IS ARTIST LIFE LONELY? 🎨 Studio Sessions Ep. 20

[@balzac617]

I am lonely with my passion. Even when I show my drawings to my friends. It seems nobody understand my world. But in the end I would never change my life. Art will never disapears and will be at my side until my death.

[@KingDayDayDay00]

Mathieu Vaillancourt so many good responses to this video

[@ArtistSachinofficial]

Artists are not lonely.. In every artist's heart there is a whole universe hidden... Loved your video...

[@HappyDArtist]

Aww I love that, thanks for sharing :)

[@Leontinevanvliet]

Sachin M.S Ohhh I love this comment!👌

[@elisablanco3741]

Loved your words.

[@ArtistSachinofficial]

Gio Maximo haha.. No.. the whole universe is with you..

[@ArtistSachinofficial]

Leontine van vliet thank you

[@leighannenight]

You need place yourself into more social situations. Look into joining a studio/gallery or rent your own space in a public studio. That way you can you can interact with people whenever you like. You could also look into teaching art classes, that way you'd have a semi regular work life that you'd get to spend time with other artists as well. You could also look into doing conventions and art fairs. All of these options coyld provide you with more social in traction in your field without taking away all of your solitude.

[@LillenArt2]

I have a feeling Happy lives in an expensive area so I wonder if renting a studio is a viable option. There has to be some art spaces though, right?

[@leighannenight]

Or even volunteer at a community center. You could help inspire a child in need.

[@HappyDArtist]

Great suggestions! I do miss art fairs, and renting a shared studio space is a great idea as well :D

[@Leontinevanvliet]

I'm in the exact same situation now. Although I am definitely an introvert I am feeling the need for social interactions more and more. No one in my family at the moment is in the same situation or the same career right now and that's what makes it hard. They don't understand. I even miss rush hour and traveling to work now haha

[@laurafinocchiarostudios]

I think every artist relates! I'm also full time in my studio and what I do is first thing in the morning I take my sketch book to a coffee shop to work out problems or new ideas for about two hours-ish before I go back to my studio to actually paint. A lot of the people who work there have become friends :) almost like coworkers lol and then every Sunday one of my artist friends and I alternate going between our two studios, to talk about our work, upcoming shows, life, problems, etc. it keeps us both accountable to our goals for sure. Love your work! Thank you for your videos :)

[@Pearberrie]

Honestly I can painfully relate when my husband gets home I just want to talk but he’s too tired to listen. I’m also living in another country from my family so it’s tuff as I don’t have family or friends I can talk to in the same time zone :( I think getting a hobby or joining a group could be good for you, you could also see if there’s any life drawing or artist class or event near you to join in :)

[@boom1481]

Pearberrie same here... but i am 16 and i lived in Europe now i live in usa, time zone different and i am alone so I totally understand you:(

[@HappyDArtist]

Ah high five for our quiet partners haha. I understand where they're coming from, but sometimes I'm also like "just drink some coffee and wake up and talk to meeeeeeeeee" XD

[@joannetiffany8047]

Happy D. Artist i totally understand were your coming from. For me its different but the same. Because im ill and have been for a few years now, i miss the face to face interaction and it does feel lonely. I try to fill my days (that arent busy with hospital appointments) will art and crochet, but its not the same

[@jillh8602]

you could try finding another artist in you local area and get together and do art either together or just in the same studio together but working on each of your own projects-peaces. I have been doing this with a new friend and it helps both of us a lot. Though it sometimes feels like I'm teaching her. but it feels good to do art with someone else. May your day hold joy! ~Jill~

[@AriaFawn]

Happy , I am so behind on your videos! You may not remember me but I was the girl with the super long hair you met at your show with Sally Centigrade last April. This video touched me so much and while I may not know how you are doing right now, I still wanted to put my own thoughts in, just in case you ever feel this way again. I am just about on my fifth year of self employment as an artist and I have always been a little bit of an introvert, so I actually have often loved the alone time. However, this video reminded me of something I went through a lot last year. Despite having a roommate I was on a schedule of hanging out with a person only about once a week (that person being my mom who is also one of my best friends) I started to look so forward to those hangouts that I would often find myself just miserable if they got canceled, and after they were over and I was driving back home, I would feel so sad knowing I had a whole week to go before seeing her again. It got me thinking about my life overall. I love what I do sooo much, nothing compares to the feelings I get while painting and drawing, it is…well you know how it is! However, I started to realize that I was so absorbed in my work that I had kind of forgotten how to do anything else. It was nearly impossible to take breaks, even from paintings I was less enthusiastic about because I was so used to working. I think that is part of why I was craving that once a week hangout so much. It may not be anything like what you are feeling, but with a lot of thought, I realized the problem was more than just loneliness for me, it was a lack of knowing how to enjoy pleasure outside of work. One thing that helped me a lot was to start watching blogs of people who were interested in things other than art such as cooking, health, Japan, just to name a few. In watching/listening to these videos, I saw people enjoying their time doing things that were obviously not art related and it helped me to justify going out and having more fun enjoying time on my own. Another thing that helped a lot, was getting more involved with other artists. One of the galleries I am with, Valerie Gallery, has a big family type atmosphere among its artists. We have monthly meetings and the members and I regularly talk about business, art troubles and life in general. Having other artists to be involved with was a very pressure free way to mix my work and personal life. Another thing that can help, it to call up someone on Skype like another artist, and just create together. Even if you are not talking, having someone there to share creative energy with can be amazing! I actually go to coffee shops with other artists sometimes and we both sit with headphones on just enjoying one another’s energy. These kinds of things can be good because they still allow me to work, while getting some interaction. On that note, do you ever just go sit at coffee shops and draw for hours? That was another thing I started doing weekly and boy did it give me some good energy. I was not talking to anyone, but being surrounded by relaxed and happy people while I work was probably good for me. I do hope you are feeling better and I wish you all the best. Your videos have cheered me up during many a long, LONG lonely workday and I truly thank you for putting so much time into them. Be well! ~Aria

