Is He a Narcissist

[@tbd5082]

100% true! But it is also very painful to digest that the person you loved doesn’t exist. Yes, they don’t exist. Look closely and you will know they never cared about you. I promise.

[@yayaminah7908]

I have listened to damn near all of your videos and this is the first video I have heard a lot of “passion” in your delivery. This is great! I hope that whoever listens to this, takes what’s given and run with it.

[@runwiththewind3281]

I did and remain to do so.

[@somebodysfalling]

Agreed, I think this is the most passionate I’ve ever heard him...and sounds so protective. :)

[@michaeltucker6666]

Best video ever HG. I’ve listened to them all. PASSION! FIRE. TRUTH! Stop expecting change from the Narc. Change yourself and wake up from the addict cycle. I’m going to be sharing this w at least 10 love addicts I know. What I heard you saying = WAKE UP

[@TheFunfun61]

I agree with you 100%. You are right, a person doesn’t want to accept the truth. It took me a while to figure it out but when I did, I actually could heal.

[@WingZeroSymphonics]

God bless those with such emotional thinking. They are born with a chance to feel life in depth. Something the narcissist envys. God bless the narcissist and the lessons they teach. May it realize quickly in the hearts of those affected, that there is courage in standing alone.

[@sunsetnights778]

Bravo HG!! I believe you! I was married to one for 20 years and then I got caught up into a relationship with another narc 2 yrs after I divorced my 1st narc & I’ve been listening to you ever since you came out & I’ve been NO CONTACT for 2 yrs now!! I love my life now all because of listening & buying your books. Thank you HG!

[@queenelisekellylifejourney]

Our Emotions clearly need to be as Educated as our Intellect🎓 Good one HG✔️

[@KnowingtheNarcissist]

Thank you.

[@sumbals]

Never doubt your work.. got it and agreed.. thanks

[@Fliedermutter]

You are right.. its an addiction.

[@catalinaroses2298]

I will admit to the following: I found these KtN videos very soon after I had been discarded 2 years ago. For a year, I wanted to deny that he was a narcissist, even though he seemed to be a textbook narcissist according to these videos. After realizing that he most likely had NPD, I convinced myself that he “wasn’t that bad” and he was not really a deviant or malicious narcissist. I told myself that I could handle him. I wanted him to come back to me. Wrong, wrong and wrong. Now I know. Once you know, you go. Get out and stay out. No contact. I don’t want a disordered or possibly dangerous man in my life. My life is much better and happier without him.

[@lydiam9323]

You told me he was a narcissist and I thought that would be the end of my emotional thinking. Still some cognitive dissonance unreal. This video is amazing. F U emotional thinking! You have screwed me over so many times!

[@sandraleighty5369]

H.G. your most brilliant piece of all. Was suffering recriminations, thinking I was wrong and began doing some intoxicating N-dipping and bc even if he is a Narc he is, after all, harmless.

[@elzachengelieva4406]

Excellent work ( fable of lion and emotional thinking)- unique, HG!

[@miawhite136]

Bravo man! U have helped me grow soo much! I don’t even remember how I found UR channel back then when I was in Crazy Town! I’m so happy to be strong again and now I know for sure there was NOTHING wrong with me I was just being me, the Empath that I am! ☮️♥️😀

[@iamhis4749]

Thankyou! It's much more accurate to hear information from the horse's mouth. It's one thing for people to analise and study and diagnose a narcissist.. etc but no one could ever know or understand a true narcissist like a fellow narcissist!

[@KnowingtheNarcissist]

Indeed and you are welcome.

[@amandahines9718]

This video added clarity. Thankyou. Get out, stay out and never look back 😍

[@bldrew38]

You know how I know? Because everything I’ve read fits him to the letter. It’s like reading an autobiography of his daily life. Research has been the only way I’ve gotten answers to crazy things he’s done. Without it, I’d still would be wondering how he can walk and blink without his brain collapsing under the heavy work.

[@susiep.7372]

Wooow...Very honest !! Thank you a lot H.G !!🙏 Don't you get any bad comments from your "brothers " ?? You are saving us ... It's an absolutely blessing for us !! You made me get out of that nightmare! I can't thank you enough !! Greetings from Germany.

[@KnowingtheNarcissist]

Possibly but not because they know what they are and think I am giving the game away, remember, the vast majority of narcissists do not know what they are and the occasional adverse comments tend to come from Mid Range Narcissists who think they are empathic victims - not always, some are from True Victims who are hurting and their emotional response overrides logic so they lash out at me, I understand that and it is not an issue for me. Other times it comes from narcissists and it amuses me.

