"HE NEEDS TO BE ON MY LEVEL, I'll find someone!"... Not according to math.

[@AbaNPreach]

I posted links to articles as well as studies on this topic. Being successful does not make your dating prospects easier if you make lots of money & to be clear, this is relating to folks in the top 2-3%. This isn't a discussion to dissuade people from being ambitious, just to understand that being ambitious at work will not necessarily translate well to your dating life. Especially if you limit yourself to ppl on your "level". Choices have consequences understanding that reality is important whether it be to make changes or to adjust your course.

[@Loading-lg6hs]

_Pinned comment spotted_ Objective: *reply*

[@Charlie-jf1me]

Pin of knowledge

[@SirYeetus]

Yeet

[@Loading-lg6hs]

@Baldhina Asnake lol I have dreamed of this for so long.... i just got lucky and i happened to get recommended this vid right when it came out

[@cincin4268]

@@Loading-lg6hs same

[@stayathomedad4830]

I'm 30 years old, me and my wife have been together for 13 years and we have 3 children. I'm a disabled stay at home dad and I am completely made fun of by my wife's friends, family and even my own family for being a stay at home dad. It's funny that people have had opinions about me and my wife but completely dont have their own shit together. We have a good relationship, a house, a car and its completely off the back of my wife but guess what, the kids are takin care of, house is clean, car always has gas, I have my own bbq recipes, and my kids are respectful and well mannered. I always get asked by my boys, how have you made this work? Well for me and my lady it's never been about money and I've been less fortunate with my health since I was 19 and she stuck around. Love you Michelle. Modern woman are trippin

[@AbaNPreach]

Das it mang.

[@TermiNation_45669.]

That's amazing

[@stayathomedad4830]

@@AbaNPreach if you ever need a stay at home dads perspective on this subject I'd love to let you and everyone hear me and my wife's story.

[@edwardkenway4144]

Love this, happy for you man, you are winning at life! don't listen to your friends, they only wish they have good dynamic. peace!

[@peachescastle6659]

Definitely not off the back off your wife. It’s a team effort. You guys have found what works for you. ❤️

[@kaysha]

The real problem of that podcast is the type of women they bring to debate about subjects over their intellect levels... Fatigue...

[@omorka5344]

This right here. Street walkers and college students are not the proper people to debate

[@DavidSaintloth]

Yep. It's gotten tired fast

[@AJweathersby]

They’re bringing in the best looking women they can find. And as we can see, being attractive doesn’t equate to intelligence. Can’t blame them for that, because they’re not looking for dumb women. Many of them have degrees and good jobs.

[@jayclearmen411]

Yea but most average ppl in general aren’t all that bright

[@harry31619]

They probably bring those women in so it can boost their ego I think thats the same thing steven crowder does

[@dragonblazzer9698]

"What do men look for/prefer in women?" *Aba answers her* "I feel like we're deviating from the topic".

[@KingsTalksAI]

Ah god this was so painful man...

[@qbrown548]

I lost it when she said that. Ava thoroughly answered the question and broke it down so simply but still she proceeds to say that BS.

[@ubercult]

She got shitted on and didn't want to acknowledge it.

[@ernestokunseri8300]

I was so trigger though out the video

[@bronichiwa984]

The need to be right is strong in a lot of women. Once dunked on, they'll change goal posts, and deflect.

[@nomcred]

"what if she's got a genie's lamp and she rubs it three times?" 🤣🤣🤣

[@saSHEEmi]

As a woman I agree on this, guys really don't look at our salary, college degree and what career we have. My boyfriend told me he loves me because he knows I'm decent, I didn't hook up with a lot of guys, that we both like music, we went to highschool together and share a lot of memories, and that we can laugh together and at each other. I realized that men's requirements for dating women are simple to figure out. I support my boyfriend with his career, when he's stressed with work I just give him space, I don't demand stuff from him, I cook food for him. It's simple to make your man happy. And yes, being agreeable is a big factor in a relationship. PS. And he does his part on the relationship too.. He makes me happy, attentive and protective of me.. I feel blessed to have my man and be his priority too. ❤️

[@Thespokenone]

It's starting to seem like your content of character/mindset is becoming a rarity in the dating world. Wishing the best for you and your relationship 👏🏾

[@KevinSmith-xt8xr]

That's why i never get intimated by a women that makes more or have all the college degrees doesn't matter

[@vicentemorales2533]

He a Lucky fella

[@tshaolin971]

That's great when a woman can think with clarity on what truly matters.

[@brokenhalo2001]

YeH BuT iT SaYs iN tHe fEmAlE mAgAzInE wItH aRtIcLeS wRiTtEn By A fEmAlE tHat MeN REALLY want blah blah blah. lol When like you say in reality men are pretty simple.

[@emmanouil5922]

As a foreigner, I feel like americans are so far ahead they are now trying to figure out the basics of society and biology.

[@bigdrip8316]

Dame😐

[@georgewashington1034]

Δυστυχώς φίλε η χώρα μας επηρεάζεται πολύ από την Αμερική και σιγά σιγά τους αντιγράφουμε

[@princeofthehills3259]

George ksenoudakis that's about it , it's like when a child becomes a star at young age

[@yd8104]

@@princeofthehills3259 That's a really good analogy. I like it.

[@swriley444]

😂😂😂😂😂😂 real

[@sentinel6507]

“It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it” - Aristotle

[@TremelJackson]

Well duh

[@Lavanence]

@@TremelJackson lol

[@TheATHLETE420]

That hits hard.

[@rohmann000]

He actually didn't literally say that but regardless it is a beautiful quote!

[@cyberdevil7518]

I hate when I proven wrong, that shit eats me alive. But I usually say to give me some time, in that time I well look it up on my own, and see the truth Ig. Then I come back and admit i was wrong if that's the case.

[@AlexandriaTheGreat]

For what it’s worth from a woman’s perspective, this is the advice I would give ladies if they were to ask (which they don’t). Dear Ladies, When considering a mate, pay very close attention to how these potential mates treat people who can do nothing for them. People who make the effort to show respect for service workers, for example, are statistically more likely to be a genuinely respectful person. Kindness, compassion, loyalty, respect, consideration are KEY. Money and physical beauty come and go but those traits are a solid bet. Furthermore, ask yourselves if YOU are displaying these traits. At the end of the day, the absolute most valuable thing you can find is someone who you can turn your back on knowing you’re safe and you will never feel a blade between your ribs. This is assuming these traits are important to you. That being said, you must first determine what is TRULY important to you and seek out those core qualities in your potential mates. This requires a great deal of self assessment and self honesty. Begin there and you’ll be ahead of the game. Sincerely, Alex

[@mo8969]

Dope advice for woman

[@AlexandriaTheGreat]

@@mo8969 thank you. I wish I had someone to give me that advice growing up.

[@SupremeLordEmperorStarscream]

Thank you.

[@AlexandriaTheGreat]

@@SupremeLordEmperorStarscream you’re welcome ☺️

[@kopykat6843]

Beautifully said and very wise words.

[@SirYeetus]

Woman: "I want a high value man!" High value man: "what do you bring to the table?" Woman: "hOw dARe yoU have standards!"

[@SirYeetus]

@AJ false, majority think this way.

[@jackcaptain5476]

@u dope turd

[@cjojay]

This conversation has never been had

[@ctg5679]

@AJ oh yeah but these same women have no problem generalizing us

[@rajakghosh9292]

Most women have these unrealistic entitlement standards, they will be single for life.

[@angelofscorpio]

Some women will literally try and make you feel stupid and gullible for not having their standards and it annoys me. I’m sorry I see my future husband as the love of my life and not a come up lol.

[@chelseae.6779]

That’s also what I don’t understand. We all have different standards but people will judge you right out especially if it’s not ambitious enough to where you’re a trophy wife. I’ll take moral, good character and glasses for the rest of my life lol.😭😂

[@jimmusthegrimmace]

ive got three very hard to achieve standards for the women i date (or dated, ive stopped recently). chubby, affectionate and either has nerdy hobbies or is ok with my own. thats literally it. of course things like empathy and directness are big for me too but really, my pool is massive and i dont care about money made if i can be emotionally vulnerable with her and she respects it and doesnt use it against me. i cant date anymore in this materialist culture we seem to have on the rise.

[@dasnas2843]

Let me just peek in this comment section right quick👀

[@chelseae.6779]

@@jimmusthegrimmace You deserve those standards bro! Let her be what you need. Also I hope the dating scene gets better for up you and also eventually me man.😭

[@LiSa-xm6hy]

@@jimmusthegrimmace you can !! Believe in it and keep your chin up

[@TtheguyfromZA]

I used to judge American people for seeking love outside of their borders, until I saw this. I'm counting my blessings

[@iansmind]

LMAOO

[@raykings5244]

I don't get it. Everyone has a unique brain to them. By that standard people will like different things. There is no good logic that looking at other places for love is wrong. Especially when it happens everywhere. I understand you changed your mind but I don't understand by what faulty logic you came to that conclusion in the first place.

[@TheDexsword]

Yeah I was like why u guys like dating outside of your country then this kind of thing I saw. Man understandable have a good day lol

[@pinacolada1393]

A young lady I worked with married a Imagrant from South America, because she couldn't find a honest hard-working conservative man. She was not bad looking at all, thin no kids and some college. They now have a family.

[@zonyae29047]

I like to think of myself as “sane” for not looking at a man’s income level before anything else. Of course, I (and s lot of women) wouldnt turn it down if a guy with a banging personality , body, and finnancials came up and wanted to take care of me, but that kind of stuff only happens in movies. I just want a loyal guy that will love me through my crazy moments.

[@3v068]

I'm glad that im realizing this now at 25, I know what rich means to me. I dont need a million dollars. I need enough money in the bank for a rainy day, my bills paid, responsibilities taken care of, a house, car, and fulfilling work. THAT is rich.

[@realtruth1448]

No it isn’t lmao cope harder

[@3v068]

@@realtruth1448 then you will forever chase failure.

