Infertility: The Hidden Struggle | Jessica Bourke

Infertility: The Hidden Struggle | Jessica Bourke | TEDxDunLaoghaire

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@piyalibanerjee9563 Жыл бұрын

We are struggling to conceive for the last 5yrs. We've tried every fertility treatments even left my jobbt resulted in 3 failed IVF cycles. I have lost all hopes and stopped socialising bcoz of blunt comments. This talk is really encouraging... ❤️

@corianderfish1999 Жыл бұрын

Sending you love energy !

@HolyPsalms103 8 ай бұрын

God bless you hun God the farther is the only one who can give children for we are his creation. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍.

@jennhernandz3912 4 жыл бұрын

I’ve had 6 miscarriages sense I was 16. I’m now 32 and still dreaming about my husband and I having a baby

@mrs.germain4911 4 жыл бұрын

It will come :-)

@kimberlymahoney8437 4 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@saimanafis2702 4 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️

@onlyjoetee 3 жыл бұрын

Maybe you’re not supposed to be a parent...

@onlyjoetee 3 жыл бұрын

@@mrs.germain4911 how do you know?

@TheIVFChapters 3 жыл бұрын

Loved this! We certainly need to be talking about infertility in schools and beyond. There is much work to be done!

@Abcaa Ай бұрын

Yes please!

@justpaddingtonbear 2 жыл бұрын

I'm someone who has endometriosis and have been trying to have my own child for a long time now. It may not be meant to be. This talk helped. ❤️

@jackieliz6809 Жыл бұрын

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@gemsxjourneyx196 Жыл бұрын

I also have endometriosis. Have you changed your diet ? That helped me and I got off the meds the doctor gave me . I’m stage 4

@HolyPsalms103 8 ай бұрын

@hussainal-yousef4668 5 жыл бұрын

7:27 "We all have hidden struggles but the real issue is our fear of jugment"

@patrickkorzeniewski6692 4 жыл бұрын

Iâ€™ve an adorable 5 year-old daughter at my age of forty-five.A West health doctormedic adviced me there was a little chance of me conceiving with my egg. The news were very disheartening, although with the *ThePregnancyFact. Com* I was able to end up a mother. I followed the directions in the formula and my reproductive condition has highly improved.

@silvagene7122 4 жыл бұрын

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@ColinFarrell-ij3bh Жыл бұрын

I have been really scared to get in to a relationship with anyone again, because i never got pregnant for 7 years till and i got cured,Thanks to Dr Okubi channel for helping me.

@logic7753 2 жыл бұрын

I just got my ticket to the early hysterectomy club. I wanted to be a mother more than anything is the world and that's gone. I don't know what to do with myself.

@anastazeea700 Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry. You deserve a chance just like everyone else. I'm so sorry your feelings in this are valid.

@HolyPsalms103 8 ай бұрын

@Asme1111-t8h 13 күн бұрын

Hope you're doing better. It's always hard to let go of an ideal. Sometimes the only way out is through.

@Betty-rl9qp 4 жыл бұрын

I'm so bitter that I was encouraged to be everything BUT a mother. It's all I ever wanted to be, but even as a former ward of the state I felt the need to complete (and go into debt) for a college degree. I'm too depressed to use that degree at this point. I'm about to be 38 soon, have had multiple miscarriages, and infertility treatments aren't working.

@lisabello9255 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Betty, you can adopt a baby and still bring a mother

@ileanagamboaflores2817 4 жыл бұрын

by of 45, I now have a gorgeous 5 year old daughter. I was informed by a fertility doctor from the West that I could not conceive with my egg. The announcements were very dispressing, although with the *ThePregnancyFact. Com* I managed to become a parent. I adopted the directions in the formula and my parental condition has highly improved. A little search with Google will help you get much information concerning this remarkable plan.?

@unagertrude9411 3 жыл бұрын

Hugs...

@alglanadiasnyman4430 2 жыл бұрын

Sending hugs 🫂

@faizahpatel4927 2 жыл бұрын

Anyone that says just adopt is talking from a privilage place. Adoption is a separate thing.Yes , you can adopt but you cant treat it thr same way.