[@susiep.7372]

@@KnowingtheNarcissist Smile .. I knew it wouldn't bother you !! 👍🏻👍🏻 That's why you are a "greater " 🥇🏆

[@lillianwasserman1837]

Brilliant H.G. I love when you speak in this tone. This is a wonderful video thank you.

[@yellowbird9132]

I made a list of the things this person has done, and looking at it every so often, reminds me and relieves my doubts about whether or not this person is a narc. You've nailed it about the empathic emotions taking over. Thank you.

[@SerenaToxicat]

Thank you for arming me against my own emotional thinking.

[@awethenticallymeunscripted4412]

Literally every MAN i encounter now are NARCISSISTS.. its almost like I'm the mirror to expose them because I'm an EMPATH SUPERNOVA....omg

[@katalynbabe]

Yes! I attract them like moths to a flame! They're all the same!!

[@glitterboxglitterbox1939]

Grind2Shine FITNESS MOTIVATOR ahaha lol! That’s good than!

[@jaimes1572]

This was probably your best video yet! And a serious come to Jesus moment for most people still in it. Hope they listen.....

[@HellcatMad]

🤣 OK HG. There are many steps to accepting this ensnarement. Many steps to leave. Some people stay stuck on stupid. Having learned I was ensnared a few years back, I can say that you are The "Expert" on all things Narcissistic. You have given me the most clear And precise information on this topic. Your platform has helped so many, I am more than sure. Thanks and keep them coming. #supernovaempath #verynarcissitic

[@1991windsor]

Thanks HG...much appreciated. Tough to hear, but the truth does hurt.

[@Rock_Girl_Daze]

Thankful that I found HG. He put all the round pegs in the square holes for me. Finally, an answer to what I dealt with, but didn’t have a name for. No contact is the solution...once you know.

[@SilentFigure1]

I was doing this tonight a dear friend pointed me to this podcast.Wow I needed to hear this I was doing this to myself giving myself hope. The universe is pushing me to the truth.

[@tammymargriter9085]

Thank you for your videos they have been a great help and comfort and thank you for pointing out the emotional part of myself and how it's used.

[@beverleyskye7568]

LOVE THE PASSION IN THIS VIDEO HG, AT LAST. MAYBE NOT A COMPLEAT ROBOT THEN.

[@Narcshield]

This is 100 percent true!!!!! Emotionally thinking is the worst! Great video! I just saw this for the first time. I plan to share this.

[@cjfree1375]

Wow! Thank you, I'm still very ill emotionally, physically But the truth is, the gaslighting, cheating, isolation, physical abuse. I do feel so humiliated I am drinking too much.

[@feliciacarrington681]

This has been the best I have I have heard from your Chanel I got it that was deep Truth thank you I don't want be blind

[@workout439]

Excellent analogy HG. Somehow, I felt sincerity from you in this one. Oh yes, yes, yes I believe!!! I got out and I'm staying out. Thank you again...

[@runwiththewind3281]

HG, thank you for helping me understand. Brilliant HG. Brilliant.

[@KnowingtheNarcissist]

Thank you. Tell everybody you know.

[@runwiththewind3281]

@@KnowingtheNarcissist the very least I can do and yet it pales in comparison to that you have done and continue to do for us.

[@Bintang221]

😭😭thank you once again. You are starting to convince my logical thinking to take over the emotional one. Why is it so hard. ? Exactly as you say. I read and have been through almost all those narcissistic behaviours...and yet, since he doesn't comply with them all 100% my emotional thinking tells me that I was too harsh on him and tries to justify him. My logical thinking knows I shouldn't. Sometimes it feels like I'm becoming a skizo,, with 2 personalities. No contact is the only way out....

[@sj1684]

The lion example is by far the best example of emotional thinking vs. Logic dynamics when dealing with your kind!

[@onniali3945]

One of your best presentations yet! I totally relate to it.

[@sharellerose5306]

Hey HG, I have been a fan of your channel for some time now but this video has got to be one of my favorites so far..I love how expressive and animated your voice is in this video!

[@hgmyfavnarc8866]

Hi HG this video is pure brilliance the accuracy and analogy is a lot on I've read a lot of your books and listened to all your videos but you never fail to astound me with your knowledge I love you HG I admire the fact that you have this disorder and you have turned it into a positive by helping people gain such a high quality of information thank you as always xxxx

[@cathrynward4617]

Danielle, steady on! I agree with the above comment, he doesn't do it for altruism.

[@katieschmid1030]

probably your best video. Truth straight from the horses' mouth

[@tbd5082]

It’s a hard pill to swallow (that you have been conned) but you have to take the pill. What will you take the red pill or blue pill?