[@LarisaCarliArt]

This is so relatable.. Thank you for being open with us, it means a lot to me to get to hear your true feelings and thoughts. I didn't know you also struggle with loneliness and your social skills :/ I don't even know how to solve my issues since I'm quite anxious of anything social (even going to the grocery store is stresful for me) but it did cross my mind that it may be helpful for you to occasionally go help in an animal shelter? I know how you like animals and you mentioned you want to help them so this could also help you feel more fullfiled. Anyhow, I hope your boyfriend and you solve this issues since I know this can become demaging to the relationship quite quickly.. I also want to mention that your video has made me feel less alone knowing my favorite youtuber has similar problems, so thank you again!

[@CSArt]

I can relate to this a lot right now. I decided to take a year out of university so I can gain work experience and also focus a lot more on my art. It's a very strange feeling moving from student life to being a recluse, but I do enjoy having more time to make art.

[@samiaselene8041]

CS Art I went though something similar last year, it was strangely difficult getting used to making art in a bubble and I didn't have any art friends so when I was busy people didn't get that it was "work." And I didn't have as much time to see people. It gets easier with time but it's nice finding artists online too and trying to build a community that way.

[@CSArt]

Thanks for sharing your experience! I'm pretty active on social media and I have a nice little group of artists I'm connected with already :) I think the hardest thing for me is that I'm back home in a very rural area, so when my friends are at university it would cost a lot of time and money to visit them so it's pretty much out of the question. I'm quite good at being alone though, so I'm sure I'll hang on until Christmas :)

[@samiaselene8041]

CS Art that's so good! I hope to do the same though my art pages on social media. It's fun creating within a community😊

[@Ange-wp5ii]

You mentioned how your boyfriend comes home from a 10 hours day, he's tired and all he wants to do is to chill, and you just want to talk because you spent the last 10 hours alone... I'm in that same situation. although, this is my first year out of college and working as an illustrator, I already feel that need/struggle of wanting human interactions. i feel like i'm over talkative nowadays when i do interact with people, bugging my boyfriend everytime he comes home from a long day. but i tell myself that this is the path i chose and this is just a side effect of working as a freelance/independent artist. also being in a new city with no friends near also doesn't help my social needs. i feel you girl.

[@Sakuems]

I think there's a big difference being being alone and feeling isolated. I do think that being indoors working on my art day to day, is at some point, too much for me to handle. I need to get out, have a "regular" schedule with working hours, i go to an art club once a week, i have events with other self employed artists or crafters etc. this is essential to my well being, every time i can get out and meet people, be with my friends, just do things outside of my paint bubble, i just go because this fuels me and when i come back to my art, i enjoy the quiet time by myself focusing on my process. I don't have a boyfriend so it's tricky because as you said, when your partner spoke to people all day, he just don't want to talk anymore and you on the other hand craves for it. I think the balance is important, i encourage you find a place to work on art where you can interact with others. I think the online community needs to step up and create more art gatherings and maybe work together when we can. I truely love your work and i can understand how you feel. To be honest, i think that it would be amazing if somehow more artists, specially on youtube, would be able to do a skype session to chat about our lives, our work, like stuff we're working on etc. or like have LUNCH with someone is like impossible for me, i have one at the art class, and one with my mum usually but the others, i'm just in front of the computer. I would love to be able to work on my art but still have a social life like anyone with people to talk to at lunch... i haven't found a full balance still but i'm getting there. I also do 2 zumba classes per week so i can talk to more people lol. I'm hoping to open my own art class next year so i can have more interactions with other people, i would love to have a workshop 2 days a week. But yeah, you should definitely try to enroll somewhere, i wouldn't give away my wednesdays at the worshop for nothing, i'm with old passionate artists and it's always fun and i work faster when i go there as well. Hang in there, if you want to chat during your day, i'm seriously open for it as well, it's gets lonely when i paint lol :p

[@Tubetacular8]

I can totally relate to this post. I've tried so many ways to interact with people. Church is a great place to pick up jobs and make friends, but I don't particularly like the religious part of it. One of my better ideas is to just go paint something plein air in a public place once a week. Or take a continuing ed class. Pop up markets. It's weird because I want to be true to my heart, therefore, I can't do some social things because my heart tells me I don't truly care about it. For instance, wouldn't it be great if I were passionate about a sports team? Then I would hang out with fans of the team.

[@SpycyShark]

Interesting topic. Not many people discuss this side of an artist’s life, yet from the comments, many do seem to experience it. I experience this as well. Right now I’m in a town that is a little isolated, the town next door itself used have things like figure drawing, but they cancelled it due to lack of attendance. My hope is when to have a shared studio when I move and have more income - but until then, lonely artist life it is. At least there’s social media, tabling at conventions and holiday bazaars has helped too. I hope you find something that will work out for you :)

[@ErikaLancasterArt]

It's important that you put yourself in more social situations if this loneliness is affecting you! I am a very big introvert and have really enjoyed these past few months in which I have finally had time to dedicate to my own artistic journey (I had been working full time since graduating from university). As you mentioned, I really craved silence and a calmer life after working full-time. The last 6 years had been extremely draining for me working as an Art Teacher in a school environment (extremely fast paced, LOUD, demanding energy) and I yearned for time for my own art. I yearned for it so much that I took a leap of faith and gave up that steady income and benefits in order to pursue art for myself. However, I am still giving extracurricular art classes at the school I used to work at, and I am finding I am enjoying them a lot more now. You should consider sharing your talent and giving classes! It's an awesome way to get out of the house/studio, keep that human connection going and to give back to the community you live in in a way that you know best! Even a few hours a week can be very rewarding. Cheers and thank you for this video. :)

[@najatkeftaro7759]

To be quite honest your art deserves waaaayyyyyy more recognition than it gets. I love your style and the way you draw you creature like human girls, I feel as though they have a deeper meaning in each of them and they can make you feel (well for me at least) so emotional. THANK YOU FOR YOUR BEAUTIFUL ART AND FOR SHOWING IT TO THE WORLD !!!!

