I tried "Swedish death cleaning" and it worked 😱 (my organizing secret!)

Hey, guys! A couple years ago I made a video where I "Swedish death" cleaned my husband Charlie's closet...and it actually worked! I fell in love with the method--it works with all your possessions, from big to little. Even your sentimental clutter. So come clean and declutter with me. I feel like we could all use that in 2021. My last video on how to organize your home using Dollar Tree products landed on the KZbin trending page, and so many of you asked in the comments how to declutter and simplify your life to get organized. You said you felt overwhelmed, so I made this honest video about how I Swedish death cleaned my home to declutter and live more minimally. I wouldn't say I'm a minimalist, but living lighter has freed up so much more time to spend with family. Zero regrets! Thank you for letting me be so honest here and for watching!
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[@DoItOnaDime]

Thank you for letting me get so personal in this video 🥰 Organizations to donate to (you can schedule pickups!): ❤️Salvation Army : satruck.org/donate/choose ) ❤️AM Vets supporting veterans: amvets.org/thrift-stores/ ❤️Habitat for Humanity: habitat.org/stories/does-habitat-offer-furniture-donation-pickup ❤️The Arc supporting kids and adults with mental disabilities: thearc.org/get-involved/ways-give/donate-physical-items/

[@Jessie20032]

Thankyou!! Even though I’m far away half across the world in Australia your videos are amazing and inspire me to have ideas for my house 😁Thankyou for sharing your personal family memories it’s beautiful

[@summernotes565]

Ofcourse you are most welcome

[@angelamarie3502]

Thank you for letting us know about these donation places. I always donate to goodwill bc it’s easy but last time I went in there they were charging too much for stuff...it just didn’t seem right.

[@truthseekerfemale7805]

suggestion; you can also give away your beautiful items to someone on your channel, and I wish you lived next to me so I can have you over for some tea and help, hahaha, bless you and your family

[@melgo5589]

Hello, thank you for this video and most of all for the encouragement & inspiration. Praying for God's blessing for you & your family. ♥️ from Australia

[@donnabradshaw5200]

I remember hearing about a mom, who after being widowed, realized how much her son missed dad. So she took her husband's favorite suits and had them made into a quilt for her son to take to college with him. She told him that it would like being wrapped up in a warm hug from dad.

[@gabriellagrace4734]

I did this for my 3 sons when they graduated high school. I kept certain baby outfits, there little school/bands/sport tshirts thru the years then there senior year had awesome quilts made for there graduation.

[@valeriehancotte-galan4790]

Great idea!

[@biblereading2316]

I am in the process of making quilts out of my grandma's clothes for my aunt, uncle and cousin. It's such a labor of love!

[@SarahLizDoan]

That’s so sweet!

[@hopflowero6664]

That is called a Memory Quilt.

[@lynnjo2010]

This one brought out lots of tears. I hold on to too many things and I can feel they are starting to wear me down. Thank you.

[@thebudgetbee9694]

"Everything thing you own, owns a part of you." or something to that effect. Those words really got my attention! My things are wearing me down too! FREEDOM 2021!

[@ashleycunninghamfitness1181]

Sameeeee

[@michelehenne2477]

I understand, completely. 💜💜💜

[@heatherhuffman7906]

Me too!! 😭😭

[@Mareekayy]

Me too!

[@chantellejones3350]

Bawling my eyes out! I recently lost my daughter. This video inspired me to start making a blanket out of her clothing. ❤️

[@sandrapeele7965]

My mother passed away several years ago and one of my daughters had a lady make a teddy bear out of a shirt that mother used to wear she liked it because he had sparkles on it and I keep it where I can see it everyday it's an alternative to a quilt or a blanket I think that is such a thoughtful and loving idea

[@theresapannuti6291]

So, so sorry for your loss.

[@flutralena3135]

I'm so sorry for your loss.May she Rest in Heavenly Peace.

[@pilarq7886]

Or make a decor pillow from her clothes ~ she would laugh from heaven. So for your loss , you will be re-united

[@gonzalezjuanita356]

MY CONDOLENCES ON YOUR SADNESS AND LOSS 😥😢💔😢😥... I LOST MY BEAUTIFUL KIND AND SUFFERING NIECE TO SUICIDE 💔💔💔, AND WISHING I HAD SOMETHING OF HER, BUT ONLY PICTURES OF HER GROWING UP , SHE WAS 38 😢😥💔😥😢

[@BarnesOnMove_Sonya]

I had a hard time parting with my grandmother's china, but it had bounced around our family for years. I finally took it to a friend who runs a local tea room we like to eat at. We got a meal out of it, but even better is seeing it on people's table arounds the tea room and enjoying it. That would have made grandma's heart so happy!

[@raileenunderwood4035]

that is so perfect, i think your grandmother would be proud. that is just such a touching story

[@delldunigan5021]

How sad that not one family member, not one grandchild or great grandchild would want it!! I’d love to have something of my grandmother’s, if even just a cup and saucer

[@linabingbing3881]

That is so sweeeeet. I hope more people see your comment and donate in a similar way so that the items can be used in an intimate way. Aw.

[@winstonsmith9533]

Very neat idea! I have my Mom's and Grandmom's china! I'm going to use those and throw out my junk!

[@SewAndTellwithDori]

What a beautiful idea!!! I have a lot of tea sets and tea pots I've collected over the years and wondered what to do with them. Thank you for this very nice idea! Perhaps I'll open a tea room business myself. :-)

[@DanieW1228]

I’ve heard you say “you are enough” countless times. For some reason today I really needed it. Thank you

[@bnelson4859]

Hugs🌷

[@SunshineFL]

❤️

[@lynsch.7681]

Exactly the same here

[@annaalex6997]

Same here.

[@moxiepops8457]

Me too! 😊😭

[@mmsh122490]

I appreciate you and the work you do. I was raised by a single parent with clinical depression and was a hoarder. I realized I was continuing the lifestyle. I finally had a wake up call after my mother passed away and purchased my first home. Thank you for being you and being understanding of homes that have clutter. It's not always laziness. Thank you.

[@vivid6476]

there is nothing more satisfying than a fully clean/decluttered house !!

[@beckyboopz1]

I wouldn’t know....yet. I’m still striving. Lol

[@andradavis7201]

im trying really i am.....

[@jencruise4578]

I love when one sentence hits home and motivates you. "If it takes more than 5 mins to tidy a room, stuff needs to go".

[@DC-nw3uc]

That changed my whole believe system.. you mean I'm not supposed to be spending an hour cleaning my house everyday? An hour that I don't have and so I don't do it anyway.

[@amywalker7515]

It takes me more than 5 minutes to find my shoes under all the clutter.

