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[@mariepeglow8992]

I really hate explaining stuff to people, and I have no patience for incompetence.

[@BadButNotSad]

+Marie Peglow I love explaining things to people, but hate to explain it a second time after they should have understood it.

[@yasminpaterson2894]

same

[@rayva1]

Are you kidding? I love explaining stuff to ppl, but I don't have patience for incompetence, and when I find myself in a position of incompetence. I simply walk away and find something that I could be better at. :-)

[@adityamalhotra8702]

You are not alone buddy, I just can't stand stupid people, not for more than 5 minutes

[@Nav3n]

Marie Peglow same here. I can’t deal with incompetence or people who speak (in a business setting no less!) from a place of emotion, instead of from a place of logic

[@jayaws86]

being a intj is a real pain in the ass. to me its like everyone around me is living in the matrix and i was one of the few that took the red pill.

[@marisakennedy777]

Yep, I feel that way exactly. I even use the same analogy. I think because of how INTJs think, my worldview system is also very different (specifically because of perspectives shifting). I look at the possibilities and say "why not?" And then I look at the opposite side and say "What works?" Or I'll imagine what will be, and then find out what is. For example, I'm writing a story. I brainstorm in my mind a million ideas, the sky is the limit. But then I go through them and choose what ideas to actually use. Or I'll ponder the universe and wonder what could be, and then I will search it out to prove what the universe actually is. I don't get stuck in the possibilities or imagining section, but I don't make a decision, or decide what is, until I've gone and looked though the possibilities and the reality. Once I make a decision or decide on a fact, I continue to test it in light of new evidence/possibilities. But on top of that, there is a second layer that complicates that simple process. Reality is connected, and sometimes things are hard to prove. In those cases especially I come up with multiple possible worldviews and look to see which fits all the possible facts. I pay particular attention to anomalies, as these are usually where you can prove one set of connected possible facts to be true or false. That is, if you know something to be true, but it doesn't seem to fit the rest of the picture, digging deeper at that point helps you to find answers. And to complicate things even farther, I take it to the next level. I don't toss out a worldview just because I think it's wrong. Nor do I forget things that I've learned to be wrong. When those wrong concepts are used to promote a certain worldview, it is important to keep it in place so that you can understand how the lies are connected and orchestrated, and so that you know and understand how others make their decisions based off of lies. I keep a library of worldviews in my mind to understand what others see and to continue to check the worldviews to make sure that they are in fact not worldviews based in reality. Based on everything I have proven to myself of reality, my current worldview that I base my actions on is the one I have found to explain and contain all the proven facts. But it's always up for re-analyzing and it's always under construction, because I know I don't know everything, and because many things are difficult to prove true with 100% certainty. Yet, you know you're on the right track, at the very least in some part(s) of a worldview, if the more you learn, the more it makes sense. And every time I spot an anomaly, it's time to go digging again.

[@rainzaontoheaven8537]

+Marisa Kennedy yep, it's true. Even though I have many ideas inside my mind, I have problem when use it in the reality.

[@samsung11111]

jayaws86 lol yeah true man but being able to get into people's perspectives gives us an advantage for establishing good rapport, I've always knew and have always had the ability to convince and persuade people with ease. The only problem is there are so many people you can't change, it's impossible to change the entire world unless you had the possibility of controlling the media, which is hijacked by alien controlled puppets lol. Then again I'm easygoing and being Muslim my attitude is integrated and aligned with an Islamic perspective making things easier. There is a higher good and god does not punish without a warrantable reason. God is merciful and universal and no persons deeds are gone without merit, wether Jew Muslim Christian Hindu Buddha or atheist, whatever you are god is just and loves those who are just.

[@CharroseKing]

Being an INTJ is an amazing thing. It's everyone else who's a pain in the ass. LoL kidding... kind of, not really. I get extremely frustrated on a regular basis when I feel like others cannot see such obvious patterns in behavior--either their own behavior or society in general or whatever. It makes me not want to go outside my apartment much of the time. To calm myself, I remind myself that it's probably just my INTJ-ness, the world is not getting dumber (so I lie to myself), and things will be fine.

[@marisakennedy777]

Charrose King So true, makes me wonder what the world would be like if it was divided into personality "factions" like the factions in the movie Divergent.

[@mishtaromaniello8295]

One of our biggest fears as INTJ's is someone else planning our lives for us. We know what the hell it is we should be doing in life, we can not let people ruin the vision we picture in our little aloof minds.

[@MMtnzs]

Mishta Romaniello Damn right.

[@rh5340]

As a Chinese INTJ, the Chinese family culture is killing me. My parents have been involved in almost every choice of my life, eventually, it leads me to a chaotic situation in which I am not sure how to make compromises.

[@r.t.hannah9575]

@Whatisthisrn Same.

[@btsismylifeline9194]

As an Indian INTJ, i fucking hate my life I can't take any single decision of my life cuz of my parents. The worst thing is that they are planning for my future while I already planned everything for myself when i was a child

[@masayukitachibana2756]

And people messing with our plan. Really. GET. IN. LINE.

[@TechCareerNow]

Stop telling people I have feelings.

[@sherlyn.a]

AnimusAeternus 😂

[@prescotts.3235]

Yeah, as soon as I heard her tell everyone the location of our achilles-heel, I was like "nooooooo."

[@jonathanberry9502]

Shhhhh, that's private!

[@whocares5584]

Exactly what I thought

[@Scoring57]

AnimusAeternus You mean stop telling people you're possibly sensitive? Ha ha

[@Lovinnnnnn]

Yes, INTJ's are very sensitive. And we don't want others to know that unless we trust someone completely.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Simona Petrauskyte Thanks for the feedback and comment.

[@Scoring57]

Simona Petrauskyte Why would you tell people this....

[@jordanl146]

@@Scoring57 Because knowledge invites change, I think. Also, there is anonymity on the internet.

[@brianshannon7272]

Because if we don't trust them they'll use it against us with all vunerability.

[@krishnaprashanth2478]

True 100% 💛😊

[@BakedCd]

Another INTJ secret from an INTJ: The biggest factor that ever held me back is self doubt, or a fear of failure. I've struggled with this for a while, only recently have I began to "spread my wings" in a sense.

[@joelmarkwitt]

BakedCd Thanks for the advice.

[@miamontgomery5256]

BakedCd so true.

[@mariacamilleanneestonio2382]

Yeah seriously until now fear of failure has always held me back from risking and trying new things which I can't have enough control of, you know, being in a situatio where you don't have any idea to begin with sounds a little scary for me. The feeling of disappointment for me and for other people because of failure is the biggest fear i have,

[@TheDistortion93]

Frost I see this as a strength: If i take my ideas/points/arguments apart harder, than anyone else (most likely) would, over and over again, then none of the usual idiots is even able to scratch any of my arguments. Same with everything else.

[@Joyosagsm]

Frost Me too. Us INTJ's are (generally) perfectionist, and the biggest thing I'm afraid of is to fail myself. Towards other I'm pretty self-confident

[@MURDR63]

INTJ here. I've always struggled with explaining to people how my perspective shifts work. When debating, I've already thoroughly thought about and discarded almost any and all counter-arguments that could be presented. Most consider me closed-minded, without realizing that it took in-depth and meticulous analyzing of all perspectives to arrive at my current conclusion.

[@SneakCritical]

So true.

[@roserivera4087]

+MURDR63 Exactly! And at the same time I LOVE when I'm in a conversation with someone and they actually do have a NEW perspective on a topic that I hadn't thought of before. OMG it's like a huge present - even when I might actually disagree with the new information. Just the fact that they presented me with an idea, POV, etc that I missed is AWESOME. :)

[@Dryllz]

+MURDR63 I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL! Although when I know someone who is talking about their topic of expertise I tend to shut up and not say a word. Very disrespectful to say anything to and expert in a topic when you do not know anything about it!

[@MURDR63]

Dayan Yamin Well, being an "expert" according to whom?

[@Dryllz]

+MURDR63 Well expert can be very subjective. I have, with work, come to trust my instincts as they usually prove themselves right. I guess it is up for the individual's jugdement to decipher is that person is qualified to be an expert or not in the field. I mean a Ph.D does not necessarily make you better than someone who does not have one, or prove that you are right in a sense. I like to catalog the people I would consider expert or not, and come to find that it is really common for us INTJ's to so very well.

