Intimacy | Conversations with Kanwal | Season 5 | Episode 6

In today's episode Dania talks about her intimacy from several angles - emotional, spiritual, physical through her own lived experiences.
In collaboration with British Council Pakistan.
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[@feminustani]

Great episode. Kanwal. Soo much going on in just 35 minutes. Wish we could have dramas like these. You’re also an excellent host, only guiding your guests, not intruding upon their thoughts.

[@Kanwalful]

Thank you!!! 💕💕💕💕💕

[@zaidiabeehajalal960]

Truly said

[@shaistaanayat3139]

Trueeeeee

[@feryalniazi8265]

We've sexualised even hugging and holding hands to such an extent for children, that normal gestures of affection between a married couple are seen as something unusual. This was a beautiful reminder to normalise love ❤

[@lalaland8112]

It is beautiful beyond words. I am 38 year old happily married woman and we only realise later in life, how much of our life is influenced by our upbringing. The feeling of happiness you mentioned,ki sab Sahi hai,when you see your parents happy together,is the most secure feeling in the world. Seeing my dad never raise his voice, seeing my mum having a strong say at home,led me to find a husband who treats me as equal and we always hold hands,give hugs, snuggle with eachother and our son.

[@hindi_with_harsha]

I really love how that lovely smile came to her face when she was talking about her parents intimacy and her present husband.✨ She's feeling the same intimacy which she saw between her parents ❤ I wish i could have the same in future ☺️

[@asmi5947]

Absolutely loved the episode ❤ can’t emphasise enough on how the parents’ relationship sets tone for the entire life of their kids. Thank you for bringing Dania on your show and for talking about it.

[@questoftruth2925]

This was not just about intimacy but about life lessons. You have covered so many aspects so beautifully. I'm really touched❤. Needed this kind of thoughts n guidance. Thank you for bringing this topic.

[@hh12367]

Such a beautiful episode. I grew up around so much intimacy and adoration in parents and even in my mother's aunt and her husband. My parents would hug every day and my mother was always waiting by the door for him to come home. She got the first hug and then us and I never thought it was weird. Their "love story" was the talk of the family. I called them Nana and Nano. He would serenade her at every family gathering, unkay liye gajrey le k atay that and being in their company showed me what being in love felt like. Thank you for hosting Kanwal!

[@samarmahmood5865]

Brilliant conversation. This is the kind of video that EVERYONE should see, not just in Pakistan, but all over the world. Thank you for this.

[@KitchenRoutineWithHafsa]

Wow such a bright positive soul she is MashaAllah, she spoke my heart out when she explained how kids become confident when they see parents being intimate with eachother ❤️

[@mahnoorshaikh4]

What a breakthrough! Let’s normalize these topics in the media. This makes me so happy ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Let’s normalize showing affection and letting our kids see it as a part of our day to day lives.

[@mahaminpardes5145]

I'm mesmerized about the way she touched so many different aspects and put them in the right order. This is how it should be❤

[@maryamnoor2805]

loved the way Dania came up with such an important topic and the way she explained it.. She explained it so well

[@sumayyaqayyum5537]

Beautiful episode! Apart from the healthy parenting and it's impact on her life. I love how aware she is as a person and about her internal state. Love it 💕 Thank you Kanwal Ahmed for making efforts to spread awareness regarding the topics which are so casually thrown under the rug

[@saleemamehboob7549]

Amazing episode in all the ways possible!!! Much needed! I believe this is the first time someone has taken this step to discuss intimacy in such a mature manner. So much to learn! Loving it ❤

[@hafsamansoor2456]

Just love this episode. Hope that parents in our society understand that how this intimacy is important for the mental well-being of their kids. Physical, emotional and intellectual intimacy is very important and people should understand that if they can have an argument in front of their kids then they should show intimacy as well so that their kids understands that these two things are the part of married life, it's not only the arguments that happened in married life but their is also love, their is intimacy and care as well.

[@nausheenrabbani]

Another best episode, you are breaking your own records, Kanwal. 👏 Dania you have tought many beautiful lessons to all of us. We fight within life but there is intimacy around us, which is not sexual but sense of having a safe home, a comforting partner who will be there to share your rough ride in world and give you sense of peace. Hugs to both of you strong ladies! ❤

[@sabreennoorali7233]

This! This was a much much needed episode. Thank you shedding light on this sensitive vulnerable topic which is never discussed rather discouraged. Highly appreciate ❤

[@nida19a]

Brilliant! Absolutely agree with everything Dania said. We've always made a point to show our kids how much we love each other and how normal that is.

