Is Divorce a Sin?

[@popkorn9611]

That's why we really need the heavenly wisdom to decide for marriage, cause people nowadays they can decide quickly for marriage it is better to wait than marry wrong.

[@jessicacreps5889]

My divorce was finalized a year and a half ago. It saddened me to go through with the divorce, I fought long and hard and prayed for my ex morning and night, but it unfortunately did not end in reconciliation after books, couple concealing through a Christian counselor once I found one. I'll give you a little bit of background of the fight that I fought. We where that cliche high school sweethearts that got married out of high school, he was in the military so I moved to where he was stationed, but that did not work for long, his true colors showed, he purposely got himself discharged and he hid that from me. He turned abusive, verbally, emotionally and physically. He refused to let me go to church and would follow me anywhere when I left the house because I asked him to leave and find another place to live while we were trying to work things out. He did, agreed that we would seek help but he took it more as a joke. But he couldn't hold down a job so I was paying for everything, which was fine with me. But after several months I found out that he was getting involved with a gang in the town and was messing around with some hard drugs and also had a girlfriend, and later found out that I was not only paying his bills but also hers. I was heartbroken to say the least. And after finding this out I went to our counselor for a session for just me, and we prayed but unfortunately there was nothing else that my councilor could do, so it me another month of praying to decide to file for divorce. I still battle with feeling guilty for not reconciling the marriage. But after the divorce I found a church and have been attending ever since. And the young adults group there has welcomed me with open arms even though I got a divorce in my early 20's. I had recommitted my life and got baptized within the last year. Sorry that was kind of long...

[@JonJorgensonVideos]

thank you for sharing your story and being vulnerable. we love you.

[@theguyoverthere6082]

Jessica Creps I know this is an old comment but, you don't need unnecessary guilt. Jesus words were radically egalitarian concerning divorce. What men refuse to see given the cultural context was what Jesus was actually doing for women! He said plainly that a woman could divorce for ANY reason minus to simply marry another man. Men could ONLY divorce if a Woman was sexually unfaithful to him. Laws protect the vulnerable not the strong. If you want further information regarding his words, comment back, you are not under bondage to any form of abuse. If people choose to follow God and be persecuted for their faith that's different but, persecution regarding gender NOT necessary to being a Christian. It makes sense to continue praying, be a friend, be kind but, having to stay in an intimate relationship is just institutionalized abuse. You absolutely did the right thing. God bless you.

[@ndiphiwemxi4877]

Wow thanks for opening up

[@faithbradley8259]

GOD BLESS YOU ❤ WE LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT!!! ❤❤❤

[@philipbuckley759]

@@theguyoverthere6082 this is where the exception clause may come in....porneia….fornication....or sexual immorality.....as some translate it...

[@megara0243]

Well when the unhealthy relationship impacts the children in a dangerous way. I think protecting the children is more important. This is a reason why I turn away. Abuse is not acceptable.

[@philipbuckley759]

one may separate, and even divorce, for abuse...but to remarry....nah...I don't see this, in Scripture...

[@nina-raedelong158]

@@philipbuckley759 You're correct. According to the King James Version, fornication (pre-marital sex) is the only acceptable reason for divorce and remarriage.

[@philipbuckley759]

@@nina-raedelong158 so do you accept this as being about the Jewish system of engagement....or that Joseph sought a divorce, because he thought that Mary had committed fornication....thus making it legal, for Joseph to divorce Mary....one source I saw was that Erasmus, about the time of Luther came up with the definition of sexual immorality....thus opening the floodgate for divorce and remarriage....what do you think, of this...

[@philipbuckley759]

@Douglas I think you have the answer.....

[@Level4Bio]

@@philipbuckley759 That's because its NOT in scripture!

[@PamAndiii]

"Hate the sin, not the sinner."

[@dee144k]

Pam the bible does not say that

[@nicholasr82]

Not in the bible. God says he hates the sinner that's why they get sent to hell. God does not separate the sin of a wilful sinner and judge his or her sins and not the person. All sinners go to hell.

[@Gladtobime]

By Pam saying "Hate the sin, not the sinner." she is not quoting she is simply paraphrasing. She never claimed it that it's a quote from the Bible. ~~I think that what Pam is trying to say is that we should not judge people, but to love them anyway because God first loved us nothing changes his love for us. That we should therefore love others even though we don't always agree with or condone their actions.~~ John 15:9-17, 1 John 4:7-8, 1 John 4:9-11 What shall we get from attacking other believers online? This only adds to the division, confusion, misconceptions about christianity and causes more problems. God loves us and offers forgiveness to us, that we should love one another and forgive each other because God showed us mercy and forgives us for our sins. I'm not going to lie people hurt us, but we should as believers forgive each other it may take time and won't happen over night it's not easy and we should be actively forgiving one another. God loves us and wants reconciliation with us that's why Jesus died on the cross. God hates no one, but loves everyone. God loves us all no matter what. God doesn't just send people to hell we chose to go there, by not believing in him, by rejecting him, by not accepting him as or Lord and savoir. Hell is eternal separation from God we chose whether we believe or not so we chose a life with him or a life without him and there are consequences for our sin if we don't turn to God. God loves us ALL that is why he sent his son Jesus to take our place to die for our sins so we ALL have a chance at reconciliation with him and to have a relationship with him through Jesus Christ our Lord. Below are some verses about God's love. John 3:16 Deuteronomy 7:9 Psalm 85:15 Psalm 136:26 Zephaniah 3:17 Romans 5:8 Romans 5:2-5 Ephesians 2:4-5

[@Laoriginal718]

Divorce is a sin. God hates sin.

