If God's Not In It, You Don't Want It (Even If You REALLY Think You Do)

[@kacinicole]

Share a testimony! Is there a time in your life God said "no," but in hindsight you saw how it was actually for your good? Let's encourage those reading through the comments. 🤍

[@za-jm8wf]

When i initially liked my wife God told me no, not right now. Thankfully a few years later we got to reconnect and work together and after prayer I got a yes/move forward and to this day we are happily married 10+ years.

[@kacinicole]

Aw that is so beautiful!

[@marykardys]

This is so sweet 💖

[@loma5537]

This is so encouraging. I'm in the same situation. I hope I can get a yes from God too. 🙏🏼

[@Anidaphi]

Wow

[@emmanuel8310]

@@loma5537 Did he say "not right now" to you too?

[@loristarkey]

I really needed to hear this today. I am in tears as I listen. The man that I want to be my husband has walked away for me and it’s not the first time that he has. I am 35 years old and want to be married I want to live a God-fearing life. I want a Christian family more than I could ever describe and every ounce of my soul wanted it to be him but right now it looks like that might not be God‘s plans for me and I’m hurting beyond any explanation. I’m praying that I can better trust God and let go. I’m praying to surrender to whatever he has plans for me and then I can trust his well above my own. I pray to be a wife and honor God an absolutely everything I do but in this pain it’s so hard to just believe that God‘s plans are better than my plans even though I know in my soul that they are. I pray to find a husband that loves me and doesn’t want to let go of me. We’re supposed to reflect Jesus Christ in the church and I just pray to find that sooner than later and I pray to have the strength to continue to face the day.

[@mermaid11]

Your words resonate so much with me with what I am currently going through. I will pray that God gives you strength and peace as well as hears your prayers 🙏

[@loristarkey]

@@mermaid11 I hope you are doing well sister. I will keep you in my prayers!!!!

[@CaitieCadenza]

I’m so sorry, Lori. Hang in there! 💕🙏 Praying for you.

[@loristarkey]

@@CaitieCadenza Thank You, GOD has really been speaking to me. I see so much I was doing wrong. I was so blind to my own wrongs, and I was in denial so long. I am so glad I am a Christian, that I am able to hear from GOD. I just hope and pray it is not too late. Thank you, sweetheart, sister in Christ.

[@finegal.fineartist1894]

I hope you are better now. I am currently in your position 5 months later. I am turning 32 soon and my 9year boyfriend left me. He was my first boyfriend and hoped to be the last. However, he left me for worldly acts I can never do. I want to see this circumstance as a blessing even tho it's truly hard. I have decided not to wait for him anymore. I pray that the god-given men will be provided to us at the right time. I hope you have recovered already.

[@KeyToLife_]

Elohim’s rejection is for our protection!✨🙌🏾

[@kacinicole]

It's true - He guides sovereignly through the open and closed doors!

[@josephshumway]

I wanted to serve as a missionary for my church just out of high school because that was when I came of age but I needed to have surgery. I thought once that he was telling me I had to wait a few years until I was 23 but I wanted to serve. But I wondered if that would happen. I was nineteen when I finally was able to serve. I made good friends and I had a wonderful support system that He gave me and He was with me during my surgery, even when I was in a ton of pain I knew He was there

[@alexzarycka8016]

Loved this video. For me, I was in a relationship for 5 years and wanted to marry the guy so much. But God said no. I was too blinded to see that this guy treated me badly. Everyone else could see, and I eventually did and left the guy. I'm so glad God didn't let me marry that ex boyfriend, because I realized the guy showed many narcissistic qualities and treated me horribly. God has a better person in the future and that is what I am waiting for. God knows us best and has better for us.

[@tiarasiobhon]

Same

[@chelsiterry804]

Just some encouragement. I, too, was in a situation exactly like that with a guy I dated for 5 years. Let me first say we were NOT equally yoked by any means. I am now married to a guy who far exceeds what I wanted in a man. He loves God fiercely and is always speaking life and truth to me. One of our biggest battles is infertility and I let it get the best of me quite often yet he continues to encourage and uplift me. I often think what going through this experience with my ex would have been like. I know he wouldn’t speak Gods truth to me or encourage me or help me build my faith. Having a man of God is so important for when the trials of life come, it makes all the difference. I’m so glad gave me a no in my desperate prayers to “make us work out”. God had someone beyond my wildest dreams for me instead and I know he does for you too. ❤

[@alexzarycka8016]

@@chelsiterry804 thank you for encouraging 🙏

[@Blinggirl]

Our steps are ordered by the Lord. What may seem right to man isn't. Very good teaching. So true I have been saying this to the Lord for a few days now.

