INTJs = NO FUN?

[@17x71]

"What is fun" INTJ lvl 1000 lol

[@InternetLiJo]

😬😬lol I mean I know how I define it 😂

[@LadyIarConnacht]

I remember having that exact thought as a child. What is fun? How do people have fun?

[@AppallingScholar]

VSauce music intensifies

[@Ajayjohnson264]

ENFP: F is for friends who do stuff together, U is for u and meeeeeeee....😂

[@shuggyy]

INTJ FUN = Intense deep discussions.

[@InternetLiJo]

I love intensity and depth!

[@jackiegathua6562]

Very true. It's so fulfilling

[@naomisbooknook9064]

I wish I could like this comment infinitely...or at least twice.

[@isakgustafson4182]

I feel like that was supposed to be a joke but it isn’t at all lmao

[@carletouk]

What is this “FUN” of which you speak?

[@jessicarenard-everydaymagi5431]

This is the type of fun I experience INTJ wild fun : put music and dancing when nobody is home, or alone in my room it will last for 15 to 25 min. Depending of my energy levels. INTJ fun: reading, surf the web, eat, drink tea, plan everything in advance, write, learn and stay home all day in my comfy clothe.

[@InternetLiJo]

Hahah you are describing my PERFECT WORLD

[@VionyTania]

this is so relatable

[@rosemary702001]

When you retire, you get to have that kind of fun all the time. It’s wonderful!!

[@ardwg_]

In short sentence.. "being alone in home is FUN"

[@jessicarenard-everydaymagi5431]

@@ardwg_ Absolutely 😎👍💯

[@s.u.5285]

The most fun is studying how people have fun.

[@InternetLiJo]

So interesting isn’t it?! And their awareness of what is fun to them.

[@RayMysteryo]

Grave

[@dodonggumiho183]

Lmao. I study personality to understand people, generally. XD

[@VanrougeSimp]

True

[@Veilside-ol9hx]

It's "the other humans" not people.

[@outlaw6429]

Work friends: "Let's go out and have fun this weekend!" Me: Stays in my apartment for 3 days straight watching psychology lectures, contemplating quantum mechanics, listening to music and planning all future scenarios and contingencies for the next ten years in excruciating detail. My kind of fun. If I get really wild, I might even have a glass of wine.

[@InternetLiJo]

Hahahah sameeee

[@lostathenian1836]

Do you listen to Jordan Peterson?

[@outlaw6429]

@@lostathenian1836 , Not anymore

[@lostathenian1836]

@@outlaw6429 Why not?

[@outlaw6429]

@@lostathenian1836 , He had some good information on the front, from an objective perspective but quickly became a zealot. And I don't make leisure time for zealots. It isn't personal, this is based purely on his professional output. I find his personal life kind of fascinating.

[@LilySlade]

I’m an INTJ female. What I usually do for fun is delve deep into research about cults /secret societies/ancient cultures/religion/anything related to mystery. I sit on my couch in silence and just read with a cup of coffee and my pup at my side surrounded by my plants.

[@InternetLiJo]

Ooo yeah! That’s because we are single observers so the “missing information” game is like a drug to us. Makes so much sense!

[@Ahlrrose]

Lol me: watching a whole documentary about ancient foods. My husband: scratches head and walks away

[@sayorimoonflower9672]

Same lol

[@hajramunir355]

INTJ= just listen to music, make some drawings, dance alone, eat, watch KZbin, thinking deeply about everything, questioning my existence and sleep.

[@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes]

Exactly the same for me INFJ.

[@MelodyT78]

Sums it up 😂

[@ErykThompson]

So basically I need a plan to be more spontaneous 🤔

[@InternetLiJo]

I literally do this.

[@InternetLiJo]

I’m like, this is my planned spontaneity time!! Am I doing it right?!

[@ErykThompson]

L J Ditto. I just watch all of the Oe’s around me shaking their heads in shame

[@AtZ-2424]

What I do, is when I plan to be spontaneous, I have a back up plan in case the situation is going south, often times it is related to distracting everyone else, while giving me an opening to leave the situation

[@michaelhenault4381]

INTJ fun is reading a book, seeing an interesting movie, etc. Hobby in your words. It's a timing calculus. Spend quality time with select people. They will find you interesting. It's a question of being crafty about how you spend your time.

[@InternetLiJo]

I can see that! For me, everything has to have a purpose. So reading a book to learn something, watching a tutorial etc :)

[@triggerhappymaceface3741]

"Fun" for me translates to "Fulfilling my insatiable greed for knowledge and hoarding it in the archive that is my brain for later use"

[@InternetLiJo]

Haha I get that!

[@anacheah8981]

Ravenous knowledge hoarder

[@theofreeman4300]

Beautifully stated! -INTP

[@Ty44444]

Before I found your content I thought I was an extraterrestrial. Now I realize I am, but there's more of us! Thank you.

[@InternetLiJo]

Welcome 👽 you have now found the others. So glad you made it.

[@MINIPRO27]

my greatest pleasure comes when my opponent crumples on their knees and I look down on their disbelieving faces, as their plans fail. -INTJ

[@InternetLiJo]

Wow so intense! Hah!

[@johnwick3846]

Ha ha so relatable.