[@YatzarEL-17]

@@nicholasr82 your a sinner are you not we all are

[@Iffmeister]

depends. if they're abused or the partner is non-committal either by cheating or just not working things out then yes. but before you EVER contemplate divorce, FIGHT for your marriage!!!

[@Laoriginal718]

Ify Nsoha lie. The Bible says God hates divorce there is no exception. If you can’t work it out then separate.

[@philipbuckley759]

@@Laoriginal718 and then the options are two fold.....remain single, or reconcile......

[@jenward8877]

as a child of divorce, I know that it is incredibly difficult to maintain a great marriage. however, I do believe that you handled this question with your usual amount of God inspired love and tact. well done Jon.

[@JonJorgensonVideos]

thank you. i appreciate that.

[@butdoyouknowjesus4121]

Same here :/

[@joeranis]

Marriage is a holy commitment and both the husband and wife should understand that before they get married, never to be broken apart. It is hard for some, but it is the right thing. Winner will be God's kingdom and the children

[@xpinkyperkyx]

thank you so very much for this, i left my husband 3 years exactly today (after lots of counselling and tears) i was then torn apart by leaders at my church, having sermon after sermin devoted to the 'sin of divorce' i was taken off all church duties and felt far away from any of God's love or grace. it was an horrendous ordeal,however God held me close i was certain i was doing the best thing for my children and i amd even my then husband. i have since moved churches and been engulfed with God's love, grace and blessings my relationship with him is deeper stronger amd my joy is in him. my story has been full of tears of rejection,sorrow, questioning,anger and disappointments but through all of this God has walked beside me, i am forever grateful i have him to depend on. thank you once again for your honest talk and your biblical teachings in an ideal world i would not have a divorce as part of my story but my story is defintiely stronger for it happening. lots of love

[@coolbeans6148]

xpinkyperkyx you have a terrible church.

[@cpoole419]

I think you handled this topic with much grace and clarity.

[@JonJorgensonVideos]

thanks! i appreciate that.

[@nanakay4078]

Right! I thought the same thing

[@regines5821]

I love how you answer the question and are still caring for your listeners and even preach the gospel! that's a gift, fantastic!

[@redletters7933]

Yes, divorce is a sin and goes directly against the command of Jesus Christ himself.... 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 10 And unto the married 👉🏼I command, yet not I, but the Lord, 👈🏽Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

[@amandapeterson3659]

So true

[@GentlemenJack109]

What of the husband is beating the wife then the wife has to live the rest of her life with a man that beats her. Yeah that’s just great, just great.

[@luisvargas9893]

YBC YoungLouie the whole marriage is a sin then because love is kind

[@GentlemenJack109]

Luis vargas exactly.

[@heissovereign]

The Lord commands let not the wife depart, But if she departs let her remain unmarried. So is the sin in departing or remarrying? I would say remarrying.

[@felixguerrero6062]

The scriptures allow for divorce in only a few very narrow circumstances, but it's not a divorce that permits remarriage. There is no such thing as a second marriage, unless the spouse has passed away.

[@benmause195]

Anyway you could answer if it is okay for a woman to preach/pastor? Thanks for the word!

[@hannahkraml6913]

Ben Mause I'd be interested in that topic too!

[@benmause195]

Amelia Porter Really? Thanks!!

[@rorymacrae7030]

1 Corinthians 14:34 “Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law.”

[@twosnakesonesword3299]

Rory MacRae but God used woman through out the Bible to speak out and preach. There were prophetess too.

[@bunchofbrunners8473]

@@rorymacrae7030 context matters.

[@Sharon-hf7lw]

God hates the behavior that caused the divorce.

[@betweenthebeautifull]

You dont get to choose if you get a divorce. My husband decided he didnt want to be married any more.. i did everything i did to fix our marriage. Didnt work. I cannot refuse him a divorce...

[@Awesome_Wow_]

betweenthebeautiful Aww I'm sorry

[@coolbeans6148]

betweenthebeautiful I'm in the same boat...it was out of the blue. She said " I'm just unhappy" without reason. I asked her if it was because of me? She said no....so why would she get rid of me????.... is she an unbeliever or is it me? I have a deep understanding of God and believe but I don't live through is word (I'm a terrible Christian). She goes to church a LOT more and reads Christian books but she's not exactly a saint ether ...

