“I Was Engaged For 24 Hours & Then Found Out He Was Cheating” | This Morning

[@hedakom]

Just be grateful you found out before you married.

[@mary-annesade]

good point

[@Lovesapuzzle]

Yes! I wasn't so lucky. It's more humiliating to find out years later that your spouse and an old flame never ended their relationship. He believed my pride and aversion to scandal would keep me from divorcing him. It was, indeed, humiliating but, I did end our marriage. I avoided scandal by only saying that we wanted different things from life. Ms. Elman chose to air more details. Proof that we each chose to respond to deception in our own way.

[@bronwyn117]

@@LovesapuzzleBut it’s not your humiliation, it’s his. And I’m sorry for your pain. ❤️

[@servantJerubbaalgodSlayer]

Girl! You dodged a bullet! So glad that woman contacted you about him so you could give him the 🥾 🇨🇦

[@MizrahiChick]

flagpole.

[@GenevieveJenevieve]

Isn’t she staying with him?

[@PomsNTomsMom92]

It's better to find out then than 24 hours after "I DO".

[@Sofonisba90]

Michelle has such a strong and resilient personality. She deserves the world and I'm heartbroken for her. She is such an angel and I hope she finds someone that loves her right.

[@miamiflorida6965]

Praying she finds true ❤. 🙏🩷🙏

[@janicesmith975]

At least she found out at the start of her engagement.

[@gogoincognito]

Michelle Elman’s writings have made such a huge impact on my life. Really grateful to see her on TV and will continue to support and listen to her tremendous wisdom. Her speaking on this has helped me unpack my own experiences with infidelity (from parents to being cheated on myself). My heart goes out to her.

[@London719]

Go to a therapist, not a coach. Coaches are maninly charlatans that do a few hours training

[@kathrynthomas6138]

Poor lady, she deserves better. She must be feeling broken. Her whole world has fallen apart. Shes clearly trying to keep it together. Very brave of her to talk on tv.

[@davidrogan1292]

She got a lucky escape. Never take him back. He's sorry he got caught.

[@CJG1419]

“I don’t think there was a lot of thought…” if he was on a dating app then there was a lot of thought.

[@francelylewis]

Yeah he was actively trying and having a dating app in a relationship I would consider cheating already

[@Bekka_boo13]

Before I met my now husband I was engaged for a year, he broke it off for no reason at all over 10 years ago. It does change you but it makes you a stronger person. You deserve all the happiness in the world, it’s his loss x

[@Justice55339h]

Maybe just because marriage is scary and overwhelming. Maybe he just felt unsure about his decision. It's hard to feel sure of such a decision

[@roses993]

After 10 ys?? ​@@Justice55339h

[@bonnieralston1706]

@@Justice55339h But he cheated BEFORE he asked her to marry him. If he felt unsure, then you don't solve that by posting a profile on a dating app, then proposing.

[@Mollyt111]

Well done her for telling people once a cheat always a cheat he would’ve cheated during the marriage too only sorry been found out a liar she wouldn’t do that to him she deserves better 💖

[@travelwell6049]

Yes, from the sound of his response it’s probably a compulsion on his part and something he could explore in therapy if he ever wants to be happy

[@VABeachgirl-np8iw]

Think of this as a blessing not a curse.

[@M_SC]

Or that it’s both

[@byfaith314]

This lady is amazing, thank God this guy fumbled she deserve better💯

[@camellia8625]

It’s awful they were living together - makes it so much worse. How awful he went on a dating app when he was away on a business trip.

[@Rise-and-Shine333]

She ain’t special. Happens all the time

[@mary-annesade]

@@Rise-and-Shine333doesn’t make it any better

[@Rise-and-Shine333]

@@mary-annesade I didn’t say because it happens all the time it makes it ok what happened to her

[@mary-annesade]

@@Rise-and-Shine333 seems like it

[@bettymermaid8346]

@@Rise-and-Shine333 She hid him away from the public. His pic taken at the awards she told then not to publish it. I don't blame him for having a fling. After 2 years she should have been proud to walk down the street with him. I think she has the problems not him.