[@LilithLiberated]

You are quite right. It is easy to become confused. Especially in the case where there may be some additional mental issues aside from the narcissism itself which can complicate matters. I’ve honestly found some of the narcissistic techniques used to be helpful. To paint the person black in my mind. Of course their status there is not dependent on anyone else’s behaviour and I can keep them painted black permanently. But essentially to think of them as a non-or partial person makes emotional disengagement more possible. As an empath we are always seeing the other persons side. If they have to become a non-person in my mind for me to be free, then that is what I will do. It’s not as though they deserve any further consideration.

[@tinapeters5725]

Good afternoon HG, pity this advice , was not available 60 years ago, as I commented on other videos,I might not have married my husband, I was constantly abused emotionally , yes there were periods of calm/happiness, but, everything you have stated happened over and over again. I realised, too late, that I had been used , abused emotionally , physically,lied to,humiliated, but it was always my fault. Thank you You provide a valuable service, for those who are in the position I found my self in, get out, sooner than later, hold your head up high, and get on with your life don't sacrifice yourself on the Narcissists's Altar

[@lil-missmaggy9656]

You Spot on!!! Thank you..

[@1madaboutguitar]

Wow... HD really SLAMMED down the hammer on this one! Don't know if he was trying to hit the msg home or that from an intellectual and pragmatic perspective, he is also frustrated at how stupid and self defeating people can be with their emotional thinking. You can see why this game is a cakewalk for the narcs most of the time, can't you...

[@feliciacarrington681]

Wolves in sheep clothes our thinking is our enemy

[@mariaarribas6108]

As Always HG-phenomenal!

[@sadielou4258]

Fantastic videos and your categorisation of narcissists is far better than the dsm. Tbh i believe all cluster b disorders ARE narcissism

[@cpower60]

Best Video to date ... So needed to hear this

[@RayAnn1983]

I want movie H G Tudor!!!! everyone needs to know what you know. Everyone should be educated, not all dangerous people carry weapons, emotional abuse is lethal, make a movie please 😁😁😁😁😆

[@KittySquiddy]

WoW... Your words really hit home. I wish there was a button, to switch off our emotions.

[@elainieg]

wow, that was excellent.

[@SheCat1964]

Here is some narc control for you, My ex would punish a pet because he is mad at me, because our daughter has not spent time with him for the past 2 months. He forced a pet rabbit on me. I told my daughter for a year no more pets! i cant afford to feed any more. My health has gone down and im no longer working. He bought her a rabbit anyway. I told him i was buying nothing for this pet, he agreed. Though i have still been buying his veggie treats at times. Now because she wont go with him. and i stopped speaking to him 2 weeks ago, because he said something unforgivable to me. He refuses to buy what the rabbit needs. He was told the money i have left goes to buying food for our daughter, (he pays never a dime of child support her entire life) So if the rabbit gets. Our daughter goes without. He could give not a single shit! She finally realized what he is at age 14. She is sick of his drinking, she is sick of him not caring about her feelings, and using emotional black mail and threats to try and win her back, She finally saw what he does to me too. He lost his little flying monkey that thought mommy was unstable. I wish i could call spca on him for neglect. If i did not think this bunny was so sweet i would pack him up, and take him to my exes house! (where he has lived the last several years rent free) My daughter has grown bored with him and i spend more time with him now. These monsters will stoop to such a low level. Should have been a warning sign many years ago he had no real care for animals. He has never looked after any of his pet properly. Except the cat he has now. And that is only because he suffers from anxiety and is alone most of the time.

[@liamking5142]

If a lion tells you it's an expert on lions and it can make you a lion too if you just come closer, it's telling the truth from a certain point of view.

[@caroliner2029]

HG, How did you get a picture of my victim-N mid-ranger sister? Well done for underscoring the point of your persuasive presentation yet again, with an entirely apt artistic depiction of the subject. I have others telling me that she isn't a N, despite evidence of her abuse on many occasions over many years, that proves that she is an abusive individual. They've witnessed it themselves. Those others that refuse to believe it give me reasons for that refusal which are unsupported by the facts before them, and which they can't explain away with any logic. Their reasoning doesn't hold water. It's the blinding and obstructive type of emotional thinking that people are quagmired by. I have a clearer idea of what you mean. Actually, it's a form of gaslighting yourself, to say something is happening that there is no evidence for, and the thing that IS happening is called something else which makes it magically disappear in your mind. In terms of research, if under certain circumstances you get the same behavioural results from a person, the same replicable results, the same predictable results, the more times this happens, the higher the validity of the results (I.e. reliability).

