"I Would Rather D*E Than Ask My Baby Daddy For Help"

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[@AbaNPreach]

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[@tobiorola5318]

She'll probably regret what she says

[@tobiorola5318]

@Aba & Preach please make this a pin of shame 😁

[@Juggtacula]

Bro...thank you guys for posting this whole video. I been trying to find it for like a week now.

[@tobiorola5318]

@@Juggtacula 😎

[@quietgamer33]

Beautiful stare down 😏

[@robw4623]

“Sometimes a toxic mother is worse than an absent father.” ~Preach

[@kartikayysola]

Preach preaching as usual

[@mahad813]

It is💯

[@yukicross3917]

Naw the both about the same.

[@BlackBeauty2023]

I feel bad for the kids that have to deal with both 🤦🏽. Imagine having to deal with that kinda of trauma.

[@ClarenceJBoddicker1987]

Not sometimes, always.

[@noahthenormal]

As I've grown up, I've come to realize that having really solid parents was easily the most impactful privilege I've had. Way too many adults with kids out here not taking it seriously

[@noahthenormal]

@@Kate-is5mz Do you mind saying what country you're from?

[@PunkMartyr]

Same. Im in a mens group with four guys. I have it good

[@fightingblindly]

So many fucked up women and men I meet have no father. It’s just insane. Whether it be the crazy ass women or the nutso incels they tend to have absent or poor fathers. I’m incrediblt lucky to have had PRESENT and GOOD parents.

[@agathachris9722]

Really. I'm very privileged in this regard, Thank God. I have two healthy parents who married, stabled themselves, planned for me and hand me and my siblings.

[@mega-mind3167]

@@agathachris9722 Same because some of these ppl are ridiculous and embarrassing for parents

[@austins.1102]

In other words: *“I’m a terrible parent because my pride & ego are more important to me than the safety of my child”🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️*

[@egobrain6826]

Exactly

[@Rieky22]

Her pride >>> her own child

[@atlas4837]

75% single mother households

[@atlas4837]

Blame your own culture

[@AlexanderSkinnerVids]

Why are they sleeping together in the first place?!?!

[@D1337ThisGuy]

Mother: *Physically abuses child* Father: *Defuses situation* Mother: "He's a POS"

[@janelleg597]

There's a reason pride comes before fall. Pride can be an illusion of independence and competence. We all need support of others.

[@augustadaluz9031]

That's right! Humans are not independent. We thrive as a community. we are social beings

[@tonybablony2041]

Ong like imagine if a caveman was like “ima murk this mammoth by myself” like ok dude, sure bud😅

[@bashengatheblackmanta7003]

Well said 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 This should be pin

[@ErgoProxy12345]

There is a reason most religions made Pride a sin (or a similar concept)

[@c0nc3ntr8d6]

If you ask many successful people, they will tell you they would have never made it without the help of many others.

[@kristinholden4334]

Once I realized she was talking about having a knockdown drag out fight, literally dragging her daughter across the room, and the girl is 11…. I dropped the phone. If she’s being honest, talk about potential trauma inducing actions as a parent. Geez

[@fokare692]

Right like you’re not a girl boss single mom, you’re an abusive parent scarring your kids for life.

[@johntherevelator2020]

What part of the video was that convo?

[@johntherevelator2020]

Found it.

[@kristinholden4334]

@@johntherevelator2020 at 12:38 in this video

[@johntherevelator2020]

@Kristin Holden I found it and wow. I know the saying goes, 'your children are not your friends,' but that doesn't make them your enemies either. She should be ashamed of herself but I think she feels the opposite.

[@russelljames5631]

Being a single mom has become a badge of honor to the point where chicks would rather lie and deprive their children of a functioning healthy family than be good parents and admit they can’t do it all alone.

[@trustme7660]

I just realized they don’t want the father because they want the kid to be raised strong and independent like them they’ll tell the child lies just to create another them wow mind blown

[@Flameofblaze7]

Literally saw marriage And still became a “single mother “

[@the_gratefulgamer]

It's Generational amongst women. My and my sister's mom did the same bs.

[@bdw7254]

@@Flameofblaze7 that’s different because you can’t just Leave a marriage without legal implications.

[@Product0fGa]

“proverbial” badge of honor, shit really just a coping mechanism for hurt women to avoid accountability for bad decisions 🥴

[@AtheneHolder]

Preach's death stare is entirely how i feel when she admitted to dragging her child across a floor and not taking a moment to comfort said child. Where the police and CPS when they are actually needed?

[@Catlady-mw4en]

She then said “we’re two women”, like she can’t tell the difference between physically assaulting an 11 year old, and getting into a drunken bar fight with another adult.

[@summerrose8110]

@@Catlady-mw4en I got annoyed when she said that. How the fuck is an 11 year kid considered a woman?

[@Kaliburrrr]

@@Catlady-mw4en I thought it was maybe to suggest they couldn’t hurt each other, but my grandmother used to drag around my mother by the hair, I know that this lady is masking her behaviour and if anything trying to play it down, and it’s still so extreme what she says

[@c0nc3ntr8d6]

She basically said “my child will suffer before I ever ask their father for help”. Putting pride before the health and wellness of your child.

[@SailorMoon37]

Nah she said she would rather die than depend on him

[@NoLuvRecords]

Child abuse basically

[@co-bruh1423]

Someone needs to call DCFS

[@chakho8548]

@@SailorMoon37 yes. With no qualifications. So if anyone asked her if there's a threat against her life and her child, she'd answer that she'd rather die than ask him for help. She did not consider what will happen to the child after she got killed. What's important is that she did not depend on the child's father. Don't you see what's wrong with that?

[@MelaniaRose]

So true. I don’t understand women who are too proud to ask for help from The father of their child.

[@LaytonObserves]

I just want to point out: growing up in a stable, 2 parent household is a big predictor for lifetime success. This girlboss "I can do it all on my own" shit is not good for kids.

[@janelleg597]

selfishness. narcissism

[@suzygirl1843]

It's TRAUMA. Not ego.

[@explorer678]

@@suzygirl1843 it's ego

[@sl1mreapa398]

@@suzygirl1843 everything isn’t a trauma bruh I’m so tired of hearing people justify ego and fucked up attitude and human beings by saying trauma

[@heroine1212]

@@suzygirl1843 it’s ego. Stop calling every shit trauma. My grandparents were traumatized fleeing Germany in WWII and still were good parents. Like real trauma. This shit here is just narcissism

[@meganlynn83]

I wrote this many years ago. (Single mother of a 12yo boy, with sole custody.) My thoughts as a single mother, I see pictures on social media a lot saying, 'Proud Single Mom!' This really bothers me. I am not PROUD to be a single mother. I do not take PRIDE in the fact that my child has no relationship with his father or daily positive male role model. I am not PROUD of picking the wrong person to make a child with. Here are the things I AM proud of; I am proud that my beautiful son calls ME, mommy. I am proud that my God entrusted me with such a wonderful gift to honor, cherish, protect and above all, love. I am proud that I am able to take care of my son on my own and proud of myself for working hard and instilling good values, manners, morals and kindness into my child's every day life. I take pride in the fact that my son trusts me and my judgement. I am proud that he wants ME to kiss his boo-boo's, read him books, teach him things, etc. THOSE are some of the things I am proud of. One thing I am NOT proud of is being a single mother, because the one who hurts the most because of it is the one person I would do anything for, to avoid him feeling any pain. My son. I can teach him a lot of things but I cannot teach him how to be a man.

[@houseofhas9355]

Say it louder for all the bitter b**ches in the back currently denying fathers access to their children.

[@chaitea4717]

Beautifully said ❤️

[@HALOSnHORNS]

This

[@StarSpliter]

I think there are things you can teach him to be a man but I definitely agree having my dad around would have *significantly* helped me and would likely be less timid, etc. Also having someone to relate to with social things, gender specific problems is massive.

[@ghariiscool]

believe me when I tell you we appreciate your being rational

[@TheBerkeleyBeauty]

She lost me when she says she knocked her daughter over and dragged her across the floor.

[@oncetwice5942]

Same here. It’s very disturbing.

[@amarrevolver4452]

She lost lost me the moment she opened her nasty mouth

[@bbbbbbb51]

I can think of a single situation where that could be a just move & even then it's on the extreme side. Like if they're trying to run away or something

[@TylerMcL3more]

“That’s the dumbest shit ever.” Correct!

