TO ALL THE GIRLS (TATG) EP 2 | DATING & RELATIONSHIPS

Hello D' Squad,
Welcome, to the second episode of " To All The Girls" a series where us girls ​have honest, unscripted, real life conversations with my girls.
The aim is to express ourselves by sharing our individual experiences navigating life - expectations, disappointments, cultural biases and issues we all discuss in private group chats with our girlfriends.
I hope you enjoy this as much as I did!
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[@Iamdodos]

Hey Guys, I'm so sorry to see some comments about experiencing distorted audio sounds for some of you. I am trying to get to the bottom of this but this seems to be peculiar to certain devices/connections as others aren't experiencing the same thing. I'm working on getting this sorted as soon as possible, so please be patient with me and try switching devices from phone to maybe laptop or Tv to see if anything changes. Love you guys and thanks for your continuous support. If you experiencing this please reply to these questions; 1. What device are you using? 2. Are you watching it on a web browser or via the youtube app? Thank you, Dodos

[@animaacheampong609]

Watching from London and the sound is perfect👌🏾

[@adeyinkaolokunboro]

The sound was bad on my Samsung phone, then I connected my earphones, now it's clear as crystal...

[@joyceapaye]

Hello Dodos, ok so am using: 1. An IPhoneX 2.watching via the KZbin app

[@joyceapaye]

Alright it’s perfect now👍🏼

[@goodie9555]

My sound was perfect From Enugu Nigeria 💯

[@cutesnubable]

Adesuwa nailed it with that experience thing. A truth that isn't as popular. You don't have to experience something to know if you want it or not. There are books and people share their experiences for us to learn from. Also, maturity plays into a lot in relationship.

[@BubuEsho]

I really enjoyed hearing Adesuwa’s perspective especially with the fact that experience corrupts. I don’t agree that experience is the best teacher. There are some things you don’t have to experience in order to learn a lesson. Learn from other people’s examples.

[@Iamdodos]

Fair enough, y'all have a point.

[@bukolabankolem]

Exactly! I agree completely, you don’t have to experience everything. Experience sometimes leaves you bitter and with a mountain of trust issues.

[@nosato]

Exactly! We don’t have to experience it all! Also, people forget that the basis of romantic relationships is friendship. We all have years of experience being friends, sisters, etc. Yes, in romantic relationships the expectations are different but you don’t need years of experience to know what you want in a partner. From my friendships, I can tell I want an honest person, kind, etc

[@joomer606]

@@nosato exactly, I feel the same way. I learned about romantic relationships through relationships with my friends and siblings. Those lessons are very important in dating and people forget when the sparks are gone, friendships keep the relationship going.

[@mariaa.6324]

@@nosato completely agree! If you are a good friend that is basis to be a good partner.

[@pelumi_x]

Love how Sheila is able to articulate herself and love how traditional Adesuwa is

[@DaisyEmenike]

Sheila is so in tune with herself! love her views!

[@Iamdodos]

Beautiful to see

[@cyrilchetachi]

Yes she is, and exudes so much intelligence

[@berlindaakitah]

Sheila is soooooo intelligent!! I love how eloquent she sounds💜💜💜

[@BubuEsho]

I wish I had someone as Adesuwa as a big sister or a big Aunty 😭😭😭 I couldn’t even disagree with anything she said.

[@praisecollenromanus]

Yessss

[@Jayeoba.Faanubomi]

Adesuwa is such a mummy and I love it. She will be a great mother to her daughters especially.

[@VivianCbk]

i love this episode. adesuwa’s perspective is quite eye opening cause i actually thought that experience was needed but if you go through a lot of heartbreak then eventually meet the one for you, you won’t be quite openminded or trusting

[@Iamdodos]

Same here babe, I thought experience was needed until I heard her perspective

[@aramidekasum1513]

I kind of agree with Adesuwa on the experience thing.. cuz when you are older, everything you want for your life is different. You don’t need to date someone to know what you want because most times when you are young and dating, you still don’t know what you want in a relationship anyways. Everything is just vibes unlike being older.

