If you're still seeking & suffering, you will probably watch this video and never look back.

[@playcost]

A part of me wants to seek but another part of me is tired of seeking. I'm living in a constant state of clash and it's exhausting. It's like letting go of letting go of letting go, I recognize my effort to remove suffering, then give effort to remove the effort, then give effort to remove the effort to remove the effort. I sink into mindless thoughts, then I wake up, then I sink back in, then I wake up. Sleeping is the only time I ever find rest.

[@D_Isness]

Catching it when it happens is the trick. It's constant at first, but, like anything else, the more you do it, the more proficient that you become at it and those endless streams of thoughts just begin to dissipate and lessen as you become accustomed to making the now your usual state of being. It does take time but less and less effort as you improve, of course. Best of luck on your journey ❤

[@gabyburket3926]

Same here! After decades of seeking, reading, listening I am tired of all of that. But I'm afraid stopping and finding no meaning in an ordinary life without knowing who I really am. I don't want to sleep with open eyes... And yes, I also sleep as often as I can, it's like reconnecting, being at home, even though I don't remember where I was, I feel calmer when I wake up. You are not alone!

[@bullebap]

Saja is talking about exactely this situation. Listen to him from minute 8! Stop trying anything. Be that every experience embracing being. You are the screen and not the movie. ( Not my own metapher, everybody has heard that before) The screen cant do anything anyway. But, hopefully this does not feed any expectations 😂, I think Jeff Foster went the same way, being totally tired of trying this and trying that. Sounds like your ego is giving its best to stay in with these torturing thoughts. You will not find a solution in your thoughts, thats the game. Whenever they arise again you could rather say you are busy enough breathing in and out. Your experience is: thoughts Are arising giving you the Illusion you could do better this or that. Ignore them! Notice: ah, this thought again, ok, then go on breathing, feeling your body it whatever. Most likely these thoughts will be accompanied by the expectation that you feel better which means you Are resisting….. and so on. Thats all the mind.🤷. But, as I Said, listen to this Video again. I wish you Peace.

[@sajafendel]

This is why I made this video 🙏

[@melissasibbald4617]

Brilliant 👍💚​ @@bullebap

[@norfolkyeti]

Lean into every moment like a child, say wtf and greet it all with love and openness, just accept every manifestation as gifted ❤❤❤

[@andreakay6061]

I am realising its not thoughts - its sensation I am moving away from - choosing distraction - shopping, tea, thinking, doing, moving - its at time strong and uncomfortable, unbearable even, but usually subtle and sneaky. Oh I will just look up this, oh I forgot to do that - procrastination and distraction. However I feel myself refusing to be whatever is arising n that moment. I have called it anxiety, stress, worry and given them a cause, a reason - but it's the reverse.

[@steven.pianomusic]

One of the clearest video's I ever saw on the subject. Thanks a lot, Saja

[@Ali-bgh]

You pointed to the root of suffering which is the resistence to sufferibg! Thanks men❤

[@benbander4838]

Great video! one thing I realized this morning while meditating is suffering won't "end" until I have let go of ALL attachments. Attachment to money/material, people, outcome, events, feelings/emotions/sensations, even my body. the funny thing is I knew that already intellectually, but this time I actually felt it. I understood then why in some eastern philosophy like the Buddhism vow to have no possessions or even in Catholicism the vow of poverty.

[@sonicmuse]

It is (usually) easier to practice letting go when one has taken the poverty vows and entered the monastery/ashram, where one also has the guidance of the master and the support of the sangha. But, it’s not necessary, just easier. (And thank “God” it’s not necessary as most of us don’t have the opportunity to become monks/nuns.)

[@sajafendel]

Yes I agree. This will happen on its own though you don’t need to face things before they arise. Let life help you take things step by step.

[@JogMaher]

Such a tricky little blighter to get right. I think I understand and then I’m sure I don’t. Elusive! Thank you 🙏

[@105dailey]

Such simple, direct words but ones I’ve had to hear over and over. I think I’m finally getting it 😄💜

[@sajafendel]

I think so 😉

[@bullebap]

Hearing this video this morning I thought, actually these few sentences are enough teaching at all. The picture of the every experience embracing being was really strong for me. Thank you! ( And, please, keep on releasing more videos 😂)

[@sajafendel]

Haha I appreciate it my friend, 5 videos every week will be the goal 🙏

[@jimmaher5437]

this is such a fantastic video, Saja!

[@sajafendel]

Thank you my friend 🙏

[@fawnunicorn]

So, trying to remove suffering is the thing that makes me suffer. I agree with that statement. That is how I feel when I fail at overcoming my suffering because it seems futile. Thank you for helping to confirm my own thoughts.