[@ninazuccaro7897]

Michelle, I haven’t read your work but now I really want to! I’m so sorry you’ve gone through this. You are so lovely and bright!

[@Lovesapuzzle]

When a person believes it is OK to deceive, they don't appear suspicious. Once found out, they only regret that they've been found out. They don't regret the harm they did. It doesn't matter to them.

[@M_SC]

This

[@Lovesapuzzle]

@@M_SC This?

[@msmiami212]

lol, it generally means (I concur with) this.

[@ashleyclutinger4295]

😢. I hope she find her prince charming

[@AngelaHodgson-tp9ot]

You don't have to have many to be happy

[@saynabomer5314]

You can tell she’s heartbroken, man this is hard. I pray God gives her someone better ♥️

[@misbahailia3345]

I pray that God makes us resilient, to love ourselves so much to maybe want a husband but not NEED a husband.

[@veesvoyages]

So sorry to hear you went through this Michelle, your resilience is admirable. Look after yourself!

[@pippatyce5824]

I think most importantly, other than telling your family to get over the relationship, as soon as you find out someone’s cheated feelings you had for that person completely diminishes naturally! Without trust you can’t have a relationship, it’s the foundation and once that has broken the relationship will be unstable. She is right when you protect the children,me and my ex did not talk about his cheating to the childre! Actually quite amicably for the sake of the kids, it’s been over 12 years since we broke up. Anyone who is going through it just know that you WILL be okay without that person! ❤

[@JBTEvans]

So many people in toxic relationships, lots of people are liars and present a false self.

[@Tosca767]

Don’t have him back!

[@alfydarkdeadly]

You can tell she’s gonnu take him back. She hasn’t said it. So in the back of her mind it’s not over. Give it a few months. They will be back together.

[@Frostjotnar]

@@alfydarkdeadlyNo, you can’t tell. You don’t know her and have nothing to back up your assumptions lol

[@Kennamszoey]

​@@alfydarkdeadly not going to happen...

[@katsoriano9262]

Just had something kind of similar myself happen. We weren’t engaged and it was quite a new relationship but I caught him texting someone. I stamped it out straight away and ended it with him. So glad I found out before things went any further! He gave me back my freedom to find someone worthy of me. We don’t need this stress in our lives.

[@Mojo2011100]

Annoying that she got cut off just as she was making such a good point!

[@gilapotter8853]

my heart goes out to her. so strong while working on this inside too. can still hear tears in her voice sometimes too here while speaking. might take time but you will be okay, lady!

[@originalmings1991]

Why does the woman in the white dress seem so happy to hear about all this 😒

[@roses993]

I thought the same too. SHe doesnt seem touched or moved by sad story. I think she just likes the gossip

[@ConsciousStudies]

shes ai and boring

[@rawrsophiex]

she is very wise! and all the comments saying, she’ll find someone… not the point, she is complete by herself, as we all need to be.

[@cococolette5720]

It must be awful for her.

[@1anythingandeverything]

i don't know about being wise when she kept using the phrase "love of my life." i think she is idealistic, and hopefully no one else will take advantage of her

[@Chel-e9c]

She's very pretty..she will find the one!

[@Afrinaturality]

A special level of cruel to propose to someone when you know you're incapable of fidelity. No integrity.

[@gillowens24]

That is horrible cheat is nasty

[@ivydickson7596]

Don't believe him. Don't take him back. He will not change. Go get someone who loves you for you ❤️

[@hettybl]

She is absolutely gorgeous! She will have no problem finding a gorgeous man, this is just a blessing in disguise ❤️

[@beth2132]

Absolutely beautiful woman, His loss!!

[@kimone99]

Sorry to hear that smh but better to find out now than later. Blessing in disguise.

[@JaneB67]

What an incredible lady ❤️

[@travelwell6049]

Sad story but Cat’s dress is absolutely gorgeous.

