Is it right that a husband hides his second wife from his wife

[@vgvlogs4182]

To have a second wife without telling the first wife, he needs to lie A LOT and that 100% is haram.

[@user-ve4zw6jp9i]

Exactly 💯. But the cherry pickers will always justify the ends even if the means are impermissible. Janahnum is surrounded by desires after all

[@taimourjavaid6559]

Dont innovate. They do research and with consensus of ulmaa decide what should be the verdict. Accept all parts of islam.

[@user-ve4zw6jp9i]

@@taimourjavaid6559 innovation is a serious accusation.Lying is impermissible except in certain conditions which you should know if you are serious about halal and haram

[@RRRRRRRRRRR956]

But lying to your wife is allowed

[@parapetdoniczka5165]

@@RRRRRRRRRRR956 At-Tirmidhi (1973) narrated that ‘Aishah said: No characteristic was more hateful to the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) than lying. If a man told a lie in the presence of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), he would continue to feel some unrest in his heart until he knew that the man had repented. (Classed as sahih by al-Albani in as-Sahihah (2052)

[@ahmedaghadi8281]

Now what if he dies? Second wife would suddenly appear to get a share in inheritance and now there's chaos.

[@proudmuslimah4423]

@@ahmedaghadi8281 exactly why the sheikh said it's not recommended and transparency is best!

[@m_shakes]

Thats why you appoint a lawyer or a trusted person with your will, which every Muslim should not go three nights without their will being already prepared.

[@s0bad]

​@@m_shakes leaving wills behind is not Islamic. Allah has already set the rules for who gets what if you die

[@knightrider2863]

@@s0badyou still have to do according to the rule of ALLAAH read the verses

[@m_shakes]

​@@s0bad If you have a basic understanding of the Qur'an, you'll see that in Surah An-Nisa (Chapter 4), inheritance is distributed after settling debts or fulfilling the will ("بعد وصية أو دين"). Islam allows us the freedom to allocate up to one-third of our wealth through a will. This can go to the poor, a person, a distant relative, or specific items like leaving a car to someone. The remaining two-thirds must follow the fixed shares outlined in the Qur'an. Even the Prophet pbuh said as narrated in both Sahih Bukkari Volume 7, Book 64, Number 266: "One-third (is alright), yet it is still too much, for you'd better leave your inheritors wealthy than leave them poor, begging of others. Whatever you spend will be considered a Sadaqa for you, even the mouthful of food you put in the mouth of your wife. Anyhow Allah may let you recover, so that some people may benefit by you and others be harmed by you." Please ensure you verify your understanding before commenting. A quick search or consulting a reliable source can help. I suggest deleting your comment to avoid spreading misinformation.

[@lalamova8304]

The life of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) serves as the ultimate example for Muslims. His practice of polygamy was guided by social, political, and humanitarian considerations. For instance, he married widows and divorcees to support them during a time when such women faced significant marginalization. Additionally, his marriages helped to strengthen community ties and alliances, all while maintaining a standard of justice and fairness among his wives. The Prophet (PBUH) discouraged polygamy driven by selfish motives, emphasizing the immense responsibilities it entails. Pursuing it purely for personal desires risks neglecting the emotional well-being of the first wife and the broader family, which contradicts the Islamic principles of compassion and responsibility. In the modern age, however, the societal needs that once made polygamy essential are not as prevalent. Social systems and legal protections now provide support for vulnerable individuals, making polygamy less necessary. Thus, polygamy in Islam is not a means to fulfill personal impulses but a carefully regulated option to address specific social needs while upholding justice and care for all involved.

[@huballah2909]

Well said👍

[@I_CruZ89]

Well explained, thanks.

[@enasbassiony7676]

I would say the most important reason not to conceal that marriage is kids You'll have kids who have no idea they are brothers and sisters .. that's BS Forget the money and inheritance even .. Why give everyone a hearattack finding out they've been deceived for years? If you CAN'T BE enough of a man and carry that responsibility in front of everyone, then I'd say you shouldn't do it in the first place

[@piqueny8872]

True this old uncle had 4 wives 20 Children divorced three times his children Absolutely hated there father none of them Went to his funeral what did he achieve bankrupt and not a single duaa from his children

[@amy_holmes02]

But this is literally deceiving your wife bruh, come on, how can you consider yourself a man if you dont even have the courage to tell her.

[@rizzz1947]

He literally said transparency is always better

[@YaAllahswt]

Not man enough to tell his first wife that he wants a second wife but man enough to marry more than one???

[@Shinobu2506.]

Yes 👍

[@m_shakes]

Yes I agree, he should tell her and if she doesn't like it she can go her separate way. Divorced, depressed and with children. Or she can bite the bullet and stay. Ultimately, its her choice.