[@realtruth1448]

@@3v068 forever chase failure how? Lmao bozo doesn’t have the capacity to reach higher money so he thinks nobody else can 😹😹😹 literally the definition of a failure, copium overdose

[@anastasiam4010]

I really do not understand where some women got this idea that dating someone with less money is settling. Money has nothing to do with charater, integrity and someone who has similar values.

[@houseofhas9355]

30+ years of media programming, plus consumerism, luxury lifestyle hunting. Modern woman are the Ultimate consumer not just inside the store but in their personal relationships. They want want and want. But don’t understand that a man also has standard in a woman. fit, feminine, agreeable, Family oriented, and respectful. Modern woman want a man who can help them have status, money, and luxury. Which is not what marriage and love is. Its responsibilities and a commitment to a guardianship. on mission to raise a child taken in a literal blood oath.

[@redpilledchauvinist3638]

They want both which is possible but difficult to do.

[@gilbertzzz7110]

My father always told me that: "-If you want to make money, work with stuff that women buy" He was born in the 60s. This kind of problem is old...

[@MJ87808]

you need to understand that is the thotiana philosophy. it is what it is

[@colleenanne360]

Yeah not sure what money has to do with falling in love.

[@LastdayB4Tomorrow]

My fav part is when she doesn't like where the convo is headed so she says it's just going in circles and moves to a completely different subject.

[@bumpercoach]

AS IF DENIAL ERASES REALITY

[@madderthanever]

That, my friend, is what we call *first level gashlighting* - when you know you're in the wrong, deflect as much as possible until you find a winning path. Didn't worked for her there, but yeah... that's typical.

[@MusMasi]

thats the worst part they are smart enough to see their argument is not standing up to the logic and facts so they change the subject, so they know they are being false but they cling to it for selfish emotional reasons.

[@agentsmith3874]

automatic psychological defense mechanism kicked in

[@amenra6042]

I don’t understand why people live life in their ego. Guys and girls like to identify themselves with things like “alpha” “top %1” “queen” when literally no one has any form of identity. You were given a name, you were given this expectation to be the top %, you were given entitlement. Nothing about your identity is real, but what is real is you. Your awareness, how you were formed over the years, your personality, all that is you. You suffer because you desire what others do. Others suffer because you inflict wounds onto other people that are not your own. Society has taught you to suppress your true self and hide it under a gilded mask of conquest and pleasure. If you want to have a genuine relationship, start embodying love and stop viewing dating like power dynamics.

[@puertolumbian316]

"You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink." Summed up this whole video in 1 quote.

[@J.P_INC.]

Funny thing is I come from a single mother home and she even told me what these men are saying for the most part.. and she's a woman so how does that work in these womens delusion

[@jontest5718]

Horses don’t listen to farmers who make less than them

[@J.P_INC.]

@@jontest5718 they kick the shit outta them 🤣🤣🤣

[@CorbCorbin]

Can’t make it think

[@tuckerdixon8032]

I like "you can lead a hoe to culture but you can't make her think"

[@JenniVander]

My husband and I are both software engineers. We met in college. Our decision to be together and stay together was born of mutual interests, shared values, enjoying being together, and general attraction. We are a team. If we were forced to choose who gives up a job, we'd keep the highest paying job no matter whose that is. My husband would love my business to become the sole income, he wants to play tinkerer and mad scientist (he's licensed to make fireworks and he's currently doing a chicken-cam with lasers somehow involved 😆). I'm working on diversifying and expanding my part-time business now that the kids are older and doing well. I used to work full time but in 2016 I embarked on my business, part-time because I wanted to have more flexible time for the kids while continuing to earn and grow in my career. Now that business has the potential to be more than a job ever could ☺️

[@Blazee2897]

Every man deserves a wife like you.

[@itsyaaveragegirl]

Bruh, these women weren't even listening. They were just talking just to talk.

[@KingRudy10]

Can't stand women like that. I have a woman like that on my team at work. Drives me up the wall

[@urbanasket4915]

Feminism gave women inferiority complex.

[@KingRudy10]

@@urbanasket4915 that's certainly true to some extent

[@urbanasket4915]

@@KingRudy10 Allow me to cover the other extents. The marketing campaigns for women's cosmetics also gave women inferiority complex with their sale's pitch being: "Buy our X to look beautiful.", which by default implies that without "X," women are less/not beautiful and/or ugly. With feminism, throw out heterosexual men's opinion out of this equation, throw in the men who portray as women (hence, they wear copious amounts of makeup to hide their masculine facial features), add oppression points to those "he-women" + women's compassion/virtue signaling = women are now wearing "cake face" and refuse to go outside without having any makeup on.

[@trustme7660]

What i said also

[@bumfrog8513]

I agree. I think this “don’t settle” mindset should be more utilized with actually problematic guys (abusive/ addictive tendencies). Not everyday joes, they’ve taken it too far

[@lemiphil2388]

Oh, definitely

[@damion1121]

“Don’t settle” really just means “don’t settle down”. Only a few of these women will find the amazing man they’re looking for and the rest will be lonely and single with barely anything to offer at 40 years old.

[@martineaaahhh7326]

Like attracts like, the happiest relationships I've seen have equal players. None of this BS alpha males, 6figure nonsense! girls looking for that and only that! I loved this channel when I first watched but the more I see the dumber they appear to me, they talk pure nonsense

[@APsupportsTerrorism]

If these women really think they're better than 90% of men... please, dont settle. She can only ruin decent men's lives with her attitude, contempt, and arrogance. She'll hate the guy she marries, and best case scenario it takes him 20 years to figure that out. More likely she divorce-rps him, drives him to suicide, etc

[@HiddenOcelot]

@@damion1121 That's the point, they're trying to make the good women unable to take the women below so the women below them get men at their level lol.

[@DashXero]

From a more empathetic angle: Nobody wants to admit that they've wasted their lives. That's a super tough pill to swallow. Was Aba right? Abso-fucking-lutely.

[@SupaVillian100]

“Aba-fucking-lutely” lol

[@Aequitas887]

No body? I openly admit to I wasted every opportunity, sadly i have friends and co-workers who admit the same... the fact that everyone in my circle suffers from some form of mental illness i am pretty sure has nothing to do with it lmao

[@DashXero]

@@Aequitas887 Nobody. Just because you've wasted opportunities doesn't mean you've wasted your life. You're at least able to recognize that you've wasted the opportunities afforded to you, and can do better if you so choose. A life is wasted when one blatantly refuses to do better and refuses to recognize that it is possible to do better. If you and your colleagues fall into that second category, then I got nothin'.

[@TuffLuv1984]

There are many women who made themselves into incubators/personal chefs/maid to a man who also look back at their life and consider it wasted. Especially when after devoting her life to him, he takes her for granted and gets a younger mistress. I would actually venture far more domestic women had that regret than the other way around. When is a queen most powerful historically? When she ruled alone.

[@DashXero]

@@TuffLuv1984 There are plenty of men who made themselves into cucks/ATMS/butlers to a woman who also look back at their life and consider it wasted. Especially when after devoting his life to her, she takes him for granted and gets a dude with more money/a bigger dick. . . I'm being half-facetious, but what you're trying to say isn't lost on me. The people you mentioned exist, and really don't have anything to do with the discussion at hand. That's another conversation entirely. Hunting prey is one thing. What to do with the carcass is something else. Aba was speaking to women who were hunting with foam pool noodles (and those women invested a lot into obtaining those pool noodles).

[@itsblosseybitch6062]

I get that women go after the corporate, CEO-type guys for the money and security, but beyond that, these guys are overrated. Most of these CEO-type guys are super angry and not fun to be around. Imagine being married to someone like that and having kids with them? YIKES!

[@joelsays2280]

That's true. Also some people forget there are those who are "married to the job." that they may not have time for a family to raise.

[@Marky-Mark1337]

Well you need to be a sociopath or a psychopath to be a CEO

[@awilliams7796]

@@Marky-Mark1337 not always but it’s definitely a more common trait in them

[@koustavchatterjee9974]

I don't think CEO-type guys even care about women in that sense. A lot of them care a lot more about power, money and such than a need to marry. Which is quite fine in my opinion. But for a woman it makes doubly less sense to go after such people.

[@pathetic2399]

@@koustavchatterjee9974 more like they care about not losing their jobs lol

[@abundantlybelle]

i lost it when she said “i think we deviated from the question” 😂😂😂

[@WritingSecrets]

More like deviated from her internal narrative and what she wants to hear lol

[@Dannnomite]

Right. You could have told that girl the sky is blue and she wouldn’t wanna hear it.

[@TheDrakelicious]

Yes. What a coward. Face the music dear.

[@GothamThotSlayer]

The math messed her up 😭

[@Cuteneyth]

You know she’s mad cause of facts so she want us to think that he lost the point of the conversation 🙄

[@thatsvickiIRL]

Observation: whether or not U agree, the lady to the left/in black seem to not listen to a word and is busy formulating a counter argument - body language says it all.

[@houseofhas9355]

another thing men hate. listening to respond not listening to comprehend. Why men shouldn’t argue with woman or men who do this. It’s literally a waste of time.

[@MusMasi]

@@houseofhas9355 often just trying to talk with someone like that is a waste of time.

[@Aledupa12]

But I like the two to the left of him, the blonde and the red head one. They look so interested at him. Would like that kind of attencion from a women.

[@muambila]

Yeah that was actually really annoying when I watched that episode. Disagreements are great and make for a good discussion but when you’re not listening and make statements like “we are going in circles” when you’re not even actively listening that is mad.

[@jordankaminski5073]

It's probably because people have been told all their life to "follow your dreams, believe in yourself, you are special" so when someone comes along with facts and statistics against them they take it personally and are not willing to look at a situation externally.

[@ExcuseMyWeebRudeness]

I've noticed on this podcast, as soon as a guy makes a point, the women instantly retort with "But what if..." Or something like that to find some kind of loophole or exception.

[@SassafrasTee7366]

EXACTLY! Let them be right when they are right. To me, that is sexist and I’m a woman. Edit: Wow so many likes in one day. Thanks, I’m glad many of you agree with me.