[@4_seagull]

I understand it rationally but actually putting it into practice is something inconceivable to me. Thanks for putting the video out but I'm not ready. Just leaving a comment I'll maybe one day return to.

[@Regan-travels]

I've been noticing The intense seeking and wanting to end it for weeks now and I am having a hard time. It feels like breaking a very strong addiction.

[@sajafendel]

Yes I understand you.

[@acceptinglife6491]

how can I get through this phase? It's impossible to bear!

[@gipsymoth1574]

love this. I had a tendency to get lost in thoughts that implied seeking must mean the lack of something

[@Rileyzc]

2 minutes in and I'm seeing the gold in this

[@sajafendel]

I appreciate the support my friend 🙏🌅

[@justdeadliftbro]

I am blown away. amazing video

[@sajafendel]

Appreciate the support as always brother 🙏

[@DimpleReads]

i love this! i’ve tried everything else, why not try this.

[@petermartin5030]

Yet to survive, live and love rather than being annihilated we have to choose some actions over others, and to have a criterion for that choice and a motivation for pushing actions through difficulties to their conclusion.

[@theflowmaestro]

A welsh man! Nice - I was born in Bridgend.. lived in porthcawl & now in Bristol.. not far brother! Nice video.. subbed x

[@sajafendel]

Crazy! I’m from Bridgend! Thanks for the comment and the sub brother 🙏

[@BoundlessNow]

Letting go has been one of the most powerful methods for me, because the act of letting go doesn't necessarily mean removing, but releasing the attachment itself. Realize the impermanence of suffering.

[@hemamalinirs1002]

Beautiful pointing ❤🙏

[@LlamaAlarma]

Thanks Saja! This video really resonates. Needed to hear this today. 🙏

[@sajafendel]

My pleasure llama! 🙏🌅 glad it found you well

[@IsralWaris369]

I am in this suffering.. I have react to it and let it effect me emotionally to the extend i hurt my self and those around me, consciously or unconciously.. In reacting to it i want to escape it.. "I don't want to be suffer".. That's i know it. So now i explore this suffering.. I have spent times to deal with it but to no avail.. This suffering keep coming.. One ended, and thought i end it. Another proceed.. Now i realise instead of making artificial structure to fight it, i give my self freedom to feel it. And now i notice the space. The space that i have filled with response to that suffering.. Instead of "Oh no !! I want to get out this agony".. I see the very process of that suffering and that's all.. Instead of "what is suffering or how to end it". The narative is "what is it that suffering".. And in that there is space.. A space where im free.. 😊🙌🙏

[@petalthorn8778]

The place of peace and the peace of place 🙏🏼

[@thomasweiler1680]

This is so precise ❤

[@gregb5121]

"the very act of trying to remove our suffering - is the very suffering we are trying to remove" 🤯 ... "the very act of doing it - is the very thing that's creating it, so the only way we can ever remove our suffering is - if we remove the desire to remove our suffering, which you cannot do, unless you realize that 'there is nothing you can do to remove your suffering'" 🥳

[@sajafendel]

Thanks for the quote brother! 🙏🫶

[@Elalolam]

Love it. So clear. Good job 👍🏻

[@sajafendel]

Thanks my friend in glad you think so 🙏

[@AnmolGill-1111]

Thanks for the wisdom nd precious advice.. big brother 😊

[@sajafendel]

Always welcome 🙏💚

[@curlymelodist]

Thank you, Saja! 😊

[@sajafendel]

My pleasure! Thanks for the comment 🙏🫶

[@baronbullshyster2996]

One day all suffering will cease and we will be watching utube. Trying to find out how to suffer. I think I’ll post a few of my of my sister in law. She can make plants wither just by looking at them. The good thing is she might have cured my toe nail fungus.

[@Kiki-dq7gr]

Thank you❤

[@sajafendel]

🙏💚

[@AnovaNina]

First, I wanted to say thank you for answering me so sincerely last time! I hold your answer for a while as in part I knew my question is essentially wondering what you, with that level of enlightened-ness", are seeking afterwards. Second, I'm not sure you know Teal swan, another spiritual teacher. She talked about do not deny physical reality, only acknowledge spiritual reality dimension of what we are. I'm not sure whether this contradict what you are saying. I suppose much is up to listeners' interpretation. Language ultimately is a limited tool to communicate one's meaning. And obviously, I'm still seeking. :D Thank you !