[@yassine073t]

Who are you? A stupid guy who will emotinally damage his wife.

[@m_shakes]

@@yassine073t to be honest the user sounds like a chick. He/She is angry with this topic for some reason.

[@Shinobu2506.]

@ polygamy will emotionally damage the wife

[@tafis007]

I think it is best to let the first wife know before marrying again. If she comes to know about it from a different source she will be even more heart broken and feel betrayed.

[@ryantomcat]

Exactly

[@proudmuslimah4423]

@@tafis007 which is what the sheikh said...

[@ZEE.N-m5l]

Yes, it is always better to be honest and nowadays the fear of STDs and the husband sneaking with another wife is wrong! It's better to tell her if the husband is going to get married to someone else!

[@ibrahim_-_-_]

@@ZEE.N-m5l”and the husband seeking another wife is wrong” no it’s not lmfao 😂 you should tell your first wife because if you don’t you’re a coward but then again….you don’t have you

[@thatwasmethere3526]

​@@ZEE.N-m5l and she should divorce him because he's just a wh ma.n at that point who doesn't want love

[@TexBeneche-ou6ox]

Before even getting married to the first wife she should know you’re gonna marry more than one. Just tell her upfront and if she doesn’t approve then do not marry her simple! There is plenty of good sisters that PREFER polygyny.

[@a5amr2]

Unfortunately it doesn't work that way. Most men don't plan to get married to multiple wives before they have married the first. It's something that develops as you get older.

[@Shinobu2506.]

@@TexBeneche-ou6ox plenty of naiv sisters 🤡😂

[@TexBeneche-ou6ox]

@@Shinobu2506. I think it’s more naive and immature to go against nature. To go against what’s best for women and children. You won’t find a MAN who doesn’t want to be in a polygynous marriage. A boy will lie to you and say he doesn’t. But you aren’t attracted to boys you’re attracted to men. And as you search for a spouse you’ll see that every man you’re interested in is interested in polygyny.

[@Jojo98495]

often sisters who prefer it are much older with kids so they find polygyny more convenient. Unless you are wealthy and can provide get lifestyle, younger sisters dont want polygyny

[@TexBeneche-ou6ox]

@ this isn’t true. ^ western sisters don’t want polygyny. But even young sisters that aren’t westernized and manipulated in the mind are at the very least okay with polygyny if not they prefer it.

[@MrXalan]

If you are not manly enough to handle both side emotions then live with what you have.

[@chibi3192]

Exactly

[@promi9526]

If youre not telling your wife its because you know it will hurt her that she won't be happy with it so why would you do this? If your spouse does something behind your back that is not haram but yk they it will break them then its wrong to do it. What a low life you would be youd lose the respect of your wife and any children you have with her. Either marry someone who is happy with this or be content with your wife and LOWER YOUR GAZE. Also what kind of woman would want to ve a secret second wife, living like a mistress. She would be such a lowlife too. You should divorce the first and be with the secknd, both low lifes.

[@yassine073t]

You calling the Sunnah a low life no you fasiq who do zina behind their wifes back are real men. Shit be upon you.

[@promi9526]

@yassine073t if your father has a secret family and hid it from you would this make you happy? What if your mother found out and was heartbroken. Would this fill you with joy.

[@a5amr2]

As long as he fulfilled their rights i can't see an issue. Too many softies on here who want to live the American dream

[@yassine073t]

@@promi9526 as long as my father doesn’t tell my mother than I will be happy for my father.

[@parapetdoniczka5165]

@@a5amr2 if you can't see any issue then buy glasses and learn Islam properly- fact that 2 people got married can't be in secred, family, friends, neighberhood should be informed, marrige has to be transpraent, women have right to know in what kind of relationship she is and husband can't lie for her or hide such important thing. Prophet Muhammad sallahu alayhi wa salam informed his wives and other people that he is getting married are you trying to say you know better than him? Ps. I don't live in "Amercian dream", it's called to follow Islam and sunnah properly and to be enough man to inform your wife that you are getting marry again or maybe lil boy is affraid of her?

[@blueberrycupcake6999]

And when you die your wife and children remember you bitterly

[@piqueny8872]

Allahs forgive An elderly uncle had 3 wives 20 children 3 divorced child support payments made him bankrupt He went bck to his village married a old cousin he passed away and none of his children wnet to his funeral they all hate him for treating there mom like sex slaves What did he achieve for his afterlife absolutely nothing

[@idalindeblad7254]

There are cases were second wife had STD and brought that via her husband to first wife who did not know anything and then developed cancer. STD can be sleeping in the body for 20 years so it is no safe way of knowing unless it becomes active. Obviously a wife don’t do check ups in a normal marriage because there is no need. It’s important to be transparent and also the wife has a right to know so she can protect herself and do regular checks.