[@Iamdodos]

Strong point

[@maboduke]

Omggg Adesuwa is so right about how you can tell from the dating stage if a good boy will become a bad boy. You just have to be observant about what they say and ask certain questions.

[@Iamdodos]

Facts many people just aren’t that observant or choose to Ignore the signs hoping for the best.

[@anajadorcas5113]

I agree with what Adesuwa is saying in 18:04!! As you get older, you start learning what you really want. Yes experience is great but it doesn't have to be your own experience. I'm in my semi mid twenties, I've never dated but I am clear on what I want. And when I do date, I know what I am not going to settle for, because of learning (of self, of others, of experiences of different people). I'm not saying I'll get it right immediately or not make mistakes . But why do we rush to date and 'gather all this experience' without first learning who we are and what we want?

[@joomer606]

I agree . I am in my late 20s now and I started dating around my mid 20s. I learned a lot about dating and what I wanted from other people's experiences and friendships, so when I started dating I wasn't bringing any baggage (at least not from hurt from relationships ). I don't think dating just for experience is healthy in the long run from what I have seen and heard from others.

[@anajadorcas5113]

@@joomer606 exactlyyy. I totally agree

[@simplyshama]

co-signing all of this! your tolerance for BS is low once you're more mature and clued up

[@daisyiloba564]

I feel like i need to go on a lunch date with Adesuwa to just hear her speak and i listen. She is WAOW for me.

[@Iamdodos]

Right! 😄

[@sarwankumar4903]

Sarvan

[@Ayostorycorner]

I love Adesuwa's understanding about most things discussed here. Experience is not always the best teacher, how can one miss something you never had or known. Great episode.

[@Iamdodos]

I agree !

[@ms_halimat6724]

I really enjoyed every bit, everyone made sense, Adesuwa sounds like someone who has really take her time to understand life. What I know is that you don’t just live life, you try to understand it too.

[@Iamdodos]

Very correct

[@justemattymatthew4604]

I really love The way Sheila presents and articulates her views, she’s really deep & makes a lot of ideas I struggle with make sense. Adesuwa is my soul sister undoubtedly. 😩

[@japariphilip3464]

Adesua literally felt like she was reading from my mind. I also loved Sheila’s view on life, dating and relationship. Not conventional but her truth.

[@mz_numzy3524]

It was amazing to see Adesuwa and Sheila's contrasting ideas on relationships and life and amazingly, i agree with both of them. Although my life experiences are more inclined towards Feyi. Great watch, Well done guys

[@Iamdodos]

Couldn't agree more!

[@Stephanieani]

When she said it leaves a lot of room for corruption in their mind . The body keeps records. There is distortion that happens when something fails over and over again. We are not as strong as we think we are.

[@Pasheda]

thisssssss

[@chiamakaonu-okpara2776]

Exactly! When they said that you turn out to be a different version of yourself, I felt that. It made me think about a relationship I got into years back. I never knew I could love selflessly until then, but when it crumbled (after so much heartbreak), I became different, even in my friendships. It is well.

[@Dupseykuti]

Deep!

[@rosemaryike]

I connected with everyone here on a different level...it’s like we’re all just a ball of different energies that resonate with different aspects of different people. And I see myself as all four ladies all depending on where I’m at,friends I have and my age etc. whilst still being true to myself Good job dodos❤️❤️❤️

[@ntamieborty]

Adesuwa had a valid point with not starting dating early because I still don’t get the point. It just really causes so much trauma for people.

[@naomio1709]

For some reason I endorse Adesuwa’s perspectives. She’s said so many meaningful things that (not to talk down on anyone) people rarely say/admit/endorse due to lack of experience.

[@ennythingelegance]

I connect with Adesuwa. And I agree with the fact that who you’re meant to be with isn’t one particular person in the whole universe. It could be anyone out of a number of soulmates. I also don’t really find experience very necessary especially as a person who doesn’t really enjoy being in relationships. But on the other hand, it could also be because of the kind of experiences I had and the experience might just be useful in gaining insight to how people could really be and then you’d have an idea of things to watch out for in the next. However, I still don’t think dating really early is necessary. You can still figure out these things when you’re older and mature enough to know what you want.