[@sajafendel]

Hey my friend! Thanks for the lovely comment. To answer your question, I’m not seeking anything. I am however creating and building and having fun. I optimise my life for that. Secondly, Yes I am aware of her, and I would agree with her if she means to not get lost in the spiritual world, but if she does not acknowledge that there is no physical world and offers no guidance, to uproot the trauma of separation that makes us believe we are separate. We can know we are infinite but if we still have the belief and conditioning that the world is still physical and real and have not uprooted that way of seeing the world will still hold a power to convince us otherwise and therefore create more suffering albeit maybe more subtle. So the approach I share as I have learnt an experienced to is to dissolve the sense of separation on a feeling/experience level after first recognising our true nature. Then we go back into duality however now duality does not imply separation, it is seen clearly as non-dual. I would call it, from my experience, a whole, seamless experiencing. The word I use is wholeonymous; all whole, complete and simultaneously containing duality and nonduality. Universality and individuality.

[@maiablondes7183]

thank you, great vid!

[@TB-jg2oq]

Thank you.

[@sajafendel]

🙏🫶

[@bigpicture3]

Why make it needlessly complicated when it is a UNREALIZED SIMPLICITY. It is about the use of words and the general meaning that they have in society. In its general meaning "Thought" does not "Create Reality", according to Buddha "Thought is the cause of ALL SUFFERING". And that is so because "thought can create all sorts of imaginings" which most times are not real, "thoughts" can actually create imaginings that create an INTERNAL STATE of "Fear". The Hindus used a Sanskrit word for this named "Maya". (or the great ILLUSION) That our "thoughts" are REALITY when they ARE NOT, that our external "circumstances" cause our INTERNAL STATE, when they DO NOT. That EVERYTHING IS INVERTED in the GREAT ILLUSION, that our concepts of "CAUSE" and "EFFECT" are completely UPSIDE-DOWN. (That is one part of the Great Illusion.) And that could be described as believing: that it is "happening to us", instead of "we are making it happen". The MAYA illusion, of UPSIDE-DOWN concepts, thoughts, imaginings. When Jane Roberts (Seth) back in the 60s coined the expression "You create your own reality", in the culture of the time it was hard to comprehend how that could be. Especially for everyone coming from “organized religion” backgrounds. Particularly from organized Christianity. The INVERTED concept of "You are a worthless Sinner that needs to be redeemed", instead of what is in the actual bible: "You are made in the Image God" (The all powerful, all possibilities image of God.) or as Jesus said: "The Kingdom of God is WITHIN YOU". "For assuredly, I say to you, whoever SAYS to this mountain, ‘Be removed and be cast into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but BELIEVES that those things he SAYS will be done, he will have whatever he SAYS. - Mark 11:23 Now in one book the word "BELIEVES" is used, and the word "FAITH" is used in another, but whatever the word, and whatever the exact meaning of the original, it is describing an INTERNAL STATE. That it is the INTERNAL STATE, (Image of God) that causes the apparent EXTERNAL EXPERIENCE, that is perceived and experienced as an actual PHYSICAL HAPPENING. That is the NON-INVERTED by organized Christian Religions TRUTH. Now that INTERNAL STATE can be described using many different words, such as Excitement, Joy, Happiness, Exuberance, Love etc. (except you become as little children, you will not enter the KINGDOM OF HEAVEN etc.) but it is like the Hindu image of the "Ouroboros Snake" IT FEEDS OFF ITSELF. And an INTERNAL STATE of "Fear" will do exactly the SAME THING. Which is probably why the expression "Fear Not" appears so many times (365 times) in the Bible, or "Faith" (458 times) etc. In other words, get control over your INTERNAL STATE, or your "Image of God" SELF, then the apparent EXTERNAL CIRCUMSTANCES will ALIGN WITH THAT INTERNAL STATE. (As what appear to be REAL HAPPENINGS.) In Jung's and Frankl's exploration of Human Nature they came to the conclusion that "The Image of God" was located in what they termed "the Unconscious Self", and the "conscious" Self was mostly a culturally conditioned "artificial" Self, which was named the EGO. Frankl even wrote a book named "The Unconscious God". But if you "understand" and "know" that YOU ARE THE IMAGE OF GOD (and not a worthless sinner) it is much easier to "believe" that your INTERNAL STATE (of the Image of God within) "Creates Your Own Reality". (Heaven or Hell as an INTERNAL “State of Being”.) It is usually experienced as an INTERNAL “CONFLICT” STATE between the “will” of the conscious EGO SELF, and the “unconscious” “will” of the “Image of God” SELF. But in its true experienced expression, when properly used by CONSCIOUS INTENT, it appears to be MAGIC. “Emerging” or “Manifesting” (from within you) are the two MAGIC words, it is NOT really “attracting” as is most often described. (As a so called “Law of Attraction”.) It is “The Law of Correspondence”, “as within so without”, “as above so below” etc. It is “Coming into Existence” or “Being Created” from within your own “INTERNAL STATE”, OF BEINGNESS (Image of God) be that by a “conscious intention” INTERNAL STATE, or an “unconscious” INTERNAL STATE. Excited Expectation and trust INTERNAL STATE (Love) or Depressed and Fearful INTERNAL STATE (Fear and Suffering.) What appears in YOUR EXTERNAL EXPERIENCE, will ALWAYS BE A REFLECTION OF YOUR INTERNAL STATE. (Your Image of God, “State of Being”) “For the thing I greatly feared has come upon me, And what I dreaded has happened to me. I am not at ease, nor am I quiet; I have no rest, for trouble comes.” - Job 3:25-26