[@DadsCigaretteRun]

His face 😂 glorious

[@pumelelabanca1442]

Home run right there. You can not let dumb ish slide.

[@benjaminnixon5770]

The amount of silence after he said that made me feel fuzzy on the inside .

[@91mac_]

and then when he said "we gon let her rock out for a moment" lmfaoooo

[@yungsxma5578]

I read correct in planktons voice lol. I need to take a break off the internet 😂

[@rolandoaramirez1746]

When she said it's generational, she didnt realize she is part of that generation. She should realize working together as a family is the best thing to do for your kids.

[@Hirohito_iLoveYou]

✨Ignorance is bliss ✨

[@Vinn_Tree]

that sounds too much like right. cause you know she on the fifth layer.

[@akuiper2654]

How do you break a generational curse? Do it differently!

[@Kuhmodo]

She could've broke the generational issues instead she went harder lol.

[@Hirohito_iLoveYou]

@@Kuhmodo lmao she doubled down hard

[@nowaynoway915]

The fact that they went a platform like this and readily admitted this level of dysfunction, is utterly absurd 😑🤦🏽‍♀️. I’m single mother. It’s not a badge of honor and nothing to brag about. A lot of us have to grow the hell up. It’s not about you it’s about your child.

[@ayyylmao101]

Well said. Also, if they're willing to say such things in public, I just... I worry as to what they say inside the home.

[@adriennekromah6865]

Facts

[@dudeadonaiski]

Strength be with you

[@mr.duanesharpe]

It’s just some women complaining about being responsible and saying oh I pay my bills etc. 🤦🏿‍♂️. I think we all do at some point. It’s being an adult and if you have kids being a parent.

[@biblethumper8088]

How is it not about her when it's her life being wasted raising the child? You make no sense, it's about the mother. She doesn't have to make herself uncomfortable for anyone, not even the child who came out of her womb. If that man wanted to be in that child's life, he would've stayed.

[@natashaallen1687]

The fact that they’re laughing about her physically abusing her child is sickening

[@rarrirooster15]

Go along get along crew . Sad shit

[@alexxz123]

Admitting to child abuse but it no big deal.

[@summerrose8110]

@@alexxz123 I bet you think Seth Mcfarlane romanticizing the Meg abuse is a normal thing.

[@mayitakeurhatsir]

@@summerrose8110 tf are you talking about? kick rocks my guy

[@yamithagoddess8694]

Literally

[@brennanb4911]

She literally admitted to child abuse yet sat there and laughed about putting hands on a child. This shit is sad as hell man...

[@mitsyrage2233]

And that's what tbat was, that was not discipline. It's crazy. I came from a tradition of physical discipline and no one in my family has been dragged or beat down as correction.

[@summerrose8110]

I agree with the guy who called them out on their bullshit. "That's the dumbest shit I've ever heard." God bless that guy.

[@warriyu4878]

@@summerrose8110 and then dude said "let her rock out" like tf u on? naaah u got to call people out on their bullshit man

[@Usernamesdontmatter1]

@@mitsyrage2233 yeah. Hitting a child to correct their behavior when it's severe isn't abuse. Dragging them and beating them while they are on the ground is abuse.

[@kathiaserrano7740]

@@warriyu4878 I think he was letting her expose herself. At least that's what I gather.

[@ashlielove6513]

This is why we have broken families in every community. Pride. As I get older I'm so much more drawn to families and communities that stay together and act like they actually care about more than their egos.

[@denzelstephen266]

It may be present in every community, but the black community has a single motherhood rate of like 70%. We should focus efforts on that

[@ashlielove6513]

@@denzelstephen266 Well I've had to learn the hard way since I'm not a member of that community I have to keep my mouth shut about issues that affect them. Sad considering so many people I've loved are a part of it but alas...

[@chydi10]

Dude… fuck pride. It’s just plain stupidity. This has nothing to do with pride cuz it’s clear she’s a dumbass and I don’t see anything to be proud of. This is why I don’t even bother myself with black chics no more. Ain’t got shit, but wanna be a boss chic. SMH

[@suzygirl1843]

TRAUMA. Not ego. There's a little bit of pride there. But its generational trauma

[@denzelstephen266]

@@ashlielove6513 if you have a brain, can do the research, and can make informed decisions, you can speak on anything. Another issue with my community is the reaction to criticism, cant take it a lot of the time and blame is reassigned. The solution is to talk about it more, not shut up because you think its not your place

[@day-vid]

I remember how PROUD my mom declared how she raised us by herself. I had to remind her how messed up we are because of that.

[@samuraitadpole5459]

Same shit with my mom

[@davidwilliams7382]

I can't speak on your other sibling but you my friend are far from messed up because you recognize functional behavior and it can grow as a result of it . I really suggest that you read a book called breaking the curse of Willie Lynch by Alvin Morrow it's not a long read and it will definitely change your life in terms of giving you a better understanding of the way Black folks behave.

[@houseofhas9355]

Should've said. Glad your proud but you failed me, and you see my pain and struggle as a young man withOUT a father to guide him as an accomplishment.

[@day-vid]

@@davidwilliams7382 yes, I recognize it, but the consequence was I had to go through trial and unnecessary errors to even be brave enough to correct. I tell my nieces and nephews that you can still LOVE your elders, but if they boast "perfection" and can't seem to at least admit mistakes, they are not being genuine. Telling our children when we messed up can be a more powerful tool than focusing on how we're always right.

[@blackblursliver]

🙏

[@kendallholiday7149]

I had to take my daughters mom to court bc she's like this. Didn't even let me see her. Heart goes out to other men in the same positions.

[@burmessafox3939]

Hope it went well with you

[@matthewatwood8641]

Mom &/or stepmom with the narcissistic control obsession.

[@paulocigarro9708]

"I'd rather die than ask my baby daddy for help" So you'd rather put your child in extreme danger than ask your baby's father for help?

[@Lhoyte1]

He was good enough to have a child with but she draws the line at calling him for help

[@theprisonerofthegoldenhead4030]

Not just that, imagine she’s stranded in the middle of nowhere and she would rather die on that road leaving her child than call the father for a ride.

[@jayclearmen411]

Facts ignorance at its finest!! smdh an i know you fellas see the other gal co-signing/cheerleading the bullshit. Smh i’m glad dude in the white had a spine an called em out on that BS💯💯

[@TheFaro2011]

@@Lhoyte1 you know psychopaths/sociopaths have kids. They don't advertise it. You find out afterwards

[@belfanmnoir5503]

She didnt even see anything wrong with violently beating her child. She mocked the little girl. And shes only 11. Wait until she’s 16 and can match her in weight. Its over.

[@tiffakang4525]

My mom thought this way..... really she was just bitter.... it killed her, and now I be with with our dad making up for loss time(side eyeing my mom's past choices). People don't think about the consequences of their actions. ✌🏾

[@AxxLAfriku]

HELP MY!!! My muscles are too big! I am a big tall man and my muscles are even BIGGER! I use them to get views but they HURT so much!!! Because they are heavy. Do you have any advice, dear tif

[@Muddyowns]

Yup. Learning about the things a parent lied to you about really messes with you.

[@dantechadmasteroftheblooda7404]

I agree my granny went out that way and my mom is following suit

[@CallMeMrStopmotion]

I'm kinda curious... exactly how did it kill her, if you don't mind me asking?

[@Ceeboyforlife]

i hope more kids are like you

[@ehietomi4375]

To say I feel bad for these women is an understatement can't believe that innocent child is gonna grow up with that mindset when her dad is clearly a good person

[@retrozip]

Basically shes gonna grow up just like her mother

[@kirsten9277]

And the cycle will continue into their kids.

[@mychelenskinner790]

More angry toxic black women in training smh... hide your sons ladies lol

[@user-em9su3dd9y]

The dad isn't there, who knows why, but the advice was good.

[@alskarmode]

Why would you feel bad for these women

[@Demise09732]

Son of a single mother here, I resent my mother for certain things she's done to me in my childhood, can't trust her with any of my secrets even if my life depended on it. I heard this saying from on of my life mentor's/father figures in my life, "you can love your parents but you don't have to like them"

[@3ddrew691]

Is it just me or the one who dragged her kid across the counter or floor, she said both, said she would rather die on the side of the road than call her baby daddy and yet called him because she couldn't handle her kid in that situation. Sounds like you can't handle it and you didn't die so seems you are completely full of shit. What an amazing mother. Unbelievable this woman.