[@Moyo_K]

“Men have mental problems” - Dodos reaction was definitely my reaction 🤣🤣

[@Atfirstlady]

Exactly 😂😂😂😂

[@Iamdodos]

I never expected it 🤣

[@sindisosdiary]

Sheila has an open and liberated in her thinking and outlook on life, I like that but there needs to be boundaries. Adesuwa is very traditional and it is okay too. Loved and enjoyed the conversation 👌 ladies 🧡

[@ChideraAgoha.]

I completely relate to Feyi at @7:41. I am more of a traditional person when it comes to dating. I have also tried dating apps and deleted them within minutes. Personally, I don't like that method of meeting someone. I love this conversation. Such Intelligent women!

[@Iamdodos]

I know , I attempted tinder then and didn’t last a week

[@oladoyinawobeku3171]

I’m so grateful for this platform!!!! Thank you Dodos. I’m 19 and I’m so into these videos, I’ve been talking about it to my friends and asking them to watch it, y’all are my big sisters😍😚😚😚.

[@chinezemadu3843]

This was so fun to watch. Adesuwa’s perspective is gold. Well done Dodos

[@RemiAyeni]

i love adesuwas perspective. i actually wish i dint start dating at a young age. somethings are better left not experinced, because ar that age you havent full discovered yourself, and letting just anyone in might corrupt who you truly are meant to be.

[@funsowaters]

Podcast hopefully soon. I enjoyed this episode and I can't wait for the next and lowkey hoping it's longer...lol...I love Sheila's liberality and views. I feel like a lot of our values are mostly built around what people will say and how they would perceive us (largely influenced by religion and culture). If we all had the confidence to do anything we want without judgments or fear of offending people, we would be more liberal about life, our thoughts, and our views.

[@Iamelza]

It’s not just personality, as you grow older a lot changes, you tend to be upfront because you know what you want and how you want it

[@Iamdodos]

Spot on , there’s no time for rubbish too

[@stephanieduru8701]

There were so many interesting perspectives to listen to and I loved every bit of it. I love how expressive Sheila is and she's in her 20s!!!☺️☺️🤗🤗

[@faridahdunmoye3493]

Dodos had me at “why are we at a wedding and we are eyeing eachother and you are doing nothing about it”

[@storiesfromthemundane]

This series is my new favorite pastime 🥰🥰.

[@Iamdodos]

Yaay glad you love it

[@Atfirstlady]

No cap!

[@mariaa.6324]

Wow, this was such an interesting discussion; loved the varying thoughts. I can def say I agreed with alot of what Adesuwa had to say. Can't wait for the next episode!

[@Iamdodos]

Thanks for watching see you on sunday

[@VickieEB]

I absolutely relate with and love Sheila's evolved perspective to relationships. 💕

[@Iamdodos]

I know right. It is nice to see.

[@ntamieborty]

Exactly!!! Feyi saying it as it is! Having to form the Bad B behavior just to fit in, there’s so much pressure.

[@chinazoucheaga4825]

Experience is not always the best teacher. Eve experienced her way out of the garden. The devil won't market the consequences of disobedience. He only markets the experience of the first bite which is usually sweet and then it turns sour or bitter. God made relationships and God made marriage and there are rules. It will serve people well to know the truth cause with all the "liberation" about sex, people are being left with more questions than answers. I have seen wholesome relationships from people that did relationships the way God intends and this is the road I have chosen to follow.

[@oalatishe]

facts!

[@bolu101]

Spot on

[@ChideraAgoha.]

Spot on

[@estahxo]

LOVE this!

[@matildaalabi4094]

This is deep!!

[@Mysranne]

I love Adesua 😭😭😭 ‘ I know men have mental problems’ scrimmmm….

[@Iamdodos]

lol she went in

[@ahiakwojoy]

Adesuwa is my spirit animal. love her so so much !! Also completely love how people with pretty contradicting view points (Adesuwa and Sheila) can have a sane conversation without being at each others throats.