[@markj6302]

i'm an INTJ and don't like you telling everyone that we have emotion. its fine for you to continue calling us masterminds, though...

[@jasoncg2956]

THIS GUY. HE HAS FEELINGS. RIGHT HERE!

[@Thedreamer9999910]

Jason Gildersleeve My ass has more emotion than my heart ....

[@KAYRRIEK]

Lol that’s right!

[@ethanlocke3604]

Mark J facts, they’re making it more difficult

[@Real-1]

As an intj this is cringe

[@Dubbadizzo86]

As an INTJ I can postulate that the hosts are most likely attempting to stroke the INTJ's ego by equating our personalities with brilliant intelligence. Also as an INTJ, I don't mind. I don't mind at all.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Dubbadizzo86 Well put. :-)

[@UnknownXV]

+Dubbadizzo86 Statistically, INTJs are by far the most likely to be members of MENSA. It is the personality type most often associated with academic genius. Not always, mind you. But often.

[@movierescoring1984]

I cannot stop laughing at the accuracy you have brought to life.

[@mitchj.2357]

Unfortunately, I'm probably one of the small sector of INTJs who has an average IQ, which was the reason why I resisted typing myself as INTJ for the longest time because INTJs are usually stereotyped as geniuses and well... I'm obviously not one. Frustrating, because there is so much I want to do but just can't.

[@JR-yj8ig]

Mitch Johnson you are not defined by their numbers.

[@asaldana64]

As an INTJ, why cant people just understand that 95% of the time we are right and have the best idea.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Hannabal Thanks for the comment. Try showing the idea through action rather than just conceptually. If it is put into an external frame people will obviously see the value and you will grow your personality at the same time.

[@EclipseStar]

I guess it's our own 'problem' also that we get lazy in arguing an idea once we've presented the facts and people don't see it like that... Immensly frustrating right? :p

[@robertedmonson6825]

Right? I keep telling my friends over and over I'm usually correct. I'm joking when I say it... but Im also not joking at the same time... 🤣 The fun thing about being an INTJ is also being a walking contradiction. 😁

[@GoogleIsAPieceOfShit2023]

I’m an INTG and a Virgo. That number in my case is 98%.

[@count7340]

@@EclipseStar So true. Many times at work l've muttered to myself, 'Well, if you're not smart enough to listen to understand, l won't explain it again.'

[@TheSwordfish-g3r]

It is excruciatingly painfful to explain things that make perfect sense in my head to other people. I feel you fellow INTJs

[@joelmarkwitt]

TheSwordfish97 Thanks for the comment.

[@weienkhor1763]

Preach.

[@sopeshallsurvivetheapocaly7324]

When people ask you how you come up with something and you explain because you just did.

[@toakens710]

That's why i hated homework in school. I always scored 100%s on the exams but never did any homework so my grades slipped

[@gordonbarnes3541]

I can explain things fine in writing. It's one of the things that makes me want to be an author. But get me talking to you in person and you'll hear me struggling like crazy to put words to my thoughts. It's frustrates me and it frustrates those I talk to. 😁

[@facepalmjesus1608]

50% of my daytime is walking around the house and talking to myself...... is that normal?

[@johnnyllooddte3415]

no it should be closer to 75%

[@novanightingayl2421]

Sometimes we need an expert opinion!

[@williamredtail9564]

I thought I was the only one

[@isaaclosh8082]

Nope, you're a psycho

[@madeinhell5100]

90% of my life

[@matunam250]

I'm an ENFP and i think i would have to say, my favorite type is intj, i just love the way the function, that mystic, prophetic nature, mixed with the drive and efficiency and yet at the same time they have a warm center, that's just hard to reach, very warm center. i love their sense of individuality and self relying independence.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Thanks Matuvo Namiikaze for sharing. I like INTJs too.

[@Jazeraca]

Hey thanks. It's nice to not hear how awful and robotic we are all the time.

[@matunam250]

Jazeraca yw, you should put on a profile pic, i think that might help! ^^

[@matunam250]

IntrovertedSkorpyo no, extroverted Sensors,(not necessarily Se types) are often uninterested in you because everything you represent cannot be seen in a sensory way. (Ni) an intj will probably look boring to a sensor with a very feeble intuition base. enfps are as far from intjs as any intuitive type can be, and intjs are the natural friend/partner match for enfps. you guys are Very interesting, even if, just a wee bit cold^^ i love intjs. especially the women.

[@matunam250]

IntrovertedSkorpyo wow :D *clap clap* that was awesome, wish i coukld express myself like that^ why you type tthe text like that though?

[@PotterMarauder]

When you talked about how it's draining for the INTJ to explain things, that was a perfect way to describe it. I've never heard it explained that way but it makes complete sense. I often forego explaining my thoughts to people because ideas are like a huge whirling cloud in my mind that makes complete sense to me, but it's difficult to coherently describe to others. You want to know how Speech class went for me in college? Yeah, not great XD

[@joelmarkwitt]

Thanks again KimPossible for this feedback. I think a slight nuance to what we were saying would be this... It's my opinion that INTJs aren't bad at articulating. It's more that they don't want to take the time to talk to (what they might perceive as) lazy/surface thinkers. So it's a matter of energy management. If I will intellectually meet the INTJ halfway - they are more likely willing to talk with me about deep issues. If I am just a surface thinker - it's too exhausting for the INTJ to spend time teaching me the basics so I can spar with them at a high level. EXAMPLE: It's like the INTJ is speaking in algebra equations. If I can "speak algebra" ... awesome. Me and the INTJ can have a great/productive conversation. But - if I'm still stuck on the basics of addition - subtraction - multiplication and division I won't be able to speak with them at the algebra equation level. So they have three choices: 1) Not engage (low energy expense) 2) Teach me algebra so I can engage at that level (high energy expense) 3) Break down the algebra equations to a level that a person only knowing the basics of math can understand (also high energy expense) My guess is that most INTJs don't want to spend the kind of energy in option #2 and #3. What's in it for them to do this? So they opt for option #1. Anyway - that's my personal take. Love to hear your feedback.

[@snaustin88]

Joel Mark Witt I think the problem with INTJs is that we too often take for granted ideas, that we consider to be simple and obvious truths, and create larger and more complicated concepts. After a while, you just kind of assume that everyone else agrees with these ideas. However, when you do come across someone who doesn't understand one of your thoughts, (at least for me) you can't necessarily remember specific details that lead you to your conclusions in the first place. That being said, I think both of you are entirely correct.

[@eliaslawrence]

To the above: Im intj and let me put this in simple terms: i just dont have patience for stupid people. I only like talking to intellectual or deep people.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Hi Shannon Austin - thanks for the comment. I think you bring up a great point. When using your intuition as an INTJ you come to conclusions and can't even remember the original premise. Then some non INTJ comes along and wants to challenge the basic assumptions of your idea - but that was vetted and decided upon so long ago it can seem frustrating to have to re-visit. Is that what you are saying? If so - this is really great stuff. Thanks.

[@rachelicq]

KimPossible all you need to do is practice extrovert trait, it is a whole new world to you, drain and cranky at first but after 6 months of practice you will feel much happier and will glad that you have done it. (of course with lots of analysis, support, fulfilling your other needs too). you need to make lots of different effort and persist. I think it is healthier if able to be able to know when to be extrovert and when to be introvert.

[@randyandretti]

This is so accurate it's scary.

[@georget.khumalo4365]

i literally had tears running down my face. Could't believe the Accuracy.

[@fai8t]

said no intj ever lol

[@noellemoore9405]

Same here....more like my heart is racing

[@ecst4se]

good to know there are other human-gods

[@unholymethod]

I recently discovered that i'm an INTJ, and it's been so incredibly insightful.

[@ajmalibrahim8115]

me too..

[@Hassanov.a]

So true.

[@rayva1]

Everything in this video is on-spot.

[@PHJoelMarkWitt]

Thanks for the feedback. Glad it resonates.

[@hainleysimpson1507]

Is this part of the reason why you have red pentagram as your profile pic. Do we need to talk my fellow INTJ kin? A shoulder to cry on?

[@munhl]

As an INTJ, yes it can be draining explaining to someone why they should do it your way, which will yield long-term benefits, and eventually if it doesn't sink in, you write the person off.

