Is abuse biblical grounds for divorce | Daily Devotion

Is abuse grounds for divorce? spoiler - I believe it is. In this Devotion, we tackle this subject, and talk about one of the most painful subjects, yet most misunderstood- biblical grounds for divorce
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[@KrystleLaughter]

“If your spouse is abusive, they’ve divorced you already.”

[@earnestlycontendingforthef5332]

@@elvisisacs3955 The question has to be asked were these women pacifying and reverencing your husband by being obedient to him in "Everything" as is commanded of ALL you wives? "22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything". Ephesians 5:22-24 (KJV)

[@brandon6231]

The Bible does NOT state that. These days every wacko liberal claims abuse over anything they don't Ike. Under that definition everyone is a victim

[@justinhan1266]

@@brandon6231 Ok, but when a mother threatens to kill her own children, financially hold them hostage, physically beats them, and even maliciously lies against them, are you gonna say that just didn't exist? Please stop living in a bubble where you think abuse is just some fairytale and wake up to reality. This has nothing to do with liberals or conservatives or any agenda.

[@brandon6231]

@@justinhan1266 who said abuse wasn't real and who said abuse wasn't sin? It's biblically a sin yes but 2 wrong don't make a right. Thats called fighting fire with fire and that's the sport they play in Hell. You wanna live in hell, good luck with that

[@justinhan1266]

@@brandon6231 That's also another thing. Fear and intimidation with hellfire won't accomplish much in this fashion. Let's say that person chooses not to divorce. Is she/he saved from hell? That's literally the opposite of the gospel.

[@meowskiers5111]

Abuse(physical, mental,emotional, spiritual) is a form of abandonment. Thank you for teaching this.

[@templemount4094]

Yes. See what an unbelieving spouse means in original hebrew. Unrepentant adultery and violence cannot be tolerated. 'If an an unbelieving spouse wants to leave, let him leave. Brother and sister is not in bondage in such cases''. See Str^ongs Concordance, precise translation of original hebrew. Leave in this verse means 'put space between'. Not necessarily only physical space. 'If a man does not provide for his family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever'. Provide - word G4306 means 'to take thought for'. Does he take thought for you if he beats you to the point of near death? So, if he is unrepentantly violent or adulterous with you he is a heathen and has stuck his middle finger to the Almighty. Hell material. Do not stay unequally yoked with him and end up dead. Jesus came to save, not to condemn you to be stuck with an enemy masking as a christian in his words, not deeds and who secretly wants your death. If he repents, things can change.

[@glendike5843]

nowhere does it say that you can remarry. sexual immorality-no longer bound yes, but where does it say remarry? people read scripture for yourselves and stop relying on what others tell you. are you afraid of reading God's word. did it mention remarry in that same verse this man read or are you making that up for yourself? you must remain single as apostle Paul said or else reconcile. period!

[@grant2149]

​@@glendike5843 excatly NO remarriage except death

[@delindasmith5993]

Yes this means they broken their covenant and under the laws given by Moses it is grounds for divorce then freeing the victim to remarry. They’re not bound to a life of loneliness because of their spouses breaking the covenant. That would be making someone else pay for the crime of another.

[@geneva1169]

@@delindasmith5993EXACTLY!!! I don’t know why people think the victim must suffer further!

[@vickywhitman2258]

Thank you for teaching on this subject. When I first came to the Lord in 1990, I met and married a wolf in sheeps clothing at the church I once attended. We moved around from church to church as soon as someone noticed something was wrong. When I did confide in church members regarding the violent abusive life I was living, I was advised that I had no grounds for divorce and I needed to pray and fast for him. So I stayed for almost 8 years through many beatings. This choice was very destructive for everyone, especially my children who for many years hated God for what we had to live through. Thank God for God who sent someone to give me advice to seek safety first and God gave me the courage to leave. I would be in heaven already had I not left when I did. This topic needs to be dealt with more openly and frequently, unfortunately it happens more often than we know, even in the church body.

[@angelrestoiii9030]

Hear this minister break down how Abuse is grounds for divorce: m.kzbin.info/www/bejne/fWaVeGtjrZiqqJY

[@angelrestoiii9030]

Here is this book where Abuse, Adultery, and Abandonment are grounds for divorce this book will help anyone viewing. God bless: www.amazon.com/Not-Under-Bondage-Biblical-Desertion/dp/0980355346/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?keywords=not+under+bondage&qid=1568685729&s=gateway&sr=8-1 Here is another website that helps Christians in abusive marriages: cryingoutforjustice.blog/

[@tashamac7300]

Vicky omg this is the situation I am in. My husband is psychologically and emotionally abusive. He’s a pathological narcissist that likes to distort the reality of me and my daughter and demean and belittle us and decrease our self esteem. It got physical with my daughter and I decided it was over. He was a wolf in sheep’s clothing too. Professed to be a super Christian at the church. Thank you for sharing your testimony. I am glad you are still with us and had the courage to leave

[@darleneburns4093]

I been living in a abusive marriage for the longest. Physically,mentally and cheating. I'm his slave literally. I question myself why I stay in this. Both my parents physically and mentally abused me too and that's all I ever known is abuse. I'm s few short years from 60 and have not accomplished much in life. I still have dreams and goals that seem like will never happen. I lived for every one but me. Just caint do this any more. People think I live a wonderful life and they believe I have a wonderful husband by what he portrays to be in front of others. It has literally made me sick. I was just telling God I can not live like this another day.And than I saw this video popping up.Yes my confirmation to one day leave. I don't know where to start. I don't even have highschool education because my mom took me out of school to work for her. However I believe I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. The church say stay. I caint do it any more. Thank you for posting this video. A right on time message just for me.

[@sweetsquirrel95]

Me 4 yrs

[@susankloppers3784]

You have freed me from self hate for divorcing a abusive spouse. I thank you....

[@earnestlycontendingforthef5332]

The question has to be asked where you pacifying and reverencing your husband by being obedient to him in "Everything" as is commanded of ALL you wives? "22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything". Ephesians 5:22-24 (KJV)

[@clairebearie87]

@@earnestlycontendingforthef5332 In order to be the Head there needs to be respect, if they demonstrate it the wife will need to flee for her own safety and sanity

[@earnestlycontendingforthef5332]

@@clairebearie87 The Scripture does not state that.... For even Christian slaves were told to obey even harsh masters, which is pleasing to God. Which proves their faith and endurance to Him. "18 You who are slaves must accept the authority of your masters with all respect. Do what they tell you-not only if they are kind and reasonable, but even if they are cruel. 19 For God is pleased with you when you do what you know is right and patiently endure unfair treatment. 20 Of course, you get no credit for being patient if you are beaten for doing wrong. But if you suffer for doing good and endure it patiently, God is pleased with you. 21 For God called you to do good, even if it means suffering, just as Christ suffered for you. He is your example, and you must follow in his steps". 1 Peter 2:18-21 (NLT) AMEN!

[@clairebearie87]

Meant to say if respect is not demonstrated and they don't feel safe. God is our protector and does not want harm to come to us. I think that verse you refer to is in reference to slaves and masters. Wives are not slaves so that has been taken out of context. In Exodus, God describes the minimum expected to treat a wife-food, clothing and love. If the husband does not provide it says she was free to go.

