I was paying for my sister's education by working two jobs, but she called me a “loser”

[@DailyTelltales]

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[@cathyjolivet]

Story: 4 Narration: ‐5

[@jb6712]

ZERO!!!!

[@Left-2-stray]

I understand why OP did what he did. I would of done the same. Work to take care of an ungreatful sibling, no gratitude. I'll give him an 8 for stepping up. Call me a looser for treating her with a golden spoon. She, nor non of family give a flying 'Rat's Azz'

[@valeriavernon1151]

I agree with @jb6712: biting the hand that feeds you is a sign of stupidity, not worth of the sacrifices her brother made

[@sebastiancervantesll]

Zero

[@ladyofthemasque]

Nope. The moment she started showing off trendy clothes, etc, I would be texting her openly on her social media, "So glad to see you can finally afford all those wonderful things, on top of paying for all your college & living expenses! So proud of you, sis! Good job at getting ahead in life! I'll stop sending you any more support money now. Love the colors you picked!"

[@issywilly1988]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@subman23]

Just post a clip of the chorus of the Destiny's Child song Independent Woman🤣🤣

[@LODintheshadows]

Yeah, like, how's she buying that, have a set amount for her, enough to pay tuition and basic needs, anything else she can work for, if she can afford stupid stuff like that as a college kid, then the amount you need to send goes down

[@susanhansen1290]

13:00 13:01 ​. and pay the school expenses directly to the school and a set amount for anything else. The first time she posted about expensive clothes or trips, stop anything but school, or stop everthing and tell her to sell all the things she bought with your money.

[@rickyblommaert1379]

Like anyone should

[@RandomTrinidadian]

They bit the hand that fed them , now the entire family starves with the monster they created 😂

[@willambonney]

Beat me to that quote. Making jabs at the op..."uh what did they think was gonna happen?"...

[@claireleone]

Why is it fair for the brother to support her , that's her parents job

[@rileyandmike]

No, it’s her job

[@redriddinghoodpra]

I think it's cultural

[@Kathern-l6x]

Cuz Mommy never got to do anything with their life she probably got knocked up and now she's got a chance to relive life through her daughter and if she's got to bury her son to do it will by God nobody's going to stop her this time..

[@lorraineforster8164]

Here is a thought..she can support herself.

[@rebeccatyler2677]

Wtf?!...the bank of big brother us closed!

[@LODintheshadows]

"how could you do this to your sister" how could all 3 of you do this to me?

[@BrendaD4041]

Exactly

[@neiltheblaze]

I hope he learned the true lesson here: Never be anyone's financial doormat. Not even "Family". The first time they step one toe into entitlement territory, shut it all down hard on that toe. Just as a warning to anyone watching.

[@juliel5945]

Yup…don’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.

[@loverofeverythingbeautiful3610]

NEVER. And anything you do is a GIFT. Let it go immediately. It's not coming back through them!

[@ireneirvine6205]

Especially "Family".

[@kidman2911]

Well your parents did it but there are limits

[@88HIGHER]

@kidman2911 I never understood this argument... It was the parents' decision to start a family. Sure, be grateful for their financial support, but It's not like a child can fend for themselfes. When they decided to keep the child, they also accepted the responsibility.

[@ladyofthemasque]

"Ungrateful for all you've done for me? You mean the leeching, and the draining of my finances, the insults about how I haven't done anything in my life because you expect me to hold down two jobs to pay for your golden child's every least little whim? What is there to be grateful for in any of that? No, we're done here. You are NOT my family. Go away, you're bothering me."

[@beneaton1776]

Can’t believe those evil parents had the nerve to call him inappropriate. THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO CONTROL HIM WHEN HE WORKS FOR HIS OWN SHIT.

[@bridgettepalmer860]

Narcissist parents with a Golden Child. He was used, abused, and was not supposed to complain.

[@tartlynerdy]

Op deserved better. It was never op's job to fund his spoiled sister's lifestyle. That was supposed to be their parent's job. It's a guarantee she won't last a year in the real world. People like this always claim family supports family. Op's sister shouldn't have bitten the hands funding her lifestyle. If the family is so concerned why don't they give her money.