[@xanthie413]

As an INTJ, I relate to everything you are saying. The majority of my time is spent in my room. I’m listening to music, playing video games, surfing online, deep-diving into my favorite topics of astrology and psychology, watching tv or movies, reading. I do most things alone or at home. It’s hard for me to easily do what people traditional call fun: going out, experiencing new places and people, putting myself out there, partying, drinking, opening up and not caring how I come across. I don’t know how to truly relax or relinquish control. I’ve made huge strides though this past year and a half. I’ve been coming out of my shell and accomplishing things, not just wishing i did. This has all been facilitated by a close friend of mine, who I believe to be an EP. Her love and encouragement has helped me try to new things and go beyond my comfort zone.

[@s.u.5285]

I could see the value of coming out of your shell if your not accomplishing things but what if you were accomplishing things by staying in your shell? Would you still want to come out of it?

[@caramelunicorn8023]

i'm an enfp and I'm equally comfortable staying home playing video games, watching tv or movies etc. as I am going out and exploring new places with one of my friends. Maybe ENFP's are less traditionally fun-loving as ESP types, because of our dominant Ne.

[@ivefa2872]

astrology? come on! it's 2019!

[@mdh9247]

intj loving astrology is such bullshit. get your type right.

[@Moana_moo]

Alan Brakman i am ISFP and i do the same. I do love getting wild with friends sometimes

[@franciscogomezastua4155]

Marry me, we would be so boring together.

[@InternetLiJo]

Haha I seem to be acquiring a line.

[@AlextheENTP]

@@InternetLiJo I'll call Guinness and let them know the world's longest line of boring people is outside your house.

[@ingang8817]

:)))))) at least not alone.

[@SuperSpecies]

@@InternetLiJo get them to fill in their own rows on the assessment spreadsheet.

[@ybogale]

NiTe = The process of achieving my vision FiSe = Doing what i like in the moment Simple but very clear explanation of cognitive functions. Cognitive functions explained well in pairs than separetely.

[@InternetLiJo]

Thanks so much for recognizing that. I love studying the functions and their particular affects in pairs :)

[@xaosects]

Growing up, my family would call me by the nickname, "The Black Hole of Fun."

[@InternetLiJo]

I legitimately love black holes 😂💯

[@xaosects]

That I can totally get. Hawking was a childhood hero of mine and I was destined to become an astrophysicist! What’s not to love about a scientifically-verified enigmatic paradox!?

[@anacheah8981]

Why driving around? Just to drive on the road? #whatsthepoint

[@arcosiancosine1065]

lol literally know as that in my family. And "fun sucker"

[@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes]

I love theses concept of Black hole, Chaos, Paradox. It define parfectly myself : INFJ.

[@matej4849]

After coming back home from my mentally exhausting job, I usually sit in a place and just think for an hour in silence. That is fun cause you a) get your thoughts back in order and b) you come up with the greatest concepts because exhaustion unblocks your mental barriers and dogmas. Visiting contemporary art museums also helps as it is a total opposite of a busy day job and you absorb more beautiful concepts. Doing a hard reset on remote raves sometimes helps as well 😅 I don't think this is fun, is it

[@InternetLiJo]

I love silence... and modern art!

[@matmac888]

I always get told I'm not fun....... my ex-girlfriend always said "I want someone who is happy go lucky" and I always thought happy go lucky people never achieve anything in life. Life is not fun.

[@InternetLiJo]

Hahah I think fun is all a matter of perspective. I very much enjoy my process, but most people would hate it.

[@kq1777]

Mat mac.. Happy go lucky types usually have different perspectives and do what works for them which is perfectly fine and yes thry are successful in their own way (which may be different than INTj types). Cannot judge and say thry wont be successful etc..thr happy go lucky live in day to day types are some of the happiest I know and that can be construed as highly successful.

[@kevinfukthezetamale4298]

Ice breaking lists Going to the library Surfing the internet Videogames Volunteering

[@InternetLiJo]

Where/what do you do for volunteering?

[@kevinfukthezetamale4298]

To learn and grow, to take initiative, it's part of character especially understand the culture you work, and also every individual is assigned to different departments because of their strengths and weaknesses. However some of us like to focus on the tasks and while others chat about mundane things like their days, life stories, and pets etc. There is also changes too and new policies at the store, that are in effect just for the safety of our customers, we inspect every item that is allowed or outlawed, and watch out for expired dates they need to be thrown away immediately, keep an eye for clothes that are in a bad shape if it has holes, bodily fluids or has offensive messages, we recycled it. It's a thrift store but religious, we donate this stuff to poor countries.

[@seralee6595]

me: *accidentally explained something and turn a non specific conversations into a lecture and thought it was fun* the noisy rest: *turns into crickets* and so it gets boring again with their random conversations :')

[@TriviaNight]

INTP here. I enjoy having fun and doing fun things, except no one else sees the fun in them for the most part.

[@InternetLiJo]

Lol all us NT’s are on the same page with that I think 👽

[@r12895]

"Practice friends" is such an INTJ thing to say.

[@keepmeposted]

I'm a fun guy (fungi), but it's in my head. 🍄

[@InternetLiJo]

I’m sure all of the best people enjoy you then 😉

[@leeroy14r60]

l was having a bad day, now lam having a good one

[@am74343]

INTJ's main motto: "If you want something done right, you've gotta do it yourself!" And that's exactly how I feel. Nobody else is going to live up to my expectations, so why not just work on fulfilling my own expectations?