[@tb8654]

@@SassafrasTee7366 thank you 😭 seriously. I think that conversations with many women that tend to not be compartmentalized once it is shit the positives/negatives about other women. I see women bring up stuff like eating disorders, health issues that affect weight gaining, etc etc as an attempt to counter certain statements, which are always things that only affect a small 1-10% of the demographic, which would be like women complaining about only having first dates with broke men and then men bringing up "Well what if he just filed bankruptcy because he need a $100,000 loan to pay for his grandmother's heart surgery?" lol

[@EgalitarianWoman]

Yup! They need to get some non-misandric women on this show...probably never happen unfortunately.

[@nisuperman]

It is the need to be right and I get it, it is hard to shake our internal system belief.Cognitive dissonance has to enter in action.

[@botgod6264]

Whataboutism, a literal russian diplomatic tactic. Hilarious.

[@jalisalynn3747]

I agree completely! I always say everyone wants to be millionaires and entrepreneurs. Whose going to be the workers??

[@madeinresitasometimeago3970]

True!

[@maonmanak]

I told my ex this so much she kept saying how she wants someone who trynna start a buisness like how she wants to and hated me wanting to work a 9-5 but here we are i got a car and making moves while she stuck in a paycheck to paycheck stress life

[@vicbirth1649]

Me. Fuck being an entrepreneur, sounds like an absolutely terrible time. I know enough millionaires to understand you can have a perfectly balanced lifestyle as a worker if you educate yourself and work on your skills.

[@StillHere94]

Me I’m doing it rn!!

[@deirvindavis5093]

@@vicbirth1649 most small businesses don’t even make it to the five year mark where they become autonomous. No one wants to talk about that

[@neliaeppcoo5871]

I am a lab technician and when my husband and I decided to have children I quit and stayed home to raise our kids( it was great) the women that worked in my husband’s office treated me horrible they always looked and talked down to me 😏 and just assumed that I was unaccomplished, uneducated. Successful women have a chip on their shoulders it’s really unfortunate.

[@exia7777]

Glad you winning👏👏👏 hope you keep winning

[@watamutha]

Maybe b/c they want to be stay at home moms and are trying to make themselves feel better that theyre not.

[@TheRealJonster]

They were just projecting. They wanted to be able to do what you did. Straight up jealousy.

[@MarcBrown]

Throughout history, smart people have always had to shrug off the mob of idiots in oder to succeed.

[@anneb889]

When I was a kid, it seemed that feminism was more about women fighting women....the working moms vs the stay at home moms, etc. Mow it seems that it has turned mostly into male bashing. What I always find odd, is I thought feminism was supposed to give women choices....beyond secretary, teacher, nurse. You want to be the brain surgeon, do it, you want to be the stay at home mom, do it. Women judge other women very harshly.

[@aaroncontreras-slaughter5033]

I’m a stay at home dad because my wife makes like 5x what I do and I’m proud of that. I switched my role to just provide in a different way. Exactly what preach said. I do all the maintenance on our cars. I do the majority of the cleaning. You can be a provider in a way other than money.

[@hermystic_ways]

Absolutely. Much respect to you. Your wife is really lucky to have such a mature partner

[@88salmaa]

I hope I find a man like you in the future, that’s amazing 🙌🏼 a present father is my top priority

[@Mr.BigBadWolf]

It’s cool but I don’t trust it. Unless she’s madly in love with you. A lot of these women want men with money. Because they don’t plan to work their entire life. They want you too. But good news is stay at home wives are typically more likely to cheat then ones who work because of free time and being board. But stay at home dads are less likely to cheat due to lack of access.

[@honeybee9393]

No that's beta you've taken on the role of the woman and she's taken your role that's unnatural and out of order thats not something to be proud of.... #MAKE MEN MEN AGAIN

[@baileylushina]

@@Mr.BigBadWolf Dude if she's not madly in love with you, leave. I dont understand why the main thing everyone says against stay at home dads is that the woman will cheat. Is this because all you dudes with stay at home wives are cheating so you think the same will be true the other way around or something? One person working in the home and the other out of the home no matter what gender isn't the cause of cheating. If you're cheating something is already really wrong with the relationship. You say it will only work if she's madly inlove... and yeah id agree, but that's true no matter who's working. What kind of relationship do you have where people don't love eachother?

[@amberbrehaut7045]

The 100 women and men example was very accurate. Just often day to day we don't think of it like that.

[@ndnrb_]

Must be nice

[@MusMasi]

maybe more people need to think of that day to day.

[@MrsNicolas]

As a woman who is into math, I think about it regularly.

[@user-vu1ht7gt3x]

Im honestly suprised how they didn't get it at that point maybe it's because they've been use to simps praising them and telling them they're somekind of goddess or something

[@fulloffool5925]

Well, dating is getting harder day by day and lots of women are ending being alone and miserable or just end up with lots of cats or dogs. We as society have to understand why, so that we can fix the problem.

[@tylerroe5175]

*Gets laid out on an answer she doesn’t like* “We’ve deviated from the question”

[@AshleyHedrick]

I’m a proud housewife ( no we don’t make six figures) now. My husband and I couldn’t be more happier! I struggle with it sometimes because of the way society and even some family members view being a stay at home wife and “house manager”. Over the last year I’ve been much more confident in my role. It’s not the life for all women but for my marriage and life it is the best decision ever. 🙌🏼

[@bumpercoach]

but its the mom all kids would rather have including the moms who were once kids

[@rafiqhannibal9633]

Most of us don't understand the value and importance of having one take care of the home. Someone to talk to and to work together with: it can't be bought.

[@kasmidjan]

Congratulations... May God always Bless and Protect You and your Family

[@jswish5821]

I respect you a lot. Keep your head up and stay positive

[@apocalypticachmodio]

Bless you, by the time your kids grow to become successful and happy guess who's gonna be jealous...

[@Yajeeb]

Aba: "it baffles me when i show all these facts and numbers, yet STILL" Kevin Samuels: *"First time?"*

[@Iron-Bridge]

😂😂😂👏

[@jamescheaye927]

“How tall are you?”

[@ReivasMC]

ahahahah underrated comment, up you go brother, to the top

[@eg4514]

still what?

[@emekaojih8953]

Facts 🤣🤣

[@VinceTheCreatorr]

Imagine an OnlyFans girl making $10,000 a month. "A Man has to be on my Level or above."

[@the2kking307]

Lol!

[@WhatIsItToBurn]

What's the same level as "I show my butthole to pay my rent"? lmao

[@lightkira4119]

@@WhatIsItToBurn oh and make sure he is at least 6'0 and taller. No short, hard working man required.

[@emirdelacruz7787]

Well at that point you gotta be with someone that's involved in the black market. Most of those people are more ruthless than highly achieved corporate people. They will kill you when they don't agree with you.

[@Aledupa12]

That is the kind of women who says she is independent from men xD

[@graysontodd6524]

The classic example of listening to respond instead of listening to hear.

[@r.fo.839]

The women on the podcast are always bringing up hypotheticals. “What if this” and “what if that”. You can spend all eternity speaking about hypotheticals. Aba was speaking in general, and with all generalities there are exceptions. But bringing up exceptions in discussions like this is trivial. If a successful woman found a way to live her life happily with a healthy dating life, good for her. But that example is in the 1% of women. Therefore, in my opinion that example also hold little weight in this whole topic.

[@Sketch89]

Thing is.. he said “if she can work 2hrs and make $1 mil, then cool” They still insisted the “what if”

[@trustme7660]

There just talking not even listening money is brought up always. They also don’t understand money doesn’t bring happiness

[@solusaldrain]

Everything can work or be dismantled in the hypothetical. Every plan will work on the drawing board, but no plan survives contact with the enemy. Actually do it and see what happens.

[@jasonmighty3328]

The entire conversation is a hypothetical because none of those girls are wealthy enough to speak on behalf of wealthy women. They are the white knights of wealthy women. They are debated reason's to further dislike men. I'm pretty sure if Abba was speaking to wealthy women that the wealthy women would be agreeing with him. It's like me asking a doctor how do the police operate, they may both be emergency services but they operate completely differently and a doctor will only ever be guessing at the operations of the police. These women and wealthier women are women but they operate completely differently and you can't expect these women to understand that. ... so why are they even having this discussion. Probably a mix of man hate and thinking they are knowledgeable.

[@Londonlink]

@@jasonmighty3328 Well would they invite the other side on the show is the question they need an average everyday women, wealthy women and one of these women on a panel and see where that leads.

[@carsonrorie6399]

If someone when asked what they bring to the table responds with “I AM the table”, send them back. They’re one of those IKEA tables that you have to assemble to make beneficial

[@timtapp5931]

Botchamania reference!

[@shiro2400]

Probably those shitty pre builds that’s going to miss some *screws* 🤣

[@MusMasi]

then their bones end up literally being part of a table...........................jks it rubs the lotion

[@raisa_nn]

I don't understand. The video says men don't care about how much a woman makes or how educated she is. It implies ambition does not matter. So, what do you personally want her to "bring to the table"?

[@Krabyss]

@@raisa_nn ambition matters and doesn’t refer solely to career aspirations. Personally, money doesn’t matter much but definitely not completely dependent or broke. Besides, ambition is far from the only thing that qualifies as something one “brings to the table.” Personality, sense of humour, common interests/hobbies, relatively attractive face/body, loyalty, honesty, kindness, etc. Many other virtues indicating value that would help rather than hinder a relationship; people are meant to be a net positive together as opposed to being alone otherwise why bother

[@natejones8539]

Why do women in these kind of relationships debates automatically want to reference the 1 percent of exceptions when they need to make their point.

[@houseofhas9355]

They are unable to be objective and remove themselves from the conversation at hand. They think they are being discussed. So they rationalize and make things better, protect feelings. Discussion the 1-2% when the discussion is about majority. 50% + Not a lot of woman can do this. Turn off they’re emotions and be objective. Emotions can happening( because someone is triggered) even when the person is not crying!