[@frantheman1287]

Funny how they're aunt quite bothering OP as soon as she learned the truth of the situation. OP's immediate family is clearly telling lies to the other family members. I would show some receipts to anyone that was trying to guilt trip me into being my entitled little sister's atm.

[@JakeSweeper]

If she's so smart, she could've found a way to support herself.

[@ShaynieB]

She could have found a way to get a scholarship.

[@Trillaen]

@@ShaynieBand work a part time job and obtain grants and loans. She is no too bright.

[@pathfinderlight]

Designer clothes and handbags aren't for rich people. They're for people who WANT TO LOOK like rich people. Also, good food doesn't HAVE to cost a lot of money, but it can cost a lot of time if you cook from scratch every day. That's why refrigerators and freezers are the best. Many foods can be made, frozen, then reheated, or partially made, frozen, then completed days later.

[@FireSiku]

Can take the Asmongold approach and eat $2 steaks every day.

[@seventhson27]

I know a guy who married a "passport bride." She has been fabulous, but she comes from a place where family is expected to take care of each other, they guilt trip her into "helping them out." Now she works full time with almost all of her paycheck going to them. The exchange rate for American dollars there is pretty good, and they live quite well on the back of her labor.

[@CeeVee714]

Is she Filipino?

[@carriecreative6555]

Choices.

[@inciacci549]

Pretty sure that's a Filipina. If you date a Filipina it's like you're dating her whole family when it comes to expenses lmao

[@insaneespina453]

Lolzz not all Filipino families is like that 😂😂😂 maybe those unlucky families do that 😂😂😂

[@outinthesticks1035]

Lot of my wife's family we're ready to take advantage, move into my house , get money . Some were planning a grow op in my land Her uncle's warned me before our marriage that it would happen Wife shut them down pretty firmly, but after fifteen years , still some keep trying

[@doriskoons531]

Not only can you cut her off but you can sue her for the money you have already given her because she said she would pay you back after she graduated. Tell her you decided to go back to school so you will be looking forward to those payments from her. Because, you know, family helps family.

[@jend8694]

It doesn't work like that. He would need to have a detailed agreement in writing stating it was a loan for the amount & due date. Verbal agreements don't hold up in court.

[@doriskoons531]

@ Or witnesses to what she said.

[@Mark-g7t]

​@@jend8694Verbal agreements are legally binding contracts. The reason this wouldn't be legally enforceable is that there was no specified repayment date, or terms of repayment. "After I graduate" could mean any time in the future.

[@triparadox.c]

​@Mark-g7t Yeah, then it boils down to he says she says. This is why verbal agreement isn't an agreement. It's a contract, yet it isn't. You can't prove it takes place.

[@mrsleep0000]

@@Mark-g7t No, they really aren't. Even just watching something like Judge Judy would teach you that.

[@9iwgo]

I don't know why but i am really proud of OP . Her sister had the audacity to not even show the basic gratitude. Spent his money on useless things and called him failure . Well deserved 👏.

[@susanhansen1290]

When the relatives start blaming you, send them her pix of the apartment, fancy clothes and meals and trips...with note "this is a struggling college student?"

[@susanneduffy8157]

For the family chiming in telling OP to help his sister - they can open their wallets and help her - if they feel so strongly about it.

[@TrickOrRetreat]

That puzzled me to 🤔

[@RedditLullabies-q1c]

It’s heartbreaking to give so much and not feel appreciated. You’re not a failure-you’re someone who has worked incredibly hard for family. Stay strong and focus on your own dreams too

[@LODintheshadows]

"how am I supposed to live" well if a failure can so it, she should have no issues, right?

[@frantheman1287]

Those would've been the exact words I would've said while walking away from that family forever. It blows my mind people don't get a new number in situations like this. Why continue getting harassed

[@David-mo4st]

"Family helps family" OP "Great how much are you going to cover?"

[@Direwolf216]

Remeber the Golden Rule: Those with the gold make the rules. If OP was just sending her money without being in control of where it went, it's hard to feel sorry for him. He should have personally paid things like tuition, books and maybe rent (with receipts in HIS name) while making it crystal clear that she was responsible for her 'lifestyle'.