[@markat6991]

Congrats on your three year anniversary ! Thank you for touching on that sublect :) Art requires so much dedication , I have a normal part time job and I am still in college so I tend to spend most of my free time practicing art and crafting, which makes me turn down a good deal of social events. Also a thing that I've talked about with other young artists/ crafters is that in order to save money we have to limit our outings , so we tend to be more hesitant to go out than our non artists friends. Art is worth it however

[@pearl6246]

I WISH I COULD HELP YOU... but the problem is I'm experiencing the same thing in college I'm such a loner I find it difficult to interact with people that see me as different and i cant fit in with anyone :,(

[@boom1481]

Mr. Chibi same:((

[@pearl6246]

Flover Lover the world is getting pretty dark and real people are the ones u see lighting up across the street but there are soo few of theme these day that’s why I have trust issues _(:3 」∠)_

[@HappyDArtist]

Sorry to hear that dear! I know how overwhelming college can be, it's so difficult to adjust to such a large campus and such a different lifestyle. I found that joining clubs/organizations really helps with meeting new friends, especially if it's centered around a hobby you're passionate about! :)

[@pearl6246]

Happy D. Artist I’ll keep that in mind I really really love you thank you so much😩❤️❤️

[@nou257]

this was me too lol, but thank god i found an internet friend that i clicked with and now we message each other almost any time, it's been almost two years and she helped me overcome my loneliness

[@J.Moyine]

I'm a writer and before that I was a recording artist so ALL of my time was spent entirely alone. And like you it recently became too much for me to bear. I combat this by going out and writing in cafes rather than at home because that gives me the opportunity to interact with strangers or the baristas and then I come home feeling alot more refreshed. With drawing and sketching, it's possible for you to leave your home several times a week and go to a cafe and people watch while you draw. You don't even have to engage with anyone but just being around people may instantly help you feel more connected to the world :) happy painting to you my love! Xx

[@JennWakely]

I wish I could be left alone for five whole minutes to find out if I could be lonely.

[@THEE.apples]

I feel like it depends on your personality. If you're a really social person and as artist you feel lonely. Adjust your schedule to where you have time to interact with people. If you're an artist and you're usually alone but want to interact with people adjust your schedule. If you like being alone then that's good to. It's all part of a person's preference and willingness to change.

[@emiliesfineartstudio304]

I just discovered your channel a couple of days ago, and have been binge watching your videos. Honestly, I think you may be my new favourite artist on here. Your videos are so incredibly informative, and for an artist like myself who is trying to get their work out there, with the goal of making it as a full time artist one day, you have been so helpful. Thank you for doing what you do, and keep making your beautiful art!

[@cxsghcu]

The timing of this video really hits home as I've been dwelling on my loneliness lately too... There are artist meetups/spaces you could look into, or life drawing sessions, classes, etc. These are all places where you're surrounded by artists you could make bonds/interact with. Maybe you could give those a try? Or if you want to socialize outside of the whole art thing, try classes at a gym! I know you're busy and may not have time for all/any of these, but I guess we all make time for what we value/see as a priority

[@sophiel2718]

Aw Happy, I'm sorry to hear you're going through loneliness. I've lived alone for nearly 5 years now and the way I've dealt with it is to go out for breakfast to a cafe like once a week and that way get to chat to the owners and other regulars, meetup.com is also a great way to find groups with similar interests and there's lots of different activities. All the best lovely xxx you're my favourite artist, I love your videos and art!! You're so inspiring ❤️

[@SylveriaDreams]

You should try livestreaming your art on KZbin or Twitch. It's a great way to grow a community and have people to talk to while you work on your art. There is a creative stream section on Twitch where artists stream while they work on their art. You should check it out! It might help you get that human interaction you are looking for. :)

[@selbarton]

Sylveria Dreams Streaming is a patreon reward I believe.

[@joannetiffany8047]

Yeah it is. But she did say its the face to face interaction that she misses. Live streams aren't face to face.

[@karynhitchman2498]

Joanne Tiffany chatting with friends or family on Skype whilst painting is quite good. You could also chat with artist friends whilst you are both painting.

[@aiyachayothin4693]

Love it so so much, your personality AND your drawings and paintings

[@ChrissyGamerG]

Thank you for all your art talks, they are just as good as your art! It really helps me feel like the struggles I go through, I'm not alone. THANK YOU!

[@okay5508]

How about doing live streams while painting and stuff like that?

[@alyrose4741]

Do you think you have enough of a work load to hire a weekly studio assistant? Maybe even an art student looking to build their CV with an apprenticeship style job? Just a thought.

[@KingDayDayDay00]

I'm sure many people here can relate with you especially on the socially awkward thing. Socializing is like a muscle. If I'm around people for days, for example camping... I feel normal and my social skills top notch but spending weeks alone makes me feel as if I don't know how to interact with people. My office job is pretty lonely too but that's because everyone at my job is older and I can't relate to them

[@Typkajjo]

A lot of people has already written about joining public studios, and i think that's a great idea! Also i think live streaming when you work could help. I know that's not exactly human interaction, but it is in some way when you connect with your chat. And in that way you can also find other artist to talk to on ex skype when you stream. Just a suggestion, i really hope it will work out for you, i totally know that feeling of being alone.