[@amberhines3979]

My husband died 10 years ago and I have had the hardest time letting go of his thing. Anything, even silly paper he wrote on just because he wrote on it. I have managed to let go of most of it, but I am still working through it. You sharing the story and letter from your great grandmother hit me right in the heart because I know I need to let go. I love the bear idea. I actually have a shirt of his that would make a really cool bear. And I collect bears, so I may go that route. Thank you for sharing :)

[@janlumley304]

my husband dies three years ago and i have just sold the family home that he built 50 yrs ago. So i have downsized into a more manageable space and currently surrounded by boxes of treasures, his tools, the valentine day cards, my dad's war photos. but a pandemic doesn't help when charity shops are overcrowded, and lockdowns prevent us taking stuff out. Also much of the stuff he used for his work is archaic, computers have taken over, so stuff he treasured is probably landfill, as is the mountain of books, because people don't read any more. But i will, as i open boxes, make hard decisions, as i am not going to be doing dinner parties for 12 people any more. It's just the letting go of stuff family members have treasured, and i ended up as the keeper

[@MJkatzTheWriter]

@@janlumley304 I am so sorry for your loss. What you wrote here about Valentine Day cards, tools, and "boxes of treasures", etc, sounds like what I'll be going through if I outlive my husband. While nothing can bring back the life you two had, I will pray for you that this new life will be equally happy, albeit different. God Bless!

[@sarahwenger4479]

something that could be nice, to remember his writing, might be getting a tattoo in his writing. maybe something he always said to you or his favorite joke or something. I’ve found those to be the best pieces of art because then you can always carry it with you

[@mariner1952]

@@janlumley304 As someone who struggles with letting go of the memory triggers, I took digital pictures of my kids art work K-12, mothers day and birthday cards, super tacky christmas tree ornaments that don't match my tree or my house but can't throw out because "awwww my first baby made this for me 20 years ago when he was 5 with his thumb prints...." etc and put them on my computer organized and burned to a flash drive. I got one of those digital picture frames so like on mothers day it will do a slide show of the cards over the years all day, a December one of the ornaments and reindeer hand antlers all month. (Your fathers war photos would be an awesome slide show for veterans and memorial day!) For me it helped making the decision to pitch or keep because now I can do both!

[@amywalker7515]

All I have left of my father is his signature on an old book I found while moving. I would have loved some other memento of him, but my mother was one of those tossing kind of people.

[@lins918]

One way that has always helped me to say "goodbye" is to take a photo or photos of the item. Super easy anymore because you can put those photos on a thumb drive. Takes little space. 😊

[@verahoward9422]

Great idea.

[@angieemm]

I did that, and I took those photos and turned them into a photo book from Snapfish or one of those companies. It was a really great way to be able to look through them, sometimes with other people, without having to sit at the computer.

[@verahoward9422]

@@angieemm nice.

[@mariamolina5930]

Exactly what I was thinking specially for her grandmother's teacups .

[@waldemarwiese1083]

Thank you so much for your words "You are enough"...this words touch my heart.

[@angieayars6619]

I like the fact that you mention how losing so many loved ones is a big reason people collect so much stuff, I can relate, it's like all you have left of them ...it's hard

[@Heyheyrayeraye]

I have so many things that belonged to loved ones and I don't think I'll ever be able to part with any it.

[@conservachick100]

When my mom passed away two years ago, we were left with a lot of "stuff." But everything was sentimental to me!! I'm finally starting to let go...and this video definitely helped.❤

[@mistymcclanahan1138]

So sorry about your Mama 😥 I lost mine 2 years ago also and I'm in the same place you are. May GOD bless you and your family. ♥️

[@DoItOnaDime]

I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️. Thank you for being here, I’m so glad to hear that 🤗

[@conservachick100]

@@mistymcclanahan1138 Thank you Misty. God bless you and your family as well. I came to realize that letting go of her stuff doesn't mean I'm letting go of her memory. I'm sorry for your loss. A mom is irreplaceable. 😘❤

[@MamaTine9]

I also lost my mom about a year and a half ago. I've found it hard to let go of ANYTHING that has a tie to her, even clothes or toys she gave to my boys that they've outgrown. I'm getting better at it though. I think letting myself have a moment with the item, whatever it may be, to feel those feelings, cry, grieve, allows me to then look at it with practical eyes and makes it easier for me to let it go.

[@mistymcclanahan1138]

@@conservachick100 Thank you and they are definitely irreplaceable. I have such a hard time even getting rid of a piece of paper that she wrote on. But I know she wouldn't want me to live in clutter. It's just taking me awhile. 😥

[@melyndaburdette2274]

I lost my dad to cancer 17 years ago. His last Christmas he worked with his sister to have teddy bears made of his clothes for my Mom, my sister, and I. ❤️❤️❤️

[@rubysliver33]

I had my friend make my mom a pillow made out of a shirt that belonged to my grandfather.

[@idoallthethings]

I make bears, pillows and quilts for people out of their family members clothing. Its such a wonderful (and decluttering) way to preserve memories while not taking up space with boxes and bags of things you will never see.

[@AuntieTay]

Just wanted to clean my house, not cry my eyes out... GREAT VIDEO!

[@marilynsanchez1753]

Seriously!!!!! lol

[@Poppykat9866]

I made the mistake of watching this on my lunch break had to welcome students back with swollen red eyes!

[@judithmcbride4023]

You have NO IDEA how this touched me! Sometimes you feel so bad about yourself, not being able to complete the task! YOU have given me renewed Hope!! GOD BLESS YOU!❤️

[@BeingNancy]

I hear you.♥️

[@arslp]

Great response. Touching, yet hilarious! One of her very best videos!

[@rebekah3186]

Love the teddy bear idea! I lost my big brother very unexpectedly in 2015 ... I have a box of his T-shirts... this is great idea!!!!

[@DoItOnaDime]

I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️ I hope you are able to have one made!

[@Wpopurple]

When she held up that teddy bear and said her brother I started cryinggggg Sorry for your loss Kathryn ♥️ thank you for keeping our spirits high May God always keep you smiling

[@michellemorales401]

"Let that gift be a blessing to someone else"... I love that!!! This was another great Video, much needed!!! I KNOW what I'm doing on weekends this month and next month!!

[@aleksynicolas5910]

Hello how are you doing today 💝

[@jeannereich8690]

This was a very touching video. I am over 70 now and have been slowly decluttering my house because I don't want to leave a huge mess for my children to deal with. It is hard. When I was a freshman in college our home burnt completely. I have next to nothing of the first 19 years of my life. Because of this it's very, very hard to let go but I am seriously working on it. I appreciate your feelings on this. It will definitely help me. Thank you!