[@earnestlycontendingforthef5332]

@@clairebearie87 Slaves who were brethren of Christ were instructed to obey their masters, just as wives are commanded to be subject and obedient to their own husbands. "22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing." Ephesians 5:21-24 (KJV) If they refuse they are sinning against their husbands, Jesus Christ and his Father, Almighty God.

[@schannstewart9385]

Narcassists should never be married so yes! Divorce the narcassist like I did..before he kills your spirit. I didnt get me out. God did!

[@clairebearie87]

Been there too, it felt like my life was over while I was married; couldn't function anymore it was so soul crushing

[@daniellepearls6714]

Yes same here. My husband sucked the life out if me. So life sucking he just drained all the energy. So demonic are narcissists. Its sad really as its like their soul has been sold to satan. I love watching a Christian councilling couple called Jimmy and Karen Evans. They pastored and councilled 100s of couples over 30 years. Jimmy Evans said he has never seen a narcissist change:( He has never been able to help one, they all are not willing to change. But he said he does not rule out Gods intervention, a miracle but yet to ever see it!!!! Just flee for your lives. ✝️🙏🏻

[@MikeSmith-kt5mj]

Every divorced woman claims she was a victim of a narcissist

[@Kamirane919]

great. I divorced several years ago because of abusive spouse. what a terrible moment that he beat me while I was pregnant. I searched throughout the bible but couldn't find any verses about "allowing divorce because of abusive spouse". many people cursed me because of my plans to divorce. feels like I was so wrong with my decisions. some had told me to stay single if divorce was my decision. I felt so alone, but thanks God I saw your video says "God hates divorce, but God does not hate you".. touched my heart.. thanks a lot.. God bless you

[@pinkcandy8157]

Your free to remarry x

[@angelrestoiii9030]

Hear another minister breaks the word down how Abuse is grounds for Divorce: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fWaVeGtjrZiqqJY

[@angelrestoiii9030]

Here is the site that's for Christans in abusive marriage: cryingoutforjustice.blog/

[@ironeagle9850]

Philip Buckley The letter of the law is the standard, the spirit of the law is the exception. We should be careful not to adhere so strongly to the letter that we overlook the spirit. Remember Christ healed on the sabbath, and david ate the shewbread. Jesus articulated the law, while the spirit teaches the exception. I believe Jesus would permit an abused person to divorce and remarry.

[@ironeagle9850]

Philip Buckley Would a woman be justified in divorcing her husband if he sexually abused their child?

[@mommaof6]

I left my very abusive ( physical, mental, emotional) husband. Together 24yrs and 6 kids. I gave my life to Jesus. Without my husband in my daily life, I've completely surrendered to God and have drawn closer to Him. I attend church, read Bible and pray. I'm in total awe & tears of joy everyday for how God has got me through this. Supernatural peace, strength & provider. God is healing & restoring me to a better version. I keep my husband in my prayers and leave it in God's hand now. GLORY BE TO GOD!🙏🛐🙌❤ I will keep searching for ways to share my testimony. And I pray for those that read it will come to Jesus and you too will find refuge in Him. I ask this in Jesus name, 🙏

[@215sena]

Is Divorce Biblical? Yes, If it's destroying your relationship with God and taking you on the path to Destruction. === Many spouses remain in the abusive and destructive relationships only by fearing Yeshua and His commands to only divorce on the grounds on Sexual immorality. Many spouses stick to the abusive and toxic even to the point of suicide, which could lead them to Hell. But there is a way out in the Bible that not many are aware of. Its only if your marriage is so abusive that its effecting your relationship with God and leading you in the path of Death and destruction And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or WIFE (Spouse) or children or lands, for MY NAME'S sake, shall receive a hundredfold, and inherit eternal life. Matthew 19:29 (NKJV) No relationship is worth in this world more than the relationship with Lord Yeshua, and then going Home to be forever with Him. If an abusive, toxic marriage is a hinderance for it, LEAVE IT!!! As this verse Matt 19:29 suggests. Another verse shows us to prioritize the relationship with Jesus Christ than our OWN FLESH (Symbolic to Spouse Matt 19:5) And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for body to be cast into hell. Matt 5:30 (NKJV) your whole If our own flesh who is also a spouse causes us to sin better to cut it off. Its profitable to go to heaven divorced, than to go to hell by being in an abusive marriage that leads to suicide/Hell/seperation from God. Marriage is a holy and sanctified relationship. Its a serious thing to be divorced.. Divorce should not happen for every petty fights and disagreements that happens at home. Only if its either because of sexual immorality or your marriage is leading to your suicide/destruction, only then the Bible supports Divorce. God is the observer of the hearts. He will reward anyone who takes divorce as a silly game. Genuine situations needs divorce as a last resort to bring peace and restore the relationship with God

[@Star-dj1kw]

Thank you for sharing your story ❤

[@jensplannersandjesus]

Sexual immorality covers more than just cheating. Pornography addiction falls into that category.

[@DennisRay99]

Agreed

[@ericaswenson1034]

A person does not have to actually be physically or sexually intimate outside of marriage to commit adultery. One of my cousins had had issues with his now ex-wife, who had cheated on him emotionally by corresponding inappropriately with an ex-boyfriend living overseas.

[@glendike5843]

nowhere does it say that you can remarry. sexual immorality-no longer bound yes, but where does it say remarry? people read scripture for yourselves and stop relying on what others tell you. are you afraid of reading God's word. did it mention remarry in that same verse this man read or are you making that up for yourself? you must remain single as apostle Paul said or else reconcile. period!

[@dh605x]

@@glendike5843 Where does it say you CANNOT remarry after a divorce for compelling reasons? And please don't answer with Matthew 19, Mark 10, or Luke 16. None of the verses in those chapters restrict remarriage after divorce for some serious cause. Neither does Romans 7:2-3 which isn't even about marriage at all. And 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 is not a prohibition against divorce any more than Luke 18:22 is a prohibition against having a savings account.

[@gregorylatta8159]

Is withholding sex from a spouse, thus causing infidelity a sin???

[@dsma06]

My justification for divorcing my abusive husband was he was "to love his wife like Christ loved the Church". He didn't and after 13 years married, I left.

[@clairebearie87]

I think it's just about impossible to ask a human to do that as no one will ever match Christ's love for us

[@mattappleton3399]

I don't mean to be condemning but did you hold yourself to the same standard? I believe God instructs us to strive for perfection knowing we cannot live up to that because instructing us to do anything less would be condoning sin. So it doesn't make sense to me that He would permit divorce anytime a spouse failed at His commands to treat your spouse perfectly. Otherwise, divorce would be permitted for literally every married couple. I think this is exactly how people twist the Word of God to justify unbiblically divorcing their imperfect spouse instead of following through with their vow to stay married in the "worse" times when its difficult to love. I don't know your situation so I'm not trying to judge you personally. Just pointing out where i think a lot of people misuse scripture.

