iDubbbz Develops Empathy

[@AnchorTea]

NO FUCKING WAY THIS COLLAB IS REAL

[@beeft4co]

I’ve never wanted something more

[@HALF_DAY]

Calm down

[@syntacc8462]

Let people enjoy and feel excitement. No reason to calm down, maybe you should vibe up@@HALF_DAY

[@dysmissme7343]

@@HALF_DAY Heeeyyyy no need to dampen someone’s excitement!!! 😊😊

[@HALF_DAY]

@@dysmissme7343 tell that to idubbbz when he renounced his old content

[@GirlfriendReviews]

This was so nice to watch. What a collab!

[@jeb4148]

Dr.Kirk x GFReviews….? Pls

[@725Kellybean]

Watching you react to 90 Day Fiancé did the same for me. It helped me see things in myself good and bad that I was able to take to my Therapist and eventually make necessary apologies and correct my behavior. Your empathy showed me I didn’t need to feel shame about having things to fix about myself. I think it would have taken me much longer to get to where I am today. Beyond my behaviors the compassion and empathy you showed towards the cast helped me recognize the things my husband was doing was him acting from his trauma just like I was acting from mine. Truth be told your content saved my marriage. It gave us a starting point to understand ourselves and each other.

[@Mama_Bear524]

This is amazing. I love this for you

[@Alexandraincognito]

This is wonderful! Thank you for sharing. You did something a lot of people aren't capable of doing ❤💪

[@starkiller_alex1606]

Ooh Dr Honda needs to start doing more interviews like this

[@dalena000]

This was not on my 2024 bingo card, but I am living for it lol

[@juliagulia9224]

I'm loving this too

[@Punishment_for_Decadence]

I am also laughing at this

[@chaunceybillups8858]

You don’t find this entire conversation to be completely insane??

[@lizoflight]

This crossover is bringing my teenage son and myself closer together 😂 🙌🏻

[@Mama_Bear524]

Yay!

[@goblinsRule]

So happy to hear, I remind myself of the promise I made when my kids were babies, daddy will never leave you, never stop loving you, matter the circumstance is, so when I caught my teenage son doing things or calling me names, I go to my mind and search for that promise, easier than said, but I always find that promise, and that brings back the unconditional loving dad, whichever universe I am in.

[@broskination]

i trust dr. honda with my life

[@s.melonita4454]

As you/we all should 🤣

[@gillian2325]

lol so say we all

[@Mama_Bear524]

Same

[@northhallbabe13]

Same lol. I wish I could get therapy with him 😫

[@bab8771]

About an hour and a half in now, and I have to say this conversation is something special. You and Ian are two people with such different backgrounds and experiences, especially surrounding the landscape surrounding masculinity that you grew up taking in. I think a lot of boys, now young men, looked to Ian as someone to emulate and follow until Ian himself began questioning who he was. I'd love to hear Ian discuss more about the very current topics of male loneliness, isolation, and self-destruction. I know he may not want his old fans back, but I have to wonder if they need someone like him to bridge the gap and show a path forward. Maybe I'm too optimistic, but seeing Ian come on your channel makes me hopeful for a world where a lot of these young men who feel trodden by an emerging anti-pc and social justice-conscious society find their place alongside others. At this point, I think Ian's journey is merely personal. But I think he has the potential to be a source of guidance and self-improvement for his old audience if he chooses to embrace it. This is a bit jumbled, I apologize. But just want to leave it off by saying this interview is extremely contemporary and thought-provoking. Thanks as always for providing this space. EDIT: I see now that you guys later touched on some of what I said above. Glad to see it!

[@dysmissme7343]

It’s not jumbled at all- I actually think this was very well written

[@Mama_Bear524]

Well said. I agree.