[@AZHITW]

BRAVO Jeanne! I'm 71, soon to be 72, and I've been decluttering for the past 10 years, things I've held on to for years because my sister would guilt me into it. My sister passed several years ago, and I'm now free to declutter without guilt. Just because someone gifted you something doesn't mean you have to keep it forever, use it, love it, then pass it on so someone else can love it.

[@jeanetteh.9240]

I sympathize. I grew up poor, and it's taken me 45 years to gather what I have. Lots of garage and estate sales, thrift stores, hand-me-downs, etc. I'm retired now, and not in good health, so I no longer truly need much of what I own. But, the fear of not being able to replace something is deeply imbedded . . .

[@jeannereich8690]

I know your pain ladies!

[@jeannereich8690]

I bought the book so we will see...

[@jennawildah6514]

@@jeannereich8690 The grey area. How to handle it? (go to straight to 16:49) kzbin.info/www/bejne/amLChX6Da9Fgja8

[@michellerochemediarelations]

This video brought tears to my eyes as it brought me back to when I decided to sell my 2200 sq foot home that was chock full top to bottom (not in a hoardin way, but 16 years of collecting and accumulating). I read the "Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning," although I was just 55, and it changed my life. It took me about 5 months to do it (my Mom died in the middle of it), but I sold my home and kept just enough to furnish a place for one person. I now live in a 2 bedroom, 1 bath house (thankfully it has a walk-up attic for storage) that I keep very tidy (except my office, LOL). DOWNSIZING was the best thing I ever did! I can clean my house in an hour, and I also have peace of mind knowing I am not leaving a big mess for my relatives to clean up if I should go tomorrow.

[@patriciaburr4826]

I remember when my sister passed away my brother in law had me remove all her xmas things from the house. I kept everything for about 2 years. I finally was able to part with some of her stuff when a couple of co workers were moving into their 1st houses. I think she will be pleased knowing she brought joy to kids just starting out. She lived xmas and it makes me feel like she is still spreading joy. I still have things that were hers but each year I am able to pass on a little more. Thank you.

[@saral.8497]

🥰😭 That is beautiful.

[@kellymcfalls1458]

Patricia Burr Merry Christmas

[@MotherMuse]

Just a tip, might want to take a picture of your great-grandmother's dish if you are letting go of the rest of them. Since dishes have a tendency to break and if you are just keeping one... to hold onto the memory... I still have the decorative deerskin moccasins and a little bit of other beadwork made by my great grandmother. Those irreplaceable one-of-a-kind items are so precious! xo

[@elmogal4lyyyfe]

That's what I was thinking! What if that one breaks and she gave the others away 😭

[@MichaelReinkexMiXaLx]

Reinforce it unbreakable with clear epoxy.

[@sparklej1142]

I would have kept the cups for future generations. And maybe included a picture and note about her. I cherish those things that have been handed down to me... There are so few. And not everything has to end up in the kitchen or dining room. Old Tupperware, so long. Items for the family either find function or make gifts for future generations.

[@Eli-bz4vv]

@@elmogal4lyyyfe yes, I was thinking that too . 😢

[@kellywest1032]

Lost both my parents this year so this sure struck a chord! 😭 Not sure I’m ready to let go of the clutter from them but when I am I’ll remember this video! Thanks

[@maryann9226]

May they R I.P. 🙏

[@superpapi]

When I heard the name "Swedish Death Cleaning" I pictured something else. I thought you put on Swedish Death Metal music, and it made you clean faster before your brain melted.

[@jennawildah6514]

:D lol I was a bit curious myself! But I watch this channel so I figured it was tame.

[@christineflores49]

Lmbo 🤣

[@lynsch.7681]

Great idea 😂

[@kckckckck]

Damn that’s what I need. 😂

[@valeriehancotte-galan4790]

Haaaaaaa!

[@robertbeining141]

Your sensitivity is a such a beautiful thing and it truly inspires others. Decluttering is such a cleansing experience and I highly recommend it to every single person. Folks, don't feel like you to need to declutter everything in the same day . . . one thing at a time. May a list of what absolutely needs attention, prioritize your list, and then declutter one space at a time. All, Stay Strong, Be Well, Keep Safe, Declutter On!

[@thebudgetbee9694]

Good advice! Thank you!

[@marthakasten4725]

"Everything you own owns a part of you." This really hit home - I am inching toward making the Mental Shift that I know I need in order to commit to letting go of the stuff I have accumulated over the 18 years we have been in our old (1892) house raising our two children. Thank you for helping me by sharing your journey!

[@joang8010]

I LOVE your channel. I lost my mom over Thanksgiving. I am having to go thru her precious home and generations of belongings. It was her "nest". Your words are helping me. ❤️

[@thebudgetbee9694]

I'm so sorry for your loss. God bless you - He knows what a difficult time this is for you. Remember, even Jesus wept.

[@TiffyQ559]

I'm a mother to 2 boys, who works fulltime at a Level 1 Trauma Hospital, going to school fulltime, and a Wife to a US Forest Service Hotshot who is gone 6 months a year. So I constantly feel exhausted and overwhelmed. Whenever I can't get motivated on the weekends to clean and organize, I ALWAYS watch your videos. You are amazing, inspirational, and I love how humble you are!!! Thank you for being my motivation!!! ❤

[@valeriehancotte-galan4790]

God bless you for working in a hospital!

[@emilybartchy4569]

Wow you are such a heroine and inspiration.

[@carolpainter4305]

What a beautiful letter from your grandmother, so beautifully written.

[@atinybitofthisdesigns]

I have no idea why I cried through this whole video. This year has been so overwhelming for me. I have lost three really close friends and my uncle as well as 7 other friends (I have never thought I would have so much loss in one year). My husband and I are recovering from Covid as as I try to keep my mind busy I look around our space and realize I have way too much stuff that I hold onto mostly for sentimental reasons. I would not want my family to have the burden of decluttering my stuff. Thank you for your sweet words of encouragement for us to deal with letting go of these things we never use but hold on to maybe because we are afraid of losing the last pieces we have of a loved one.

[@MonkeyBunnyShop]

Sending good vibes to you and your husband. Sorry for your losses. Healing takes time. You are doing an amazing job. You are enough. Keeping you and your family in my prayers

[@DoItOnaDime]

I’m so sorry for your losses this year- be well and prayers for a full recovery for you and your husband

[@ashleycunninghamfitness1181]

I'm so sorry you have had so many losses and such a trying year. Sending you love and peace and internet hugs ❤

[@atinybitofthisdesigns]

@@ashleycunninghamfitness1181 thank you

[@atinybitofthisdesigns]

@@MonkeyBunnyShop thank you

[@karenlebeter4196]

Great job! After reading about Swedish Death cleaning, I thought about all the stuff my son would go through, and decided I would not burden him with my stuff. So I'm decluttering like crazy.