[@dsma06]

@@mattappleton3399 I've thought about this comment for 5 days. When I initially made that comment, I was being flip, and I was angry. No, I was not the perfect spouse, by far. And I didn't expect him to be perfect. I filed for divorce, after doing everything I could. We had mentors and the pastor from our church who let us down. My ex husband put his hands on me once. He put me down daily, threats, I was on an allowance, even though I worked full time as he did. Nothing I ever did was good enough. We'd been through counseling, marriage retreats, and it seemed nothing helped. I, of course, prayed over my marriage, even after I filed, and told God this is not what I wanted, but that I didn't see any other way. Towards, the end, both of us were done. My ex-husband was unrepentant over his behaviour. And in fact would lie about it, and try to get me to believe how he changed history. My divorce was unbiblical, I know. I also know God is good, and throughout our proceedings I saw God taking care of me, by opening doors. I landed on my feet, only by His Grace. One more thing, we were unable to have children. We prayed and prayed for them. It never happened for us. I remember praying to Him during this time, I was angry and I said "I will never be okay with not having children" When it came time to finally leave, and get divorced. That was the one thing I was grateful for.

[@grant2149]

You are still to remain single if no reconciliation. You will be an adultress sleeping with another man. Period.

[@dh605x]

@@mattappleton3399 This woman endured a pattern of abuse. Being abusive is not merely failing to be perfect - it is a serious violation of the terms of the marital covenant. Don't make an idol out of marriage and fancy yourself right with God!

[@nexusn568]

Thank you for your message. This speaks so much of my situation. I just separated from my husband and working on divorce papers. He wasn't only physicallt abusive, but he cheated, and abandoned me. All 3 situations in one. I had wanted to save our marriage but enough is enough. God truly wanted me out of it. He is my protector.

[@clairebearie87]

Yes He is!!!! Thanks for the reminder

[@dreamteam52]

Just to be clear for those that are worried, if he will beat you, he'll cheat you (on you). Especially in separation. Have faith. God always makes a way.

[@dominiquerivero6611]

When one is wandering if one has a biblical ground for divorce, it says a lot about the state of that marriage. I was not sure if I had biblical ground I just knew in my spirit My loving father did not want me to be abused and live in fear.

[@janicejramos3289]

How is a man who sexually, psychologically, financially and physically abuses me a Christian? Where is Christ or the Holy Spirit in that person? Are not all these things the fruits of the flesh?

[@angelrestoiii9030]

Here is an old testament scripture of Abuse in the marriage: Exodus 21:10-11 Easy-to-Read Version (ERV) 10 “If the master marries another woman, he must not give less food or clothing to the first wife. And he must continue to give her what she has a right to have in marriage. 11 The man must do these three things for her. If he does not, the woman is made free, and it will cost her nothing. She owes no money to the man.

[@angelrestoiii9030]

Exodus 21:10-11 New King James Version (NKJV) 10 If he takes another wife, he shall not diminish her food, her clothing, and her marriage rights. 11 And if he does not do these three for her, then she shall go out free, without paying money.

[@angelrestoiii9030]

Yup these are the fruits of the spirit: Galatians 5:22-23 New King James Version (NKJV) 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 [a]gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.

[@janicejramos3289]

Angel Resto III Interesting. Not many religious leaders quote these verses about abuse/ neglect in the OT. Thanks for your reply! God bless!

[@angelrestoiii9030]

@@janicejramos3289 Thats why Im here to help I have been through abuse trust me its not fun. The holy spirit is enlightening us to the truth

[@kjbrocky]

Christians need to use their minds and critical thinking skills and the signs their bodies and emotions give them to make wise, rational decisions. If you are being abused, get out!

[@brandon6231]

The Bible specifically says you're fool if you listen to your emotions. It also states divorce is sin. God hates divorce as stated in the book of malachi

[@justinhan1266]

@@brandon6231 It abuse not a sin either? Is God loving to bless an abusive marriage? Is He so small of a God that He can't understand why victims leave their abusers and oppressors? Why do you only focus on divorce and not abuse? You've tried to invalidate several people in the comment section who are either hurting or speaking common sense.

[@ridwanmichaelwelong7]

@@justinhan1266 that means he’s an abuser! Pray for him

[@DennisRay99]

Excellent point. That's why God gave you a brain.

[@DennisRay99]

@@ridwanmichaelwelong7 Yep, I believe you're correct about him. He's always going on about divorce at the same time downplaying abuse. Not what would calm a nice person. More of a guy people try to stay away from.

[@cherylross393]

Never heard this before but it makes sense. God doesnt want either spouse to be abused in marriage.

[@sourclam904]

Amen. THIS IS THE BEST BIBLICAL ADVICE ON DIVORCE I'VE HEARD.

[@lucerojones1384]

I want a divorce. I just don’t want to upset God. I’ve alreAdy had 2 divorces. I don’t want to ever remArry or even date again. I’m happy being alone. I thought I married my soulmate 😔clearly, I was wrong... I don’t need a man to make me whole. I have God, he is the only man I need in my life. God, show me the way 🙏

[@varun7599]

If your partner cheats or abandons or completely neglects you or severely abuse you then you can take divorce. In any other case you shouldn't take divorce but make the marriage work.

[@trulyso734]

@@varun7599 in the cases of "staying to make it work".. do pray for the poor women in sticky situations. Cant be easy. So have compassion and Pray for their endurance and for a turnaround eg for their man to come around to working on himself and do as the Lord teaches

[@SarahEWalsh]

Thank you for posting this video. I'm in this situation with a non believer and it has helped me to put my faith in God and go in peace.

[@victor-hn1bh]

J P 5 months ago This guy is very dangerous and butchers the word of God. Porneia is the word that later perverted translations have interpreted as adultery as a grounds for divorce and remarriage. Porneia was premarital relations during the Jewish betrothal period which is something that Gentiles (none-Jews) don't even practice. Luke 16:18 and Mark 10:11,12 is clear with no exception clause. Why was it not included in two of the three gospels that address divorce? 1 Cor 7:15 doesn't say that if the unbeliever departs that the other is free to marry, it says they are (not in bondage) free from their spousal duties and so they don't feel obligated to force the person that wants to leave to stay in the marriage but it doesn't say they are fee to marry. A few verses down in verse 39 that a wife is bound (different word than not in bondage) to her husband as long as he lives. Romans 7:2,3 also says that a woman is bound to her.husband as long as he lives but if her husband dies, she is no longer bound. So, while her husband lives, she be married to another man (not husband) she will be called an adulteress but if her husband dies, she will no longer be called an adulteress though she be married to another man (not husband). She only has one husband at a time until her husband dies otherwise she is in continual adultery. This guy needs to remove his channel or blood will be on his hands. He is adding to.the word which comes with a curse and he is taking license to interpret things based on his own thoughts and opinions. This is very serious and he needs to repent! People are looking for an out and he is giving them several that aren't there but Jesus never did. Jesus simply said whosoever divorces and marries another commits (ongoing and continual) adultery. Jesus called us to.deny self. We are to pray for those who despitefully use us and commanded to love our enemies. It's sad that a spouse could turn into our enemy but never the less, we are commanded to love them and we are also commanded to forgive them or Jesus said that the Father would not forgive us. If there is abuse then you have to absolutely leave that environment but we are never encouraged to divorce let alone get remarried. This is the word of God, Not of man or his opinions. If there is true rightly divided word of truth that teaches otherwise, please provide that supporting scripture otherwise repent and remove this vide

[@KrystleLaughter]

Good for you. I hope your safe.