[@ahs4099]

Great episode again. Its lovely to see how Dania got out of an abusive relationship and it was amazing to see how her family stood by her. Intimacy between parents is such a taboo word in our society and that leads to more complications further with children. Hope this episode will be the catalyst for it. BTW I loved Dania in Hubs and hope to see her more. ❤️

[@salehalaique7337]

Excellent episode Kanwal. What a difficult topic to discuss on a public forum considering how our society can react however it was tackled in such a relaxed manner. Well done Dania for taking everyone through your life’s journey as it can teach others so many positive lessons. Even when discussing a painful event in your life, you kept smiling, bravo!

[@sunduskhan3979]

I can safely say that this is one of the best episodes so far....simply loved it.....the guest described everything so beautifully....I love her attire aur Kanwal tau hain hi fav.....Hats off to the entire team ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@Maryam.Gul168]

Much needed topic... 💕 My parents are literally not talking to each other since two years.. they communicate through us; their children. I always want them to be happy with one another but they do not like to be with one another. They show everyone outside the family that every thing is okay but nothing is okay 😔They don't want to sit with one another.. they don't sit in same room even with us. we siblings are always in state of stress due to the environment of house..I literally feel suffocation even in my own house due to their behaviour. Now they have to deal with new relatives; in laws of their daughters and I don't know where will it go . I just wish I could see them happy with one another. Need prayers people.. !!

[@ridabatool5437]

Thajud parhen or Allah se dua karen

[@flower7341]

Same in our house and it is do sad and upsetting

[@BrownEperDay]

Perhaps it would be beneficial for someone to communicate to them that the option of leaving is available. It is possible that staying in the relationship is causing them to sacrifice their own happiness. They may be searching for freedom, and as Dania's Mamu or Mom did, someone should support them in pursuing what they truly desire. There is no need to continue to put on a façade for the sake of a new relationship with daughters’ in-laws or others. If they cannot find a way to move forward together, then perhaps it is best for them to part ways and follow their own paths.

[@rajan_0]

Waah! What a beautiful conversation! Only if more people thought like this.

[@sidrah7807]

Loved it! One of the best episodes. I love people like dania who have so much wisdom/life experiences/knowledge to share!

[@aineeshabbir7567]

You knw the best thing of CWK is that it's not a typical question answer wala interview. It's reaally something k apko koi apnay dil ki baat aur apni Zindagi ka aik buhaatt bara experience bhaht aasani se bata raha hai ❤❤❤❤

[@Abdullah_Dawood3579]

I just came back to comment. Beautiful episode. Have talked to husband about it. And he took it very positively. We discussed our doubts of hugging and showing affection. Very happy... May Allah bless you guys ALWAYS. Amen

[@ummaryamhamza4938]

Wow! This was great, Dania is very articulated and intelligent. She has a deep sense of human psychology and yet very charming attitude towards life❤

[@iramziad4600]

Love Love Love, how beautifully she describes intimacy. twice i watched this episode. Thank you, Kanwal, for bringing in good topics. this will be helpful for a lot of ppl

[@noveratalat]

Unbelievable how clearly and appropriately these concepts were discussed in this episode. Hats off to the whole team ❤️

[@sameennavaidhassan6518]

Everything she said in the episode resonates with me so closely. Grew up seeing the positive intimacy, moved cities, things changed, there was a void given the circumstances but things fell back in place a few years later. So happy that mom still kisses dad goodbye and dad's first hug is still reserved for mom and they are both in their mid 50s. There are always flowers and hugs after an argument happens in front of us, even to date. Can't imagine a life otherwise ❤

[@anumjadoon]

Wow thanks for sharing Dania. Your story is so inspirational. Adding to this when my husband kisses me, my son gets shy and cant see us kissing then my husband always tells him she is the one and only who i can legally kiss so you don’t have to be surprised. Now after watching i feel it is so necessary to stay this close to your partner. Thanks Kanwal 👍🏻

[@RozyKarim-wl3bm]

Worth watching every second of the episode. So much to learn and reflect on. We brown parents need to normalize intimacy to help our children learn how to develop and protect relationships. Kanwal you rock❤

[@zahranaqvi7597]

This makes my heart so happy. Shukar Alhamdulillah for people like Farhan❤️

[@Tabysid]

Love it! We always hug and hold hands infront of kids. If we can fight infront of them then why can’t we do this

[@Kanwalful]

Absolutely!