[@MariaRevArt]

Karolina F I know a youtube artist that livestreams while she's painting / working sometimes for the company and interaction. It's a great idea.

[@DeathniteR]

We should make a Discord server for artists

[@Ash-lee-lmnop]

I can totally relate to everything you said. I'm 21 and a stay at home mama. Although I do have a little person to talk to, it's hard only having conversations with a 1 year old every day. Something that helps keep my mind off being lonely is watching videos like this and listening to people talk or listen to music. And I'm always trying to learn something new. I love your videos and your art! Keep it up :)

[@Crypticink]

Socializing really is an art that needs practice. I also feel like I lose what little social skills I have when I'm alone for long stretches of time.I dunno about you, but I'm an introvert though, so if I go out every once in a while for coffee or whatever I can talk to a stranger for a bit and feel a little less lonely hehe.Lovely piece of art! You're one of my favorite youtubers!!

[@sarnabellaart3338]

Totally get this! I still work 9-5 Monday to Friday but I work from home. I love working from home but sometimes it's really helpful to have in person support instead of support via emails. Then, because I work full time, any time I have left I try and practice my art. Something I have found helps is making sure you schedule time to get out of the house or invite people over. Mental health is so important! Even the biggest introverts like myself need pub dives weekends away every now and again :)

[@moniq8764]

I can totally relate to this. Maybe you can try leaving your apartment to go to a coffee shop or something when you have to do more administrative work (emails, etc.) even if it's just for an hour each day or a few hours every couple of days. Maybe you have a self employed friend you can meet up with and just work together for a while?

[@MsBadiva]

Sounds like volunteering or taking classes can help with your situation. Maybe try taking a class in a medium you're not used to? That way you can expand your art and social skills together

[@redviolet6524]

The best advice that comes to my mind is starting a new hobby, like being part of a theatrical team or a sport, or a music instrument maybe? It really depends on your interests. Also you could start classes in things like sculpture, pottery, jewelry making, illustration, comics, graphic design, video making, animation and so much more. Art is a very broad subject. You can explore other forms of art that will at the same time help you with your work. I know you can find classes on the internet for most of these things but you can find classes near the area where you live as well and it would be a great thing for socializing! For me the best thing to do is socializing through your hobbies and your free time activities! That's something people with office jobs find hard to do because they are already fed up with "too much human interaction" Lol 😝 I hope you get what I mean 💖 However, try not to overload yourself with activities. Find the perfect balance! Golden ratio ✌🏽

[@vickisigh2674]

Happy! I really appreciate you making this video because I can relate to you 100% on all the points you mentioned! When you said the thing about podcasts and Netflix all day, having a lot of energy to talk when my bf comes home, and feeling like my social skills are slipping- it was like you were describing my life! Personally, to combat this I've taken steps to reaching out to others and trying to be more social in day to day activities. Even if it's running errands I'll encourage myself to chat with the cashier or the waiter to gain back that confidence of talking with strangers. I've also started a podcast with another artist friend and we get to hang out (even if it's over Skype) for a few hours a week and it's been so great. I also make it a point to go out every weekend to avoid feeling like I'm stuck at home or like art is my entire life. I'm confident you'll find ways to work through the loneliness and step closer to the person you want to be!

[@101sharpies101]

Thank you for opening up to us and being honest. It takes a lot of courage to do so. I️ know in a lot of big cities there are art leagues where you can share a studio with other artists. Maybe something like that exists around you. Good luck!

[@k0micazi]

It's great to hear I'm not alone in this, I have been having EXACTLY the same feelings since going full time artist 1 year ago. It's funny but I never really realized what was going on, I just thought I was going through a weird patch. 1 thing that helped me was to get an easy part time job (1-2 days a week) it involves seeing random people all day which that has helped make me feel 'normal' (for lack of a better word) This was more necessity as I'm just starting out freelance and wanted to take the financial stress off the hustle but it turns out to be worth more than just the wage to get me out and about. Maybe doing 1 day a week volunteering at an animal shelter or something might be cool to mix things up. Thanks for making this video, it's an interesting thing that a lot of people wouldn't even know exists.

[@annasebesta2945]

I completely relate to this, Happy. I'm a teacher, so during the school year I get to interact with my students and coworkers, but during the summer it's just me at my desk working on my art. I would look into groups that get together to draw or paint. Most cities have figure drawing sessions for artists, or urban sketching groups that walk around together with their sketchbooks, or even "drink and draw" sessions. I like meetup.com for this--you can select the type of event and how far you're willing to travel and it will show events in your area. It's just about finding balance and what works best for you in your life, and we're all on that journey together!

[@goldfish1871]

I definitely understand what you're feeling which is why I'm taking art classes at my local cc. I took some other classes too but nothing beats the vibe of art classes for me.

[@andiikilljoy]

Thank you very much for this video.❤ I was just thinking about that topic when I saw you uploaded a new video. I just started working on my own, lately I spent a lot of time alone in my house and it's very comforting to know that it's something that other artists feel too.I think the solution to this problem is to start going out a little more from home. For example instead of working in a new drawing in my studio, why not go to a coffee shop to draw or any other place in which we are surrounded by people. At the same time this is an opportunity for more people to know your work. Sorry for my bad english and I wish you luck!!

