I used to say: "I can't keep a clean house, what's wrong with me??"

[@Nourishingminimalism]

Want to join me decluttering? Check out the Clutter-Free Army: nourishingminimalism.com/clutter-free-army/

[@karil6461]

As a house cleaner I have tried to encourage my clients to reduce their stuff making cleaning easier and cheaper for them. Even if you have the room for stuff you may not have the mental room to know where all of it is.

[@Nourishingminimalism]

That's a good point Kari!

[@CynicismForLife]

Physical room for stuff vs the mental room for the stuff. Awesome.

[@jessicab8426]

So true

[@bfbrmm]

Ok, this idea is a game changer for me!

[@Amandahugginkizz]

That Is so true! It doesn't bother my kids because they have grown up in chaos and clutter. My husband sometimes gets mad at the kids lack of action, I always have to remind him WE never taught them, we never made them

[@tinkershell1856]

Stupid Easy is my new life mantra!!! ❤️😂

[@Nourishingminimalism]

Perfect! 😂

[@howbethdoesit5695]

Mine too..lol

[@miriammartin9319]

I agree

[@peaceandquiet1983]

Amen!!!! I have terrible PTSD depression anxiety perfectionist "freeze" yada yada yada........i overthink and ruminate and just get so immobilized and EXHAUSTED. I have git to give myself more grace and let it go. I was conditioned w/ guilt and controlled with rage so it made me live in fear, in this place of subconcious thinking that LIFE MUST BE HARD EARNED, I SONT DESERVE EASE, etc. It truly manifests in my lack of believing Im allowed to live in a peaceful, still, clean, uncluttered home. But Im getting better. I appreciate this channel very much.

[@LL-rm1vj]

I’ve been praying for help and today I found your channel.

[@Nourishingminimalism]

I'm so glad you're here! ❤️

[@erinmcguire748]

Every reason you listed for not cleaning up is exactly the same as my own reasons for not cleaning. Honestly, it was shocking and also a relief to hear that somebody else experienced the exact things as me. This was so helpful. Thank you so much for making this video!

[@barbaracardoza9786]

Thank you. I have gone from feeling like "a freak of nature" and "a failure" to a determined "woman with a plan". Actually several plans/strategies. ♥️

[@tawnytuppence5573]

I have watched this video several times over the past few days because it resonates so much with me. After seeking minimalism for six years, I live minimally but have been holding onto too much STILL. I feel sad no one else pitches in and that there is too much for me to do. After I’m done tidying, there’s no time or energy to CLEAN. Your idea of having so little that it is “stupid easy” to clean hit me so hard and gave me the courage to let go of a lot of “just in case” items that have been holding me back. That truth was the piece I needed. Thank. You. SOOO. Much for your sensible, no nonsense, truthful, understanding words. They’re changing my life! Thank you!!! I’m excited to have minimal tidying so I can get to the scrubbing that never gets done.

[@Nourishingminimalism]

Tawny, I’m so glad to hear that! ❤️❤️

[@debkeller2440]

I don't like seeing either I'm I'm with you I don't like cleaning at all but I have to do it something somebody has clean somebody have to clean can't do it yourself but some have to clean I do with you I don't like to clean either but some have to have clean house

[@sibongilethwala7080]

I would love to be able to say I'm proud of my home.

[@hlb0111]

Me too

[@andreadotson7853]

Thanks for talking about the emotions that you went through in your process. It really is a big part of establishing a change.

[@Nourishingminimalism]

It really is! ❤️

[@cookingwithevrica.]

I said it once I say it again: this video is therapeutic

[@stephaniew6252]

You're so right! When there's stuff everywhere it's hard to even think about cleaning surfaces! It's taking forever to change my habits. But it's getting easier! When there's a million things my mind has to think to do it's overwhelming to do any. But less clutter makes noticing what needs to be put away or cleaned easier and more importantly make me want to do it without thinking about it.

[@Nourishingminimalism]

I'm so glad it's getting easier, that's so encouraging! ❤️

[@refilwesehlake]

Current stress, house cleaning takes the entire day, only to be upside down next day 🙄😔

[@barbaracardoza9786]

The "moving and shuffling" gets old fast, especially in a small space.