[@Umm_A_W_U]

Exactly!

[@Bee-ih7vk]

Glad this topic of intimacy was discussed. I've noticed that the newer generation couples in my family and friends are very open to being intimate with each other, privately and in front of their kids. This is because they lacked seeing emotional/physical intimacy in their households growing up and didn't want the same environment for their kids.

[@mahreenkhawaja3916]

Loved the way how dania and kanwal come up with such a nice topic. Such topics need to be come infront of media... This episode is worth watching so much to learn and reflect upon these topic❤❤

[@beenish3284]

Love this episode! It’s so so important for kids to grow up seeing their parents show love toward each other, hold hands or even flirt. I loved seeing my dad show love to my mom or my uncles being affectionate to their wives without shame. And weird creeps also only think of love and intimacy as sexual only but it’s so much more than that.

[@haleemaijaz453]

Okay, being a young adult, there is so much to learn from this conversation. Thank you, kanwal api, for educating us and bringing such topics.... ❤

[@sairaahmad7102]

This is an excellent conversation. So vulnerable and open. Many women struggle in silence and this gives hope to so many. Kuddos to this lady for her courage.

[@kulsoomtirmizi5192]

Ufff Allahhh Kanwal you have no clue how much knowledge this has given me. It has opened a new vision for me. Thanks a lot for this!!! ❤

[@Merrybakes.__]

Such beautifully explained the meaning of intimacy that I could barely think of, thank you Dania and Kanwal. Amazing episode. Loved it.🙌🏻❤️

[@alizatirmizi-dd6go]

How beautifully this has been explained. Love it❤ Kanwal you're doing a FAB JOB!!!!

[@fatimaaah936]

May Allah swt bless Dania. ❤ She has talked about a very imp topic .. and she is very eloquent and clear in her communication Ma sha Alllah. ❤

[@saharsyed79]

We need these kind of shows on tv !!!! So fed up with all the negativity thrown around on TV shows. It is said : the best gift a man can give to his children is to love their mother. This episode is a prefect example of this saying. Also gives such an important message to parents. ❤❤

[@baneenabbas953]

OMG! Best episode till date❤ I could not feel distracted or bored even just for a second🤩 Feeling motivated and very much positive after watching it❤ Thankyou Kanwal for this one😍

[@AffifaHaider]

This episode is so so sooooo good... Too much to learn as parents, as a partner or as a partner to be ❤❤❤❤ Wish if most of us 90s kids have that same kind of safe and secure home and family !! Well better late than never, i hope we now create that safe and sound environment for our kids.

[@AyeshaAmjad]

Very well explained. Parents support is always a blessing no matter whatever decision you are taking in your life.

[@BrownEperDay]

WOW ❕ ❤ My partner and I have been married for 24 years and have experienced all types of intimacy that Dania discussed, though we were not aware of the specific terms until now. These include affectional, emotional, social, intellectual, physical and spiritual intimacy. While our sexual intimacy has evolved over time and grown in the past 10 years only but was never missed. Since we have found contentment in the other forms of connection that we share. We believe that each type of intimacy takes its own turn, and by indulging in all of them, we appreciate the depth of our togetherness. Any ups and downs of life and kids' nurturing becomes so smooth when all is well and beautiful between the partners. The CWK team and Dania's discussions on this topic have been enlightening, and we are grateful for their efforts in raising awareness about the different forms of intimacy. ❤

[@anilaafridi1020]

A much needed discussion and conversation which needs to be discussed and taught in families.

[@munazashahid7325]

thank you so much. i recently discovered you show & im so happy to know that we have a platform to hear such encouraging stories. thank you for this 💓

[@razauroojur]

What a wonderful episode. What an excellent women Dania is . Cannot believe we can so open minded about relationships in Pakistan. I am so impressed and happy to see the mind set. I am so impressed that she didn't settle easily , she took her time , she was openly talking about trying out few relationships before she could find the right person . ❤❤❤❤

[@munazzaahmed6694]

A breath of fresh air! This intelligent lady surely knows how to be introspective, how to find positivity in tough situations, how to give her all to grow & nurture relationships, how to analyze & give credit where it belongs, how to express herself, but most of all, I am impressed by her strength & bravery. Kudos to her parents, but also to her for being so resilient & giving life a chance. She’s given me a lot to think about. And I am sure there are different aspects of her interview that will resonate with scores of people. There is much more in this than kinds of intimacy, there are so many life lessons to be learnt here. Thank you for another amazing episode, Conversations with Kanwal… your team is just phenomenal!!!