[@artpants]

I can relate. I go to a school were most of my friends don't go to. It's pretty hard to start over. I remember when I was crazy and had fun. Now I just have this emptiness inside me. I've became quiet again, (not like I haven't had this soft voice) and I just want to find someone I'm comfortable around. I realized how much I really appreciate and miss my friends from last year. I'm now in my first year of middle school, and I'm just so confused how fast my attitude has changed since the first week of school. But I'm so glad I'm not the only one.

[@kathleenstuartart]

It's so good to know that I'm not the only one who has these feelings. I have been doing the full time artist thing for 6 months and I like being alone but sometimes I do feel like it's lonely too.

[@nadiasulaiman5056]

Ive been suffering from depression for over six years. It has made my anxiety so bad that I feel nervous even ordering something and I can’t even talk with people face to face, but art is slowly helping me go through it also divert my mind from other self harm tendencies.

[@danraybeast1016]

I've been drawing constantly, daily, and for many hours of the day, and I know how it feels to crave that social aspect of human nature. When I'm alone for many hours, even if it's from doing something I love, such as drawing, my anxiety and depression get triggered quicker, and that's without saying that I am normally a relaxed and chill person. Even if one does not socialize with people, it is uplifting to take a walk in nature, at a park, or just simply spend a couple hours with pets, talking to them, playing, anything, and that to me is like therapy.

[@AbsoluteAma]

Ive been currently dealing with this as well. I keep telling myself I need to make friends when Im out and about but become extremely awkward and mentally drained just from casual talk. This was the complete opposite when I was in school for STEM. It sucks. Half the time I dont mind spending the whole day at home. Next thing I know, its been weeks since my last human interaction. Its baffling! Thank you for being so transparent with this issue of yours though. I often wish that I could find other artists in similar situations to just get together and chit chat. So its was nice to hear this standpoint from you.

[@laurenholness110]

I've been so excited for this!

[@lunavankasteren]

yess the peacock, thats one of my favorites. your art is so lovely

[@SUNSHINE-tx9vf]

My end goal is basically be able to fully support myself as an artist, as you are. To be fully happy though I feel the need to help others be themselves. So I thought of teaching art. I'm now getting an education degree and I'm really excited. It's really nice because you get alot of Summer down time and other fun holidays off, but you also interact with tons of people all day. I get pretty down if I spend too much time alone. I get stuck in my head easily. I also have an issue where I itch for change after a while. Which is satisfied because every year you teach a different classes, and depending on where you live possibly multiple schools.

[@katerpillarshaeron392]

Totally related with this, the podcasts/netflix/live streams to feel less alone lols. I try to go do something outside, like even 10 minutes, go to the cafe or market or neighborhood, and interacting with workers kind of helps. Also maybe digital interactions like skype or google hang outs with other self-employed artists or homebodies. Knowing I majority work alone, I try to set up some sort of meetings or phone meetings throughout the week so I can expect some social interactions. The assistant idea seems like a great idea as well! Thank you for sharing, loneliness is tough to talk about especially in today's era and as an introvert.

[@artloveranimation]

I TOTALLY understand that crave for conversations and human interraction. BTW, I love the blue hair shading/highlighting.

[@kalefitzgerald]

when I was studying Art at UNI we all shared a studio space it wasn't a large space that we were each allocated but it was plenty, and at the time I remember feeling like it was going to be so great to get my own studio. I since have done that, and it's honestly probably better sharing the studio space with others. When you don't want to talk, you can just put in your headphones and tune out to music ( or not even!), but when you need to chat, someones always around. And also you have other creative minds to talk to when you're feeling stumped about your work. They do studio space rentals in all cities. I would fully recomend that

[@Dw-px3bc]

You should consider getting a betta fish! I keep mine in my studio in a 5 gallon tank with a heater and filter. He really keeps me company

[@faridaseyam9817]

I really understand what you mean, I have been kinda been shying away from my art journey because I don't feel ready for how dead-end lonely it is... I think what you need is a friend. But the trouble is, although I have been involving myself in group activities, classes and even applying for work, after 2 years of being unemployed to study, what am truly searching for is that one person. Am not talking boyfriend/girlfriend, am talking someone who understands the journey and understands why i produce the art i produce, and would discuss it instead of the casual "omg it's amazing, you've improved so much". Someone who could dig deep in my thoughts, and allows me to do the same. someone who gets it.

[@djpancake9775]

I feel the same. My social skills don't seem to be what they were once. I sometimes take my sketch book to cafes and work a little there because it's nice to have the feeling of people around and not have things always be so solitary. It's a nice change of pace from just being at home alone.

[@Caroline6081]

I used to have so many friends and social events and now that I'm focusing more in my art I feel very lonely too. And when I do talk to people they don't really understand what I do. I understand how you feel, I hope you can find more balance in your life.

[@samiaselene8041]

I totally relate to your feelings! I'm in a low residency MFA program and even though my cohort is supportive, they're all far and sometimes messenger just isn't enough. I miss creating around people who are physically present and also understand the process too. When I got back from being in class with all of them (over the summer) it was just plain weird interacting with my friends at home who aren't artists. It was like I forgot how to relate to non-creatives and I've been relearning it for the last month. Social skills are definitely SKILLS that can lapse. I think taking a class that's geared to you as an independent artist or illustrator might let you meet others who are like-minded and that could help. Also having Skype dates with art friends where you chat while you both work can be a bit more fun than just a phone call. I'm sure you'll figure out what will help you most!

[@recspectra]

Hey I struggle from the same problem. What's been helping me is finding people who draw on Twitch and then joining their Discords. Being able to talk to other artists helps with the loneliness.

[@Sina-aka-potatosupreme]

I feel you so much on that topic. I used to work from home and I craved human contact. At one point I found a group of kindred people that were in the same situation and we started to voice chat via Discord (I don't know if Skype is also offering the group chat too). So we sat there, were working at home and had each others company in the chat, could talk like we were sitting in the office while everyone was busy with their own projects. Maybe that is an option for you? I know it is not face to face interaction, but it is real time and helped me so much.