[@gmostechnologicalvlo]

As an INTJ I have the most fun combining the process of making my plan a reality with helping others, but at the end of the day my focus is not the people I help, but on how helping them helps me achieve my goals

[@InternetLiJo]

Boom. Yes. This!

[@indigobeauty1]

*Listening to music and dancing alone in my room is so much fun. * taking care of my plant collection is a blast * shopping for home and kitchen appliances is so much fun * Looking at fashion online is so satisfying * having Ah-ha moments in my Mind is fulfilling

[@phucyu8428]

INTJs are plenty of fun. We just know how to entertain ourselves unlike extroverts who absolutely can't just stay home and mind their own business for any length of time.

[@InternetLiJo]

Right, we are fun to us lol

[@BurgundyandBlue1111]

INTJ female here. Understanding/dominating the world, reading books, strategizing do interest me but I also love concerts, comedy shows, dancing, movies, museums, being out in nature....many many different things. I must be a more moderate type of INTJ. I view myself as a fun lover and others do too.

[@InternetLiJo]

Nature is so wonderful, I really need to leave my house more and enjoy it, ugh thanks for the reminder 🖤

[@BurgundyandBlue1111]

@@InternetLiJo You're welcome. Also, if you don't want to deal with many people, you can just drive to the lake and sit in your car. I do that when I want to enjoy nature ALONE. Now that the fall season is coming soon, color tours may be a nice way to enjoy nature without being around too many people also (depending on where you live). I drove across the upper peninsula of Michigan in the fall a few years back and it was great! :) You can be private and outgoing at the same time.

[@Jajy6]

Thank you so much! 🧠 As an female INTJ new to personality types, and being lost at 23, these videos help to not feel so alone (not lonely). Thank you again. New subscriber! 🤳🏽#KeepGoing ~Watching at 5am, self-growth never stops🕔

[@InternetLiJo]

Hey! So what you said here ^ is literally the only reason I have stuck with this channel. I wish I had discovered typology and practical psychology earlier in life. It’s a lonely world inside our mind. Know that there’s others out there that understand you really helps 👽 welcome!

[@marcusg2695]

It is such a relief to find someone who thinks the same way. Almost all of my 'free time' is spent either on projects or online courses because it's a path to a desirable end goal (which most people won't understand if you try to explain that after they ask what you did over the weekend lol). I feel like if I'm not doing something that's focused on improving then I'm genuinely wasting my time. Thanks for making these kinds of videos 👌

[@marcusg2695]

@Roonake Thanks! After looking them up a bit they both seem like really interesting reads, I'll check them both out before the week is over 👍

[@InternetLiJo]

Exactly exactly exactly my thoughts!! You nailed it. 💯

[@alexeymladenov9178]

As an 95% introverted INTJ I've found out that spending time with my ENFP and ESTP friends really thrusts me into this spontaneous no-overthinking natural behavior where I can really enjoy in the moment even if it's not natural to my algorithmic mind ... They can really teach us some of "basic" human things that we usually consider stupid (lol) but are really needed in life, something we lack to be a complete person.

[@Blackrazor_Daystar]

Playing Last of Us as an INTJ is, A chilling experience. Definitely Fun!

[@matmac888]

I want to go on the TV show Survivor

[@Dave-ly3cu]

As a hard core INTJ I long ago understood that my idea of fun was basically alien to common society. And I couldn’t care less what other people think of that. This is a great video because I think a lot of INTJs go through some distress about how disconnected their sense of fun is from most people, and if you’re an INTJ you need to embrace the fact that what you find fun is just fine! INTJ is a rare personality style so start to expect and accept that you will not connect with the vast majority of humanity on what’s “fun.” But to be sure what you think is fun is 100% legit.

[@InternetLiJo]

Yess you get it. Also when you said hardcore INTJ I had to laugh because I had the mental image of us trying to be tough and “hard” which is damn hilarious lol

[@lexilol8159]

I’m so glad I found your channel. I now feel as if I fit into society knowing that there are other individuals who enjoy the same interests as me.

[@InternetLiJo]

Yeeee! Welcome to the tribe Lexi 👽

[@lexilol8159]

LiJo 👽:)))

[@Moana_moo]

Hi! Is my father INTJ? 1. He is quite smart even though he said he sucked at Maths. I was more praised than he was in Maths yet he got higher grades in exam than i did 2. He can be lazy. He almost never bothers with “cleaning,cooking or anything related to house work 3. He is the Vice president of where he works 4. He is very religious. Too obsessive 5. He is not fascinated of trying new things. I always tell him”Those old things you do now were new as well when you took up them” 6. He hates partying. My mom wanted to go out on NYE and he Said he doesn’t Find a point 7. He has a very strict routine 8. He finds “entertainment useless”. He reads but all his books are facts and all movies he watches have something “real” never SF... 9. He is very obsessive about certain things 10. Even though he rarely displays feelings he can be really empathetic. Like he did donate money for a family with 10 children that needed a home and he always reminds me to be grateful for what i have 11. He is really sarcastic and likes to rhyme up words. 12. He never does something “just for curiosity”. 13. He admitted that as a child he’d rather play football than studying though,yet he changed school because he hated the Maths teacher.