[@rockywalkie626]

I grew up with a mum who is a hoarder and can go through spells of not wanting to clean, when I moved out I was relieved only having to clean my own mess untill life got busier and busier and busier I tried to keep up with seasonal clear outs, spring cleans etc but even so living alone trying to juggle work, cooking, socialising, working on projects outside of work became a race for time... Today I finally got a cleaner to help me out it took her 3hours to straighten out the place and reorganise my kitchen and space maximise... I guess I still need to try and get rid of more stuff like whatt she says at *5:23*... I prefer when my house is spotless and clutter free it makes me more productive and less anxious...

[@bayleecrahan4753]

Your opening statement is me right now. I have been following you and Dawn and all of the other minimalist moms on the playlist and have been decluttering my house, slowly, but surely. I have already seen a huge improvement. Thank you!

[@Nourishingminimalism]

That's wonderful that you've seen improvement Baylee! ❤️

[@rosejones2932]

You are the kindest of the get rid of clutter gurus - so I love following you. It is so easy for clean people to judge those of us who are overcome with life You do not know the struggles we have. Anyway -appreciate the kindness.

[@Nourishingminimalism]

I’ve been there Rose. ❤️ my house was a complete disaster for so many years.

[@ylimerivers]

I do too. 💕

[@edithr4603]

Wow, exactly how I felt today when I get back from work. I'm been eliminated a lot but still I have a lot. Is like never end. 😩😢

[@Nourishingminimalism]

I'm sorry you felt that way. ❤️ Keep working at it, every little step is still moving forward.

[@edithr4603]

@@Nourishingminimalism thanks 😊

[@abrakadabranails3232]

I just do it now. Im so happy i changed for my kids

[@Cc-ux9pf]

I can't express in words how much your videos are helping to calm my mind. I'm struggling with dysthymia and anxiety.. I'm not able to maintain the house, doing basic chores. I decluttered a bit.. still I'm having difficulty in sticking to daily routines. Everything is messy and dirty rn dishes piled up in sink.. lot of laundry to do. I'm lacking self-care.. I need to take care of kid, manage her online classes. I'm constantly blaming myself for being this way. I'm feeling so overwhelmed right now. I don't know where to start.. your videos are giving me little hope that I can improve my situation. All I can say is thank you for existing sharing your thoughts. Lots of love God bless you ❤️❤️❤️

[@Nourishingminimalism]

Just do the next thing. ❤️ I get so wound up thinking of all the things, but just focusing on the thing in front of me helps me through the day. ❤️

[@Cc-ux9pf]

@@Nourishingminimalism After binge watching your videos. I cleaned my living room and bedroom.. now I have a clutter free space to relax.. done half of the dishesd. It felt really good 🌼 Everytime I do all at once or I do nothing. This is where I'm going wrong. I will definitely try to follow your morning and evening resets. All your tips are really helpful, thank you so much ❤️

[@h3arty]

I'm struggling so so so hard with this. just hired a cleaner and an organiser/time management coach. hoping this can help me :( it's really really hard and frustrating. thank you so much for this video

[@TheRashalove8]

You're an amazing mother and wife to even think about how they feel and compartmentalize every perspective. I am a young single mother of two and feel exactly the same. I appreciate you because, truly my mother suffers from mental illness so I didn't grow up to learn from other women that can help me maintain my home and properly raise my children. Thank you 😊❤️

[@Nourishingminimalism]

Thank you Rasha. I was a single mom of 3 for a time, those were hard days. You are doing great, seeking out guidance, good job Mama! ❤️

[@micheledryden1057]

Thank you for your ongoing inspiring videos!! I'm starting to feel I can have a happy, organized, decluttered home!

[@mosim9691]

AWESOME advice: I will commit to stop thinking about how long it will take to do something but instead look toward the result. Thank you! Thank you!

[@mariadionisiodionisio3062]

Thanks for sharing your beautiful inspiration 🤗 I really need my hand 🖐 on my stuff 🙏🙏🙏

[@briannah1915]

Appreciate you and your videos so much! I've spent the last 2 months decluttering and organizing (in that order lol) and after over a decade things seem to finally feel like they're coming together. Thank you!

