Immediately I got home, he would smell my panty and accuse me that am from sleeping with another man

Clare was married for 12 years. One year ago, she decided to quit after what she describes as too much toxicity. She speaks of a very abusive husband who would beat her and continuously abuse her in front of her kids.
What angered her the most is when her husband started accusing her of infidelity. Clare says, that every-time she came home from work, her husband would demand for her panty..he would then smell it to establish whether she is from cheating. Here is her story on #Why_Are_You_Single?

[@barbs20043]

She is my friend and all she’s saying is so true,,,we love you Claire and we will support you always…

[@patrickwaweru5014]

Uligotea sara

[@evaevans741]

Some stories are reminder to appreciate what we have like my husband he is not rich but he is a great man,my sister am happy you have found peace may God bless you and your girls,you shall live mama

[@nancykamau7996]

Claire I can relate to your story, I underwent this for 16yrs but I thank God that I manage to leave that relationship. May God help you to get counseling as well as your daughter.

[@user-vl3pz5zi1v]

The man is a true definition of a Narcissist 🚮and you really need to get solutions asap kabla mambo yazidi unga ....

[@mlokole254]

I suggest she should also tell her story to Wambui wa Mwangi, Lynn Ngugi and other platforms so that people hear ndio akifanywa jambo au watoto wakifanywa mambo polisi wasianze kutuambia stories huku and yet they refused to act when they could. She should also move as far away from him as possible.

[@dennismburu8967]

Original is always sweet

[@margaretmbae1928]

Thanks metha for providing this forum for those crying out for help🎉

[@cindylombard4176]

I can relate to her story totally. My partner despised my 2 older kids since they were not his children. So toxic and diabolical. Pure Narcissist.

[@jenniekinyua4235]

Cheaters always think the partner is cheating

[@wawerusarah251]

My dad has been this way from when i was small.....i pray my mum will one day get the courage to break free from him

[@shirowkihara6577]

Never ever let a man tell you twice that he doesn't love you... okay I know it's not easy to leave a toxic marriage but on the other hand it's good to know our worth.

[@user-tq6zs1dh9g]

A true definition of a narcissist, I have lived with one for over three decades and the older they get, the worse they become

[@gracewairimu937]

This lady needs protection her and her children are in danger. This man is a narcissist and needs real mental support

[@mercymwaniki-ot5be]

Another day with a emotional story mungu akukumbuke dear mm nlikataa kwa ndoa 17 yrs na machozi na matezo bt lastly I thought hakna place ingine naeza pata amani actually there's God in heaven who hear and answer all our prayers today I have peace of mind

[@kariukijoseph1198]

Aai kwani alikuwa anatumia kidukuru.. hahaha atî anakunyang'anya blanketi anajifunika peke yake? wololoyaye ama ni mechanic cos mwingine when I was at nanyuki was behaving awkwardly.anachapa bibiye anamkata na kisu kwa paja akimtukana sio mtamu,the following day hawezi enda job,akimbembeleza.. that's a toxic relationship

[@evalynenyambura3904]

Cheating partners always accuse you of cheating

[@monienjeri3042]

3/4 of Lydia's story similar to mine..... Ata mimi nilisema sirudi from 2017 Jan till now siwezi rudi kwake.... Naombanga Mungu anipee nguvu ya kutafututia watoi ndivyo wasome, gulf healed me, although kujikubali ilikuwa noma... marriage of 12 yrs iliisha hivyo....

[@hannahriessbeck4330]

Sorry sana baby girl for having to endure all this trouble. Praying that God shall keep you and your daughters safe and that you'll be healed physically and emotionally

[@JayJay_Ngugi]

Perfect candidate to seek assylum with foreign embassies

[@alicegichuki2949]

I thought so too

[@florencekirubi7377]

I have a friend that goes exactly what this lady went through....to extend that his husband goes to look for her kwa kazi yenye anafanya

[@margaretmbae1928]

If we were in a country where the law fully works,such a man should have been given restraining orders! He is evil if not mad!😢

[@doreenpinky569]

My baby daddy exactly,,,,,he had no boundaries he used to talk shit before his mom and my kid but mi nlijitoa mtoi akiwa months 😢

[@wanjirunduta5346]

Always Educative... Keep up the good work @MonicaKagoni

[@cpaannwanjau6044]

Saad😢 May God intervene

[@dr.ireneruminjo4346]

Silence is a powerful weapon.