[@InternetLiJo]

Sounds possible! Or ISTj perhaps

[@Moana_moo]

LiJo Yeah but he doesn’t have this much of a “duty sound”

[@arwuh]

There aren't enough fun activities for NTs - is that because people haven't thought of what's possible? A cooperative block banging board game sounds like fun to me. I might have to invent it 💡

[@InternetLiJo]

That sounds like an awesome game and I FULLY support this.

[@nupurnishant6911]

I was having fun talking to this friend. We were talking about AI, psychology and whether there is anything like 'individual' and free will.

[@mariarinehart8667]

My idea of fun often includes activities that involve creation or self-improvement. I love ice skating, playing tennis, playing the piano, trading, sewing, knitting, watching videos that teach me something or reading books that teach me something. When I was younger, I loved traveling and exploring, getting lost, finding my way back. It is true many of these activities are solitary. Many but not all. Some of these activities, I’m fairly good at, others only passable, but I enjoy the journey of constant improvement.

[@InternetLiJo]

Yeah! I really enjoy the honing in of constant improvement. I just want to understand the most important thing!

[@Alex80830]

i don't know how will you perceive this but i troll people in my free time 😂

[@micmccond7]

i can see where having fun in pointing peoples illogical conclusions can be....like in games...with people....and the not common sense stuff they say.

[@RayMysteryo]

Yeah why wouldn’t you do that

[@AlextheENTP]

ESTP or ENTP? 😒

[@LOdmaric]

INFP here. I recently caught an INTJ friend using my exact humour style with a colleague. I felt a mixture of awe (that they were able to figure out a formula that I didn’t even know I used until I saw it “copied”/emulated) but I also felt violated, like the person had stolen something precious from me for their own dopamine hit. It wasn’t plagiarism, they didn’t steal my joke verbatim and I don’t own jokes. I felt like the’d nicked the essence of me, something I’d shared with them as a jewel rather than a tool. This video has given me some clarity. Thanks.

[@Encryptus1]

At the moment, my sense of fun is to make Te my primary function and Ni the secondary. The idea is to experiment being a little bit more like ENTJ altough the Fi and Se remain in the same order. People at my job say I'm coming out of my shell lol.

[@InternetLiJo]

That is a GREAT way to approach that goal. 10/10!

[@johnwick3846]

That's what I have been trying to do for the last 6 months. I have achieved my goal at a satisfying degree.

[@sdsloveslife]

Hi LiJo, INTJ going through a tough time in my life, but your video has given me more confidence to re-embrace who I am and my type of Fun.

[@radiyhakhatun1041]

I think fun is subjective. I think what I enjoy is fun. What other people do is not fun. I like reading and learning. ISTJs are probably worse than INTJs because they are not as abstract as INTJs.

[@chenxi7565]

Right now, my long term goal is to perfect my japanese, so a lot of the time I only watch japanese media (mostly on youtube) to get the important words and the grammar elements. Then, for the rest of the day I will just put them in a list and learn them. That's it. That's what fun is for me. Sometimes I try to stop. Going out and have normal fun, or watching a movie with a friend. But even in those occasions, I'm only thinking that I could be working on my japanese and being one step closer to my goal.

[@RialuCaos]

頑張って！

[@chenxi7565]

@@RialuCaos そうします。ありがとうございます！

[@kyledabearsfan]

Honestly as an INTJ that's been struggling with this lately, cool vid thanks. And I love P function people for the same reason too. I'm a glutton for serenity and peace, sometimes you need somebody to kick you out of your comfort.

[@forestfoxurbansprawl75]

My idea of fun is something that I find challenging, intense, and thought provoking enough, exploring new ideas and concepts, and take it in my own direction. Letting my brain go and acting like a sponge taking everything in. Accomplishment is the cherry on top ^_^

[@StelmariaonE7]

That control thing hit really close to home. I feel like I isolate and do everything on my own because at least then and only then I can do what I want to do. When I go out with friends, I don't have control over what activities we do and sometimes that is necessary for challenging yourself and discovering new things. Also, this has nothing to do with the video but, I love your sense of style.

[@kttyk4t]

what I do is read, listen to music, or write and people think that’s all I do but in reality I’m in my dreamworld planning for my future and what I’m doing in that moment or what I need to be doing to get where I want to be. I like to envision my future a lot, like I mean A LOT lmaooo😭 and while I’m doing normal things, I distract myself by daydreaming and planning 💀💀💀

[@annebourgonje]

My definition of fun when no one else is around: reading, watching series, thinking, studying something I want to learn, taking a walk, taking photo's and editing them and some more thinking, about life, my future, the universe etc :) I'm an INTJ by the way.

[@MusicalInquisit]

My fun is writing textbooks and making quizzes. No, I am being serious.

[@lynnh1682]

I read the Bible, watch health documentaries, when I'm not doing that I'm doing a 3k piece puzzle. Listening to music puts me into a mental psychosis so I don't listen very often.

[@djones2857]

My ex is an ENFP and we used to joke that his job was to be sure I had fun.