[@soulkiller3]

Mungo Lewis i ended up arguing with my supervisor on why the work project should be done my way. I ended up just doing it my way behind her back and we now do it my way, seeing the results where better and it tuck 1/4 the time. Very annoying but i know am also useless at explaining things.

[@munhl]

Yes that's typical INTJ behaviour, when we see a way of improving something, we often, in the end go ahead and make those changes ourselves regardless of who put the initial system in place, even if it was a superior.

[@micahk8052]

Mungo Lewis I'm INTP (with aspects of J) and I love explaining things to people! I think I'm a P when it's useful and a J when it's useful. In any case I don't understand people or emotions very well, but I'm drawn to understand them as if it were a tangible substance or something anyway. Boy do I hate small talk. I loathe it.

[@allyciphers492]

Mungo Lewis As an infj, I understand them, i just don't understand why most think their opinion is the right opinion and feelings do not matter.

[@munhl]

Ally Ciphers "I understand them, I just don't understand" going forward don't write this. It's not most INTJs it will be all that give their opinion are right, there are a lot of processes the INTJ mind goes through before they give their opinion. INTJs do doubt themselves, so if there is a gap in their knowledge, they will do more research etc. before expressing that opinion, so you are unlikely to see that doubt; unless of course you're the one that can fill in that gap in their knowledge.

[@Zenparticle]

Explaining things to people who don't want to try to understand is draining. I stop once I notice they don't really care. Usually I will never try to explain anything in depth with a person like that again. I enjoyed this video and agree with your analysis.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Zenparticle Thanks for the comment.

[@dewimaheswari8509]

Zenparticle I agree with you completely. The worst part is that the number of those types of people are massive. Almost all the people around me are like that. Too fixed to their own perspective and when i tried to explain the many possible existing perspectives they think that i was too dominant and talked too much, some even claimed me as arrogant. I guess I just don't understand people that much..hmm

[@Zenparticle]

It's like a fire or passion that fuels words as they run through the brain, into the chest and out in words. It's not aimed at those around me but at the ideas or subject of discussion. It's hard to remember that other people may not know it's just the way I explain things when I feel strongly about the subject. I give an impression of being upset,arrogant or getting emotionally worked up, but it's the farthest thing from the truth. I find when people start feeling this way, if I simply stop to insure them that's not the case, and let them know it's just the way I am, it usually solves the problem.

[@DrVein]

What irks me is when they insist that they're interested in knowing something but continuously get bored and distracted.

[@Bgrosz1]

"I stop once I notice they don't really care" I will keep trying for anyone in my inner circle. For anyone outside of my inner circle, it's one strike and done.

[@MrHejke]

Revealing secrets like that should be treated as crimes against humanity. Greetings from INTJ...

[@Bgrosz1]

Prosecutor: "You have clearly committed crimes against humanity against my client. I will now show this conclusively..." Judge: "That was a very convincing argument. What is your defense?" Defense: "The prosecutor's client is an INTJ, not a human!" Judge: "Case dismissed"

[@GeorgeMatheisMCS]

The hardest thing for me is letting close friends and loved ones do things for themselves and make mistakes because they failed to take my adivice. Not based on what I thought would happen, but what I knew would happen.

[@fastbirdsc94]

That struggling is real.

[@DrVein]

When I was younger it would aggravate me. Now I just watch them do it and try not to say, "I told you so" because tell them I certainly did.

[@Bgrosz1]

@@DrVein , Exactly. At some point you realize people are going to do what they are going to do. Give them advice and let them take it or not. The smarter ones realize over time that your advice is useful and will start taking it to some degree at least. For the others I just stop giving advice and watch the completely predictable events play out. If they complain, I either ignore it or chime in with "of course it happened that way, here is why..."

[@suzywilson1649]

I am an ENTJ and ***I LOVE*** INTJ's! To be invited into their inner sanctum is a space that I cherish and bask in. I do my best to nurture their high frequency thinking and extraordinary mind. They are an indulgence and a necessary luxury in my life.

[@grafficconcepts9029]

Hello Suzy, I am an intj.

[@suzywilson1649]

Hi INTJ I'm ENTJ. I prefer straight forward INTJ's. I don't do cryptic.

[@grafficconcepts9029]

What the fuck is the difference?

[@grafficconcepts9029]

nah bro cant say i have ever dated one. Have you?

[@grafficconcepts9029]

I'm new to Myer Briggs as of the beginning of the year but I can't even associate one person i have met in my life to being an intj. I want to meet one as I think this may give me a better understanding as to how i am perceived by others

[@MyThomas21]

Coming to you live from the INTJ inner sanctum: I'm going to have to completely agree with this overview of our personality type. I'm not completely sure that I've ever come into close personal contact with an INTJ, and because of this, daily interactions with other surface leveled personalities can be quite frustrating. I am quite the debater, due to the constant game of "perspective analysis" that I play. People don't understand that in order to come to any real opinion, I have gone through an arduous process of self scrutiny and brain picking. The mind of an INTJ can be a wonderfully lonely place. I feel like I've been given a gift.

[@jcarey1983]

a very lonely place.

[@georget.khumalo4365]

We're a Special breed Thomy.

[@adapv9584]

You are absolutely right! The thing you said about formulating opinions totally rings a bell to me and that's why I literally can't stand people who shape their opinion just by hearing sth from another one or seeing it on the internet BUT WITHOUT THEM SEARCHING ABOUT IT.ugh.. also , you are right about it being a gift. Our minds are unique and although they can get a bit chaotic they are really different from the others

[@Scoring57]

Thomas Sydney Gissler Mmm, gift sounds like a little too much. Exaggerated?

[@SaravanjaSteele]

I was so incredibly lonely. I am really close to a couple of INFJ's, but sometimes their F overwhelms me. When I met my husband, an INTP, it was amazing. He's the one person who can challenge my well thought out opinions in a way that makes me want to revisit the analysis. And we can sit in a room together for hours and be totally alone. And as we all know, alone is very different from lonely.

[@robsvideomaker]

I'm a female INTJ and this is really accurate, especially when you talk about how sensitive we are. It's so true.. infact I personally tend to keep so many walls between me and the rest of people, even friends because it happened before that i got really hurt and it still hurts sometimes. I think we are seen as these cold people but actually we feel so deeply when we truly care about someone.

[@hainleysimpson1507]

Don't worry my sweat just know you make up 0.8% of the global population and you are a very unique snowflake, be unafraid and unashamed to be your beautiful self.

[@laurasusanne3558]

My husband and I are both INTJ’s. We have a hard time explaining our ideas to others, but understand each other completely.

[@14EspanaNS88]

As someone who just recently found out that they're an INTJ, I found this video to be extremely relevant and relatable. It really resonated with my own experiences. I thought it was just me who did many of these things: constant mental analysis, always simulating potential discussions/debates in my mind, and piecing together concepts/conclusions based on previously gathered information. Explaining things to (simple) people is always annoying, especially if I feel like I need to justify myself to them. I feel super drained after spending too much time with others (especially if I was "acting"), and I definitely get the feeling that I'm surrounded by idiots. I really can't stand small talk either and it's also frustrating when people don't get to the point when talking to me directly. Do you guys get that too? I'm really glad I found this information, and it could be helpful going forward.

[@pixelcar8695]

Dr. 7.62x39mm The part about thinking out entire conversations in my head before I start talking is incredibly true. I didn't even notice this was something that "only"(being 1% of the personality types) I did. I thought everyone did this and I was always amazed when someone would reply instantly with no flaws to a question or comment. I was jealous that they could think it out that fast.

[@MrsDazl]

*giggle* "simple people"...but you're right tho

[@TheJudyJS]

Yes. When I have taken all the time to explain in complete detail..I feel irritated and drained but someone who isn't really listening.

[@hylla591]

15 year-old female INTJ-A and experiencing the life of a very misunderstood teenager. Antonia was correct about the secret INTJs have. I am incredibly sensitive, but does not want others to know that I am. That is probably why I come across 'emotionless and detached' to my peers. I also have an incredibly short temper when it comes to people asking me THE SECOND TIME AROUND, thus them thinking that I feel incredibly superior than them to not explain it again.Sure, I am about as excited as a bee to share the information that I hold, but a person asking me to explain it again frustrates me. I also have found out that I have a weakness in forming my thoughts into spoken words. Mind you, spoken. I seem to transfer my thoughts better when written. The joys.