[@valeriehancotte-galan4790]

Great idea! Too much on the kids

[@bodang158]

Thank you. I wish more parents would think like this.

[@wordsculpt]

Please make sure that it gets to people who need it, rather than a landfill.

[@jeanettebatavich3991]

that is exactly why I did it. Still doing more.I don't want to burden my son with more than necessary. keeping it simple.

[@dawnswan1035]

"A better and more faithful reminder..." man oh man, I needed to hear this. My folks have passed 26 years ago, and we are now at the point of downsizing for retirement. Knowing I can't take all the sentimental things with me, especially those that belonged to my parents, and my kids when they were small, is torture. Your comment about finding a "faithful reminder" is so, so true. I think I can tackle those sentimental items a little easier now. Swedish Death Cleaning is an excellent book. Your video was great. Thanks for sharing. :)

[@foxyscraftycorner9000]

I'm not a mom but as a tween-teen these help me a lot to declutter and clean my room because I share my room with my younger brother so we have so many toys and your videos really help. So Thank You!!! Thanks for the replies! :D

[@meilanijesper9621]

Awww...proud of you!! Wish my daughter had that kind of motivation lol

[@jazmingomez2011]

@@meilanijesper9621 show her these videos. They always motivate me

[@meilanijesper9621]

@@jazmingomez2011 I sure will give it a try!!

[@DoItOnaDime]

That’s awesome!!

[@thebudgetbee9694]

What a grown up tween you are! So proud of you! Starting good habits early is fantastic. And it will make it easier for you to make good choices later. Good job!

[@janethomas4885]

Just remember that family member’s treasures were what they loved. If you don’t love them let them go so someone else can love them. You shouldn’t feel guilty about passing them on.

[@abbeygrantham1191]

I wouldn't take a million dollars for my Grandmas china. But I love it.

[@amywalker7515]

You need to keep a few things to pass down to your great great grandchildren. I have pictures from my great great grandparents who lived in the 1860's. So glad my relatives didn't throw them away. It's nice to know where you came from.

[@countrybootsgirl]

Behind the couch organizing is brilliant!!

[@thebudgetbee9694]

I almost spit my drink out when she moved the couch! LOL I love this channel so much. :)

[@aleksynicolas5910]

Hello how are you doing today 💝

[@susanwinkle5]

Ok so I’m crying over your great grandmother! I’m having a hard time with my mothers stuff, and I also don’t want to hold onto things anymore! I have a lot of health issues and if I have a few good hours I don’t want it to be for cleaning! Thank you this was meant to be seen with my eyes ❤️❤️. I’m 63 and want my good days/hours to belong to family and service 🙏🏻😘

[@eileendasneves3540]

Wow you are so amazing and how lucky your family is to have you 💖💯 and congratulations on being a grandmother! God bless you and wishing you the happiest days to come during this new year ✌️❤️

[@ayewards5564]

A question that simultaneously hurts, helps, and frees, is when I ask myself, "Is this who I am, or is this a fantasy about myself?" We spend so much time telling other people who we are, we sometimes forget to be who we really are. When I let go of the things I feel guilty about not using more, it frees me to focus on the things I do enjoy using and doing.

[@Nonameforyoudangit]

Beautiful, clear question - what a gift! Thank you!

[@youresoakinginit2113]

Great answer!

[@Katc83]

Love this!

[@MsOLWYNN]

Great final statement. Thank you mate🇦🇺👍🙂

[@gittepige07]

In case you don't know Kathryn, the bowl from your great grandmother is Royal Copenhagen (look for the three waves underneath) in the pattern known in English as "Blue fluted" (musselmalet in Danish) - classical Danish porcelain. That particular style of bowl was produced between 1898 and 1923.

[@roseenglish7923]

yes, I noticed that too, because I've got a beautiful plate, here in Frankfurt.

[@3pumpkins170]

That bowl is so beautiful and unusual. Unfortunately, we don't make high quality bowls like that anymore.

[@huitrecouture]

@@3pumpkins170 Nobody wants them. You can't give them away. THAT'S why "we don't make them".

[@mremboblog]

I live in Denmark and Royal Copenhagen porcelean is VERY EXPENSIVE and if hers is that old, it is collectors item and will fetch and boatload of Danish krona!!!

[@debc7341]

That bowl is special and very beautiful ❤️

[@viviancabrera3863]

One of the best decluttering videos you’ve made. Everything you said made so much sense. My grandmother passed away a month ago and I want to hold on to everything she ever touched or anything that smells of her. It’s so hard to let go and this video really made me see things in a different way. Thank you

[@angieemm]

My mother passed recently. My dad and I are going through the exact same thing right now. He'll never watch this video, though. We're not in a time crunch to make decisions but if you have to clean out a house or something, I would imagine that's a bit of added pressure on you. I'm sorry.

[@doris1826]

Vivian, take whatever time you need. There is no time table for mourning except your own.

[@ziolove]

'Everything you own owns a part of you.' Truth. Brilliant. I feel it every day, and I'm done. I already feel lighter even as I just begin the long-put-off declutter. Beautiful video. Thank you for all you shared. Peace

[@paulaalford5974]

This is a timely video for me. My mom passed almost 2 yrs ago and I want to keep EVERYTHING that was hers. I know in my head I can’t but my heart wants to hold on to her/ he things. A work in progress.........

[@valeriehancotte-galan4790]

Pictures on a thumb drive. Thank God for technology 🙂

[@sueannettesmith1605]

My Mom died young( 41 years old)… and she was a magnificent seamstress who designed and sewed her own beautiful and extensive wardrobe. After she died, we kept her clothes hanging in a large, dry basement closet for three years. I remember looking at them and smelling each piece. Mom’s “fragrance” was still on them! Dad said that we would know when to get rid of them. God would give us a sign! As it turned out, Dad’s secretary had a needy sister-in-law who was beginning to work outside the home. Dad gave her all Mom’s gorgeous clothes...except for the ones that we daughters chose to keep for ourselves, of course. The lady was so tickled! She told Dad that she had a fashion show, trying everything on, for her family. We were delighted!

[@Jntcln]

My Mother died 10 yrs ago and the hardest part of moving to another state was leaving her house and many of her things behind. My heart has never gotten over it esp as my Husband died shortly after. I would have kept everything if I could have. I really took this video to heart. I have to lighten my load even more.