[@roses993]

I was thinking the same!! Need to buy such a dress for myself😊

[@mel_zzz_]

I wouldn't say on national tv you still love the person that cheated on you. That's only going to inflate their ego. She is a life coach but she looks and behaves too nice, too naive. I'm not talking about revenge or being negative, I'm talking about knowing your self-worth. I've never been on a relationship but every single person I know ( women and men ) are a cheater or they have been cheated on. Don't inflate their ego. For people like him it's like an adventure, something interesting behaving in this way.

[@jeanniecampbell1374]

What a lovely woman ..what a Dog he is .

[@charmainehopkins2372]

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

[@emiliaclaire2132]

Not always.

[@hera5211]

@@emiliaclaire2132yes… always

[@Abi-Grey8]

@@emiliaclaire2132Uh yes, unless the person was forced into something by another, that’s is a different story.

[@emiliaclaire2132]

@@Abi-Grey8 my ex was a controlling narcissist and I only ever once cheated. Never again would I do that. So… yeah people change

[@josephinefay957]

Such a feel good story! Love strong women who know their worth! Great role model !

[@HullRupture]

Poor Girl. But my advice as someone who uses dating apps myself is you need more time to build trust with someone. I would never consider moving in with someone only a year after meeting them on a dating app. If it's someone you met through your social circle or were already friends with then that's different. But you really need to take more time with someone you met through the Internet because this is how you can get hurt.

[@katherineblanco9471]

How lucky you dodged a bullet. ❤❤

[@sophiesophster]

Wow, why are all these comments so horrific 🙈

[@travelwell6049]

Some people are deeply troubled.

[@gerryryan1372]

Michelle you are wonderful and so strong ❤❤

[@Mamabear7388]

Just because you didn’t notice the red flags doesn’t mean they were not there. You trusted him implicitly and that’s perhaps one of the reasons you didn’t pay attention to that aspects of the relationship.

[@Jae-by3hf]

This! Because she seems naive and doesn’t seem to understand what self esteem is and she is a life coach?!

[@Mamabear7388]

@@Jae-by3hf we can either learn or we perish . Sometime we cause our own suffering in relationships and then blame the other party without taking any responsibility for our contribution and own failures.

[@777colin1]

Michelle is a Warrior

[@BRY__BRY]

Keep that ring and sell it boom... treat yourself : )

[@ireefree2024]

I don't know her but she seems so lovely. I guess he needed attention as she is somehow famous and he's not. I'm pretty sure she dodged a bullet for sure 😢 I was once cheated and it was so bad. Now I'm happy married and I felt it back then in my gut if I was honest to myself. Forgiving myself was so difficult.

[@star2like261]

For me when she said ‘by checking the phone you would lose the trust’ she had red flags and doubted her own gut feelings. But good let people know. Some people are just cheaters. I love Cat’s reactions. 😂

[@1anythingandeverything]

yes, i think she is an idealistic person, and ignored red flags

[@soph66661]

She’s such a loveable personality in-n-out … God bless her with true love soon 👍

[@melissapage2387]

Wow! You are an amazing woman. I truly admire you. Your words will really help someone. ❤

[@tomsevcik1792]

What goes through a guys mind to propose whilst cheating at the same time? 😂 I mean c’mon what were you thinking guy?

[@1anythingandeverything]

yeah, i just don't get it. why don't you just stay single and you can date how many people you want. these people want their cake and eat it too

[@catapillargirl2021]

She should show his face to warn other women.

[@sophiathieme3037]

I‘m always wondering how can the people who are aware of somebody being in a relationship just not caring and starting an affair? Unless of course they are not aware of the relationship status.. it’s just shocking

[@1anythingandeverything]

they don't care because they are selfish and will do anything to get what they want

[@keleeannkitson3528]

Well done to that woman that told her otherwise she wouldn't of notice x

[@Jellybeans630]

She’s still protecting him?