[@BattleBladeWarrior]

Lol, exactly. That said, i think what she meant was "I will never ask my baby daddy for help, financially" cuz shes an "independent woman", but, as the "Baby Daddy" she'll call him upto discipline the kids or talk them down. Its still helping her though, obviously, but I don't' think she sees it that way, she seems to see them as two seperate things.

[@cookiesnow6726]

My thing is, how old is her daughter?? And like how does fighting her child like that acceptable????

[@MrLEYoSAN]

@@cookiesnow6726 the daughter is 10 yrs old I think because she goes I had my child for 11yrs because I carried her for 1yr, something along those lines.

[@jayclearmen411]

i’m glad i wasn’t the only one who peeped that she said that garbage..an i know you seen her goofy ass gf cheerleading an co-signing that foolishness. And did anyone else seen the way that she cruelly laughed at/trivialize her daughters pain..mocking her like that…please tell me if a guy had done the same he wouldn’t be called all types of “abusers” etc

[@BG-mh6pc]

And her kid is only 11… like wtf

[@johntherevelator2020]

The part I'm stuck on is her admitting to "knocking her child over" (possibly slapping her down) and then dragging her across the floor. That speaks volumes about her parenting skills.

[@moralityisnotsubjective5]

That's called abuse and she should lose her parental rights for it. The father sounds more rational.

[@Lovelyswan101]

RIGHT, I was like UHM wtf, what did the child do to deserve that!? My mom works with some insane children but she never did that to US or THEM. It's sad man.

[@Chuck_EL]

@@Lovelyswan101 did she mock her daughter for crying after she abused her? She's such a piece of shit

[@specialk5340]

Fam I’m more scared at the fact that she openly said it like it was no big deal, but this kind of shows that even women believe and know that they can get away with just about anything.

[@layton6202]

@@specialk5340 you privileged folks act like other cultures don't beat their childrens ass maybe thats why you don't see them wildn like these white kids these days with identity politics and shooting up schools

[@Babylon_Dreams]

You’re both spot on. Way too much pride and ego, and they’re just swimming in toxic dysfunction.

[@ronin4303]

And people in their own circle will praise them like they did something brave or smart. And of course they are black too like this shit doesn’t help us at all just passes on the dysfunction generation after generation like I’m so done

[@darrellgainer6966]

@@ronin4303 that just mean we have to raise are children different , the black community is getting better less dysfunctional less crime it just gonna take more. Doesn’t happen instantly it happens one child at a time. 💪🏿

[@yueyue1526]

my mother was very manipulative. she abused us emotional, mentally, and financially. she used to beat the shit out of us when we did something we're not spouse to do . when my mom died almost two months ago , I didn't feel anything. some parents are not parent material.

[@noone2706]

That's horrible...I hope life has taken a turn for the better

[@bbbbbbb51]

My own mother is extremely manipulative & all of us kids have a complex relationship with her as a result. Deep down she's a really sweet & caring woman, but that manipulation comes out so easily for her it's detestable. You can call out the manipulation in the moment & she won't even recognize what she just did. It's tough. Our dad is a lot more reasonable & turbulent, which explains why they're still together after all these years. All of us would have a better relationship with him too if she could curb her bad behavior. Frustrating. We still love & see them both though. I'll still cry when she dies for sure. Sometimes I think it's easier to have a parent who's a complete piece of shit cause you can just cut them out & it's easy & understandable.

[@jackcameroon8423]

As a wise man once said: "There should be licenses implemented for being a parent. A lot of y'all aren't cut out to be parents."

[@katieghoul0092]

Totally agree with that. Also, people need to take more personal responsibility: if you're (a person) dumb enough to not have protected s3x, knowing that you can't afford a baby, that's on you (the hypothetical person). We have to take more responsibility.

[@jackcameroon8423]

@@katieghoul0092 I think she knew from the get go what she'll be entitled to if she gets a baby. I mean look at the family court system in the US, Canada, mother gets custody and father gets to write cheques. Plus the government has subsidized it to promote this further. It's like I have a job, I earn money, I pay my taxes, and my taxes are being used to raise a child that I never had. The Frook!

[@litchtheshinigami8936]

Agreed it needs to be a test like a drivers license. Right now there are too many babies growing up in shitty situations.. i don’t want kids myself because i know i don’t have the patience or the mental resources to take care of a child.. thanks to my Autism i already struggle caring for myself let alone a child. And if that license was a thing i wouldn’t even try getting it cuz i know i’m not cut out for it.

[@goreysins]

Facts

[@ivanasolomon6622]

The only problem is who decides what a good parent is... You'd be getting licenses from the state or government which has also proved to be a terrible parent ... So be careful what you wish for.... They can't even take care of kids in the system, what makes you think they can determine a good parent??? Half the things the government is doing is trying to constantly push back on our God given rights.... The government will take your children already if they see you as an unfit parent.... This happens to plenty of good parents.... Then their children are put in a way worse position. The government is actually the reason the mother thinks this way..... This lifestyle is appraised... She is doing what she is programmed to do as well as many other women... The government and state systems supported fathers being out of the home.... They would create benefits for people and incentivise (props not a word) people to break up their family's. Don't get it twisted. Licenses and involving the state more than we already have would cause more problems.... Not help or keep kids safe... They are the root of this social crisis and standard of living (broken families)

[@skycarson1987]

Preach dropped a HUGE gem "Sometimes the dysfunction is their normal". Sadly, that is often the case is so many situations. You don't recognize it as dysfunction because it is your normal, the way it's always been. I've had to grow past that myself, not in the same way these women do. I have never been a single mother, but I had my own serious issues that I had to work on, and things to relearn. So Preach, that's so spot-on in more situations than just this one.

[@lovely1641]

Omg yes, I've had people sit down and say the most dysfunctional things as if they were normal to say

[@MannieKu]

Thanks for bringing that up. I grew up with divorce and so did my husband. But we vowed to make our marriage and living the best ever so our children will never have to experience that. We are and will set up the standard to break any generational curses or dysfunctional ways. We refuse to even go by some traditional ways just cause our mothers/fathers did it. They weren’t always right

[@mndegrassi8]

Naw homie came with the right energy and said what everyone was thinking. That is the dumbest sh*t I've heard. Unfortunately many mothers think this way.

[@sirennoir258]

And they are destroying us as a people. These ghetto ass I don't need a man bitter Bertha battle axes are raising the next generation of shiftless losers who will have kids out of wedlock with their same bullshit attitude.

[@CrummyVCR]

most*

[@janlore90]

I was a single mom for awhile. I would call the dad to make decisions and when I needed help parenting, but a lot of the time he just didn't want to help. I gave it my all to make him a part of my son's life and unfortunately he just couldn't make him a priority. I would also never fight with my child like that. There is a difference between parenting/ discipline and throwing fists like a teenager. Sometimes you just have to breath and be the adult of the house. I just disagree with them(the girls) in some ways.

[@marsmith1907]

Nope

[@syedharis1906]

i would like to hear your bd story too....

[@lincolnward85]

Why did nobody address the fact that she said she dragged her daughter across the floor?!? Why is that ok on any level? CPS should be at her house right after this aired.

[@mareek2007]

She needs to cut that out.If her daughter becomes resentful and gets to a certain size and the mum physically attacks her again,it’s not going to end well.Her pride and ego will get bruised and it’ll affect their relationship.

[@lincolnward85]

@@mareek2007 it's already affecting their relationship. She just doesn't realize it yet. That little girl will be willing to fight more than she should be because of how her mother is raising her.

[@rachethippyproductions]

your an idiot cps traffic's children.

[@nxrth9463]

Yeah I was like yo wtf at that part. Parents like her, if you can even call her that, really need to stop abusing their kids it's not healthy and will have dire effects on them as they grow up.

[@addictiveone4616]

I dont have a baby daddy (married) but if god forbid we divorced and my daughter was starving best believe I would call him for help, there is nothing I wouldnt do for my daughter to be okay, I’ll deal with my ego later

[@digfitness7598]

You are an excellent women. Thank youfor checking your ego and Pride at the door for the Betterment of your child.

[@kc8724]

@@digfitness7598 I mean it’s the bare minimum

[@CuckMommy]

You speaking before going through it I’m not excusing there choices and mind frame but not having a two parent household is a fucked up feeling and it takes a LOT of therapy and counseling to heal and not be bitter (just food for thought)

[@LoneStoneMaalik]

@@houseofhas9355 She said she DOESN’T have a baby daddy. She’s married to the father of her child.

