Improving Sexual Intimacy, Nocturia, Painful Sex, and Semen Flavor | AMA

[@notvaporlocked5479]

My wife and I are 70 and have always had a regular 1-2 times a week sex life. We might not always start out in the mood but get naked and lay together just talking and being close to each other. More ofter than not after relaxing together one thing leads to another.

[@davidharcot220]

70?

[@msmith53]

yes, we are over 80!

[@davidharcot220]

so still having it? still happening at 80?@@msmith53

[@notvaporlocked5479]

@@davidharcot220 yes 70 (seventy). The only time I believe it’s possible is when I look in the mirror.

[@uglyvision]

That’s encouraging because my 51 year old GF works a lot and I think she’s not getting as into sex as she used to be. I’m 46, take care of myself and still want sex all the time.

[@tonynes3577]

Enlarged prostate: my father had this (including cancer). I reduce this by avoiding alcohol, coffee, tea six hours before bedtime. Do exercise and 25 min of walking daily, it will help the prostate.

[@meelvis939]

My list of what has helped me: *Mediterranean Diet *Intermittent Fasting *Yoga and Pilates *180 minutes of cardio per week *No dairy *No spicy and acidic foods *Sauna or hot bath

[@tcb5141]

Hate to disappoint you, itll happen anyways. Just a fact about us men.

[@Velo1010]

@@tcb5141absolutely correct.

[@Plasmastorm73_n5evv]

Great! What do you do if you're in a wheel chair and can't walk?

[@ToddSauve]

@@Plasmastorm73_n5evv Ask God to help you with all of the problems you have, and don't forget to thank Him for all the good things He does for you and give Him praise for life and the love of others. He _will_ help you and likely send people around who can also help and encourage you. Read your Bible, too, so you can see there were many people who were heroes and they suffered a great deal, too. I hope that is some help to you Plasmastorm!

[@cdstoc]

Dr. Malik's suggestions ring true to me. My wife and I are in our mid-60s and generally still have sex about 2 times per week. There was a period during and after menopause where it was painful for my wife and sex dropped way off. We found vaginal suppositories really helped. We also found that scheduling time works, we tend to wait until the weekends when we're both less busy and more relaxed.

[@curtisgore1611]

You make people feel comfortable talking about this stuff. Great job!

[@davidqueenann3947]

A certain amount of mismatch is normal, but... once a month is extremely low frequency. For a lot of people, once a week would be low frequency. You have to Nike your sex life and "just do it" and, yes, that means negotiate and set a schedule. And, 100% on responsive desire. If you cuddle and kiss and stroke one another and relax together it will happen.

[@notsureyou]

In this instance she is sacrificing her marriage for her job. Which is why the simple answer is if financially they can afford to do so, is to either reduce her hours / change jobs. Marriage first, jobs second.

[@BillAngler]

You are right that if you do these things it will usually happen. But not for everybody. Some people can fully lose the ability to become aroused. Diseases can cause this too, including undiagnosed diseases when the person doesn't know what is wrong with themselves.

[@mhd7832]

Ele quer que eu Mande o S da Cura pra ele . mais eu mando o Ships a Foword já tá esperando por ele 😅#

[@Shreadington]

For question 1- My wife and I came to an understanding after a discussion that we reserve bedroom fun for the weekends: Fri, Sat, and Sun. We're so busy during the week this has helped take the pressure off and give us time to look forward to. For Question 2- I'm 45. I stop drinking an hour before bed. I might wake up once if at all. Doing it Definitely made a difference.

[@BM-ww2rf]

I’ve learned so much from your videos, very straight to the point and not pushing an agenda thank you for the education!

[@darnelleley5666]

Dr. Malik is brilliant !!

[@LeviW2892w]

Good topics! My wife has gone through menopause and it was an adjustment. We schedule our sexy time about once per month. Intimacy is not always about intercourse. Though I would like actual sex more often, just being together, doing things that couples do is important . Snuggling together watching a movie, taking baths together and giving each other massages, lots of spontaneous hugs and kisses in the middle of the day. All of that and more goes a long way. I have a much stronger sex drive than she does and when we do have sex it is fantastic. We are both 70 , married over 40 years and had an extremely active sex live when we were younger despite raising kids and working a lot. Except for some of her joint issues, we are in very good health. When she is feeling good and time permits we'll block out a couple of hours during the day just for sex. We discovered a long time ago the importance of lubricants . It can definitely make the difference between a good experience or bad experience.