[@Iamdodos]

Exactly!

[@ayisehchristabel9029]

I love Adesua's angle and thinking. I see it really mature and it aligns with me especially

[@Iamdodos]

Truly amazing

[@lynnwechie8072]

It's safe to say adesuwa is my soulmate,because she just speaking my mind😂😂😂,nice one dodos,i enjoyed this!

[@Iamdodos]

😂😂 Thank you, glad you enjoyed it.

[@anjie_o4379]

Adesuwa!!! That’s the comment!!! Relationship coach activated.

[@Iamdodos]

She's great at it tbh

[@mariamb7614]

Loved the whole conversation and enjoyed listening to different view points on the concept of dating. Literally, was counting down since last week. I agree with Adesuwa when she said a lady should reach a certain age before dating, when she is more courageous and in tune with what she likes. PS: I noticed whenever I tried to watch with my android device, all I hear is just soundtrack and static,but when I switch to an iOS device, I can hear clearly. Wonder why? Samething happened when I tried watching the first episode as well.

[@SuppleChicTV]

Listen DODos this concept is truly gold! I feel like we don't have enough candid conversations like this because everyone is packaging! I love how forthright everyone has been you really picked the right mix of personalities so different but also so respectful of each other's perspective more of this, please. Also throwing my hat in the ring for season 2 😊

[@Iamdodos]

Thanks so much for this, honestly you’ve hit the nail on the head. I’ll let you know about Season 2

[@chimaraogini7690]

I enjoyed this one Ehn!!! Next episode please!!! 🥰

[@Iamdodos]

Glad you enjoyed it can’t wait for next one too

[@franceswithajay]

Interesting opinions especially on living together and when Adesuwa talked about experience corrupting people. Corrupt is not the word I would use but I feel like personally there a some romantic experiences I can’t savor for the first time without the veil of past trauma and dating later would have probably saved me from that.

[@Iamdodos]

Oh wow reading this hit different and it takes a lot to even get to a place you understand when trauma shows up. I hope you are able to pull through in instances like hat ❤️

[@Ehcuada]

Great video ! If Adesuwa is taking friend applications, count me in cause she totally gets me.

[@elizabethtai-ojuolape3171]

This was a lot! I wish the financial aspect of a relationship was addressed. Adesuwa is firm! And her values are 🔥 . Feyikoya is super adorable and Sheila is a unique being. Adesuwas opinions got me screaming exactly! Yes! True!. Thank you for this

[@stephanietyaneadeleye]

Yooo love Sheila and Adesuwas honesty 😂✨. Sheila is my kind of girllll

[@Iamdodos]

Hahaha

[@ilopablot263]

You can really tell that sheila is a free spirit just by the way she dresses , she’s my dream girl

[@TheFab01]

I love Sheila's spirituality and how her spirituality is different from Adesuwa's yet I love Adesuwas calmness and how she handles her takes.

[@Iamdodos]

Well said

[@oluwatobithomas1946]

"That Experience is not necessary". An unpopular opinion but very true. Thank you for saying that, Adesuwa!

[@similoluwagabriel9728]

Hey, I really love these videos. I was wondering if you could talk about sex, the concept of virginity, waiting till marriage, and if that made any difference in marriages and in their sex lives. I'm currently a female teenager and it has been difficult to get a transparent and honest conversation from an older generation. Thank you so much.

[@Iamdodos]

Thanks so much for sharing this Similoluwa, unfortunately we couldn’t get to talk about sex in this season but it’s coming in season 2

[@ahiakwojoy]

@@Iamdodos yayyyy

[@ijeomaonyia3328]

Sheila is such a fave. Her mannerisms, eloquence and most importantly her thoughts are so intriguing. Her perspective is so fresh and shows how much she understands herself. Absolutely love

[@Iamdodos]

She really is

[@nanaserwaa.]

I wish there was an option to like 👍🏾 more than once. Loved it❤️

[@Iamdodos]

Aww thank you!