[@houseofhas9355]

@@LoneStoneMaalik oh I must of misread that. I will abort my comment lol.

[@daloncortez]

Some say “pride is the deadliest sin.” These women make a clear case as to why that could be true.

[@tonyonaperky2128]

"Make a baby mama make shit harder than it gotta be" J cole

[@Ipromiseimnotabot]

And isn’t it crazy how we have a whole month in the states dedicated to it?

[@tonyonaperky2128]

@@Ipromiseimnotabot its even more ridiculous how on Men's Day, we are thanked by being an ally to women

[@daloncortez]

As a card caring member of that community I can assure you it’s no longer about what the original message was for. Originally, we just wanted to exist and feel accepted. Not infringe or control.

[@kurayamaking6425]

Vanity man

[@essme2878]

The way she talked about abusing her child so bad that even the dog was crying is so scary and heartbreaking! The dog has more emotion than the well-trained pet I mean man on the show.

[@TheFatalcrest]

You mean her ego shield. He must protect her ego or else he will not get even a crumb of attention.

[@DEEZNUTS2271]

Being humble doesn’t exist anymore. This new age of people needs help so much. The future is looking B L E A K

[@BigBlack81]

Bleak and barren, spots of shining hope notwithstanding. This shit is a new low that I wasn't sure we'd hit this soon.

[@Kate-is5mz]

Exactly. Like, this right here. HUMILITY is one of the greatest virtues we can have as humans and it legit has healing powers on our souls, but these days people are so far away from that...

[@eesafredericks2122]

People of the past were any better? Bruh what are you on?

[@ptolemeeselenion1542]

Lol.

[@legm5298]

Next gen grandmas are about to be something special 💀

[@kieleleron85768]

I'm divorced and my kids dad lives two blocks away and we still do holidays at my parents together so the kids can have happy memories in their childhood. We still get along and both of us see the kids almost every day we give each other breaks on a regular basis. It's best for kids to have parents that are cooperative not combative.

[@SuperTruthful]

You function like that because you're mature and have the best interest of your children in the forefront of your lives.

[@erind2261]

That's super cool. During visitation, my parents had to meet at the police station & swap us like eBay packages.

[@Discrete1998]

Exactly. My ex and I have family nights and outings so our son can be around us both at the same time. His dad and I each have him whenever we aren’t working, and we’re very fortunate that my mom loves to care for him while we are.

[@kieleleron85768]

@@Discrete1998 that's awesome! It's great for kids to have grandparents. It is really important I think especially for kids of divorce to see functional relationship models. Platonic relationships can and do exist and can work just as well as romantic ones for raising children.

[@kieleleron85768]

@@erind2261 oof that must have been really tough on you! My parents divorced and I only saw my dad two weeks a year after that. It sucked

[@HotforHealth]

So she'd rather sacrifice her kid rather than her ego.. cool.

[@samuraitadpole5459]

And the next generation of kids will hate their mother Because this mindset is common from previous single moms

[@jayclearmen411]

dude in the white shirt was the realest one in the whole equation i’m glad he called out the bullshit…i swear he was the only one in that room speaking sense.

[@ziyamalik1666]

@cablecow15 hate women for being dependent and asking for help , hate them for not doing so.

[@Polyrage2]

Or the kid is the result of the ego : "Of course I can do it alone, I'm capable of everything, I'm on top of the WOOOOOOOORLD!!!! "

[@aton-ramasculin3sunworship353]

This is why the community can never get out of the whole they’re in

[@DammSkippy]

Seeing parents brag about situations like that is what made me decide to go another route and leave the violence out when it comes to disciplining and teaching my kids

[@RacheyBoBachey]

I had to learn the hard way THERE'S NO VALOR IN UNNECESSARY SUFFERING... meaning being a single mom BY CHOICE, playing both mom AND dad is nothing to be proud of! Bc it's not about you and your ego, it's about what's best for the child. When u don't want to share the credit and responsibility with someone else just bc u carried majority of the load raising the child doesn't make u a hero. I was a teen mom and unfortunately I USED to think naively like this. It was a coping mechanism after I tried to get him to be in our son's life and got rejected. So I defaulted to "I don't need a man" etc. Bc I didn't have a man and I knew he wasn't interested in being involved anyway. So my ego was hurt AND I didn't want to accept the reality that I had chosen a bad man as my son's father. Thankfully I've moved on from that mindset and found a great man to raise to my son and our other children together. I got very lucky!

[@TheFaro2011]

Don't mix it up. There's a difference between parent alienation, separating a parent from someone who wants to be present and someone who is hurt because it's ended. These women are doing what they have to do, they've carried the burden of Parenthood, but don't mix it up with parents who only dip in when it suits their narrative.

[@itsyaaveragegirl]

@@TheFaro2011 What women are you talking about? if you're talking about the woman in the white she clearly said it's about her ego that she doesn't ask for help not that the dad is a bad father and the woman in purple is literally projecting. I agree there is a difference between a man leaving on his own accord and not wanting to be in his child's life and a woman alienating the father from their children. But if you fight for full custody of your children and only reduce his visitation to weekends don't be surprised that he only has them for the weekends when you wanted them full time. Women can literally choose what kind of visitation the father gets.

[@qman313]

God bless☺

[@lightkira4119]

@@itsyaaveragegirl there is another video on this channel about how a woman wanted to have a child and raise them alone. She wanted a man's seed only, she claimed that she wants to be a single mother. Wanting to be a single mother and becoming one is different. I believe she even went as far as saying she wouldn't accept help from her family members to be father figures. She was dead set on being a single mother.

[@itsyaaveragegirl]

@@lightkira4119 I watched that video too. I think sometimes as black people, well black women especially we champion struggle when there is no need. To be honest, if people stopped having children before marriage and took time to decern who is a good partner then being a single mother wouldn't be something so common. Accountability is on both sides, men should be wrapping it up, and as a woman, you should be more careful who you allow in your womb. Now women will come out of the woodwork talking about men change when you have a baby when the truth is he had red flags the whole time and they chose to ignore it. So if the father is in the child's life but not with you, you are not a single mother you are co-parenting. A single mother is literally a woman who is raising her children without the father at all, and this isn't the case for the women in white here.

[@jasonmillstalks]

"It's a large percentage of women who have to take on that whole package" Most custody courts start off giving the father minimal to almost no custody. Don't complain about the situation when you fought to have it that way. I fought tooth and nail for over a year getting dragged through the mud. I had to PROVE my innocence from blatantly false allegations. When the allegations were shown to be felony level perjury what happened to the other person? She got to walk away because she was assumed innocent when I was assumed guilty. She F right off with that BS she's on

[@samuraitadpole5459]

Not only that but unless rape is involved she chose the man

[@rainygamedays5873]

THANK YOU and I'm sorry you had to go through this as well. They get no consequences for lying through their fucking teeth but when we finally prove after years of being lied about we don't even get an apology

[@kristianawilson9038]

​@@rainygamedays5873 Did you ever see that women tell the family and her three daughters that their father raped them, later on she admitted it was complete lies, the daughters were traumatised and couldn't believe it. The guy was in tears and she had no f**king light behind her eyes as she looked at him "why didn't you fight for em harder if you knew you didnt do it" is what she said to his face

[@jasonmillstalks]

@@rainygamedays5873 I'm glad for it. We work great now, we share custody week on/off, and we have family events where her mom and my new gf have a great time with no issues. Trust me, it humbled me and, given the chance to burn her, I chose to work together for our kid. Paid off and I never have to explain to our kid why she got less time with mom than with me

[@JoeL91939]

Dude should bring the original video to the judge.

[@CosmicBaller1]

“It’s a generational thing” and you are contributing to it. I like how they notice the problem and then become a part of it because they can use the excuse.

[@SirN8speare]

I honestly think they created the “generation thing.” Imagine how long this has been going on with how most women are terrible pickers especially when it comes to fathers of the upcoming generation(s)

[@BoomSkwad47]

Talking out of both side of one's mouth is an axiom when dealing with women

[@rationalcynic8416]

It's a Millennial thing they learned from their divorced, toxic, and entitled Boomer parents. Boomers were the ones that popularized divorce and splitting up as soon as things start to get tough.