[@Thespokenone]

One thing I've realised is that women tend to cling onto that sliver of hope/a possibility, no matter how improbable it is.

[@puma21puma21]

Becauses that's who's smashing them in the clubs and they think that's they're level. They haven't worked out they were just a pump and dump

[@MrsNicolas]

@@houseofhas9355 I agree. I shut conversations down when I come with the fact and stats. Then here comes dudes with the 1% exceptions or deflections. I've learned that's the only way to shut down certain discussions with a man. Very few men deal in emotions.

[@robertruiz3131]

Evolutionary In-group preference. Call it the hive, the sisterhood, etc... Women naturally associate with women they don't even know : "Oh you said most women are obese? Well I'm going to take offense and argue that you're wrong even though I'm not even in that category!" It's why drama flicks and romance movies are popular they all get high living through the female leads' experience. Men don't have this evolutionary quirk as a tournament species and if someone says "most men are pigs" we don't take it personal, because we see our gender as made up of individuals. To a woman SHE IS THE 1% until reality can't be ignored. (usually around 35) A man knows wether he is in the 1% or he isn't.

[@leroyrodgers6089]

I've never heard a man say, "Gosh, I can't wait to meet my future wife who just so happens to be partner at a law firm. Sure, she works alot of hours and never sees the kids but that's the price to pay for a good woman..........."

[@kelliejackson3563]

A woman can have a good job and be a great mother. Some mothers who are at home with their children are absolutely useless, dont deny it because its true. Being at home with your children does not turn you into super mum.

[@Angel-ej4ui]

@@kelliejackson3563 I believe stay at home wives/husbands/gf/bf are useless and don't give back to society either but i do not agree that stay at home mothers/fathers are useless because kids are very needy and some of the kids might be special needs kids and if that's what it takes to be able to raise your child and they decide to be a stay at home mother/father for a few years then that's a respectable thing.

[@Angel-ej4ui]

Also a good woman isn't just someone who'll be your maid and a baby birthing machine for you and a good man isn't just someone who's rich and will provide money for you. You should search for in a mate qualities that you value like kindness etc and see if you share same morals and values and have similar/compatible goals for future rather than the stereotype of a woman who has to give me kids and take care of them and the house and a man who has to provide money for me 🙂

[@fragrantbloom]

@kelliejackson3563 my mom is a sahm and she ruined the family. Look for her character not her job and you'll have a good life.

[@kickdoeent]

Chris Rock said it best “don’t debate with women. Because men have the need to make sense. A woman is not gonna let a little thing like sense mess up their argument”

[@2011jch]

BARS

[@brownie3275]

Oh, didn't know I was a man. 😂

[@theeyesbutterfly6089]

Now imagine dealing with a man who’s been raised by nothing but women. With No sense. Now on the latter, it’s refreshing when sense is instilled

[@DE_Impeccable_Man]

@@theeyesbutterfly6089 Man Law violation🤣

[@parisangelo1753]

i know its just a joke but Chris Rock is so intelligent with his comedy

[@swolsauce9923]

Aba explained that perfectly. They just didn’t want to accept the reality.

[@topshelf1055]

Aba is a Kevin Samuels mini me.

[@fedoramcclaren4294]

@@topshelf1055 nah...I haven't heard him tell a woman she is average looking or overweight yet...lol

[@theeyesbutterfly6089]

@@fedoramcclaren4294 With that video I had to rethink how I thought about it. Watching more of KS other videos in entirety, and not even just a snippet. That’s used for media attention. He gives the same energy to men and women alike. Don’t like his message don’t watch it.

[@deonhiggins]

@@topshelf1055 I feel like they're one and the same.

[@KrysysKaos]

Exactly 💯. It’s a shame. Very disheartening that many women will not use logic.

[@Figuring.It.Out.]

I really miss the floor boards creek man. Shout out to the day one💪🏾

[@tolkienblack6602]

Mannn this don't even feel like Aba and Preach, they don't even call us cisgendered niggas anymore. Do they not love us?

[@bartrailblockett7458]

I feel like they should have it on a soundboard at this point 🤷🏾‍♂️ at least for nostalgia

[@rebeccashields9626]

It’s interesting to hear that these women wouldn’t date someone who earns less than them. I am a nurse and at least 50% of my coworkers make more than their husbands or boyfriends. I think women who are high earners have to learn to be happy with a guy who makes less than them. You can still live a good life splitting the housework evenly or having the man do more if his job is less demanding.

[@jayboy2kay7]

Try explaining that to the majority of your gender my friend and you’ll see how much of an issue it REALLY is.

[@CeroAshura]

I've seen this with other women in the same industry as yours. Definitely some truth in what you said.

[@rebeccashields9626]

@@chadradwell2593 certainly I think that is the norm. But if women are now going to be in high powered positions like CEO, doctor, engineer, etc, if they always try find a spouse who out earns them the pool of applicants gets absolutely tiny. To the point where those woman may not ever find someone. So a percentage of woman might have to be okay with marrying someone who earns less than them if they want to be married and have a family. I think it’s possible to have an awesome life with a man who earns less. My hubby made a good $15k less than me when we first started out. And when we had kids and I cut my hours down he earned more. I think we’re pretty happy together (unless he’s secretly miserable and I’m just oblivious?). I think it’s possible women are missing out on really awesome guys because they’re dismissing them as not being ambitious enough. A family only needs so much money. Once the bills are paid, I’d rather have my husband home to spend time with and raise kids with than working more hours.

[@meimou1754]

Most women won't, and most women in this CS are lying

[@lavish_1717]

It’s hard to find loyal men who won’t cheat on you when you make more than him

[@dayabrittany5758]

You can tell these women have never worked a job that requires to work more. I work 50+ hours, there is barely any time for recreation let alone to find someone, and thats with someone with a lot of discipline. They are speaking about fantasies indeed.

[@trustme7660]

@Ryan D there responses speak volumes they don’t work long hours weeks they don’t understand the sacrifices that need to be made

[@trustme7660]

I work about he same amount of hours I just want a girl to spend time with it’s not about money it’s time.

[@Grandmaster_Sub-Zero]

@Ryan D Most of them make a living on onlyfans.

[@Grandmaster_Sub-Zero]

@Ryan D Precisely. But they think they're the prize!

[@MasterBetty545]

@@Grandmaster_Sub-Zero Is that confirmed onlyfan girls or are you just saying that? lol

[@jaja2084]

"With everyone super, no one will be." Took me years to realize how screwed up that line and motivations actually were.

[@SoLoboo]

The incredibles 💪🏽

[@yinyangjpy6749]

Syndrome was correct!

[@sonderexpeditions]

What do you mean by motivations?

[@SoLoboo]

@@sonderexpeditions Meaning his motivation was make every equal. It’s no different than people who wants everyone to win, so that no one stands out. It causes dysfunction. I.e. Losers want to take away the uniqueness of winners.

[@isaacdebeila8085]

everyone can be unique but everyone can not be special... its just how it works

[@pootis4986]

" i want a woman who makes money as much as i do" said no decent man in his life

[@gh0rochi363]

Exactly no real man is saying that their when needs to be on their level financially.

[@dperlz3141]

Every man I've dated has made less than me. As long as he can actually support himself without me, is loyal and treats me with respect, has his own friend group and hobbies, then that's cool. 100+ bonus points if he can cook, I love a man that cooks. I've been in an abusive relationship before I learned what's right for me and don't want anyone to have control over me, whether it be physically, emotionally or financially.

[@blackredd6563]

I like how this argument always goes through the “man are too weak” type beat where they blame a mans fragile masculinity on not wanting woman who make more. When tbh as a young man I can say most of us would be open to it. It ain’t our fault y’all just want men making more

[@ricardoh87]

women are reactionary and emotional. They are desperate to submit to a guy who calls them out on their bullshit and puts them in their place

[@taillessc6432]

Facts, if your income can handle the bills and other necessities, I'll learn to cook actual meals and do the house chores and shit. My woman making more than me isn't a burden on me.

[@93mcmanus]

Exactly dude we are fine with it but women aren’t. We know ahead of time that she’ll be unsatisfied with a man making less than her. She will wonder why she is getting up early for work while you’re at home having fun and working with the kids/chores around the house.

[@1ach1]

Any beatmakers/artists who laughed at: "men are too weak" type beat 😂😂

[@queenjohnson5097]

Well being insecure doesn't mean your weak lol. Stay away from these women if you don't want them. Warm them but they might really be happier alone. Most women do die alone without their spouse techicnally. Also there are women in career fields especially STEM that don't require them to claw their way to the top. I don't think the women they bring on this show are a great representation of the modern woman. Just a modern version of the shallow one. Same with a majority of the men interviewing them EXCEPT FOR PREACH of course haha 😂❤️

[@connor9x9]

"...that girl living behind the trashcan..." definitely inspired by Patrice RIP

[@AB1B1]

😂 aye I read and he said your comment at the same time

[@bbbbbbb51]

Reminds me of "you'd think talking to a doctor I wouldn't be hearing the same bullshit a girl at McDonald's would say." Lmaoooo

[@ericrios1234]

She looks so cute with garbage on her 😂

[@LuperSame]

@@ericrios1234 i don't think he said banana peel on her head, he said iirc "she's so cute with garbage on her", but i could be wrong.

[@kevinpaap2890]

You love your woman? You love the life you built? “Yup” See that woman passed out behind the dumpster? “ 👀 “ Would you risk it all for a passed out woman behind a dumper? “ 🙇🏿‍♂️🙈😳🤔😬🥴”

[@DrunkAlKrn]

It's a partnership. Our income, is our income. My wife made more than I did, and when we had children, because I made less, I became the stay at home father. We don't think of it as MY money and YOUR money, it's OUR money. We don't make a lot, but we make enough and of course, we have our challenges, but we're a very happy, close-knit family, and I wouldn't trade that for any amount of money.

[@TilaIda]

I want a man who is on my level when it comes to morals, integrity, emphaty, kindness, sense of humor and communication. We'll somehow manage with money we have.