[@kaitlync.2628]

One example of God telling me no is other relationships I wanted to work out but didn’t. Now I see it was for my good bc now I have the most amazing boyfriend who is a wonderful Christian and always puts God first.

[@kacinicole]

Aw I love that - so cool to hear about His plans being better 🤍

[@brookeconner2569]

Wow! Thank you for this video!! My husband recently (3 months ago) left me on a whim. It was the last thing I expected. I was also pregnant at the time, however I miscarried shortly after he left. This has been the hardest journey I’ve ever experienced. I am thankful that God is with me right now in this season of waiting. My husband filed for divorce and our court date is set for December 9, 2022. I have felt the Lord telling me to pray against the divorce and to pray for restoration. However, this video was such a great reminder that I want God to be not only in me, but in my husband and in my marriage. And I must be willing to wait for His perfect timing and seek after His perfect will. God has definitely shown that He is in this season of waiting. So I have faith the next season will come only when He is in it!

[@VictoriaCR777]

❤

[@dinafemapile4702]

In college, I got my heart broken by a man I Ioved. Our youth pastor encouraged me to be thankful instead because it could be God's protection and preparation for my future marriage. But I got angry and bitter towards God for allowing me to experience such "unbearable" pain in my heart. Many years after that, I entered a relationship with a dear friend and we are now planning for our wedding. In every area of this relationship, I am truly experiencing God's works, grace, and provision. My fiance and soon to be husband reflects selfless love of Jesus. Now, my heart is full of endless thanksgiving to God for ending the relationship I had in college. As I look back, I now understand how rejection, pain and disappointment could really be God's way of protection and preparation for his great plans for us. Plans that we truly want and desires.

[@ashspades5307]

Amen

[@ashleynicole2963]

So recently I went through a breakup because there have been many signs where he has shown to be very abusive. I have broken up with him multiple times before because his insecurity has continued on. Even though he does study the Bible and he loves God he didn't really show or respect my time whenever I had to do things or despite me telling him that I don't talk to other men he still asked me if I talked to other men. But I'm glad I broke it off with him for good

[@seabreeze4559]

he gaslighted you, the Bible says shun verbal abusers

[@----m]

im not christian but i found this advice very insightful and timely.

[@kacinicole]

I'm so happy to hear it was helpful!

[@juliedierlam6704]

I am currently in a period of waiting. I have come to see how over the last 9mths God not answering my prayer, has brought me to a deeper relationship with Him. FOR HIS GLORY!!! Thank you for your reminder

[@adventurer7860]

Wow! This was so good! Thank you for sharing!

[@chelsiterry804]

Girl. This was an ON TIME video. God is working on my heart and I’m learning to align my plan with HIS mine instead of Him aligning his plan with mine. My husband and I have struggled with infertility for 4 years. This past May we were chosen by a birth mother for adoption. I was so excited yet also very hesitant because I was so scared she would change her mind. She was very squirly through the whole thing and we would go weeks without hearing anything and then she was assure us things were good. Well, I’m August she invited me to go to her first appt with her and I went and we found out she was 27 weeks along and having a GIRL. The next week she ended up coming to our church (her sister goes to church with us) and she hugged me and told me she bought an outfit for the baby to give to my husband and myself. It was just a sweet moment and after that I felt SO confident everything was good and finally allowed myself to really get prepared. Seeing as we only had a couple of months before due date I got going fast buying all the things and relocating my office so I could set up the nursery. About 4 weeks ago I got a message from birth mom essentially suggesting that she was changing her mind. I was DEVASTATED. But I felt strongly in my spirit I needed to continue my preparation and then send her a pic of the nursery and just tell her that if anything changes we want the baby and are already prepared. So, I did just that. I sent her that message about a month later and she said she had moved to Ohio with her mom and she was going to keep the baby. The rest of the story is that I needed to hand it 💯 over to God after I sent that message and that’s what I’ve done. I know things can change and He is a God that can move the mountains and make the impossible possible. I saw it with a friend who had this same situation happen and birth mom contacted her two weeks after the baby was born and decided she did in fact want to proceed with adoption. So I know if it’s Gods will He can and will make a way. But I am learning in this, despite how desperately I want to be a mother, that God can fill whatever hole I may have in my heart. At the beginning of this I ONLY wanted the answer to be YES but now I wholeheartedly just want Gods plan for my life to prevail. His ways are higher and he can see the bigger picture. I know He wants to hear from His children the desires of their heart so I do pray believing and hoping for a miracle in this situation (baby is due 11/22/22) but I also pray wholeheartedly that THY WILL BE DONE and if that means the answer in this will be no that He will give me a peace and understanding that can only come from Him. I’m sorry this was so long, but that’s just my season right now and this video was just such a God send to me. Thank you so much for your obedience in sharing. ❤