[@20greeneyes20]

What I did was saved mom's special meaningful items that I knew ment something to her. Not just clothes or furniture. So whatever she held dear that's what you keep. Of course thing that can be useful to you as well. The rest can be someone else's treasures. Sorry about the loss of your mom I know it's really hard to process. ❤️

[@kaylamar1288]

I never in my life thought that I would cry watching a decluttering video. Must be all my pregnancy hormones, or something. I cried harder than I'd like to admit. 😞 Thank you for sharing this video with us. 💙

[@DoItOnaDime]

Congratulations on your baby, what a blessing! Sometimes it’s healing to let the tears fall ❤️

[@kaylamar1288]

@@DoItOnaDime Thank you so much! Yes, it's weird to say but it definitely feels good to let yourself feel sad sometimes. Can't wait for your next video! 💕

[@thebudgetbee9694]

It's not just the pregnancy hormones - lots of us cried! Congratulations on your upcoming addition! What a blessing from God!

[@beccaharrah2534]

Just discovered this incredible woman!!! Her sincerity just shines through. So many “popular” KZbin content makers are preachy, self-involved and not relatable. They may actually have some valuable tips for cleaning, declutteting, diet, weight loss, etc but their personality is a turnoff. This woman definitely brought me to tears. She seems so very kind and genuine and helpful. Thank you!! Time to “declutter” some of the channels i have subscribed to.

[@juliemoll8711]

Exactly- feel same!

[@BUBBLESMOMMOM2011]

I agree with what you wrote. This is my first time seeing her video and now I am committed.

[@ashleys4652]

What about framing the letter your grandmother gave you so you can see that everyday too? Put it in the kitchen near her bowl with a framed picture of her, a little Grandma Vinette? ❤

[@AuroraFinesse-is9vg]

Excellent idea! -- and a photo of the bowl, for posterity. M, 01/18/2021

[@valeriehancotte-galan4790]

Nice!

[@vickielancaster7054]

Letter might fade.

[@ashleys4652]

@@vickielancaster7054 I am sure Kathryn has already made digital copies of such an important and cherished document. She can also put it in an acid free clear page protector so the original doesn't get damaged.

[@winstonsmith9533]

Absolutely! I have a prayer my Granny said during the Depression for her family's necessities, hanging in my family room with directions written by my Grandad and Playbill of my Mom's when she saw Errol Flynn. All in the same frame!

[@kayla8995]

Just what I needed to help kick off my whole-house decluttering project!

[@amandawilliams2266]

Same!

[@stephanielabrier6226]

Thank you for sharing Kathryn! I lost my husband in July of 2019. My mom's cousin took some of his shirts, and made them into quilts, and pillows for my kids, his mom, and sister. What a precious gift!💕

[@skatermom226]

I struggle so badly with items that belonged to my parents and grandparents. It’s SO hard to let go of the guilt of getting rid of something that’s been in your family for so so long! 😩

[@mb1496]

Then just don't do it. It's really that simple. I mean, seriously, if the benefit of getting rid of the item is lessened because the guilt is eating you alive, what's the point of getting rid of it? Just to see if you can?

[@skatermom226]

@@mb1496 I struggle with some things more than others which is why I don’t get rid of everything. It certainly doesn’t eat me alive. 😂

[@pragawa]

Take pictures of them to keep.

[@ArtamStudio]

If the items are quality, heirloom, handmade, holds a specific memory like the dish she showed after finding her grandmother's letter, or is OF USE, then by all means keep. This concept helped me purge: these items were mass-produced things that my elders just happened to have purchased or received themselves as a gift. The items are not my elders.

[@laceyfi]

I kept a lock up full of things from my Nana for 2 years before giving them away. Such a waste and still feel guilt but I didn’t need those things and they are not my Nana xxx

[@meghanhertzog2426]

Thank you for sharing the letter from your Great Grandmother, that was so sweet I cried with you. So true, as a hoarder, we can find so many reasons to hold on, and if it's sentimental forget about it! LOL thanks for helping me get some FREEDOM for myself.

[@lizzabbott]

Ooooh you are so sweet, pretty, & kind ! Your Home looks so lovely ! Peaceful, light, happy & welcoming! Ooooh I am very sorry for the loss of your brother ! Your son is so sweet ! Excellent artwork ! Cute pup ! Great example & ideas. God bless you ! Liz

[@helenascribe210]

My mom, who is originally from Finland, has always done this. I remember as a kid hearing her tell my dad, "Don't hang onto stuff you don't want the kids to have to go through when we're dead." I used to think that was morbid, but now I get it. 🙄

[@sarahsuetopka4748]

You say the most wonderful things that a lot of people need to hear, Thanks for the inspiration ❤

[@KTHomDesignsPaperCrafts]

LOVED the section about your grandma's gifts to you and your thought process as you decided to keep that one item of hers that you would use every day, and by using it every day, it would truly remind you of her daily. This video was so helpful. Thank you!

[@janethzamora2897]

Why are you making me cry so early 😩💜

[@ZaSu2u]

Before I attack my own clutter situation, Kathryn, there is one more thing to remember like with Great Grandma's dishes (or other items that belonged to a grandmother) .... I know you have sons, not daughters, but PLEASE Save something of GG's for each of your sons as a family heirloom. Also, before I got rid of the remainder of my mother's china tea cups, I gave one cup/saucer as Christmas gifts to each of my girl cousins. THEY LOVED having something that belonged to their Aunt Helen. Just wanted to toss this idea out there.

[@heybonbon8525]

I had to declutter my parents' house after they died. So much stuff! I started doing my own after that so my son won't have so much to worry about after I'm gone. He's just going to toss it anyway so if I can donate it now where I want it to go, I figure that's a win.

[@asafaust8869]

While in the process of downsizing from a 3 bedroom house to a 1 bedroom apartment, I am making slow, steady progress. I like the way a smaller place makes it easier to organize things so that they can be found later. It took me a long time to understand why my Dad had so many duplicate items. Now, I know, that it is easier to buy a new flashlight or hammer, rather than find the one that is in the house somewhere. The minimalist concept is harder than I thought it would be since my hoarding tendency is an issue, though it is a milder version compared to my late father's.

[@rfhrtsc2]

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[@abbyhenderson9574]

I'm a highly sensitive person too and when I declutter I ask myself if I have used the item in the last 6 months (in the last year for seasonal items) and I try not to keep "just in case" items that clutter my space. For me, gratitude really helps and knowing that the things I don't use much can bless someone else is something that makes decluttering much easier.

[@JesseLynnLibertarian]

Was not expecting to cry. This one struck a chord.

[@bethgile6223]

I am crying too. Great grandma did it.

