am I hiding? What are you afraid people will see? 5. When did I start betraying myself? When did I start Disconnecting myself from me? When did I say yes when I meant no, or no when I mean yes? Why did I do this? What was I trying to get? 6. When did I start saying who I am is not good enough, I am going to pretend, and I am going to be another version of me?

[@twoowoo534]

External things can do it but establishing a soild internal foundation will set u up for life. What ive experienced is you have to conquer your internal self, after that its nothing that can hurt you. When you lose your focus is when it gets confusing

[@hotsauce1646]

The guy standing infront of this class takes his class realy serious. He has so mutch selfesteem he looks like he just came out of his bed did not take a shower , smoked a pack of sigarets and took a walk to this place and let go al his pains infront of others . Great !!!

[@lepeedefeu2019]

Now I finally know why I'm obsessed about personal development - because it feels shitty to be me. DAMN

[@ladywrld5863]

Wow. Think I just coincidentally did systematic constellation with this video. What a work. Damn I'm relief. And greatful. And now I'm taking myself on a date to eat my favourite pancakes. Thanks!!

[@lindabelcher8087]

I just want to hug that beautiful young man😭

[@scottmccumber5810]

Great job Julien!

[@anikalee9012]

I was in denial state and don't even know I denial my own not enoughness. Trying to tell myself all the time it take tremendous energy. If I feel enough I wouldn't have to keep telling myself to be strong. If I feel enough I can let loose, I will be able to show my weaknesses. I suppress all my emotions. Until my mental breakdown I learned hard way.

[@zainaalder]

I feel you friend, I came across his video a little late in life after lots of suffering and researches and tons on reads yet couldn’t find what he said. What you wrote here hit home, been feeling like that since ever, happy to know that I’m not alone, it felt like the loop of suffering just ended with a twisted realization😆😊

[@DAClub-uf3br]

I hope you are feeling better soon Julien.

[@mark_tolver]

1. Know your core values (human values e.g. authenticity, empathy, duty etc, not political values). 2. Your core values define your identity. 3. Live by those values. You are your own judge, others simply haven’t given it enough thought yet, are making their own mistakes they’ll have to learn from or have different values from you. Their judgement of you is irrelevant, let them make their own mistakes. We’re all just humans trying to work it out.

[@gianniskontos1696]

Thank you for this!

[@JulienHimself]

Glad it was helpful!

[@n.vaneeleber6733]

Much love to the guy that opened up❤️✨️❤️✨️

[@greendrummers]

Very well explained, l really enjoyed your delivery. Just being yourself. It is refreshing.

[@JulienHimself]

Thank you so much!

[@9959]

RSD Julien, gone were the days, 6 years and counting. Keep it up my dude

[@bronsomccor2642]

I been watching your videos Julien and helped me with my social skills and confidence

[@flower7939]

someone finally on youtube able to understand what I'm going through

[@muhsetio]

Exactly. In to out. While most people thought its out to in.

[@lyndalent]

Wow thank you for your honesty

[@DimuthuYapa]

Amazing, i love your concept and core values about authenticity.

[@JulienHimself]

Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it!

[@TheJohmac]

The concept of self esteem is fallacious. It is predicated on the idea that our worth and value can be measured. It cannot. The issue is not self esteem, the issue is acceptance. Anyone telling people they need self esteem are trying to manipulate them. I'm not saying they have nefaruous or malevolent intent, they are just misled or ignorant. People have expectations of themselves that they are unable to live up to and they view that as failure and that failure as a reflection of their value. It like trying to use a diamond to make a spring, it won't work, but it has no relevance to the value of the diamond.

[@jayman8974]

Man you rock. You are real!

[@JulienHimself]

Thank you! 🙏

[@TheTechStrategist]

This was powerful. Is there a second part to this video? 🙏

[@lorenzo_bo]

internal locus of control-healty self esteem, external locus of control- grandiose self esteem or miserable one. In the second scenario one can stuck to a pattern or show a cyclical one (grandiose-miserable...). When a child is forced to accomplish others expectations (from the loved ones), he doesn't develope an internal locus of control beacuse each time he tries, his parents deny him. So he starts to mistake his parents (and then society expectations) goals with his goals (that never had the time to elaborate). Bandura 1977

[@georgevossen3846]

These are the bravest people ever

[@paulbraunstein2290]

Lot of horrible self help videos but the fact the instructor had the client call his dad is like really helpful.