[@y-kid4560]

Yes you can refuse him. Let the court force the divorce not you. Refuse to sign no matter what. If you do you given up

[@philipbuckley759]

@A. Banana not being enslaved, is different than not being bound....it is a different word....please do a word study....

[@philipbuckley759]

@Helen Burnley you have grounds for separation, or even divorce....it is called not being enslaved....albeit this is not an allowance, for remarriage...it is saying that this treatment is not acceptable....

[@fennicecastielle2657]

I'm struggling in the moment, devastation and heartbrokeness overwhelms my soul to the point of depression and suicidal thoughts. the first few years of marriage were great until I found out about my husband's secret sin . ever since then I haven't been able to forgive and feel trust and again I caught betrayal last night. please someone pray for me.

[@coolbeans6148]

Fennice Andersen was it porn or cheating?

[@theguyoverthere6082]

Hey hun, I went through the same thing, please take it from me, if you have a place to go, go stay there for a while and sort out your feelings of betrayal for yourself. I suggest that you set clear boundaries and follow through. Get help for yourself. God is on your side.

[@philipbuckley759]

amen.....

[@harryvaliente9425]

What if the husband is very abusive,stealing,taking drugs

[@xxxAtpe]

All you need to protect him from doing sin .

[@philipbuckley759]

the Bible does not make a provision, for divorce and remarriage, for these issues...

[@mb4635]

@@philipbuckley759 I believe separation is possible. The spouse can possibly pray for their spouse to change and reconciliation but I do not believe that you should stay in such situations if it is not healthy for you.

[@DJKosloski324]

my parents are divorced. they finalized it a week before my 16th birthday. that's why I vowed to not get a divorce when I get married and if it does happen I wouldn't get married again unless my former spouse dies or says It's ok...that's just me...

[@philipbuckley759]

it is the Bible, as well....

[@oatneil]

I wish you the best. I didn't have a choice in my divorce. A year and half after getting married, my ex admitted she had been having an emotional affair and said she wanted a divorce. I fought tooth and nail, prayed constantly for God to restore my marriage, and did everything I could think of to work things out. In the end, my ex left, refused to go to counseling together, and was in a new relationship two weeks after separating. Then she moved in with him a few short months later. I'm not waiting till she dies to get remarried because she's already dead to me. I wouldn't ask for her permission to get remarried because my responsibility to that marriage is dead along with her. Sometimes you have no choice but to let go and move on. Ask God to show you the right path and follow His lead. Marry a genuine Christian with good values and character.

[@alissaharder]

I think he explained this topic quite eloquently

[@valeriedhodson3014]

A Christian did get a divorce. I been divorced for seven years. Divorce is not a desired thing but its a result of a broken people living in a broken world. God loved me, supported me, and provided for my kids and I through the worst time in our lives. God loves us and desires our well being and happiness. And God could even bring me another husband if he chooses. God forgave my ex husband and wants his happiness too.

[@philipbuckley759]

please remember that there is one exception.....if you don't have that you have no Biblical basis for a remarriage...

[@amandapeterson3659]

Divorce is from hardness of heart

[@grant2149]

If you have not a biblical reason for divorce remarriage is a sin

[@Laoriginal718]

If God hates divorce then there is no exemption. Period. Wtf kinda crap are though teaching ppl. God hates divorce so don’t do it. Separate if you can’t work it out but do not divorce. 🤦🏽‍♀️ you should be giving pure scripture not your personal opinion.

[@kristinahasse4779]

So if your spouse puts your life in danger and refuses to change what are you to do? Stay separated for the rest of your life and have some sort of responsibility to them? I pray you never have to go through that.

[@angelocapitulo9426]

"VOLUNTARY enslavement to one another that's Marriage" I think The real problem is that we're not taking serious about choosing partner

[@DIVIPI9]

Every situation is different!

[@philipbuckley759]

not really....it is quite a well worn path.....we trod on....

[@larissaacosta]

Thank you for this video, Divorce is a very sad situation and i wish none had to go through it, but sometimes when your life is at risk, then your partner is not truly fulfilling the promise that they make on the day of the wedding on that day the bride and groom promise to love each other and cherish one another in good and bad until death do them apart, but if someone is hitting they wife/husband they are breaking that promise... Thanks for the video, your videos are always encouraging :)

[@philipbuckley759]

and your promise.....for better, or worse.....

[@larissaacosta]

@@philipbuckley759 For better or worse means being there in the good times and the bad times, not in abusive times as “who hates their own flesh”, why would anyone think they have the right to hurt their partners 🙂?

[@mimo770]

What about divorce for your own safety?

[@steffy2801]

Jon you always take difficult topics and answer them so well for everyone to understand through a biblical perspective 👍🏼

[@ingloriousMachina]

At last! A gospel channel that is not wishy- washy and uses solid truth! I love your work.