[@stamatedragosc.2302]

I know women manlier than ian , trust me , he just gave into the grift

[@bab8771]

I'm not really interested in a conversation with you. @@stamatedragosc.2302

[@MomoIsMyHero]

Ian: "What's the term, glaze me up?" Dr. Kirk: "Butter you up!" Ian: "Yeah yeah that's it" that interaction was wholesome af lol 2:00:20

[@dysmissme7343]

😂😂😂

[@Kwd123]

Especially hilarious because Dr. Honda always talks about being so bad with those kinds of idioms, he so smoothly said ‘butter you up’ , no struggle 😂

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

Ha!

[@sfooshy4517]

As a past edgelord this crossover makes me soooo excited!!

[@destiny-ph5gk]

fr

[@chaunceybillups8858]

Essentially we just witnessed a former ‘edgelord’’s significant other flirt with a therapist because she has daddy issues

[@ethanscott5995]

Sooooo glad I grew up 😭

[@lilween5898]

find u a man who looks at u like ian looks at dr kirk

[@chelseawelter2714]

I have no clue who this guy is, but watching him talk and process through this video has been fascinating and insightful! Also, thank you to Dr. Honda for giving him room to respond and time to really think through what he trying to say, especially when he struggled to express his feelings. Lovely!

[@juliagulia9224]

Next collab: Ethan from H3??? Would LOVE that

[@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper]

Hasan Piker 🎉

[@juliagulia9224]

@@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper , absolutely!

[@ph4780]

I used to think he was so funny, but as a POC had to stop because of the racial aggression. I haven't seen this all but this turnaround is so heartening. I am very proud.

[@housewife3]

Racial aggression lol. I wonder what kind of POC u r

[@housewife3]

What's ur race bruh

[@piyulalalalalala]

you should check out his apology vid he talks about it

[@ph4780]

@@piyulalalalalalaI already did long ago, but thanks.

[@chaunceybillups8858]

These comments are insaaaaane. Are you guys ok?

[@scarmoon9395]

1:27:58 I need a clip of Honda saying LET'S GO 😂 SIMP I still cannot get over how awesome this KZbin crossover is 💞💞

[@Fernando145.4]

This is one of the best KZbin videos this year, by far. Hoping and praying Joji (Filthy Frank) can be interviewed by Dr. Honda one day!!

[@AlphaCuck]

Omg that would be amazing

[@xedrick99016]

god i hope not

[@ProfessorBathtub]

Omg so sweet! You two are charming together 🥹 both of you providing an example of moving through life and listening and learning lessons

[@nicolemillar6822]

As a Counsellor and doing my psychology undergrad this/all your content teaches me so much! The questions you ask and the paths you walk down with the “client” teaches me a lot of how to help a person think for themselves and how things can tangle up and guide behaviour. You’re a gift to the KZbin world.

[@scrubjay93]

Although I have been a KZbin user for about 18 years, I have never heard of iDubbbz, but probably not surprising because of the content I tend to gravitate towards. He should be proud of who he is now, regardless of the path he took to get there. I will check out his channel to see where he goes from here. I see people here who aren't happy about him being platformed because of how he hurt people in the past, but it only makes sense to reward good behavior and not continue to hate on and punish people when they are trying to change for the better. It's extremely hard for people to change who they are. None of us are perfect. If you give people negative feedback when they are trying to change for the better, it is counterproductive and prevents others from making the attempt. You say you want people to be better - then praise them when they try, even if they are making the first baby steps! In this interview, he is discouraging racism and bigotry - is that not a good thing? We all know now that positive reinforcement is how you train animals. It's the same with humans. He's still a young man and young men are not encouraged when growing up to be empathetic and talk about their feelings. He could be a positive role model for other young men.

[@wackybrattyx]

Interesting. Given that I’m so different, I had always wondered how people like iDubbz came to be. I always just figured that there were morally corrupt or something? In hindsight, his growth gives me hope for betterment knowing that he has uncovered what was beneath the image he projected. People can change and grow.

[@FirstPersonLife]

this sucks. was expecting more comments crapping on ian

[@MadMarx-ws5bp]

​@@FirstPersonLifeWhy do you dislike him so much?