[@glendike5843]

nowhere does it say that you can remarry. sexual immorality-no longer bound yes, but where does it say remarry? people read scripture for yourselves and stop relying on what others tell you. are you afraid of reading God's word. did it mention remarry in that same verse this man read or are you making that up for yourself? you must remain single as apostle Paul said or else reconcile. period!

[@SarahEWalsh]

@@glendike5843 Read the story of Abigail in the Bible. She had an abusive husband and God made a way for her to leave him. In no way does God support abuse or encourage someone to stay in an ungodly abusive relationship. If a man has looked at another woman in a sexual way, he has already committed adultery. Please tell me you’ve never watched a movie with a love scene, bc you’re guilty of sexual immorality then!

[@dh605x]

@@glendike5843 Actually, it does say you can remarry. See Deuteronomy 24:2. If anyone tries to tell you that verse no longer applies, refer them to Matthew 5:17-18. In case there is any doubt remaining that a divorcee can rightfully remarry, refer to 1 Corinthians 7, verses 9, 15, and 28. You do NOT have to remain single simply because you had no choice but to divorce some worthless SOB. Anyone who tells you otherwise is preaching heresy. (1 Timothy 4:1-3)

[@candyluna2929]

You forgot "love your wife as Jesus loves the church that he gave His life for her!!!"

[@beatricei.gardiner13]

The only verse a lot of men tend to see is the one that says wives submit to your husbands.

[@manichairdo9265]

Sacrificial.

[@greypupofficial]

@@beatricei.gardiner13 People, men especially, dont realize the word submit means submission and its meaning. Both husband and wife are in a mission together for Christ. Men being the leader must port forth himself first on the line to be sacrificial.

[@1313utuber]

But women will naturally submit most of the time when treated well

[@kadd4415]

I see in the Christian church there is an agreement for divorcing any spouse who is abusive, an abandonment of the marriage by an unbeliever, addictions, etc. The area that remains hotly debated is the question of re-marriage.

[@beatricei.gardiner13]

I know you’re not talking about the Mexican chorizo but for anyone who want to know, Chorizo with cheese from Oaxaca, avocado and jalapeño peppers with little mayo. between some Mexican bread, is delicious.

[@ednaanandarajah9032]

It's justice at last for me to hear a man finally preach this! It's long overdue!

[@lilialiraochoa6277]

Thank you so much!!! I really needed that info it has kept me captive for 46 years of physical violence and mental anguish for so long………I did not want to displease My Lord God!!!

[@clairebearie87]

Sorry to hear of your suffering it makes me very sad

[@templemount4094]

You were Scripturally Correct. Because a real believer is a believer in deeds, not words. Unrepentant adultery and violence cannot be tolerated. 'If an an unbelieving spouse wants to leave, let him leave. Brother and sister is not in bondage in such cases''. See Str^ongs Concordance, precise translation of original hebrew. Leave in this verse means 'put space between'. Not necessarily only physical space. 'If a man does not provide for his family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever'. Provide - word G4306 means 'to take thought for'. Does he take thought for you if he beats you to the point of near death? So, if he is unrepentantly violent or adulterous with you he is a heathen and has stuck his middle finger to the Almighty. Hell material. Do not stay unequally yoked with him and end up dead. Jesus came to save, not to condemn you to be stuck with an enemy masking as a christian in his words, not deeds and who secretly wants your death. If he repents, things can change.

[@TheGotuagen]

Amen brother more and more believers need to see these grounds.

[@glendike5843]

nowhere does it say that you can remarry. sexual immorality-no longer bound yes, but where does it say remarry? people read scripture for yourselves and stop relying on what others tell you. are you afraid of reading God's word. did it mention remarry in that same verse this man read or are you making that up for yourself? you must remain single as apostle Paul said or else reconcile. period!

[@jenchristianrn1]

Thank you so much. Love how God is working thru you. This is hitting me hard.

[@Lxcid2]

Thank you for this. Exactly what I needed today! 🙏🏼

[@justinhan1266]

@@denisequinn9015 That's something I can't resonate with when it comes to Christianity either. What if that other man was a loving Christian and fully ready to love her in ways she should have been the entire time? Why are there so many biblical rules that emotionally invalidate the complexity of life

[@clairebearie87]

@@justinhan1266 I read some of your other comments here and feel the same. Bible misinterpretation has lead a lot of christians to condemn and judge others for their decisions. It's the sin that occurred which leads to divorce which God hates. From reading on this subject, there is a clear divide among believers as to what is correct. I feel we will never know fully but to use discernment. God knows the heart, that's what matters the most.

[@glendike5843]

nowhere does it say that you can remarry. sexual immorality-no longer bound yes, but where does it say remarry? people read scripture for yourselves and stop relying on what others tell you. are you afraid of reading God's word. did it mention remarry in that same verse this man read or are you making that up for yourself? you must remain single as apostle Paul said or else reconcile. period!

[@siantelove]

"I committed chorizo to my stomach" lol- thank you for this breakdown on such a confusing topic.

[@janessarodriguez1730]

Unfortunately mental abuse is happening a whole lot more now a day towards husbands.. It so sad to see men (and of course my beautiful women) of God feeling their no good/ they will never measure up/making them feel guilty so they could do things for them 😔.. it's so sad especially when I see it happening within my own church.. it breaks my heart.. praying the Lord expands my knowledge and praying the Holy Spirit to be my guide to talk with this family. Please keep me in your prayers as I will pray for you my brother in Christ

[@Faithbelievebesaved]

Same here... married to a unbeliever and he's abusive through his words and actions to me and my daughter. We feel like slaves... we hate living with him... seeking to separating and possibly divorce. 😔

[@jbarkley4198]

I am one of those men. I am married to a narcissistic wife. What the mental health world calls a covert narcissist. It’s a lot more under the radar, subtle and not as easy for the friends and family of the victim to spot or recognize. It’s like a slow drip or death by 1000 cuts. I’ve been praying to The Lord about this and awaiting his answer to my prayers.

[@atpoe2273]

Yep

[@joannedovey9710]

It's perfect. It's biblical. It answers my deepest questions. 💕💐

[@tammyrich8225]

I have been through several abusive marriages unfortunately. I just went through my last divorce which became final on December 8, 2021. It has been like I have "BEAT ME" across my forehead. As a Christian myself, I have not and I am not happy that my marriages have turned out to be abusive, but I guarantee that I am not going to stay in a relationship that is abusive and not know if I am going to come out of that relationship alive or not. I have no intention of getting into another relationship now or ever and I definitely do not want another man in my life...

[@peacelove6455]

A man and woman make a promise to each-other when married. But if one of them breaks that promise then the covenant between them is broken and their marriage bond no longer exists.

[@Faithbelievebesaved]

Is there a verse for this? Thank you!