[@twosnakesonesword3299]

I use to pray everyday growing up that my parents would divorce!! It got so bad I prayed for God to taken me to Heaven. It was horrible! I could never put my kids through that. They finally divorced when I was 19 and I sang praises!!! My youngest siblings wouldn't live the hell I did! I will never believe that God would want a child to live what I did.

[@alyssamayle4088]

The bible says you shouldn't get a divorce but if you do, don't remarry because that is adultery but if you are a widow you can remarry because your former spouse is no longer alive. I guess what God is trying to show us is we should be so committed to marriage that we should never even think about being with someone that isn't our spouse and we are supposed to be one flesh.

[@JazzLoungePodcast]

I needed this . Thank you.

[@sammiapplewhite3985]

GREAT message!! I've always had questions on divorce and Christianity. So happy because I live in Chicago!!

[@femke1745]

Hi, a little off topic; but can a Christian go to personal therapy like a psychologist? I don't feel good like at all, but if God wants me to feel this way, why would I try to change it?

[@gmkar7766]

Femke van Saane But are you sure that God wants you to feel that way?

[@femke1745]

GM Kar I feel like that, yeah.. Whatever I try to do my life always gets bad again. Sometimes I feel like that is just God dragging me down sometimes... Maybe that is not true, but what if I get help and it doesn't help? I just feel so useless all the time

[@Kiki-hh5iv]

+Femke God doesn't want you to be unhappy. Yes he places challenges in our lives to help us grow as people but that doesn't mean he wants you to suffer. It's never wrong to seek help. Mental illness whether that be anxiety, depression etc is just as serious as any other illness. If you're suffering please ask for help, whether that be from a psychologist, your church, your friends, your doctor. And please remember that more than anything god love us,there is pain in our lives but he doesn't want you to suffer.

[@philipbuckley759]

if you did not feel well, physically, you would probably go to a doctor....is this not the same thing....you may feel something is wrong....in your life....it should not hurt to try to get some counsel.....it says something to that effect, in the Bible...Proverbs 11.14

[@friendlywarrior9033]

My mom left my dad because he was physically and mentally abusing me and my brother. Is that a sin?

[@philipbuckley759]

separation, divorce...no....remarriage....yes....

[@grant2149]

Yes

[@emmamccoy8381]

You did a good job with this subject (from someone who is divorced) you made it plain and clear keeping it word based, as always. ☺

[@JonJorgensonVideos]

thank you. i appreciate that encouragement.

[@grant2149]

He is making this topic so you shall stay subscribed. Shame on him we all must be judged.

[@bookwormbeast]

I've never heard it explained this way. This is one of those topics that almost feels like you can't win either way! I thought this was good, thx.

[@susanna2169]

I just asked this question yesterday!!

[@BlueSoulJim]

If husband/wife is a horrible person?

[@philipbuckley759]

separation, or divorce, but not remarriage...

[@freealbertwilsonblmsmsisgf1882]

Wait so you're telling me it's a sin to divorce? What if the partner is like abusive and stuff, and you would have to divorce for your own living, is that still a sin?

[@miriam9482]

In the Sermon on the Mount Jesus said, that if the partner betrays you it's okay to divorce. Very good video. Thank you! God bless you!

[@WarrickRanger]

I am two years divorced. At the time I was married, and at the time I divorced, I was not what you would call a "good" Christian. She left me without any attempts at reconciliation, refused all counseling, etc. Since then I have had my eyes opened and am transforming myself into a disciple of God. I really hope that one day I can find a godly wife and do things the right way. But if that is not my purpose, I accept that as well.

[@kaitlynpay4313]

jon,would you please do a can a Christian watch anime... or something similar

[@QuakerCZ1]

kaitlyn I think it's a wrong question, It's not about can I or Can't I...much better question is: Does watching of Anime stealing from you your time with Jesus?... I used to watch anime, I stopped because the new ones are all quite the same, older classic anime's like cowboy bebob, berseker, Fullmetal Alchemist brotherhood are I think greater, they have great stories. The thing is that when I watched for example Naruto, Fairy tail, I could watch it for whole day, BOOM 30 episodes per day and I think its mostly not worth it, there are much better things to do. So I think it's OK to watch anime, but you have to set some limits.

[@hannahsalazar5606]

Anime is a lot of fun to watch.... but in all truthfulness sometimes it can get inappropriate. Showing us things that are scared for marriage and for intimacy with our husband/wife. Besides having the self-control to limit your time on anime. I also believe it is important to guard your heart and mind against sexual temptations that can come from watching the things that you like (anime or not). 1 Peter 2:11 encourages us to control our flesh (what we see, hear, think, and pursue) because it wages war against our soul. That's often why we ask 'How did I lose my fire for God?, Why am I not as passionate as I used to be?' A better question is 'are you filling your self with the words of God or the things of this world?'. If you don't put your walk with God first then that's not where your heart is going to be. So to answer your question you can watch anime, just make sure that you are not putting your self in a position where your sexual integrity is being violated. Here is some back up from the word of God (1 Corinthians 6:18, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, Colossians 3:5 Hebrews 13:4 Matthew 5:27-28 John 14:15 )

[@I_Foshow]

I think that that is too broad of a question. That's like saying can a Christian watch cartoons?, or can a Christian watch movies or Tv? You are going to have to weigh its content by the spirit. I'm pretty sure that you watch or have watched movies before, so in that sense, I know you know that there are movies that are good and that there are movies that it's best you stay away from. Not all anime is bad. I like anime too, and there are a lot that I won't allow myself to watch (again). But another thing to keep in mind is Japan as a whole. Anime is just what they call their cartoons. Also, Christianity is not that popular down there, so you can't really expect them to go all out with Christian themes; and if they do so, is probably rare.