[@Nourishingminimalism]

That's awesome Brianna! Good thing you've been decluttering first!! 😁

[@barbaracardoza9786]

"A manageable amount" ♥️😊

[@CassandraDeWitt]

Thank you so much for this video. It brought me so much peace and it’s just what I needed.

[@user-hf1ys4rr5h]

Your 777th like on a topic (especially dusting) that is very applicable to me.

[@TheOriginalKilamanjaro]

I hear you loud & clear. Every serfice we have is full of junk. Feels like a mountain & when u touch something it feels like an avalanche.

[@ellenryan127]

This is exactly what I'm in the process of becoming. A minimalist. It took a very traumatic event for me to realise that I can live with a lot less stuff!! I have been out of my home for 8 months because of a garage fire. So getting back into my home I am getting rid of a HUGE amount of "stuff". I look forward to watching more videos! Thank you!

[@Nourishingminimalism]

Oh Ellen, I’m sorry that happened! I wanted to embrace minimalism, but a traumatic event pushed me. I can laugh about it now, but it was hard. (Not as scary as a fire though!)

[@laurakidd5941]

I love how you help us identify our negative feelings associated with cleaning!

[@erint933]

I so so relate with this. I was going good last month but we hit emotional stress and my kitchen is back to a total disaster. 😭 I'm looking fwd to hearing this video, thank you!!❤👍

[@Nourishingminimalism]

The more you work at decluttering, the easier it will be to reset when life gets in the way like that. ❤️

[@erint933]

@@Nourishingminimalism ok thank you, such a good point to hear again. 👍😅

[@mrszoewatson]

So encouraging, thank you

[@Nourishingminimalism]

So glad!

[@dianahigbee7685]

This is an important lesson. I love it ❤

[@jenicearevalo77]

This was such a helpful and inspiring video! Thank you :)

[@vidahappy-frugalspanglishv1528]

Hello! Everything you talked about makes so much sense, habits make things easier in life. Thank you, have a wonderful Sunday!😉

[@jessicabulloch5302]

You are amazing and this will help so many.

[@lindaweiss6217]

Oh my gosh, this is me!

[@salmaloutfi3518]

thank you so muuuch for this ❤

[@danikeebler1662]

Recruit the family. It is their house too..The kids need to learn how to keep clean home so their roommates wont evict them. Your husband is part of your team. If he has to help, he will think twice before leaving a mess. If each of you does 30 minutes times the number of people it turns into a few collective hours. Decluttering will free up moving the items. Chances are the kids have outgrown it or is in the way because it no longer serves a purpose. Do things as you go, so you are not time debting with messes that happened last week.

[@tythefortnitegamer3249]

great advice my wife passed and now as a single dad not what I normally did. we already know these things but hearing it applied to problems we are not use to is so helpful. thank you

[@Nourishingminimalism]

I'm so sorry for your loss Ty. I'm so glad it was helpful.

[@fishingdandan4788]

I'm sorry for your loss man. I'm a single guy never married and I go through periods of cleaning and then let it all slip - when that happens it puts me in a spiral down and I feel terrible. Try to throw away/give away things and declutter. We all want to live in harmony. I think it's good to have a rota (I know) or just do a little bit very well, every day

[@gracewaterlilly8023]

I was feeling really ill yesterday and I watched your Video just to take my mind off things. Then I heard you say that if I cant keep the whole house clean, I should just keep my kitchen clean, if I cant Do that, I should just Do the dishes, If I cant Do that I should just clean one dish. Wow. That Was a Light bulb Moment for me. THANK YOU!

[@aronb2647]

I feel the same way I have Asperger's and I think it makes it even harder

[@sibongilethwala7080]

Stupid easy is my new motto.