[@MrOgynist]

I credit Veronica that she wants to do something. Once a month (thats perilously close to sexless by definition) when he probably wants it a few times a week is a big warning flag. Your relationship could fall off the rails in many ways.

[@yurydmorales]

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:14 🛏️ *Mismatched sexual desires between partners are common, and scheduling intimate time can help alleviate pressure and foster desire.* 03:30 🚽 *Nocturia, or urinating at night, can have various causes such as overactive bladder or enlarged prostate, and may require evaluation by a urologist.* 06:59 🩺 *Pain during sex can stem from factors like inadequate lubrication, high-tone pelvic floor dysfunction, menopause-related changes, and should prompt medical evaluation.* 11:24 🍍 *While certain acidic foods like pineapple may reduce the bitterness of semen, maintaining a healthy diet and hydration level is key to optimizing its taste.*

[@peterdixon7734]

Do not drink too much tea at night just before bed. You risk long dreams about looking for toilets, and when you get there the facilities are always compromised in some way: closed early, someone has removed the bowl, there is a sheet of polythene over the bowl, the door will not open, there is a lion in the toilet, etc., etc. The brain really does not want you to ruin that mattress.

[@s.i.john16.33]

😂 "long dreams about looking for toilets" I laugh because I've had some of these myself.

[@peterdixon7734]

@@s.i.john16.33 They can go on for ages. I once had one in which I searched Bristol from east to west without success I finally found a facility in Clifton, but it was "occupied". People who do long night shifts, in particular, warn against tea-drinking too close to the end of the shift, fearing unintended consequences. I often find myself at former universities and workplaces at which corridors had multiple facilities. I recall somebody saying: "That's just a cupboard these days, mate", whereas, on other occasions, the infamous Fiend with loose bowels had visited. I will spare the reader further detail, save to say that this is the same sick person whose work is found at bus station privvies, public houses, hospitals and even art galleries. A grim comment on civilisation.

[@adiem1653]

Lol just last night I have the usual toilet dreams - always walking in to dirty public toilets in bare feet and not obviously wanting to 😢

[@prochoruschora7791]

Thank you, Doctor, for the great information 👍 👍👍

[@rocky8855]

love her membership!

[@joelalvarez2090]

If you're only sleeping with your husband once a month, I guarantee that he feels like he's in a loveless marriage.

[@Stanly-Stud]

Yeah poor dude 😮

[@Stanly-Stud]

And these women wonder why guys go elsewhere

[@chrispudd1815]

She’s probably cheating on him.

[@RobC1999]

@@chrispudd1815depends on age. During and after menopause sometimes the hormones for her get very low.

[@judd0112]

That’s a garuntee. But the imagination will goto dark places. If she’s not having it with me then she’s having it with someone else. Ir she’s got a vibrator. And there’s nothing wrong with that. But when they(she) would rather use that than you. And deny(lie) about it for long periods of time then cover caught out. It’s demoralizing. And she thinks it’s no big deal. It isn’t like cheating or whatever but it’s the lie and the stories around the lies. That cuts deep. Anyway. I consider it betrayal trauma. Sorry started venting.

[@bibolehabib]

Thanks for these great moments !!! 😊

[@rcc8347]

1:10 it bothers men. Sex once in a month is hell for most men

[@pulungnanang]

This is awesome. The topics and the way you presented.

[@jodystephenson6306]

I have found that a natural lubricant that works and smells great is organic coconut oil. Can be purchased almost any food/natural foods store. It's also a naturally moisturizer and can be used all over the body.

[@corvus1238]

Here in the UK we don't urinate in the bath, we normally use the toilet.

[@IPlayOneOnT.V.]

One of my grandfathers was born in Italy, and I love good Italian food. So, it's a good thing that no woman has told me to stop eating tomatoes, garlic, or basil. That would be a problem, and I wouldn't do it, well, not for very long anyway. Thanks, Dr. Malik.

[@curtisgore1611]

Hiting the cervix is good! LOL "ring my bell"

[@bunbee2023]

Dr. Malik, you arouse me!!

[@DvonCarr]

As a husband, it's HARD to schedule time for intimacy, when it gets at HARD at any time, I'm READY, when SHE'S not.