[@jennapipes6337]

I agree. My mother owned up to some things that have happened through the years. We have always been really close, but the men she chose to be in her life have caused some trauma for me through my life, along with some outburst through out the years. She has apologized for it all, and seeing her grow into the women she is now makes me proud to call her my mother. My 2 step parents and my father on the other hand have never apologized for the trauma they caused me, and yes, I respect them less for it. Both my step parents have never even acknowledged the pain they caused me ever. It’s hard to respect someone who didn’t respect you when you were at your most innocent.

[@MrAffinityTV]

Preach: “press play”…..”okay so we just going to stand here?” Aba: “yeah” Preach: “that’s ego” 😂 their interactions together are top notch

[@Mr.Boring_Man]

"I'd rather die on the side of the road than call the kids dad for help". A few minute's she says after assaulting her kid, the father had to mediate the situation. The host said the obvious... she shaped a story that painting her as a "strong mother" and the father as absent while her sister blindly agrees and regurgitates this false narrative. She's one of these mother's that only want credit for good outcomes and anything negative, she'll blame on the father. She excused her bad moment while basically giving no value to the father's contribution. Trash. Also, I hate the podcasts where there's no control of who speaks and when.

[@Gchildwarrior]

I fully agree. She painted him as trash UNTIL she needed help from him. I also hate when multiple people talk at once because the main conversation goes out the window when it happens I even hate that outside of podcasts

[@HALOSnHORNS]

Mute buttons will be the new currency

[@shiro2400]

Agreed. She painted a horrible picture of the dad by saying she would rather die than call him for help. Do they not see how it painted a false image of the dad? We all basically started assuming the dad was a PoS. But she makes the kid call her dad when they argue? Hella ego. ‘I will never call him but I’ll make his daughter call him’. Crazy shit

[@bgrego88]

@@Gchildwarrior it's her fall back blame cop out, she basically told us why she's a single mom. When things go wrong she doesn't take accountability or responsibility. She needs someone to blame for her shortcomings and failings. That lack of self awareness and empathy is why he left. The father will be blamed for any struggles she has or any shortcomings with herself or her child. She needs to grow up. You trash the father saying your a single mother minimizing his contribution then proceed to tell a story of the man mediating your situation and being fatherly

[@fatimahbrown2138]

SMH, I hope my son never runs into these women's offspring. They are dooming our community with this asinine rhetoric. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@lilikaramirez1848]

just dumb bitches...i dont see women.

[@dataodokpa5431]

Me too

[@jaebee7739]

Pray for them sis. That’s all we can do.

[@sadebraimah5962]

I feel like there’s definitely two sides to this problem within the community. You have mothers like this, but you also have fathers who are absent and literally go around making babies everywhere. I feel like both men and women are to blame for this mess tbh 🤦🏾‍♀️.

[@michellerichardson3090]

@@sadebraimah5962 my children's father has 3 daughters and all of them want nothing to do with him. I told him "you were the first man in their lives and all they've seen is their mothers try to force you to be involved so they're dont feeling unwanted"

[@Hazed64]

I was raised by a single mum , my dad beat the shit outta her and cheated on her for 10 years and hate his guts But if my mum let herself starve and let me be in a bad way because she refused to call my dad I'd resent her for the rest of my life They are basically saying "I'd leave my child motherless just to prove a point to my baby daddy"

[@bridgetuphoff2129]

I'm totally feelin' Preach's vibe. The looks you're giving the camera today are priceless. And I feel you.

[@imemberberry]

Preach is a trip. He knows how to sell it. It's always over the top or nothing at all. Which is funny.

[@nocomment2468]

Some people are so dumb they strut their anti-logic. I hope her kid is okay in life and gets lots of therapy.

[@houseofhas9355]

But that kid is a fire sign so the universe will give him or her a discount all that lifelong therapy.

[@kiquemarmolejo6305]

Her kid will more than likely not be okay 😔

[@blackblursliver]

Her kid will be like her, but if she's stay in touch with her dad she has as a chance.

[@shanemcmahon6364]

Her kid is juss gonna add to the next generation of the same cycle..like beating a dead horse with these women and topic

[@DC...]

@@shanemcmahon6364 Maybe the kid will get lucky. CPS and the courts could review this admission if the father submits it.

[@RichardZenith]

My mother did not have the choice that these women have. I was disowned by my father to my face as a child, so seeing people say things like that is frustrating. There is no better alternative to having both parents.

[@DTreatz]

your mother must have some poor decision making skills in men. shame.

[@galaxyquest8519]

even though I’m a daddy’s girl i have no relationship with my biological father because he didn’t want to be a father and was abusive to my mom but I love my step dad ( my father) to my core because he really taught me how a man is supposed to take care of his family and how lead life through love that’s why I don’t hold on to animosity or grudges

[@layton6202]

That PFP makes sense now

[@Que772]

Just because a father claims a child doesn't mean he's in that child's life.

[@sofetchxx]

The fact that she talks about how she treats her daughter when on camera? Imagine how she must treat her that she doesn’t say.

[@GiganticSky]

She's simply campaigning for her daughter to grow up and be indebted to her when she becomes an adult. She will guilt trip her & manipulate her into being her 'back-up plan' and never let her start her own life. She brags about being a great mom, but the trips, clothes & lifestyle will definitely be brought up later when the daughter tries to break away.

[@user-dp5go8hr6w]

Oh man I was looking for this comment and I agree with you all the way That guilt trip is coming for that daughter

[@blackgirldiary2363]

Single motherhood is no joke. My mother did a great job raising us and I turned out great- but I don’t know how to be a wife. I’m engaged and absolutely terrified of not being good enough wife because I never got to see that side of my mom. It’s sad

[@Lrxxx321]

Atleast youre mature enough to realize that many people acts like this is. Not a thing Good luck with you marriage 🙏

[@zachmcmahan8481]

I can tell you’re going to be a great wife because you care enough to stress about it. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes, but if you care about your partner and have some self reflection, you learn from those mistakes and grow as a person and a partner. That’s all I could ever ask from a wife. You don’t have to know how to handle every situation. You just have to be willing to put in the effort and show me you care. As long as you do those two things for me I would be happy lol. I feel like the majority of marriages fail because of complacency and lack of effort from both individuals. It’s all about team work and sacrifice. Good luck and god bless.

[@ABC3-2]

John Delony podcast. Poor man's podcast. Pink pill podcast. Lots of books on the topic as well. Online communication training with Dan O'Connor learn communication above all and do more introspection about what your flaws are and give ready and willing to work on them

[@blackgirldiary2363]

@@zachmcmahan8481 Thank you for the encouragement! Will be adding your pointers in my journal😄

[@blackgirldiary2363]

@@ABC3-2 Thank you so much for these suggestions! I’m subscribed to Pink Book Lessons and listen to her. Will look into the other channels you suggested, thank you!

[@megand8022]

“That’s the dumbest shit ever!” Facts. That’s not him not taking care of his kid, that’s you choosing not to co-parent. Your kid loses. She has not said that he doesn’t want to be involved. I’m still waiting… They’re a mess.

[@samuraitadpole5459]

The insult to injury is her saying he's involved to a degree, bitch you are that degree

[@TSH425]

No she contradicts herself by saying she hadda call the nigga to fix the problem at the end

[@emmef7970]

Fairly new to to the channel but they have become a favorite. Always on point, intelligent, thoughtful commentary laced with lots of humor. Look forward to digging deeper into their content. Entertaining and thought-provoking topics.

[@TehShadowDeath]

"That's the dumbest shit ever" -Him "Say it again" -Her like she is going to do something about it. Then she proceeded to talk over him when he is trying to ask her a question. She knows he will call her BS.

[@ELWATCH01]

When its all about you, there is no room for anyone else. I feel sorry for the child, because she could care less.

[@WhatIsItToBurn]

I disagree, I definitely think she couldn't care less.

[@SirN8speare]

@@WhatIsItToBurn both of you are correct as sad and contradictory as it is

[@coltonsmith3724]

@@SirN8speare no, not both. The phrase “could care less” is incorrect

[@SirN8speare]

@@coltonsmith3724 dude go away

[@ok-ok123]

Respect to the person editing this vid. The cuts and zooms were on point

[@pennedideas3928]

Loved the hand zoom when that irritated lilah tassel-earrings wearing chickette was 'womsplaining' to the guy who never could get a word in.