[@FirstPersonLife]

@@MadMarx-ws5bp he disowned his fanbase. cucked by onlyfans wife. isn’t funny anymore. you probably don’t care about any of that so i’ll just say he legitimately makes bad videos now and has awful takes (made a video complaining about cart narcs? for example) he lost his touch so he hides behind “i gained empathy” even though he was a grown ass adult when he did all the behaviors he no longer approves of. nobody on either side of the debate should even like him

[@FirstPersonLife]

@@MadMarx-ws5bp anyway there’s a ton of videos on youtube criticizing him that will explain it better than i could. these are the ones i’m used to seeing so i was shocked this one got recommended to me edit: i made two replies but i think my first one got filtered lmao

[@MadMarx-ws5bp]

@ncs649 Yea YT automatically remove my replies around 40% of the time. I was just curious because it seems like a lot of the hate he receives stems from Sam Hyde and his harsh criticism of his GF/wife?

[@Karol-fq1gr]

Ok but why do I want them to start a podcast together now?

[@catarinarosario9867]

Very cool seeing a youtuber I used to watch as an edgy teenager get a therapy session with another youtuber I’ve started watching as an adult to better understand why I was the way I was. It’s like healing my inner child 😁😁

[@Kwd123]

I mean this is certainly not a therapy session, it’s an interview. But I’m so glad it’s helping you!

[@melissabaril3363]

Not only are you a great therapy talker-abouter, I just realized you are a masterful interviewer! There could be a whole school of psychologically- informed journalism branching off from this style. It's so cool!

[@lou1012]

Ian has had such amazing personal development the past few years, and I'm super excited to watch!

[@Beunibster]

Usually, he's the puppet master in these situations

[@Darkko88]

Regressing and becoming a shell of one's self is considered personal development?

[@lou1012]

@@Darkko88 No, you are right. Maybe we have something to learn from you. Personal development is obviously talking negatively about people you don't even know just to be negative and then liking your own comment lmao

[@Darkko88]

@@lou1012 Why are you talking negatively about me when you don't know me? Hypocricy aside, what is wrong about talking negatively about someone? It's so dumb and childish to expect or think that everything and everyone has the obligation to treat you with kiddie gloves.

[@lou1012]

@@Darkko88 It's not hypocrisy. If you can't tell the difference between my comment about your negativity and your input, then there is no point to continue speaking lmao have a good one

[@ThatCMonster]

MY WORLD ARE COLLIDING I AM LOOSING IT

[@MayB193]

Loved this conversation. So glad this young man is doing so well.

[@meow6557]

holy hell! a collab I could never see coming!!

[@ishoboi8021]

that lexapro be hittin

[@kari1165]

Wow loved this! As a fan of both Dr. Honda and Ian I really enjoyed the depth of their conversation

[@sisterstyks1743]

Such a great interview!! The questions were fantastic, and listening to Ian explain what he's been through was so interesting. Thank you!!

[@s.melonita4454]

The way the Doc can read people… It has captivated me ever since I first stumbled upon his videos at the beginning of the pandemic. He could call himself a legit medium and be so convincing just by using his knowledge and experiences as a therapist. Go Doc!

[@Duckduckobtusegoose]

Nobody expected this collab but dr Honda posted a picture with Ian and Aneesa(sp?) not too long ago so I have been anticipating the hell out of this! That’s okay though of course, not everyone can be as chronically online as me.

[@pastelgasmaskie]

The crossover episode I never expected in a billion years 🎉

[@faiillusri]

This is weirdly healingmy my inner child/teenager for watch; thank you kindly for doing the work you do Dr Kirk.