@bionicwoman9 5 жыл бұрын

So insightful and passionately said. If only there was more people like Jessica. She’s worth her weight in gold! 😊

@patigjesik3351 4 жыл бұрын

After trying to get pregnant for 3 months, I made the decision that I would to try a different treatment. fruitfully, I gave a shot on the *ThePregnancyFact. Com* The plan is great at assisting you study your menstrual cycle and signs to discover your body`s imbalances. I’m heartening my friends to consider to plan. You could get more by visiting Google.?

@HolyPsalms103 8 ай бұрын

@LaNoire27 Жыл бұрын

I know what I'm about to write sounds crazy, but I'm glad the world is falling apart, because knowledge of what's headed our way is the only thing that helps me find comfort with infertility. Knowing I don't want to bring a child into this world...

@zuzol735 Жыл бұрын

same here

@Catina28 3 ай бұрын

Im gonna say that just avoidance. It will. One back to bite u

@albionswede Жыл бұрын

This was a lovely talk. My partner and I have been going through IVF for 2 years and I'm just nearing 40 now. I relate to so much of what she talks about, but I was thrown off a bit by her daughter talking to her about trans people. I don't understand how that relates to infertility at all. Living the life you are comfortable with requires you to have a chance at life in the first place, which is what the infertility struggle is about.

@Sarah-mg3gg Жыл бұрын

Same. I'm slightly younger than you and am currently taking a break from IVF and trying naturally. It's such a horrible thing to go through. It doesn't even seem to be a genetic thing because parents on both sides had no trouble conceiving. Whatever happens, I have faith that everything will work out for the best.

@rw9142 Жыл бұрын

She gave a great speech that was encouraging. I just didn't like the trans comment and global warming comment. Unnecessary and virtue signaling.

@HolyPsalms103 8 ай бұрын

@@Sarah-mg3gg God bless you hun God the farther is the only one who can give children for we are his creation. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍.

@onamreh 5 ай бұрын

Well the first step of a full transition is to become unable to reproduce. We think we are superior than Nature, but she will always win... But, bad diet, bad habits and now we all want to become parents at the age of 40 and after... if it is so important why one did not do it in one's 20s?

@ululupeace6957 Жыл бұрын

Instead of leaving her... can't we keep loving her,stay with her....... she's not a machine who's duty is to give birth so that our family lineage continues.... I'll still love her instead of leaving her just because due to some medical issues she can't bear baby... brothers don't leave her ..in such situations all you do to her is leaving them is not good...be with her in this tough period❤

@Lilita971 9 ай бұрын

Good for you 💚

@danijelastrauss7069 Жыл бұрын

How can I share my Infertility story on Ted Talk? I got pregnant after years of struggling, 6 IUIs, 5 IVF's, and doctors giving me less than 1% chance of getting pregnant (just because I am almost 40).... THREE months later I was pregnant..."JUST" by changing and shifting my mindset.

@Aethuviel Жыл бұрын

If changing and shifting mindset was all that it took, infertility treatments and clinics would not exist. For every story that says "we stopped stressing, and then we got pregnant", there's another that's "we were the most miserable we'd ever been, and then we got pregnant", or more importantly "we stopped stressing, and it didn't help at all", because no one mentions the stories where they changed something, and it had no result! By saying that was all it took in the end, you're basically telling the rest of us it's all in our heads, or our fault we can't get pregnant.