[@xAmiin]

This is a weak argument Akhi, we will live in the modern day and age depending on where you live. You can easily get a urine or blood test at your local clinic or hospital before getting married or re married.

[@YaAllahswt]

@@xAmiin Of course a fool would say its a weak arugument.

[@m_shakes]

Al Hamdulillah, most countries have a mandatory blood test for the nikkah to go through. Even without it, STDs in Muslim countries are relatively low. And if you some how get it its Allah SWT will. I'm not scared of these things, you sound like you have some OCD.

[@xAmiin]

@@YaAllahswt Im not sure if you agreed or disagreed with my point Akhi. What did i say that was wrong ?

[@yassine073t]

Pure women have no STDs

[@TheBadgerr]

Why hide something thats not wrong? Shy away from the truth? That silence is a lie and a deceit, because you are gaslighting your wife into thinking a reality which isnt real. What kind of advice is this

[@Shinobu2506.]

@@TheBadgerr right,this husband is a coward It’s her right to know,in what kind of relationship she is

[@proudmuslimah4423]

@@TheBadgerr when did the sheikh say that? Did you watch the video. He clearly said it's recommended to just tell her to decrease the reaction when she finds out...

[@Ummishaaq4]

Not once did the prophet or sahaba have a hidden wife

[@Yakin80-kf5yx]

Alhmdulillah The shaik has so much knowledge In sunna we found more than one wife was not hidden

[@Inzy-k]

Where’s your proof maybe the sahaba did but isn’t mentioned in Hadith

[@Ummishaaq4]

@@Inzy-k if it was islamic etiquette for us to follow then they or the prophet pbuh would have had a hidden wife however that's not the case and all their wives were known to each other and we follow the best of mankind as an example

[@MoonshineBeauty]

Then you're saying it's haram and the shaykh spoke Without knowledge? Itaqillah

[@Ummishaaq4]

@@MoonshineBeauty I didn't say it's Haram there's simply no evidence in the Sunnah to do this the evidence that is provided to us is that the wives were known and there were none that were hidden

[@f.4588]

Inheritance if the man dies suddenly is a big issue. & kids from both wives not knowing they are siblings and cannot marry each other is another big problems corrupting society. There needs to be attention to serious long term consequences of these actions! Also how would the two wives protect themselves from STDs if one of them has it it would be transmitted to the other one.

[@m_shakes]

Marriage is such a blessing from Allah. May Allah provide all Muslims righteous wives and all Muslimas righteous husbands.

[@sabihunt3382]

@@m_shakes Ameen!

[@ibrahim_-_-_]

ameen

[@Shinobu2506.]

Marriage can become the worst nightmare

[@ibrahim_-_-_]

@@Shinobu2506. let’s not confuse exceptions with the norm 🫵🤡

[@m_shakes]

​@@Shinobu2506. “And one of His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves so that you may find comfort in them. And He has placed between you compassion and mercy. Surely in this are signs for people who reflect.” (Quran, 30:21) If its a nightmare, you or your wife are doing something wrong. Allah SWT says its "comfort" yet you say "nightmare". You need to reflect. Because Allah SWT also says: Vile women are for vile men, and vile men for vile women. Good women are for good men, and good men for good women; such are innocent of that which people say: For them is pardon and a bountiful provision. (Quran, 24:26)

[@YaAllahswt]

The only sunnah muslim men know.

[@Senator_weeb]

I saw you commenting a lot in this section. Are you angry with gods law

[@rottenfreddy3759]

@@Senator_weebI mean where’s the lie though?

[@shadow19978]

Including you I guess

[@Shinobu2506.]

Exactly

[@m_shakes]

You never know, maybe its the only sunnah that will get me into heaven. You are talking as if we are certain any of our good deeds are accepted.

[@mondrella627]

I'm so dissapointed. So u basically saying that a man can't be trusted. What happened with loyality and respect. What is this, what do u expect from this manless generation if a sheikh is saying it's okay. So breaking your wifes heart is okay? Disgusting behaviour tbh, just marry a wife who is okay with you marrying a second wife instead of marrying someone who clearly stated is not okay withit and then just playing with her feelings and randomly marrying a second wife (behind her back as a coward) when you're bored of her/ feel like it?? Marrying more then 1 wife is not even encouraged nor sunnah. Focus on more important things. And why is he even looking at other women while married? What happened with lowering your gaze? Astagfirullah

[@yassine073t]

Allah decides not you and your kind who have no understanding of anything.

[@a5amr2]

Best marry somebody who is already married. That way no heartbreak?

[@mondrella627]

@@a5amr2 i just don't understand why a man would marry a woman whom he knows isn't okay him marrying a second wife then still doing it behind her back. Is it that hard to just marry someone who is okay with you marrying multiple? That way there will be no heartbreak at all..