[@maryannenjihia7641]

Sending hugs to you mama❤

[@linetkhavugwi209]

I understand this lady 101 percent...imefika mshali my 19yr refused his dad's name in his ID card ..I had to call anyone ndio akaitikia shingo upande...my second born told his father siwezi kuzeeka na matabia kama zako ..next min his father akamwitia polisi 😢 but kule police station the kids were given time to talk n the police told the man to either man up or loose the kids ...but wapi ntill know he is doing worse plus giving my cousin pregnancy

[@margienjeri1778]

Are you still living together?

[@SuzzyMbugua-zu6px]

Watching

[@jacklinenyakio6708]

Sending love en lots of hugs Mamaa you strong en God is going to change your story May the Angels of God in human form come through for you en your gals

[@bygrace-254]

Aii this thing you call marriage sometimes it's hell on earth... woman go through alot haki..mimi kuna vitu siezi tolerate..apana

[@violetmanule7063]

Hama hio tawn, ama upeleke watoto kwenu ukuje saudi,akusahau kwanza

[@joycemaina2126]

Gosh , stories relate kabisa with mine, God bless Women.. 😭😭😭,but now happy independent..

[@carolgrace8543]

May God be with you 😢🙏

[@banicewangui4989]

Such a very beautiful woman

[@bettynjoki3115]

True definition of a narcists. Pole mamaa, they really need protection, Wakiama can handle therapy

[@Shii2540]

Kagoni looking dolled up❤❤❤

[@serahchege1707]

Ana weza toka hiyo Town

[@judywanjiru3975]

Uhame hiyo place kabisa

[@Marggies_kitchen]

Claire all will be well I knew you when u got married very young.....

[@margaretkamau3465]

Monica! You are looking amazing.

[@josephinewamugo-bf3vn]

These is true,am also a househelp but my boss lady is really good ❤❤

[@wanjirarate499]

Parents should respect their children's marriages. Girls make sure you can sustain yourself incase your man turns toxic.

[@queenssisters254]

That is me in my Ex marriage😢 aki mungu kumbuka ndoa za watu

[@serahwothaya5476]

My anger 🤬 is raising by the minute.

[@wairimukimani6265]

Mine too!!!

[@user-pf8px8kj3n]

I relate that man with the man who kill his 2 boys in muranga,how he was toxic. My sister keep off to that man than to regret later. He needs to be jailed and arrested. 😢😢

[@kariukijoseph1198]

She should seek legal advice from a lawyer at any cost.may be she can visit an advocate whatsoever so that the man should be given order by court of law.

[@user-pf8px8kj3n]

@kariukijoseph1198 Exactly he needs to be investigated and summoned for threatening actions

[@kariukijoseph1198]

@@user-pf8px8kj3n yeah freedom of life or rather right of life is a guarantee in our constitution.and nobody should "sell fear"to anybody no matter to your class; whether you are poor, aristocrat, rich or your political party

[@milkahwairimu548]

Mm niliambiwa mam,labda wanivurute na stima sitoki,siku nilitoka Leo ni 18yrs

[@mercyngari1469]

The same case Leo marks 10yrs

[@agnesngenye8411]

Mimi 23 years now

[@Marywanjix4631]

Oh God! Claire, its not ok for this man to keep abusing you mentally, emotionally and physically, you are a human being who deserves peace, this is not a laughing matter. This Ng'ang'a is dangerous to you and the girls, ni mundu wa uiru, na niarakuiguira uiru tondu ndakenaga akiona ugithii na mbere. Keep recording every event to back up your claims. First heal before thinking about any future relationship. I wish you all the best. This police station is also responsible for the safety of Claire and her children.