@danijelastrauss7069 Жыл бұрын

@@Aethuviel clinics are not going to help you if you don’t believe (shifting your mindset) that you can get pregnant.. it s hard.. I know first hand, but at the point where ‘I gave up’ (shift my mindset) I ve had nothing to lose.. what I was doing and ‘trying’ and pushing to GET what I wanted did NOT work! I was loosing myself.. and had to change my mindset.. and it happened.. But you do you ☺️

@danijelastrauss7069 Жыл бұрын

@@Aethuviel and no one is blaming you trust me ❤️

@nidhisingh4360 Жыл бұрын

@@danijelastrauss7069 plz share how your able to shift your mindset

@erinbynight 7 ай бұрын

I feel a big elephant in the room to trying to educate about fertility and fertility problems to have them more accepted and not ashamed is religion. I grew up Catholic. I have many family members that have experienced miscarriage and recurrent miscarriage, but since Catholicism prohibits IVF have never taken that path. Well, for my husband and I it was the only path to fulfill my calling to be a mother. But I can never tell my family. This led to a massive shift within myself, and I cannot justify baptizing my son into a faith that believes he should not have been created via IVF. I still field questions about when his baptism will be. I try to have patience, and tell myself it is not my job to make someone agree or support me. But I still wish I could have their support.

@Alie916 3 жыл бұрын

She had me until I found out she had a kid. People w children can’t relate..

@miriamgarcia-escritora5716 3 жыл бұрын

Same, they just don't get it :(

@dakotamabry1645 3 жыл бұрын

Took me 7 years to finally be pregnant.. I though I couldn't be pregnant

@theneedle6785 3 жыл бұрын

She can still talk about this important topic.

@winstonlesliejorr1030 3 жыл бұрын

It actually shows that she empathetic because sometimes suffering people don't have a platform to speak

@kyleighbreanne9656 3 жыл бұрын

That’s massively insulting and a toxic perspective. Imagine you get pregnant finally and someone says “Well hey now that your pregnant your struggle you had is irrelevant” that’s awful.

@jamieku513 2 жыл бұрын

This Ted Talk absolutely gave me no insight into infertility. Waste of time to listen to.

@HolyPsalms103 8 ай бұрын

@relaxingvibes5021 3 ай бұрын

Total waste of tome indeed

@radicalpotato666 2 жыл бұрын

Well said, I completely agree with the view shared, Thank you.

@HolyPsalms103 8 ай бұрын

@ahalpert 3 жыл бұрын

Surrogacy is different than a kidney donation actually. Bc unless someone is volunteering, as is the only legal option in the UK and much of Europe, there is the unjust element of wealth inequality. The only way someone would go thru sthg as life threatening as pregnancy for a stranger is bc they r too poor to afford what they need in life otherwise. This is especially immoral as surrogates are required to be mothers beforehand. So this is essentially their way of making ends meet for their families in a hyper capitalist country. U gotta ask yourself if a rich mother would do that? I haven't seen a single example to date. It's so obviously about $$

@shehzadmoosa3028 2 ай бұрын

An advocate for infertility and she has a daughter wow

@melissah1953 11 ай бұрын

This talk made me feel worse. Ivf and surrogacy is not the same as cancer treatments and you know it. Its okay if we dont want to do that. We need to value mothers and stop lying to young girls that their job is the pinnacle of fulfillment

@HolyPsalms103 8 ай бұрын

@drokonofuaherbalhome 2 жыл бұрын

I found my way back to Health the moment DR OKONOFUA took my health issues as his own burden, he cured me from infertility and gave me hope to live again. words can't express how grateful I am doc keep the good work up

@wehitextracellularidiombit4907 Жыл бұрын

People with children speaking about fertility 😂😅✨

@HolyPsalms103 8 ай бұрын

@janereich5170 Жыл бұрын

We have male factor infertility, we been ttc for 3 years I’m 26 he’s 43

@HolyPsalms103 8 ай бұрын

@maroonmaroonmaroon2985 Жыл бұрын

No one deserves infertility

@prizma45 Жыл бұрын

if she only starts having a baby in her 20s, yes she does

@Lilita971 9 ай бұрын

@@prizma45what?

@prizma45 9 ай бұрын

Account made in 2020 Girls should start in their teens @@Lilita971

@Lilita971 9 ай бұрын

@prizma45 what century do you think we're in?