[@Jayla_C30]

Wow, this is amazing! As I was reading your post, Hannah (1 Samuel 1) from the Bible popped up in my head! Thank you for sharing this, it was super encouraging 💕

[@chichielem1843]

Praying for you sister 🙏🏾 May God will be done 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@hannahmichael6445]

This is so inspiring and true. I’ve had to learn over the past 7 years of infertility and a miscarriage later that God has a better plan. I have gone through so much pain while watching my friends have babies with no problem. Now looking at their lack of God’s presence and how their children are being raised, I don’t envy them anymore. It’s sad to me. There is still hope in having a family one day. When it’s the right time, I have faith that God will bless it. Looking back on the years of infertility, God has shown me that it definitely wasn’t the right time and he saved me from future regret. I wasn’t ready and could not have given a baby the life it deserved. Sometimes, the answer is no and that’s okay. God knows what is good for us. Here’s to your bright future and what God has in store for you!!✨

[@PixCreationsPhotography]

I'm currently in a place in my life where I have to think about career options and where to study etc. This has encouraged me to let go of what I think the ideal career is for me and to allow God to show me what His plans are eventhough nothing makes sense at the moment. As you said, God sees what I can't see.

[@chelseagelber1979]

Kaci knocks out of the park. I try to Pray for Gods will. There are times it hurts, but ultimately He knows best. Thank you for staying true to Gods word and always fight the evil one! God bless you, Tyler and baby! As for a time, I was trying for a higher position at work, but mainly out of selfish reasons I wanted that job. The job was filled. But ultimately it’s for Gods best. I prayed for His will and he closed the door. I wanted it but it wasn’t in God’s plan

[@hopebantulo7036]

Just today, I decided to let go of something that I really wanted. This study made me feel a lot better thinking about the next few steps i'm going to take. If God does not want it, then I don't want it. Thank u kaccinicole!

[@mynameisyamell187]

I used to like a guy back when I was a college sophomore/Junior. I really thought he liked me back but one day he just ghosts me. I look back and I’m just like “God has so much more for me. A ghoster instead of a man who can’t get up and say I’m not interested, isn’t worth my time”🙅🏽‍♀️🙅🏽‍♀️

[@Someoneontheinternet-jo1yd]

Happened to me, I was 13 years old when something like this this happened (it's gonna sound really dumb) I was wanting a TV show to be real and my mindset at the time was if God loved me he would give it too me but that was completely wrong, it took me 3 years to see the truth 3!! But because of those years I learned that God wants the best for me not what I want, and showed me his immaculate patience for me. I'm so grateful he didn't give me what I wanted and that he didn't audibly yell NO to me😀 ( like I was asking for😓)

[@racheal1712]

Im standing firm now in my decisions making. If gods not in it i don't want it.

[@ashspades5307]

I’ve been having a hard time recently with accepting God’s plan for my life. I’m glad that I came across your videos so I could find this one. It hurts hearing no from God but it’s in the best interest of you that your life goes the way it does not the way we want.