[@onlyjoinedtotroll]

Fax

[@didicastle5320]

i was raised dysfunctional but when i decided to have my daughter i started therapy and parenting classes because i didnt want to be that parent or woman for my daughter ...her dad is still with us and if we were to separate i would still call him because even if i got it together or not he is still her father and he has a say in decision making and to voice his opinion because he is the other parent ...women be wilding not to call a dad for help or help in parenting yall have too much pride

[@Fredo35123]

Aba loves when preach gets pissed off 😂

[@urklentertainment]

For real!

[@summerrose8110]

That's why they're not friends.

[@OKAYOKAY420]

@@summerrose8110 they're not friends because it's just business.

[@ItachiUchiha-ut6xj]

@@summerrose8110 Haha that is how me and my friends interact all the time. We try to piss each other off constantly and it's hilarious.

[@TRAVELWLOVE]

Honestly, children will get to a point where they know what is going on...I let my daughter find out on her own. If a parent is lacking a child will find out later on when they see the actions of the other!

[@NoLuvRecords]

They are going to turn on these broads and hate them

[@BG-mh6pc]

This. Let the child decide and realize it on their own. 100%

[@NoFatHeaux]

I'm going thru the same thing bro. I know my daughter will learn the truth in a few years so I've submitted to the circumstances for the sake of my own mental health. My father has a saying: "Sometimes you have to give up being right in order for the suffering to heal."

[@joanna0988]

@@NoFatHeaux Staying out of your child's life is not doing them a favor 😢 Speaking as that child 🤷

[@greyhaizeradio3229]

@@NoFatHeaux Right there with you man. Right now!!! I was dealing with so much ish from my kids mom, even three years after the divorce, AND THEN my oldest started talking ish to me like her mom does when no one is looking, so I said "F" it. I was feeling like I was going to die dealing with the unnecessary bs from their mom then my kids started doing it too? Naw...my health and sanity are more important. Hopefully, after some time of living solely with their mom, they will see it. Stay up man

[@the.integrativenurse]

I used to be scared to say this but I'm getting over that fear. If we're going to continue talking about "toxic masculinity" we need to bring just as much passion towards discussing "toxic femininity". We do not live in a vacuum. Also that look from Preach to Aba...LOL

[@houseofhas9355]

Imagine being fearful of criticizing other women. As a man I can't imagine that. It's natural for men to criticize other men. Do you think women's fear of this comes from fearing the consequences. Do women avoid confrontation with other women at all costs. I suspect this to be true.

[@the.integrativenurse]

@@houseofhas9355 That's a great question! There probably is some gender related conditioning. That being said, I can't speak for all women - only myself. My fear could have stemmed from my upbringing, abuse, gender, culture...the list can go on...I'm at a place in my healing where I feel the origin of my unhealthy traits are irrelevant (to me). What's important is to identify them, and take action to work through them. I personally HATE confrontation (I score pretty high on agreeableness) - that being said, I've trained (and continue to train) myself to address what needs to be addressed in a timely manner (thank you Jordan Peterson)

[@houseofhas9355]

@@the.integrativenurse the high agreeableness I see. But I think alot of women want to please people. The avoiding of confrontation is huge one that lot of women will know what other women are doing to be wrong and immortal and will not call her out. I think this society we encourage that. We encourage not "being in they business" as they say. Do you think that assertiveness is learned in the home by women when they are little. If so how do girls who grow up without a father fair?. Are they less assertive, More agreeable?

[@the.integrativenurse]

​@@houseofhas9355 I can't answer for women on the whole. There are many factors that lead me to develop my assertiveness. A lot of these issues we're placing on people or groups of people (men/women) are a systemic, societal issues. Humans evolved to live in communities. A child was raised by the entire village - not a single family unit. In a village you have multiple fail safes and safety nets to catch a child. You had multiple adults with regulated nervous systems to help guide the child's development. If parents were "busy" or ill equipped the rest of the members of the community could step in. We do not live in structures that are conducive to raising healthy humans - man or woman. These close knit groups kept every member accountable. I don't see the point in blaming men or women - we collectively have a responsibility towards one another. How do we go about creating that instead of shifting blame back and forth? How do we heal our trauma and guide the future generation in a healthy way? I think we have to take a much more holistic approach and we each have a part to play...and we need to come together to do it,

[@jasminewatson8547]

Toxic mothers exists

[@UndertheNeedle282]

I get this to some degree. My son has a relationship with his father but I no longer do. I would NEVER ask him for anything because of what he did to me and my daughters. BUT.. I have an extensive family network that will help me if needed so I would never be dying on the side of the road.

[@layton6202]

Put your ego aside and leave that in the past ask him for help

[@O.Ez8]

@@layton6202 maybe the dad actually did something very wrong and doesn't involve her ego

[@layton6202]

@@O.Ez8 it doesn't matter he's still the dad at the end of the day

[@mangastar234]

@@layton6202 And if the kids want to ask him for help they can. As she said she has family members she can ask for help so she doesn’t have to go to him.

[@layton6202]

@@mangastar234 when it comes to the kids she has to

[@sgcastle8389]

"That's the dumbest shit ever" my man was preachin before Preach started talking. Also the look Preach gave to Aba when he said "Let's hear why" he knew it was a set up😂😂

[@TinyMaths]

I very recently discovered, or rather, recognized about myself that I've had a certain belief since I was pretty young; that it's shameful to ask people for what you want, or for help; I've no idea where that notion came from. I remember being in my early 20's and deciding that I didn't want help from ANYBODY.... and took pride in not asking. To me, now, that screams dysfunction. I'm 50 now and realizing that, although self sufficiency is good to some extent, no man is an island. I've slowly started accepting help. There's a kind of 'defensiveness' in the way this girl expresses herself. She's probably afraid to appear vulnerable; but isn't she a human being?

[@deltaflux2381]

Women are turning into men. They don't want to appear vulnerable either, because modern day feminism teaches the world that women are strong and independent and don't need no help, especially not from men

[@Swusdee]

The greatest lesson I learned from my parents was what not to ever put my children through. Abuse, shame, rage, neglect… The greatest struggle of many people’s lives is learning how to be a decent human being without role models to guide you.

[@amoydixon2223]

My parents got divorced when I was 16, my sister 21 & brother 26. Even today as adults with our own families we still get emotional and even cry when we reflect on it. The worse thing parents can do is have that tension or hatred for each other and allow their children to pick up on it. I'm 28 now & it still hurts thinking of some of the things I heard them say to each other. I don't know how people who come from toxic environments don't realize they're creating the same crappy situations for their kids

[@goldencoralll8252]

My parents have been divorced since I was 4 but they still hate each other till this day and mom still talks shit on him present day when she's drunk and my dad let it go years ago

[@layton6202]

Some of you kids needed to get your ass beat

[@ZayTheKid92]

Now hopefully you guys are still on KZbin 20 years later when her daughter ends up on a podcast telling us how shitty her mom was most of her life and how she wished she didn't see her dad as a villain lmao That reaction video is gonna be wild.

[@burmessafox3939]

20 years? Maybe around 7 years when she's 18 and try to move out. Though, seeing how abusive the mom is, I wouldn't be surprised is she kicks her out at 16+

[@davidwilliams7382]

Kevin Samuels ain't never lied when he said these independent and strong Queens will die alone 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️

[@joyandpeacefullaughter5307]

All humans die alone, lol

[@davidwilliams7382]

@@joyandpeacefullaughter5307 Okay 👌🏿so please let's not get all politically correct . Nobody wants to live life alone and be on their death bed without any love ones around to comfort them . My guess is that you are one those hard head strong and independent Queens 🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️ but don't worry though just get yourself a box wine subscription and adopt a few cats and you'll be okay .

[@Polyrage2]

@@joyandpeacefullaughter5307 Except in wars, plane accidents, nuclear factory incident, earthquakes, tsunami, volcanoes, pregnant woman dying (that counts as 2, at least, depending on your view on foetuses), bus crash, collective suicides, terrorist bomb sacrifice, murder suicide (sometimes portrayed in dramatic romantic plays), train crash, forest fires, fires in general, twin miscarriages, and more. Each time two or more people die from the same thing, at the same time in the same place, I'd say they actually died together. Like the lovers of Modena, some even die holding hands!

[@DRoyale1]

I hope child services is taking heed of this “woman”….

[@EightFrancs]

The vast majority of women who work in child services are exactly the same as these women.