[@Maluhia808]

anime is cancer

[@philipbuckley759]

how does watching, anything affect your spiritual life.....or is it just a waste, of time...

[@GentlemenJack109]

So since it’s never ok then what if a guy beats his wife then the wife has to live with a man that beats her for the rest of her life????

[@butdoyouknowjesus4121]

Did you even watch the video? 😂

[@philipbuckley759]

@Kobiruo Unuavworho not much.....

[@thewatcher96]

Then the question has to be asked..... is the wife being humble and obedient in "Everything" as has been commanded of her? "22 Wives, be in subjection unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, and Christ also is the head of the church, being himself the saviour of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives also be to their husbands in everything." Ephesians 5:22-24 (ASV) "And the wife see that she reverence her husband." Ephesians 5:33 (KJV)

[@thewatcher96]

@Eseme Unuavworho...... As I have already stated......"Then the question has to be asked..... is the wife being humble and obedient in "Everything" as has been commanded of her?"

[@thewatcher96]

@Eseme Unuavworho First ascertain why the wife is getting a 'beating'? Surely it cannot be because she is obeying him in all things as is commanded of her, and is being "humble, meek, and of a quiet spirit, which is of GREAT price to God" Which ALL true "Daughters of Sarah" must willingly be living out in their 'duties' to both her Lord and husband. "22 Wives, be in subjection unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, and Christ also is the head of the church, being himself the saviour of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives also be to their husbands in everything." Ephesians 5:22-24 (ASV) So, just as the church must willingly obey Christ, so must wives obey their husbands. Once this occurs, what husband would want to 'beat' his wife for that?

[@philipbuckley759]

I still dont know this persons position, on this subject....

[@ENCwwe]

Very good video. I think its important when reading the bible to distinguish between general statements and absolute statements. Jesus isn't contradicting himself or Paul when he says things like "let no man seperate" he's just speaking in generalities. We see this a lot in the bible. It says things like don't lie, give to all who ask, and obey the government but later on it gives exceptions to each of those rules.

[@philipbuckley759]

divorce is not the issue is not the issue....it is the remarriage...

[@mariej.d.2193]

Thank you for making this video. It is full of truth, grace and love. Just like Jesus.

[@regenducere8744]

GOD's marriage LAW is a commandment NOT an ideal or intention It is an absolute COMMANDMENT

[@NonsenseParadox]

This is one of the reasons why I believe religion can be toxic. It is a positive thing to give an end to a bad marriage. Instead, religion puts guilt on people for wanting to do the best for their emotional, mental, (and some times physical) health.

[@philipbuckley759]

separation, divorce are not the real issues...it is the remarriage that is where the main issue lies...

[@Juanaaaa]

@@philipbuckley759 why divorce is not an issue but remarriage is?

[@z23x19]

Christians just pick and chose

[@freedomisntfree2089]

my ex wife cheated multiple times, neglected the kids attempted to stab me then completely abandoned me and the kids for an affair, I divorced her Christian approved or not.

[@Level4Bio]

If she cheated its allowed. Read the bible its in there. BUT... That does not give the right to re-marry.

[@philipbuckley759]

the exception is porneia, or fornication.....meaning that once you are married....no adultery is not an exception, and neither are the other issues you listed....so you may separate, for safety but must remain single or reconcile.....and not reconcile, if possible....if it is not possible to reconcile, then it is possible to remain single...

[@utubemedward1]

This GUY IS wrong; this is false teaching; The truth is that leaving a covenant is a sin unto death; Romans 1:29.

[@proctorritter5176]

I believe that you should fight for your marriage. Go to couples counselling, talk with your partner, do everything in your power to keep the two of you together. But if there is abuse or cheating involved, and there are kids to consider in this equation, then a divorce is necessary.

[@chelseyb5391]

can divorced man or woman remarried ?

[@Awesome_Wow_]

Chelsey B No because that would be considered adultery

[@coolbeans6148]

Awesome! Wow! What if it wasn't my fault and can't stop it?

[@Awesome_Wow_]

cool beans Can't stop what? Divorce?

[@coolbeans6148]

Yes, I cant stop it from happening, her mind is made up. I ask how can I make her happy, she said nothing,. Than she said I'm not the reason she's unhappy.... I know, makes no sense.