[@akashaamjad544]

I am in the same boat as you are! I work as a self employed artist and writer at home and yes the silence can be eerie. I would suggest having social activities planned for each evening. It keeps you motivated. For instance, I go on walks with friends, play badminton with my husband and have tea parties planned mostly with people who live nearby.

[@sonisization]

omg..i feel the same..my bf and me are same as you guys :O...I'm freelance and he works in office.. I'm so glad that you shared it :)

[@RobHoughart]

Are there any studios in your area where you can rent a space out and work along side other artists? Or possibly work out of a gallery part-time. Would allow you to interact with other artists and feel less isolated. I know I love and thrive off of working along side other artists when I can.

[@Tubetacular8]

In my city, getting a separate studio is at least $300 per month!! Can't afford that

[@sketchbookistart7531]

Are there any group studio spaces in your area? Maybe working in a group setting even part of the time could be helpful!

[@martinvestergaardportraits5654]

As a teacher I can tell that you could be a great teacher (art, artskills + maybe entreprenourship as an artist) Because your way of explaining things in your video is detailed and easy to understand. This will also provide some more human interaction.

[@allisonstrickling5260]

Happy, I completely understand. I am a full time artist, but I'm also a stay at home mom. This is something moms deal with all the time, they're interacting, but it's with their child who they can't have real conversations with. Just like art, it is the thing you love most in the world, but it is so so lonely. I think hiring an assistant is a fantastic idea, I am sure you could find a young aspiring artist to come learn from you and help you around the studio one or two days a week. My mom lives with us now and watches the kids while I work, that's been good interaction for me. What's helped me is finding other friends who are also stay at home moms. Perhaps you could connect with others who work from home? Because we have similar schedules I can have coffee with some of these people to break up my day, talk for an hour, then come back and finish the day's work.

[@tanyadragon1404]

Dear Happy, I feel like I know what you are feeling. I have been a stay at home mom for 15 years. Over this time my adult interaction was often little to none. I think you you probably hit it on the mark when you suggested joining some sort of class or activity. Joining a spots team or taking a night class for something none art related might help. I wish you all the best, love all your art. 💕💕

[@IpolaniSmith]

Have you thought of getting a small unit in an artist community? It helps to be around other artist where clients can walk around. You can even share spare or even certain days and hours in artist space. It’s good for you.

[@sonyadeantonio]

An art instructor i met quit working at home because of the same reason. She was a full time watercolorist. She is a full time art teacher now. She said she found her life depressing and lonely when she was home alone. She also tried illustrating in new York but required her to work at home. She still does her work at home but as a side gig. This is the first time I heard an artist on KZbin say something similar. I bet this is more common than we think. We as artist hate to admit this but social interaction is important. It helps us interact with someone and cope with our personal issues when we speak with people.

[@takiamustafa4161]

Happy, I truly treasure your KZbin videos! They are truly inspiring and so lovely to watch. I love watching and listening to your videos while painting. Love you so much 💓

[@takiamustafa4161]

Also, you should watch talk shows that you find interesting to help you get better at having conversations with peopl

[@jenniferjean3105]

Yayyy! I've missed your videos!

[@klaudialacayo2333]

Down here in Florida there is a new gym called UFC. It's $60 a month. Idk if there is one near you. Working out increases dopamine and you get to socialize. The reason I suggested this gym is because once you are a part of it you can take any class, women's self defence, kick boxing, karate. They have many options and I believe you don't have to pay extra for those classes. Maybe you can find a buddy or make friends and find the social relief you're looking for? Also it's great for your health on general ☺

[@klaudialacayo2333]

Yes I have also heard of artist jobs where you can work alone at times and also work as a group. Is there anything like that for you anywhere?

[@KR-xx7cf]

The entire summer...my mom worked so I stayed home and we went out for a drive but, it wasn't enough so I ended up having social anxiety. At school I used to never look people in the eyes and hated when people I didn't know tried to talk to me. Because of not talking to anyone for an entire summer...I ended up being painfully shy...I hope something like this won't happen to anyone or you. I hope you find someway to not feel lonely anymore❤️

[@spacextoaster]

I'm so lucky my friends just recently moved to my area. I prioritise making time to socialise, especially on weekends. My social life is so important to me, as important as physical exercise and eating healthfully lol. Have you tried the Meet Up app for finding groups?

[@KiraLyn]

I'm a single mom and work from home full time as well and have encountered the same scenario you're in. Before my daughter, I decided to get a second job part- time at a restaurant as a hostess. Just a couple days a week. But it helped push me to learn how to interact with new people again. After having my daughter and becoming a single mom, I decided to get back into lifting again. Even though it took me a while to talk to other people there, I eventually learned how to talk and ask for a spot if needed, etc and now I have a gym family. So maybe going to public events or some kind of group thing that involves an interest of yours that isn't too frequent to take up too much time for work and your boyfriend, but something frequent enough to interact again. Big hugs. 🤗

[@amandat8580]

When I was doing IB art, I did felt I was always outtune from the world as I am trying to be creative in my own comfort. Maybe you could plan 2 activities per week for interaction then return to your studio like petting zoo, public events like art fair, go lunch with friends on their work day? Because I am returning to drawing journals, I draw in the afternoon or evening. I sometime draw while awaiting for bus because it consume time and people be lurking over my shoudler which may start conversation.

