Is Asking Random Weird Questions Gonna Save the Date? | First Dates New Zealand

[@laurastuart3814]

People who have been in foster care are often really messed up.

[@MelliaBoomBot]

What a gentle man...❤.. I think he just really fancied her and froze up. It happens even in your 50.s folks…it never goes away..😂

[@JamesCraigWhoop]

Keep going Stephen, your attitude is great

[@brigs1856]

What a handsome guy. I relate so much because I was also bullied for my ears and had the same operation. It was traumatic so I totally understand him being reserved. I hope he finds a great partner.

[@patrickwilson183]

Naw. Nice sentiment ❤

[@cbeautifulworld11]

His story about being bullied was sad. Those experiences may have made him more reticent, which is why she had to carry the conversation since he didn't ask her much about herself. He seems like a good guy and she made an effort to make the date work.

[@lauradelaney5457]

Agreed. I really liked them together

[@EgleA-u8e]

I think he was just too nervous and too reserved. You can tell when the guy is self-absorbed and not making any efforts and this is not the case.

[@VanessaAndrade-fw6vq]

He was such a nice guy. It's crazy he got bullied. Somethings just don't make sense. 😢😮

[@michellemarie9526]

He's cute, but 7 sisters? Poor guy is probably used to keeping silent with so many girls around and being so outnumbered - it would hard to get a word in edgewise! Could explain his quietness.

[@mvnorsel6354]

Like being a male nurse at lunch time😅.

[@GiovanaFerreira002]

he is so cute, just need to open himself a bit more but i love him. i get great vibes from him.

[@jacquelineadams8363]

I wished she'd asked him about his hobbies on a rainy Saturday? Or maybe his favorite travel spot. Less effort asking the strange questions. Smile more and listen.

[@MrJeeves007]

Agreed@@karenstieglitz3443

[@SongBillong]

@@karenstieglitz3443 I see what you're saying, but I disagree. I think she was intentionally asking deep, open-ended questions to encourage him to open up and talk. Being able to get deep and potentially even overshare is a great way to show vulnerability and trust.

[@karenstieglitz3443]

She agreed to a second date, and then she didn't follow through with that agreement, which initially seemed cruel. HOWEVER, she has explained in the comments that she didn't want to reject him on TV and embarrass him. She also stated that the producers edited out much of their conversation to make her look bad. It's good that she is setting the record straight. The producers should not twist scenarios around for "better" ratings. I think the UK version doesn't do this as much. Maybe we should all avoid First Dates New Zealand? @@SongBillong​

[@SongBillong]

@@karenstieglitz3443 That's fair. If she really did just go back on her word, then yes, I totally agree with you. Perhaps he did something over text messages that put her off, though? Who knows!

[@SongBillong]

@@karenstieglitz3443 Oh, I forgot that bit. You're clearly a much more observant viewer than I am, haha! But yes, I'm sure she's a very good egg deep down!

[@lifeiswonderful2023]

I love that you are showing all these lovely, good men. Nowadays, men get a bad rap, but Stephen proves there are good men out there. I hope his future girlfriend sees this video.

[@aron.gortman]

Are there good women?

[@cbeautifulworld11]

Of course there are many, many good women. Someone who feels the need to ask such a question is unlikely to attract them.

[@karenstieglitz3443]

(blowing raspberries) 🙂@@aron.gortman

[@aron.gortman]

@@cbeautifulworld11 Happily married. But whys it OK to query if there are good men out there? You must not attract men?

[@cbeautifulworld11]

@aron.gortman for someone happily married your comments frequently disparage women. The rest of your comment above doesn't make any sense. I've never asked if there are good men. I absolutely know that there are exquisitely wonderful men in the world. Not only my beloved partner and cherished family members, also other extraordinarily brilliant men worldwide.

[@kjprice1443]

It wasn't actually a surprise that they never went on that second date. He seems like a nice guy, but not really her type.

[@NK-oi2ni]

My knock against him is he didn't ask any questions. Like come on bro

[@joeyjohnson4987]

And bro also got really weird thick ears

[@Louis-o6e]

Well she’s weird as

[@joeyjohnson4987]

@@Louis-o6e Why you think that? She is in any sense almost perfect ❤️‍🔥

[@ThomasMitchell-uu6id]

@@joeyjohnson4987 bruh u literally heard him talk abt it

[@joeyjohnson4987]

@@ThomasMitchell-uu6id doesn't matter

[@skinnymac2411]

Lovely man, wish him all the best

[@cbeautifulworld11]

He seems like a genuinely lovable guy.