[@urbanasket4915]

So between a man who is as moral/funny/kind... as you are and between a man who is *more* moral/funny/kind... than you are, which one would you choose?

[@duhduh14]

@@urbanasket4915 Someone will be better, someone will be richer, someone else will be funnier. It'll be someone who she creates a connection with.

[@urbanasket4915]

@@duhduh14 Are you implying that a woman can create a connection with a man who is completely off from her initial preferences? For if not, then I am missing the point of your "connection" as this resides on her initial preferences for how her (ideal) man should be. Meaning, is a man being "as X as she is" her "minimum system requirements" or her "maximum system requirements," or in between those?

[@duhduh14]

@@urbanasket4915 Uh what? It's is already implied that who she will have a connection with already possesses these standards. How would she build a connection with someone who's completely off from her initial preferences? 🤦🏼‍♂️

[@urbanasket4915]

@@duhduh14 As I've said, then I am missing the point of your "connection" argument. As in, you have the option to choose between 2 men. In terms of your moral values, one is *as you are* (your equal) while the other is *more than you are* (i.e., your superior). So out of those 2, which one will you choose for yourself?

[@brandongarcia8220]

LMAOOO Aba is literally just repeating himself because they are asking the same shit and they just don’t get it

[@lenoobpwner]

ok so .... 2 guys make 100k+ so the woman will choose... uh... I'm confused :( BI.... Listen, its easy, you ladies dont date down so you will have only 2 guys out of 100. Ok.... but ... I dont ....get ...it? jesus.

[@Yellow.1844]

im more worried about how they graduated high school or function in life with so little logical thinking

[@theophileeyong787]

Oh they get it! They just don't want to be wrong. The need to be right is real with most women

[@tayemondgreene4401]

They completely understood what was being said. The issue that all vvomen have is that they all *FEEL* like they're the exception & the rules don't apply to them.

[@heroldmutebi8200]

They want a different outcome / answer from the same mathematical equation

[@Dude3472]

When you’re here too early to find good comments

[@enygma386]

Fax

[@sliccthedestroyer1881]

*grabs your left thigh meat*

[@cheesecake4301]

For reals my dude

[@kingkang6877]

Lol

[@sguraya7223]

Early enough to MAKE good comments

[@RenM908]

I’m married and have been in a relationship for the past 10 years but as a woman who has a high paying job this is very true. I found that for me, my struggle when dating was I didn’t have time and Aba mentions that. I was working 70+ hours a week and even though I love my job and my career dating was rough. The only reason I’m in my current relationship is because (my husband now) the guy I dated during my study abroad in college decided to come to the US for his masters and we reconnected. Also for the women in the video who are coming up with these scenarios I’d honestly be curious to know how much they make or even what they do. The idea of saying someone on “your level” is very vague. Does that only extend to economical standards?

[@thisgirlsata3198]

It’s really sad to see that the mind set of, “on my level” for most financially successful women centers mostly on how much a man makes. What ever happened to a man having good morals, being a suitable father figure to his children, respectful, a productive communicator, emotionally stable and so many more attributes money can’t buy? There are plenty of high value men out here who are terrible husbands and absent fathers. Somehow the money seems to blind most. The worst part, like Aba states, is these men are unattainable to a lot of women because there are too few of them out here. So many have a terrible case of FOMO and it’s shows.

[@betvdaytime]

I think it has a lot to do with these opportunist dudes nowadays using financially successful women for a come up and then leaving them for the women they really want. Like Wendy Williams, Jesse Williams Ex-wife, Big Sean last girlfriend before he got famous stories like that are crazy scary. Guys don't care how much a women make unless they're dusty broke because most of times as long she's beautiful, sex and babies that's all that matters.

[@michellerichardson3090]

@@betvdaytime exactly. Some of the guys Ive dated were the only ones bringing up money. Its was annoying.

[@mimi.w667]

It's not unreasonable but most women just dont want to take care of a man finacially.

[@tracyjacquet1902]

Exactly. Another thing I would say where the money would matter for me is if you are not smart with your own money or you can’t budget. I will not trust you with my money if you cannot be trusted with your own, especially if it’s getting that serious. Cause I understand the need to spend, but I will lose it if I see money I worked hard for carelessly spent. I guess the takeaway is the lack of responsibility with money that’s my pet peeve.

[@cha9165]

Not so. I'm successful but I'm looking for a man with morals, emotionally stable etc. What I find is guys do not give me a chance because they think I am above them. They automatically reject me because of what i do and that has nothing to do with me as a person. I want to get to know them but they do not want the time to get to know me. I've had guys literally come out and say 'you are too good for me' when they have amazing characteristics as a person and thats what im attracted too. One guy I bumped into after he didnt wabt to see me said he's now miserable with a girl who gives him daily stress but he turned me down because I was too good i assume financially. Insane. There are a lot of guys who want the perfect girl but do not want to put any effort into getting to know someone and have very low self esteem. Its a shame. Guys a job or money does not make a woman its her personality and morals. I even got passed over for a bulimic schizophrenic with no job because my ex wanted to feel like a man by controlling someone who isn't even in control of themselves then complained when she ruined him that there are no good women out there. Strange lol. There are good men and women it's just lust, ability to control, ego take over what should really matter

[@Cpt.Spaceman]

“I think we’re drifting away from the question” Translation: “shut up and stop spitting facts because I’m not even listening, so we should just move on” Honestly though, these girls aren’t listening to a word Aba said and instead spending the time and effort that he is using to spit facts in their own heads, getting triggered and then devising a foolish argument without understanding a single word that they didn’t want to hear.

[@DE_Impeccable_Man]

That really grinded my gears when she said that. I saw the look he gave after she said that. I gave that same look. Like "wtf did she just say "

[@mlle_soso9741]

The audacity

[@aliceinwonderland3224]

My soon to be husband is going to stay at home when my baby is a little bit older and don't need breastfeeding anymore, because he has a lower income and no college degree. But fuck that. He is absolutely the best person I have ever met. he is loving, caring, loyal, fun and so supportive of my career. These women are decreasing their own chances on more than decent men.

[@vidard9863]

Good on you if it is true, but really take the time to be honest with yourself. Most women unconsciously resent and despise men who make less. Not all, but when the rubber hits the road, and your mother and friends look down on your man it can be harder on you than taking a MASSIVE pay cut and living on his income.

[@JustinBlazzzee]

We will never know your identity so just out of curiosity could you tell us how much you make and how much your fiancé does? Or if you don’t want to say it, can you tell us how much more you make than your fiancé?

[@aliceinwonderland3224]

@@vidard9863 i don't consider people my friends who look down on someone based on their earnings. My mum wouldn't either. I do however consider myself a lucky women. I don't need to defend him all the time as noone I know really cares about our finances. Maybe it's a cultural thing .

[@vidard9863]

@@aliceinwonderland3224 it is definitely cultural, i am familiar with a number of cultures where the women almost always out earn their husband. Still the important thing is that you take the time to be honest with yourself. Beyond that i have nothing to say, i do not know you after all. 😁

[@noo343]

You'll be banging someone at your work within a year tops

[@mrsglitter8373]

As a woman who is a homemaker, I think that one of the big problems for why women are so scared to gravitate more towards the home instead of their careers is because, especially in these days, it's hard to completely and fully trust somebody for your every financial need. Now, that does go for both men and women but I'm just specifically talking about the women at the moment, it's not easy to say okay I'll give up everything and stay home with the children and not worry about a year 2 years 5 years 10 years from now you're not going to find someone younger or get tired of being with the same woman WHATEVER IT MAY BE, and get up and leave the woman high and dry.

[@bxxyz4093]

I’m 22 years old and I completely agree with you as a young woman. It’s hard to settle with a man not knowing if in 5 -10 years I made a mistake by staying home and not creating a career because he’s left me

[@That1AfroedGuy]

@@bxxyz4093 I know i'm a little late to the party, but isn't that literally what alimony and other government assistance is for?

[@ComedyGlor]

​@@That1AfroedGuy you think having government assistance is gonna be as good as having a full time job? Either way you're still depending on something

[@That1AfroedGuy]

@@ComedyGlor No, I don't think that. At all. That's an impressive conclusion you've jumped to... I sure hope you stretched first lol

[@ComedyGlor]

@@That1AfroedGuy it wasn't a conclusion it was a question. I hope you stretched before doing those mental gymnastics. Andso if u agree that getting gov help isn't ideal then why even say it in the 1st place. No one wants to be in that position

[@TheBlademan-]

I wanna see some “where are they now’s” for these OF/IG models in ten years.

[@dlanjobo]

That's actually a good idea for a KZbin channel

[@tricopimp]

Good idea but I’m sure it would be depressing as fuck.

[@leehalloway8787]

@@tricopimp Depressing for who?!

[@irateindividual8086]

Funny as fuck more like

[@bronichiwa984]

I know lots of men want to feel like "they'll get their due karma", but lets be real. The way a lot of men simp these days... these women will find a high earning man, that's a simp. I work in an industry with lots of these types of men. They tend to be in tech. 100K+ earning software dev, that has no social skills, no awareness of how the real dating world acts, and thinks "OMG I finally won the price" when they get a formerly hot chick... that had her fill of foam parties and Chad smashes... and wants a stable man to have kids with... cmon now

[@Vic-Valentine]

proves the girls wrong: "lets change the topic"

[@AlfieTank]

And we wonder why wm Have problems driving straight 😂😂😂

[@jetlife77]

It's just what they do it's just their nature on display

[@icarus8432]

When women are right they will stay on topic and stick to the facts, as they should. When they're wrong, they'll insult you, change the topic, and make you out to be a bad person to trail off the conversation.

[@silentpresence6705]

Anybody else upset that they didn’t show the part when fresh said “no joke but Aba is preaching” 🤣

[@yungsxma5578]

Bro you serious? I would’ve loved if they put that part in 😂

[@Mariet31]

I think he is not understanding that he is talking about personal preferences. He personally prefers a partner who is more available for him, he is needy and there is nothing wrong with that. My cousing is the kind of person who likes to be with her partner a few days per week not every day, so... bottom line, he wants an attentive partner and he can't be with someone with a completely different love style.