[@theochasid8996]

Thank you, I appreciate your words of wisdom. Which God has blessed you with Amen. I like how gently you help shift peoples perspective on a certain situation. If God's not in it then I don't want it. I had seen Moses saying if you don't come with me I won't move up from here as a lack of faith. But now I see what you are saying that Moses is saying if you are not in it, if you are not with me, then I don't want to be in it. Because then God will not be glorified. It's like someone you love, everywhere they go you want to go. And it's not about the things, or the relationships one desires, but if God is in it Like we can have all the things in the world, but they will not ultimately satisfy. Or we can have all the comforts and desires of our heart but that will not fill us up. Being comfortable and getting everything or everyone we want isn't the highest good, and it doesn't develop or grow our character, or relationship with God. And getting everything or or everyone we want isn't actually what is best for us. God knows what is best for us, and God wants what is best for us. So even when we want something. It is better to put God first and trust him, and love him and say if you are in it I will be in it, and if not then I will not. I'm kinda just recapping everything that you said via text, but you said it in a much better way and I like this message and video allot. It's quite helpful. God bless you and prayers for you and your family, and your child ^^ Congrats :D

[@kaylynnbeign6499]

I feel like having faith that God is truly right there with me, is hard. It’s so easy to feel alone and that these words are not for me. I want to be filled with the Holy Spirit... does it happen gradually... the more you spend time in the word? I wake up full of panic and loneliness everyday. That’s how I found your channel.... I’m loving your teachings....I love the verse in Mark...”Don’t be scared, just believe.” My mind robs me of Gods promises....I am no longer on mind/depression medicine, after 20 plus years. I think they did more harm then good...now it’s hard to feel joy about anything, but all the negative emotions flow through just fine. Please pray that God heals my brain. Thank you for all you do....I’m horrible with notes, so I pause and copy yours. I feel like although I always “knew” God, I never really had a relationship with him. I want to feel his presence in my life. I want to wake up with hope in my heart.

[@tracybradshaw6347]

Thank You so much for your videos. After a divorce, and becoming an empty nester, losing my father and becoming a grandmother all within the span of 2 years I feel lost and drifting. You are helping me see things rationally. 💕

[@Ru-eg2lz]

Thanks Kaci for posting more these days, and I love the way you do little Bible studies here and there! They are soo encouraging and I always look forward to hearing more from you 🤍

[@mayalaurenboyd]

So on time! Thank You, God! ❤

[@holliedrake1200]

God taught me that what he had for me was so much better than what I wanted. We were looking to buy a house and we live in a really small community so it is not easy to find a house here in the Village and our option's were even more limited because we did not want to live on the side of the village that was divided by train tracks from the uptown side of the Village. We had a 6 year old son that we didn't want growing up in the city so it was very important to me that we stayed in the little village. So we actually found a house on the right side of the tracks that I "Thought" I loved. No other would do! But the offer on the house ended up falling through and the owner accepted another offer instead. I was devastated we never got that house. I couldn't understand why God never worked it all out for us. I felt I must have displeased him in some way. I felt I could not serve a God that would work against us like that. Why would he take away our dream like that! so we thought maybe he did not want us living in the village any longer so we started looking else where in the surrounding areas. But as the months went on there was nothing. So 3 months later I noticed there was a house in the Village that was still for sale on the main street that looked like a little bungalow from the road. But as I looked through the photo's online, the house was big and I couldn't understand how that much house fit into that little bungalow. So I told my husband (who had already said NO to the little house in the beginning of our search because of it size) we really should book an appointment with the realtor even if just for curiosity sake. Said it doesn't cost anything to look. So we did. The house was beyond our dream. It had my dream Big kitchen with pull out shelving in every kitchen cupboard for easy access, even the kitchen garbage can was on slides and pulled out of the cupboard for easy removal and easy bag changing. Lots of cupboard space. Back deck off the kitchen and tons of dry storage under that deck. A double car garage and a really large work shop for my husband. huge basement 5 bathrooms and really large bedrooms. His and Hers walk in closet in our master. also an Upper roof top deck above my husband workshop. We were floored at how much house was hidden behind what appeared to be a little bungalow. And the elderly couple had another place they had already bought and were ready to leave the house in a moments notice. We moved into our home in the month. God had something so much better waiting for us. This house was for sale for 5 months and she said only 1 person looked at it and said they were going to turn it into 23 places but she said they never came back. I believe the Lord was holding onto this house for us. waiting for us to stop passing it by because of what we thought it was. Needless to say, I felt shame for thinking God was against us by not giving us that house we thought we wanted. I could not apologize (repent) enough for how I felt toward him and jumping to conclusions about him. I was so grateful to him for not letting that other deal go through and 6 years later I am still so grateful we never got that other house. I love the house he had in store for us. I learnt from that day on to never doubt that his way is so much better than ours. He truly does know what's best for us even if we may not know it at the time. I love and trust my Father with my life now even when waiting is hard sometimes. Hallelujah! All Glory to God. Praise his Holy and wonderful name!