[@jerrywilliams9101]

Yari Daughter of Almighty no, most women who divorce look for excuses to divorce their husband, the whole better or for worse thing doesn’t apply. I’m not saying stay and get beat. That is a messed up thing, but most marriages end on petty stuff

[@earnestlycontendingforthef5332]

@@Faithbelievebesaved In one word NO! Only the death of the spouse ends the marriage bond before God. So you will know if God wants you to remarry or not. If not accept it, and suffer with him, as he did for us.

[@grant2149]

False. Onoy death breaks a covenent go study your bible.

[@grant2149]

​@@FaithbelievebesavedShr can't give you a versr because there is none. Only drath severes a covenent

[@jurassicfilms1402]

Thank you for posting this video. I believe it will help many.

[@mariatorok364]

Thank God your video came up on KZbin My daughter was in a very abuse marriage mentally she was drained and lost her health but church advised her not to separate or divorce because it’s a sin (God hates divorce)but being called stupid and fat and whole other names it wasn’t ☹️ After 5 years of abuse finally she divorced and remarried with a God sent man who appreciate her and love her very much and God bless them with a beautiful child! I don’t encourage divorce but please don’t stay in a abusive marriage it will destroy you in every way Be blessed!!

[@lisaharper7185]

This video was confirmation! I will continue to pray thank you!

[@glendike5843]

nowhere does it say that you can remarry. sexual immorality-no longer bound yes, but where does it say remarry? people read scripture for yourselves and stop relying on what others tell you. are you afraid of reading God's word. did it mention remarry in that same verse this man read or are you making that up for yourself? you must remain single as apostle Paul said or else reconcile. period!

[@Underthepalmsofdeborah]

Thank you for answering my questions. It was as very insightful.

[@angelIsaiah7]

Thanks for doing your research! This is excellent!

[@glendike5843]

nowhere does it say that you can remarry. sexual immorality-no longer bound yes, but where does it say remarry? people read scripture for yourselves and stop relying on what others tell you. are you afraid of reading God's word. did it mention remarry in that same verse this man read or are you making that up for yourself? you must remain single as apostle Paul said or else reconcile. period!

[@shellyscholz1256]

I had read the words a hundred times but when I went to my pastor for advice and he read it I heard the words personally, if the unbeliever wants to go Let Them Go! I let him go…..

[@susant8134]

I balled like a baby at the end of your video. Thank you for posting. I do believe that if "no longer being bound" means one is free to remarry, then I do believe that one who is abused can do so, according to scripture. Matthew 18:15-17 AMP "If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens and pays attention to you, you have won back your brother. [16] But if he does not listen, take along with you one or two others, so that EVERY WORD MAY BE CONFIRMED BY THE TESTIMONY OF TWO OR THREE WITNESSES. [17] If he pays no attention to them [refusing to listen and obey], tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile (unbeliever) and a tax collector.

[@milovegrace]

Can you explain

[@anabelperez5080]

@@milovegrace I guess it means that if your brother sins against you. You must let them know how they have offended you in private, if he listens (truly repents and doesn't do it again) then you have won them back, but if he doesn't listen then you let them know how they have offended you in front of 2 or 3 witnesses so that every word may be confirmed. If he still doesn't listen then you tell it to the church and if he still doesn't listen and obey then let him be to you as a gentile (unbeliever). Because if he doesn't repent of his sin against you was he even a believer to begin with?

[@glendike5843]

nowhere does it say that you can remarry. sexual immorality-no longer bound yes, but where does it say remarry? people read scripture for yourselves and stop relying on what others tell you. are you afraid of reading God's word. did it mention remarry in that same verse this man read or are you making that up for yourself? you must remain single as apostle Paul said or else reconcile. period!

[@kimberlychilstrom6888]

What a great description of all these scriptural grounds ..

[@hideandseek5661]

Thanks for this video it really has helped me have a great day god bless you

[@nguimenistephanie]

It's " GOD " or at least " God " not god. GOD bless you too🙏🏾

[@ashleyriosrizo]

This is a good word here. Thank you. ❤️

[@PrimaWhiteKitty]

This was a fascinating and amazingly well put together video bravo thank you so much really made me think about it in such a different and eye-opening way👏🏼

[@suebotchie4167]

When a person abuses his or her spouse, don't be surprised when the abuser steps out to get some strange - and, of course, when caught, will blame shift.

[@euniceakrong8054]

Thank you for helping to make this issue clear.

[@ilsegordon357]

Thank you for this. As a Bible College student, I decided to take this on as an assignment, Having lived in an abusive first marriage, I had to leave for me and my kids. I have now remarried a wonderful, Christian husband who has taken on the kids as his own. You answered the question for me as to whether God saw me as committing adultery and I now see with your interpretation that He does not.

[@raymondgregory]

I’m so blessed to have helped clarify this for you. Congratulations on your family!

[@earnestlycontendingforthef5332]

@@raymondgregory The fact remains that Christ forbids divorce for his own faithful followers. "What God hath joined together let NOT man put asunder" If they remarry, after being divorced [even though they may be the 'innocent' party] while the first spouse is alive they become adulterers. "The woman which is in subjection to a man, is bound by the Law to the man, while he liveth: but if the man be dead, she is delivered from the Law of the man. 3 So then, if while the man liveth, she taketh another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if the man be dead, she is free from the Law, so that she is not an adulteress, though she take another man" Romans 7:2-3 (Geneva Bible) BTW. The 'exceptive clause' was given to those still under the Mosaic Law and that was for "Fornication" only. Premarital intercourse, as the woman would no longer be a virgin. For ADULTERERS were STONED to death. When the Lord Christ speaks directly to his Disciples [in the house, privately' there is no exceptive clause given at all. "9 Therefore, what God hath coupled together, let not man separate. 10 And in the house his disciples asked him again of that matter. 11 And he said unto them, whosoever shall put away his wife and marry another, commiteth adultery against her. 12 And if a woman put away her husband, and be married to another, she commiteth adultery." Mark 10:8-12 (Geneva Bible) It is also absent in Luke's passage. 18 “Any man who divorces his wife to marry another woman is committing adultery. The man who marries a woman divorced in this way is committing adultery." Luke @ (GW) As adultery is kingdom excluding, "9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor wantons, nor buggerers, 10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor railers, nor extortioners shall inherit the kingdom of God" 1 Cor 6:8-10 (Geneva Bible) it is vital to understand this, and so not to divorce or indeed, if divorced not by choice, to remain single whilst the first spouse is alive...

[@grant2149]

​@@earnestlycontendingforthef5332Excatly he leading Thousands to sin condoning remarriages.

[@omipari6895]

The divorce happens at the abuse/ betrayal of vows... Divorce does not happen in a court room... Hearts are at the matter....

[@ceciliavanzyl3484]

Thank you, this was very clear and confirmation.

[@joannamaz8246]

The abuser is never truly a beleiver

[@1oneeleven794]

Thanks for the awesome message l really appreciate it thanks

[@Goodvibesonly803]

My spouse has also recorded me during the abuse and telling people im crazy cause I reacted.

[@clee266]

Thanks Bro. I'm going through it. I pray God help me restore my broken marriage.. my wife refuse to return.