[@frantheman1287]

Agreed. With her spending it almost seems like OP just gave her a debit card tied to his account.

[@ghuito8202]

I get your point, but doing that would have been so much more time-consuming. Remeber OP had 2 jobs already.

[@robertcuminale1212]

Such a difference. My wife paid for college cleaning motel rooms at the Jersey Shore. At college she bused tables in the cafeteria and cleaned lab animal cages. She graduated with a degree in Physical Therapy with a small amount of a loan. we married that year in 1972. I was in the Navy as an E-3 and overseas. She came over and worked a job in home care for a substandard salary and not in her field. She struggled to learn the language but did well at it. In our last three years in the Navy we had paid off her $7,000 loan and had saved money. We lived frugally because it was all we knew and could do. I came from a very poor family with 8 kids. He family was a little better of but not by much. My family was stuck on living off of me and was upset when I told them I was getting married and that my wife was more important than they were. They still "borrowed" money but much less. Eventually I just cut them off. You have to consider yourself at some time in your life.

[@celinamoccasin5788]

Those extended family should take up her financial life style if they are concerned..your parents unloaded their responsibility on their child how despicable

[@czarinaysabelpacaldo]

It's your parents' responsibility to provide for your sister, not yours.

[@gregoryk.9815]

I would have gotten a written agreement stating that this is a loan to the sister and that it would be paid back within a timely fashion or within the fashion the Court decides if I have to go that route

[@gregoryk.9815]

In fact one guy actually had it put in the after 5 years interest would start on the remaining balance. Nothing was paid for the first 5 years he went to court and got the judgment and instead of just paying $102,000 back yes that's what they borrowed from him over 4 years for her college education he was awarded 150,000 with the interest.

[@yuzeles]

Yes always make contracts

[@KDC256]

Damn, talk about setting yourself on fire to keep someone else warm!!

[@rhern845]

You are the Scapegoat, she is the Golden Child.

[@tigermagda]

Narcissist parenting.

[@Levithos]

Why didn't the parents pay for their daughter's spending? They wanted family to support family, but they never supported anyone but themselves.

[@frantheman1287]

Funny how that works, it's only ever one sided. Rules for thee but not for me.

[@bobbarker9556]

Some people go to college just to say they are in college. Their parents rave about them in college. Meanwhile the kid is just using college for partiyng and not having to go to work. Inevitably, the kid ages out and ends up working at the mall

[@frantheman1287]

I knew so many people like that when I was in college. Wasting a free education, sadly only about 25% of the parents ever corrected the issue by setting the kid straight and telling them to take it seriously or the money would stop coming. Unfortunately only about 1/10 kid took that as a wakeup call and go their act together.

[@bongkaos5519]

An AI bot telling a story from an AI bot........

[@amirulfarhan6872]

But its interesting tho

[@rejectionistmanifesto8836]

If only, it's happened to so many men it is quite often portrayed in Indian movies. Hispanic men also know the truth behind this.

[@bongkaos5519]

@rejectionistmanifesto8836 now an AI bot comment.....

[@rejectionistmanifesto8836]

@bongkaos5519 Democrat bot level simpleton comment spotted

[@rejectionistmanifesto8836]

@@bongkaos5519 ok Democrat woman

[@noorazamzain2661]

This hits close to home, I'm just glad my siblings actually show gratitude, built themselves up and returned the favor

[@sandyberger-r9j]

Sister should have gotten a job, too. OP should have put his foot down and given her a fixed amount of money every month- no more, no less. That would have taught Lauren how to manage her expenses. Lauren is a spoiled brat, but her family made her one.

[@KevinMarc-pt2tx]

yes

[@Kathern-l6x]

Yeah and you think that's a win. Here's the deal He's not her parent he's her brother it's the parents while he was younger that pressed him into this You're acting like it's the sister it never has been. You want him to be a parent as well as support her in a limited capacity that is exactly what a parent would do. He is not her parent.

[@sandyberger-r9j]

@ You got me wrong- I don’t think the brother was obligated to pay for his sister at all, but since he did so, he should have set some boundaries. If you always give a child what they want, you shouldn’t be surprised that they want more. I am not really excusing the sister’s behavior, but rather explain why she became so entitled.