[@lenniebutao7817]

Amen 💪☺️!

[@hopefulheritage]

I love this video! I didn't realize I needed to hear this, but everything you said was so helpful! I am a new Christian who is attempting to learn more about the bible. And watching your channel inspires me to know more, thank you! God bless 🤍

[@foreverfragrance7]

This video helped me! Thank you!

[@chichielem1843]

Thanks for sharing Kaci! Definitely needed this encouragement in the season I'm currently in... The past few videos you've shared have just been so timely!! I think at some point in our Christian walk, and quite honestly many times in our walk, we'll experience God's 'nos', but the beauty is that even in the no He still works out everything for our good! I've had many experiences but I'll just share one. Back in 2017 I really wanted to travel for particular event, that meant a lot to me. I prayed to God for Him to provide the finances I needed, but it just wasn't in His will. I prayed and cried and cried and cried some more .... I even took what I believe were steps of faith... Still the answer was no... I was devastated to say the very least... Fast forward to 2018 and God provided the means for me to travel to the same place and He exceeded my expectations in provision. To the point that I had excess left over!! He went above and beyond!!! It was so amazing and my faith grew so much as a result of the experience!!!! He really showed up and showed out!!! Back to present day, writing this message out just really reminded me that in the situation I'm currently walking through, that if God is not in it, then I don't want it. It's not always easy to accept God's no in the moment, and some times walking out a no can be very painful, but in the end we see that everything truly works out for our good because we love Him and are called according to His purpose! I pray God helps you and Tyler as you plan and prepare for the birth of your baby🤗

[@cll3855]

These videos are so well put together, everyting is asthetically pleasing and calming and sets the mood to hear God's word. I am so glad that God led me to your channel, it encourages me and inspires me. It's nice the way the scripture readings are shown on the screen and how the scripture references pop up in the corner. How do you do that, what type of software do you use? Aside from the beautiful visual presentation, the content is always timely and well presented. I absolutely have looked back on God saying no to me as a blessing in disguise many times. He has saved me from what I thought were good decisions and circumstances throughout my life and I am deeply grateful and thankful for that. I honestly don't know how some people are navigating life without his guidance. His guidance is essential to me, I not only fully trust Him to lead me and guide me in the way that is best for me, that is for my good and for His glory, but to be with me, instruct me and comfort me every step of the way. He is a very present help in the time of need. He is my refuge, my strength and my protection. No one loves and cares for me like He does. I fully agree that if God's not in it, I don't want it!!!

[@carolinew6095]

I loved and needed this message today ❤ thank you so much ❤️🙌🏻✝️

[@chinitapink8074]

Thank you for speaking truth Kaci. I really love how God is using you for His message to many of us. I am in the same place, that if God is not in it, i don't want it. Currently im single and i have someone i am liking, and i would love to date to marry thats the goal. I thought God wants me with this man, so he moved location and bring him back again with the same location i worked with. Then after months of waiting, this man never makes any move to pursue me. Thats hurtful as i thought he really is. However i just learned that God is an intentional God and if His hands are in to something i would totally see that moving in my life and i dont need to feel confused over it. Im grateful because ive seen it as a protection or let say a preparation for the better things he has for me as i follow his will for me in this area.

[@pugsandcrochet]

God bless you Kaci! This was beautiful and just what I needed, thank you.

[@robynlovisa5096]

Thank u soo much so encouraging ❤really needed this !!