[@eileendasneves3540]

@Jesse Lynn- This one really hit home for me as well. Sending hope and blessings to you this New Year ✌️❤️

[@eveobrien594]

Me too!! ❤️🥲

[@gelwood99]

My Mothers' things are like that. I am committed to eliminating so much this year. I have many/most of my Mon's kitchen things/dishes/platers/pots/bakeware I am overwhelmed and sitting here bawling! Not easy to get rid of those but I know the memories will remain. But still.......😢😢😢

[@The_Beach_Lady]

Exactly.... same here

[@VIVETVITAS]

OK, you made me cry talking about how you've kept so many things because they remind you of who you lost. Thanks for sharing that.

[@rongentry8807]

What about old pictures have tubs of them what kind I do with them don't want my kids to deal with all these am 78 neep help

[@anmiyoto]

I did the "Swedish Death" cleaning about two years ago and got rid of so much. Thank you for the reminder that we all need a reboot every once in a while.

[@Kaet_RN]

I’ve always tried to live this way- living in a small NYC apartment really forces you to be very thoughtful and aware of your “stuff.” And as a mom in a home, I hate how much time is spent relocating and putting “stuff” away which makes me want less of it! It starts to own you!

[@valeriehancotte-galan4790]

Yes indeed

[@cynthiashepherd7008]

THANK YOU SO SO MUCH!!! I'm 55 and single and planning on moving into my "last" home, your video helped me see that its ok to declutter ( even sentimental) things!!!! God bless you and your family....you are enough.

[@michelesherman3569]

I just found this channel and I'm OBSESSED!! I'm newly divorced, on an extreme budget and my ex moved to another state so he left all his clutter for me to deal with along with mine. I'm loving all of your videos :)

[@katnuccio85]

Perhaps you can sell the items at a low cost?

[@thebudgetbee9694]

eBay his junk! ;) You've discovered one of the best channels on KZbin! :)

[@laurieboone1239]

Another great channel is Frugal Fit Mom! She will give you amazing ideas for saving money, shopping and cooking ... Boyh of these channels are my go to!!

[@jennasalgado665]

😭😭😭 when you showed us that letter and the bear. I've got a box full of family dishes I dont have the heart to ever part with but your video inspired me to actually use them.. one day.. baby steps lol

[@sharondipaolo3570]

Yes, if you are going to keep them, I agree, use them! When we got married 29 years ago, my husband and I had very little. We never put our wedding gifts of crystal vases or bowls on the top shelf to use “someday”. We just used them every day right next to our plastic dishes from the discount store. The crystal bowl holding our fruit on our island is a wedding gift and I think of my friend who gave it to us every day. If something breaks I toss it without guilt because the item has been well used and well loved and I always think the giver would appreciate that. Think of it this way - if you gave a friend a mug and somehow learned that for 29 years they thought of you every single day when they used it, would you be hurt if it broke and they tossed it? I think most people would be touched that their friend was thinking of them every day. ❤️

[@carolynwhybird5808]

Definitely the best declutter video I have seen. Thank you.

[@soikyjones5949]

I was just realizing how much clutter we have in my house. I finished cleaning out my closet 2 days ago, I feel so much better now alot less clutter!Freedom for 2021! I subscribed!

[@thebudgetbee9694]

FREEDOM!!!

[@meganheinley9507]

I was raised by a hoarder and now I'm battling that same instinct myself. This was an immense help. Thank you so much for this video. 😊

[@xannaz9226]

Raised by TWO hoarders and obsessed with anything promising organization.

[@wendyharms3812]

I was praying that this video would really be the one that helped me learn how to just let it go.! It's also a good idea if you also take a picture of your good sentimental items that you cannot keep , I heard. Thank you very much for taking the time to do this for all of us! Of course it helps! Do you ever find yourself looking for something you got rid of just the week before? I do that LOL! I'm praying that doesn't happen ,again to me, either! So I will ask myself also, would I run back into grab this if the house were on fire?" Unfortunately, I was moving, this was before plastic bins so I had everything in cardboard boxes, and everything flooded. So I had no choice or choices! The next time that I moved, everything was in the car and I was driving down the highway when the car caught on fire and I had no idea because it was underneath. The two major destroyers... Water and fire. So ask yourself also if you had enough time to grab a few things, what do you think they would be? This was helpful thank you! Blessings to you! Thank you again!!! Because paperwork is the number one problem today due to junk mail, and sorting it! We all need to start with filing cabinets A through Z... It's a life changer! Thank you so much again! We all appreciate your time and effort! I can't wait to see what you have in store for us next! I stink at computers so I hope I don't miss it! God bless you!!!!❤️❤️❤️

[@BB-hk9cq]

Thank you for your video and sharing all your things for it will help me with my hoarding I just lost my parents 2 years ago and brought everything home it seem like that I already have too much of my own and now I have even more and I didn't know where to start I get overwhelmed but watching your video will help me so much that I've even gone through counseling to try to figure out how to start and where to start thank you for sharing what you've gone through and yes I want somebody else to enjoy the wonderful things that I've had in my life I've been blessed now I would like to bless somebody else to enjoy thank you again💞😇💜😊

[@EvelynSanchez463]

I’m not an emotional person per say, but your grandmother’s letter & your brother teddy bear made my heart warm ❤️🥺 I miss my grandma, I kept her rosary and that brings me peace. Love your content & kind messages. WE ARE ALL ENOUGH ❤️🙂

[@mistymcclanahan1138]

I lost my Mama 2 years ago and before she passed I lost my Dad and my Mom was a seamstress so we cut out square patterns and made a quilt from his shirts and now I'm trying to find someone help me with my Mama's clothes. I think the teddy 🐻 idea is really precious.

[@thebudgetbee9694]

I"m sorry for your losses. A quilt is a wonderful idea and it's fantastic that your mom helped you with it. Now maybe you can have a teddy bear from your mom's clothes. You can curl up with your quilt and hold your bear. That would be really lovely. Maybe you can put some of her perfume onto the stuffing or on the outside of the bear so it smells like her. :)

[@mistymcclanahan1138]

@@thebudgetbee9694 Thank you. That is a very good idea to put her favorite perfume on there. She loved the vanilla bean from bath and body works. ♥️ I use to buy it for her every year and I actually still do that now and spray it around my home and all.

[@monaabankwa6741]

I have to tell you... you are an earth angel. Not only are you teaching ppl how to bring divinity and peace into their homes, you are healing us too. Thank you so much for dedicating yourself to learning and mastering skills. Your videos are empowering and inspiring. I am going to now teach my daughters. Your channel is a blessing to me. Please keep it up!