[@Greeneyedcat99]

After seeing all her overspending why continue giving her money? Why?!

[@OurFantasyLife]

Sometimes it's hard to be rational when it comes to family.

[@joannagruzewska9437]

Propably something more to this story. Many people would end this crap at the very beginning saying that's parents who should take care of their child. OP was propably raised as their "guardian"

[@Waluigifan4000]

If I saw my sibling doing this I would tell them that I will give them a chance to lower the spending or I will stop the funding

[@maryanneryan9861]

Tell her she owes you a down-payment on the house you sacrificed during that time.

[@BrittanyHanners]

They always say "Family comes first" but never want you to know when it's YOUR turn to be first, only theirs.

[@MCBRUCE76]

"You are her big brother, and it is your responsibility to care for your sister", sorry, but you are her parents, and you are the one responsible for her.

[@greenfingers187]

😂😂You crazy fool 🤡🤡 she is an adult get a job let your brother live his life or get a man etc a simp who gonna pay everything for you or get on onlyfan like all the Morden woman do when they to lazy to work

[@silverblade357]

I once covered my sister's rent when she was dealing with her newborn kid and working to sell her home. They had to move for her husband's work and were suffering credit card creep. That is, *I* paid her rent. As in, I paid her landlord directly and gave no funds directly to her because why would I do that?! Except, my sister and BIL are awesome people who paid me back the very instant they found a buyer.

[@seraglioborneo2803]

When you cross the age of 18, you should be able to separate "sister = deserves at least token ack and love" from "the toally toxic person she has become, who you should go completely NC with"

[@seraglioborneo2803]

Who asked OP to sacrifice his dreams for his sister? She culd have gone to the nearby community college and worked part time like everyone else in her neighborhood. OP could have said "I can give you $ 100 if you ask nicely against an IOU"

[@uroosakhan2514]

Feeling terribly sorry for OP, such parents and such siblings are simply 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

[@abunnybts6871]

Don’t let “Family” force obligations onto you. You have NO OBLIGATIONS to siblings. That’s parents job. You made yourself a doormat for them. Learn to say “NO”grow a BACKBONE‼️

[@domado2011]

She degraded the person paying everything for her, she deserved to lose his support! She better grow up fast and figure out how to take care of herself. Family doesn't leach off of one person, they don't deserve to call him family, and he should have blasted the truth about his parents and sister to the entire family every time someone called to talk to him about how bad he was.

[@BreezeFrostFang]

just because "it's your family" doesn't mean anything when they don't treat you like one.

[@jennalea6553]

Doormats are never respected and that is what the brother was.

[@Terrakinetic]

17:35 AIs seem to love this format when they reach the end of these fictional stories, the triple repetition of a sanctimonious phrase.

[@zekeaderenzo2966]

I would’ve kept track of every transaction that went toward the sister and then billed her after graduation

[@frantheman1287]

I would've thrown the receipts at the sister, parents, friends, and other family members who were trying to belittle me asking for all my money back since clearly it wasn't appreciated

[@arklat]

I put myself through school. I had focus. Vision. Purpose. I took heavy class loads. I was always on the Dean's List. I worked full time. I had earned a bunch of scholarships. The full ride ones really helped. My parents were an immense factor. I lived at home. No housing costs. That helped me a lot. I graduated with two degrees in business. I wasn't a doctor, but my family was still proud that I was a successful stock broker, a partner in a small boutique firm, who only works with accredited investors. Hard work. The story never reveals the sister's transcripts. I bet her grades were mediocre at best.

[@tigermagda]

Reacting and resisiting to the bullying is the first step in a long road to healing from abuse. Way to go.

[@arnoldmws6330]

Good for the brother! I had to pay my own way for college and was lucky the first year thanks to Fasfa. My parents couldn't afford that. She should have been thanking him every day for his help and kindness and tried to look for a job to get on her own feet. I hope sincerely that some day she gets her head outta her own ass

[@frantheman1287]

No chance, she will forever blame OP for the life she can no longer live.

[@kendradrylie9580]

Family comes first. Guess what sis? The family is chipping in touch pay for your lifestyle. My social media would be full of how great my family was for helping my sister with all her expenses so I don't have to do it alone.