[@InternetLiJo]

Hahahah basically yes

[@Haannibal777]

I need to plan to be spontaneous, practice having fun, just in case having fun is required in my future so I am prepared. Got it. You are awesome! Love you to bits!🥰

[@josephbraun8211]

Very cool video. I have a close IxxJ friend who is very control > chaos and while it is challenging for me to see things his way, I believe we complement each other well. Sometimes I have to drag him out into the real world and sometimes he has to drag me down from outer space. In a group setting: fun (for me) is usually anything that includes exploring a new place or trying something new, on the flip side another big part is just the overall experience you have when you are with your friends (good or bad) for instance some of the best moments I remember throughout the years are times where something unfortunate or unplanned happened and we just had a good laugh. 1 on 1: fun (for me) is connecting with someone intellectually, emotionally and spiritually. I hate small talk but I love exploring how and why people think the way they do, and honestly, I would choose a great 1 on 1 conversation over what the normal person would call "a good time" out at the bars any day of the week. On my own: I enjoy exploring theories, coming up with ridiculous ideas, learning new things by reading, watching videos, listening to podcasts or even just jamming to music. - ENTP

[@InternetLiJo]

I get along with ENTPs amazingly well. Connecting intellectually is how we do it best :)

[@josephbraun8211]

@@InternetLiJo ​me being as an unconscious INTJ and you being an unconscious ENTP , we are both on the same journey towards enlightenment, I am sure we could learn several things from each other, I will keep watching. Thanks for the content, stay weird.

[@InternetLiJo]

👽 you too friend

[@kevinarmstrong4188]

On a serious note I'm actually amazed that my friends still try to get me to do social endeavors. I can have fun, but it always reaches that point where "hanging out" feels like "waste of time". Usually makes me feel worse once I reach that conclusion. Like I've done something wrong. In the end though they don't seem phased at all and are ready to usher me out again. Its confusing, but I've been making the effort to just go when they offer instead of making excuses.

[@phixi86]

Ha! Right I have. Plan for next month. I don't get planning people that do elaborate journals but I love art. It's more satisfying for me to do things in my head. I hate explaining my self, when that's the best option for me. My husband is an estp and I enjoy how outgoing he is but on that same note in like ok i’m like Down what makes sense lol

[@gabrielscarlat8592]

''Fun'' is such a relative term. For every human being on this planet, ''fun'' may mean thousands of things. For some people, fun is when they hang out with alot of friends and drink or watch a movie together, for other people fun is playing... funny games and laughing. For me personally, ''fun'' is when I'm home alone, watching a movie or a documentary, going out all by myself and having some long walks, reading or studying something fascinating for medical school - something that would help me understand stuff for my future career. At other times, fun would mean me talking to a friend or two about something interesting or, why not, funny (smarts jokes are the best jokes). It's just the way it is. People create their ''own fun''. Great video! :)

[@InternetLiJo]

Thank you! Yes fun is wildly subjective

[@batman9512]

I suck at traditional fun. Fun for me is researching or practicing topics interest. My wife and I are polar opposites (I believe she is an ESFP), and I'm surprised I still have teeth from all the grinding when she wants do something traditionally fun. I've stayed behind several times while she's gone on trips with friends or visited family because I'm "too busy" to go.

[@InternetLiJo]

Hahah I pull the “too busy” card at least once a day.

[@batman9512]

@@InternetLiJo Yes, I play that one often. Sometimes the card gets declined...or to accurately complete the analogy, the card gets trumped.

[@jualkotelmurah]

how do you living together if your's personalities were paradoxically towards each others.. nonsense

[@batman9512]

@@jualkotelmurah Admittedly, it's very difficult at times. I have to bite my tongue a lot when my wife says something with little logic behind it, then there are times things come out that aren't so, shall we say, sensitive. Being an INTJ, I'm generally a pretty good listener...up to a point. So, there's a little balance in that respect. Also, we've gotten better over the years at accepting our differences.

[@jualkotelmurah]

@@batman9512 congrats sir

[@zoez8185]

I so much want to become more INTJ as an INTP, you guys naturally achieve amazing things.

[@InternetLiJo]

Thank you! And I really enjoy the original imaginative nature of the INTP as well!

[@diahri1676]

Yess samee! Always admire my INTJ

[@berry2nicky3]

I literally want to cry rn. I never thought someone wanted to be an intj, I kinda hate being an intj in the last days beacuse I feel like people perceive me as a robot and I can't show emotions as I'd like to. I want to be spontaneus, exteoverted, funny so bad but I simply can't do it naturally. I feel so lost and out of this world

[@Shinsei.]

@@berry2nicky3 i understand now that it's common for us intjs to feel this way, i am no longer trying to be something that im not just to appeal to more people. i have found that even those who do not understand me still accept me in many ways. which is often enough, but only an intj can understand a fellow intj and sadly we're very thinly spread out

[@TechReviewTom]

My Intj sister just bought a house meanwhile I'm over here in my tiny barracks hating my life because an infps introverted feeling and extroverted intuition just puts my ass on a bmx bike at a skatepark. Lol. Wish I had an Intj mindset, you guys kill it when it comes to making moves in the work place.

[@InternetLiJo]

Hey! Good news is, smalls goals make a huge difference. If you want to buy a house, you can start mapping out the big quarterly progress you need to make, and then also what you need to be improving every week. If the goal seems too big, just focus on the small steps to get you there. You can do the thing!

[@elmoomle4565]

Enjoyed the vid...on point. My idea of externally fun activities focuses on controlled risk activities: motorcycling/track days, scuba, skydiving, trap/skeet shooting. These activities enable me to exercise and apply my knowledge/skill and experience towards 'risky' activities whilst applying my exceptional desire to envisage and control a positive outcome. This also allows me to, generally, associate with like minded, enthusiastic and well versed individuals sharing the same activity. This is very important to me. What I do when alone at home essentially coincides with what was stated in the vid...difficult to remove a Leopard's spots.