[@behrad9712]

Thank you so much 🙏

[@sh1nyarm0r]

Thank you

[@ManOfAdventure2011]

Dr. M. Have you done any videos on acoustic wave therapy for ED? Specifically the Duo shock treatments? Id like to hear your opinion. Thanks 🙏

[@alangreen5183]

Talk to each other before marriage about sex and be open and transparent there should be no surprises. Emotional love and sex are different. When theres love you have to work possible problems with sex out together talk talk talk

[@neobx2]

Enjoy listening to you on the Howard Stern show 👏👏

[@AniketSingh-be5gk]

I've been on a nofap for 3 months and now I am not also experiencing nightfall. Today I woke up with pain in my lower abdomen and testicles from which I got relief in an hour. I want to know whether it's a blue ball or is it a Super Saiyan transformation?

[@Oatmeal4Breakfast]

Super Saiyan transformation 😂

[@AniketSingh-be5gk]

@@Oatmeal4Breakfast 😂

[@Oatmeal4Breakfast]

@@AniketSingh-be5gk I use the nofap app. It certainly helps a lot in keeping track. I reached 95 days before I relapsed. Now I'm on day 23rd today.😀

[@hamzaarif7249]

​@@AniketSingh-be5gkHomeopathic medicine Hamamelis Virginia 1M will cure this problem

[@DaElfer]

Had to click on this just to say I don't know how KZbin thought my search for Babymetal when they were 16 years old and this would be a suggestion

[@JANEDANE-b8j]

great AMA Dr Malik! was it live?

[@chrisguli2865]

One time I had to pee badly but the bathroom was occupied so I peed into a 20 oz cup and almost filled it so 16-20 oz seems like a good estimate of bladder capacity.

[@dlbracer56]

Sex is a subject that only infuriates my "partner." Her second husband was her "soul mate. " I'm just here to pay bills and make her food. Any attempts to open "discussion " results in anger and frustration. We sleep in different rooms from one end of the house to the other. My ex-wife was willing to have children, but sex as a "recreational" pleasure was pushed away.

[@FloridaBikeVlogger]

this video was almost 20mins but mission accomplished lol

[@ghalebibrahim7553]

سلام الله عليك.good to see you and her you Dr malk

[@dgim1231]

Can you do a segment on testofen supplements and Tribulis Terrestris and their possible toxicity?

[@johnmannix8237]

Wat i think is great is she gives an unbiased answer. Agony aunts in the msm over the last 20 years wud treat any issue like this from a man-bad and woman-gud perspective...every time. The man wud be judged as doing the wrong thing. Im glad those man bashing msm days are coming to an end.

[@nigelthomas6642]

Great video

[@tomunderwood4283]

Who did the double blind placebo controlled test on the effects of pineapple?

[@gordonbrackett7220]

Is blood in the semen normal two years after uriift? I'm 78, and in pretty good health otherwise

[@JohnnyOlearain]

How do I get off Flow Max generic.? And can I replace it with low dose chalks ?

[@JJ-ps9xe]

When I go see my gf, soon as I walk thru the door, we get it on! We both live apart, and find this works for us. Always set days, and times 6 years and going.

[@judd0112]

Savor it. Trust me. Wait till it does a 180 and you are having trouble understanding why she’s tired and blah blah. That’s where imagination is a bad thing.

[@uglyvision]

@@judd0112yeah no kidding.

[@cougarcandy921]

Not bad for 70 yr. olds

[@LdAmaro71]

Why don’t you marry her?

[@fbrandt5018]

Are the acoustic wave home devices really comparable to what is available in a clinic?

[@RobC1999]

For my wife, frequency got less and less and intercourse become more and more painful. Lots of lube helped but didn’t fix it. The answer for her was estrogen cream once a week. The skin was getting so thin it would tear causing pain. She couldn’t even allow a pelvic exam. After just a few weeks the skin is returning to normal.

[@s.i.john16.33]

Hormonal treatments like that can be unsafe if the woman has certain health issues. I have a genetic blood clotting issue. That means I cannot consider any kind of hormone replacement treatment (they increase clot risk), even though I'm having symptoms of perimenopause.

[@Marvel_Polaris]

I 💖 the podcast @Rena Malik, MD 👩👍🏾🎧1/26/24

[@Plasmastorm73_n5evv]

Dame Helen Mirren revealed years ago that she and her husband scheduled time every morning for intimacy. They have been married since 1997 and are still going strong.