[@munazzaahmed6694]

#sspsquad

[@saniasaeed4010]

Beautifully explained the right meaning of Intimacy!! Loved the episode.

[@afsheenmerchant8583]

Excellent and much needed episode. I hope society understands that this is very much normal human thing to express love in different ways. Thanku Kanwal for bringing up such an amazing thing. ❤

[@maryamkhawar5941]

Zabardast topic...the topic that is considered to be a taboo to discuss rather showing is a crime in our society...and i love the word INTELLECTUAL INTIMACY....what a brilliant choice of words n terms used by Dania...and that brings EMOTIONAL INTIMACY for the kids...how important it is to make it part of our life to uphold n maintain our psychological wellbeing....it's not about SEX...it's about how much you love each other, respect each other n give space to each other, in every single moment, in every ups n downs....HATS OFF to you Kanwal n Dania...you opened many eyes...THANKFUL ❤

[@madihayasir5807]

Kanwal,this episode is superbbbbb,heart warming.positivity all around. I would love to see people intelligently intimate not only around their kids but in the society as well. Our society needs to see positive relationship vibes between couples❤.our world will be full of positive stories instead of abusive ones😔

[@tayyabmalik4570]

I love this episode ❤❤ Each and everything said by Dania is amazing ❤

[@RIDS2011]

Beautiful conversation ♥️♥️♥️ All parents should watch it.

[@humeyraamir8310]

Made me tear up because I've never seen any intimacy between my parents just fighting fighting fighting 😭

[@raibilal2806]

Thanks Kanwal for hosting Dania for discussion on such an important topic of intimacy.

[@tubakhan5865]

Perfecto.... ❤..... Happy ending is the best part ... May Allah keep you guys happy hamesha... Ameen ... Very philosophical topic but again relatable... Basically the life and relationship of mother and father becomes a dream world for all kids... I feel sad for my daughter for not able to see such thing but for 9 year old I make sure she had the best time of her life without the important people around which is difficult for me but I know nothing is impossible and one day she can build a dream castle like me.... InshAllah

[@najamsehar203]

this is so true.. when kids saw such intimacy in parents they grow up more confident human being

[@NomadeMedic]

This is such a beautiful topic. And much needed discussion and conversation which needs to be discussed and taught is families. I feel the lack of this is so much prevalent in our society and it’s so sad.

[@ayeshakhalid7642]

Really enjoyed the episode.....there are 2 parts to her conversation that will have impact on the society.....1 educating people on intimacy with in the household and the positive affects it has on the child and how the relationship between the parents become an anchor for the child for life.... 2, the second aspect of the conversation holding affect on society and the way people normalise certain things is, educating people on pre-marital relationships....this convo normalises pre-marital relationship in society. On her part, done innocently to protect herself from landing into a bad relationship..but when spoken on platforms,takes up a shape of endorsment , even when done undelibrately....its her story and a brave one indeed, but as with everything else in life, must be seen through the lense of God before we allow it to become an deep, integral part of ourselves.

[@dr.hijabi]

mashaAllah ♥️ she is too good to communicate with nd so strong she is, mashaAllah ♥️ really her teachings from her parents is shown from her side, brilliant conversation, hats off to both of you

[@nadiauttanwalla7378]

Love it thank you for discussing intimacy right way and explained well too❤

[@miralfatima]

Beautiful interaction between you two. There's need for more of such discourse and more acceptance Of such discussions happening and also loved the different aspects of intimacy ...sexual..physical and intellectual

[@rubanakhan3786]

She is such a good actress and so intelligent also. How simply she explained everything in such a nice way. It is very important for our society to know that.

[@naimazaidi4086]

Absolutely loved watching the episode, the word intimacy is described in such a positive manner. Kanwal you are such a wonderful host, just keeep it up. Keep going! ❤️

[@mummyssecretrecipes833]

Amazing Episode ❤️❤️❤️ really need this topic to be discussed 😍 Great effort 💕💕

[@user-ol3fb7te4y]

It's so nice to listen to a woman talking about her life unapologetically. Great discussion.

[@khanroopa]

This was a very interesting segment. Kanwal, appreciate your choice of topics and how you smoothly guide the participant. I hope this video helps your listeners.