[@BabyGirl-oi5uu]

I think this is 2nd time in total me commenting your video (even though I'm a huge fan :) ), but this is really a topic I can realte to. I'm not adult or anything, actually I'm 15 years old girl, but for the last 2 years, I've been homeschooled. The decision was made due to moving across the Europe and constant bullying that seriously damamged my health. When at first, I looved it. *Loved*. it. Silence, no screaming, NO HOMEWORK, I got to sleep longer, to study my way, in my own rythm. I loved being alone. If we skip forward those 2 years to this moment- I miss all of that. I miss waking up early, I miss being around humans (literally haven't been around humans in larger sense for 2 years now), I even miss homework, the rythm, everything. My family consists only myself, mom and my cat, cat sleeps or is outside most of the time, and mom is at work coming hom really late and tired. Honestly, the only thing "saving" me so far, was through connecting to people through internet. I met a few quite awesome people, 2 of my best friends on DeviantArt, and just people there who comment on my artwork make my day, and make me feel less-lonely. The pain of having internet friends only is that for most of the people, almost all of them, internet friends come somewhere on the bottom of the list. For majority, internet is back-up for when their real life is letting them down. When you only have internet, and no other back-up it gets really painful sometimes. So I most definetly understand you... I draw my way through days (to the point that I talk to my motives on paper lol XD), and it's not easy being like this. I suggest that you go to events where you can meet people with similiar interests that you have. Also this just popped in my mind, maybe try having some small work-shops? You get to spread art on others and interact... Just my toughts though, sadly, I'm over the pond (Holland), so I wouldn't be able to attend, but I'm sure many people would! I really hope you get less lonely, and if it's worth anything, I think many of us (or at least myself) watch you and your videos when we're lonely and/or uninspired/unmotivated to help us. For me it always works! :)

[@foggyvhs8790]

Definitely something that sets in from time to time for me, mostly when I've developed a habit of drawing several hours after work. I just get into it and forget about supper and everything. A lot of time passes and it's been completely in isolation. I think for me anyway podcasts have helped a lot.. it sort of feels like hanging out with familiar people.

[@MayaValkyria]

Really connected with this video :') , you are really an inspiration

[@LK-no8om]

I relate to this a lot! I've always been an introverted, super shy person, but now that I'm working from home I find that I'm lonely and a bit starved for conversation! I have to start looking into social activities lol!

[@CD-im2ft]

Hello, I feel exactly the way you discribe and I live a similar situation. I find it more and more complicated to socialize, almost as if I were completely unable to interact the way 'normal' people do. I had to study to go back to an office job (I'll start in june and am very exited to interact again. Feeling lonely is only understandable for those who have experienced it. I even feel that the time available has changed. I miss the rush and the dynamics I had before (Sorry for my English) I can imagine that having followers is not the same as real communication. I love your work and your videos.

[@violettb5050]

I understand how you feel. I had those feelings too, but I think I am adjusting now to this way of working. There is actually a coworking studio in my town, but I am not ready yet for it :D I am living with other people, who are around some days, my boyfreind is also around some part of the day and even with that, I feel lonely sometimes. It is just a need for community I think. I went to many festivals and art fairs lately and I think this is one of the reasons I am not feeling lonely right now.

[@ISeaSew]

OMG, I feel exactly the same way that you!!! Was one thing that worried me a lot when I was in process of quit my job. The thing is, I have very few friends, so even for socializing for company is complicated for me. Its tough!!! Do you use to talk with your friends by social media, or whatsapp while u work? It helps me to feel a lil less lonely.

[@aliago6945]

I'm selfemployed artist, too, and i had the same problem with loneliness. I tried to go for language lessons (where your talk with foreign speaker for a couple of hours) and with other people, too. But it was not for me, cause i just realised that i need closer relationships (like real friendship), than just with some random group. So, I think, first of all you need to understand and decide -what you want from that socializing - just random blah-blah-blah and feeling that you're not alone, or something closer. And if first - then it's ok with public studios and all that stuff in other comments, but if second - you just need to meet friends more often, or get new ones in addition and see them, too))

[@SaenaFineArt]

I totally feel you , I work in office but I am the only one in my department so I spend most of my days alone. Maybe you could schedule more time outside your studio so you can take more time for yourself instead of work.

[@jennysoulsofabundance2380]

I can totally relate to this I also work from home and so I could really understand everything you were saying. The one thing I do on a regular basis I skype with a friend who's in the same kind of situation and we often work at the same time as chatting. We often have joint calls with her adult daughters so I also get to talk with others as well.

[@AbzArt]

One of the best things is to join in on local "drink and draw" sessions in your city! There are usually facebook groups or just google it, they are usually so welcoming to anyone and its a great way to socialise while drawing :) otherwise if you want to socialise but take a break from speaking about art, then volunteering in the community is a great way to interact with people.

[@GeekEverythingTV]

One of my local art stores has a free open studio session every Friday where you bring your materials and work around other artists. It's non-instructional and just sort of a coming together of artists where you can talk to each other, ask opinions, or just work around people to help feel not so alone. I suggest maybe joining that sort of thing rather than going to conventions and art fairs where you interact with people you may never see again. That way, it's one day a week where you work alongside other people and the only downside is having to haul your own supplies in :D Edit: Also, I don't suggest the livestreaming on Twitch suggestion because you're still in essence alone and it doesn't actually help with social skills in face-to-face interactions, as well as hindering your work flow by constantly having to entertain and talk rather than focus on work.

[@grostbot]

Hi happy, I had a similar experience and what I found that was helping was to work part-time job. Sometimes just getting out with a set schedule chatting and working I'm able to get more done in my art times. My part-time job is pretty physical so it acts as my workout too. Plus the extra income is nice. Not saying that you should do it. Just sharing an option to think about.