[@toxiclovee4458]

When she said don't let anyone rush you do this on your own time I literally bawled, I lost my mom when I was four im 26 now and my dad I lost him just 6 months ago and I recently got most the things feom his house and it's just been so hard to look at or even go through and this video really made me feel better so Thank you so much maam

[@ms.krueger2660]

You have helped me so much. I have 2 sets of dishes I have never used. Sets of Glasses I never use. Clothes I have not touched in years. You have inspired me to donate and to declutter. Love your videos. 💜

[@marlam5371]

“That’s seen better days” 😂 I always say that when I declutter!!!

[@lightningbug276]

The note had me in tears. And I’m so sorry you lost your brother . 😢 ❤️

[@AbbeyClint]

“This year, simple is the new happy” so true

[@AnasCreativeCorner]

The teddy bear of shirts is one of the sweetest things I've ever seen.

[@jenanne31]

Kathryn, you are awesome! I love your videos. Thank you!

[@mommasnider1774]

This was powerful. I just did my kitchen this weekend. Pans I never use plastic stuff. This just make feel my gold ⭐️

[@jaymelyman7593]

I cried watching this. I have lost my older sister and both my parents back ten years ago and I miss them. It is hard for me to let go of the items. I will try to do what you have done and choose a few special items only. My kitchen and my personal stuff need a declutter badly.

[@thebudgetbee9694]

I'm sorry for your losses. It's so hard to declutter loved ones possessions. I think, the fewer items we have, the more we enjoy them. God bless you as you try to weed through your things. One channel I watched spoke of putting things "in quarantine" to see if you can do without them. She had a basement (her channel is The Minimal Mom) so that worked well for her. If you have a place to store stuff away she says you can put it away and if you don't miss it after a prescribed period of time, (months, years, whatever) that means you can do without it. Maybe that would help if you have a storage spot where you can stash items. I think everyone has gotten rid of something and they wish they hadn't - however - I think it happens less often than we think. I think we tend to only remember the stuff that we wish we hadn't gotten rid of - LOL - and maybe the space and simplicity we gained by all the other stuff we got rid of can be overshadowed by that ONE thing we wish we'd kept. It's better to get rid of 10 things you don't want and 2 things you wish you hadn't than to have 2 things you want and 10 things you don't need. Right? LOL. Cluttering conundrums!

[@daynad8104]

Does anyone else read through the comments, and wish we could all be friends? ❤️

[@Laura-rt2zu]

Hi I’m Catherine, with” Do it on a dime” . I like the flow of this intro! I have been watching for years but not doing! I feel inspired to tackle my reck of a 2160 sq ft home due to four years of my hubby being sick, caring for my 95 father at home of pneumonia, living with my healthy 96 year mother( I love her so much), driving four hour trip from home to mom. Now I watch you and feel inspired.

[@rozalka13]

Thank you for such great inspiration & thank you for reminding us what is truly important when holding onto sentimental items. Feel like this has been an emotional video - thanks so much for sharing with us xx

[@rebeccarodriguez3161]

Thank you so much for this video! I never comment but this one was directly to me! Going through the loss of my mom, it’s been so hard to even go back into her bedroom but when I do I’m loving the teddy bear idea! Thank you so much!!

[@darkskyimages5911]

This is great! And very encouraging. I spend a great deal of my time out in the desert as an astrophotographer and I do home decorating with my deep sky images. My home is also my studio, but despite my "space art" taking precedence, it's always good to do some deep cleaning to make way for creativity and sustainability. Thank you for this!

[@storytellermistymator]

"Simple is the new happy." Great line and idea

[@annecurtin336]

Your stories always touch my heart - the one today about your great Grandma got me thinking about mine. Thank you!

[@elizabethtyler1746]

One of my favorite videos of yours!!! Thank you so much for being so open and humble

[@berrystraws]

You letting go of your great grandmother's dishes was so powerful. Thank you for sharing.

[@RicharJOlivera]

So True

[@bonniemarter4851]

Crying as I watch this. I can totally see how a holding on to things we don't use is connected to fear. Thank you for sharing your heart as you always do. Praying blessings over you guys!! 💚

[@jamilgotcher5456]

I got tears when you ran across your letter it reminded me of the letter I recently found. While I was decluttering/organizing I ran across a letter from my Great Aunt to me when she sent me a card with a letter inside and money for high school graduation. She's passed away in 1990. I miss her so much, she was a very special woman.

[@ashleighrose8115]

Im not crying, you're crying... 😢 That was so beautiful ❤️

[@Geminii44]

Oh man I’m crying. I’m a very sentimental person as well, and I would have found it VERY hard to pass down those cups.

[@babethebuilder1]

I couldn't have done it man. I'm too emotional. Especially after she wrote that note. She should've kept just two maybe or one. As her special tea cup (or coffee) and it would be only hers, like the one she uses everyday for her morning coffee. Like sharing a little moment with her grandma every morning. My grandma passed after my Saudis turned one and she's 19 now and it still feels like yesterday. We moved into her home after she passed bc my dadgot it and paid for it bc it was tied up in probate bc of her medical bills and Medicare. Smh. Anyways it was hard bc we moved in with alot of her stuff there and for years everytime anything for spilled on the carpet etc I would freak out. I ended up in a very toxic abusive relationship with the kids dad did twenty years ans he just ended up destroying that house over the years. I put so much time and love into that little two bedroom house. Two kids and two of us. It was way too small but it was free to him so we never moved bc he was a user. After 19 long horrible unfaithful years he has a two year affair with a terrible horrible mother of two that was twelve years younger than him that temped on his job for a year and he cheated on me everyday in my car at that job until they got caught. She got fired and a year after it happened I found out he cheated and that's the real reason he got taken off that job site by the general ( the company above his company he was a Carpenter for) and he stole over 20k in a few years in Copper from it too. He's no longer in our lives and he's all druggied out with her. Lost his job and storage unit and family and all for a girl that gave up her two LITTLE kids to be with him with no kids to tie them down so they can live a party lifestyle ...but he destroyed my home and all my memories of growing up across the street from my granny there. Those are the kinds of things that are harder to lose than things. The memories of places that we once so precious and now are horrible reminders of almost twenty years in thread house with a druggie cheating physically mentally and verbally abusive man. That walked out on his family. And man we have two AMAZING kids. They aren't like other kids these days . Been honor roll all their lives. Don't do drugs. My daughter is a 19 year old with two jobs in college and helps take care of me and her brother now bc of my physical health problems ( that everyone thinks he contributed too bc of the constant anxiety and fighting everyday and fear). So...I would trade everything to have the memories of that home and my grandma back before it became a stronger reminder of my own personal hell for over half my life. The first half there though? Some of the best of my life. God how I miss her.