[@YogaRepublic]

THATS a shame as I thought that they did match , he is a genuine nice shy guy and she is young and unsure of herself and with a guy like him would have been no heart breaks and mistreatment, as if she had found the guy to “awaken her inner animal “ would have done. I guess we all get to find out through mistakes. Keep Well all. S

[@kdaniels88]

No, we actually just did not click at all. We had zero chemistry and that is totally okay. This was also filmed 8 years ago and my long term partner has filled that spot

[@YogaRepublic]

@@kdaniels88 truly happy for you . Best wishes. S

[@beomc4539]

She's one big red flag. Run lad. Ruuuun.

[@raymond9716]

When a couple runs out of stuff to say quickly, there will definitely be no second date. He was dull at conversation, didn't ask any intimate questions, didn't flirt with her, etc. She should have asked open-ended, more intimate questions. The fact she had to ask a friend what topics to talk about means she felt no mental connection with him. She also had to take the lead in the date. He was so passive. That kills attraction.

[@aron.gortman]

JFC it's a first date, not some corporate interview at morgan and stanley. I'm sure if they were out on a run or on a basketball court he would've been a lot more comfortable. He was clearly an introvert.

[@raymond9716]

@@aron.gortman She wasn't attracted to him due to all these details. I'm not comparing it to a job interview, though job interviews have some connection to dates. I said nothing about his nervousness. He was dull, passive, didn't take charge, didn't flirt. What do you expect her to feel?

[@ProRaiKage]

He may have been shy early on but the early questions were also not great to have a good conversation. Definitely agree he should've asked some questions to steer the ship towards a better situation especially since the questioning was just shooting both of them in the feet. It wasn't until the last few minutes of the video when he got a lot more comfortable, more interesting, and the conversation was going better but that's after she asked better questions. Idk how he thought going on a 2nd date would be a good idea

[@kdaniels88]

@@ProRaiKagewe were on the date for theee hours. I asked him EVERYTHING from hobbies to family to home life but they don’t air what’s not interesting

[@EliteSecurityServicesUK]

He doesn't look at her directly,his eyes are darting around

[@ThomasMitchell-uu6id]

he was literally always looking at her

[@EliteSecurityServicesUK]

@@ThomasMitchell-uu6id Yep,I suppose I meant that he sort of has his head at a bit of an angle,away from her,but yes,his eyes are looking at her. You win ! 😂

[@ThomasMitchell-uu6id]

@@EliteSecurityServicesUK wasnt trying to win !

[@annetteyoung6676]

She doesn't know how to interact I think she's also worried what he thinks of her.she has lot of nervous movements awkward .she needs to relax and chill this will scare a guy off

[@troyg708]

If you have awkward silences and need to think of questions then its probably not going to work

[@kdaniels88]

And it definitely did not work out, lol

[@oliviahope3728]

He was too nervous and definitely self-conscious. I think she wanted him to be more direct and take the lead. She could’ve added to the conversation rather than just asking questions. But he could’ve asked some questions 😂 I think she said yes just to be nice.

[@gillowens24]

That is horrible people get bullied

[@tatiana1994cr]

She is the sweetest. Genuinely interested in learning about him, no judgment, trying to find interesting common ground to talk about in the date. Weather they had a romantic connection or not, she made it comfortable.

[@Annsunshine30]

Ehhh, she sleeps with her cat in the bed..........

[@Who-cu9eu]

Rather have a slightly annoying cat lover than a 304, OF or ran through party girly or single mum she would be a green tick from me tbh

[@truth_hunter]

He wasn’t comfortable with her. He acted like he didn’t want to be there.

[@silentwitness536]

She seems nice, but she's got those crazy eyes.

[@kdaniels88]

Lololol that girl is me. I can confirm that he was into me and I do have crazy eyes 👀

[@darkerbinding6933]

Stephan you need a wingman. Get past that first or second date and you'll relax and shine.

[@puffy9257]

He’s one of the only guys who talks about character when they ask what he’s looking for

[@laurieweigel9526]

He’s a sweetheart

[@donaldauguston9740]

That's too bad! I was really pulling for him. DA

[@heartpursuer]

Bullet dodged. I feel sorry for her. As she presented herself here, she seemed like her own worst enemy. Rather than exploit his shyness with her aggressive questions, she could have been empathic and more kind. I think she would have been rewarded.