[@paulwilliams73]

remember everyone there is a bright side: OP can now save for a house / vacation, no longer been a ATM

[@librachick3082]

So they all wanted her to get help from her brother because he’s family but nobody else that is family wanted to help ?!!?!

[@Alpha_Digamma]

He should have shut this done hard when his mother came onto him with "college is so expensive these days" - the perfect response to that is: "you're correct, that's why I'm so glad that both my sister and I have so supportive parents, love you mom."

[@jimivey6462]

OP should check with a plastic surgeon to find out how much it will cost to have his “DOORMAT” tattoo removed from his forehead.

[@tbone9474]

Like you're perfect. He obviously isn't a doormat anymore

[@viralencore85]

The terrible mother definitely set this ungrateful monster up to be this way.

[@helenworley5903]

Since when did it become real for a sibling to pay for another sibling to survive. They aren't the parent, that's their job

[@gloglos100]

Fantastic, stood up and said NO. Parents enabled it all. Just keep saying no.

[@mandyrhandum]

So glad dude got his life back and stayed firm 👍🏻

[@KarenBryan-o6p]

What is wrong with OP after seeing her with new clothes etc he should of stopped paying for everything. OP needs to start putting himself and his mental health first. His sister is just a user and parents are just enabling her. Just say no more.

[@User_xxCqqJkl]

Asian families should be like this. Should accept that being the eldest child doesn't mean you have the obligation to support your younger siblings and your parents after you graduate .

[@damphir46]

No it’s your job to support her not mine.

[@LavKarri]

The parents are the real culprits here. Gaslighting at family level. 😂

[@Liz48245]

That “she’s your sister” comment 😂 ok? That’s YOUR DAUGHTER! Tf?

[@MacDaddy50]

What's wrong with attending a JC for 2 years to save money attending college. Its all general education for the first 2 years any ways.

[@I_Like_Turtles441]

This is too informative to be real. "I grab my jacket" no one would bother to explain every detail if this was written by a real person

[@Angela-lp7zw]

Yeah it's a creative writing exercise

[@ShaynieB]

Exactly

[@BessieTaylor-e2g]

Tell the family to pay for Lauren life style

[@SirFoodie1904]

My daughter called me a toxic father, because I told her to stop having kids because those boys didn’t take care of their kids. My daughter said that it’s my job as a grandfather to take care of the grandkids. She said that the reason why she keeps having kids with losers was because of me that I left her alone to live with her mother. She said that she understood that her mother cheated on me constantly but I should’ve just put up with it until she got older so that she could make her own decisions. I bought her a new Honda Civic and she asked me for a Porsche SUV because I have money. I told her it’s my money and if she wants a Porsche she can always ask her mother for it. She said because her mom doesn’t work. I told her stop talking to me and blocked her. It’s been six years now since I last had a conversation with her. I’m so glad I finally able to stop feeling guilty as if I wasn’t helping her enough.

[@corinnefogarty7880]

People can only take advantage of you with your permission. Don't destroy your future for people who don't respect you.

[@douglasbaty3097]

Dec2024: By cutting her off you are giving your sister the education she REALLY needs. And maybe a lesson for your parents too. Retired in Sacto after 30 years of 9-5.

[@mykmendoza7335]

Good job standing for yourself, there is no problem with helping the family. But it should not be by force and most definitely should not be treated the way the MC was treated.

[@Lila-n2n5y]

This video hit home. I had a "friend" that took my money like it was hers. She used me and made me look like a fool. Now she just up and disappeared. I hope the world she lives in crumbles. And realized what she had and what she lost. The bad thing is... She never respected me or said thank you....

[@mitchg796]

Sad reality. Parents giving the obligation to the older siblings. I learned the hard way. Should have not wasted all my money to my siblings. Once they got their jobs, they never showed gratitude.

[@gdevelek]

Prove this is a real story.

[@C.G.Gaster]

If all it took was stopping funds to tear yhe family apart, maybe the ones who built it were the true problem.

[@LODintheshadows]

Of it's a once in a lifetime opportunity like parents suggest, guess they best pay for everything 🤷‍♂️

[@arsimckhoi]

They mistake kindness for weakness

[@davethomas358]

Don't be a beta, even for family. Blood or the word family doesn't give anyone a reason to act a certain way.