[@bluebirdwing6021]

What about a believer that abandoned you Isn’t that considered someone “worse than a believer” so that counts too?

[@Maivlias]

You said that if a spouse abuses you, he already divorced you but you said you don’t have the right to remarry. So we have to wait for our whole lives thinking n praying he will change? I believe that in this grey area, the Bible first encouraged wise counsel and temporary separation. I took my spouse to his parents, my parents, the Church and he didn’t stop. He refused professional counseling and when he tried to kill us both and others by recklessly drive, I had to end it. Now, you tell me I have to wait for a man child who divorced me and wanted me dead to grow up and one day be reconciled. Hmm I believe abusive people aren’t Christians at all.

[@simonedishelle6720]

No,I just don’t think he is saying that. I think he was saying, from my understanding, is that you need to leave and divorce, you don’t need to wait around. He is clearly not willing to change or get help. God wants us living in peace and have an everlasting abundant life. If you remarry that’s between you and God. I have not studied that much as I am going through this divorce myself.

[@mismilwblondy62]

I have been married to a verbally abusive man for 3.5 years don't want to do this anymore

[@swtayh]

Check out the book Enough is Enough: A Step-by-Step Plan to Leave an Abusive Relationship with God's Help by David E. Clarke, PhD

[@grant2149]

​@@swtayhDavid Clarkbis an Idiot. He knows nothing about Scripture his opinions is on emotion and noy Scripture he is leading his flock to sin

[@elenaamberg5979]

Thank you for your help!!!

[@DJC955]

I think the main reason so much abuse happens in the church is due to how much the church on average is afraid of things like therapy and counseling. Too many people attend church to cover their issues but don't take the necessary steps to fix their damaged ways of thinking. Those broken issues then lead them to be extremely abusive. Chances are they probably aren't taking a deep dive into theology with someone who knows how to study and teach the Bible in an accurate context. So then they form their own heretical doctrine to further support their abusive ways.

[@cindydemko1259]

I need prayers for my son's temper.

[@priscilladelvalle1307]

Amen :) We will be praying for him

[@tatjanarauls489]

If you want to help your son, ask him and god for forgiveness.

[@kathryncarter6143]

Me too!!!

[@TobiTheRabbit]

prayers

[@cindydemko1259]

@@tatjanarauls489 I have, and I pray constantly for him. Thank you for your prayers 🙏

[@lovemquiz]

Thank you..

[@candysettle4295]

My husband claims to be a believer yet he was abusive and he left me. I let him go I’ve prayed Gods will and I believe I am to as 1 Corinthians 7:15 says let him depart.

[@victor-hn1bh]

J P 5 months ago This guy is very dangerous and butchers the word of God. Porneia is the word that later perverted translations have interpreted as adultery as a grounds for divorce and remarriage. Porneia was premarital relations during the Jewish betrothal period which is something that Gentiles (none-Jews) don't even practice. Luke 16:18 and Mark 10:11,12 is clear with no exception clause. Why was it not included in two of the three gospels that address divorce? 1 Cor 7:15 doesn't say that if the unbeliever departs that the other is free to marry, it says they are (not in bondage) free from their spousal duties and so they don't feel obligated to force the person that wants to leave to stay in the marriage but it doesn't say they are fee to marry. A few verses down in verse 39 that a wife is bound (different word than not in bondage) to her husband as long as he lives. Romans 7:2,3 also says that a woman is bound to her.husband as long as he lives but if her husband dies, she is no longer bound. So, while her husband lives, she be married to another man (not husband) she will be called an adulteress but if her husband dies, she will no longer be called an adulteress though she be married to another man (not husband). She only has one husband at a time until her husband dies otherwise she is in continual adultery. This guy needs to remove his channel or blood will be on his hands. He is adding to.the word which comes with a curse and he is taking license to interpret things based on his own thoughts and opinions. This is very serious and he needs to repent! People are looking for an out and he is giving them several that aren't there but Jesus never did. Jesus simply said whosoever divorces and marries another commits (ongoing and continual) adultery. Jesus called us to.deny self. We are to pray for those who despitefully use us and commanded to love our enemies. It's sad that a spouse could turn into our enemy but never the less, we are commanded to love them and we are also commanded to forgive them or Jesus said that the Father would not forgive us. If there is abuse then you have to absolutely leave that environment but we are never encouraged to divorce let alone get remarried. This is the word of God, Not of man or his opinions. If there is true rightly divided word of truth that teaches otherwise, please provide that supporting scripture otherwise repent and remove this vide

[@ironeagle9850]

victor Respectfully, I believe that your view is legalistic and completely misses the spirit of Christ’s words. Christ also said we should pluck out our eye and cut off our hand. Do you recommend we do that? The Pharisees heaped burdens upon others that they themselves would never bear. I would not want to be guilty of that sin.

[@victor-hn1bh]

If he was abusive in the extreme sense according your words, to separate is find but to remarry as a Christian no.your covenant was for life you now will have to remain single or if possible return to your husband.

[@grant2149]

You are to remain single if no reconciliation. Period. Scripture is Crystal clear.This man is deceiving people with remarriage. I dont wana be him

[@rachelhayhurst-mason7846]

I've never thought of this until just now: does sexual immorality include sexually assaulting your spouse?

[@melodykubiak5850]

I enjoyed your video. Side note: Try Soyrizo. It is meatless, not too spicy but has the flavor of the spices. I don't like spicy food, but I like Soyrizo. I like it used sparingly, such as in scrambled eggs. I've never eaten it plain. It is delicious when used in spaghetti sauce.

[@purpleprincess6130]

Thank you..I needed to hear that. I am going to a personal spiritual warfare where the individual who is acting like he has done nothing wrong and behaving like the good christian he thinks he is. He is a narcissistic abuser..It was a very very very hard step to take after so many years. God made a way and provided yet I was made to feel like the guilty party in all this by the person in question... my abuser. Still in denial to this day. One card he used was if Christ has forgiven me(him) and you don't forgive then you are not a Christian. His actions didn't change.even after forgiving him so many times..He once said to me to deny that I am a Christian and he will walk away and leave me alone. Of course I wasn't going to deny Christ. I gave the individual so many chances. Got to a point I was getting physically and spiritually drained. Just keep me in prayers. I still in the last phase. What do you do with those who pretend to be believers and by their fruit they are clearly not? They will go church..lie thru their teeth and go on a smear campaign..I just say Lord Jesus come quickly...

[@user-gc6is1pe9v]

Im in the same situation and have the same " christian" abusive husband... Im always guilty and wrong and yes i have to forgive him...But he never realises how much abusive he is...Pure evil...

[@purpleprincess6130]

@@user-gc6is1pe9v I hope you are ok. I am In the process of Divorce to cut off any last ties with him Well he accused me of all the things he is. If that is the case why does he not sign on the dotted line. Yet again still in denial. Hopefully as always God will make a way. I forgive my users and abusers but I will keep my distance. One of many things God has taught me..is not to Give up and be Brave! Hopefully God willing and If it is his will he will send a right person as I have lost trust in any guy professing to be a christian or acting too nice...the fact he used control by the word .that actually hurt... the Word is a lifegiver and life saver...it is so... so wrong to be used as a form of control on a woman or anyone....whom Christ has made Free...is Free indeed....We are No longer bound by lies of the enemy.. also it doesnt matter who they say that they are, lies and control and abuse is just that....and not of God.Take care.x

[@ash_dacat]

How are you both a year later? I’m currently going thru a divorce from abusive Christian husband

[@mrshmariepurify9108]

thank you this helps me so much. on what do i do according to my marriage biblically with a non believer spouse that has been abusive ❤

[@asgihanaclay8505]

Nice Video this really help me a lot.