[@sdm.1980]

If you urinate to much at night … eat pumpkin seeds and you should improve your prostate function.

[@bigjorge863]

Pumpkin seeds are good for the explosion

[@PNWTraveler]

Daaayyyyyuuuuum! Once a month??!?!?? Please help this brother man!

[@Firsk]

It says, we have sex once a month, and it used to be once a week. It also says the husband wants sex all the time. Am I missing something, or does that not make sense?

[@CodyH88]

Just a woman that doesn't want to, probably like most other things she doesn't want to do. You're missing nothing lol But like others said, at least she acknowledged it. Better than the norm.

[@VanderbiltMr]

No, you didn’t miss anything. The husband got tired of asking and is disengaging.

[@rajendramaharaj650]

As you get older is it normal too loose a percentage of your smell

[@intsik233]

Hi Dr. Malik, I read an article which says “ejaculation” helps in preventing prostate cancer. Is this true?

[@williamcanton5825]

It might be possible that sleep apnea could have affected the ANP which could trigger the body to make more urine during the sleeping.

[@nihongo02341]

Chinese medicine!! If you want to get your sex drive back... I did a course and it increased my sesx drive and also enjoyment of sex. Highly recommend.

[@allanm8555]

What kind?

[@manzchello4752]

@@allanm8555Green Tea?

[@nihongo02341]

@@allanm8555 Acupuncture and herbs/tablets. Find a good Chinese practitioner.

[@LdAmaro71]

Interesting you mention “Chinese medicine” and refuse to mention ingredients just like those info videos to lure you in.

[@mohnnadmercedes8246]

Q1 : this is modern day living 🥲 you just been crushed by work and home responsibilities. Many times work can take too much of your time and health and you would be left with too little energy for your home.

[@iceonthesun8880]

Nocturia....never heard that term before. Interesting.

[@icysnow57cold64]

I have a question. How comfortable are most couples actually are with each other? I heard that most couples are actually shy around each other and don't like getting naked around each other, so they avoid getting naked around each other. Most couples will never be naked around each other. I heard that most couples actually are not comfortable around each other, and I heard that most couples don't actually have sex due to how shy they are around each other. Most couples are too embarrassed to be naked around each other and have sex with each other.

[@SPQRxUSAxNUSA]

For nocturia, make sure you have enough salt and potassium for the day.

[@pyenygren2299]

I comment for the algorithm. ❤ ❤ ❤

[@briandundon8215]

Very informative. Thank-you.

[@Trump145]

Thank you really love your advice keep up the Great work.

[@aliettienne2907]

12:23 Ingesting semen is wrong. Semen is not food. 7:17 This information on fixing painful sex is helpful.

[@gregorymcfarlane6879]

I could watched this woman all day she is so beautiful and I imagine she know all the things to keep her husband or Bf up all night long the aphrodisiac of love 💕

[@YMESYDT]

Dr. Malik, is there a link between ADHD and Erectile Dysfunction?

[@hamzaarif7249]

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[@aatifnawaz2662]

@Rena Malik. Can u do a review video for eroxxon stimulation gel?

[@toddjenest3212]

I would leave or get a divorce if my partner only wanted sex once a month. Once a week??? 😳😮 Yeah, fuck that.

[@umarabdulrehman3395]

Amazing

[@Verminskyi]

What do you mean a call off contract with penalty-free opt out isn't romantic?

[@F_K3NT_D]

Sex is pretty much on the table every day for me and my Wife and I but with both of us working full time jobs and 3 kids it just doesn’t always happen and that’s just how it goes

[@davidduggan5799]

I have a question about penile retraction in circumcised older men

[@godsdozer]

They are always in the mood while dating, never tired, never headache's ect. Wink Wink. Wake up men, don't waste your whole life being miserable.

[@stevegrubbs866]

I know one thing since it’s because when you are dating sometimes the female will do anything to do with sex just to hook a husband and then after they change into a new person that d😢like sex of any kind

[@BrianWolftop]

Great interactions it's the question do you get it? Have fun end enjoy life

[@geno5169]

But my wife still get’s her period! Can she get menopause? While having her period?