[@Batrabies]

What a crazy mash up!! Love Dr. Kirk. I was never an Ian watcher, but I am a huge H3 fan. Loved his apology video but it was my first Idubbz watch. This was great. You should do this with Ethan too! ❤️

[@Dancingsushi911]

Omg yessss imagine him on the pod 🥰

[@olazurawska5862]

I'm from Poland and once at a German airport I was standing in a queue for a restaurant talking to a friend in Polish. two elderly couples were called by the waiter in front of us even though they were in the queue behind us. We didn't mind, we thought it was a courtesy to the elders. After a while, a young group of men got a table - even though we were the first in the queue. We asked the waitress what was going on and she said we had to wait. after a long while, she led us to a distant table that was next to the door to the toilet, next to a wall that was dirty. although the restaurant had many nice tables in the middle of steel. We moved on our own initiative to the central part of the restaurant and ordered meals. we waited for a very long time, the gate opening date was approaching, the food did not arrive - and the people sitting around us had already eaten. when I asked the waitress what was going on and if we would get food because our flight was approaching - she said with a smile - oh sorry, your order was lost and you won't get food here. I tried to figure out why and what happened and if they could give us something different - because racism didn't even come to my mind. my friend pulled my sleeve and said - come on, it's not an accident, the waitress isn't sorry at all! it hit me like a lightning bolt - hungry, we took the last time before departure to file an official complaint about the restaurant and the waitress to the restaurant and airport authorities. but we still couldn't do anything about the terrible feeling of helplessness and injustice with which we were treated. I then felt on my own skin how other people who stand out and are treated unfairly on racial grounds must feel. terrible terrible feeling , such a basic need as the need to eat dinner was taken away from me because of my nationality, the fact that this happened in Germany is especially terrifying. 😢 but to spice things up, the waitress actually didn't look like a stereotypical German, but someone with Middle Eastern roots, so racism can come in all shapes and forms.

[@bainbridge568]

Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I’m sorry you had to deal with racism. I like that you were able to use a terrible experience as a bridge to understand the experiences of other groups of people. ❤

[@anaslex7156]

polish isn't a race

[@tonjar]

I am German and very sorry this happened to you.

[@theFlyingSwami]

Thank you both for this.

[@RobExNihilo]

Holy crap. Asking Ian to explain how he _did_ have a heart back then _[5-10 years ago or whatever]_ was huge. What a question! That's not something you get asked, or ask yourself, often. If at all. And watching him work through it was interesting. I know I'm projecting a little here, but I feel like Ian and I are similar personalities and think similarly. But if I'm right and he's anything like me he's going to be working through that one for a while. Whether he likes it or not.

[@hotjellyinthemorning]

Wow. This video gives me hope, thank you to both of you for this important conversation

[@buffy6673]

I love that he took his wife’s last name. Unfortunately my partner’s first name is the same as my last name so we decided it would be too silly but him being open to that was important to me.

[@holly-vg1iz]

I have never been so excited about a KZbin collab! Sending a lot of love to both of you!

[@storiesfromthelionsmane5158]

Wow! What an amazing gift to see so much vulnerability on iDubbbz part and the very intuitive questioning and compassionate listening and relating on DKH’s part. This podcast was such an excellent blend of interviewing and a therapeutic experience. Well done both of you!! 💗

[@LovingFlowers]

Wishing Ian the best as he begins therapy and healing. Fellow child of a single mother with a father in jail, the wound of emotional neglect and abandonment is so painful and tender. The recent Love is Blind video where Dr. Honda discusses Jess’ trauma history including her father going to jail made me cry. Made me realize how much love that part of me still needs 💔

[@dysmissme7343]

I wish YOU the best as you continue your own healing ❤️‍🩹💜

[@LovingFlowers]

⁠​⁠@@dysmissme7343 there I go crying again 🥹 Thank you, kind stranger.

[@lannaintajak80]

Could you tell me which episode that is?

[@LovingFlowers]

@@lannaintajak80 ‘Love is Blind - Blasphemy- Season 6 # 16’ 😊

[@lannaintajak80]

@@LovingFlowers Thank you😄

[@elinaholland6435]

sickest collab ever!

[@niennaweeps4315]

I would love for Dr Honda to do more interviews like this! ❤

[@JustElise93]

Ugh, why doesn´t this have more views? I used to watch idubbz content, but was always progressive. I guess I always understood his video as satire, as in how not to be. I guess I am an odd one here. I think ethan from h3 went to a similar thing that he realized he didn´t like the incel fanbase he had. (I am also a longtime h3 fan😅) anyways, loved this video and I am an even a bigger fan of the new reall Idubbz. Self aware king. Srsly, more peeps need to watch this!