[@chinazoucheaga4825]

Marriage is supposed to help us understand the love God has for us. It is sacrificial and resilient. In marriage, God wants to love your partner through you and vice versa. This means you must die to self and learn to love from God. This is huge for me. Knowing this, the spiritual understanding of the person I marry must be on point when it comes to marriage. This by nature weeds out a lot of guys and I am fine with that. No anyhow guy can stumble upon my marital path. Cause I know the training I've been receiving aaah😅😅it's not even funny.

[@ChideraAgoha.]

Well said!

[@YamzyzStyle]

I look forward to this series every Sunday _ pls keep it up. I love how liberal Sheila is and the rest of the girls were great also. x

[@umu2583]

Coming back to this 4 months later to say...I just love the diversity in views that are represented here and Adesuwa is my spirit sister. Thanks for creating this space to have these much needed conversations

[@rebeccaemmanuel8074]

Straight up. no fronting. Obviously shine your eyes and observe but be honest. Aint nobody got time for that fronting anymore.

[@lumeg7777]

Wow, Adesuwa was just enlightening❤️. This was an amazing episode👌🏾

[@Iamdodos]

Thanks so much Glad you enjoyed it

[@christellasound2636]

About the soulmates thing, it’s not about the soulmate it’s about the commitment you make! Once you make that commitment to that person you are choosing to make that person your soulmate! It all start with the commitment not the soulmate tale:)

[@belledelemos9615]

Sis the narrative is so interesting and honest, being able to vocalize our experience and preferences, it is so important for our growth and maturity. Creating a safe space… The sound is so much better thank you for acknowledging that. Exciting for the following episodes of this series ✨

[@Iamdodos]

Thanks so much sis , that's the point of this entire series. I'm so glad it is actually having an impact.

[@belledelemos9615]

Of course you are impacting for real..

[@NUNGI_]

Wow. Sheila is 200 times smarter than I thought she was. I love how well she knows herself and how in sync her words form

[@nellm1210]

I so agree that experience can corrupt our minds sometimes and that also where trust issues come from. I feel like when your 25 you are so much more in tune with your emotions, reactions etc. and yes you do start to understand what you want because you now are at an angle where you understand your self worth. So I definitely agree ✨

[@Iamdodos]

Totally agree with this point of view, but never thought about it before until Adesuwa said it.

[@Atfirstlady]

In the instance of avoiding experiences,People remain in relationships they’re not happy or fulfilled with…I personally feel like one should go with the flow, you never can tell what life throws at you next

[@ilopablot263]

Adesuwa has beautiful aura , she’s so beautiful

[@Jayeoba.Faanubomi]

This was deep yo! Can’t wait for the next episode

[@Lade.A1]

Adesuwa is so graceful! my goodness

[@uchechukwuarinze4989]

Sheila is just so calm. I love her 🥺🥺🥺🥺

[@ngoziufere]

The fact that I can relate with you not wanting to be the one broken up with and I’m also a sag makes this hilarious! I looove these episode and the last too!

[@matodzidavhana]

Absolutely enjoying this series 🥺 your guests have different perspective love that. 👌🏾

[@joieiortyer]

Adesua was my fav in this episode ❤️

[@merocode1821]

Lovely episode ,pls could you do a video on Friends with benefits ,long distance and people who are in relationships but still entertain other feelings here and there . preferably with this same girls loved their perspectives Thank you .

[@adeolaadebanjo9540]

I love this episode, the comment section and everything..can’t wait for more 💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼

[@yettyclassy]

We need more of these conversations 🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@matodzidavhana]

I literally can’t hear anything but funny noise and a soundtrack. 😞

[@vanessachery652]

Same here😔

[@kamilatyusuf5976]

I think if you watch it on your laptop then the audio messes up but when I switched to my phone the audio was fine

[@Tshephiiso]

I am watching it on my phone and I can't hear anything. Just funny noise and music that's it😭😭💔

[@iyoyinfradia5332]

Same here

[@Slim_Veetah]

Same here. Had to use earphones

[@olamideolabanji4627]

omg i love this episode!!! learnt a lot! thanks for this, dodos! 💕

[@Iamdodos]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@HoneyWealthMix]

This is ready good. Whoosh! I feel like a combination of Adesuwa and Sheila which is very interesting to see.