[@Awesome_Wow_]

cool beans Oh geez I really don't know tbh

[@jonem8752]

@JonJorgenson really, really I love to hear someone who it is notable the love for God and his scripture. God bless your braveness for talk this hard but necessary topics. Gob bless y'all.

[@adrianialvarez4910]

You are so wise and biblical! Love love love your channel!! Also you and your wife are Hilarious!

[@pedrobustamante9337]

For someone who is having such thoughts as these, its hard and its frightening to really understand. I am currently battling this type of dilema. I have prayed for my marriage and my wife but it still seems that we are not happy together. I am Christian and she is not. I think in that itself is difficult. There are other personal issues that seems that she is also unwilling to change. I am at a cross roads of what path I must take. But I tell myself that God should come first and that he would want we has to be happy. I do feel like I would fail him if I were to divorce, but at times I feel like it the right thing to do. I need help.

[@loredanac2665]

What about if you are divorced for adultery and since have a relationship of 9 years with the same man as a living partner where do you go from there? Ex-husband is remarried.

[@Beamlight7]

Ask God for forgiveness, read the bible everyday. Ask God for wisdom and to show his plan for your future. Go ahead and sanctify your present relationship of 9 years by marrying that man as God guides you, pray.... Let his wisdom speak to you.

[@philipbuckley759]

if the Bible calls something adultery how can anything make that sin legitimate....your options, on leaving your husband are to remain single or reconcile....if you cant reconcile you can remain single....

[@godsbabygirl6593]

Thank you for the easy to understand explanation. My parents divorced when I was a child and I swear that it will never happen to me but it did. I have always had a dysfunctional family with my parents and then my stepfather showing up in the picture way before my parents divorce was finalized. My father divorced me along with my mom and my stepfather was always abusive towards me, while my mom allowing it. I always desired a wonderful family and my ex husband appeared, which soon we were married. I am blind and believed that horrible lies that no one could love a blind person, and that’s why I married my ex because he said he love me, wanted to marry me, and lies plus lies. I didn’t marry loving him but I did not want to be alone for the rest of my life. Our relationship was horrible sis in the beginning and it never felt right. I have never been happy with him but I learn to love him and walk on eggshells all the time. I thought that’s how men treated their wives because that’s what I’ve always learned and that it was always my fault. He was illegal in the US and I file for a green card for him, which became pregnant. We never had good communication and he often play the silent treatment, which I never knew why he was angry. He was denied citizenship a month before I had my baby. It was devastating because I depended on him completely. I thought for him in searching attorneys and in the meantime learn to becalm independent. He would say he love me but his actions were always different, when I would visit him at Mexico. I thought for him to get him citizenship for five years. Sending him money, trying to make it as a single mom and with health issues. I was Stress everyday. I was crying so much. My only friend who was blind like me past away and she was my only support at the time. My ex-husband left me with all the packages, supporting him, paying for (Immigration Attorney)‘s, parenting my daughter and supporting her plus household and going back-and-forth to Mexico. I was left with a decision making because there was no decision making from him. I was going to move to Mexico and abandon everything in the US, which there is nothing in Mexico for disabled. I knew there was no future for me either but I want my family together. I moved all my stuff to Mexico, for nothing and he was going to get a place ready but after three years I am still waiting. There was no communication, I was abandoned emotionally because he would just call to speak to our daughter and not even say hello to me or how I am but (Immigration) continued. He completely checked out of the relationship for a year and a half and I was left with the immigration decision in canceling immigration process. I sent an email to (Immigration) and I don’t know if my email affected her’s denial decision once again. I feel so much guilt from that because I should’ve left it to God and then I file for divorce. He didn’t fight for me and I was just exhausted of trying to keep a marriage that it was dysfunctional since day one. I am so broken. I feel like with no purpose, no hope and depressed. I feel such a failure and so naïve and stupid and worthless. I was afraid to be alone for the rest of my life and I am alone now anyways. 33 years old and 10 years with that man. My daughter is hurting and that’s what I don’t want for her because she wants a father and that’s what I was seeking as well. I have double condemnation for canceling immigration and taking my daughter‘s father away. And the divorce. Please I need help. I don’t want to lose my salvation . I don’t know how to fix the life that I destroyed. I am sorry for writing my whole life but I don’t want anybody to make the wrong decisions that I did. God bless

[@aislinngraves4291]

Thank you.

[@gracey9598]

David Pawson on KZbin does a great sermon on this topic.

[@jonathynfloyd5433]

Hey Jon! So my grandmas is a Chaplin at a jail ministry and she was recently posed with the question "does a Christian go to hell if they commit suicide?". My grandma really likes your videos😂 and she was wondering how you might answer that question, and what the Bible may have to say on that.

[@horsenuts295]

Do all Christians have to witness to people? I'm really struggling with this question since I am quite shy.

[@philipbuckley759]

try to have a casual approach.....about your own spiritual journey......