[@drg2094]

The only time I doubt if my diagnosis is correct is when they have narcissistic traits but they love animals. That’s when I’m thrown off and doubt wether or not they are

[@lizaphelps]

OMG. He got through a crack in my no contact plan because I forgot to block him on one app. And all that he said got me asking the same question! I just got off the phone with my brother, saying, "well, he has a lot of the traits, but a lot of them he doesn't have. Maybe what he's saying is true? That he is in love with me and wants to do everything needed to repair? My brother is a minister who has gone into prisons and he was telling me that he has witnessed many inmates arriving at a profound epiphany where they did not want to live life the way they had and so they changed. Surely, they were narcissists when committing their crimes. If they can truly change, can't ours? I do wish there was a litmus test to discern if someone is genuine in their plans for change, or if it's hoovering? Is there a video on that, HG?

[@allisfaith]

8:26 “do not allow those doubts”

[@yellowbird9132]

They can put on a good show.

[@monicaAdkins1207]

This is your finest video HG, thank you!

[@SweetBlackSistah]

Great in explaining this HG. Damn. 💯

[@pineapplerings5122]

PERFECT! You’re on the $$$$ !

[@SerenaToxicat]

Would you also confirm that the person is not a narcissist if they are not one? For example, maybe that person is in a very long grandiose manic episode, maybe that person has borderline with some narcissistic traits, I don’t know what else there could be, I guess histrionic or antisocial. But do you know what I mean?

[@renukashinde2701]

After abused by a narcissist person... And when we keep our emotional thinking away... Do new narcissist start avoiding you... I feel new people I meet, and once I feel are narcissist it seems like avoiding me... They fancy me for a while and then avoid... Or am I a narcissist!

[@angelofrock7116]

Amazing Thnku was needed

[@catalinaroses2298]

Damn! That voice is so very, very attractive. I think it is the most handsome voice that I have ever heard. But thank you for your content Mr. Tudor. You are not a healer, but you have certainly helped me and a lot of other people.

[@sandraleighty5369]

Oh God help me,, that banging-my-head voice!

[@delyth99]

You don’t want to label them Narcissist .. as there are other qualities you like about them

[@tarasteward3271]

Hello H.G. great video ! what do you think if a person has a dirty little secret (secondary source) he/she is a narcissist right? or other some kind of cluster b?

[@KnowingtheNarcissist]

I recommend you organise a narc detector. The presence of a DLS is a strong indicator but not determinative in itself.

[@glitterboxglitterbox1939]

Cus I would think that he doesn’t like me than?

[@anitajoan9298]

Thank you

[@makeitcount2985]

I'm the one who breaks the contact

[@anitajoan9298]

Great video!!!

[@tbd5082]

A narcissist is more like a scorpion.

[@The64v]

Isn't the narc detector just an exploitation of the truth-seeker trait? (I like how you compare pursuing the narcissist's attention to an addiction, much like alcoholism.)

[@mariatrakadas6069]

Best video ever HG!

[@TLNY.]

great video !!'

[@sharr323]

So, who is really the fuel, right?! Us or you? Who is fueling whom? Addiction is right. Ugh! It's like playing a 47-year long movie reel in my head! Parental "love bombing" isn't even really very fulfilling, as it is largely just societal pressure and conditioning.

[@Horvi83]

Brilliant!

[@allisfaith]

10:48 “you get raped” Does a narc rape his IPPS/IPSS? Can you say more about this please: that is rape in relationships with a narcissist....is it all rape? Since sex is almost equal to masterbation, sex is a source of fuel...extracting fuel is abusive...Validate this for women who have been with narcs HG. How do you know you’ve been raped by a narc?

[@AngelKrystalStar]

Omg I’m going to full NoContact “Narc Neighbour Mom” You’re right HG, I should change the class time. 😉 ET is such a bitch! I keep thinking but she’s so funny and entertaining!! Wow Narcs are SO addictive. Also we are NOT required to be “nice” It’s so hard.

[@shannonlmc]

So here’s a new one... flaunting the new supply on social media and responding to a weak moment reverse Hoover that implies you don’t know about the new supply and said narc goes along with the implied “ not knowing “ and carries on a conversation as if that new supply doesn’t exist?!?!?!?! What the hell ? That HAS to be a first!! No words for that insanity.

[@johnkalweit1778]

Is she?0

[@MacyLuv]

Im here now. I can not tell if he has borderline personality or narcissistic personality. But HG has changed my life. I know he's going to get credit from God for using his vulnerability for the good of others. So thank you HG Tutor.

[@renukashinde2701]

After abused by a narcissist person... And when we keep our emotional thinking away... Do new narcissist start avoiding you... I feel new people I meet, and once I feel are narcissist it seems like avoiding me... They fancy me for a while and then avoid... Or am I a narcissist!

[@candicejaid6107]

Thank you