[@namupurachi]

For some reason I very much appreciate how she says "normal human". Like, we ain't normal? Or we ain't human? Or both?

[@InternetLiJo]

Normal compared to what, right?

[@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes]

I am INFJ, and the words "normal" and "weird" don't exist for me, they are useless. We are all differents, and there are only things we don't understand.

[@franlawrence6954]

Oh my gosh! This was great! I totally related to Everything you said! Wow! I am going to start being more self accepting and stop being so hard on myself for being me... Big Thanks from this INTJ woman.

[@InternetLiJo]

Hey Fran! Glad it made sense. Welcome to my world, happy you found it 👽

[@paveldanuletiu3951]

I usually lay in my bed. Reading books. Playing video games on my computer or study. It feels great for me. Btw, I'm not sure if I'm an INTJ or an INTP.

[@InternetLiJo]

Hard to tell just from that, but if I’m not focused somewhat on productivity I get anxious lol

[@saloni.sharma]

"Why would you only want to rely on 2 functions and rely on the rest of the world to be good enough to pull off all the other functions in your life to help you with that. If you think that way, you must have a lot more faith in people than i do" I subbed as you said that cz i have trust issues too :p Precisely why I'm thoroughly studying cognitive functions after scoring INxJ to know and better myself (both my Te and Ti are higher than Fi and Fe for some reason Fe being slightly higher, hence the confusion of x and I wanna know how to balance it better) Also, god bless my ENTP best friend for giving me overriding anxiety and making me used to spontaneous nightmares.

[@Blackrazor_Daystar]

Having a clear vision and being able to articulate the destination you see to your colleagues, seeing it materialize in the real world just the way you like it by reaching the apex.

[@InternetLiJo]

You know all my tricks ;)

[@m3ng252]

I spend a ton of time exploring inside my own mind, theorize, developing new ideas and inspirations. So on the outside, I’d be sitting quietly in a corner, or beside a window, usually writing something on a notebook or my phone. Is it safe to say that we INTJs are professional daydreamers?

[@InternetLiJo]

Dream creators I would say :)

[@4thNebula]

Love your thoroughness of thinking! Not sure what you mean by control. Maybe a video focusing strictly on control would be interesting. Seems foreign to me though I do get irritated when someone tries to control me. I guess fun is a matter of feeling energy that is enjoyable.

[@InternetLiJo]

Hey! So IxxJs have the lead function of organization/control so for those who have Ni we are constantly trying to predict and control the outcomes of things. It’s what gives us our evil genius stereotype.

[@nethercords]

i love the excessive thinking and quotation marks! reminds me of myself, me? video games, reading, coffee, food, abstract thought, music production

[@elido3198]

How I have fun: I stay in my room reading, playing video games, watching my favorites shows, laughing at sarcastic memes, learning how to do this or that. Knitting is really relaxing. My love for Jigsaw puzzles can keep me isolated from everything (my father thinks is stupid). As to outdoors activities, going for a walk with my dog is the best.

[@MixTheTake]

I'm an INTJ from Southern California and watching KZbin is fun for me because I learn new things everytime and I enjoy sleeping after being around the Extraverted world.

[@InternetLiJo]

This makes me happy ;)

[@rosemary702001]

I’ve analyzed fun... the word, the concept, the definition, the activities, the moods and the outcomes in the process of having a good time. It was fun.

[@glueball214]

‘Why rely on the rest of the world’ for the functions I am not good at. Dmmit, that was an eye opener. ? Why did I click on this video.. stupid KZbin prompts. I was just thinking I was doing OK, and maybe MBTI would not be the source of self improvement projects. How dare it appeal so masterfully to logic. Thanks for nada , LiJo. 💜🥳🖤

[@elenafowler4104]

My work colleagues on a Friday - "so what are you doing this weekend?" Me - "i'm going to go for a soya hot chocolate and read my book at Rustic Bean cafe, I can't wait"

[@MoinSikder-o7o]

Intj's fun comes from achieving goals

[@AhmedIbrahim-ee8pe]

I can tell your smile comes naturally in this video INTJ really like talking about them selves

[@InternetLiJo]

I enjoy sharing things that will help people similar to myself.

[@Forever_orwhatever]

INTJ what’s really fun is creating a comprehensive calendar counting down milestones to my goal. If I feel like being wild I’ll watch a documentary on something I’ll never do, like ultra marathon runners. So fascinating, I can go down a rabbit hole researching that all weekend.

[@shali4648]

As an INTJ my way of having fun is basically working and being non-stop sarcastic. I don't really see myself as this "unfunny and boring" INTJ that ppl try to picture us as. In contrary, I think we can be very witty because we're able to connect dots really quickly and think about a good quote or joke that fits the situation well. BUT we have to practice being aware of the present. It took me so long to get out of my head and actually pay attention to what the other person is saying even if it bores me. I tend to just think about something else while pretending to listen to people that don't stimulate me intellectually. That's obv not the way to go :D still work in progress

[@berry2nicky3]

HAHAHAHAHA

[@jeffroberts9796]

You honestly seem like an awesome girl to talk to. You seem very logical, not too cold towards people and doesn't talk too much.