[@Who-cu9eu]

Tf you talking bout easy to critique every little thing a person does behind a screen aye😂 She did really well.

[@kdaniels88]

We were on this date for three hours and we would have sat in complete silence for 2 hours and 55 minutes had I sat back and been “empathetic” 😂

[@kdaniels88]

@@Who-cu9euthank you! ❤

[@lovelyshirl]

He's adorable ❤❤❤ He needs some good loving.

[@etrebelle9812]

Why would you ask someone else to guess your weight??? Instant escape!

[@xziztortheeternal6471]

Me me me... Ticks all her boxes

[@kdaniels88]

He told me he could tell a lot about a body just by looking at it (he’s a personal trainer) so I asked him lol. They cut that part out of course

[@MaverickLee11]

In the same sentence she said: "He can not come next to me if my cats are next to me or between us, if they go down the bottom of the bed, then he can.. me and my last partner fell out because to be honest, he was bit of a d!ck" Imagine being her ex-partner realizing how relieved you are that she just self-confessed and described herself and the reason to the world. Lucky escape to the fella.

[@sigma8995]

The first sentence is all a wise man need to hear to run for the hills.

[@beckstyles3467]

are you cutting rn

[@MaverickLee11]

Why is it hiding Keeley Daniels comment? Can not see it in here when I click her reply.

[@karenstieglitz3443]

For some reason, KZbin is hiding certain replies. I tried to respond to her earlier, but my reply was blocked. Not sure why. This happened a few weeks ago, when I tried to respond to a gentleman who wrote me. Both replies were not at all offensive, so it's perplexing. @@MaverickLee11

[@oanamunteanu4744]

She is searching for validation 😬😅🙈 Dude, run, run☺️👌😅!!!

[@sigma8995]

Exactly

[@karenstieglitz3443]

An elemental human quest, especially at that age.

[@kdaniels88]

lol. Hey, that girl is me. We were on the date for 3 hours and they cut out the part where he said “I’m so good with bodies, I can tell a lot about a body just by looking at it” (he’s a personal trainer). So I said, alright, how much do you reckon I weigh? Then they cut to him looking shocked but that was from a different moment. lol

[@oanamunteanu4744]

@@kdaniels88 Hi ☺️🙋‍♀️ooppss, I didnt know that 😬🙈is easy to be misunderstood these days!!! Wish you All The best ☺️🤞

[@kdaniels88]

@@oanamunteanu4744 thanks gal! You too. This was also filmed 8 years ago (just for the inside scoop)

[@Skeezer66]

That was . . . a typical First Dates New Zealand date!! Hahaha!! Yet another 20 y.o. girl, loads of awkwardness, and even after saying they'll go on another date, they don't. At least this felt like they had some potential, being equally unusual. Going into foster care at 14, some bad things must have happened to her, don't want to imagine.

[@LoloO42]

People always describe themselves as how they WANT to be perceived. She strikes me as awkward and really difficult to talk to. Not a "Heartbreaker" at all.

[@kdaniels88]

Hey, I’m the girl. We were on this date for three hours. I asked him about my weight because he told me he can tell a lot about a body by just looking at it. They of course cut that out though. There is a lot that goes into editing

[@NancyFoshee-cl1rl]

I had wondered about the editting...tx

[@JamesCraigWhoop]

I do believe in ghosts. Usually don't like to talk too much about it though. It wasn't scary more than it was mainly a presence.

[@EminentKnight]

Even though Brian Cox, the eminent physicist, said that if ghosts really existed, the LHC would've already found proof of their existence? Honestly, it's people like you who keep us in the dark ages.

[@scplego]

I don't believe in "ghosts" I think they are demons to be honest

[@annetteyoung6676]

I think she does the rejection first because of abandonment issues .a slow trust worthy relationship that moves slow will last. I think their a match

[@pookiroo]

I did not get such a great impression of her at the beginning b/c she prioritized her cats, but she impressed me on the date because she kept the conversation going. I thought her date was sweet & I thought he had a good chance only if he wasn't so shy. He was all nerves.

[@vonbonbonjager]

Saying you hurt others and play with their emotions is not a flex! That woman sounds awful! She didn't present well here, and I'm aware she may not have intended to present in this way. I'd also suggest that she allows the man some time to process and silence doesn't need to be negative. She over spoke and filled gaps with nonsense 🙄 😅. That man seemed really nice I hope he meets someone kind.