[@moigletroy]

same here! h3 and ian so nice to see the come around

[@artslexa]

what a touching conversation

[@kesamber]

YESSSSS ❤ Thank you, both!!! 🥰🤗

[@sarahp8937]

Never heard of him as a 35yo Aussie female but enjoying the chat and introspection!

[@_d_h_]

very nice conversation. thanks Ian for talking about anger. it's not easy :(

[@moigletroy]

ian! if you see this comment somehow just want to say big props to you for everything you’ve been doing recently. you’ve been maybe the most influential figure in my life (fr) especially after all of the growth you’ve done. i don’t know if you remember but i met you right after the Steamies in December when you and Anisa were leaving the venue, i was the freakishly tall girl that said i was you for halloween in like 2016 lmao. It was so insane and wholesome to meet you and Anisa and I just want to say that i really resonate with everything you said about it being so easy to fall into of feeling like intentions make up for everything else, and i feel like i’ve gone through similar growth in these areas and you’ve helped a lot with that. this is cringe and presumptuous but seeing as I literally grew up watching your content i don’t feel too weird in saying that i feel very proud of you and your insight and growth. peace and love keep it real man.

[@moigletroy]

also Dr. Honda i’ve only been subscribed for a few months but I really appreciate the way you articulate what you say in such a sensible and thoughtful way and I loved this video so much :)

[@marylander3798]

Olay called him out on him not making a specific apology to any POC creators that he targeted back in the day. I'm a bit disappointed that hes still not doing that months after the conversation with Olay.

[@scrubjay93]

Considering (1) where he came from in terms of hateful content, (2) being a young man when we know young men aren't encouraged growing up to talk about their emotions and feelings, and (3) being a person who was rewarded for his bad behavior, I am more inclined to give him credit for starting to turn things around and become a better person. It doesn't help to punish people who are trying to start doing the right thing. Let's encourage and reward people like him for realizing he was horrible and trying to do better. You don't become a perfect human all at once. Months is not a long time for a person to change. Most people never change at all. Peace.

[@marylander3798]

@scrubjay93 what? no one is "punishing" . however a blind spot was called out in a full conversation that he participated in and it was done very kindly. he agreed on his blindspots and still didnt acknowledge it in this subsequent conversation. thats why I'm bringing it up.

[@Peeledfruit]

Was not expecting this but very happy!

[@DigiFinch]

Love this ep!! Super insightful conversation.

[@seitostockman]

I dont feel like im restricted in that way (nervous laugh indicating doesnt feel free at all)

[@XCeazyX]

hope ur free bro. hope you someday drop the chains that require you to follow a stranger online for years and tell him you dont like the choices he's made in his own life

[@demarquariusbrowne]

@@XCeazyXYou'd have more honor if you just insulted people instead of this fake enlightened mean girls passive aggressive thing where you try to trigger them into a depressed state of existential dread.

[@destiny-ph5gk]

YES!! this was so good

[@dark3rh3art24]

Thank you both. I never saw idubbz stuff before so this is just based on this video alone: I think this conversation is very important in helping people raised in trauma/outrage culture or even more left leaning people to help them understand toxic masculinity and empathy and that just because someone is born into racism or unempathetic homes doesn't mean they can't learn and grow out of it. Helping everyone understand the other side's perspectives via empathetically listening to their stories is super important towards building a more empathetic and loving society. I think it's understated how easy it is for young, lonely boys to be unempathetic because they don't experience very many different cultures and oppressions and are told that if they show compassion or emotion that they are looked down upon

[@Tee-ke9ed]

I don’t need to know someone origin story to know that they still sent harm my way lol. The way y’all request empathy for the attackers versus the actual victims is crazy, y’all never think about the long term effect of small children being called slurs in elementary school because of creators like them. But or course let’s continue the attackers childhood and growth and not the growth of people who have to navigate life accepting slurs being thrown at them because their know people won’t advocate for them, what does that do mentally?