[@MarioWiZZeL]

@@yungsxma5578 He's not lying, Fresh said that and timed it so well it made the whole room die with laughter.

[@ZanteBlitz]

Lol that's jokes

[@HenryDube72]

It was said after the marriage bit.

[@jimmyramos1989]

My girlfriend of 10 years always made more money than me in her career as a graphic designer and I never felt weird about it. Like Preach said, I picked up the slack in other ways. When she decided to go to grad school then I worked harder to support us. Now im back in school and shes a therapist making more money than me again and it works for us. Im back in school so I can make a similar amount of money as her. If I dont...I dont. All we care is about is that we are following our dreams--within reason of course lol. This transactional shit isnt always the case. Find someone you admire and cherish visa versa. Glad you guys exposed Fresh and Fit btw for the charlatans they are. Oh, and these kinds of women dont represent the wide variety fo women I encountered throughout my life. These are club chicks....or what you would now call "only fans girls". Fresh and Fit never have real, actual relatable and intelligent women on their show.

[@fragrantbloom]

Same. I have been in a relationship only twice in my life. One man had no college degree and was working in a factory and another was a student. I have a job and a masters degree. I was completely fine with the dynamic and supported their dreams. Unfortunately they got insecurities of my job and degree. I wish men would be more secure in their manhood and think of alternative ways of being a provider. Not everything has to do with money.

[@jimmyramos1989]

@@fragrantbloom definitely. it’s all about being secure in your relationship. now, I finally got my bachelors and have a great full time job supporting her and our newborn daughter. Things are tight while she’s not working only on one income, but we can get through anything if we work as a team.

[@austins.1102]

Shorty who kept interrupting Aba mid sermon(dude was preaching all faxs no printer) was saying a whole bunch of nothing & talking in circles. Ain’t she the same chick that was talking about how unconditional love can exist but literally explained how her love was conditional?!? Lol🤦🏾‍♂️😂💀💀

[@Gchildwarrior]

She was crazy on how she interpreted it! So if I lose my job and go through a rough patch, my girl leaving me until I get better is unconditional love? 🤔🤔🤔 nonsense!

[@austins.1102]

@@Gchildwarrior Facts, she tried using that b.s. “I love myself enough to leave you for both of our own good” Mickey Mouse excuse like just say your love is conditional and be done with it.

[@Gchildwarrior]

@@austins.1102 I wish Aba had reversed the man and woman around in her example and get her reaction. He would have schooled her if she said it wasn't unconditional love.

[@jayclearmen411]

Exactly it’s was such bullish

[@shiro2400]

Yep, she was just BS’ing lol. She was trying to push her own narrative that she can have whatever she wants because she’s a magical creature known as woman. Anddd then there’s us, men, to get her checked out and humble her.

[@danihelarun]

She probably will find a guy that she thinks is “on her level” then will end up alone with a child.

[@SPXCELY]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@karabokhwiane7593]

Notice how you tried to bash the girl, but ended up exposing the degradation of men (across the value spectrum)?

[@juniorlompo108]

He said end up with a child not because she is going to be a single mother but a child because she is exhibiting child-like behavior and reasoning.

[@karabokhwiane7593]

@@juniorlompo108 lol. That is not supported by the grammar he used

[@vernellsanders1331]

That's exactly what will happen to most of them. Kids and no man.

[@TruckStopLayby]

Another issue: If the man earns four times the amount of the woman, he won't mind paying for meals each time they go out 'to dinner'. If the woman earns four times as much as the man, she'll still expect him to take her out (occasionally), but she'll expect to be taken to places in her pay bracket.

[@aloowalia2849]

Yeah agree

[@thecaprikid1329]

I love how Aba breaks things down. I could listen to him talk all day

[@NMA2614]

Can’t believe this is even a discussion 🤦‍♀️

[@shirin8609]

lol i mean aba was talkin to a bunch of onlyfans girls so the delusion is real with them 😆

[@shmazpootaz4331]

I have no problem if my future wife makes more than me, my problem is if they bring it up as a way to attack my pride in an argument

[@MarcBrown]

It's a double edged sword. If you make more than her, she'll just use you, if you make less than han her she'll drop you as soon as she can get her hooks into a "bigger" fish. It's what a virus does; eats up it's host and then moved on to another.

[@heneedsomemilk4194]

They do that often which is another reason some guys don't like when their woman makes more

[@urbanasket4915]

If a woman is not terrified of you, she won't view you as her authority. I call that "in lion's jaws" syndrome. As in, when a lion carries you in his jaws, you can be certain that no one else will bite your head of. So when a woman makes more than her man, she is the lion who carries her man = she cannot feel safe = her man becomes her snack.

[@doronsworld]

"Someone will have to die in order for you to live." A powerful quote, it's the law of equivalent exchange.

[@gilbertzzz7110]

And i hate this fact...

[@mahammadoutunkara6430]

Who would have thought I’d think of anime when watching one of these videos 😂

[@Neddie2k]

Zero-Sum Game.

[@_unseenhunter_5093]

Calm down Edward Elric lol

[@annavictrix]

Aba made me say “amen” so many times I had to look around and make sure I wasn’t at church.

[@stephenvankleeck4801]

So many of these conversations seem to revolve around the fact that most of us are average... BY DEFINITION. Fascinating.

[@idi.h5460]

And the only reason these conversations keep happening is because people refuse to accept their average, average men want above average women and average women want above average men. Just date, be happy and live within your means lol

[@MMKandSSK]

@@idi.h5460 being average is a difficult thing to accept for people in modern times under capitalism, the American dream ideal & millennials being repeatedly told they’re special, capable of achieving anything etc. What people need to realise is that being “average” in terms of income, physical appearance, size of house, luxury of experiences, isn’t a negative thing and it doesn’t judge your character. Living peacefully, enriching your mind, gaining spiritual freedom are the important things, and those don’t inflate corresponding to your bank account. Being more rich, more pretty, more successful, these things don’t equate fulfilment.

[@theradiantdehd3997]

It’s frustrating that people can’t realize that both genders are treated unfairly, especially in the dating market. Women’s standards have raised to no end, while society has kicked down and devalued men. If you’re a man who makes $100k a year, you’re now less valuable than a woman who makes the same. Our natural instinct as men was to provide and protect women and children, when we can’t do so we get severely depressed. Most of the time if a woman can’t find someone to settle down with, they get severely depressed. But it’s true that the more value you have yourself, the smaller of a pool you look for partners in. And society has created a jagged system where women’s contributions are considered worth more than men’s, restricting the available dating market more. Then on top of that you have the narcissists who won’t settle, the people who don’t want to, and the people who have been discouraged from dating and/or settling down because of past trauma, toxic relationships, being seen as a sexual object, being rejected by the few people they saw as potential partners, or being a man who needs emotional support, but is seen as weak by women subconsciously if they show it. A big part of the problem has come from the push against a family culture and towards a sex based culture, leading people to not want to settle down or use other people. You also have to keep in account that courts are rigged against men. If a divorce occurs, only the man has to split his assets with his wife, even if the wife is the bread winner. Men lose custody of their children most of the time, even if they’d be a better parent and guardian than the mother would be. And child support rarely flows from the mother to the father, even if the father DOES get custody of the kid. The problem isn’t that people have equal opportunities, but that we’ve began to shame stay at home Dads, and devalued women if they don’t chase a career. We’ve pushed for a culture that contradicts itself. Every marriage should be a decision made between the two parents, but society devalues people if they take on certain roles, even if they’re carrying their weight.

[@gibememoni]

Depopulation program

[@jessicapace9689]

Omg ur so right. Especially about the de-valueing of mens choice to stay at home. Because I always said if i make alot more , im not gain to quit my job. I feel whoever makes the most money should keep the job. But i also see it as compromise, ( before children to talk about this) , if u want him to pay half the bills , then have reasonably bills. I already ahve a bf and im okey if that i always said if i made more tyen we would just get a comfortable and affordable house within his means , etc. If it really was that bothersome. Besides , it sounds nice to have a stay at home dad XD lol

[@ThatGuy-en2nn]

Don't mean to be That Guy....but how are wxmxn treated unfairly in your example? They create their own high standards and you didn't really mention anything else. I'm not even arguing they are treated fairly. I just feel you said they to make your message agreeable to everyone. I

[@elias4716]

Or maybe not all women want a traditional marriage or relationship where they are a stay-at-home mom/wife, and that's okay. Yet, it's men with this mentality that complain when there is a separation or divorce; they don't want to pay alimony or child support. Cool, so you want the woman to stay home, look after the kids and run a household, so she doesn't work, or it's very minimal, definitely wouldn't make enough to support herself. Then complain later on when she asks for child support or alimony when she's been out of the workforce for how many years, doing unpaid housework and child-rearing, so she hasn't been accumulating or saving any money. It sounds like a catch -22 😕🤔

[@ThatGuy-en2nn]

@@elias4716 I'm not touching the alimony/child support thing right now. Your framing it in a stay at home perspective(like y'all are victims) which is wrong. IN MOST SITUATIONS, it's set up for wxmxn to win both and the government to make money off it. Exception is if you marry down(you'd still get the children& support btw). Anyway, what you haven't considered is y'all are petty af. Alot of you don't want to have a true 50/50 with your partner nor do you want to reverse gender roles. You still want man that makes more than you and can take care of you but "you don't need him". So basically...a normal man/woman relationship but you have money Incase it doesn't work out. Worst of y'all you have ladies who think they deserve this but have not considered what men are attracted to(youth, fertility, cooperation) and how it VASTLY differs from the laundry list of things you need for attraction. Ex: We don't care about your money or career. We aren't taught to want you to take care of us and you won't anyway. It's literally just your money. Point is...you ladies want to be able to do whatever you want without judgement but expect mxn to be traditional and judge them...

[@majdjinn5042]

"Dating Down" is only a term for women. Men just date.