[@kdaniels88]

We were on the date for 3 hours and they cut out a lot of context as to why “random” things were said lol

[@CraigMansfield]

At least she didn't reject him on the program. She's got trust issues from being in foster care..

[@spiritedaway99]

she is like a kid who had too much sugar and lost it with energy.. didn't find her intentions good, he dudged a bullet right there,good for him

[@kdaniels88]

Lol we were on the date for 3 hours. You have nooo idea what went on except a small portion of

[@spiritedaway99]

​​@@kdaniels88omg 3hours😮😮!! I deeply apologize for misjudgeding you/hurting your feelings🙏🏻,true I only watched these edited 10mn nd was reacting based on how they portrayed you, I wish you the best of luck 💛

[@laurieweigel9526]

She definitely comes on a bit strong lol

[@MrJeeves007]

I don't think going on this show is a good way to face up to issues. They've both got weaknesses, and have had difficulties. Imagine everyone you meet/date/work knowing random things about you.

[@ITzzDecort]

she looks like Saoirse Ronan

[@jasminaj3682]

She does!

[@stevechristie2569]

​@@jasminaj3682it is time Jasmina 💍

[@berenicehickey9755]

Handsome guy..

[@nunyah1111]

He’s sweet as 😍

[@snezdimi6695]

It is hard to behave normal if someone attack you with so many questions. It feels like defence. I have been on date which turn like interrogation. Not romantic.

[@berenicehickey9755]

It's like job interview. He doesn't ask her any questions....

[@NuRespira]

yesssssssssssss this is a really beautiful story

[@aceventurapetdetective2356]

She said she is a heart breaker, so no surprise he didn't get another date but 10 /10 to him for trying.

[@Eveedeans33]

Why did she ask how much do you think I weigh WTH

[@margkropf5541]

Why would anyone ask an extremely personal question like weight???Entrapment???

[@karenstieglitz3443]

Immature mind games. A waste of what could have been good conversation.

[@stevechristie2569]

​@karenstieglitz3443 Karen are you a native New Yorker?

[@erichchan3]

Silly questions women ask to trick men i guess. I mean men never win these weight questions anyways. You say too much they get too offended....you say too little and they also get offended.

[@kdaniels88]

@@karenstieglitz3443he told me that he could tell a lot about a body just by looking at one

[@kdaniels88]

You missed the context due to editing. He is a PT was telling me that he can tell a lot about a body just by looking at it. The shot of him looking shocked as I say that is from another part of the date. The date was over 3 hours by the way

[@MinecraftWanderer2.0]

Lead people on and then leave great personality

[@karenstieglitz3443]

And by her own braggy admission, as if that's cool. It doesn't matter how great looking she is... It's not cool. Oh, I know there are some males who eat that nonsense up, and they can have her. But you're too good for that, Stephen. ❤

[@kdaniels88]

I led no one on. I let him down in a text right after but chose not to reject him on tv. This was filmed 8 years ago.

[@timrowland9422]

Based on the editing, he did not ask one single question. Reserved and shy is never an excuse to not be aware of balance in a conversation

[@nineteenfortyeight]

Who the heck cares how long they were single?

[@zofiawaters4913]

Poor girl…

[@PhnxI3]

Keely looks way older than 20

[@kdaniels88]

Im 28

[@andy42x]

she's attractive but seems cray

[@aron.gortman]

That ridiculous tattoo is what seals it.

[@kdaniels88]

Yay! I’m pretty

[@andy42x]

​@@kdaniels88 You seem like you're capable of getting incredibly angry

[@kdaniels88]

@@andy42x Im amazed that you can somehow gather that by a few snips from a show filmed 8 years ago. 😂

[@andy42x]

@@kdaniels88 is my assessment accurate?

[@888alp]

A beautiful guy. She is beautiful as well.

[@erichchan3]

Wow peanut butter and tomato sandwiches....gross.

[@emmanewman9863]

Beautiful

[@portman8909]

I should get my ears pinned back as well and a full beard would be nice...

[@sigma8995]

No surprise that they didn't go on a second date. You can tell he was nervous and wasn't "being himself" throughout the date. But that is understandable given his history, poor guy. As for his date, I did not like the way she describes herself. I would not date her nor want friends or family members to date girls like her.