[@thegalaxyisours2089]

Thank you ❤️ I needed this

[@conniepothas9760]

I have lost a few friends to suicide. As they couldn't live with all the righteous judgment, neither there husbands emotional abuse. People that have not experienced emotional abuse, please stop telling others they should have done more. By the time they kill themselves, they have depleted their ability to submission to their husbands, They have judged themselves to a point of despair.

[@oliverkent7158]

No but separation may be necessary for God to work on hearts and minds

[@lisazolla]

Thank you!! Good message!

[@usefulltipstoknow.4230]

My Goodness there's no distance in the Spirit!We as the Believing spouse,don't have to feel guilty when we close the legal side of the Divorce,when the disbeliever refuses to reconcile and has already made the marriage covenant null and Void by separating themselves from the Believer the marriage covenant had been dishounered and they the disbeliever have already departed from the marriage if they've left,so closing the Legal side of the marriage as a believer in this instance is perfectly understandable,like you say if they've been verbally,physically or emotionally abusive they are not loving us wives as Christ loved the Church they've already divorced us spiritually!

[@adk520]

husband jumped on me, attacked me a few times, trying to strangle me, so I divorced him months later. I didn't want to be murdered. I could remarry biblically for sure.

[@williammartin4666]

Thank you 😢

[@2008LadyLaura]

The church puts narcissists on pedestals because all the service and tithes they do yet turn a blind eye to their character.

[@raymlinjavier2966]

Thank you for this video.

[@raymondgregory]

Would love to hear your thoughts on this video!

[@douglasarnold5310]

I am a Preacher and since my marriage has started my wife has been verbally abusive twice she has hit me and I have struggled with this question I am studying this out and thank you for this study. May God Bless and keep you.

[@jacksonwallace2207]

I love God so much and have ever since he saved me and put a heart of flesh in me. Many years ago while I was working in the oil and gas industry I felt like it was increasingly difficult to go to church because of always working out of a suitcase, and find a good woman to spend my life with so I found an amazing woman on an online Christian dating site. After our first date I learned she was previously married and had two awesome kids. I was troubled at this, just for one reason alone and that was I didn’t want to do wrong in Gods sight. After 4 years of almost a perfect dating relationship I married her. During that 4 years I had come to learn her ex husband abused her physically and mentally to the point where she didn’t want to live anymore. My in-laws forced her to leave the marriage in fear of loosing their daughter. Now almost 6 years into my marriage with her, I still love her the same as the day we married. She is just the best! But for the past couple years even though I love her so much, I have guilty thoughts of doing wrong before God. How should I handle my convictions?

[@tearramoore8289]

I have been blessed to get out of my abusive marriage. Should I file for divorce and move on? My final straw was when the abuse escalated during my already extremely risky pregnancy. I was in the hospital a couple hours after surgery to stop my body from losing my baby. I was 5 months pregnant and on strict bedrest. I couldn't sit up straight yet and I asked him to get me some water and cover my feet with my blanket and he flipped out on me. I just wanted to die. I have done so much for him. I'm at a loss right now.

[@dorcas509]

I married a man 20 years older than me. He knew what he was doing. We’ve been together for 12 years he’s narcissistic and makes me look bad. He’s self destructive especially when people don’t buy into his crap. Thank you. I don’t feel bad about planning to escape

[@2601selah]

This was an excellent interpretation in my opinion. However, the part about not being able to remarry only adds to the heartbreak. It’s like you’re doomed either way and I know it’s not God’s will for us to be hopeless.

[@ninefourhealthfitness4462]

Thank u for this! Could u pls let me know where to find the original meaning for divorce as you said . I can’t seem to find it on google?

[@glendike5843]

nowhere does it say that you can remarry. sexual immorality-no longer bound yes, but where does it say remarry? people read scripture for yourselves and stop relying on what others tell you. are you afraid of reading God's word. did it mention remarry in that same verse this man read or are you making that up for yourself? you must remain single as apostle Paul said or else reconcile. period!

[@brendabarron-smith3623]

Thank you!❤

[@amywalsh4006]

Hey I'd love to know more about that tradition you mentioned where the groom would wrap his bride in a garment to signify protection. Could you please provide a link as a reference for that?

[@kathryncarter6143]

Agree that emotional abandonment is acceptable grounds for divorce. The Greek interpretation of breaking or dividing a covenant is also very appropriate.

[@hepsy364]

Thank you brother. I have been going through this for 28 years...he has never protected me, but threw me in front of others to step on me and even they threaten me...telling...do you know what will happen if we tell your ...

[@hepsy364]

But then I did cling on to the Word of God to hang on through this abusive relationship until the end for the sake of my 3 blessed born again children my God has given me who also have their own struggles because they have been seeing all this. Only praying that they will have a blessed married life.

[@glendike5843]

nowhere does it say that you can remarry. sexual immorality-no longer bound yes, but where does it say remarry? people read scripture for yourselves and stop relying on what others tell you. are you afraid of reading God's word. did it mention remarry in that same verse this man read or are you making that up for yourself? you must remain single as apostle Paul said or else reconcile. period!

[@andreadickinson3076]

Great video

[@vania698]

Thank you!

[@user-tf1oo9rj6u]

Starving your spouse would also be a form of abandonment/dereliction of marriage duty. Abandonment is not merely physically leaving the location. Another example: a wife who condemns her husband to a sexless marriage. There is the danger of people being way too free throwing around the abuse claims, even while we are also culturally unlovingly ignoring pleas for help.

[@Nise_R]

This is great info for when I am a wife someday. I hate chorizo too and plan to only marry once!. 10:30 was pretty funny...

[@Aurrsa]

Thanks brother. I am separated from my husband and what you said at the end about Christ being true to His promise is actually what I have held onto. My husband and I are amicable to each other and do not want to come back together. My love for Christ grows stronger each day and He is my true soulmate. I do not feel the need for another man in my life!

[@SuperShandy777]

Over a yr ago i fled with absolute terror with my poor dog after 24 yrs of extreme mental abuse and held hostage. My divorce almost finalised. Am terrified of him. So now u say we are not allowed 2 ever remarry ? Wrong

[@atinataylor8616]

I was manipulated by my ex-husband into being with him when I was 17 years old, and he was 32. Not only was that harsh rape, but I thought our marriage was based upon love. The verbal abuse and the emotional abuse was unbearable. I trusted that God would move my husband (a pastor) for years, but nothing ever happened. I knew God wanted me and our son out, because I knew we wouldn't survive, and I also knew that my son needed a real Godly man to look up after. When I went to my parents for help, they told me "You made your bed and wanted to be with him at 17, deal with it." They also thought told me I couldn't leave because he never cheated (pretty certain he had but I guess I can't really prove that), and I stuck around longer because of it. I finally left, and was overwhelmed with shame for "giving up on my marriage"but God has proven this is what He wanted for us. Thank you for this little mini-sermon.