[@SoldierSpiderx]

The fact that this man is a great father and she still has this mindset is baffling…. and the worse part is that her daughter is gonna grow up thinking this type of behavior is acceptable

[@Flameofblaze7]

She a black woman some just wanna make it more stressful then it has to be for whatever reason

[@appollo1826]

She acts like an older sister to her child while the father acts as a father. She really needs to grow up fast. She already had the child for 12 years, and she still acts like a child with a child. Her ego is going to crush that child to death.

[@SoldierSpiderx]

@@appollo1826 fact and the way she acting and her sister, her kid going end up hate both of them and want live with their dad the most and mother be like what went wrong

[@datl3afn1nja9]

@@SoldierSpiderx lol no she won’t. She’ll just hate her daughter and say she’s a piece of shit like her father, especially if she ends up with another kid.

[@EL-ISS]

Why do people now a days say they're capable and don't need any help? We're social animals, we absolutely NEED one another. Whenever someone gives me a hand, whether it's emotional or physical, I appreciate it greatly. It's nice knowing that there are people out there who care about me enough to help me. And I love helping others who truly appreciate it.

[@iconoclast2359]

'When you're raised by dysfunction, it becomes your normal' - Preach

[@layton6202]

Thanks for the quote

[@FrobiWan]

I was raised by my father growing up. Mother was dating an abusive shit stain and that's how my father got custody. Unfortunately, just about my entire upbringing was broken and abusive. Instead of becoming violent myself, I am essentially the polar opposite, which isn't good either. It affected my relationship with my daughter. I have to go through therapy just to try and "fix" what's wrong with me. It sucks all around.

[@dagon99]

Persevere

[@rozi2089]

That podcast was brain numbing lol. Its crazy who has a mic. Its even crazier that people listen to a full video. Its absolutely nuts & absurd to take the advice and council of these nuts. Keep on get'N em Aba & Preach ✊🏿

[@theezenriarinze9203]

Yep, the dudes are just as dumb as the women

[@deltaflux2381]

Ikr, everytime I see crazy shit like this, I wonder, shouldn't our social media just be very much restricted or censored like in North Korea and China? We are literally allowing mentally damaged and extremely ignorant people giving audiences to influence and to spread nonsense

[@robertthrobert2337]

It's like no matter how bad of a person I feel like I may have been there's always someone worse with no self-realization.

[@dubbyu4286]

As a introvert, I understand the importance of having a network of people in your life. I'd like to say I'm independent, but the success I obtained come from the help of others. I hate to talk to people but I have to if I'm going to advance further in my life.

[@KateBrinfour]

Did the lady in the beginning just confessed to child abuse??? I don’t know why women think that they can openly speak like this and expect the average person to agree with them and to say that what they do is relatable and justified. I’m a woman and I disagree with so many things that modern women of today that are in my generation and older do and think it’s OK

[@TheObjectiveTruth0]

This is the comment I’m searching for!!!!! Why is no one talking about this? How often does this happen??? Why is the dad who she claim she would never call for shyt is the one bringing peace to the home. That’s not a teenager that’s a child. This is crazy!!!!!

[@samuraitadpole5459]

Nobody especially the law criticize women and when it do happen the waterworks come out, watch videos of women and men yelling at each other in public, no one cares if women yell at men but when men yell it's a crime, the same is for kids

[@lostmoon7040]

Okay so I’m glad I’m not the only one who caught that cause she said that and I said “excuse me???”

[@TheObjectiveTruth0]

@@lostmoon7040 I’m still baffled that she would say that for the world to hear and it’s the way she said it as if it normalized.

[@HerbaMachina]

This fr, she just said she dragged her child accross the table. CPS needs to remove this child from this insane woman.

[@excelself]

I recently got guardianship of my niece whom I raised from 3 months old till 8 when I had to give her back to her mother. She came back with: Depression Anxiety 120 pounds overweight. Thoughts of ending herself. With one attempt. She did so much damage to her in such a short amount of time and now I have to deal with her misbehavior. Now since my niece has been back I have not had ANY issue with misbehavior. Single mothers are a not good people.

[@samuraitadpole5459]

Biggest flaw was God letting women have kids whenever they want

[@lostmoon7040]

I think you mean to say that single mothers can be shitty because you can’t deny the fact that there are single mothers out here who are single mothers because they themselves have gotten out of abusive relationships in order to protect their children or their significant other has died.

[@excelself]

@@lostmoon7040 nope I know a few and the things that happened to their kids is not something I can say here in KZbin. Think what’s the “best” kind of life a single mother can provide? Unless you make over $70k providing for a kid and keeping them safe it’s just not possible. There is a video of a ex feminist explaining that both men and women are perpetrators of violence at home at almost the same rate. So the whole it’s mens fault theory just doesn’t work.

[@lostmoon7040]

@@excelself Never said it was mens faults but there are many single mothers who try their best and don’t hurt their children.

[@excelself]

@@lostmoon7040 I’m sure you met hundreds who meet those standards. However ALL and I mean ALL the single mothers I have met are not good people. Drinking. Partying. Smoking. Etc etc. it’s almost like they don’t care about their kids. Just recently a single mother with 5 kids got together with an Excon right out of jail… what do you think will happen to her 3 daughters? Think about it.

[@yishubae895]

Man... I'm still trying to heal from the toxicity from my childhood and yes... resentment towards that person was on a level I thought I could never forgive or come back from. I chose to wait on children because I'll be damned if I ever treat MINE as I was treated.

[@Antoinetteelean]

Me and my child's dad used to fight tooth and nail for MONTHS. When I had an asthma attack when my daughter was with me he clocked out of work and stayed with me until I could go to the hospital. At the end of the day y'all are family whether you like it or not. And if something happens to me, it happens to my child which affects him. But what do I know Im a random girl on the internet.

[@alteredpenguin2073]

I think we need to start calling out the differences between responsibility and maturity. Some people think because they're responsible it automatically means their mature and it does not. Just because you can pay all your bills on time, you're good at managing your money doesn't eaquate to the maturity. Mature people can handle interpersonal relationships, maturity is a form of emotional intelligence, it means that you're strong enough to handle life's adversity as a fully functioning healthy adult. Too much pride is a sign of immaturity.

[@snippets981]

This.

[@coltonsmith3724]

They’re*

[@ambientaddict7613]

Seen it a lot of times. Single mothers dragging their children through struggles even though the child doesn't have to suffer. They do it so they can tell other women "it's so hard for me, no one helps me" me me me me me. WHAT ABOUT THE CHILD!!!!

[@silververnallbells191]

They think plenty of the child. You don't disappear once you're a parent. You still exist.

[@ambientaddict7613]

@@silververnallbells191 Did not once say that the parents aren't thinking of their children.

[@oncetwice5942]

Exactly. It pisses me off.

[@Hirohito_iLoveYou]

@4:45 “he’s well trained” hell naww, couldn’t be me smh idk who’s the one gassing up these average looking girls who have uglier personalities.

[@ItachiUchiha-ut6xj]

I will never understand why some women think it's an achievement to be a single mom. Yeah some of them have no choice but most of them do. And basicly what you're saying is:" my child needs both parents in their life but my own ego is more important so if I dislike him they will never see their father."

[@chelseae.6779]

A lot either think the baby will make the guy stay or love the validation of saying they “did it on their own without any help”🤦🏽‍♀️. It’s truly a sad thing.

[@ItachiUchiha-ut6xj]

@@chelseae.6779 Agreed! Women love a guy with options but guys with options are usually not the settling down type.

[@aiscott1]

My children's mother chose to sleep in her car with my children for months instead of calling me. I was never abusive, controlling or toxic to her or my children. I just chose not to be with her because she was all of those things. Oh yeah, she also left the state and refused to tell me where they were.

[@krissysherrell6625]

I’m so sad to read this. I can never imagine hurting my baby and keep him from his dad. I love seeing their bond and it brings me back to peace even if I am upset or mad about something that was said. (Nothing serious).

[@aiscott1]

@@krissysherrell6625 It's beyond sad. These mothers are choosing to cripple their children's development because they want to punish the father.

[@keosemeraldscorpio]

That's straight up neglect and abuse on her part. I'm sorry that you and the children went through/going through this, sir, please fight for full custody.

[@BeautyMarkBeautyMark]

I will be hearing about women like this I can only wish I had a baby daddy like you

[@aiscott1]

@@BeautyMarkBeautyMark Thank you. What's really sad is that almost every father I know had to go through some nonsense in one form or another. Deadbeat only applies to fathers, so what do we call these mothers?