[@zacatkinson3926]

How do you know they didnt?

[@sigma8995]

It usually says so at the end of the clip. There’s a little caption

[@kdaniels88]

Youre too kind ❤

[@LaLaBlahBlahh]

She’s nice but that weight question was super weird. Maybe it made sense in the context of their convo but yeah very odd

[@kdaniels88]

Yup! It made sense in the context of our convo. He was telling me that he knows a lot about a body just by looking at one

[@alldaytech]

Damn, this girl is sooo much fun. If I was on a date with her, we’d click instantly

[@supremennn3829]

😂😂😂

[@nooraHamza214]

Girl, you're not 20. Lol.

[@SmallManBigWorldGlobal]

Looks a lot older, more like 28.

[@Skeezer66]

Since FDNZ has LOTS and LOTS of 20 y.o. women on here, I believe her.. If she was in permanent foster care since 14, she's probably been through many bad experiences.

[@selvamani1973-p7b]

20 in dog years

[@kdaniels88]

@@selvamani1973-p7b ouch

[@jackncokeryan]

Am i the only 1 that thinks they sorta look like eachother

[@chrisw6337]

Heaven help her, she is as charismatic as a razor blade. Cat lady in waiting. He was a little like a Kiwi nice boy from a couple of generations ago - what you would expect with a house full of sisters but he’ll make a great partner for the right person.

[@kdaniels88]

I’m sorry you find my personality so offensive

[@Alyssathatgrrrl]

i couldnt even finish this one. shes...off. way too aggressive and pushy. hes adorable and maybe shy. let him lead and see what happens. wonder what year this episode was?

[@kdaniels88]

You date him then 😂

[@sarai5467]

​@@kdaniels88why are you in the comments so hard ? When your in another relationship? Who cares about a TV show , we all know its just for entertainment

[@unnadud9114]

i guess 57kgs

[@nextpage3535]

Aww, he's like on a job interview, doesn't offer any themes to talk about ...

[@truthteller99999]

20 year old catlady wonders why she can't find a partner! Women who like cats are always tnucs.

[@kdaniels88]

This was filmed 8 years ago and my long term partner may disagree with you there friend :)

[@truthteller99999]

@@kdaniels88 Is your "long term partner" a Tabby or a Ginger Tom?

[@monsieurmike2072]

😳😳😳😳🥱🥱🥱

[@colaboytje]

Not really girlfriend material. It started with the cats.

[@kdaniels88]

The tv people find one subject and make you talk about it for SO LONG. I love animals and cats but I would never have said those things without being pushed to do so. I am the girl just btw

[@colaboytje]

@@kdaniels88 Is that how the show is made and edited? Oh my. I'm sorry to hear that. I did not know. My apologies.

[@kdaniels88]

@@colaboytjeno worries, I get it. They also cut out the context of why things were said. I never understood the power of editing until I was on the other end of it. This date was over 3 hours in length too so they can grab many different pieces and snip them together. :)

[@colaboytje]

@@kdaniels88 I guess you had to sign a contract or NDA as well, protecting the producers?

[@sandrudaniel19]

She looks 30 not 20 😮 Edit: and doesnt blink much. She is a freak or just tried to see if can scare him off

[@kdaniels88]

Thanks ☺️

[@traccedite1]

They're both weird

[@kristiestjohn-v7x]

She's too controlling and painful

[@Nond3script]

They sorta look related

[@seanhoward8025]

No more awkward than that weird tattoo on her arm. When she says “partner”, that’s Z Speak for bisexual.

[@Deranged-Lemonade-Stand]

How cliché.

[@junelee5975]

Shes so weird. And her reaction about peanut butter was very rude

[@kdaniels88]

I’m sorry that I offended you. I actually really like peanut butter

[@mazedar_tv]

SHE HAS VERY NICE PERSONALITY, AND BEAUTIFUL EYES (ALTHOUGH DIDNT LIKE HER HAIR COLOUR).

[@truthteller99999]

Do the producers of this programme deliberately pick horrible women? Or are the women on this programme all there is?

[@scplego]

It is because all the really good women don't come on Dating Shows

[@CurseTheDarkness]

If you think she’s horrible you haven’t watched this show long enough. A little immature maybe but kind and empathetic.

[@gillchambers9008]

voices always do it for me and hers was horrible.

[@kristiestjohn-v7x]

She is a weirdo