[@gibememoni]

Damn. That true

[@SPXCELY]

✅

[@MrsNicolas]

I disagree. I think depending on the man, dating down is definitely a term. If a man has standards and decides to go outside of those standards, he would essentially be dating down. If he has no standards, then yes, he would be apart of the group of men who just date.

[@reclaimingyourmasculinity2850]

I second Ana's reaction. We men in general do date down aswel.

[@bagofrats3464]

Women moment

[@mykal2803]

I love how all there rebuttals are.. "well what if this one person had this very specific set up... That changes the rule right?"

[@tndm8312]

My father was a mechanic while my mother was a homemaker. What is wrong with a tradesmen? They're invaluable! They made the world around you. Now I'm married to a tech guy which in today's world, basically keeps it running. According to these standards they're 'low' value... Yeah right! Love them both to death ❤

[@MasticinaAkicta]

Trades are going to be hot commodity. Sure getting a degree is one thing and can lead to a good job. But certain trades are a lot more dependable and make good money too. It is hard work but it earns good.

[@goahdejen6176]

@@MasticinaAkicta the thing abt that is that the trades do a number on ur body, which is something most people dont take into account. in ur 50s, 60s, u will feel the pain of the work you have done

[@erikaj0074]

This is why I'm happy I've always had somewhat of a money blindspot. If someone were wearing designer clothes or drove a really expensive car, I honestly never notice because I don't care. Why do people care about this stuff so much? It's sad

[@d.speedy5083]

To show off to their girlfriends and to flex on the gram🤷🏿♂

[@fulloffool5925]

Because humans are greedy and when societies puts high value on something then ppl want more of those things. Sure,we need money but for basic things like foods, clothes and shelter. And if you happen to have more than you need then just help ppl who doesn’t have those basic things or have health problems.

[@dracomurdock6349]

I rent a room for $220 a month, bike everywhere, and have six copies of the same outfit (slacks and black dress shirt with grey 'mist'). I have effectively zero sexual market value because of their low aesthetics *despite* the financial responsibility that motivates the decision.

[@ragejinraver]

@@dracomurdock6349 Your smart with your money 💰 👌

[@Hellkite-er5pg]

The women don't understand Aba's facts because the top two high value men from Aba's example slept with them. And now the women have confused sexual attention from high value men with genuine romantic attention the same men.

[@missladygray]

And neither one of them got wifed up in the process.

[@DamonHowe7]

There is always and will always be, an exception to the rule. The problem is two parts: -People in general think they’re the exception. -People in general don’t actually know what it means to be the exception.

[@Olivia-hj5fp]

I feel like this is always going to be a "losing argument" with some people. When they see an example of a woman working 50+ hours and supporting her kids they'll say "it can be done!" Without taking into account the sacrifices made to their personal time etc. At the end of the day, it's food for thought and nothing more. If you're happy in a relationship then great. No one's forcing men or women to quit their jobs to be stay at home parents. It's still a choice like everything else. Great video as always 👌

[@fulloffool5925]

Exactly! I had once a gf whom i wanted to get married and she too wanted to get married to me. She was in different country though. So my mom wanted to visit her. I told her that my mom is coming to visit you and i’ve told her that we are going to get married. Then out of nowhere she just quits her job and then blames me that she had to quit her job because my mom was coming to visit her. Although her parents were there too and knew about the plan of getting married. It’s so crazy. I am thankful that i made decision not to marry her. Btw, i found out that she didn’t liked her job and needed reason to quit.

[@kelliejackson3563]

@@fulloffool5925 she had a lucky escape from you and your mum! grow up and stop being a mummys boy!

[@fulloffool5925]

@@kelliejackson3563 I am sorry but i am from Asia and It’s in our culture that marriage isn’t just between 2 ppl but between 2 families comes together too. So my mom had to visit her and her family members too. It would be really nice of you if you could just use your brain and know that world isn’t just western countries and it’s full of different traditions and cultures.

[@kelliejackson3563]

@@fulloffool5925 Yes i had guessed that you were not from a western culture ffs! Still a mummys boy though.

[@fulloffool5925]

@@kelliejackson3563 Actually you didn’t thought about that possibility that i come from other country. I know that. Now you feel stupid that’s why you call me mummy’s boy just to offend me. And if my mom meeting my future wife and her family members makes me mummy’s boy then i am gladly my mummy’s boy😉 Hope you get to know your future children’s life partner.

[@cmore1580]

I'm a 32 year old woman and all I can say is "Thank you". I've been putting in a lot of effort to stop this idea of "I deserve better". My family thinks I have bad taste and I deserve better. I'm not a 9 or 10, I don't even consider myself an 8 so it is beyond me why I some how "deserve" a certain type of man. Your videos have been so helpful for me to see the way in which I've set my own expectations too high (and also where they were way too low).

[@animeuniverse5586]

Everyone deserves someone who loves them back as much as they do, its just this

[@HALOSnHORNS]

Yeah deserve better doesn't mean you getting the best of the best. It means you get the best thing for you. I deserve better simply means that you are a whole human who is worthy of true love, honesty, happiness, and a partner who meets your needs. It does not mean you sit on a throne and eat grapes while those you love do everything for you. You do deserve better than a cheater, you deserve better than a liar, you deserve better than a abusive partner, etc. It does not mean you get to remain a shifty human. You become better and thus deserve better

[@Jake38nine]

You only deserve better based on how you treat others and how hard you work for certain things. The idea that women deserve better without any accountability to what they bring to the table is entitlement delusion. If you never cheat and always stay loyal, then you deserve a man who is loyal to you and doesn't take advantage of that. You have to do something to deserve something. Women are often born into thinking their looks or having a vagina makes them entitled to everything. Nah. Your vagina is 1 in a billion. But what 1 woman does have, 20 other women may not have. Like heart, loyalty, communication skills, logic, a brain, kinks, ect... Just because a woman has a nice body or vagina does not entitle them to anything. And most of the time it's abusive, toxic men and women who will use their looks and sex appeal for their own gain. You think the modeling industry cares about you? They will replace you so quickly after you turn a certain age. No different from porn either. Your looks have an expiration date. And women can't stand being told that. Your looks will expire. If you have nothing else of value, then don't be surprised that you turn out to be a soured raisin.

[@cmore1580]

@@Jake38nine I do think a lot of the "deserve" from my family comes from who I am, not what I look like. You're right in that we deserve someone that respects us the way we respect them. I don't agree that women are born entitled, I think pretty women become entitled when they are able to manipulate the people around them with their looks. There are plenty of men (and other women) that can be won over with a pretty smile. I suppose that's where the idea of pretty privilege comes from?

[@piero914]

It's clear that the women brought on to the show have careers centered around their looks. Maybe you guys should mix it up and also invite some women who work as professionals. Lawyers, Doctors, CEOs, and project managers would provide a way different perspective. I feel like a lot of these young girls would be willing to listen to professional women more than they would be willing to listen to a man. It's unfortunate but true.

[@cassycookie9558]

They'll never do it.

[@lilarose3555]

@@cassycookie9558 why?

[@cassycookie9558]

@@lilarose3555 Because its easier for them to show their "superiotiy" next to dumb girls. If they brought actual intellectual women, they would look like fools. Like their arguments would be dismantle with actual facts, historical context and good stats. They often misread statistiques.

[@eagle162]

They do I can give you a name of a 30-minute video if you want.

[@CultureCrossed64]

I mean, they do invite them, I've seen some. But how many lawyers or career oriented people do you know that really want to go on a podcast and possibly get put on blast? Or much worse, stalked?

[@Fuckstrangers]

When that lady said “the baby is not going to survive because the woman needs to breast feed” lmaooo not all women breast feed because sometimes it just doesn’t work out due to several factors. But everything she said was ignorant, so I’m not surprised.

[@xenon3659]

Ya my mom couldn't breast feed me due to some health issues.

[@iSkyn3t]

Exactly! Geez! Lmao

[@paccawacca4069]

all women who CAN breastfeed SHOULD breastfeed. There are objective sicentifically measured benefits to breastfeeding. More attractive (works out the facial muscles as a baby making the jaw and maxilla stronger.) Higher testerone for men. Better all around development. If you CAN breastfeed and choose not to, you're making a really shitty choice. If you're breasts are broken or something, thats a different story. But 90% of women DO in fact have functional breasts.

[@Fuckstrangers]

@@paccawacca4069 It is supported that most mothers try at first, but sometimes it doesn’t work out. There’s issues like not being able to produce enough milk so they supplement with formula or find it very painful to breastfeed. Some women honestly just don’t know that there’s benefits to breastfeeding over formula because it’s been studied that some races get certain information pushing them towards breastfeeding while others get pushed towards formula feeding. Some mothers don’t have as much time because they don’t have as much help in care as other mothers. There’s so many disparities economically, racially, etc., that it doesn’t seem ok to call a non breast feeding mother selfish and what not, without truly knowing the circumstances; with each case being different and there being a lot of gray area between a mother who can and can’t, it’d be unfair to see it that way. Because we don’t all get equal treatment even when it comes to care for an innocent child.

[@paccawacca4069]

@@Fuckstrangersthats not true. You pulled that from your ass. Women who are black aren't given any different information then anyone else. My moms black and she breastfed me so🤷‍♂️

[@YourTruCaptain]

12:42 couldn't have said it better myself. Where there are winners, there are also losers. Where there is light there is also darkness. Everything in society has a cause and an outcome associated with it (totally not a naruto quote btw) 😂 Good shit!

[@crimsaga3316]

Hey captain!

[@G33KN3rd]

true, to become a winner, you gotta be a loser before.

[@iliekass8763]

hermetic principle of polarity, a truth

[@killerra]

Madara was *that nigga* so I'll allow it 😂😂😂

[@Zero-rq9ti]

The light quote sounds like something from Kingdom Hearts lol

[@extrasalt9053]

If a girl rejected me because of my income of all things, it would inspire me to get a higher paying job just to spite her.

[@qlasalle]

Don't do anything that benefits you just to spite a woman. Do it for yourself only brother and you will prosper even more.