[@hespeaksinourdreams3060]

This is me but with clothing. EVERYONE in my home has too much clothing… both grandmas always buying stuff for my kids… I have too much.. preteen daughter has a lot… husband still has stuff from when we were dating he won’t let me get rid of etc and I’m at the point where I want to donate some and wash the nicer stuff and put them on dpop etc. also going to get rid of old baby things too

[@samanthacook6598]

I literally feel as tho I’m losing my mind. As a child my Mom never cleaned…therefore I really don’t know how. I hate dirtiness and filth but yet I don’t know how to clean…I can sit here and bust my a** cleaning all day and STILL feel like it’s not enough bc it’s like even my walls are dirty and that bothers me so bad…I want to fix this but idk where to start…I wish I could just pay someone to come fix this but I’m too embarrassed to let anyone come in!

[@yb7471]

Start with laundry then your room your bathroom the other rooms and bathrooms the living room and finally the kitchen.. that’s my way I don’t know if you like it but u can give it a try

[@hazzaplayz808]

This is spot on 💯😔

[@at-pm3cb]

thank you so much for making this. "if this is eating me up I have to take action to do it" is exactly how I felt. MAYBE I sound crazy but I just dropped off my extra clothes at a few different laundromats (ppl appreciate free clothes more there by far), I threw out my dishes and said paper plates ONLY, threw out everything but 7 pairs of silverware and bought disposable forks

[@ericmiller7749]

I need this bootcamp

[@evelynserrano9609]

Thank you for this inspiring video! I needed this today! Time to start decluttering and organizing!

[@reginalol5324]

Where do I buy the draw wooden draw diveder you show in the picture? BTW I love your videos they have a peaceful undertone I so need right now in my life.

[@Nourishingminimalism]

It's a stock photo I found online... so I'm not sure. 😊

[@rozyy15]

Ikea sells a nice one called Variera: www.ikea.com/us/en/p/variera-flatware-tray-bamboo-20277441/

[@susanrobinson408]

What great advice!! Your home is lovely. Have you done a home tour to show the minimal beauty of this way of living? I would love to see how it looks.

[@Nourishingminimalism]

I haven't yet, but I definitely need to! Thanks Susan!

[@peaceandquiet1983]

I sgree, this would be so inspiring. You know, what always struck me about old family photos of home environments in the background was the mid century sparsity! As a kid it was "weird" and old-fashioned. I thought, geeze life must've been so boring...well of course it was not. They just lived fuller lives i think WITHOUT CONSUMERISM. This fascinates me, and the snippets of your home in this video allude to that.

[@fullof_sunshinee6267]

It’s difficult to get rid of things because my partner has a lot of stuff and doesn’t want me to get rid of anything. I’ve been decluttering my things since 2016 and that made a big difference but with dishes and stuff I’m limited…

[@anneadkins4403]

I understand. I am there. However, my husband uses the island kitchen as his desk and catch all. I can clean it off literally 3 times a day. I hate it. There is only 2 of us but he can use 4 cups or glasses a day! I get so frustrated with that. Makes me want to give up. If I talk to him he becomes very defensive! Great video by the way. My clutter has to go!

[@Nourishingminimalism]

I'm sorry, that's hard! ❤️

[@anneadkins4403]

@@Nourishingminimalism thank you. Thanks for allowing me to vent.

[@NCweathernice]

Long ago, someone from a large family said they were only allowed to use 1 glass a day. Since it was just me and my husband, he got one colored glass and I got another (or you could do a certain color thick rubber band around a glass). It worked! I would look for my glass and use it throughout the day and he would do the same. Only 2 glasses to deal with each day!

[@WorkingTowardsImprovement]

Feel you on this Anne!

[@jeanb8766]

Ask him which glass he would prefer, than remove all the glasses except for one for you and the one that he said he wanted to use. Hide the glasses somewhere and see how it works. Be sure you let him know which glass is yours. Make sure you can distinguish between the 2 glasses.

[@jimmycarter9099]

I finally figured out a way to keep the house cleaned move in by my self

[@brittanycovington8778]

You go girl

[@uzmaijaz7821]

Very informative video!thanks so much

[@howbethdoesit5695]

Could you do a video about the mindshift of when we actually get there. This is hard to explain but even when its "done", I think I've missed something. I'm so used to digging out, I can't seem to just acknowledge that its done. Does that make sense at all?