[@JJ-ps9xe]

Yes

[@WORKOUTSOLUTIONS]

God be with us🙏😍 ❤🔥✌👩‍❤‍👨👶💍💪🕊🙏✝GOD BLESS 🙏💒🌟👨‍👩‍👧‍👦🙌💯❤

[@brucemanni7988]

Is nocturia a urological issue?

[@TheOnlyTaps]

Great watch as always 👊🏿

[@RobertSkene-qw3ob]

20 minutes? Slam Bam Thank-you Maam or Nooner🇨🇦😄

[@carlosuribe9006]

I wish you the best outcome, because you do have a beautiful Harley now... I first hand now the love that goes it making it your own. But if the new face lift is in your future, go for it.

[@richschildgen9501]

Can you take l -arginine and horny goat weed at the same time?

[@notsureyou]

Story 1 is a very easy fix. If you can afford financially to reduce your working hours, then that is the answer. What is more important? Your job, or your marriage...... Just as men must have a good work and home life balance, So must women, And if you are too tired to have sex with your husband, because you are too tired due to work..... Then you haven't got the balance correct.

[@judd0112]

Exactly correct. I tried to convey that thought to my wife and she gets defensive when any discussion about sex and lack of is discussed. It’s always not a good time. And she doesn’t have a time to actually talk about it. I see her do lots of things and too tired for 5 minutes with husband. If you minus a certain 10 minutes from a month then we would be just good friends. And I’m having trouble adjusting. She’s going through menopause so I’m not being drastic. But if that’s the only form of intimacy I have with her then it’s important she doesn’t want to be touched (my hands are thermal apparently). So. I go as long as I can without mentioning the topic. And eventually I have a meltdown/explosion of emotions. Just a bad cycle. Sorry venting. It took me years of suggesting some hormone therapy and was met with the “should be more concerned with your own health”. So somehow she started the estradiol cream stuff. Helps hot flashes and nothing different for my situation basically. I don’t want the whole knows last relatively functional years of my life gone by being lonely. We’re both 50. I say what are you waiting for me to be in a wheelchair and then fell bad that life past by on our latter days/years who knows. I don’t think I’m crazy. But I’m told that. Wow

[@bigjorge863]

I always tell my wife to drink plenty of water

[@MKL_D]

Once a month, Veronica?

[@jimj2683]

Ugh. Planning when to have sex is so unsexy and boring.

[@rexwine]

Do you have patients with multiple spouses?

[@firozmdtamal3620]

Who’s reading the questions?

[@ninjarokitBOB]

Dr. Malik, if you have several contrations during intercourse , are each one of those contractions considered as 1 orgasm?😢

[@TexansForChrist]

Seriously? Once a month is exhausting? Good time to admit counseling is needed without delay. I'm guessing underlying problems such as living above means or extreme obesity. Not condemning but not buying the "it's his problem" monologue either

[@josull5025]

❤

[@peace_truth1471]

Since I stopped coffee my semen became sweet. So, not even Pineapple is needed! Not to mention the mental benefits that came with the absence of caffeine! One of the best things that happened to me, stopping coffee, all thanks to Scarlet fever ! 😅

[@noneedtoknow6098]

Who did the sweetness test you or Scarlet Fever ???

[@LdAmaro71]

I thank God for my new belief: Seventh Day Adventist Church. 🙏🏼

[@monstermind4286]

2 to 3 times a day is cool.

[@stephenstadtmiller8149]

Knowing that your channel is viewed lots more by males, it's tailored to address low common denominators. Just an observation.

[@james-jg8iu]

Drink room temp water

[@TP-vu3tc]

N/A

[@hassanshabir6144]

Hi dr mina i was wondering is there any drugs i can take for penis size i know viagra and cialis but is there any safe drugs to increase my penis size ps my diet is cappuccino then id Have fish sometimes chicken id also eat a few dates today i drank turmeric milk for breakfast im considering to add ginger to my diet inshallah ill get my girlfriend pregnant 😊

[@jnagarya519]

Her "pain" is rejection of sex.

[@johnwalker6420]

If the girl I met only wants sex once a month I would not continue the friendship. Even only once a week would not be enough and cause frustration and I would again move on.. Thinking a high sex drive is once a week you are naive IMO regardless of your age.

[@pakviroti3616]

Once a month is not enough.

[@cliffmorgan31]

Apples are an acidic fruit….

[@brianmatthews4149]

The wife at 67 is a dead fish and my left hand wants a divorce.