First Coaching Session Example (by Master Certified Coach)

If you're new to coaching, you might wonder what your first coaching session will look like. In this video, Master Certified Coach Jennifer Starr coaches Brighton who's never been coached before.
This real life coaching session will give you an idea what it's like to be coached by an ICF MCC level coach.
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[@alockett160]

Amazing. I've just completed a coaching course and to watch this 'live' example, has cemented my confidence in my ability to go and get some coaching done

[@emperorkalel]

She did fantastic, he guilts himself into productivity and uses it as a tool for self correction in addition to looking for permission almost to slack a little end enjoy life as it use to be for him. I love clients like this..

[@quanitamarchesi9171]

I felt this was more counselling than coaching and as counselling it was short and efficient, so well conducted.

[@chefiatoufalana6357]

Thank you for this Example session. I am a new coach and this is a great help

[@samishaker5094]

I truly loved Jennifer's interview style. The way she navigated the conversation was not only enjoyable but also incredibly informative, offering a wealth of knowledge in a brief interaction. I learned a great deal from her approach, making the interview a valuable experience.

[@MelissaFrazier-ly7hm]

This was amazing and really so helpful. I appreciate seeing in action so many skills I learned during my TRLC certification cohort. This master coach really guided this session and guided this client so beautifully by listening, NOT giving advice or answers but rather, guiding him to uncover his assets and capacity. She started with rapport and a bit of regulation (breathing) and, I have so many great AFQ's from this session. Thank you so much!

[@kayleighogut]

This was such an inspiring example session! WOW! I loved the questions you asked and the way you asked them.

[@Eugene.Berezin]

Thank you for sharing your coaching session!

[@Kitoulini]

Great subject! It seems to be that Brighton wants to have mindful and intentional joy rather than mindless going-down-the rabbit-hole distractions....

[@inviteCHANGE]

Great reflection and noticing! Thank you for watching and commenting.

[@arielsaguid6408]

Thank you for sharing this wonderful video

[@jiding7530]

I have learn so much from this coaching session. Thank you

[@crauswork]

That's brilliant - thank you for sharing!

[@inviteCHANGE]

Appreciate the feedback, Chris. What content are you interested in for 2023? We are increasing our production this year. We also have another channel for enterprise and entrepreneurial learning--called Leader and Team Development with inviteCHANGE--check it out kzbin.info/door/rIO05pVjoPbUL8iRjlJK3A

[@TCGill]

Excellent coaching :) Lovely curiosity questions. And a nice close to get forward action.

[@liveagaincoachingministry1319]

I love his voice!

[@inviteCHANGE]

Brighton does have such a smooth "made for radio or tv" voice! Thanks for watching!

[@helloneurons]

This was extremely useful to watch! Thank you for sharing this. I enjoyed the journey of what started as a prioritization issue turned into a question about joy in life.

[@sabinagiustino6922]

Fantastic session, thanks so much for sharing!

[@inviteCHANGE]

Glad you enjoyed it, thanks for watching!

[@Mscolfran]

That was amazing!

[@inviteCHANGE]

Thank you so much for your comment! We're thrilled to hear that you found the first coaching session example to be amazing. Our goal is to provide high-quality coaching education content that is both informative and engaging, and we're glad to hear that we hit the mark with this video. We hope that you found the session to be helpful and that it provided you with some valuable insights into the coaching process. If you have any questions or feedback, please don't hesitate to let us know. Thanks again for watching!

[@KaareneRNHealthLifeCoach]

Great coaching session!

[@inviteCHANGE]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@tararaveronica4434]

What great questions on this journey of seeking joy . Thanks for sharing

[@inviteCHANGE]

Thank you for watching and commenting!

[@annabelletraveling]

Thank you for sharing this

[@florencia2771]

Hi Ms. Thank you so much for putting this together for us and thank you to the gentlemen for participating. This is so helpful. 💕

[@inviteCHANGE]

We are so thrilled you've found the video useful.

[@ChristianOne]

Loved this! She's very quick to catch the details most would miss. Great! Went to the website, but how do I book with this lady specifically??

[@kingshousetube]

Thanks!

[@inviteCHANGE]

Thank you for watching and commenting!

[@anthonyjohnson9185]

I like this session. It is reassuring to hear her questioning style wrt my own. Sometimes you feel you are missing the direct route but the exploration is really key. Good video thank you folks.

[@inviteCHANGE]

We're glad to hear that you found this session useful and reassuring. It's not uncommon to feel like you may be missing the direct route when coaching, or feel like you want to check the boxes on the perfect questions to ask. You are correct in knowing that your unique style is what will assist your clients most and that the exploration is indeed essential. Coaches who ask curious and powerful questions authentically encourage clients to reflect deeply and explore their thoughts and feelings, which can lead to new insights and breakthroughs. It's great to see that you recognize the value of this approach. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and taking the time to leave a positive comment. Keep loving your life's work!