[@Nourishingminimalism]

It does make sense! I've put that on my topics list. ❤️

[@mj44190]

Yes! That makes perfect sense, I feel the same

[@napsiahpabdullah4504]

Hi, I am living with a partner. I cannot declutter nor organize if those things are not mine. If I attempt to move them, he will blame and find fault with me. Each time I clear my own space, my partner will occupy ny cleared space with his things. It came to a point until I give up cleaning.

[@Nourishingminimalism]

I’m sorry! It’s really important to talk, so both people have the opportunity to say what they want/like/expect and what helps them. It can help if you clearly decide who gets certain areas, and then each person gets control of their area.

[@frazzledmomof4824]

It’s just hard for me to do the basics I had knee surgery 2 months ago and have had a slow recovery. I can’t stand too long and can’t kneel. And I live in a 3 level house. It’s hard to hobble down to the basement to do laundry

[@Nourishingminimalism]

I'm sorry, that's hard. ❤️

[@MissPrettyNPink]

This is me right now.

[@rajeshwarihemmadi3229]

So much my current situation...so rightly expressed ...s

[@jackiem9460]

I grew up with parents that were pack-rats, as a result I have always lived minimally :)

[@ketojadon1705]

You know I think me and my wife have let our house go. So far it's not even a house. It's just an apartment. And it's literally so messy that I dread working on it everyday. And I work 12 hour days so it's really hard to come home and work on cleaning. And I think for a long time I keep blaming my wife for not helping me clean but. I really need to just focus on what I can do because that's all I can change . And to be fair here, I don't do nearly as much as I probably could. Probably because it's gotten so bad that I don't even want it to deal with it. But I've had a couple days off from work since I work 12-hour days, but I've only devoted a couple hours each day to cleaning when I should have cleaned up the whole day. But like I said, it's so bad once I start cleaning it's like overwhelming . We have mice cockroaches, and so the more I clean, the more filth I uncover . I don't even know how we ever let it get this bad.

[@Izabela-ek5nh]

If I have no drawer in my bathroom I should have no color cosmetics probably. Oh wait. I have none. Just an eyebrow pencil. I even have no mascara and no brushes.... and guess what - still cluttered 😂

[@michellehughes576]

Yes

[@itsjustme5030]

I'm not sure if you have a video about this, but my mom used to wait until we went to school and she'd go through our toys and get rid of the ones SHE didn't like (aka noisy ones), taking away all our choice in the matter. As a result, three of my siblings and I tend to hoard, I'm thinking more out of control issues than actually wanting the things we have. Also, she's really good at judging us passive aggressively with comments like "I know you tryyy", which, in my case, makes me dig my heels in further to not be like her. If you haven't been asked about anything similar, is this a potential topic that can be covered? Thanks!

[@Nourishingminimalism]

That’s really important! I do tell parents to make sure they include the children, it’s so important that they feel like it was their decision. Thanks for the suggestion, I should make a video on it. Many people have similar stories to yours. I’m sorry ❤️

[@barbaracardoza9786]

As a child my stuff would just "disappear". I felt violated. I also didn't get the opportunity to "say goodbye" or learn how to do many healthy behaviors. I am still learning how to recognize my "limits" and set viable goals for myself.

[@debbY100]

As a parent, I can tell you that I have tried this method (involve the kids) in choosing what to get rid of, and they NEVER want to get rid of anything. Kids are natural hoarders. It became overwhelming for me to involve them. Trust me - kids do not want to get rid of any of their shit. LOL Best thing to do is to box it up and store it instead of getting rid of it. Give it a month, and if the kids don’t ask for a specific toy, then you can safely get rid of it. But to ask them to decide - not a good tactic.

[@marymarti9958]

♥️

[@carljhirst]

oh? Get the family to do it! Sorted!

[@kristinaschlegel2680]

This is me. Omg.

[@cinthiaaraiza5714]

Me right know I can't 😢

[@HybridMoto]

My husband complains all the time, I do all of the cooking, we both work at the same place with the same amount of hours. My husband is constantly pulling me away from cleaning, he will spill something and tell me about it and I will clean it. I get him up for work, bring him coffee and breakfast, have food for us at work, I can go on and on. His excuse is, he is busy doing outside work"men work". And I cant expect him to do a woman's job. That I am taking his manhood away if he has to help me. His clothes are so hard to fold because they are so big compared to me, and many need to be ironed. I want to get rid of everything, but he wont let me. I am to a point I can hardly do anything because my health is declining and I have anxiety from him pulling me away from task plus I have ADD and a daughter that I handle almost everything for.