[@dark3rh3art24]

@@Tee-ke9ed okay you need to chill out. I never said anything about not having empathy for those attacked? you are assuming stuff that's not stated and upset at someone else. Don't take your upset out on people. I've literally been a child victim of abusers and bullies so stfu. part of healing is learning to see that everything isn't black and white. all I said is that bullies have issues and can grow and change, and labeling them as psychopaths/irredeemable just causes them to stay/fall back into being hurtful and racist. hate breeds hate; negativity creates negativity

[@MrUNiCORNSTUFFR]

I've been here since the 90-day fiancee arc, insane to see this!! I'm so happy to see that, Dr. Honda is so popular now!! ❤❤

[@goodknightmoon7733]

Been looking forward to this since the community post

[@ninaballerina3367]

Not Dr Honda roasting Charlie (penguinz0) for his username, that's too funny. Must be true tho! A lot of people must regret their usernames, I was GuitarGirlWithCheese back in the early 2000s on KZbin and I'm kinda glad it never took off

[@Mama_Bear524]

My email i created in 1995 when I was 14, was nbxander. It was for Nicholas Brendan from Buffy who played Xander. I had a crush on him. I kept it for way too long and would have to put it on my resume 🤦‍♀️. So embarrassing 😂.

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

ha!

[@TheRoboBro1513]

after all these years of being a fan, its really infectious to see iDubbbz with such a genuine smile. makes me really happy how far hes come. im really proud.

[@bobohobobobobobg]

What made you a fan for years? Was it your common love of slurs and bullying vulnerable teens?

[@TheRoboBro1513]

@daqueenbobo there definitely was a time when I was on that track, but I grew as a person. I kind of left his channel.behind because of that, but it was really cool to see him progress past that stuff kind of a long side of my own growth. I understand that there are people that are never going to forgive his past or mine, all I can do is try to learn and be better, and it at least seems like that's what he wants to do as well. If you beleive me or don't that's okay. I'm just happy that he's growing as a person for the better.

[@nullusernamex]

​@@TheRoboBro1513sorry that person kinda went at you. There's nothing wrong with talking about what this process was like for you, thanks for sharing

[@Peeledfruit]

@@TheRoboBro1513 I hear and feel ya! Growth is awesome. That comment after you posted was unhinged lol

[@Nathanatos22]

39:21 Thank you for this. I hear phrases like “they just want to be offended” all the time, but that simply isn’t true. Statements like that just twist reality (deliberately or not) to paint certain people in a certain light.

[@sussybaka5252]

Watching this while writing a psych research paper... Hearing about how idubbbz grew and learned from his actions and life and hearing you talk with him is absolutely amazing and super motivating for me to continue my studies as well >.<

[@adelelouise]

This wasn't on my bingo card for 2024 and I'm here for it!!! ❤️🥰❤️🥰❤️

[@StoneChickenImagica]

Such a cool talk! Love to see Kirk and Ian!

[@sfooshy4517]

I think a lot of people are so offended by Ians apology, because they don't want to face their part in the system of racism. Most of them were living in a fantasy where racism wasnt real. Ian admitting the truth of the situation is like a slap in the face, because he was heavily preaching the narrative that " micro aggressions shouldnt harm people". Well wouldnt that be nice ha. A lot of his followers were also young adults facing the realities of the world for the first time, not wanting to let go of their childish ignorance.

[@ashantiemily1067]

well said

[@Mustanaamio7]

Micro aggressions don't exist. It is not scientifically valid concept but just made-up nonsense invented by overly sensitive sjws who are offended by everything.