[@swamishivatmananda2157]

Thank You for your effort in putting this out for others to learn. A fantastic learning…..

[@inviteCHANGE]

It is good to hear from you and to know it's helpful and useful is reinforcement to keep growing and learning here through our channel. We love to share and collaborate!

[@freestylingyoga7945]

Thank you, Brighton, for showing up so honest, open and daring! You were in such good hands, thanks Jennifer "star(r)!" You role-modelled for me the application of the ICF competencies as presented by Brighton in the ICF video series - where I found out about this video after having listened to competency #8, explained by the CEO of "invite CHANGE". I am inspired by having learned so much today, definitely worth an entry in my personal Joy Journal! I am thinking now while writing how Joy can come threefold: related to being received by another, created by a circumstance or giving it to oneself. Which might be the most challenging one for myself? I am now wondering ...

[@inviteCHANGE]

Lots of wonderful reflections here. Thank you for watching!

[@AsokaNagato]

After watching this , I felt that he lacks a purpose as to why he’s doing it all. It kept screaming at me. I think wants his work to also make him feel fulfilled .

[@stevenyeo5035]

I notice lots of 1. Soothing, 2. What's important/voices 3.narrowing/reframing to most important - joy/fulfillment/alignment 4. Finally How moving fwd [avoiding even mentioning negative or corrections]

[@venera5675]

Brighton, I’ll re- upload the Down the Rabbit hole song for you. Jennifer and Brighton- thanks for sharing the session.

[@inviteCHANGE]

Jennifer really brought a fresh and generative coaching experience for Brighton and we're glad you watched and enjoyed it, Vena!

[@lyndaedzerza5380]

I'm curious about what makes him happy. I learn a lot from these recordings. Thanks

[@AlmostRetiredinMexico]

Brighton here - I think my biggest takeaway was recognizing what makes me happy - and having fun. Then consciously creating more of that. Playing VR. Playing with my dogs. Last night I went to a Carnival celebration downtown where I live (I live in Mexico.) I have a lot of fun stuff - I just needed to focus on it.

[@mOy2234]

Brighton seems to need to allow himself to spend money on enjoying and going out. He seems to prefer spending time on income generating activities. Thank you for being open.

[@inviteCHANGE]

Thanks for watching and sharing your perspective! Take a look at what one of our Delivery Leaders had to say while reviewing this same session - kzbin.info/www/bejne/a5XEqpeLrNemidE

[@EvantidePhotographyBellingham]

1. There is an external character or expectation that he is revenging with his distractions. 2. Fear of failure has caused him to create busyness and distraction. 3. As entrepreneurs without a boss. One needs to create our own deadlines. This can be more difficult than it sounds.

[@Medietos]

Valuable to see that a normal, successful(health, wife, life, work) man can have the same issue as a miserable one (disease, isolation, prison-like desert-life, no work or task in social belonging.

[@LostOnceLefthanded]

Sounds to me like the times he enjoys the most remembering are the times he spent with his loved ones. Maybe add some more of that in your days. Now how can we integrate spending time with family and friends into your workday? Taking breaks from your work to go have that dinner with your wife, and maybe some pool with Mark before you finish that video, is not as absurd in your job as you might think. Maybe document your poolgame and make it a source of income to ease that quilt of not working 24/7. As it's hard to create ambiguous plans with people without a clear goal: maybe you should give up on the idea that work and play have to be separated. Accepting the fact that your job is really flexible, and it doesn't need to end at certain time is the first step to do just that. Since you like that idea of clear playtime separate from work: how about starting a hobby where there is some organized activity you go to 3 times a week, and you can't miss it. Maybe even intentionally book it for 11 am so it's clear your work doesn't need to be done before you engage in this very important activity of yours. You seem to want to make your work your life and that's great. But this also means you need to add the pastime inside your work, inside your life.

[@inviteCHANGE]

Thanks for watching and sharing your reflections! Take a look at what one of our Delivery Leaders had to say while reviewing this same session - kzbin.info/www/bejne/a5XEqpeLrNemidE

[@minarosered6699]

Only critique is the coach needs to watch the laughter. He was wrangling w guilt and she laughed. Laughter has its place but we have to watch the timing

[@inviteCHANGE]

Your insightful comment serves as a valuable reminder for coaches to remain deeply present with their clients, attuned to their emotions, and mindful of the impact our actions and reactions can have. It is through this mindful presence that we can create an environment of safety and support, guiding our clients towards profound transformation. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and contributing to the ongoing growth and refinement of the coaching profession. May we all continue to learn, adapt, and enhance our coaching skills, supporting our clients with empathy and authenticity.