[@nickp3949]

I usually feel about a 5. I have crippling self esteem issues because of the fact that I’m short…I’m 5’2”. I don’t hate myself, in fact I think I’m pretty awesome. But it’s my looks that I hate. And it creates my social anxiety. I feel like everyone is judging me and looking at me, thinking “wow this guy is short” or something. And the things that people have told me throughout my life confirm this. People have been very nasty to me. I started feeling low self esteem probably in 4th grade, over 20 years ago now. My teacher was nasty and always put me down. I believe that she created the beginning of my low self esteem. Before that I have no memories of insecurity. Middle school was bad. I had really bad anxiety and made very little friends. No girlfriends. That continued in high school. No girlfriends. Also, a girl told me that I remind her of someone “who is like 8 years old”. My parents got divorced at 14 and it’s been a roller coaster since then at home. My family has a lot of toxic people in it. They’re not toxic to each other but to themselves. Zero discipline in my family. I’ve lived with drunks most of my life. I’m 31 now. Been in the military, became a Muay Thai fighter, stoicism, etc…not nothing has changed. I feel better AT THOSE THINGS, but it still hasn’t made me feel better about my looks. Still no girlfriend. I got my teeth fixed, I dress well, I do all these things to feel better, and I do look better, but it doesn’t make me FEEL better. I still don’t feel worthy. I got picked on in the military too because of my height so it was the same thing that happened back in high school. And even today people point out how short I am. How can I feel good about myself when women think “eww” because of my height? Your look IS YOUR BRAND. People look at me as low value because of how short I am. I’m still terrified of talking to women…I mean I can talk, I work in sales and know how to have a conversation, but I get extremely self conscious when talking to a woman I like. I’m thinking how am I standing, what do I do with my hands, what do I say next, etc…I make myself into a nervous wreck and she can feel the awkward energy. I don’t know how to change this. I know it comes from a place of not feeling worthy enough to go out with her, and that if she likes me it means I “got lucky”, but I don’t know how to change this. And I watch these videos about self improvement and Adonis and all that…but Adonis is tall. Being as short as I am is NOT masculine to a woman, and there’s nothing I can do about it. I feel like anything I do is just cope. I’m 31 and I still get called “kid” by people. Even people younger than me that don’t know my age. A girl who was like 20 said “hey kid”. Like I’m 10 years older than her! And I have a beard! I take care of myself! Why do people talk to me like I’m a kid? Julien, i think you need to understand that my self esteem issues come from actual feeedback from the outside world. It comes from experiences that I have, the way people treat me and talk to me. I never feel like I’m being treated as an equal. No matter what I’ve done in my life, people always treat me different, like I’m not on their level.

[@mybestselfenrico]

Man, you’re so self aware that’s a good starting point. I totally get it there with you is different, maybe you could think of moving to a country with shorter people or something like that because I get it that feeling must be awful. Or also just do a lot of online dating or go to a where there is many more possibilities to find other girls, but to be honest you should start to eliminate the people that judge for your height. Also, if you hate yourself for this that means there is work to be done, you have to accept it. That doesn’t mean you have to stay in this situation forever but you should work on the inner stuff to do it for yourself, to feel better about you. Hope the best

[@arshie26]