[@hellennderitu4615]

I love you Kagoni

[@agneswangari1352]

Clare please ahame iyo Town kabisa

[@josephinewamugo-bf3vn]

Kumbe tuko wengi 😮😮

[@charitykawirambaabu9747]

Sorry for what you went through,, lakini wamama tujipende,,why take all that crap ati ni watoto unalea

[@gracekamunya6823]

Sasa kagoni Njororoko tigana nayo for now pls😂😂😂.ìno interview ìkwenda Ngugì a insist hau ha" shot na thuruarì"akene ta hiti😂😂😂

[@Bettymariiyu]

wee he Mundu wakwira umuteithie.

[@gracekamunya6823]

@@Bettymariiyu sasa mambo ya kusaidia umetoa wapi?kama ulikula rent na hujamaliza hangovers za Vasha pls ng'ang'ana na stress zako peke yako usiniletee!

[@Bettymariiyu]

usijali siku yakalibia utajua watu hawaongei kwa kupendwa unazaaa.

[@gracekamunya6823]

What are you talking about?kama huelewi Kikuyu pls kaa kando

[@wilsonmuriuki3292]

Am imagining my 12 year's daughter yani huyu alikuwa na ujinga gani hata kama how can you tell your daughter all this things

[@patrickwaweru5014]

Big up mama watoto

[@patrickwaweru5014]

Ata heri unge weka TikTok ingekuwa better coz ninge kuwa famous zaidi en thanks my baby's Mama's en gotea Sarah sana😂😂😜...

[@Dee_the_blessed1]

Kagoni we!?😅😅😂tigana na Oljororok

[@knowmore306]

She should move out of that town and change contacts

[@Jeremiahmaina_778]

Trying to fathom. Some men are beyond creatures.

[@maryw7789]

Aki Monica,ati atumia nimukona muoyo seriously.

[@mercywanjiru-ig6jr]

Arume amwe matiritwo nia? Aiiii😭

[@esthermuchoki717]

That man is a real narcissist. There is honey moon time when they apologize,make you feel like you are the cause of the problem then tension , then abuse over and over for years . Been with one for 26yrs

[@eunicendiko]

Gosh hugs dear. It's my eighteenth year but planning my exit. May God see us through. I wish I can have courage to come out n give my story coz wueh😢

[@pauline2604]

True and with a narcissist it can never get better it worsens and depression hits that's where we take poison, sets ourselves on fire,weeh may people pray for discernment

[@eunicewairimu518]

What! Madam you are a very strong woman tondu ma...always stay where you are celebrated not where you are toloreted.

[@sylviaotieno1264]

Are you still there

[@terrymichael2541]

😢

[@rosendalngugi893]

Hama county na usiambie mtu isopokuwa wazazi wako,na hata kwa social media usiwahi share kwenye unaishi.

[@marykinyanjui7827]

What a coincidence, that's my story too,his (x) hubby name my X hubby name too,all his character and his family resembles character 😢😢

[@johnkaris5559]

u two should connect mjue kama mko airu

[@judwmbiyu]

So sad I love your heart oh jeso The me can’t stand even a tiny piece of little abuse I will run But they are good men n women left Marriages are working but when you find your better half✅

[@carolinekamau9822]

tell them Kagoni they be responsible

[@winniejoy3858]

A narcissist man never change,,, I wish you had walked away early bt , God's time is the best

[@kuindiritu0997]

Kwani ol joro orok ina nini. A very gd place am telling u.

[@halietnjeri9462]

Ni kwetu,tugwitaga njororoko😂

[@millicentmaina3687]

His days are numbered he will never have peace

[@margaretwairima3868]

Someone please accommodate this lady in another county and offer security to her parents

[@blessednjoki5450]

❤❤❤❤

[@joycenduta3141]

I know her hugs gal

[@kiambu_Finnest]

Waah

[@counselorjane166]

This is anarcissist man .