[@carolinelackeyJCOTMlight]

Yes very emotional I’m breaking down crying. I didn’t even know I was married now I need a divorce

[@SuukiMuntana]

caroline lackey how is this possible

[@jneptune1540]

You cannot divorce bc your feeling changed, spouse has illness/disease or you want to see a future with another man. You can but you should not. Liked your message in the beginning but lost me at the end. Most people who watched your video has already divorced or in the process. And you just validated their feeling of divorce is ok.

[@grant2149]

Excatly

[@Rie_Bell]

could toxicity of a relationship be valid for a divorce? my parents are hot oil and water, the more they stay together the more they suffer. Both arent right for each other, they rushed their marriage too much.

[@philipbuckley759]

separation, divorce...maybe....remarriage....no....

[@erenjinchuriki]

I think it’s as he said in the video. Push for reconciliation. Part of that reconciliation is reconciling with the Lord, and making Him the base of a marriage. The old relationship is toxic. The new one doesn’t have to be

[@woolywil10]

Been there. Tried it for the past ten years

[@TBspeaksfl]

Well done.

[@Minittwastaken]

i don't think divorce is sin and remarriage is not adultery adultery is when you cheat on your partner/spouse if you get a new partner/spouse even after your relationship with your previous one is over then it is fine.

[@philipbuckley759]

one really has to know how the Bible views this action as this is the standard, for judgement....

[@eggshells652]

divorce is a sin, you cannot choose what is/is not a sin.

[@beatsodds391]

So..then What should be the Choice? Continue with Unhappiness?!!

[@mariasmits246]

Beats OddS that's why you take time thinking about your future husband before marriage or an engagement. There are, however, extreme situations

[@beatsodds391]

Maria Smits I believe God loves us in every way just like we are....I feel like it is us humans who put a distinction...

[@BlkOnyx0508]

Legal seperation

[@philipbuckley759]

@@beatsodds391 he may love us, but wants us to be holy, not happy....

[@philipbuckley759]

separation....seems to be ok, but not divorce....

[@dns3111]

God love you all, turn away from your sin and glory your lord

[@joshuahicks7798]

Well said good sir.

[@mightytgaming3]

Hi Jon Im 16 & The mens prayer group always debate about this...

[@gero3015]

what about being seperated but not legally divorced since its very expensive to have a divorce In phillipines

[@philipbuckley759]

separation....yes....

[@tiffanyweis6180]

Well to answer the question, I'd say no divorce is not a sin. Just because you got married doesn't mean that God ordained it. I wonder why most people don't mention free will here. We have free will to do what we want. We just don't realize that our desires can't supersede God's plans and will. If it doesn't work out, then chances are God was never a part of that relationship and you were never supposed to be with them to start with. That's just my thoughts though...

[@SpiritualWorshipers]

Only deliverance from demons behind those broken relationships.

[@ATSucks1]

I appreciate this. IN pain and love and faith. MOses did say it was condoned... he said it was suffered.... LIke was said.... fight for it... but what happens when their is no fight and ya gotta walk in the vally........ What a life. Aint it amazing. praise in suffering. Agapee . Strive for agapee

[@felipecervantes7881]

And then you spend no time talking about when it’s permitted to get a divorce.. Not a very balanced video

[@lindstheteacher1611]

If there is cheating and abuse then I think yes.

[@philipbuckley759]

fornication....and nothing is listed, about abuse.....

[@BellaBrownministry]

Thanks for sharing God's word and letting Him use you! #FreshChannel

[@user-nh1lg7vg3g]

Yes

[@t-15films98]

Love the stuff

[@markwhite5926]

I don't agree, any true Christian would NOT divorce their husband or wife except for sexual immorality or fornication! it is a sin to be disobedient and NOT do as Jesus instructed. How can you claim to be a Christian and then do exactly what Jesus said you must NOT do? we are called to obedience and holiness not rebellion and lawlessness.

[@LauraMcCullough83]

Jesus also said to pluck out your eyes if they caused you to sin... i don't see many eyeless Christians and yet the a recent survey said 68% of men (50% of pastors) watch it regularly... guess we just follow the bits we like?

[@markwhite5926]

@@LauraMcCullough83 no real Christian can choose bits and pieces! They follow as they are taught by God through His Holy Spirit! I'm sorry... if you dont like what Jesus(being God) said, maybe 2 Corinthians 13:5. We must be obedient... blessings

[@GinaAskMe]

yes...but it really has to be a abuse, or something that effects or hurts children.

[@GinaAskMe]

we give up so easily that no one even tried anymore, anything can be worked out, if...the commitment is there, especially if u took ur vows r taken in a covenant to God!!

[@ianbetts4435]

Sin is sin and God hates all sin.

[@lisaproctor7675]

ESTHER SAFORO MINISTRIES ' ONE SOUL A NIGHT' IS ON YOU TUBE AND ALSO ON FACE BOOK LIVE PRAISE JESUS SHALOM

[@philipbuckley759]

the real question, is your suggestion or requirement, for the already divorce, nonBiblically and remarried individuals that will say it all....of what you actually believe...