[@emel3925]

This is such an interesting watch as someone who used to be a fan of Ian’s old content, and has done a lot of self reflection as to why I enjoyed it and thought it was okay at the time. One thing that I think would have been interesting to discuss was the appeal of Ian’s content at the time. I think Dr. Honda had the impression his content was conservative/reactionary content, but I don’t think that’s entirely accurate. On youtube at the time, any vaguely social justice content was a MAGNET for an insane amount of harassment and bullying by anti-SJWs (that genuinely were sexist, racist, homophobic, etc). Ian’s content felt like a third option, in that it was “progressive” in south park way. Like he would say shocking and offensive things, but at least it felt ironic/like parody. I think the really interesting part, is that making that kind of content even ironically really appeals to people who genuinely DO have those beliefs, and it is really harmful to people who are the victims of it.

[@jonathanandersson5723]

I completely agree! I never felt that his content was conservative and i never felt that i was at all conservative. Its a pretty bad label to put because i think alot of people felt like we did, at least i know all my friends did as well

[@Chelseainhr]

This was an incredible interview! This is truly the kind of content that should be going viral ❤

[@SkrillBit]

Wow there are some striking similarities with my own relationship of 10 years. Sounds like Ian has made some great revelations with his partner. Would love to hear from Anisas experience too.

[@InspectahReese]

Your in luck cause they had Kirk on their podcast

[@Cleverconveyence]

Really enjoyed this televised therapy session. Not but seriously it's a really interesting discussion and maybe even paints a blueprint of how to lead others toward this kind of growth.

[@daydream2622]

I'm only halfway through but this is such a good interview !!!

[@NikitaAngeles]

Idubbz gave me so much hope that it's not a one-way road when you're on a certain track and change can happen in a positive direction even when you're well on the way with a specific type of audience.

[@aaaddddaaaammmm]

It's so crazy how much I didn't know about Ian even though I've been watching his stuff for so long. I feel I can relate to his past, and furthermore I can also relate the way he is maturing now. I really enjoyed this conversation.

[@jonathanandersson5723]

Exactly the same for me.

[@seizurefrog]

why would one be "disappointed in this collab"? there are so many youtubers out there who would NEVER speak so candidly as idubbbz did here, yet there's apparently something so toxic about him trying to come to terms with his past content - which was hateful and racist! fully aware! but the balls it takes to let a psychologist dissect all of that in front of us must be HUGE

[@nullusernamex]

Agreed! This is an example of rehabilitation, for some reason that topic seems very divisive to the general population. But I'm surprised it's an issue in this comment section

[@akirashiori6265]

The crossover we never expected, but the one we needed

[@scarmoon9395]

A most ambitious crossover 💕💕

[@dopamine_27]

This collab is such a perfect idea!

[@skylithium462]

A collab we did not expect but we all deserved.

[@savannahmartinez4003]

I was hoping for this when I saw Dr. Honda’s insta post 🙌 I’m halfway through, interesting so far to hear what his thoughts were back then. And also hear about the absence of thought in some ways.

[@sugarandscenes1931]

This was lovely, I was a big fan of Ian's content when I was a teenager, and knowing he, along with others like Bo Burnham have been able to come around to growing as people like I did as I experienced more life outside of my sheltered idea of society is encouraging, I like knowing we weren't lost causes

[@gypsyqueen411]

Good conversation. Don't know anything about this u toober but at least he's smart enough to understand he wasn't doing anyone any good.

[@dysmissme7343]

Character growth✨

[@knocknockify]

I was seriously not prepared to see this collab coming across. What a time we live in 😂😂❤

[@Dullface]

Whaaaat no way! I NEVER expected this guest, but I love him! Such an awesome thing to see in my feed, I cannot wait to watch this!! Fucking cool you both went for this!!

[@tgif5210]

This is an amazing conversation, so good my bf got mad at me for staying up late watching 💀 feels like free therapy

[@Dogindisguise]

The crossover I never knew I needed

[@kristin11684]

Love this collab so much!

[@N3onDreamz]

As a black woman who was a child on the internet during the iDubbbz days, I do not forgive his apology. Unfortunately, self-realization for him came with dehumanizing me and normalizing it for anyone consuming his content. I would love to see him have this conversation with people who were actually impacted by his bigotry. Edit: PS I am available

[@hospitable_ghost]

Can't agree more. Frankly, I'm a little disappointed to see this collab being made.