[@mtets2459]

Great video!

[@sajafendel]

Thank you 🙏

[@MalenaW1111]

Great video 🎉❤

[@sajafendel]

Thank you Malena! 🌅

[@miiteshkshah5352]

❤❤❤thank you very much❤❤❤

[@jimikeigher6208]

Seeking seeks, finding finds, so the question is: WHAT HAVE WE HERE ?

[@yaroslavk4032]

whenever I try to discuss this idea with people who had a traumatic experience to do with physical and sexual abuse, they get emotionally offended or flashbacked. I understand that they feel like they have to "do" something in order for such "unacceptable thing" to never happen again with them and the others. Therefore, sometimes it seems hard to apply this absolute view point to the pragmatic aspects of our lives. I feel like I understand what you mean but if somebody asked me: "what about this or that experience, should we also accept it and be opened to it even tho it might make us suffer hugely", I feel like being stuck in this bad faith trap of an unsympathetic or unrealistic answer. btw i know this is a bit of topic :=}

[@isharadissanayaka280]

Please please do the Ho opono pono meditation. Im telling you your perception is going to change in everything and your life will be so much easier. Yiu just let go of your current perception of everything that you have come across and experienced. Thank me later

[@craigphillips-1]

What he said. Seeking is overrated anyway. ;-)

[@AstridPerellon]

I get it! ❤

[@life13525]

yes...grieving so much...did you grieve a lot??? Tried to get away from the fear of loss of loved ones my whole life...

[@sajafendel]

Yes. But don’t confuse grief for suffering. Grief is only experienced with suffering when we are resisting that experience. When grief is accompanied with regret, shame, blame, guilt, or even fear of our own death or other loved one’s dying or fear that we won’t ever be the same, “I should have done this” “why didn’t I do this” or “why didn’t they do this” etc, that’s when we suffer. Grief however is a natural human experience that does not equate so suffering.

[@MishMacky]

​@@sajafendel that's a brilliant explanation, thank you

[@_simplelad_1809]

Donald Hoffman agrees with u scientifically

[@sajafendel]

Eventually, hopefully sooner than later, all science will agree with the ancient knowledge that has been here for millennia 🙏

[@rottinjonny]

This comment will probably disappear into the abyss, but... It is the ego, the mind that we think we are, which manifests suffering. The ego originally emerged as a mechanism to survive at the low vibrational level of our planet, but it grew over time to be mistaken for our actual identity. So, dis-identify with the ego mind, and the suffering can take care of itself. You do that by living in the now. Right now is the only point in time that exists, after all. Be present in the now as much as you can, separated from memories and future concerns. Release your emotions, your pain, to Source. Then just be, within the unfolding of now. Observe, detached. Do not think, analyze, or judge. Just observe within the now. When you do this, your true self, your higher self, can emerge from beneath the mind and bring its infinite inner stillness into your awareness. Your vibration rises when you do this, and so you simply leave the ego behind. Eckhart Tolle wrote about all of this in The Power of Now, nearly 30 years ago. And even then, his teachings are a synthesis of spiritual knowledge that goes back thousands of years, largely disregarded by Western civilization.

[@shucksful]

This is high calorie content…I took a bite, and it tasted good. 😊

[@Youmadbuddy]

Where can I learn more about out this ?

[@thomasweiler1680]

I began to see all this, but now I am stuck at home with any motivation to do anything. I guess there is no escape from that as well, right? Even if I will sit here until I die, right?

[@sajafendel]

Just because we can’t necessarily remove suffering, it doesn’t mean there is not an end to suffering. The end to suffering is the full realisation that there is no activity we can do to end it.

[@sajafendel]

That that creates the opening to realise what we truly are which is the source of happiness itself.

[@thomasweiler1680]

@@sajafendel Yes. And then... ?