[@InternetLiJo]

Thank you! I would say I’m pretty alright to talk to :)

[@jeffroberts9796]

@@InternetLiJo You also are quite attractive if I may say. If the theory is correct then your mate would be a feeling type.

[@Handleitt1]

Fun is being productive and evolving towards the person I want to be. Once in a while I plan things with family to go on a trip for the Holidays, but I still get things done in between the hours I’m away.

[@RingsOfSolace]

When you said "see how weird it gets" I first thought you said "see how our dick gets" I'm an intj who likes dirty jokes probably too much so I was dying of laughter.

[@InternetLiJo]

Hahahahahhahahahahahahahahahhahajajahahahajahahahhahah 💯

[@jaimeflor4181]

I'm an INFJ and I had a lot of ExxP friends when I was in my teens and 20's. My first girlfriend was an INFP. I think it was a good experience back then and it helped me be more spontaneous. Now that I'm 40, oddly enough, those things kind of annoy me. I find myself hanging out with more Judgers now and my girlfriend's an INTJ. We plan everything and it's really peaceful. We do try to be spontaneous within our plans though.

[@InternetLiJo]

Yes, that’s what works very well!

[@nightflash5951]

What do you do when you're alone? I laughed for a moment, I literally am just lost in infinite thoughts and visioning of scenarios, which just seems to be fun.

[@softdeficit7593]

My fun is drinking a cup of coffee/tea, while doing research (like reading or surfing on the) on topics I'm particularly interested in and that are useful (for my inner self or for the external world), taking notes, organize the notes; planning, a lot of planning (idk it's just like playing with sims, deciding the future and stuff); then comes what I call "the crisis" but it's just my mind doing philosophy so that I can call my father (INFJs in deep talks are the best sometimes) and debating for hours.

[@artofshadows1797]

Turning my own mind into a powerful weapon is fun being able to analyze and break down things is fun

[@thomastucker2774]

I’m going to be a special warfare operator and for me, fun is doing a really stressful workout and things if that nature because it’s helping me achieve my goals. My friends are convinced I’m either lying or am affected by a mental disorder😂😂 glad I’m not alone.

[@davidwholly5209]

One of my favorite things to do for fun is watch videos (usually on KZbin) about strange sightings, dangerous storms and the paranormal. Stuff from the likes of "That Is Impossible", "Nuke's Top 5", "Slapped Ham" and "Pecos Hank". I can watch that stuff for hours. That and reading answers to various questions on "Quora". Actually, I read WAY too much of that. I seriously need to cut back. It's almost as bad as watching the news. Story intensive video games are also fun.

[@Azdaja13]

Something interesting I've noticed. I will try to do everything as efficiently as possible, except when I'm playing Pokemon. I don't know why, but I've set up rules or rituals for myself which kinda make things less efficient but I find them more enjoyable. Like for example, when breeding certain Pokemon, I'll try to hatch them in locations I think are fitting. So I went and hatched all my Skrelp in the Insular Sea because it's a fitting location for such a Pokemon, but it's also way less efficient to do that because you have to go all the way to the Isle of Armour, put the eggs in the PC box so they don't hatch before you get there, go all the across the sea being chased by Sharpedo (which if they get in battles with you takes time to get out of, or takes time trying to get them to crash into things) to get to a tiny island, then go back into your PC box so you can hatch the eggs. However, I find it fun so I do it. I also have rules like only using Pokemon in battles bred off of Pokemon I've used in playthroughs. I level my Pokemon up through battles rather than giving them Exp. Candy or Rare Candies because it feels more fun and more earned. This makes things less efficient and there's no logical reason for me to do this, but I find it fun and it gives the Pokemon I do use a special connection to me. However, when it comes to EV training, I just give my Pokemon vitamins since EV training is tedious. And even though I'm using a less efficient method to level them, I'll try to still do that method quickly so it's like Ni and Te compromising with Fi. Fighting the same wild Pokemon over and over again is annoying. I tend to go out my way to breed Pokemon into Pokeballs that are thematically and aesthetically co-ordinated to the Pokemon I'm breeding (Dive Balls for Water types, Dusk Balls for Dark/Ghost types, Dream Balls for Psychic types, and Safari/Friend Balls for Grass types, depending on aesthetics). Heck, I spent money on Pokemon Dream Radar just to get Dream Ball Ralts for this purpose. I just realised how my interest in Pokemon shows all four of my functions. Ni+Te - Strategy in battles, also knowledge. I have a tendency to think one or two steps ahead of my opponents, and being able to predict them based both on knowledge but also putting myself in their heads and trying to figure out what they might do in the situation I've presented, then countering them pre-emptively. I have a really good memory of a Pokemon's details but only when relevant and I can sometimes temporarily forget things, but if prompted inspiration will flash with the correct information. Openness to using new Pokemon in playthroughs (I know I said I only use Pokemon I've used in playthroughs before, but that's for online battles since otherwise I don't feel an emotional attachment to them. I tend to prioritise using Pokemon I haven't used before when playing a new game, and usually those are ones that are brand new. I don't get nostalgia blind and actually find it hard relating to people that do) Fi - The more cuddly side of getting all gooey over my favourites, some of my little rituals and things I can't explain logically. My general childlike excitement. Se - My prioritisation of a Pokemon's design, trying to match aesthetics and nowadays trying to customise things like my trainer's appearance, my Trainer Card (which I really like, gets my personality down pretty well, the cheeky smirk, thinking finger under the chin and crazy intense INTJ stare while surrounded by graffiti of Dark types even though my favourite type is Dragon xD). That's something recently because I've heard people say INTJs are usually neat in their appearances and INTPs aren't because of Se giving INTJs more appreciation of aesthetics. Well, I'm not particularly neat in my appearance but that's because I don't really spend a whole lot of time looking at myself (well, not in the physical sense anyway) and I don't really care what other people think of me. Also my appearance tends not to be relevant, particularly to my Ni vision. So long as I don't look too bad, I'm not really fussed. Plus working on my appearance will take time away from The Thing. But when it comes to things like character creators in video games, holy shit I spend forever trying to make my characters look as attractive as possible. And irl, my fashion sense isn't great (I go for practicality over appearance) but I think that's down to there being a lack of availability in the types of clothing I would want to wear and also it probably not going down too well with my strict household. However, I actually found I have a love of historical clothing since the aesthetics of some of those time periods are actually very pleasing to me. Not all though, some look atrocious. Anyway, point is a lot of video games have clothing that I find very aesthetically pleasing so I will often go out of my way to try and get it (Ni and Te-ing my way there of course, then moving onto the next thing).