I see a lot of downward spirals (the anxiety leads to more anxiety) and self-fulfilling prophecies/confirmation biases (you think you're not attractive, so you don't take action. When you do take action, you create narratives in your mind that reinforce that you're not attractive). What are all of the upsides to being 5' 2"? What are all of the upsides to the feedback you've received as a short guy? Athletically, it's probably a lower center of gravity so it's tougher for you to be tackled. Socially, what is it? I think coming from this place makes you tough, resilient, and courageous. You get more negative feedback from the world because of your height...so how can you make that feedback a foundation instead of being hurt by it? How can you take those bricks and build with them? I think the upside of the feedback is that when you do crawl out of the negativity, you'll have a strong identity that is rooted in yourself, rather than in someone's perception of you. There's an incredible man inside you dying to come out. The women in this world are dying for him. The feedback you receive doesn't actually mean anything about you. It's just what other people project onto you. How can you own the feedback you receive about being shorter instead of letting it eat you? Is there something amusing you can find about it? The idea is to retune your brain and constantly find the upside. The more you find upside, the happier you become, and you change your identity. For me, I'm 5' 8" and really thin. The upside is that I might have to work harder socially and mentally to be more attractive and dominant. I'll need to work harder with my voice. The harder I work, the more I invested I am, which means I'm going to work harder to fight for the most attractive women in the room. I'm likely to screen her harder, because I've worked so hard to make myself amazing, and I deserve the best. Are there other men who are taller than I am and more attractive in some way? Yes! I'm going to lead and be dominant. I'm also going to be friends with those guys and offer them to her. They complement me; why should I be jealous? Owen talks about how winging with Julien made his game stronger, because Julien was taller and would walk up to his sets and point out the bald head. It didn't fucking matter, she didn't care. They regularly tried to steal each other's girls for fun and regularly lost. Owen's led guys who are taller and very dominant...with Aspergers. It's entirely possible. He's retuned his brain relentlessly! Best of luck to you :)

[@nickp3949]

@@mybestselfenrico Thanks for the kind words man. You’ve given me stuff to think about.

[@nickp3949]

@@arshie26 There’s a lot to unpack here, damn. One thing that comes to mind that I realized is that I place my identity on my looks, and the feedback I receive for those looks. So let’s say you have a scale from 1-10. Obviously you want to view yourself as a 10, that’s a personal development goal (not 10 in looks but 10 in confidence and identity, like 10 is you’re completely comfortable in your own skin). So if a girl gives me a complement, now I feel like a 10. Someone mentions my height, now I feel like a 2 or a 3. Girl smiles at me? Now I’m up to like a 7. Someone says something negative about my looks? Im back down to a 2 or a 3. So my confidence is constantly on a roller coaster, and because my identity is rooted in my physical appearance, it constantly fucks me up and makes me question whether I’m worthy or not. Because if my identity is based on looks, and I get called ugly, then I must be completely unworthy. The logic checks out. I mean let’s face it, good looking people have a huge advantage in life. I know good looking people, they all have a lot of money and a lot of women. So because they’ve always had that validation, they develop a strong sense of identity and confidence automatically. I don’t think I’m alone in basing my confidence and identity on physical appearance. I think most people do that, even good looking people. I don’t know how to shift that mentality and be immune internally from feedback from others about my looks. Women do flirt with me occasionally, especially older women, I’ve been told I am “very cute” by a few women, so I know I’m not a bad looking guy despite my height. But this is why I’m always on a roller coaster of confidence and worthiness, my brain is constantly analyzing feedback like this. I need to shift my confidence and identity to personal qualities instead of looks. No idea how to do that lol.

[@davejacob5208]

@@nickp3949 did you ever make a sort of overview of all the positive experiences/thoughts/assessments? I think it really did help me much to remind myself of the positive experiences with women or compliments I got from any person (not like every single compliment, for example I know since I was a child that I can draw good, so it really doesnt change my own perception of myself ot remind me of whenever someone else mentioned that, as long as the compliment doesnt work in a new, interesting way) that way I have it much easier to remind and assure myself that there are certain values I bring to the table, even if not all the time and for everyone. I definitely have them, otherwise there would not be anyone noticing it. As long as I dont forget that I have these values, I cant think of me as completely worthless or incompetent, useless or whatever. I have some quality to me. And from there I can simply add up points to the list whenever I get positive experiences, so I am more and more assured, and even find new stuff on the list. What also helped me a whole lot was to focus not on "here I am (based on whatever factors out of my controle brought me here)" but on "this is how capable I am of moving elsewhere (so I can definitely, at least potentially, achieve a WHOLE FUCKING LOT of stuff that would make me proud and self-confident as fuck, given some time to get there)" I am proud of how much I changed internally, even though I still lack lots of stuff and experiences, goals to achieve etc.