[@SusanKamau-wy4in]

Khai I know the lady she used to be our client at sir Henry locks place

[@wairimukimani6265]

Aiiiii,hata kama!!!!

[@bensongadafi8707]

Plz wamama ukihona mwanahume akona vita na mtoto ni mumoja wapili ndio hatamaliza vita kweli wamama na c kwa hubanya....

[@sarahngugi2779]

Ona niwarureiruo murangano muinge ngiri ithano nie baba aneiruo ngiri igiri ma kuhungurira second born njira

[@mainakaranja592]

Ndīrī njega ndīcemanagia na mŭthī mwega.....That was not marriage, you were just staying together, his mother and family members rejected you, saying hutawahi kua wao, a man who batters a woman is a failure....

[@peninamuthoni5323]

Let me not comment.....I will give my story one day kagoni.

[@dorriskimathi8571]

Waalai narcissist man never change

[@maurinemaina9653]

If you just realise you are in a relationship with a narcissist please move as soon as possible tondu maweeeeeh

[@eunicendungu8868]

Monicah nikii woria Joroorok gwitu

[@lucymuokalucymuoka1946]

Monica looks sweet 16❤ nyewle dress 👌👌👌❤️

[@paulinemwangi7309]

😢aki we ladies go through alot, join gulf

[@silasmwangi8697]

Kai wahikitio ni kipii

[@PeninahWanjiku-ku9yl]

Aki wanaume wengine wacha nikae singe

[@user-hv6wx2jh6m]

Claire should move far away from that county,and if possible she should change her phone number and start afresh.God is great and her,her kids will get through this❤.

[@user-pf8px8kj3n]

Ucio ari muhuguii maybe nianyuaga bangi. He was totally Narcissist

[@maryakajj4127]

This is the reason why me and so many ladies we are in gulf working so she can also find the way

[@monienjeri3042]

Me here, nilitoka marriage 2017 Jan..... 31st 2016 nilichapwa kama punda ju nilikua naenda kibarua akisema am shaming him kwa watu wa Kijiji ati naenda kibarua.... After one yr nilikam gulf....mimi naskianga marriage na tense

[@Bettymariiyu]

Ata kama uko Na kasoro hii ya kuenda ukirudi hii unafaa ujijue.

[@SuzzyMbugua-zu6px]

Alikua anajikunja na blanketi kama smochaa

[@mumbingigengige8830]

Wauga tutheke mashakayaine

[@sylviaotieno1264]

​@mumbingigengige8830 theka

[@SusanKamau-wy4in]

I know the guy it's true he was tall dark en handsome

[@marywangui8112]

Monica pls, apia lidyia ahame that place akae bali sana yeye,

[@annmugo5507]

That husband was not normal period alikuwa na shida ya kichwa

[@sylviaotieno1264]

Hana shida yoyote...... Ni narcissist

[@sylviaotieno1264]

Hua wanafanya ivo just to get you in their trap and for you to get scared

[@janenyambura1103]

Atumia nitugeragira mathina maingi,,,ndaumire kwa x na ahujirie itura ati nindamukuire Indo chia nyumba

[@nyoroj7575]

Niarafucia muno

[@alicegichuki2949]

She is doing so because she is trying to hold back her tears😢

[@agnesnjuguna2428]

To mean??

[@janekanuthu6678]

Ucio ari munyui wa bangi, i know mtu kama yy alikuwa anaingiza sigara bibi yake ati ajue kaa amelala na mtu huko nje.

[@wilsonmuriuki3292]

This child need help at least gutanathuka oriu gwi tene

[@pauline2604]

People are suffering in these narcissistic relationships / marriages as children watch.

[@pauline2604]

This why our children cannot envy marriages hence LGBTQA+😢😢😢

[@janewakanyi5229]

Following closely, this lady has a good heart. If it were me .....i could have killed him kitambo niende langata. .surely kuchapwa kila saa...mbele ya watoto....wueh..