[@sophia-luciakwon2792]

He doesn’t seem to have a need for this kind of coaching… I don’t think he needs someone to help him regulate his emotions or to be aware and discern how he feels about things, he seems to have his own working wisdom and intuition and organizational/relationship skills.

[@mindful47]

💯 agree

[@piarrasingh6409]

I love how you've very quickly picked up on how he navigates the world and used the appropriate language (NLP), in this case, would it be right to say he is Auditory? Y

[@inviteCHANGE]

Thanks for watching and commenting! You are correct that this client picks up on and is validated by auditory. Much of coaching is this way, as echoing what coaches hear a client say helps to confirm what they will work on and validates their thoughts.

[@Thatlifecoachofficial]

@@inviteCHANGE brilliant, I’m an aspiring coach and am learning a lot!

[@inviteCHANGE]

@@Thatlifecoachofficial Awesome! We are glad you're finding the videos useful. What stage are you in regarding your coach training/practice?

[@Thatlifecoachofficial]

@@inviteCHANGE definetly has helped so thank you for sharing! I had completed a diploma earlier this year incorporating NLP, timelines and other tools which was fantastic. I’ve very recently started to coach my first two clients! Still a lot of learning to be done, however, the key learning so far has been to just be myself!

[@inviteCHANGE]

@@Thatlifecoachofficial Great to hear. The learning and development you're doing sounds fantastic, and congratulations on coaching your first couple of clients! Your key learning is spot on and our favorite part of the "aha" moment for coaches. Being yourself is what creates unique value in your coaching - there is only one YOU - and only you will ask questions your way. Keep loving your life's work and let us know how we can support you along the way!

[@anniesok868]

Im dozing off

[@michellehayden-marsan7835]

Hi, i would like to see the video that was supposed to accompany this ( the first one). When will it be ready?

[@inviteCHANGE]

Eak! I forgot to update this video with the link. I'll do that now. Here's the link: kzbin.info/www/bejne/a5XEqpeLrNemidE

[@Elsanta666]

I still dont get what they do and how the benefit you?

[@fivecentpsychiatry3447]

Some call it a rabbit hole others would call it research

[@inviteCHANGE]

Absolutetly, even the most surreal of experiences are opportunites to learn. We may not always love how we learned some life lessons, and we can choose to grow from them! Thanks for watching.

[@Antigone-yp6ht]

I don't remember what his problem is. Was it solved?

[@AlmostRetiredinMexico]

Brighton here - The problem evolved quite a bit. From being about productivity to being about finding joy in life. And yes, we came to a great resolution about finding and recognizing joy in my life. Thanks!

[@jessies16]

Jessie Smith Karla

[@JT-ld5kh]

HE WANT'S SOLUTIONS TO HIS PROCRASTINATION ISSUE! With men, offer solutions! that's what they want to hear (Coaching). He needs motivation to be more productive. Explain that the reward of doing something productive will set a drive to do other productive things. Or to prepare for the productive situations so that he set's himself up for success, give him exercises to help him change his perspective on productivity, SOMETHING. Holy cow, I'm going to become a Personal Development Coach. I would bet money that most women would think this was a good session, but most men would disagree. Not to sound obtuse, it's that women like to be heard and talk about feelings. This would have been great for a woman but men want to figure out solutions to the issue, not to be questioned on feelings as much.

[@inviteCHANGE]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the coaching session example. In coaching, our aim is not to simply offer solutions or provide motivation. Instead, we work with individuals to support their self-discovery, facilitate deeper insights, and empower them to find their own solutions. While it's true that some individuals, regardless of gender, may prefer a more direct and solution-focused approach, it's important to remember that coaching is a personalized process. Different individuals have unique preferences and needs. In the coaching session example, the focus was on helping the individual explore their procrastination issue and gain a better understanding of the underlying factors. By creating awareness around the rewards of productivity and providing exercises to shift perspectives, the coach helped the client develop new insights and potentially find their own motivation to take action. It's about empowering the client to drive their own progress. Every individual, regardless of gender, can benefit from coaching. The effectiveness of coaching is not limited by gender, but rather by the commitment, openness, and willingness of the individual to engage in the process and take ownership of their growth. If you're interested in becoming a Personal Development Coach, it's important to embrace the principles of coaching, including active listening, powerful questioning, and cultivating self-discovery. This approach can be impactful for individuals of all genders. Coaching is a powerful tool and can create significant positive change in people's lives. I encourage you to explore further and consider pursuing your passion for personal development coaching.

[@roksanaskorupa]

To me, he sounds like his deep yearning is to have kids. I'm not coaching. Just projecting.