[@1anythingandeverything]

the guy is playing her. sounds like a narcissist with all the things she described about him. she is falling for his tricks. the whole "i want you back so much, so i will let you go on tv and talk about me. anything to get you back." and now she is protecting him because she believes him. i seriously would not be surprised to find out if she took him back, and "he says he's sorry and won't ever do it again." especially because she kept calling him "the love of her life."

[@cyndigooch1162]

@@1anythingandeverything I'm thinking that the mystery man might punish Michelle as well, IF she goes back, even though he encouraged her to talk about him! Hopefully, she managed to resist any manipulative behaviour and it has been a while since this interview happened. 🤔

[@l2sunshine173]

There is a difference between making a mistake one night and intentionally going on a dating App!!!

[@Jae-by3hf]

A life coach couldn’t spot red flags?! They were definitely there, she just chose not to see them!

[@ConsciousStudies]

These people who call themselves "Life Coaches" and write books about how to have the perfect life and relationships, are usually basket cases

[@Ameira.oriana]

She is so wise

[@IaneHowe]

Better soon than later. Shes better off without him

[@roses993]

Oh wow so sad. Let's be thankful to God you found out before you actually married. Better heartbreak right now than a nasty divorces. I'm sure affairs during marriage is much worse than getting cheated by a boyfriend.

[@lisaschmidt8466]

Heartbreak is devastating

[@ummisra]

Not going on your partner's phone? That sounds strange to me. I use my husband's phone for google search or taking pictures sometimes when I don't have my phone handy and yes sometimes I do check his messages as I found my ex-husband on a dating app. There is nothing wrong with getting a bit of reassurance. It's better than being naive and gullible and being fooled over - losing your precious fertile young years to a man that isn't worth it if you do find out he is a cheater.

[@petrasworld913]

If you believe you have to check your partner's phone then the trust is already gone. That's her point.

[@AlexForrest-vw8bx]

If you think it’s okay to go through your partners phone you are toxic. Why can’t you use your own phone and respect your husbands space? I have been cheated on myself and never once did I ever go through his phone. I knew he was deceiving me but did i go through his phone? Nope. I told him how i felt and when he wasn’t reassuring me I dumped him. And later was told by someone he had cheated on me. If you are going through your partners phone you are insecure and need therapy. I hope your partner gets some brain cells and leaves you. Because he’s with someone who can’t even trust him

[@mjl2904]

Going through your parents messages on his phone for your reassurance sounds so toxic. Switch the genders and that would be seen as coercive

[@TubOfTunts]

When you think it's too good it's because it's not, unfortunately.

[@TheSensational87]

Wow, she's wonderful.

[@kimberlyrobinson1978]

He blew it 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@zeroheroes4081]

This is why marriage isn't a good idea. Most couples don't make it, marriage brings a lot of unnecessary legal trouble into the break up

[@cuteme456]

She's going to take him back. The reason he has no problem with her telling the whole world is because Noone knows who he is .he can't be pinpoint. Trust if he knew the media had a pic of him he would sing a different tune.

[@gabrielletanner5339]

A life coach expert..😮.

[@Ummo2850]

She’ll know that when they so sorry, take me back blah blah, it’s just until the next time.

[@London719]

Why do they have a coach on here instead of a qualified therapist?

[@ontarioweddingofficiant9691]

the look on the hosts face at 0:44 and again at 4:13 is so rude

[@aprilkalu5457]

Sounds like he wanted the limelight, your success made him feel unseen, this happening gives him attention and visibilit particularly your expose on live TV. Maybe he secretly wants the limelight or feels overshadowed by you.

[@cassieb5680]

😅 limelight how? The only reason she discovered the cheating is because she showed his face for the first time when she announced the engagement. He got no "limelight" from their relationship

[@rozdoyle8872]

My thoughts also , he probably felt overshadowed, hiding one's significant other wrecks havoc on the person supposedly being protected. I say lucky escape on this one .