[@simona_sigmund1001]

Thank you for your story. My Dad is the same and also a pastor. I moved out and I'm currently trying to get my Mum to leave too. God bless you 💖🙏🏻

[@trinityrainey2337]

This is soooo similar you what I’m going through right now 🥺

[@edicobusinesssolutions9631]

Same with me. I was only 18 years when my exhusband sweet talked me into a relationship, he was 25. He later married me without my parents approval. I have 4 kids with him. I was a victim of emotional abuse, i tried to seek help and cried out yo God. I surrendered him to God and he divorced me and abandoned me with my kids until after divorce was finalised. He is now in process to get married.. what i find difficult to swallow is that it is sinful for me to be married and find love again while he is free to be married and live happy. He paid nothing to me following divorce.

[@mariaduran9400]

My mom is currently with an abusive man because of her religion, it’s disappointing to see religious people judge others for even thinking about leaving an abusive relationship. Religious People don’t get to live their own lives because of these rules that were made in the Bible. No one knows best than the women or men in the abusive relationship. And people who believe in god should honestly have nothing to say about it because it’s truly not their business. If God exists god knows what the marriage with an abusive partner looks like. I doubt god would want anyone to stay in a relationship like this. I’m upset because my moms mom tells my mom divorce isn’t an option. My grandma on my dads side, stayed with her abusive husband and they are still together because of religious reasons. But what a horrible way to live ones life. I’m sure god only wants the best for people and if the the husband or wife is being abusive God would want the victim to get out.

[@earnestlycontendingforthef5332]

@@edicobusinesssolutions9631 "If we suffer with him we shall reign with him, if we deny him he will deny us". "It is through much tribulation that we shall enter the kingdom of God".

[@beckydozet4765]

My husband is not my Saviour. He is to be a servant leader. We are to submit to each other.

[@sweetsquirrel95]

AMEN

[@andreamaclachlan980]

What I got from your explanation of God hates 'divorce', (really appreciate your explanation here) is, God hates covenant breakers. So, following through, a spouse who abuses/ abandons, is the divorcer...which God hates...if that makes sense.

[@georgesboisvert4278]

As long as it is in the scripture then that is good and it was i knew about immorality but i dint know about abuse And quite a few believer women would be comforted, yhank you .

[@beatricei.gardiner13]

The Bible says to be at peace with all men, as much as you can so if you can’t be at peace with someone who is abusing you left, right and Centre, seems to me a reason to sever ties.

[@sharonmitchell2350]

Thank you Brother...

[@sierushest1991]

What if you experienced all 3 situations with the same spouse. Can you then remarry?

[@gemmamcburnie8690]

You can remarry but be very careful because you may end up in a worse situation. Focus on your eternal state before God. Make it a deep priority to get close to Him and know what He wants for your life. Getting married again is not the most important issue for God. The most important issue is a real close walk with Him. Getting married again may be an option but should not be a priority.

[@clairebearie87]

Marry again!!!!!!! Ahhh goodness no! Why do that to yourself!

[@grant2149]

No

[@user-dm5tv3vv4w]

I’m fasting I heard the Lord in my spirit say DEPART then this video came on he says depart is divorce in chorizo for Hebrew I been dealing with verbal abuse financial abuse 5 kids this is my sighn

[@maureengauthier6553]

Ok, now I'm really confused...bullet point explanation: •both of us Cradle Catholics •married in the Church •blessed with 5 children •during Pre-Cana, agreed one of us would work and the other stay home with kids •he was a Grand Knight of Columbus in IL & AZ •25+ years of my counseling still had me wondering why I wasn't a "good enough" wife while he believed that he did nothing wrong •Spent our 26th Anniversary at a self-imposed 45 day stay (30 inpatient/15 r

[@maryamory1549]

My husband tore our family apart. He abandoned and mentally and verbally abused me for years. He was not a believer afterall. It was God who sustained me and is healing me. I am older, but if I hadn’t wasted all those years being devoted and loyal to someone who treated me like a piece of garbage ( and actually called me that and worse ) I wouldn’t be able to marry a sincere, loving , faithful Christian man if the opportunity came my way? God would want me to be alone forever because I trusted the wrong person and paid dearly for it? A marriage based on lies on his part?

[@jonnycat529]

Chorizo is amazing with a combo of cheese and flour tortilla.

[@jessicalane6637]

What if your husband puts his mom's feelings above your own and won't move out of his mom's house?

[@candyluna2929]

Good question. He's supposed to leave his house to make one with his wife

[@zunyly]

@Raymond how can be sure that a believer abandomed or left by a non believer spouse can be remarried? As I read the text I understand that the person is allowed to divorce but not to remarry... Would you please help understand that?

[@earnestlycontendingforthef5332]

There are NO grounds for Divorce for faithful Christians.... "What God hath joined together let NOT man out assunder" Only death breaks the marriage bond before Almighty God.

[@kimberly_lali2]

Thank you for this

[@brandon6231]

You really believe this crock of lies? Divorce is sin. God hates divorce

[@justinhan1266]

@@brandon6231 Sure, because we should pay attention to divorce and not abuse as if only the first one is a sin. So many victims of abuse out there become abusers themselves because they didn't escape their partners/toxic families. So where is the logic in your comment again? The vicious cycle will only perpetuate.

[@brandon6231]

@@justinhan1266 who said abuse wasn't sin? Sin is sin. Even so, biblically it's not an excuse for divorce. It's a quitters victim attitude that the weak on the left love to hug to justify their indulgence into self pity and moral decay. Pull up your panties and man up, deal with the issues instead of run from them

[@justinhan1266]

@@brandon6231 You will find plenty of research and patterns that show that self pity is a product of when you don't pull up your panties and man up to leave that abusive environment so you can avoid being the same kind person. My mom refused to leave her abusive parents for 40 years out of some misplaced sense of traditional loyalism. She has developed a self pity that is so ingrained in her, she has physically and psychologically abused all her children. I don't even need you to try tell me I'm exaggerating things for me to know that I know what I've seen and experienced. No one here is saying that the abused should abuse the abuser back, that doesn't make a right as you said in another reply to my comment below. If an abusive parent or spouse is holding you back so much that you can't even do anything much less accomplish God's purposes of reaching out to other lost people (ie. your spouse literally puts you under some messed up form of house arrest), where is the logic in that? Sure, a Christian's life is guaranteed to be difficult cause we are called to higher standards, and reconciliation in toxic relationships should always be a first priority. But if the other person is unrepentant for over 40 years, what are you even accomplishing at that point?

[@justinhan1266]

@@brandon6231 And once again, this has nothing to do with the left or right. I don't condone generalizing all people on the left or right to be following certain behavioral patterns. I have a conservative friend who is all about escaping rampant, NORMALIZED abuse. And I also have a liberal acquantaince who for some reason thinks it is ok to just tolerate abuse and decay their own morals.