@prizma45 9 ай бұрын

shut up j3w then blame your new century if you want infertility

@mdmasudurrahman4492 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks

@patrickkorzeniewski6692 4 жыл бұрын

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@fadaztumob1977 4 жыл бұрын

@drokonofuaherbalhome 2 жыл бұрын

I found my way back to Health the moment DR okonofua took my health issues as his own burden, he cured me from infertility and gave me hope to live again. words can't express how grateful I am doc keep the good work up

@lpc9929 6 ай бұрын

Scented

@rhiamarie6366 7 ай бұрын

I had 2 miscarriages when I was in my early 20s, now just turned 31 and my husband and I are still struggling with my infertility. I believe for some reason it wasn't meant for me but I cant help but feel like there's a huge chapter missing from my life and it feels so incomplete. As if I'm stuck in this chapter unable to move to the next despite how much I try. I pray anyone else struggling makes it through another day 💜🤍🙏🏻

@chinyeremary7749 2 жыл бұрын

Because of my faith I have received my healing thanks dr omoh your medicine works well on me..

@adamualiyu8648 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you doctor Edoba for the time you took to make the best herbal medication and also give me the best treatment ever. You are the best doctor and no words can describe how grateful I am.

@jeffreykobe4011 Жыл бұрын

Amazingly Dr igho Transformed my life in all Ramification. i really Appreciate you doctor for helping me Cure my infertility naturally with your super herbs and putting a pretty smile on my face, God bless you Doc.

@Asme1111-t8h 13 күн бұрын

Why cant modern women just accept life on lifes terms instead of wantimg everything and actively seeking reasons to be miserable.

@custord 4 жыл бұрын

milldog

@ileanagamboaflores2817 4 жыл бұрын

After making efforts to get pregnant for 3 months, I resolved that I need to give a shot something new. luckily, I gave a shot on the *ThePregnancyFact. Com* The plan is great at assisting you learn your periods and symptoms to detect your body`s imbalances. I am encouraging my friends to try to plan. You might get further by visiting the website

@charlo90952 Жыл бұрын

masturbation can cause infertility.

@psource2305 Жыл бұрын

And blindness.

@jades.32 Жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

@love211glife 11 ай бұрын

Is this from new research 🧐?

@onlyjoetee 3 жыл бұрын

Everyone is not supposed to be a parent, if you’re infertile just accept your fate and get on with your childless life.

@Android-ds9ie 3 жыл бұрын

Rightly said besides there is no advantage by having babies

@MusicLover-ti6zo 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, having children is expensive and the planet can no longer support more people taking up resources. Or if you want to be a parent why not adopt.

@theneedle6785 3 жыл бұрын

Said by someone who never adopted.

@bebettertoday8444 3 жыл бұрын

@@theneedle6785 exactly!

@Nothingbutdust_ 2 жыл бұрын

@@Android-ds9ie No advantage? What about having someone who would care for you in your old days, so you wouldn't feel lonely?

@xyeB Жыл бұрын

Adopt a child!

@Aethuviel Жыл бұрын

Please, you and anyone else reading, don't EVER again say "just adopt" to people experiencing infertility. You're bringing absolutely nothing to the table. Do you think they've never heard of adoption before? All of us know adoption exist, and everyone struggling with infertility must hear it suggested to us MANY times. Adoption doesn't work like "couple pops into adoption agency one day, has a background check, and comes back in for a healthy, well-adjusted newborn 6-12 months later". It's absolutely nothing like that. Read up on it, it's a long and potentially heartbreaking journey for those who choose to take it. And many of us simply don't want to adopt. We want our own. It's natural to want our own. All power to those who do end up becoming great adoptive parents, but a child should NOT be a replacement. "Oh, we tried for years to have our own, but we couldn't, so here you are, second choice". Of course no one says that, but it's the impression the child might get. You should only adopt if that's what you want REGARDLESS of your fertility. Not as an "instead of".

@maroonmaroonmaroon2985 Жыл бұрын

Not the same

@prizma45 Жыл бұрын

haha @@Aethuviel

@ladybugggggy 2 ай бұрын

Go ahead! Let us know after how that worked out for you!

@xyeB 2 ай бұрын

@@Aethuviel but having children is immoral