[@gduekgdgbgeiucg]

I understand you

[@charlesmagill4932]

It does suck when you are younger, feeling misunderstood by everybody around, knowing you are correct about something and clearly not seeing the person you are speaking to understand this "ureaka" moment you're explaining to them. It could as mundane as the reason you staple paper on the "wrong side" or as archaic as the current theories of quantum mechanics. Trust me, you will be absolutely fine. We are all very sensitive, and as much of a pitfall as it may seem, you will learn how to handle the emotions/frustrations ahead (yes, I said ahead). You just have to find a "happy medium". "It's all just a game" - One of the smarter people I know.

[@autumnmcmurray1457]

Try to learn better communication, for your ideas mean nothing if you can't share them in terms for simple people. The majority is simple; so think in depth ur idea, summarize it, then share. As a fellow INTJ, I stressed as an adolescent to read and write as much as possible. Writing is the key, next will be to lower ur anxiety when speaking, it is okay to gather one's thoughts completely before answering. Ask for more time, or to return to a conversation if you can't compact ur answer. Always remember that if someone is asking for u to explain again, at least they are TRYING to understand because they care for what u have to say. Hope this helps. God bless. c:

[@mahdyfo]

Yes especially for a girl it is very hard.

[@Rayray_85]

I definitely communicate better through writing than through talking. I feel like when I talk, it’s hard to depict the web of thought and it comes out as many unconnected facts and statements

[@desireebarajas5578]

I’ve never felt more at home in a comments section before. I feel like I wrote every comment myself 😂😅

[@annaanderson7919]

INTJ (assertive) here. I've always tested INTJ, since I first took the MBTI in college when I was 18, then within my workplaces. This is spot on, to a 'T'. Growing up in my teens, there was always a lack of union between me and my peers in school, but as I learned about MBTI and that I was an INTJ, it allowed me to take the reigns on my own mind and instead of feeling "broken" in comparison to society, it made me instead feel at an advantage. Growing up, I always told my mother I felt stuck inside my head and that really scared her, as she didn't know how to resolve it. I am still the same way now, but have matured and worked on how to use that to my advantage. I love being an INTJ and unknowingly (at the time), married one. Best relationship I've ever had! However, I still struggle with leaving the house, except when I need to, having the desire to speak with people in person (though I love writing), maintaining eye contact, hate traditions for tradition sake, and greatly disliking spending time with other people, except a select few. These couple podcasts about INTJs has been really helpful. Thank you.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Thanks Anna for the feedback and comment.

[@KaytlinGomez]

Why are ypu exposing us, now the peasents will find out we are truly humans :d

[@Chet22]

Lol

[@GeminianINTJ]

(INTJ)..."Massive Damage"... yes...and permanent furious exile will be the consequence. Emotion fades, waters return, harmony is restored but the exile will remain as solid as ever.

[@gordthor5351]

As an INTJ I think our reluctance to open up with personal information is due to the double edged sword of being extremely sensitive and natural strategists. What better way to become vulnerable, than to show your cards? When we care deeply for a person that we trust, there is no need to hold up our guard. I think another secret about INTJ's is that they really do care (for the most part) what other people think of them, no matter how hard they try to convince others (I think they are trying to convince themselves) that they don't.

[@hylla591]

This is spot on. A fellow INTJ, and you speak my mind.

[@the32712]

I had no idea why I was so weird compared to almost everyone else. Why do I constantly analyze the various exits of buildings in class and plan for tons of completely unlikely eventualities? Why do I analyze other people and make logical conclusions based off that? Why do I choose the most tactical position in the classroom? Why does it bother people if I sit alone in a room and read a book instead of socializing (Or maybe I am just pretending to read the book as a pretense to analyze every detail of everyone else at the social event to determine the people most compatible with me)? Oh, and don't EVER make me do small talk. That is ILLOGICAL. It all makes sense now!

[@LexxLifts]

I am an INTJ personality and this is so accurate

[@Alice-ov8ii]

Can one be a INTJ and a huge procastinator at the same time?

[@paperEATER101]

Hahaha. Hi K. Laura. Why are we both showing up here at the same time, exactly 3 years after the original post? I agree, yes, I am living proof.

[@Scoring57]

Lol, gigantic procrastinator. Only mainly due to feeling like I have to be a perfectionist

[@peterackerley1022]

I think they touched a little on this when they describes us as operating comfortably in the conceptual domain. It's difficult sometimes to get out of our thoughts and get things done. Especially mundane daily tasks that provide little stimulation.

[@gordonbarnes3541]

Haha! Absolutely, my friend. I was a master procrastinator in high school. Didn't help me much, but I managed to get once I learned to get my work done early.

[@PoliticalThrowback]

Yes. I consider myself to be INTx which is both P and J. That being said, analysis paralysis is our problem.

[@orionatlantai3944]

Haha, that number one secret is true. Definitely true.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Thanks Orion Atlantai for the feedback.

[@stefandekkers4897]

IQ doesn't mean anything except for giving a basic numeric value of how many things you know and how well-versed you are. For example, IQ takes into account your knowledge of mathematics, topography and history, amongst other things. Those things only peak my interest on a very basic level, until I find myself fascinated by one specific aspect of one of them. I took an IQ test, it was above average, and that makes perfect sense seeing INTJ's value intellectual honesty. However, I don't go out of my way to do mathematical equations regularly, nor do I study the world map or read through history books. I just do not care. It's trivial to my day to day workings. I carefully select knowledge that I can use short-term or long-term and make mental notes about them for future usage.

[@kevinkim9929]

Stefan Dekkers damn! This one is dope! And I feel like when I store the logics in my “idea bank” it’s always the simplest form that can apply to other fields as well. So that’s why I can see different correlations across different fields which we feel draining to explain it to other people cuz often time they think it’s bullshit until we show them.

[@carlotanoc6138]

Same here. I really don't consider myself as a genius even though most people expect INTJs to be one. I just simply consider myself as a thinking person that is both naturally curious and insightful.

[@Qjemuse]

I'm intj and i hated maths in school. nor did I care much about other subjects but I know I had a much higher than above analysis skill. so many things are trivial. If I want to do maths i can hire someone or use a calculator, if I want to find my ways I could use google map. All of those doesn't contribute to the end game. Unless you want to discover some new maths formula

[@sergeantsausage2609]

Actually IQ tests are made to avoid math, and more about pattern recognition

[@TheFalazure]

I am very adept at math/physics/chemistry/programming personally but social studies (geography/history/law etc) do not interest me even slightly unless I am going to put the subject to immediate use. when I went through high school it was very obvious that I was planning on going into engineering or a technical field.

[@KM-fd8bw]

My husband is INTJ - this describes him perfectly. As an ENFP, I can drive him nuts, and he (unintentionally) steps all over my feelings in trying to help me see my errors. He’s usually right about the matter at hand (because he has analyzed it at length with his Great Brain), but his delivery often crushes me. However, our conversations about history and ideas and dreams are outstanding.

[@blimsum]

I have to say, this is one of the most accurate descriptions I have ever heard of INTJ. Some things I have never heard explained like this and are absolutely spot on! Very well done!

[@joelmarkwitt]

Benjamin Goudeseune Thank you for the kind words and support. Hope we continue to see you around the Personality Hacker community.

[@SBLIIV]

My biggest problem is having conversations I feel like I connect with someone, then solve them, then I'm disinterested.

[@revolution0311]

as an intj I don't need the premium version I already understand it

[@StanTheWheelieMan]

As an INTJ, I judge based on the smallest detailed points I can detect on a person. I shouldn't be doing it but sometimes I can't help myself but resist. You see, here's the thing with INTJS, we don't judge by looks. We judge by what they think. When you said that we shift our mind into their perspective is what I mean. They have their own opinions as everyone does, however based on their views about anything in particular, we tend to put them in a list of people that we met and studied. Also, being cold is not exactly being heartless. On the contrary we feel. We are honest most of the time and we just hate lying. I hate lying personally and I believe it's a moral value I can't get off. Although it's still a good thing but I am scared by the fact that I may psychotic. I am afraid of my own mind because of the power it has to destroy.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Thanks Constantino Cerrano for the comments. Great points.