[@Iamdodos]

Thank you!

[@QueenOfTheCoast]

This series is exactly what I needed … keep it up sis 👏🏽

[@Oyebukola_Atanda]

Adesuwa is an absolute delight. I had to watch twice just to hear her speak again. I didn't disagree with anything she said. She communicated her answers just as I would have. Adesuwa is the big sister I deserve in my life.

[@Iamdodos]

you hit the nail on the head

[@lollomua4140]

What a lovely video I loved it ! however I finally opened a KZbin channel too !!! And it is thanks to you, I was able to be myself, do what makes me feel good without caring about people !!! you are such an inspiration to me 🥺💕🌱

[@Iamdodos]

Awww so happy for you and your new journey on youtube. I'll check out your channel.

[@lollomua4140]

@@Iamdodos 🥺🥺💕so sweet

[@tshireletsoevechoma9046]

Yaaassss yaaaaaaaassss yaaassss 🔥🔥🔥 great conversation with different perspectives and opinions but it's when Fey said "I want a retired bad boy" 😅also like the candle burning in the background ❤️❤️❤️

[@Iamdodos]

Thanks Mama, I know right

[@tshireletsoevechoma9046]

@@Iamdodos Podcast us biko we are Ready 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@weirdlywiredt]

I love how candid and open the conversations are and very relatable

[@Iamdodos]

Thanks for watching

[@zainaa4509]

Love this types of conversations. New subscriber. My thinking is so similar to that of Adesuwa’s.

[@Iamdodos]

Thanks so much and welcome !!!

[@nazokoli8]

This is is really for the girls 🥰🤎

[@emmamrh1956]

That bald girl is such a genius.

[@ornellatoe7972]

Hi Emma 💕

[@emmamrh1956]

@@ornellatoe7972 Gracceee I see we’re enjoying the same content 😍

[@laram.2053]

i loved this episode so much!! definitely going to put my friends on

[@Iamdodos]

Thanks so much please spread the word

[@olajumokebiz9698]

I’m sorry I’m just commenting after a week 😂 as I saw your new video, I just felt the need to say how much I love this video!!! It is awesome!!! I love the conversation!!! Keep it going Dodo ❤️

[@franceswithajay]

Sheila is so gorgeous, amazing conversations today.

[@praisecollenromanus]

Adesuwa is so deliberate, I love it. I agree with everything she said and the context on open relationship? Nah, no can do😅

[@the_queen_smk]

Love the ladies and this conversation ! I do think it’s important to have experiences but also not all of them are needed and useful .

[@oginingangam6386]

Oh!!! I can relate with the dating apps, today I’m downloading, the next day, I’m deleting 😂 I’ve just concluded that, dating apps aren’t for me.

[@abenaakoto193]

Loved this ❤ can't wait for the next episodes

[@Sessi_K]

I love Sheila's thought process/mental space.

[@nonsochibuike4997]

This was definitely a good watch ...... all the women and their individual perspective..... I loveeeee. Good one Dodos!!!!!

[@Iamdodos]

Thanks so much

[@oreoluwashodipo8952]

I really love Adesuwa's view and I could not agree less. Adesuwa just earned a follower. However, Sheila is quite expressive and that is admirable. But I feel there should be an organised standpoint where all guest can state their perspectives. At some point it was kinda congested.

[@akingbamiokikioluwa7054]

Beautiful and teachable🤎🤎🤎I love every of the convo, intelligence at its peak🤎🤎I love you dodoz

[@abdulkareemzainab8010]

This was quite a gist 🥰 i really enjoyed it

[@Iamdodos]

It really is lol

[@anuoluwaposhadamoro2824]

I really liked how all women had different opinions and experiences. Very wholesome. I feel like majority of topics were covered.

[@Iamdodos]

Awww Glad you enjoyed it

[@qnandedube_2838]

This was such a wholesome conversation... sheesh 🌈👌🏾