[@kacinicole]

Praise God - so happy to hear that 😊

[@drew7373]

I love this video. All of your last videos have really spoken to me, thank you

[@jaydenplays823]

Good word

[@gem4365]

I'm a new subscriber. I really enjoy your content.💓🙏🏽

[@kacinicole]

Aw I'm so happy to hear that and to have you here 🤍

[@3markers]

Amen! May God bless you ! 💛

[@marie81795]

I’m a very new to reading the Bible. And your channel has really inspired me. How do you decide what chapters to read and why? When I first started to read I started at the beginning then switched to Mathew. I have a very hard time understanding most of the information. Please help. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@felicitygrace5113]

How do you pray and discern that God is or isnt in it?

[@bmani9930]

Where do you buy your dresses. They are so beautiful and modest. I love them.

[@aellis2850]

why is it that I feel like im not gonna like some of the things that God has for me. like I just sometimes get this feeling that what God is wanting for me im not gonna like... and I know that's not true, but I just keep feeling like that sometimes that it's gonna be something that I dont like, and sometimes I feel like I can't really trust God when it comes to the things that I want because I feel like it's going to be things that I dont want or won't like or something, but I dont know why and I feel sad by it; I need help :(

[@mrgreenskypiano]

I would definitely ask your pastor if you know him/her well. Prayer and soul searching always helps me as well. Be honest with God, you can’t keep anything from him. -M

[@aellis2850]

@@mrgreenskypiano thx for that🙏God bless you brother or sister in Christ.

[@mrgreenskypiano]

​@@aellis2850 You're welcome! Keep living in Christ. 🙏

[@aellis2850]

@@mrgreenskypiano Amen🙏✊

[@sarahring7538]

❤️❤️❤️🙌

[@ralphcarreno6762]

Hello Kaci Nicole my name is Ralph. I hope you may reply on a issue. I am a fashion artist hopefully to find work on it. I was impress on your " if god isn't into it, that we are not to wanted it." The question is could it mean that later it can happen or is it a no from god? Help me have hope, I am very talented, but no breakthrough and some opposition from people. Thank you anyway whether you can reply or not.

[@davespark10]

You shall be called Bezalel. Exodus 31:1-6

[@Gabriellamariaaa]

hello, i’m sorry for leaving another comment once again. i don’t want to but im desperate. this feels inappropriate /wrong to share in a public comment section but im seeking hope, help, and support in any way that i can. please pray for me. i feel under attack and i am afraid, i feel far from God. and i’m struggling with believing the lies of the enemy, about myself, about God and His word. i sometimes open up the word and have so much shame and fear of God and fear of punishment that i end up hearing His word as if everything was aimed at me. i understand that His word convicts and i need conviction.. (well i know i have a ton to work on, i feel like a mess). but it leaves me feeling helpless and condemned. this happens when i listen to some sermons and podcasts too. it’s gotten better but fluctuated. i believe it scrupulosity & religious Ocd. thankfully i have one or two people in the church i can reach out to (they’re not close friends but lovely people) because this feels so isolating. and honestly frightening and overwhelming. i’m struggling to discern what is truly guidance from the Holy Spirit because i’ve been hearing a lot of different things (having so many thoughts). many that accuse. many that make me feel abandoned and without help. many that make me feel incredibly bad about myself. im struggling. i’ve had a lot of spiritual warfare. and this is hard. especially emotionally, it hurts. please keep me in your prayers. this is affecting the way i see God and i don’t want it to. not because of the way it makes me feel but because i start to believe that maybe those thoughts are from Him… simply because i know how imperfect i am, i know i need His grace. truly, i do.i start thinking that maybe im just trying to deceive myself if i don’t believe those thoughts. i want to love Him and love His word. but i need help and support. thank you so much. 🤍 🤍😭

[@stevenr3134]

Well this isn’t true. God has allowed many things I didn’t want into my life and it was of no benefit. Just horrific pain and sorrow and suffering. So yeah there’s many things He allowed that I despise and if I had a way I would reject it. I know what I want. God is all powerful so He can always turn it to good so it doesn’t make sense not to want it.

[@RASHASA1237]

When I were married to a abusive husband I used to pray for GOD to change him. But what GOD really wanted were me to leave and get the children out and it has been what were needed!!! Im happy GOD so no and that he had a better way because he is GOD!!! Be blessed!!!🕊🤍