[@Medietos]

I cringe at her exaggeratedly soft and warm "Yeaaaahs" as if he were some vulnerable, nervous child or backwards. He IS already calm, safe and confident...!

[@ChristianOne]

Personally, I found her FLAWLESS. I was very impressed!!! In fact, it made me want to find her to do my own session with her but on the website, I didn't see a place to book with her. Maybe someone can enlighten me about that!?!??

[@imanabkr]

Imagine being triggered by something like that LOL

[@RationalHuman-1]

Haha, I cringe at someone cringing over nothing. Cringe much? Why? Rhetorical. Just something for you to think about.

[@patrycja2696]

​@@RationalHuman-1or maybe for you. It's is you that's cringes over nothing and making effort to write a comment lol

[@citizenearth71]

Everyone is "correct" here. Those who "cringe" and those who "cringe" at the "cringe" and those who choose to focus on other aspects of the session. Congratulations all!

[@mindful47]

People who see therapist …honestly should just stick to it. They like to try so many things .

[@mindful47]

Highly intimidating when a client comes in already knowing about coach vs consultant vs therapist etc. He needs therapy not coaching .

[@DT175Enduro]

What constitutes joy in the man's mind? What does it look like? What memories specifically bring to mind the emotional feelings of joy? What is the difference between a happy or positive event and joy? Is it possible to have joy in the midst of problems or things not going the way you planned? If so, how do you define and describe the difference between happiness and joy? And. . . . if that's the goal, feeling and experiencing joy during the day, what beliefs would have to change? ------- The coaching skipped all over the surface without exposing the true discontent in the heart of the man! Why? Why was the coach allowing the client to dance around the surface of a subject? The questions from my perspective were superficial in exploring the root cause and reason for the person's life. ------- The joy thing. . .as the man stated, is connected to the "reason why" . . . that was his quoted phrase. That's key. The coach didn't hear it. If I was to be an intuitive coach myself, which I am. . . the issue here is the man doesn't know why he is alive and questions his value in life. And, ending the day with a "joy journal" to see if he experienced it is not working. He needs to figure out why he is alive, what the purpose of life is, and what his specific calling or mission for living is. And, then with a vision for the "WHY" . . . he will have measurable target and reference to shoot for and live joyful in. Without knowing why you are alive and the purpose of your life, there is no joy! It's all "lost." Which is what the Bible calls those who don't know the Lord and the reason He made them. They are lost! That relationship with God needs to be restored. I cut to the chase, because its the truth. The "guilt" he was originally assigning to wasted time was the guilt of living a disconnected life apart from a relationship with His creator, the living Lord, Jesus Christ who loves Him and died for his sins so he could live accepted, loved, and guilt free! And in that relationship find joy and live with purpose, not having to measure up to the law and religious performance, but in response to the love of God that is freely given by faith. Hello. LOL How do I know this. It's the truth. And to quote Jesus from the bible: "The truth will set you free!" And. . He said, "If I set you free, you will be free indeed." Guilt, Shame, and feeling lost are real issue. The only solution is a born again, set free, new creation, alive in Christ, . . LIFE. Jesus said, "I came to give you life and life to the fullest!" Jesus rose from the dead! He's alive. And redeems people and sets them free from guilt, shame, and every identity issue. But they need to agree with God in order to walk into the light and receive the "joy" of the Lord and be Spiritually made new. They need to realize they are guilty and they need a savior. No one can come to God with religion or performance. None of us are perfect. And God is holy holy holy, perfect. We are fallen creatures, descendants of Adam and Eve. The solution is a spiritual one. There are only two kingdoms. The kingdom of God, which is light and full of joy and peace and purpose, being restored in relationship with Him. And Satan's kingdom of darkness, blind existence, pursuing superficial meaning and filling emotional needs by other people who also have half empty buckets and can never fill us. People need to be filled to overflowing by the Lord, falling in love with Him, finding their identity in Him. Finding the love that never rejects, and secures us as accepted born again children. We can't earn it and we can't lose it. It's not achieved by works or religions. Its recieved by faith in what Jesus did on the cross by paying for our sins and rising again to give us new life. Apart from Christ paying for our sin, and the willful acceptance of His payment for their sin, by believing what He actually did for them on the cross. . . . they can only bury the truth that they are guilty (not just feeling it) . . . without God, keep pursuing superficial life experiences that only end in emptiness and the feelings of something isn't right. Because it isn't! A joy journal will only be an empty book with superficial and fleeting experiences, without God. . .if life is lived without God. It's meaningless!

[@djlucy]

Not everyone is religious and they don't need to bee converted while they're being coached. It's a great strategy if they are religious, but if they're not, you're just doing more harm than good.

[@yi-juchen5280]

wow good one!

[@inviteCHANGE]

Thanks for watching and commenting, glad you enjoyed it!