[@Nourishingminimalism]

That sounds really difficult. I would recommend couples counseling so you can talk about it and hopefully be able to communicate all this in a way he understands so your health doesn't continue to decline. ❤️

[@EliottHamm]

What if I’m the kid that has to do this stuff? I’m so tired, I just don’t know what to do. My parents don’t do much, they never taught my siblings how to clean up after themselves, I’m so lost I don’t know what to do I feel so gross in my own home, it feels like a junk yard. I don’t know what to do

[@AW_eta80]

she spittin fr...

[@michellehughes576]

I just don’t have company

[@restianantika2]

Yes. I have husband that never helps. He makes me down and lose hope in life

[@TashaKRamos]

I feel like that everyday

[@Star-dj1kw]

Oh Lord, it takes a Ph D in physics to stack the pots and pans in the storage bin so that it will actually shut 😆😆😆😆

[@Nourishingminimalism]

😂😂😂

[@thelmamoulds9949]

What do you do when your partner doesn’t want to get rid of anything and you have to fight for it?

[@michellehughes576]

I say that now

[@roxyperson8328]

What do suggest to the wife who’s husband wants to keep everything but wants to manage nothing? I’ve decluttered down my stuff and my husband hardly got rid of anything. He has the majority of our stuff. We live in less than 900 square feet and it is stressful. I’m a stay at home mom so I see his junk every day, all day. He works long hours so he feels very little of the effect that he is making by keeping so much.

[@michaelaumbaugh339]

Great question!

[@Nourishingminimalism]

I would say have a heart-to-heart to tell him exactly that, how it makes you feel, that you see it all the time, etc. Most couples can reach a compromise of the collector having their own space. Sounds difficult in a small house, but maybe a garage or shed is a possibility. If you don’t feel like you can have a candid conversation so he understands what is going on in your mind, and what you hope for, then hiring a counselor is a great option, to just have someone mediate so it’s not a heated argument. ❤️

[@barbaracardoza9786]

"Autopilot". 🤔♥️🤭

[@colonelradec5956]

im just gonna get rid of alot of stuff. should not need to lean 5 hours a day lol.

[@victoriaortega3850]

What happens when your the only child who cleans the house and it depends on me doing it .....I don't wallow I do it and when I don't complete it I feel like I'm, not capable of doing it,,, there are 10 people in the house and I have a full time job 6 days a week 10-12 hrs

[@Nourishingminimalism]

I'm sorry, that sounds really hard. We can't change other people, so if it were me, I would probably focus on keeping my personal space the way I like it, and work toward moving out. ❤️

[@briellehunter7233]

I should throw everything in the garbage and sit still every day doing nothing, but clean.

[@sdkjsdfo]

5:03

[@sdkjsdfo]

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[@CJ-xe2wi]

I agree with everything you've said, however Question 1) Now you can train your children to put away their own junk and declutter. Give them consequences. Question 2) Every email and video is a commercial for your program; why should I pay for this when there is so much free information on decluttering sites, not to mention the library? I don't begrudge you a living, but I've heard this info for free.

[@Nourishingminimalism]

Hi Jennifer! So... #1. Yes, absolutely we can train our children, that's very important. My point was, we can't expect them to have good tidy habits if we have never had good tidy habits. #2. There is a lot of free info, and for some people, that's all they need. People take my courses because want step-by-step guidance, are able to ask me questions and get help through the process. The accountability makes a big difference as well. 💕

[@cinnie2543]

@@Nourishingminimalism I think your course would be well worth it for the structure and accountability. Not good timing for me, but I know there will be lots of good in detail info. God bless.

[@ALB6969]

This video gives me anxiety ironically..

[@sdkjsdfo]

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[@restianantika2]

💔

[@AM-cb4ev]

😤😭🙏🙆‍♀️

[@sdkjsdfo]

5:04

[@sdkjsdfo]

3:28