[@Deathclaw6364]

This is the kind of situation strong language was made for. As soon as they tried to make excuses and gaslight op he should have just told them to stfu and deal with it themselves and if they keep harassing him he'd show proof of the manipulation, gaslighting and selfish taking advantage of a family member to the entire extended family tree with receipts of everything she wasted money on from HIS wallet

[@RubyVideoFan]

OP could do more evil revenge. Tell his sister to give up her life and live with her brother and pay rent and follow his orders. (Evil laugh)

[@GrimlyYours]

??? How tf can OP's parents place THEIR responsibility on the big brother?? Disgusting. Family is garbage, no matter what anyone tries to tell you; they will always try to take advantage. Nah, big bro did the right thing, and I hope he goes on to live an AMAZING life without those awful people.

[@reyramos9600]

As a first born child in our family and the responsible one… when me and my siblings were still little i put my hand in the back of my siblings head when they feel they are entitled ( smacked) even in front of my parents… now when we are all adults they can’t pull any crap now…

[@jlady4110]

a phrase I heard years ago - Neither a borrow nor a lender be...ESPECIALLY with family.

[@patty-pat-pat]

I guess this is why they want sons- theyre their personal atm's. They give birth to a new bank account each & every son.

[@bugler75]

A well written story.

[@neontorchwick5292]

I'm the youngest in the family and honestly I face the same double standards as the person in the story. My family is not a big one but I'm constantly told I must do everything for my sisters such as do their laundry, make them dinner or lunch, be a support pillar, and my favorite double standard to deal with is the times when they act out on selfishness or entitlement I'm always supposed to accommodate. I sure hope that no one ever deals with that double standard and enabling from that stuff cause its hard when its placed on your shoulders and yet you can not even vocalize dissatisfaction. Hopefully my break will come soon thats all my hope will ever be bet on.

[@nekohimeplays]

What an ungrateful brat. So glad OP finally took control of his life again.

[@tbone9474]

Well done OP. Live happily and live for yourself

[@fabianflores4852]

😅 its a parents job to pay for their sons education, not the brothers, from that very beginning all started wrong

[@bmanagement4657]

I would NEVER give my siblings anything. Its all a loan, and only one loan at a time. The servitude others agree to boggles my mind.

[@mladenkorstic]

You ARE obligated to help your family IF that family is keeping up their part of obligation towards you

[@robertpuh]

Man I love these Chinese,AI generated stories, they ways crack me up

[@tdl487]

Those designer clothes and bags she wanted to flaunt around could probably pay off that credit card debt, possibly even her rent for a few months to give herself time to find a job if she had a lick of common sense.

[@deineroehre]

Designer clothes aren't worth anything on the second-hand market since no rich people wear them, they are just for broken people thinking they could appear rich. So they have no value for paying back any debt.

[@janakivenkatraman843]

If this is true, then what the brother did is excellent.❤ There are many who are working for their family. They are thankless and don't have gratitude.

[@MattJDave]

This is what happens when you have a golden child one-up, one-down system. Either the scapegoat self-destructs, or the system crumbles when the scapegoat stops trying.

[@Seoulmoonrhee]

OP did the noble thing, and truly helped. Human Nature being what it is, this wasn't an unusual outcome. OP became stronger for it, and made clean cuts that relfected his character- life with all that extra income must be a lot easier now too 😂

[@MegaSlimgoody1]

They need to take care of their own grown child.

[@BigSparky1316]

This one is so wild! They're parents are terrible people and didn't set their daughter up for success (the son either I bet) but their son did and they played in to her entitlement now they're seeing the consequences of their actions.

[@playerxcix2528]

Died at minute 9, in the same exact way, and then died at minute 10 lmao

[@marcushursl2931]

Cut ties with your family. There are times strangers are more family than those blood related to you. Let them survive on their own.

[@kibzzinho2240]

Not a single "Please", "Thank You" or "Sorry"

[@blackspiderman1887]

His fault for not setting boundaries. Soon as he paid for her rent it was over.

[@penguinpewpew_]

I hope OP some day gets his dream house