[@bobohobobobobobg]

Right. He should stop centering himself and stop looking for a fairytail redemption. He was downright nasty and just out to cause pain for people people he considered below him. I remember he also had the audacity to bully a young Tana Mongeau(who still was very wrong herself) for doing stuff that he himself had engaged with on a daily basis and had been actively promoting. The hypocrisy is enraging. He misused racial oppression as a tool to bully other white people.

[@sarahcoateshealth]

Yes I can understand that. I am not a person of colour so I cant understand the gravity/ or deep impact his previous opinions and work did to hurt you. Your comment reminds me of a video I watched of a man who was once a pick up artist misogynist now turned “enlightened” self help guy my feelings when I watched him apologize and say that he has grown to understand he was wrong are… “I am glad you stopped but I don’t think I could ever trust you because it feels like you have shown your true heart.” So my next thought is what can these people do that would be enough for us to forgive them or are we never meant to forgive them? Is it ok to not forgive?

[@bobohobobobobobg]

@@sarahcoateshealth They might just have to accept that the trust is broken for now. People will come around once you have proven yourself. Nobody is owed trust and you can have compassion for someone without feeling like they need a platform.

[@sarahcoateshealth]

@@bobohobobobobobg nicely put!

[@JamesCourse66]

I’m very happy about Ian’s journey to becoming a more compassionate person. I never thought he was a bad person but I will say as the literal definition of the worst language he’d use (black and gay) his views on using these words confused me.

[@giandina85]

damn, we need Ethan klein from H3 next, please please please!

[@Mama_Bear524]

Why?

[@syntacc8462]

90 day fiance is a gateway. I watched it for the first time this year, the hype was real. it's really wild. Thanks, this was a great idea. Ian's content always came across like Borat to me, I heard the satire and wasn't surprised to find out he wasn't a conservative, but i can see where people wouldn't pick up on the absurdist part of the humor. People will watch borat and find it funny because of the surface level racist jokes, but not recognized the satire it is. I feel like that is the crowd that was sloughed off when Idubbz first dropped that he was making jokes in an absurdist context, not in a way to target people necessarily. It takes craft to conduct a satire that rings true about bad behavior without meaning to participate in the bad behavior.

[@idontwantahandle212]

Get you a guy who looks at you like Ian looks at Dr Honda 💕

[@jaci4664]

I love this so much and Ian is awesome. Happy to see such a positive comment section, I get so tired of seeing people hate on the guy for literally growing as a person, getting a wife and apologizing for saying slurs etc =_=

[@APerson-qw8yy]

Everytime Dr says, “content provider” I keep imagining him as the internet guy that comes to your house to set you up 😂

[@jocelynm3900]

Awesome loved it :) so cool how different communities find each other

[@elitessmess9222]

I couldn't believe my eyes for a second, YESS

[@DanielleMarieW]

Wow! When I checked out one of this young man’s recent complaint videos on door-to-door sales and then an older (7 year old) video on crap beer pong toys I could see the change. It’s interesting how life has a way of making us seek targets for our hurt and anger which actually does little for us. Ian seems way more reflective and focused in his energy here. It’s so cool to see you being a call forward to someone finding their way, Dr Honda. This suits you well: leadership.

[@aubreynaulin6207]

THIS IS SO WILD LMAO ❤ I’m living for this

[@WitchOracle]

I've wanted this interview since the apology reaction first came out, great discussion!

[@cassie6985]

I didn’t realize how much a view therapists as these authorities on “how to be a person the right way” as this ultimate assessor of character outside of God on Judgment day until you started talking about your own experience with the internet messing with your mental health (24 minutes in). That was actually really helpful for me to hear and have it come through to me that therapists also human. It feels higher stakes and less safe to open up to someone you view as an authority vs. an equal

[@ashtynking1633]

im sooooo happy to see this 😭