[@joydowner9648]

Well that hurt, but t it was good. Thank you Jon

[@hurbeymorphfin]

God bless whoever is reading this and i pray that you turn to the lord before his return and please seek the Lord so you can be i forever be in happiness you dont have to suffer because the lord already did so for you as long as you follow him, god bless you and Jesus has a plan for you keep your head up 😃❤🙏

[@coleen012]

Thank you thank you for the statement, God loves Divorcees

[@sasolei]

God hates sin but not the sinner.

[@philipbuckley759]

this seems to be problematic....because in Matthew 5 it says....if one divorces his wife, except, for the cause of porneia, it makes him to be responsible for her adultery......huh.....try to get your head, around this...

[@GinaAskMe]

WELL SAID MY MAN!!!

[@kevinadams6471]

What are the many reasons that you say Jesus allows for divorce as he HATES divorce ?

[@Laoriginal718]

Yes divorce is a sin. Here it is: Divorce Romans 7:2 a woman is bound to her husband til death Matthew 19:3-12 Jesus explains that from the beginning it was not so, can divorce only for fornication 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 God say the husband and wife cannot depart from each other Jeremiah 3:8 Israel backslid and committed spiritual adultery against the Lord Jeremiah 3:20 Divorce is treacherous Jeremiah 3:14 God is married to the backslider John 3:19 men’s deeds were evil Roman 8:1 free from the law of sin and death through Jesus Christ Malachi 2:16 God hates divorce Mark 10:11-12 if you divorce and marry another you are committing adultery Mark 10:1 Jesus on divorce Mark 10:11 Mark 1-9 1 Corinthians 7:1-2 to avoid fornication 1 Corinthians 11:3 the head of the woman is the man 1 Corinthians 7:27 seek not to be loose. Numbers 23:19 Ecclesiasticas (also known as the book of Sarrach) chapter 23: verse 22 Thus shall it go also with the wife that leave her husband and bring in an heir by another, for First she hath disobeyed the law of the most high, and secondly she hath trespassed against her own husband and thirdly she hath played the whore in adultery and brought children by another man. Ecclesiasticas chapter 23: verse 18 a man that breakth wedlock saying thus in his heart “who see me? I am compass about with darkness, the walls cover me what he I to fear the most high will not remember my sins”. 1 Corinthians 7:5 do not deprive your spouse of sex (less it be for prayer, fasting, menstrual cycle, medical condition) James 4:4 adulterers 1 Corinthians 7:2 to avoid fornication

[@Princedevlor]

I read in bible and as I agree with you that divorce is a sin by God because when married is until death do you part. However if a person is being abusive, drinking and drugs and other things that is put a strain on one person, I think would be acceptable. God wouldn't want us in a marriage that we feared or take us away from God's love. The divorce part I get confused on is if a person marries after divorce that's a no no until the other person dies. But like in your video saying ask God about it, talking with pastors or other Christian friends in ways to handle it is good. Also good thing to talk to them before divorce as well. But you explained it very well. My biggest thing is never let it go as far as wanting to hurt anyone or yourself because death is never answer and shouldn't give up on life over anyone in this world. Also with someone hurting a child, I feel needs to get away from that.

[@philipbuckley759]

divorce is not the issue...it is the remarriage...

[@grizzlyjelly7370]

Is it a sin to love someone of the same sex?

[@gracey9598]

grizzly lesley Yes it is.

[@Viciousswarm88]

grizzly lesley the love isn't wrong, but sexual acts are. Imo.

[@grizzlyjelly7370]

In the Bible.. was he referring to everyone or just the people of Sodom and Gomorrah?

[@grizzlyjelly7370]

He*

[@gracey9598]

grizzly lesley Everyone. bible says homosexuals will not inherit the kingdom of God.

[@joshuaborne4721]

Dear brother having been sued for divorce after I was born again I will say with certainty that two born agains Christians will not seek divorce because they now have the heart of Jesus pounding within their chest. Secondly, 2 Corinthians 6:14 is not a valid reason for divorce but an explaination not to be unequally yoked with none believers this applies to all areas of a Christians life but not a acceptable reason for divorce. The difficult thing for man to come to grips with is that their heart is evil and hardened by sin. The Christians heart is soft and pliable having been given a new heart a hard of flesh (Jesus's heart). Divorce was not Gods invention but it was the hardened heart of man that invented it. God bless you brother. So divorce can be a sin depending on the circumstances just like bearing false witness can be a sin ( see example of Rahab and Jericho).

[@coolbeans6148]

Joshua Borne my wife left me, said she wasn't happy without giving anything else, she said it wasn't my fault she's just messed up in the head. I said my vows to the Lord and truly ment it. But I've grown tired of fighting and let her go. Am I in the wrong? We are still close friends

[@ENC98TV]

Can you do video on remariage?

[@philipbuckley759]

for starters porneia is the exception.....check that term as Erasmus changed it from fornication, and the reformers promoted it...