[@Shinobu2506.]

@@a5amr2heartbreak for the first wife,I will never do this to my sister

[@Shinobu2506.]

That is the point for me Allah Never allows a husband to break his wife’s heart In that case she will make a unnecessary khula and will leave the children,all because he want another one Heartbroken truth of some men

[@nw5970]

Whatever happened to lowering your gaze?

[@Shinobu2506.]

This is a joke 😂

[@fl5537]

@@nw5970 It's not always about lowering your gaze, if you don't satisfy your man's needs often enough, he will even enter a car's exhaust just to relieve himself. Ever heard the phrase - "any hole is a goal"?

[@proudmuslimah4423]

@@nw5970 if you say things like this, I guess it also applies to the first wife?

[@moonwalkerr87]

Are we going to limit what Allah clearly has made halal? Like why?

[@fl5537]

@@nw5970 First wife is clearly not enough for him. If the problem isn't fixed, he will even go into the car exhaust to fix this problem himself. The problem is not always to do with lowering the gaze.

[@s0bad]

There's absolutely no way than to talk to the first wife about it. But if she truly says she will get hurt by it (not just normal jealously) then save yourself the headache and don't do it. Divorce and heartbreak is not that simple or easy

[@suggondees4882]

I think the best strategy is to mention this clearly before even marrying. The man should mention that he wants a second wife later down the line and a woman should be honest aswell about what she wants and kf she would accept it or not. That way no one gets betrayed

[@KSA_175x]

Its better to merry 1 I ain’t risking it

[@sabihunt3382]

@@KSA_175x Alhamdulillah, good boy!

[@yassine073t]

What risk? If you first leaves you it will be upon her not you as you obey Allah.

[@mondrella627]

​@@yassine073tso if you don't marry multiple wives you're not obeying Allah? Marrying more then one is not even encouraged..

[@a5amr2]

That's really upto the man. Not his wife to dictate. Obviously he should be in a situation where he can manage it as it.

[@yassine073t]

@@mondrella627 Stop speaking out of your own desires. It is encouraged because our noble Prophet saws and the Sahaba did it.

[@maryamsiddiqui3646]

"he saw someone and had the option of falling into haram..". Wow. What a ridiculous explanation. He DID do something wrong. What of the wife sees someone and decides not to fall into a haram relationship so she divorces the current husband? Is this a joke? Marrying a women to support her is at least logical.. discuss with the first wife and then go for it!

[@serventofAllah01]

Sister As mentioned in the Qur'an man can marry up to 4 wfies but if he can't be just with any one them marry then only one & there is a hikma behind Allah SWT given option to men to marry upto 4 bcoz there are more women compare to men on earth Moreover in islam it's not must for husband to disclose his first wife about his second marriage

[@haqembassador]

@@maryamsiddiqui3646 . Islam allows man to marry a woman if he's in love not just because he has to provide

[@Thatsfine1998_]

@@haqembassadorit’s quite selfish for a “man” to ask his wife to control her emotions and rage while he can’t even control his nafs because he is scared “to fall into sin”. Y’all really are something elsr

[@haqembassador]

@@Thatsfine1998_ he can control his nafs if he didn't commit zina. Woman don't understand the struggle of battling with nafs in this case. It's so strong that the angles curse a woman if she rejects her husband

[@Deekookieee]

@@haqembassador You say that like women aren't sexual beings Lmao

[@BlankMind_666]

I can't think how am I gonna take care of a single wife. Doing all that responsibilities and being equal to every wife sheesh too much. I am happy with one in this duniya and the hereafter as long as she is truly righteous and gives me my rights and loves me.

[@sabihunt3382]

Alhamdulillah, I wish all men are like you!

[@ryantomcat]

​@@sabihunt3382 I know right

[@BlankMind_666]

@@sabihunt3382 If every men were like me Every women would have to be like the women I pray for and dream off. That's a rare kind of woman and on top of that every woman would have been orphan having no family. Because I want to marry an orphan

[@tafis007]

@@sabihunt3382 Most men are like that. Only a very small percentage of Muslim men nowadays engage in polygamy. Be it out of love for the wife or for financial or social circumstances.

[@haqembassador]

​@@sabihunt3382the best muslims of the ummah and the prophet had multiple wives

[@mahajama3891]

Where is your daliil sheikh. With all the respect We just hear your opinion. How can you hide a whole family? How long can you hide it for? What about the family relations and kinship? What about the siblings? Don't they have the right to know their siblings? it's just not clear!

[@jabudabae9418]

This man is a coward. Our sister married a coward. Sheikh is defending a coward.

[@yassine073t]

You are an enemy of Allah

[@aunWWc]

Most of the comments here tell me they didn’t watch the whole video or didn’t understand sheikh’s point

[@Deekookieee]

Whats amazing about Islam is that we can divorce our husbands if we are unhappy/incompatible. There is no way I would accept him having a second wife.