[@jeanniem2563]

Hear, hear. Im scared of my thoughts too. All these years however have taught me of my thinking pattern and knowing Im an INTJ really helped me a lot.

[@optikleriunutmusum]

You guys really understand how an INTJ works. Wow. "Secret" part was so spot on!

[@daaara5468]

Wow!!! It took 8 mins and 45 seconds for you to sum up INTJs. Some ppl I know take years to figure me out 🙆🏼 some still don't understand me 🙄 can't win them all lol

[@TheFalazure]

I describe myself as "difficult to know, even more difficult to like" personally, seems to be the case at least.

[@TinaLeStrange]

I'm an INTJ - with it's occasional nickname of 'Mastermind' and whatnot, at first I did not believe that I could in fact be an INTJ, but I've taken several different tests which have all led me to this result - and the definition and explanation of what it is to be an INTJ definitely ring true. What I think seemed most clear for me in this was how draining I find explaining things to people is - I do understand things in great depth but often I find myself unable to construct this into speech for a person to be able to understand, and as a result I find myself coming off as slightly arrogant and frequently angry, as this does result in a lot of frustration on my part. But I am also incredibly sensitive when dealing with those close to me, despite however much I try to hide that with a strong front. :)

[@anakulic4143]

Same here.

[@stardust9072]

arrogant, emotionless, anti social... what more can ppl say to intj?

[@Azureblaze77]

This is also me. Well said.

[@julgre96]

As an INTJ I approve of these comments. Coming from someone who was born to point out flaws and seek improvement, you've hit the nail on the head and I personally couldn't agree more. What I can relate to most is your comment on how it drains INTJs to explain the complex ideas we've spent so much time mulling over in our heads. I am often skeptical of others when they ask me personal questions, and sometimes even hesitant to respond. I usually only share my deep insights and feelings with those I can trust, so as not to waste my time on someone who won't meet me halfway and dive deep into complex ideas. Keep up the good work.

[@tsmo2235]

I think one thing I have learned as an INTJ that is important is to just have patience. Not everyone thinks the same way and can “read between the lines” like an INTJ can but thats not necessarily always a bad thing. And giving people the benefit of the doubt is important.

[@jacobsipes]

My present view is that being an INTJ equals being Batman. You can change the world with ruthless effectiveness, solving long term problems for those you care about, and yet still remain hated -via misunderstanding. It can lead to something of a 'hated hero' complex in the INTJ, and leave us feeling like we are 'floating on the outside' of social groups. Even if we have tried to solve our 'social problems.' If you are an INTJ reading this, and identify with the stated above, then you understand the immediate solution is to search out other INTJ, with whom you can build relations with. Essentially, you are not 'wrong' or 'broken', but are a fish on land. Being with those who think like you do is like returning to sea, and is the natural appropriation necessary for your well-being. There is purpose for your gills, so stay true to yourself.

[@jacobsipes]

I am glad it helped, Mr.Clark.

[@luiscpereira1]

Perfectly put! Lets make an INTJ community so that we can work together xD

[@jimihendrixx11]

Top Methods to find intj in local area? ( Apologize for the laziness I have the flu)

[@syebethel]

Also very insightful, thanks!

[@DrVein]

@@luiscpereira1 "...work together" sounds like a massive waste of time.

[@hollyfortenberry5509]

OMG, you guys NAILED it! I rarely bother explaining things to people anymore unless they are a friend who I know cares and is interested in the same topic. I LOVE teaching/explaining when the person wants to meet me half way though. That's the BEST feeling! I love to pass on knowledge and give that to people to help them. And you are so right about the sensitivity!

[@meinungabundance7696]

"Judgmental" is the result of analysis and - drawing conclusions. This is what thinking is about.

[@annyborg9158]

I'm so glad you actually spoke about INTJ in a positive way. Especially the sensitive part. I mean, sure, I don't want people to go around and be like "Oh, you're so sensitive", but I think it's important for others to understand that inside the exoskeleton, we're easily damaged and it's true that we have it to protect that sensitive inner area. If we put it on display for everyone, I believe we'd break apart right away. Most of the descriptions I've read and heard are by far much more negative. It makes it sound like we INTJs are the evil of the world and extremely manipulative, but it's not true. Any person can be "evil" or just bad for you, regardless of personality type and it's just stupid to choose to call a different personality evil or manipulative just because you don't understand them or they are long range thinkers. So really, I just want to say thanks for this very accurate and non-negative overview of INTJ.

[@leilamuniz6028]

This is literally me. Every inch of it. Intj pride 💗

[@AuthorityCat]

Most accurate video I've seen. I wish there was a way I could deliver my thoughts to people who have the drive to actually make things of them. I've got plenty of ideas and concepts, but I'll never actually bring them out unless someone extracts them from me... And the emotional part is very true. I may not physically express my emotion, but that in no way means I'm not feeling it.

[@AuthorityCat]

I think everyone should be given a personality test, at 16, 18 and 24(multiple times for research purposes) and those scores should be recorded as a functional part of our records within society. Knowing where you belong emotionally could go a long way in finding similar people, useful applications of skill, as well as assistance towards those fields, and even make it easier to find a lifelong partner. There is no reason why we shouldn't have such a system universally available for people to engage in. It would make a lot of difficult things go away for a lot of people.

[@joelmarkwitt]

AuthorityCat Thanks for sharing your feedback. I wish I had discovered type at an early age. Not because I want it to define me - or be bound by it - but rather because it would give me a usable "map" to see myself and others. I think it would be a great model for young people to get through their high school years.

[@ctchulk]

AuthorityCat As an INTJ, I completely agree with you and have thought the same thing since discovering my type. People should take these tests as an actual part of their lives. Personally for me, I sort of found myself after finding out what type I was, and I don't need to blindly hold on to the principles of being an INTJ. It's just who I am

[@ctchulk]

AuthorityCat I suppose being someone who is always categorizing people, it's good to finally put myself in a category and take pride in it

[@1984july5th]

i am an intj

[@VidralliaArchives]

I'm an INTP and I'm so glad to have an INTJ and an ISTP for sisters. We're just similar enough to happily agree on pretty much everything, but just different enough to appreciate our contrasting personalities. We honestly don't understand sibling rivalry, it's never been a thing for us.

[@jandelbone7046]

I am INTJ - and still recovering from the deliberate unkindnesses of my ex husband 40 years ago. I should never have let him in. He used my need for logic against me, and it truly was devastating. I totally agree with the "sensitive" secret stuff. I remember my dad telling me not to be so sensitive, which is sorta like telling an INTJ not to be Swedish.

[@chariastarr8747]

I'm an INTJ female and this video was incredible because it really touched on some subtle points that not many pick up on. The top two are: 1) how frustrated we become when someone isn't willing to listen or won't understand. We end up not voicing the most critical and crucial points in what we are trying to ex

[@marcoleenbritz3415]

150% spot on!! I love intelegent jokes where you tel me exactly what I do wrong.....being honoust. That is why small talk irritates me. Hate it when I know what someone is going to say and I have to listen in politeness for them to finish. When I get hurt, ou boy it is deep. I constently get people telling me to stop looking at them "in that way" but I don't realize how my face comes of as a 100 things run through my mind at ones. I see 5 to 6 different emotions at ones on someones face, taking in what they feel and think and why and how plus how I should, shouldn't act etc. I see how others believes and perspecrives is and try to answer back not to provoke the negatives I pick up but at the same time I want to help telling them what I pick up is holding the person back to perform, grow etc. It is most of the time frustrating, so in the end I say nothing but learn and see what I saw ahead is being played out....I am trying to explain something deeper here.....uuurrgghh don't like it when i can't put it into words that deep!!

[@AnnBoylen]

I can't believe that I'm still an INTJ 12 years out of college. MBTI is insanely scary. I can be judgemental but it's because I see potential in people that is getting wasted. Especially in very bright (those who are way smarter than me) people who lower themselves to fit in. It irks the hell out of me when people do that.

[@salkdjfasldkfjsdlk]

You nailed it on every aspect. I have walked out in the middle of a sentence when I realize the other person only cares superficially about what I consider to be a long-term problem and solution. Good stuff. Keep it up.