[@relaxingstudyandfocusmusic8628]

And this mentality of fathers not being included is why the world is in the state that it's in. Fathers are just as important as mothers to a child.

[@dashawnbarnes4401]

They don’t realize it

[@hiphopchild9540]

North America is not the world, it's just some place in the world , 600 Millions people of 7 billions people....

[@SandraLopez-ll2ob]

I’d say the father is more important than the mother

[@samuraitadpole5459]

@@SandraLopez-ll2ob considering the statistics and the evidence, single moms are horrible parents and should get their kids taken and possibly their tubes tied

[@Super_Broly]

@@SandraLopez-ll2ob with the way the world is turning out without them, and the amount of emotionally unstable people out there back up your statement.

[@staycburch]

Dude while i was watching this I genuinely thought "I'm going to show this to my therapist" and not even 10 secs later Aba said this is why people see therapist 🤣 YES! Thankfully, it helped my parents get to that place your mom got to. Excellent breakdown 🎯 👏👏👏

[@ClaireHaire]

*Being a parent is sacrifice, if you don't realize that you will always have problems. This is the reason why it's so hard to date single mom/dads because, the partner doesn't even want them, they want the attention and use the child as a tool to fuel their ego.*

[@chocolateangel9092]

For 21 years I called and pleaded 🥺 for my Sons father to be in our child's life. I called him more than I wanted to but I new that I needed to keep that door open for our child sake. Even though he told me to leave him alone so he could make a life for his wife and her child. I still called him to inform him of what was going on and asked for help (no help was given) when I needed him. Well I am pleased to say WE (my son and I) survived many tough days and night. And he is grown now. But the relationship between him and his father is null and voided. Not because of anything I said or did but what he experienced on his own with his father for one Summer as a teenager and a moment after he graduated. I do not resent his father at all. But I love him for the one thing he gave me......MY SON! 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@LadyCoyKoi]

This is why we need "Parent Licenses" again like in the 1920s. This whole thing of "Because I have a uterus, I should use it" is such a bad mentality. The wrong type of people are popping out human beings into this world. 🙅🤦‍♀

[@Fabrizio7171]

@@LadyCoyKoi we as men cant 0understand. But women wanting kids regardless of the circumstances is innate. We get frustrated because they do dont shit like have a kid and think that their input is only needed when raising that child. But i think them wanting to have a kid innate. Weather or not she thinks it through is the difference

[@djnastienate]

​@@Fabrizio7171 Pssh, speak for yourself bro, we do understand... Henceforth men still want to get married, have families and be "traditional" i.e. play their roles... Meanwhile women reject that and buck the trend at every turn. My own sisters espouse these views not even knowing what their own father went through, how much he actually made, what type of struggle he went through, my point? Women are brainwashed. This men don't understand/comprehend shit needs to stop. We understand better they do, we aren't the ones trying to be mothers and have careers while wearing the pants in the household while simultaneously being victimized. Women want to do both, men want to do one or the other, and when men dont mind being "At home dads" they're looked down on. Social media is steadfast becoming a women's biggest enemy.

[@Fabrizio7171]

@@djnastienate i will speak for my self then. Fuck them kids. On a real though ive met plenty of women who are ready to have a kid without knowing who i am entirely. Thats where i was getting at. If you can explain that you got it.

[@djbrice5460]

She don't need to call him for child support either. SHE GOT THIS

[@darkdaxterversionz]

We both know she's accepting all of the payments of "her money"

[@monf2650]

@@darkdaxterversionz she said she does it on her own 100%

[@darkdaxterversionz]

@@monf2650 Clearly no help from her Friend there either

[@monf2650]

@@darkdaxterversionz some people are financially stable ... just accept that she obviously is well off smdh

[@monf2650]

@@darkdaxterversionz thats her sister...

[@EsteBahia]

I would rather die on the side of the road and leave my child with one less parent than ask for help from the other party and then they (the child) die along side me; yes that makes sense with her logic. Smh 🤦‍♂️ you can't make this shit up.

[@houseofhas9355]

Pride before the fall. How is dooming an innocent not worth canceling? Ahh she is a women and other women see criticizing her as criticizing themselves. The solipsism in modern women is extremely strong. Look up that word and tell me it does not apply.

[@EsteBahia]

@@houseofhas9355 I haven't finished the video as of yet but from what I have seen of it, yes it does. It has become more and more common in western cultures in particular. I find that there is a healthy medium when it comes to collectivism and individualism.

[@LackNsee]

Lmaooooooo this part had me dying 3:33

[@panheaddragonwolfpaw]

Growing up as a kid with ADD, I can confidently say my parents did not know what was best for me. Most of my life in grade school was marked with fighting with them over my grades, me trying to persuade them and myself that my inability to focus on homework had nothing to do with how much I "cared" or "wanted it". I began to believe that there had to be something wrong with me, but not knowing what that was was terrifying to me. I have had to work through horrible self-doubt and self-esteem issues that came from this and I don't know if I'll ever fully work through some of it. Parents are humans and humans are fallible, it's not rocket science.

[@Bro-dot-]

Yeah ADD is a lot easier to miss than ADHD and the whole thing is very easily misdiagnosed by non-professionals. Hopefully you are medicated now, strict routines are a really good way to manage ADD/ADHD. Regardless of it being a plausible excuse never ever let yourself label your failures as a result of a “disability” that will only further your self-doubt.

[@sadesemolu]

Literally same.

[@capngenie8724]

​@@Bro-dot- The term is Just ADHD now, ADD was incorporated into it, because while the hyperactivity isn't physical, the same hyper activity is still going on mentally.

[@Bro-dot-]

@@capngenie8724 I suppose but I don’t know if I’m certain about that I’m aware it’s an outdated term but my assumption was it still was largely used as just a subset under the umbrella term of ADHD. That’s interesting you said that as I still have medical documents with the ADD diagnosis. So then if it’s just now called ADHD regardless, how do you distinctly identify the difference?

[@capngenie8724]

@@Bro-dot- So do I, but that diagnsis was made as kid, but it doesnt need distiction apparently, my guess, is due to everyones case, and symptoms varying between people, and the need for personalized treatment, ADHD is the official all use term from how I understand it

[@Protezee]

they made a follow-up talking about how you can't take 35secs outta context lol.

[@NoLuvRecords]

😂😂😂😂

[@bigman52100]

No wayyy😂😂😂

[@boo1488]

You actually watch this?

[@Protezee]

@@boo1488 No. But it's obvious something would be said since this picked up traction. I was just curious to see whether or not they’d double down.

[@lungelo9023]

You know they bout to double down for those clicks😂

[@moe3235]

8:50 “is he fu*king one of them or am I crazy?” Nah he ain’t, but he obviously wants to, and they know it. Therefore, that chaos was allowed☝️

[@travelingtrollwilliams4756]

2:10 WE DON’T KNOW… we don’t know 😂😂😂

[@khushkajal9748]

I really love and respect what they said here about how parents don't always know best and it's OKAY to make and learn from your mistakes. Too many parents out here thinking that they can't admit to any flaws or faults without realizing what enormous pressure and unrealistic expectations they're putting on THEMSELVES by doing that.

[@berenic90]

Wait she dragged and hit her bc she's overwhelmed and used her daughter to call her dad bc she was not grown enough to do it herself. When she speaks about him, sounds like a great father who was able to keep the peace in her own home. But she dragged this man bc I'm guessing he moved on. Wtf is going on. Call CPS on that women.

[@TheObjectiveTruth0]

This is the comment here. No one talking about the abuse of that child in that moment but I can guarantee you if a man said that the show would stop right there and social media would want him cancelled and the mom getting full custody of the child. Society is slowly imploding

[@samuraitadpole5459]

@@TheObjectiveTruth0 I wish we had podcasts with reversed genders saying the same thing

[@TheObjectiveTruth0]

@@samuraitadpole5459 You should start one.

[@houseofhas9355]

She is a women so society accepts them abusing children. How do the people not call her out to admitting to fighting a child.

[@TheObjectiveTruth0]

@@houseofhas9355 I think we’ve reached a point and it’s only gonna get worse where women will not be called out for anything and men will be obsolete and only be bred from Sperm banks when sperm banks are going low on sperms because you can actually choose to make a male child or a female child at will.

[@TheMansaLaw]

The amount of times they said “to me” instead of realizing things for what they actually are. That’s these women’s downfalls

[@donnafalconer8158]

Uh shouldnt the father be just contributing anyway