[@taimurahmad]

All scholars agree you can't ask for divorce for his reason. Wallaahu a3lam

[@Shinobu2506.]

@@taimurahmad we can make khula for this reason,of course,it’s woman’s right

[@Shinobu2506.]

@@Deekookieee if my husband is the love of my life,I would make a divorce,I’m not the kind of woman who can live in polygamy 💔

[@Deekookieee]

@taimurahmad If I put it in my marriage contract that he cannot marry a 2nd wife and he proceeds to do so. I am entitled to a Khula. Also if I am unhappy about sharing my husband in general and it's causing me depression I am also allowed a Khullah. We do not have to suffer unhappy marriages.

[@KD400_]

Don't be ridiculous. I'm not Muslim and even i know that having 4 wives is allowed.

[@ashrafmahmood6594]

That's why i recommend every sister to make contracts before marriage. 1:56

[@sakujo20]

Many sisters don't know that they have the right to put the condition: "if you marry me you won't marry any other woman." If the guy accepts this he can't marry any other woman. If he does it'll be haram.

[@taimurahmad]

Only in the hanbali madhab; not in others.

[@7esna]

No he can but she has the right to khula!

[@sakujo20]

@@7esna not when he accepts the condition

[@abdulkaium1199]

The thing is most men now a day don't even meet the criteria of having 2 wives. Yet keep questioning these. They can't even make there one wife happy.🤣 Nowadays sheikh is getting weirdass questions (I think they are trolling him) . I think sheikh should stop posting these and get back to posting the serious ones.

[@Shinobu2506.]

You are so right,still there a brothers discussing with me about how they can handle two ore three relationships 😂

[@kingversion558]

Nice answer ...to the point in brief

[@lilyflower7385]

Why can't men lower their gaze

[@tafis007]

Hormones

[@Inzy-k]

Why can’t women control their vag

[@parapetdoniczka5165]

Lying and hiding truth especially from not only another muslim but also our spouse is Something completly unislamic. Marrige should be clear and everyone have the right to know in what kind of relationship they are staying. If he was enough brave to takw second wife he shold be enough brave to tell first one about it and face consecvenses of his chocie

[@rutbashaheen._.]

exactly. i agree with you. these sickos propagate this idea to justify infedility.

[@yassine073t]

Daleel?

[@haqembassador]

@@parapetdoniczka5165 if it was unislamic then why is it halal?

[@parapetdoniczka5165]

@@haqembassador lying is halal? First time I hear about it

[@haqembassador]

@@parapetdoniczka5165 hiding something is not lying. Lying about something is lying. Learn the basics

[@proudmuslimah4423]

I like the way the shiekh explained the issue from every angle.

[@Saa42808]

“I am not pissed because I am poor, I am pissed because this is the main reason she hates me”.

[@ALLAHSHAHAADA]

Ma shaa Allah the hat looks very nice on the Shaykh

[@ferdousimiah6843]

Guy isn't in love it's lust. If I was the wife I would say. By all means marry but remember if you cannot do justice between us then you have yourself to answer. Trust me a man that thinks with his brains would stop and think. Mmmm better to stay with one. Unless he dammm rich how does he think he will afford 2 sets of everything. And split his time equally. If he thinks he can do justice he is a fool.

[@xAmiin]

Just like the Sheikh said in the video, its much better for a man to full fill his desires in a halal way than to commit haram (fornication or adultery). You will also be held accountable if you don’t keep up with his rights or make things difficult for him to be fair between the wives.

[@cptforce4541]

@@xAmiin Yep, woman nowdays want responsibility husband, but cant/dont even know their responsibility as a wife, some of them doesnt even let or want to have sex with their husband. Meanwhile sex play a big part in marriage. And then surprise when their husband try to find another woman.

[@xAmiin]

@@cptforce4541 Agreed for sure Akhi. Some women have a difficult time with being held accountable, especially how some of them behave. But these childish tactics will never work in front of the Almighty Allah (SWT) as everything we do is being recorded in real time.

[@blueberrycupcake6999]

@@xAmiinthe dog of a man who for one wife is not enough he will never be satisfied with two three four five or a hundred

[@BlankMind_666]

@@ferdousimiah6843 Huh damn rich? I am damn rich and what about it? Don't drag rich dudes in it. I can't split my time and attention. I know marrying one is good enough for me. Who is gonna carry 4 entire family on his back alone, 5 if you add parents?