[@ryukishisama]

As an INTJ, I approve everything said ;), it's so weird people explain me without knowing me.

[@avneet5219]

I'm an INTJ and I think this video is super on point. And personally as far as the sensitive part and doing the damage. Well that's super hard bec we sense right through it with super clear details of person's intentions almost within like 5 minutes. It's like energy clash happening and whenever I see some snake traits from someone, I just cut em off being cold. If a person has proved their loyalty and if I can feel in my intuition about it. We provide massive amounts of value and help them in enormous quantities with the Gold we own in intellect. But again if energy clash happens or see some snake traits, you're just done! You'll be cut off entirely with coldness and no emotions. We only value deep personal relationships with massive standards and help the whole inner circle in any way we can.

[@myannmy]

as an intj, it's really hard for me to like my personality. sometimes i wish i could change it to a bit easier type of personality, as my social skills are very poor... anyway, great video :)

[@MrHardCash]

Anna Pietkiewicz My social skills aren't that bad..... It's just most people don't know I really don't crave socializing as much as they do. I can fake it pretty well though. However, in reality, I'd usually rather spend that time with myself.

[@stefandekkers4897]

I learned how to appreciate... No... I learned how to tolerate small talk. I've come to realise that small talk is essential to other people's feeling of safety and social control. It's the gasoline that keeps their sanity engine going. Fuck gasoline though. INTJ's are going on rocket fuel.

[@captainjack6758]

Stefan Dekkers I was once striking up conversation with someone else who I didn't know (who was highly likely an INTJ or similar). I went meta and asked them, "What's your favorite small talk topic?"

[@michaeljburt]

Anna Pietkiewicz I've recently discovered that I'm an INTJ and I can really relate to what you're saying. After taking several tests and watching a few of these videos I've realized that I've been denying this part of me. I guess I didn't want to be put in this box so I definitely know what you mean when you say it's hard to like your personality.

[@hiisoka]

Anna Pietkiewicz sounds ironic from a fellow intj. but i feel u. i would want to be less intelligent less insightful and more cooperative and likable. not that i'd prefer that. but life would be so much easier. then again , never mind, i know i am way smarter than most people and won't have it any other way. :D

[@imvk9696]

I can't believe this. I took personality test today and got INTJ. I came here to see something useful and omg what you said is exactly true. How can you be so correct! Just appreciate the inventor of personality types.

[@josephfernandez9356]

Amazing. You guys basically described my life, and especially the bit at the end about the INTJ's inner sensitivity

[@joelmarkwitt]

Cool. Thanks for the feedback and for stopping by Joseph Fernandez.

[@loricatan9115]

I'm a INTJ woman married to a INTJ man. Learning more about this personality has helped me understand HOW and WHY I have been misunderstood at work. My ability to shift my perspective is not trusted by others who do not appreciate my altruistic motivation and desire to problem-solve. I think this is because my direct manner is misinterpreted as manipulative or aggressive which may be valued in men but mistrusted in women. Spot on with ENERGY DRAIN especially when people are too emotional without evidence to support their message.

[@davidkepke1435]

I’m an INFJ, but I relate to a lot of what you say about the intj. I know we both have lead Ni and 4th slot Se. I grew up with and worked around a lot of intj’s and have a well developed Ti so I can almost keep up with their genius.

[@eyesonthekingdom]

Hi there! I am 33 years old and I have never heard about any of this until now when I stumbled upon this personality test on your site. When what I was really looking for was an Autism or Asperger's test. I always felt different as a child. And what's amazing now that I know I am an INTJ is, it all makes sense. The video explaining my results literally felt like for the first time in my life that I am understood. Seriously lifted my spirits. I grew up in a broken family. My father beat me when I was young and then left at the age of 4. I grew up with two brothers and my mother was always away at work to provide for us. So I never had a role model or any type of Parental Guidance or upbringing. Also feel like I lacked some development at an early age for communication because I rarely talked due to feeling different, belittled, under minded, underestimated. And then bullied for most of my grade school cuz I kept my mouth shut I wasn't quick to criticize or just be like anybody else looking for some sort of social gratification. And then right after high school I joined the military as a paratrooper United States Army. Travel the world some really dark combat in Iraq and Afghanistan. Still while feeling different and inadequate. I always felt like I was very smart but I could not explain it and I try not to boast and always tried to stay humble. Because I lacked a certain Social Development as a child from never talking I always struggle with explaining myself. But now I see why my mind operates the way it does thanks to your test. I always try to explain my thought process when gathering information as a pattern like a spider web how everything intertwines and nothing can be explain or Justified by one cause to an effect as most people claim to quickly jump on. I have always mastered everything I've ever attempted. I'm on the worship team at my church as a guitarist that I've been playing self-taught for 16 years. I always knew I lacked a certain part of music understanding. My worship leader at my church explained to me that it's beneficial to learn how to play the piano before my desired instrument of choice. So I start looking into music theory on KZbin for about a week or two. And then grabbed a keyboard from a friend of mine and started learning. I have been playing for about 6 or 7 months now and everyone that I played for is astonished and in unbelief for how long I claimed to have been playing. I've been told it seems like I've been playing for my whole life. Not trying to boast here as I always try to remain humble but this sort of quick learning has been a part of everything I have ever attempted. I just love learning new things I can never stick to one thing which is why I have never landed at career, but have dabbled in almost every career field. It makes sense why I can easily sit in a dark room for hours just thinking and analyzing. and it feels so comfortable to do so to plan thoroughly before I make my next step and acting out or executing my plan. I struggle with relationships because argument seems to always go in circles. And it's not that I don't understand why it goes in circles, I just see the flaw within the lack of understanding from the person I may be arguing with the feel like it's impossible to get them to see their track of mind how to keep focused on the same points instead of bouncing around to win an argument. One thing I feel like I am most proficient in is finding a flaw in a functional system. And taking that flaw to try to bring it to light so that it can be corrected to optimize the function of the system. I just realized at this moment that I feel so comfortable explaining myself right now more than any time prior because I finally feel like I'm being understood for the first time. It's an amazing feeling thank you so much. I do want to learn more about how I can better myself but I am poor. I injured myself in the Army from wear and tear. My back is so messed up that I can throw my back out just loading a dishwasher. I just recently tried going to school to become a nurse. I took the entrance exam roughly 15 years from the last time I attended School and with no studying prior to taking the test. The teacher examined my results and told me she hasn't seen a score that high in a long time. Unfortunately my back pain was too much to handle and have decided not to pursue this career. I always thought that, with my social struggles in finding the right words, I might be Autistic or have Asperger's. I took a few diagnostic tests and I always fit right in the middle between average neurotypicals and average Asperger's. But now I realize exactly what it is. Again thank you very much.

[@Rayray_85]

I had a very similar upbringing and was very quiet. I am very intellegent, but I have trouble with social situations and the interactions drain me. So I feel u

[@Zen36977]

Nailed it! I’m an INTJ and this is the best description I’ve heard. Thank you. 🙏🏻

[@Someguy8047]

Pretty spot on about INTJ. One of my hardest problems is to describe to people how I arrived at a conclusion or why the conclusion I came up with is the one that works best. It can be very draining trying to put it into words. I found that usually I have to rework the answer and state it in a simplified way that leads to the conclusion directly. You have to leave out all the ideas and theoretical conclusions that went into the thought process because it will confuse the heck out of people. ... There have been so many times when people ask me something and I start to ramble on .. then I realize they don't want that ... they just want a yes or no. But yes or no answers are so boring and unspecific.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Thanks Someguy8047 for the comment. My guess is that as an INTJ you don't think outside of context. Random data isn't useful unless it is part of a larger narrative. I don't know that to be absolutely true - and yet I've observed it in several INTJs that I know. When I ask them a question - they ask me why I need the piece of data so they can give me the best answer.

[@Someguy8047]

Joel Mark Witt I think you are mostly correct. It's funny because I ask people the same question... why do you want this information? .. honestly, the answer you provide will formulate our response. You have to be precise with what you ask an INTJ. ... and you also have to say the context that you need the answer related too. We want to give the best answer with the info we have. It's like creating a hanging mobile... you hang a whole bunch of things (information) from it... once it balances.. you have your answer. When you create your mobile you never leave any pieces on the table.. it ALL applies. It's just how large of value you make the different things (information) that make up the bits of the mobile. The values are always changing and new values are always being added.