[@saniyatanveer4657]

Amazing 👏 another tabbo topic . The way u guys convey msg ❤

[@toobakhayal1009]

The best it was! So comforting and positive!

[@shumizee]

Great episode…loved watching every minute of it..keep up the great work 👍🏻☺️

[@hanniyaasif3629]

Such a beautiful way in which Dania narrates. Got me hooked! Khush raho hmesha! 💞

[@sanawaheed3549]

Very beautifully explained the term intimacy n its different types. Brilliant episode 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@ummarahussain3190]

Amazing, very well explained, I am literally speechless ❤❤❤ I also love Dania anwer😘😘😘 and after this episode I am proud to be her fan 💗💗💗

[@sarahkhan4470]

Awesome information about different forms of intimacy! Thank you.

[@SA-wu7yc]

Woah woah woah 🤩. What a lovely episode! #Dania you are so cute and so genuine when you speak. The way you explained types of intimacy and it's importance in day to day life for a kid specially is commendable. Thank you #Kanwal for bringing all type of topics who we never hear about in our usual life. Sending alot of powers to both of you, ladies!

[@binakhan3014]

Love this conversation... much needed to discuss n make it normalize

[@saharfatima8779]

Intimacy best explained especially for this society We need a change and be the change👏👏💕

[@shireenjamal5731]

This is such a beautiful interview. Everyone needs to see this one!

[@artventure.of.roya131]

Incredible oratory skills, very satisfying... elabrated each subject with clear conversation and facts.... Just amazed by her way of talking and choose over using the right appropriate words....

[@zuhataj7460]

What an amazing episode ❤ Dania was so articulate in her thoughts!

[@drravneetbedi4684]

This is a very unusual topic but a very beautifully explained topic , building the right connect and developing a right perspective.. really like your work … topic without borders and nationality ❤️❤️

[@languagebuilders]

Great great great! #soulsisters #women We are making this world lovable and livable for women!

[@anilaiqbal1888]

Ufff. It's so amazing.. she explained intimacy very well❤

[@HiraSaqib]

Beautiful episode as usual. Well define the word "Intimacy" that what it actually is. It's very important for the parents to set an example for their kids on how to behave with their partners ?

[@hussainsplayhouse7140]

I am from canada. But i want this show k urdu mai hona chahiye. Becuz bohat c aisi khwateen hien jo motivate hoti hien in shows sy including myself . @conversation with kanwal . Thanks

[@fazylashaykh5323]

I've always seen my parents so so loving with eachother. That is exactly my goal for my marriage too. I always say that infront of a kid what parents do, matters alot. Even the tiniest things. Hum bachon ke samnay larh lety hayn as a couple or kia kia baateyn nikal dety hayn munh say but pyaar kerna itna bara taboo hay. Itna positive impact jaata hay on a child's mind if they see their parents being affectionate to eachother. May God help us to potray a positive and full of love relationship infront of our kids SPECIALLY. Aamen. I really loved this episode. 🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍

[@drnazrananawaz6932]

Very well said.....very well made ! Many congrats sweetest Kanwal for such huge steps and success . Love you ❣️

[@ridaabdulrauf1195]

Best episode of this season so far❤

[@nialishkhan1260]

Such an amazing episode, people needs to learn this❤ I have seen my parents at some moments being intimate infront of us and that is what make us feel best! Everyone praises them as a best and beautiful couple. MaShaaAllah! ❤

[@asmabintashfaq8402]

MashAllah ❤

[@sobiakazmi3631]

What an out of the blue yet important and interesting topic. ❤

[@mehwishjameel6738]

What a positive message conveyed through this episode .Our households need to be worked upon to provide congenial atmosphere to all the family members

[@komalmaqbool1505]

What a great episode ❤❤❤

[@Ayshatauha]

This episode actually elucidation of my childhood where you don't know about Intomavy except "Sexual" but as of I'm married my chemistry with my husband is same she mentioned we understand real meaning of Intimacy. May Allah SWT bless us those people who value us.

[@farihafurqan6028]

Love you Dania appi so proud of you ❤ LOVE THIS EPISODE so badly needed in our society

[@akhilanarina1345]

The way Dania's story began and the way it took off in the video is so amazing and an eye opener that flip side of everything exists and its important to embrace all of what life shows and keep growing through them....The explanation of intimacy is so educative....! Loved the perspective and thoughts.... Thank u so much for bringing this forward ❤🎉