[@Kris-hq9ed]

Sometimes I'll go to my bff's house who is a "p" type when she's not there to chill with her sister and my bff will always apologize for not being around to "have fun" with me lol I always tell her I'm fine, coming here is like going from my house to my 2nd house, I AM having fun! "But you're just sitting there in the house!🤔" I'm doing other things you just can't see what is in my head. Fun for me = studying, self growth videos, KZbin in general, reading Fun for my bff= leaving the house to do something or interact with the general public 😂😂😂

[@InternetLiJo]

Self growth is everything haha

[@Kris-hq9ed]

@@InternetLiJo lol yes, it's literally my favorite thing. 😁

[@fastingforhealth253]

Yeah I relate as an INXJ. Fun really comes down to those positive emotions people get from engaging in social activities. So things like latin dance classes and social hobbies defs allow me to experience this type of fun. I burn out pretty fast though and have to go home and be alone to charge. When I was younger I needed a ton of alcohol/drugs to even have some semblance of "fun" that others have, so this all took me a long time to figure out.

[@InternetLiJo]

Hahah yeah alcohol is such a waste of time and hydration in my opinion but I totally see why people engage in it. Latin dance sounds like fun!

[@reginaarbizu6017]

This explain a lot, my 'friends' ass told me you should go out more and have some fun. My real answer is "what you consider fun I don't?" 🤣 It's tired to go out parties and just chit-chat which won't give me any Important information

[@sednafloating7027]

I also spend most of my time processing ways and possibilities of how I might achieve my vision (Ni,Te), which is doing what I like in the moment (Fi,Se). This unfortunately has been failing for decades.

[@InternetLiJo]

Haha the struggle is the struggle 😂

[@sednafloating7027]

lol definitely

[@MrJonathanRocker]

I've known since highschool that my idea of "fun" is a physics symposium or conference. Either that or deep in research or thought experiments.

[@InternetLiJo]

I consider those things fun as well!

[@Wilfer88]

Fun is deepdive in discussion about politics, psycology, philosophy, aliens and sex on a level that fits you. Hard to find that partner to discuss that with though. Fun stuff alone is books, learn stuff from youtube, and videogames like roleplay or strategygames. My subjective view of fun this is.

[@InternetLiJo]

I love your subjective views on discussion fun as they reflect my own!

[@ObeseusVsPhallacy]

(INTJ-A) I have a hand full of hobbies but no pleasure is greater than that which allows me to think, plan, and destroy my competition

[@coolbreez]

In my free time i find fun in watching documentaries (of my fav subjects). mystery movie/series, paper crafting, painting, listening to music, visit library or take a walk in peaceful, green spaces. ~INTJ female

[@ronnie_renee]

It holiday for me, after having worked my butt off with this new way of learning online. But here I am learning new things, the way I always do every day and this is my fun. Occasionally to unwind, I play music while playing a video game involving planning and strategy. I am no fun...

[@FLSHSANT]

Smoking green is fun to me. As a INTJ i got thoughts all running through my head all the time. And it's nice to calm that brain down so now and then

[@InternetLiJo]

I 110% know what you mean by that! Slow down and focus on a little reality. Be present. It’s a struggle.

[@FLSHSANT]

@@InternetLiJo Yeah exactly! Thanks for your video and reaction !

[@khadijaomar8588]

I remember being left completely alone for approximately a month. Mom and dad took a vacay, my sister in uni, my cousin who stays with us was always out. So I would wake up and do some work-out because I felt obligated to lol, make breakfast, go around the house back and forth for like 20 mins, surf the internet, find a book that keeps me hooked at an extent and that doesn't necessarily last for long if I find it not worth my time, fake calligraphy, start writing a chapter of a book or a poem etc... It was basically a series of events I usually did in a normal holiday like and I wasn't even bored on my own. I was good, sometimes I would go at the back of our house and speak to the plants about my thoughts. Maybe they'd find that interesting, whoever is recording 👀

[@RayMysteryo]

When I’m all alone.. hmmm, what do I do you say..? I like the way you put it: habits that give me balance and control. I never heard of it being put like that before

[@InternetLiJo]

That’s just the way my INTJ head sees it!