[@miamontgomery5256]

I took this test for the first time yesterday and am INTJ. It is CRAZY how true the 'explaining things to people' and the 'sensitivity' things are.

[@BeauWhately]

I'm not sure about other INTJs but I like to hide the sensitive "secret" and keep it a secret.

[@keb-ol3cw]

This is best INTJ related video I have seen yet. It's ironic how much more you guys seem to understand INTJs than the many INTJ run channels on youtube.

[@valerieclark2171]

I believe that in all actuality the reason people don't understand me is because I don't socialize much at all, I'm always alone. I'm always more focused on what I will be doing next with my life. I tend to think about multiple things all at once that I can do analyze everything including the probability of each goal I have in life. Then I put them in a systematic order that works best for me.

[@chaotic_keystroker]

Ron Constable pls stop stalking me :D

[@emb7083]

I really like INTJ videos because they validate all my weird behaviors as just being myself.

[@georget.khumalo4365]

It's time to Materialize my Genius ideas and change the world.

[@TheLordMyRock]

I always thought I was just weird and didn’t really get along with people because of my impatience or something. This has really helped me to understand myself much more and cope with my tendencies.

[@jayc1139]

The ending part, about letting people into my 'inner sanctum' is quite true. I've let, in my life, only 4 people in (I'm 23) and they've done quite a bit of damage. Not intentionally of course, but just without realizing it...so I end up avoiding them a bit, or not being as 'happy and laughy' as I usually am.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Jay C Thanks for the feedback and for watching.

[@fromolwyoming]

Jay C Yep. 25 myself, and the few I've let in, aside from close family members, unintentionally (from what I can tell) stomped all over me. Not going into detail, but things like that are why we put up the shell we do, and why we prefer to be alone. We analyze things before acting to see what the possible repercussions could be. I sometimes do that with events in history because I find it fascinating to think "what would have happened if so-so had done this instead of what they actually did?"

[@joelmarkwitt]

fromolwyoming Thanks for the comment.

[@samriddhisen3172]

best video ever for a rarest group of female intj like me :) especially the sensitivity part and knowing instinctively why people are behaving the way they are...

[@boydbros.3659]

yeah, being a think tank and mastermind are great, but how the F#@% do I monetize these things. Who is going to PAY ME for all this?

[@KingoftheSage]

Plenty of people! You can be a project manager, estimator, counselor, administrator... There's so many that my mind almost went blank..

[@GoogleIsAPieceOfShit2023]

SageKing Being a Project Manager is an absolute waste of an INTJ. Don’t do it. It’s all tactical grunt work.

[@nefetarialghali6248]

Boyd Bros. Right

[@syebethel]

I've worked as a financial planner and a teacher. Neither of these careers have been ultimately fulfilling, but close. After a decade, the usual frustrations for INTJs present (Do I have to explain this simple concept again?), and you look for something of a higher intellectual calling. I'm at the point now, I don't know what that would be for me, so I'm going back to school (at 45 years old). I hear ya, this knowledge gatta be worth some real money. {sigh}

[@DrVein]

I've tried being an illustrator but that was far too frustrating. I'm now taking a stab at engineering, it's looking good.

[@itsfishfood]

Good explanation, spot on. 100% INTJ, I am currently working on a novel. .. plenty of concepts in it!

[@williamg2212]

Regarding sensitivity - True. When we get ourselves wrapped up in our thoughts and someone says something like for example "oh god I hate it when people judge me" we sit there and go "well, you won't like me then, I suppose I'll move on". It strikes us as odd. How would a person know if someone likes them or their work or ideas at all if they don't have some functioning capacity for judgement or ability to receive and accept judgement. For example I'm a musician. If I decided to write a song for a woman and I over hear her talking on the phone to her mom saying something like "I had grand gestures, I don't like guys who write songs for girls to impress them". Well fantastic - obviously you're not who I'm looking for. Ironically, if you're doing what most people do - which is lie - and say the exact opposite of what you mean, you just faked me out in to doing two things. One, writing a song. And two, seeing you ever again. I'll still be writing a song - but instead of it highlighting your virtues and why I adore you, it'll be a song about the girl who doesn't like music. It's pretty easy to see that despite our cool collected detatched demeanor we're just as caring, sensitive and passionate as anyone else, and like anyone else we don't enjoy it when our feelings are hurt. It's just a very very square sense of emotion, and happens a lot more like Connect Four than the usual sort of warm fuzzy most people are familiar with. We have all the warmth and grace of a chain saw in the beginning.

[@joelmarkwitt]

William G Thanks for the comment.

[@nullvoid6958]

Of course I'm an INTJ. I found it fascinating that you described INTJ's sensing ability as a nerve. I think that's probably the most accurate representation of an INTJ's ability to pick up on the unnoticed information out there.

[@Beery1962]

I think, speaking as an INTJ, Antonia nailed the INTJ "secret". But I wonder if this isn't just something every personality type shares. I mean, isn't everyone sensitive? Or does Antonia really mean that INTJs have fewer effective tools to deal with their sensitivity, other than withdrawing into themselves and casting out (from that circle of trust) the person who has hurt them?

[@antoniajdodge]

Hey, +Ian Cooper - Here's a long-form version of what we were intended to incapsulate in less than 10 minutes. Hope this fleshes it out a bit: www.personalityhacker.com/intj-personality-type

[@LizInTheB]

Yes, "everyone is sensitive", but not everyone has the 'antenna' that Antonia spoke of. That one really hit home for me. It sounds like you are referring to emotional sensitivity, which is just a small part of our sensitivities. We don't have "fewer effective tools", we have a *more* of them--a Swiss Army knife of tools. My 'antenna' picks up people's *energy*. I can meet you once, and only briefly interact, but 'somehow' (antenna) feel your energy--I can tell if you're upset, angry, nervous, apprehensive, etc. even though you aren't presenting with any visual cues that might tip me off. INTJ's subconsciously 'notice' everything--even the most subtle things that elude 99% of people. It honestly 'is' like a superpower, because it's not conscious on our part--it just 'is'. It's pretty weird, but also pretty cool.

[@micheleagren4590]

That blew my INTJ mind. I have never had myself so clearly defined with such accuracy. I will use the comprehensive explanation of how we operate, navigate life, when I try to clarify who I am, to those closest to me. I continuously struggle with mental fatigue when it comes to giving explanations of certain concepts. I know I could never be a teacher. Debate is not something I participate in. Trust the concept or develop a better idea. I accepted my need to retreat thinking it came from the inherent nature of being an introvert rather than the true reaction I have which is to protect myself from deeply felt hurts. I struggle with my desire to remain hidden away from people. I have recently challenged myself on work projects in the manner suggested prior to watching this video with great success. I wish everyone had the gift of knowing there true selves. I have encouraged many to have the Meyers Briggs assessment done especially before plotting a career course. Now let's see if I can post this message!

[@acejackhammer]

Very, very true about the #1 Secret. Sensitivity. Outwardly, we put up a shield that may look as if we are insensitive. Way off. It is in-fact a sheild. And for those we do let in, they can cause much damage. In words and actions that aren't easily forgiven. Because once an INTJ lets you in, you have their utmost loyalty. If that is betrayed in any way, friendship/love is gone forever.

[@joelmarkwitt]

acejackhammer Thanks for the comment.

[@alvaromillan6899]

I think your vieo is pretty accurate (: I consider myself an INTJ-T, mostly all the video made just perfect sense and at the end when you discussed how much a person can destroy an INTJ if they let them in tears started flowing uncontrollably from my eyes because of how true that is and I recently got out of a toxic relationship, so yeah, I'm pretty sensitive, but, like, right now, I just dried my tears and just wrote this to give some feedback, nice video

[@gabej.y.2271]

I'm INTJ. I think the video provide a nice guide to understand us. I've never really let anyone into my most inside part, so I haven't got any severe damage... Tho I do wish I could meet my right person one day... Another thing I would add is that I'm really curious and sometimes even admire ENTJ and ENFP, for their openness, talkativeness, quick responsiveness, and, sometimes, hotness (wink wink) haha. On the other hand, I feel sad for ES people (if not all) -- not their ignorance, but the ignorance of their ignorance. Maybe they feel sad for IN people as well, but the contributions of IN people to the development of our civilization demonstrate in a way who's standing in a higher level in this topic. I guess even if I didn't say I'm INTJ, lots people can still tell from what I said above. haha

[@joelmarkwitt]

Thanks Gabriel Yu for the comments. Love the phrase "ignorance of their ignorance."