[@ChubDetector]

Sheikh, the best way for this to happen is for there to be transparency. If there is no transparency someone will lose greatly at the end

[@muneeburrehman4690]

My sheikhhhhhh❤️💯

[@Yakin80-kf5yx]

Salam alaikum Allah bless me as second wife alhmdulillah In the beginning it was not easy at all for me bear that i have a coowife but alhmdulillah blessed me and make me understand alhamdullilah My husband is the best man i have ever met. Alhmdulillah His fist wife doesn't know about his second marriage. That have consequences on me too, i feel as i stole, as i am doing something bad because we are hiding, i m not feeling fine in front of the other wife....can she have a chance to choose if she wants to stay and bear or she can chose different things...maybe that could be the chanche to her to understand as was for me snd have the rewards from Allah inshallah. And we know we have to manage with others as we want to be manage, in a good way, so i never want something could be me hidden inshallah: that is for me as lies. But the husband decides alhmdulillah. Allah guides all the umma inshallah

[@0bittersweetapathy0]

Then what is the right of the wife if her husband can just get married without telling her?! This sounds sus tbh

[@HereWeGoAgain4753]

May Allāh ﷻ bless the sheikh he’s had better responses on this topic than this one.

[@piqueny8872]

There Is a lot of complaints boys paying Islamic mahr to one wife having to provide protect his family how can they afford another whole family double equal payments Best stick to one or divorce

[@lala_aishaa]

May Allah preserve me to share my husband with a second wife 😒😪

[@Executor8]

Thankyou for explaining sheikh...here in Indian subcontinent this lie is very famous that you have to take permission from your wife to married second time.

[@amy_holmes02]

Dude, what are you talking about, men in the subcontinent literally marry again without letting their first wife know, and it's considered alright.

[@Executor8]

@@amy_holmes02 maybe you are from pakistan...that's why they don't spread lie about it but here in India..this lie is famous maybe because of kafir hindus

[@Executor8]

@@amy_holmes02 maybe you are from pakistan and it's alright there but here in India..this lie is famous maybe because of affects of hindus.

[@serventofAllah01]

Yes women in India treat halal as a big sin and haram is ok for them

[@en-rikwii]

And y'all think it's okay? To lie infront of your first wife?? If you think you are making a good decision another one why hide it infront of first wife??atleast Indian Muslim women have brains to know their worth

[@7esna]

Just be Men and do it like it was done. It doesn’t make sense to hide it out of fear. What about children. Will they not know they are siblings and more of the rights that will be problematic if it’s hidden.

[@AbdirashidAbdirahman-f3w]

I think women play a big part for men to hide second wife coz no wife on earth today would accept that easily and the guy needs the thing,so what is the solution I think often times they are forced into that inadvertantly by the wives.

[@onirique.r]

Sorry but it's a no brainer that it is haram

[@ibrahim_-_-_]

a real man would tell his first wife he’s getting married again if he’s not a coward, he doesn’t have to, but he should lest she hears it from someone else if i get married a second, third, or fourth time, i’ll tell my first. if she doesn’t like she, she can leave 👍

[@yassine073t]

You are a stupid man

[@razamughal9095]

no.

[@sabihunt3382]

This is so depressing!

[@Prograaaaming]

Allah tests different people with different trial , u say Allah is sufficient and be patient

[@Wonderview256]

Yes...depressing...marriage is not for muslim women...ofcourse the men enjoy it.

[@burakcoskun38]

​@@Wonderview256emotional comment

[@tanvirhussain7355]

You dont question the rule of Allah. You may speculate and come up to the understanding why Allah made it this way. But better leave it to Allah and say Allah is sufficient for me.

[@Shinobu2506.]

@@burakcoskun38she is right

[@kadijamariamdiaz6662]

Asalamu alaykum waramatulahi wa barakatuh my situation is different My Husband wants to marry another girl he asked for my approval I know that it's not good for me to say no but I'm not a Hypocrite it hurts me a lot and feel jealous but I find out that the girl keeps asking for money aside from the Bridal mahr that her parents demanded she also boast that my Husband loves her too much because she was young and beautiful while I am old and cannot bear a child They are not married yet but she keeps asking for money .. that's where when I started confronting my Husband about that girl that he want to marry we will never have a peaceful life if he marry that girl.

[@droson8712]

You're basically living a huge lie with your first wife and her children so I just can't accept something like this as a man myself. If somebody does this I can't see how there's any valid reason to marry twice and keep it hidden except following your desires.

[@abdulrahman.786-0]

Sheikh, I have recently found out my friends or them who I consider friends have been backbiting about me in secret. I need your advice to deal with situation in the way it does not harm my deen, I have been upset about this and is being disturbed and angered by this thought for the past few days. Please help me if you can

[@sye90812]

Isn’t the marriage feast meant to be an announcement to one’s family and friends?

[@hillydilly474]

That’s why it’s worse because everyone knows except the wife lol 😂

[@sye90812]

@ I was including the wife in the friends and the family

[@Thatsfine1998_]

I believe most people fail to understand between „asking for permission“ and „letting her know“. Just because you don’t have to ask her before you marry her doesn’t mean you can lie for years about where you have been, where you‘ve been spending money on. That your children have siblings etc etc.

