In what world would you lower your standards?

[@seangaw6429]

Translation: Understand the person first before expecting anything from that individual. If that person doesn't meet your requirements, move along and keep looking. Logic-101 based on supply and demand whoever is rare is the price that means the party thats common must adapt and submit to the one who's rare and high in demand.

[@marknaughton1849]

You said you can be confident you will be open to the best of opportunities. And when it comes to what puzzle piece fits your own, do you think you know what that looks like in another person? I'm curious about that, and this is the first video of yours I've watched. I just started making similar videos of my own, I can post a link here if you're ok with that. I look for somebody who can grow with me, so I don't have to keep taking the puzzle piece out and finding someone that fits the new shapes I discover 😄 I've found friends I can have that with, and one relationship that was close, but I know what I'm looking for now too :) Nice video; I enjoyed and relate, it helps me in my own considerations

[@tiberiuszbit6567]

🤯 Birds of a feather flock together

[@justinkaiser5589]

as ive gotten older, I agree. Why should I lower my standards? Good message.

[@rathelmmc3194]

How do you know your standards aren’t wrong or delusional? What’s your feedback mechanism to update your standards?

[@Dorothy_Fortin]

It depends on what those standards are and what category you are talking about. (ex : relationships, job offers, living situation, etc.) If you truly aren't sure, it could help to talk about those standards and desires with your friends and/or family to get their perspective on it.

[@rathelmmc3194]

​@@Dorothy_Fortin I would argue that the issue of this century is the mismatch between what people think they're worth versus what they're actually worth, and therefore their standards are too high. In the realm of relationships this manifests for men as thinking women don't provide enough value and are too physically big versus what they provide. For women this is expecting men to be too tall, too rich, and too overall successful at too young of an age. In job offers you see this in people thinking they are worth far more than they actually are because they paid too much for college. They think others make more than they actually do. They want jobs that are rarer than they realize. In living situations you see this in the lack of understanding that living standards have fallen in western countries and to expect what the Boomers got is foolhardy. This disconnect is causing mental health issues, and people are better off re-evaluating their standards realizing that we're in a different and lesser world today than the past.

[@Div_Ann]

3:38 bless u

[@Dorothy_Fortin]

Thanks

[@mikail244]

21:12 İf an offer can be tossed out that easily, and used as a secure spot to search for better ones why would anyone offer anything at all ? 21:57 Yeah it could work for you if the offer is genuine and trustworthy but what if the offer is a scam ? And what about the previous offer you accepted. People aren't manufacturing facilities so they couldn't offer the same thing to others and because of this either give worsened offers and takes worse ones or give up on offering completely. For me good offer should take account of other side too and it seems like in this video you only talked about your part. What would you do if the offer is too good to be true and exceeds your expectations by miles would you accept it ?

[@Dorothy_Fortin]

This video refers to many different things at different times. Past the 12-min mark or so, I refer to jobs offers, changing job positions, moving through your desired career path, changing life situations (changing apartments for example). Therefore, a secure job position could act as a stepping stone to get to the "higher standard" job you are looking to ascend to. The other side you are asking about would be you giving the company your time (as an employee) or rent money (as an apartment renter). When it comes to the first part of the video, the other side would be the caved-in side of your puzzle piece, like I explained. (It represents the space you can provide for others, which could be love, affection, attention, help, a listening ear, anything you want!)

[@acidityliquidity211]

your illustration with incompatible puzzle pieces sounds like an illustration of the issue with bartering, a trading practice in which people would trade one good directly for another. Bartering would exist before money would be invented. If we bartered: you had extra onions. I wanted extra onions. I had extra tomatoes. But you did not need extra tomatoes. If I offered you tomatoes for your onions, you couldn't accept the offer because you'd rather have strawberries. You might want to hold onto your extra onions until you find someone with extra strawberries and just hope he need onions. Or maybe you should just bet that the next person you see with extra strawberries needs tomatoes. In that case you should trade your extra onions for tomatoes so that you can use the tomatoes you dont actually want to get the strawberries that you do want. By now it seems that inventing money would be the way to go. I'd imagine you're not necessarily talking about a goods and services economy but rather a friendships and relationships economy. It's vague what you're referring to. Maybe I'm spot on. And when you say you want to help everybody. That's like saying you want to be a jack of all trades a become a doctor and a lawyer and a construstion worker and a school teacher and everything else....People have specialized needs that take specialized skills. When everyone works together, there is not one person that needs to be a jack of all trades. You could say, "Sorry I can't but I do know a guy."

[@Dorothy_Fortin]

Exactly! I'm referring to many different things. One of the main points is that it isn't personal to not be compatible with every relationship type, every job offer, or every opportunity in general (depending on your desires and interests). Your "jack of all trades" analogy further explains my point very well, thank you!

[@seangaw6429]

Longest analogy but makes sense. 👍