[@tomishalovely-allen6091]

I have come out of a similar situation but since I have children I relish the silence and alone time because when everyone arrives home from school and the office (even though my husband is more quite) my children are a whole other story. Somethings I do which help me are: 1. I have a home and an away rental studio. The rental happens to be in a warehouse that has an event space, a gallery, artist studios and a coffee shop so there is alot of foot traffic in the building. Both studios are stocked with supplies and each day I can choose whether to be engaged with other people or stay home and be alone. I use the rental studio also as a gallery so there are quite a few of my finished pieces hanging on the walls and on display even when I am not there. The rental studio has opened so many doors for me. I have obtained commission work, invites to participate in gallery shows and I learned so much about the art scene in my home town that I was not aware of before. I am not the best at using social media to market my work (I'm working on it) so this has definetely helped. If your not interested in forking out the change for a rental maybe you can share a space with a couple other artist. You could also work along side artist friends monthly in each others home at no cost. You can arrange a rotation schedule and meet for 3 hours each time either to lunch or from lunch to a designated time. 2. Being that it is so hard to talk to your boyfriend and friends in the evening you can just meet them during their most talkative part of the day. You can schedule a weekly/monthly lunch with your corporate friends or boyfriend at a location close to their job. You can schedule to run errands the same day. It would get you out of the "office" for lunch just as you did in your former corporate days. You don't have to meet at a restaurant. You can pack a lunch or meet and walk in the city/park for an hour and just talk. 3. I have'nt done this in a while but I used to meet with a figure painting/drawing group weekly. I paid $12-15 and they would bring in a model and we would paint/draw for three hours. They were a much older group but I really enjoyed talking with them and learning different painting techniques from them. These ladies and gents are extremely talented and sometimes nothing compares to having a live model to as your reference. 4. Schedule to do some of the beautiful drawings you create that require portable materials at a coffee shop, bookstore, library, a park with a playground or just somewhere else other than home. Coffee shops are filled with self-employed, work from home creatives who needed to get away from the house and around people. I like coffeeshops and parks full of people because I like the background noise and I am actually inspired by the scenery and activity. I know this was a lil' long but hopefully this helps.

[@anning1563]

beautiful drawings as always :)

[@katherinegonzalez7320]

Something I did for a few years was go to an local open drawing session or an open workshop. No lessons, artists just go there and work with other artists or just be surrounded by people who are doing the same thing as u. There was a fee that is was only a few dollars, but you should really try to find any of those sessions. It's a good way to be more social but still have that creative flow going at the same time.

[@Tamagojani]

Hey Happy. I think this is a very interesting topic to talk about. I have been thinking about being lonely and not interacting with others for a long period of time. everyone needs their alone time to relax and chill, just being by them sleves and that is really important. But as you said, being alone for a long time makes you feel lonely over time. That happened to me recently when I was sick for over a week. I had to stay at home and didn't really have anyone to talk to. A thing that I do when I feel lonely is asking some of my friends if they have time to skype. Of course that is not the same but it is still kind of face to face interaction and that really helped me. I hope you can find some kind of way around that feeling or find someone to work along witb so you are not that alone. I don't know if that is silly or not but I heard of "art cafés" where you can go and make your art work and also meet other artists there and chat with them. I don't know if they have something like that where you live but maybe if you are working on some drawings and you are bale to try it out that could be a nice way to intereact more with others? :3

[@ArtbyLysa]

I'm in the opposite situation as you. I'm an ER/trauma nurse and although I love interacting with my co-workers and some patients, I'm often verbally and physically abused by patients. And sadly I work with a few trauma surgeons who feel that it's ok to bully nurses. And unfortunately administration only slaps them on the wrist. I'm an artist part time and only dream about the day i can make enough money to be my own boss and escape the drama of an already stressful career. I think the key to happiness is a healthy balance between human interaction and rejuvenating solitude. Hopefully you can schedule your social stimulation as you would any other necessary activity such as exercising, eating, sleeping, etc. Sending you warm hugs and positive vibes.

[@lemandy1686]

This is so relatable, i thought i was the only one feeling that way! since i started staying at home i think that i can no longer interact with people outside , i almost feel dumb. Also my bestie moved to another country and that made it way worse....I get too comfortable at home and i;m afraid of the outside ,but to fight it this year i decided to do some classes on a whole different topic than art and so i can feel human again xD You should do some activities besides home, they may be taking some time of your art but having a good mental health is the key , you will slowly roll to depression and your name is Happy so plz don;t do that , i get motivated by you ;_;. Also skyping with facecam or just simple skyping really helps !!! Go outside for groceries , push yourself to see people because sometimes we rest assured and cling on to things that bring us comfort , but we shouldn't! Take care Happy sorry for the long message :P

[@orkidbox]

I think I would suggest joining an artists collective or rent a studio in a shared studio building which is divided among many other artists. Good way to meet other creative friends.

[@michellelaird2172]

I know how you feel with this one. I have this problem too. I enjoy being alone to work but everyday is incredibly hard. I decided to get a part time, 20 hours a week job for human contact and extra cash in addition to my art business. Have you thought about volunteering at an art gallery? or at a local theater to help with productions?

[@katiefair3404]

I know exactly what you mean! Whenever Im in my studio (at home) too much I get the same. I work in retail, and often the hours change throughout the year. I can go from a few hours a week in quiet times, to more than full time hours leading up to Christmas. I find that when I get shifts 3-4 days a week I feel best in the social/work/art balance. In terms of solutions you just have to make an effort to go to social events. Try to find an art society or life drawing classes just for social interaction. Make these part of your working week, after all, talking to other artists you can learn so much and get new ideas. Also phone calls or Skype while you work can help too. I hope you find a solution soon xo