[@petrasworld913]

That's fine. Then he should not have proposed. Regardless of the reason he's still a cheater, not marriage material for any woman.

[@kaypaton3263]

You dodged a bullet.

[@MaryLinton-j3s]

Sending you a Hug!!!❤❤❤

[@ZEELION]

He's a narcissist, she's absolutely deluded that she's ok and is a major victim to what todays standards of a relationship is,...... and she coaches ppl smh

[@margaretomahony7528]

Ben shepherd looked bit tired 🙈

[@nyallsmith320]

Think I would be when she's ranting 😂

[@mary-annesade]

@@nyallsmith320how is she ranting

[@SocialClout]

take a breathe...... her voice drives me mad

[@w.urlitzer1869]

life coach, heal thyself.

[@nataliestownsend4211]

Poor woman hopes she finds happiness

[@gregwardfilms]

My question is, why did the "side chick" think she had the right to contact this woman after her engagement?

[@zeroheroes4081]

To warn her and save her from making a mistake.

[@cherrypotatojoyce]

She did have the right. 🤷‍♀️ If he didn't want her to tell Michelle, he shouldn't have done anything.

[@cherrypotatojoyce]

Because she did have the right 🤷‍♀️ if he didn't want Michelle to know anything, he shouldn't have done anything. "Side chick" saved Michelle from getting married to a cheat.

[@nutcracker2916]

Glad Michelle has found out about what sort of feckless person he was before she married him. But as a life style coach you'd think she'd have been more clued up ?

[@julianajolly9924]

Michelle thank yourself you found out now not after two kids and you become a single mother.

[@starwarsmom]

That was not his first time

[@Fabfash40]

"Best thing that ever happened..love of his life.." Blah blah. It's all manipulation & mind games.

[@chauminh]

Im so sorry, i think the poor girl the ex bf family liked her pressured him into marriage yikes. Girlfriend, there are more fish out the sea embrace your single like coco chanel et freedom

[@M_SC]

He is just a bad person. Deep down inside he is disconnected. The kind of man that can off his wife for another woman after 10 years.

[@thebrummierailenthusiasts5329]

I can’t believe her fiancee Ben had cheated on her for another woman just 24 hours after he got engaged with her

[@merrymaid2890]

He didn’t cheat 24 hours after the engagement. He did it before the engagement, but she found 24 hours after the engagement.

[@roses993]

The women in white doesnt seem touched or moved. I think she likes the gossip

[@adamweisshaup]

Is she being paid to care?

[@50.newnotes]

Maybe because she is a talk show host ..maybe 😂😂😂

[@rayz5173]

No…”we were good.” He was good!

[@RubyMc-v4i]

If she would of married him like Diana said there would of been 3in the marriage..

[@artvid-1915]

I'm here to be the one normal person in the comments😂

[@w.urlitzer1869]

you wish.

[@ashtonaster2578]

Did she take him back yet ?

[@gabrielletanner5339]

Dont meet people on line..😊

[@MafiaJunior-f4m]

it gives me ick when someone describe themselves as emotional intelligent and smart

[@misskiz786]

But she is? So why should she downplay it? I know I'm a good writer for example, should I be afraid to say it...just to avoid giving other people the "ick"?

[@okunrin3]

@@misskiz786I agree. 👍🏿 She can’t hide because of you. If she is emotional intelligent and smart, she should say it from the roof top.

[@trish.goes.ironman]

Was looking for this comment 🎉🎉🎉

[@margaretomahony7528]

Didnt look too put out about. It ben shepherd looked bored 😂

[@harpsailorharp6716gg]

he is boring

[@travelwell6049]

That was his sympathy face.

[@ladizhustle]

We all be cheated on 😢unfortunately men are wired differently and eventually will cheat that’s the honest truth they can’t help themselves

[@petrasworld913]

I know many men that don't cheat on their wives.

[@thomasgardner7048]

he got caught lacking, rip my dude

[@ml989]

I bet he cheated with someone more fit.... still not right.