[@larolddunahey]

I'm totally on board with this, but I feel compelled to share a particular frustration (suffering) with you that continues to nag at me. I've had sooo many insights while on this path, yet I still do not have the confidence that I am eternal. The question remains... when this body dies, is it lights out for me? If it is "lights out," then all of my insight thus far amounts to delusion. Yet it all feels more real than where I started. Any advice?

[@sajafendel]

There can never be anything other than experience. Because even in the experience of no experience there would still be the experience of no experience. And because in the experience of no experience it’s inherent with no objects, therefore no time and space, it would be a timeless instant experience exactly like deep sleep. So therefore we wouldn’t necessarily experience the passage of time and therefore will only ever experience an experience. There is no other option. There can not be non existence. Therefore existence must be whatever is left over when we remove all objects. It must also be that which can know all objects since that which is unreal can not be aware of any reality or illusion. Therefore it is consciousness that stands as the seat of existence. It is the only thing that actually exists. Just be open to this possibility. You don’t need to be convicted. Your openness will unravel into conviction if you stay in the openness.

[@hisholyname2141]

Any love for the messiah, friend?

[@katehiggins9940]

it’s very clear that there is no separate self. in direct experience this is clear. but i don’t know how one comes to see that conciousness is primary/universal rather than just this is all appearing in the brain. which is the general assumption in neuroscience yes? that light reflects and we are seeing images projected internally. And I don’t know that it’s really provable either way as I have heard teachers say no it’s not really provable, but I feel just sort of at a standstill here. Any suggestions?

[@D_Isness]

🏆❤️🙏✌️

[@luslinlawrence6389]

❤

[@eth4n580]

I’m confused.. What is confidence then?? Or self assurance?? If all of everything is only eternal suffering in this world then does that mean the only true confidence is arrogance? You see confident people go around talking, being social, seemingly assured in themselves. Is that only because they’re egotistical and arrogant? Is there even such thing as genuine confidence? Could you give a video on confidence, self assurance and authenticity please 🙏

[@MishMacky]

This is confusing to me. I know that making better choices about what I do, who I have in my life and things like secure affordable housing and food decreases my suffering??

[@BenedictDeLaPays]

Do I hear a slight welsh accent?

[@sajafendel]

That would be correct sir. Bridgend!

[@TheSnedderingYunk]

😊👍❤

[@sajafendel]

🙏🌅

[@markoooo61]

Saja are you a vegan? If Not, what do you think about it?

[@sajafendel]

I was vegan last before I realised it was built on guilt and shame. I think veganism is an extreme based on guilt and fear and from what I’ve seen most vegans will guilt and shame people into being vegan, deny they’re doing that, even to themselves, just like any controlling religion. I decided to let myself eat whatever I feel necessary. I am guilt and shame free. That is truly the best diet.

[@markoooo61]

@sajafendel i understand. So you basically Stopped to Not Support the movement based on guilt and shaming. Thanks For the reply

[@markoooo61]

Its interesting because i am Feeling guilt and shame For myself too when i eat meat i think.

[@goldie9731]

Except you can be vegan and not support the ‘movement’. If you think one’s choice to be vegan is built on guilt and shame then I think there is a misunderstanding in your view. I personally don’t avoid what I deem to be immoral actions simply because I don’t want to feel quilt or I’m worried about being shamed, I avoid them because of love/empathy which has its own benefits, it’s joyful. Avoiding a negative doesn’t necessarily mean a benefit to you, it has to be accompanied by the right view and intention.

[@markoooo61]

@goldie9731 ohh No There is some missunderstanding. The reason For vegan For me is ethical too and based on compassion For animals'. I mean Just when i dont eat vegan then, i tend to feel Bad

[@Arto300-yn5fv]

So, if you have cancer, don't seek treatment? It will not end suffering?

[@sajafendel]

The suffering I am referring to here is psychological suffering. This doesn’t apply to anything like cancer, physical pain, etc.

[@Arto300-yn5fv]

@sajafendel As I see it these things are two sides of the same coin. Improving your physical aspects and environment inevitably improves psychological wellbeing and vice verca.

[@Serenity7250]

Jesus Christ can remove it. Try asking.

[@johndean8052]

Never would I take advice or listen to a new age spiritual," teacher" KZbinrs on anything so called spiritual. What does this new kid on the block know..as it has all been stated before for thousands of years by a number of awakened souls better go back to the source and not listen to intellectual chatter hence entertainment...Remember..."repeat", there is nothing new under the sun, all been stated before.. .keep truckin...

[@hemamalinirs1002]

Beautiful pointing ❤🙏

[@sajafendel]

Thank you glad you resonated 🫶