[@derrickbarney8731]

During my childhood, my intj mind was bombarded with “you must be dumb because of your last name” (being barney) With all the information that my mind was getting, it ran to the world of imagination in books. For years, my mind has been stuck on gathering as much information as it can. I am 25 now and have found out about my personality type. All the puzzle pieces that i have collected over the years started falling into place. Now that i know how my mind works, i can exploit it and use it to my advantage in real life.

[@calixbenedict8216]

Dang.. They sound so cool (I'm INTP btw 😔)

[@joan3891]

This is probably one the freshest conversations about an intj that I have listened to that is less basic then the other descriptions that I have come across over the years. Thanks! From an Intj

[@strangersy93]

Did you know that Hannibal Lector is intj :p I was very happy when i heard that .

[@hubrichism264]

Ahmed Føaz lol wtf I didn’t know that 😂

[@Scoring57]

Ahmed Føaz You were happy? 😒 Another psychopath claiming they're intj?

[@fatimazaidi7068]

Also Little finger. I was really happy that.

[@diandrakhara]

Ohh? I have always suspected him to be one. It's a little scary to say that I'm so enamored by him but yeah.. I am😂

[@gdogkeepemrolling3257]

The biggest secret I feel intj personality type has is that the reason we are able to read and effectively figure people out is because we not only are able to emotionally disconnect to do so, but we are actually able to become what it is we are evaluating.The deepest secret intj has is that we can become the most evil vile person on earth if need be at will, or the most honorable and empathetic and anything in between, if it logically makes sense for us to do so, and we have made up our minds to become so. We really have no set personality of our own other than being somewhat introverted Intj do not read about a character in a story, they become that character intj have been Kings,villains,hero’s,we have killed millions and saved millions, we have been rich and poor, intj have literally been any type of person they have read about or interacted with, maybe not physically in real life but in the way our brain works it makes no difference we have done those things and more which leaves us all with a sense of dissatisfaction with reality, it gives us a drive to always want things to be better than they are because we know it’s possible Happiness is a very fleeting emotion for us it’s a hard thing to come by in reality when we have literally been the things in our minds we most desire, only to realize that reality does not truly reflect what we have felt we truly experienced and accomplished. It is actually very difficult for us not to understand a person being that at some point or another in our minds we have been that exact same person in some story or another if we ever do encounter a conundrum of a person it is rarely someone of the same sex as us, it is usually someone of opposite sex and when that happens we usually get involved relationship wise with that person until we have them figured out and we move on very few intj people I have come across are strictly heterosexual like I said when we come across a person of intrigue to us we usually become attracted to that person whether it be male or female but also as stated before very very rarely do we come across those of the same sex that we cannot comprehend , but when we do we may get involved with that person on a friendship level till we understand them or even on a sexual level till we have them figured out and rid ourselves of a pull we felt towards that particular person. We are truth seekers,we seek answers to questions that we have personally and questions that have haunted humanity for eternity and in the process of seeking the truth we come up with ingenious solutions to problems that only intj minded people would ever think of being our minds work so differently from the rest of the world If there is something we are interested in that we don’t understand we will relentlessly pursue knowledge on the topic to figure it out,same goes for problems we are interested in we will seek out information till we figure it out or have exhausted all available resources on the subject at which time we determine with a hit to our pride that at this time we are unable to figure it out and we vow to ourselves someday someday we will be able to lol

[@fieryelf]

I'm usually a cold person but last week I let a girl get in this so called "Inner Sanctum"... Really thought there was something going on there but I ended up very disappointed, she's ignoring me now like we never even knew each other and I've been depressed all week long and my self confidence took a huge hit. They're forcing me to show the job to new people at work because I'm the oldest one there... The first week is fine, the 2nd I get tired or re-explaining the same things over and over again... by the 3rd week I start shutting down and my explanations are less and less clear. Anything after that, I don't want to get involved anymore. Relationship wise.... There isn't... I can't get involved emotionally, I can talk to girls just fine, I can keep up a conversation, I can sound smart and interesting. But if any bit of intimacy is involved I just freak out and want to get the hell out of there, I don't know when, I don't know why, I don't know where, I don't know how. The girl just stands there wondering why I'm not making a move on her and I'm here wondering why I should when I'm just happy having a nice time with her. When I'm alone later I start regretting not doing anything, I get frustrated, Hope I'll do better next time, except I don't, I do the exact same thing every time. I'd love to just ask, "Hey is it ok if I kiss you now" but I know full well that it's not the kind of cold and emotionless relationship a girl is looking for.

[@justinskaggs9751]

+fieryelf Go ahead and ask that. I know it works.

[@stevemcgee99]

+fieryelf "I fell like we're going to end up kissing". Regarding the new hires - try the socratic method on them 100% of the time: "How do you think you might do this? What do you think makes the most sense to do?" They'll learn fast, or they'll seek out someone else immediately if they just want to be controlled by others.

[@ARayV]

Find yourself an INFP who wants to care about you. I think some of us INFPs would like such a straightforward question. My INTJ is finally beginning to trust me.

[@sanaahmed5137]

Yeah just ask-- if the person understands you, they won't even mind a bit. I'm an INFP, I love someone who's an INTJ, I've noticed stuff like this about him and it doesn't bother me because I know he shows his care differently and I find his disposition unique and authentic. I would just say try to also be sensitive to what the other person needs, and feel free to ask what that is even. Because while you may operate a certain way other people also have different personalities and needs. It also takes other personalities effort to let you be yourself, and they deserve the same back. Also I don't know if this applies to you but try to think less and do more. Life is short.

[@naomimitchell8232]

Great video. Took me many years to figure out that my thoughts were “feelings”, and I had to figure out how to use these thoughts and feelings to take action in the real world. Since then, many of my objectives have been achieved. Dealing with feelings is tough!

[@PsilocybinTherapy]

The problems with INTJ's is that sometime they might overthink to much. Our "complex" brain sometimes make a loop that can be dangerous to ourselves, especially when a person is getting involved, and i'm not talking about ordinary persons, no! I'm talking about those few people who we let into ourselves. Usually, these persons are your friends, and when your friends ignore you, we usually think that it's our fault for being ignored. This is mainly because we do not like to put the blame on others just for such things. We are the mastermind, and if the mastermind get's damaged, we suffer the most.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Great feedback SERBAN POPA. Thanks for commenting.

[@CypressKing]

I have respect for your INTJ friend. The fact that he takes the time to explain his perception of people’s actions is admirable. I’ve got no patience for that. I know everything, but just keep it to myself. I know nobody’s going to understand my logic even if I do explain it.

[@Coindom65]

As an INTJ I really like helping people out until I feel taken advantage of and then I’m done with them. Is anyone else like this?

[@NiteshRoyGoogle]

Story of my life!

[@youtubeepicuser4209]

I would be lying if I said I didn't just search my personality type just to flatter myself... Haha. Thanks, and by the way I relate to most of this video.

[@joelmarkwitt]

Thanks for the feedback.

[@luanakimo1]

I am an INTJ and your message is incredibly accurate :-). Thank you! And you're completely correct about our sensitivities. Most of the time we are emotionally detached because it is not efficient for us to contemplate the range of someones emotions, and it's simply uncomfortable and we think it is a waste of time. We get annoyed when overly emotional people are not handling their business. Basically, we want to say, "Suck it up and move on". Cold and annoyed; but I don't have friends that are emotionally needy either. On the other hand you are SPOT ON about our 'secret'. The opposite of our perceived cold exterior is that we do feel TOO MUCH sometimes, and emotions to us are a different country. I had a bad breakup over two years ago - and you're right that it resulted in massive damage to me emotionally. (I'm much better these days though!). And you're right in describing us as having an 'inner sanctum'. You have to be a very special person for me to invite you into my house, let alone my heart :-).

[@XenoContact]

Yeah people get pissed and shit when I refuse to explain stuff to them because I think they won't understand it because the way I understand things is different, not because I am selfish