[@babethebuilder1]

I'm so sorry that turned into a freaking book. 🤦🏼‍♀️I guess I needed to get it out? Lol. 😬😔😂 u don't have to read it all though. Oh lord I really went in lol

[@suesmith1505]

@@babethebuilder1~~so if you don’t mind me asking, why did u have to leave that house? Or you wanted to?

[@babethebuilder1]

@@suesmith1505 my father owned the house ( and paid the Mortgage on it for the Seventeen years we lived there. It was only supposed to be a few months we lived there while we looked for a new place and my dad had been begging me to move in after my grandma died and he decided to get a loan to keep it. And he lived across the street, as controlling as my father was he thought if lives righr across the street he could control everything. Then he ended up having to move..long story.and we stayed. I told him I didn't want to move in bc I knew we would never leave bc my ex knew it would be free rent, it was only supposed to be $250 a month. Then three hundred after my dad built a 2 1/2 car garage on it . My ex maybe paid the rent a total of 15 times in all those years. When I worked for two years as a loan closer assistant to my step mom I paid it every month almost). And my ex destroyed it. Let the kids eat in the living room.,installed the air conditioner wrong so it flooded the carpet leaking. One day I woke up and a 10x10 foot area of my carpet in front of it was soaked. So the last two years we lived there we had no carpet. Finishing nails sticking up all against the trim a along the walls. Constantly stepped on them. The basement always flooded. The kids room was a extension my dad had just built for my grandma before she passed away a few years later so it was new but it wasn't insulated very well so it was always really cold or hot in that room. Which wasn't meant to be a bedroom. It wasn't upto code to wait be part of the house either. My dad took alot of short cuts I now see now that I'm older and I'm now knowledgeable about carpentry and such. My ex was a Carpenter. Made $29 a hour and couldn't pay rent. Funny he pays $1100 now on the loft he lives in with the druggie whore he cheated on me with and moved in with the very day I caught him again a second time and kicked him out a final time. Well...when he was working. He hasn't worked in eight months. Or so we thought and were told. Got a picture of him sent to me of him on a job two days ago so he's been lying to avoid child sprt. Everyone was right. He used us until he knew the kids were close to turning 18, I think he would've stayed untik my son turned 18 just to avoid it. He l paid it the first few months after we split up just to look good and be able to run his mouth. Then bc of drugs he lost his job and she's been supporting him on her child support and the money she gets from her ex who is still married to her actually, bc she uses her daughter to blackmail him to send her money. Tells him she'll take their daughter back from him if he doesn't. The 3 year old daughter she only sea one time a year and doesn't even call to talk to for months. Smh., I wanted a drug free normal life. Wanted to take my kids to church and have a peaceful simple life. Yet I did everything I could that a man says that they want in a wife and mother and he still did this. Hasn't seen his kids in two years almost now. And he knew my dad was losing the house so he had to find new supply ( the whore) bc that's what narcissists do, he needed someone new to mooch off of, and he knew no good woman would want him so he found some trailer trash at work who was married. Began a 18 month long affair with her and told her he was leaving us. After four months after we split my dad said we had to move in. What he always wanted. And now it's more toxic here than with my abusive cheating narcissistic ex. My dad throws our clothes away for no reason, he locked my daughter and I out on new years eve for leaving for two hours so she could take a few pics for new years for her Instagram ( kids lol 🤷🏼‍♀️). My daughter works two jobs..goes to college full time and gets strait A grades and always has all of her life ( idk how with the way her father was and the home with she lived in. My ex would scream and fight all night until 3-4 morning. She really is my angel. That kid has saved my life more times than I can count. I didn't want to be a burden on her and bc of my Health issues I can't ever work full time so I'm afraid I will be. I can't stay here. My dad is going to end up killing us all in our sleep. My step mom told me on Xmas day the only reason she is with him is to keep everyone safe. He's miserable with his life now that he's disabled. He is old and weak n can't control ppl anymore and he can't stand it. He was once my hero and my role model. The man that taught me everything moral wise that I've taught my children and kept to all my life.) anyways long stories short lol...he is losing the house. It's been 1 1/2 years since we moved in here and he still had it though. But hasn't made a payment in that long. The bank finally put a paper on the house saying the house has been declared abandoned and they might charge the locks and winterize plumbing in the next few days. So we'll lose everything we have left there Thad my dad hasn't already thrown away. He's real good at that. I finally had a friend buy me a car as a gift ( that I did not want to accept but was told I had no choice if I wanted to get out of here.) Now I can work doing shipt and food delivery when I'm not in pain. I can set my own hours which is just what I needed. But my dad can't stand it that I f have a car he doesn't own and can't control. I've had to share a car with my daughter for two years bc he's been refusing to work on mine that's Sat in that garage over there for FIVE years. And I always had a car before I moved in here and before that. He would loan me one of his extra cars and now that I'm here he wants to control me 100% and my kids. He choked my 15 year old son and kept challenging him to fight him. My son would've killed him if he tried bc my dad is frail and weak now. Smh. I'm scared. I'm scared for the kids for me. For the future. But I won't burden my kids. I will end my life before that happens. My 19 yr old daughter is already helping so much bc her father is a dead beat now that won't, won't respond to her texts either to him telling him we know he's working now. That man ruined my life and ultimately might be the reason it will be over before I'm even 40.

[@valeriehancotte-galan4790]

Love tea cups

[@autumnmcbee5257]

Literally just wanted to stop by and let you know you literally have helped me through some really hard times with my anxiety and my mindset when my bf was overseas and also when we had a miscarriage when he came back. So thankful for your channel. We love you! Your channel is what I watch in the morning when I’m getting ready for work and also when I’m anxiety prone. Can’t imagine how I would be without it! You make me feel like I’m not alone! 💜💜💜💜💜💜

[@julias259]

Letting go is hard, and the longer we wait, the harder it gets. I appreciate all your videos and transparency with your viewers. Thank you so much for all the inspiration and guidance.

[@lifewithsami5543]

I loved this video. Thank you for being you!

[@angelicamartinez2935]

Oh my dear! never stop to make your videos. You take me from tears to happiness. Love what you do! Gob bless you 🙏❤

[@beckyboopz1]

Love your tender heart and your “can do” attitude. Thanks for helping us!

[@ohheynicolelee]

I just rewatched the old video the other day and thought “I wish there were more videos on KZbin about this topic to get me motivated!” And boom, silent prayers answered! Thank you for your kind spirit and encouragement! :)

[@brookereedy4155]

One of the best "decluttering" motivation vlogs I've seen yet. We let go of over half our belongings in 2020, and I still watch videos like these for continued motivation....this is a process you have to maintain, and it does take effort over the long haul. Thanks for an awesome and sincere video!