[@colbalt95]

Lol I stayed the course when my Exes messed me over for being the nice guy

[@hkr667]

Hint: the manly thing to do would be to say fuck it, I deserve better than a golddigger, and move on, never thinking about that woman ever again.

[@bronichiwa984]

@@qlasalle Honestly this is fine, as long as you eventually transition into doing it for yourself. Tons of men self-improved to spite their ex or get them back... but eventually they get over it and continue to self-improve for themselves. That or they fall off the wagon, when their ex doesn't come back.

[@weefy117]

@@colbalt95 Dont conflate nice with weak. If you are nice and not weak, cool. But if you are nice because youre a pu$$yy? Then your "niceness" means nothing because its from necessity, not restraint.

[@TheLivewire18]

“What if she has a genie lamp and she rubs it 3 times.” Hahahaha

[@w00x360]

I can't stand people who pick one specific part of what you said, ignore the rest, removing context and desperately trying to refute your point. Then they're making scenarios up to try and make their opinion work. This was frustrating to watch but all too common and not specific to this scenario

[@questionablecarnage1469]

It’s far easier to fool someone than to convince them they’ve been fooled

[@Ghostchickie]

As long as the guy has goals in life, and supports me in my endeavors I’m happy. I know a lot of guys don’t make what I do and that’s ok. We’re a team, we should be supporting each other and what works for our family. My brother and dad make less than my sis-in-law and my mom but they’re in happy marriages because my dad and brother support them and are amazing fathers/husbands.

[@thegamingkitchen8429]

But what do you bring to the table.

[@houseofhas9355]

I bet you, There never been a man who hated his wife/gf making more. What really happens is she belittles and makes him feel small, for making less. Creating the stereotype that “ men get insecure” about his woman making more than him, “ she wearing the pants in the house comments” Men don’t care if she makes alot of money or very little. We have the provider instinct because if she is carrying our offspring that instinct will also be there, but we can control it. There is the issue of woman losing attraction for a man cause he can’t provide in that moment and her telling her girlfriends about his struggle, and creating gossip that gets back to him. The issue of her making money is not something about men its about woman being unable to control their association of money , attraction and social status. Modern are lost in a world of forever window shopping until its too late and Aint no man want them, because they can’t give him the most important thing to a man. Fatherhood! A woman past 30 losess 90% of her eggs. Making pregnancy very risky for her and the baby. So their brain and body make the risk analysis in the subconscious.

[@imanigordon6803]

@@houseofhas9355 Facts bitter men comments coming in 3,2,1 😂

[@houseofhas9355]

@@imanigordon6803 Modern woman are the Ultimate consumer not just inside the store but in their personal relationships.

[@Sandra.-.]

I agree. You can't be a lower earner, cheater who doesn't even help around the house when your wife is away chasing the bread. The issue is many men not unlearning toxic masculinity and patriarchy...

[@etherealnine]

Bill burr covered how women argue and this illustrates it oh so well.

[@Werewolf.with.Internet.Access]

You can *FEEL* them getting frustrated that they’re getting talked into a logical corner

[@kkobawski]

Can't fathom how materialistic someone has to be to think it's "dating down" if the man earns more. Money isn't everything. The other person might have other advantages that you don't have even if they can't afford a fancy car.

[@cookie-sn5ex]

Tell me about it

[@thenonexistinghero]

If you think of the people you're attracted to as products, of course you're not going to have a satisfying relationship. I do suppose modern work culture also has something to do with this. For work, even from a farily young age we're taught to market and sell ourselves. To develop our skills not to develop as a person, but to develop them as a product perk.

[@MJ87808]

status and money is everything to them. they don't posess the same emotions like we do.

[@Premislao89]

First ask to be paid the same as men, then use your sexual advantage to be paid more, then bitch that men are making less than you... Ffs

[@shaemus3383]

I do think though some women think like this because for years it was stories about how men are emasculated in relationships were they earn less or were they just leach. So Someone women completely want to avoid such scenarios

[@mitthrawnuruodo1730]

American women grew up with the Disney princess mindset, on top of this whole feminist bs “all women are queens” they grew up believing they can have it all and get that 100k 6ft man. They’ve been told they shouldn’t “settle” for less. This leaves a huge population of men out of luck.

[@kingkang6877]

Not just America but this is a global issue

[@jayclearmen411]

Exactly it’s a huge problem its why I stopped dealing American women for the most part..I just can’t take em serious there for fun times only!! it’s mostly foreign women that I pursue romantic relationships with..

[@h.c.parkeriv2747]

Not only does it leave a lot of "unlucky men", but it also ruins the future for just as many women. Anything that is based on emotion without logical context is doomed to fail.

[@jayclearmen411]

@BASIL!!!!! The musical and pumpin' Seagull lol Jokes on you not white. Just one of those racially ambiguous Americans..ppl look at me an ask me if I’m Mixed all the time I’ve gotten Mexican Filipino Egyptian Cuban etc..

[@sonderexpeditions]

I see you've never been to Asia.

[@lukecaetano8405]

I have so much respect for Aba from all the wisdom he drops. Really helped me since I don't have a good role model growing up

[@jamiwall207]

I have met a couple where the husband makes more than his wife, and a wife that makes more than her husband. I have met a young couple who were both going to school and waiting on each other to finish their PhD before marriage. All were happy in their own way. They loved each other. That is what should matter. When you put love first, everything else is compromisable.

[@nikxyten9650]

I just remember how passive aggressive and condescending that girl was

[@jayclearmen411]

Facts it was sooo annoying...

[@iyke4566]

There are many things I can do but my wife does them instead. There are many things she can do but I do them instead. We are partners to make our home work not competitors.

[@sluttylibe274]

Love this concept! There needs to be less men vs women!

[@doncorleon8104]

man everything Aba was saying went completely over their heads LMFAO and you explained it very well multiple times. Reaching but never grasping

[@xcobmi]

The one on the right was nodding constantly so I guess she agrees

[@primeautobots1]

Guys. I honestly got emotional(anxiety) listening to this. I went through a similar experience as Aba in that interview multiple times and it fell on deaf ears. I gave up entirely as studies, number and logic did not matter. I enjoyed this segment. keep it up

[@kvnonearth]

Not a big fan of fresh and fit, but Aba went there and spoke facts 💯

[@godzfinestnumba1g]

why not?

[@REghazzawi]

He was literally saying the same concepts that they always talk about

[@queenjohnson5097]

@@REghazzawi nah fresh and fit don't use statistics half of the time, make sexist comments for the views, and aren't trying to get to the heart of this issue like Aba and Preach 🙏🙏🔥

[@sguraya7223]

@@queenjohnson5097Sexist comments are funny.

[@0okamalo]

@@queenjohnson5097🧢 bs

[@sclark615]

"American women are different" I couldn't agree more

[@sibusiso2841]

Problem is The US has an insane cultural influence in the rest of the world so this mindset is spreading everywhere

[@seif9923]

@@sibusiso2841 still, the influence isnt bad at this point, maybe in the next few decades but definitely not now, these problems are most in the US, Canada and UK also, the US is actually becoming more conservative again, lgbtq acceptance, ppl who say they are feminists, numbers are going down between GenZs, racial tension increased ALOT less people cheat now ( 30% and 25% of men and women to 20% and 11% of men and women )

[@phoebegary8828]

@@seif9923 I thought that the US was becoming a lot more liberal?

[@seif9923]

@@phoebegary8828 nope, the left is actually pushing people to become more right wing, lots of states now are banning abortions ( i think so, thats what i heard ) 50% of men and 50% of women are not feminists, number is increasing, in many states there are only 1 abortion clinic, racial tension is increasing, just search blm increasing racial tension, lgbtq acceptance going down, and feminism and young men the media is not portraying what is happening in real life, also this is probably the best time in history to date and get married, the lowest infidelity rate in marriages and divorces since the 1950s a marriage in 2021 with a prenup it probably the best we cant get now.

[@sibusiso2841]

@@seif9923 Trust me, the influence is strong. Even here in south africa we got people getting cancelled for making jokes about trans people coz apparently jokes encourage people to attack trans people, we got radical feminists, men are trash nonsense etc. Don't underestimate the cultural influence America has.

[@jidmoore10]

I find it interesting how women think that men will have a issue with them making more money than the men, when alot of men really don't gaf

[@truecrimejungle]

what women really mean is that "men have a problem with us not respecting them if they don't make more money than us"

[@dudeorduuude5211]

But many men do have issue. I've noticed more of the older generation, or non-Western countries. But Western men in their early 20s, same age as those women, don't care.

[@lawlessx9]

it's mostly projection on their part. When they say they "feel" it would bother men that's them trying to put the responsibility on the guy.

[@imanigordon6803]

@@truecrimejungle Exactly

[@truecrimejungle]

@@dudeorduuude5211 the older generation has more experience - keep that in mind. It's easy for a 20 year old to theorize something that doesn't effect them as caring or not - but the older generation has actually experienced it. Also, most non-western countries are happier and have much better numbers in terms of divorce rates, etc...men don't care, but women do - and that effects men whether they care about the money or not.

[@amberl7773]

I been with my husband since he was 20 years old making $13.00 an hour….he didn’t get much attention from girls. Now he’s 30 and makes over 100k and there’s all these women coming out of the woodwork trying to hit him up. What they don’t understand is I supported him and helped build him up.

[@franciscastiglione2052]

Not many women like you, most women just wait into the finish line to pick the winners

[@xsbbx5191]

You can be sur he's not going to give up on you, à respectable Man never give up on the ones that belived in him, good for you girl marry him quick

[@ArielGonzalez1]

let me tell you that he ain't gonna let you go. what you did is highly valuable in a man's eyes

[@xsbbx5191]

The différence beetween you and them is that you gived him your best years where he didn't have nothing and that's not something we see a lot and he knows that, as long as you support him he'll be loyale no question asked, we value respect and loyalty over love, you locked a winner mam congratulations but don't mess it up

[@glutenousvector1153]

Funny how u know women would always mention they build men instead of building themselves