[@Sms_631]

First of all why men need 2 wifes?

[@lailaroshni4462]

Ameen 💕

[@naimaadan2635]

Why fall in haram while you already have a wife or is she just nobody..

[@Truthful_lyf]

Why don't the situation in the vice versa 🤔

[@suggondees4882]

Because women can’t marry multiple men?

[@ibnuwahab1624]

😅 In my personal point of view, it will be weird. How will it work? When it comes to children, this will be unclear. And to be honest, it is still the men who are pleased, while women are increasingly being degraded. Na'udhubillah min dhalik...

[@Thatsfine1998_]

@@suggondees4882but when the women ask for a very high mehr suddenly all of you say „she‘s a gold digger, not worthy to get married“ 😂 y‘all pick and choose

[@proudmuslimah4423]

@@ibnuwahab1624 wait, I didn't think of it like this. New lesson. Thanks akh. I have a good answer for this question now.

[@Truthful_lyf]

@ibnuwahab1624 No one is Following perfectly sunnah in the living life regularly nowadays then why to choose purposely 2nd or 3rd marriage as a prophet preference, The prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam ❤️ peace be upon him never accept marriage except without wahi by The Allah Al-mighty ☝🏻, he suppose to marry only for to support helpless ladies such as Fat black women, widow , divorced women only when the Allah Almighty ☝🏻 command arrived not for the sexual desire ; here, Men must understand the timely distance or separation of the Beloved wife won't seperate only for the sexual desire. The men should prove by their patience showing as a gift of love to their only wife . Moreover , The prophet lyf style is the meaning to teach their beloved people not to act as impatience, without reason to act for their own full fill ness.😞😟, The men have more things to follow such as investing their to time to build Mosque ,madrasa , to utilize True taqwa Deen in their heart , to help via charity . Still many more peoples due to poverty ,for them to make a sadqa also giving cooltime to their family , children in islamic bought up., etc .. Jazakh Allahu khairan kaseera 💐

[@flavorfulcookhouse1197]

In this case first wife should never fil3 divorce nc she willak3 this men free from suffer he create th3 women shpuld ask compete tigjt stayimg im marriage and let this en rotten between two women amd hamdlimg two fimily ,em this days naming summa tru to marry amothe4 nut actually domt follow sunnaj as they gett to right off from foray wife

[@rutbashaheen._.]

Every minute of the video disgusted me. Hiding about having a second wife IS lying.

[@s0bad]

Yeah as a man myself I have to agree. I'm not sure if he was joking or what

[@nb9916]

Yeah he said if there was another wife to visit them once a month on a weekend for a ‘business trip’ that would also be a lie/deception

[@Executor8]

This sheikh is honest that he tells this basic thing...if started revealing complete shariah regarding this matter then what will happen to you.

[@rutbashaheen._.]

@Executor8 reveal the shariah. it's nothing to hide.

[@haqembassador]

@@rutbashaheen._. it's not lying. If the wives ask if he has another wife and he says no then thats lying

[@bibifatma2517]

That's so wrong, you will have to lie to spend time with the second wife which is a sin and what about inheritance and justice between wives? This is totally haram

[@proudmuslimah4423]

@@bibifatma2517 sister, listen to what the sheikh said pls. Also watch other of his videos on this.

[@tafis007]

Sheikh didn’t say it’s halal to lie. But yes it is indeed permissible to marry without the Knowledge of the first wife. But if the wife asks him where he's going, of course he can't lie to hide his second wife.

[@bibifatma2517]

@tafis007 it can't be permissible because you are responsible to protect her mental health, she needs to be consoled so she has to know and of course you are lying when you say I'm going on business.

[@proudmuslimah4423]

@@bibifatma2517 the sheikh mentioned this too. That it is recommended to just tell her straight up...

[@JewelsRoyale]

Polygamy is halal but any man that gets a secret second wife is a coward and on the day of judgement he will have to answer for putting his wife at risk of STDs (including cancer) without her knowledge or consent.

[@mskorkoss]

I see. But quick question, are you saying in light of Quran and Sunnah, or from your personal understanding?

[@dkhailiaichrak7031]

​@@mskorkoss announcing marriage is obligatory in Quran and sunnah

[@AbdulazizKider]

​@@dkhailiaichrak7031 you do realize there is a big difference between making your marriage public/announcing it and telling your wife right? Your first wife didn't know it doesn't mean that your marriage is a secret to everyone. There is no rule that says you have to announce it to your wife or her family.

[@emma647]

Imagine being a wife, and everyone knows your husband has remarried and you don't, the humiliation, you don't even consider women human, Islam is a moralistic religion, no one would want their daughter treated like this, ​@@AbdulazizKider

[@dkhailiaichrak7031]

@AbdulazizKider announcement is announcement, it's fundamental in Islamic marriage, the sheikh said that haram and halal are very clear yet you and him think it's okay to keep it a secret for a while while and this is clearly very wrong, this happened in Egypt last year and eventually he decided to divorce the second wife and out of heartbreak the second wife committed suicide, is it not haram? I thought this sheikh knew better but I guess I'll keep looking for someone who follow Quranic teachings more strictly. May Allah forgive our sins and Salam.

[@rutbashaheen._.]

how is there love between the spouses in the situation you've explained? is something wrong with you???

[@Shinobu2506.]

There is no Love in polygamy And whoever told you other than this is lying

[@serventofAllah01]

​@@Shinobu2506.Lol...then how people find love in illegal extra marital affairs??

[@Shinobu2506.]

@ illegal extra marital affair,what is that?

[@muhammadhaider6071]

​​@@Shinobu2506.Astagfirullah prophet sallahu alyhi wa salam, his companions like ali r.a and umar r.a practiced it so did many prophets even like Ibrahim a.s and musa a.s. And many of the righteous scholars encouraged polygny and practiced it themselves. Scholars of the likes of sheikh saleh al falzan said that polygny is a sunnah

[@Shinobu2506.]

@@muhammadhaider6071 and why do you say astarfirullah? Polygamy is not about Love

[@m_shakes]

Jazzak Allahu Khair sheikh, I'll marry the second without telling my wife. If she finds out and doesn't like it, tough beans, nobody is going to take the halal that Allah gave me away from me except for Allah.

[@JewelsRoyale]

How is it halal to put his wife at risk of STDs without her consent or knowledge?

[@FiSabilillah01]

Sexual relations put you in risk of STD anyways, whats your point?

[@haqembassador]

There's no stds in Islamic society because unmarried sex is haram

[@JewelsRoyale]

Okay, I agree with the second part. “Transparency is everything” and marriage is his right so as long as he tells the other wife and gives her the option to agree or leave without putting herself at risk of STDs which by the way include cancer.

[@haqembassador]

There's no std in Islamic society

[@JewelsRoyale]

@@FiSabilillah01 My point is obviously too big for your 🧠

[@kateG9]

Haram

[@yassine073t]

Kufr

[@Shinobu2506.]

Polygamy is disgusting

[@phoenixknight8837]

May Allah the Most High guide you to Islam.

[@serventofAllah01]

Well having illegal extra marital affairs is super cool thing for you right??

[@yassine073t]

Kufr

[@HaqiqaSeeker]

It has a designated purpose.

[@Shinobu2506.]

@ what is that purpose in our time? Destroying household ,because the broken-hearted woman make a khula? Maybe she can’t take her kids in her new life

[@rutbashaheen._.]

how is there love between the spouses in the situation you've explained? is something wrong with you???

[@omglol9571]

1:16 leave your emotions aside. And watch the video. He clearly says it's not recommended.

[@rutbashaheen._.]

@omglol9571 i heard that. but he is saying it's permissible and there's nothing wrong with hiding which is not true!!! how can you hide about something from your own wife which you know will hurt her or make her feel betrayed?

[@abdulsalammomoh78]

​@@rutbashaheen._. It is permissible, I personally don't also look on it. In my personal opinion, since the wife has the right to disallow this kind of thing in the marriage contract before the Nikka, then she should, the one who knows and still didn't bother about it is clearly accepting it...

[@emma647]

​@@abdulsalammomoh78why would he need to hide it if she is ok with it? The second wife is treated like a mistress in order to keep it secret from the first, seedy, no one would want their daughters to end up as either of these women.

[@rutbashaheen._.]

Every minute of the video disgusted me. Hiding about having a second wife IS lying.

[@AbdulazizKider]

How is hiding the same as lying? Sure if you have to lie to hide something then I agree bit if not then they are not the same.

[@xAmiin]

Hiding and lying are two completely different words. It’s permissible for a man to re marry and hide the other wives but not recommended like the Sheikh clarified in the video.

[@YaAllahswt]

@@xAmiin So is it permissible for a woman who is not a virgin to hide the fact that she isn't? Since Allah says we have to conceal our sins and not tell anyone?

[@cptforce4541]

@@YaAllahswt Sheikh already answer this question in another Q&A, it is permissible to "HIDE" the fact about her virginity, and dumb if you tell a Man who want marry you about your virginity 🤦‍♂

[@rutbashaheen._.]

@AbdulazizKider she is your wife bro. you guys are garments of each other and imagine hiding such a huge thing from her? how would you feel if you're wife would hide that she has a baby with you if you're in a different country for work??