Is It Your Boyfriend’s Job To Take Care Of Your Bills?

[@Thegloire_]

There is nothing wrong with recieving monthly allowances from a man who can afford it and offers to do it. The problem is being entittled and shaming a man for not doing things you cannot even do for yourself.

[@s0fire_]

Some ladies just fear if he isn't giving you money, he's giving someone else..

[@LadyPelk]

😂😂😂😂 í love the plain ending.. just have sense..no need to point all issues to therapy 😂😂

[@chiaris27]

Lool my dear Arike me too I am flabbergasted, when he is not your “daddy”! Please let us strive to be women of value and not liabilities oo…

[@ashieducomfort]

😂😂😂I laughed with Aunty Adeola🤣❤️ Independent woman in the mud🤣🤣😂😂😂and I learnt a lot as well.❤️

[@faithbello371]

Even the Bible says one (which implies man and woman) shall chase One thousand and two shall put ten thousand to flight. Which means as a partner you should have something before getting to a relationship. Honestly, I’m always looking forward to listening from you both. Thank you❤️

[@xorlalianani5125]

This is a very nice topic brought up to educate us. As a woman you should be able to take care of your basic needs and not depend on anyone but still either boyfriend or husband, there should be a support financially from both the man and the woman. Don't make it look like giving money to your woman is a sin, you spend on what you love. whatever treatment you get from a man/woman in a relationship, is the same treatment you will get in your marriage stop giving room for men who can't give to their women all in the name of he isn't your father. And to our dear lady, please if you want to talk, please process your words and talk for us to understand you well. The like, like like and the, the, the, and, and, but, but, but is making it too boring for me as a person. Thank you NB: Don't be dependent on your man, get a life for yourself to maintain respect. We have kind and generous men and stingy men as well let's know the difference.

[@somtii]

not me waving when Arike was waving. I loved this. More grace❤

[@jiejoudom5521]

Money is essential in a relationship that doesn’t mean we should go into a romantic relationship just cuz a guy has money there are other things needed to help a relationship grow. If as a human being you can’t take care of yourself, as a grown woman that has a job if you can’t take care of yourself then how do you expect a man or people to even see your worth. Normally if you’re in a relationship with a man and your man offers to take care of you it means he like you. Like Arike said, most women feel entitled to a man’s money. If he truly loves you won’t even have to ask him to help.

[@nmaumeh]

An absolutely interesting Convo. Solo, please let Arike speak too. I love hearing her opinion, and I love your wrap up at the end. But let her also speak. Pretty important. God bless you both

[@lawrenceharry7543]

Perhaps someone will strike the right chord another day, but for now, let's discuss this topic in more detail. In this particular region of the world, Nigeria, the issue is mainly a mindset, and the solution lies in addressing the fundamentals. This poverty mindset can be addressed by promoting a culture where men and women split the costs of dates and movies, without feeling entitled. This approach could lay the foundation for change, so that women no longer view it as a man's responsibility to provide for their basic needs. The question is, why do women feel the need for a man to take care of them once they start dating? This is where fundamental issues need to be addressed.

[@Esther_01]

It’s the way Arike calls Solomon for me 🥰

[@peacekehindeakanmu533]

Awww! I would have loved to hear more of Arike's thoughts though. Would have been another interesting take. Maybe longer episodes too, so there's enough time to talk about the topic, and air each other's opinion. Loving them podcasts 🙌🙌

[@Jules4Jesus]

😂😂😂😂😂 I totally feel you, Solomon Buchi. Y’all need a Romans 12:2 resetting. Loved this episode. Arike is definitely Buchi’s soft landing. Bruuuv went all the way and we are here for it. Sometimes, we need to call a spade exactly what it is. Good work guys.

[@princewillibe6091]

I sha don't like how Solomon didn't allow Arike finish up with that trauma thing. I think there is a sense in it😊

[@adewumiyemisi1678]

Seriously, I literally was like let her talk now... Ahh

[@oluchiarisa5717]

Same here I wanted to hear her thoughts too

[@onyekabamaryjane116]

Relationship Prostitutes everywhere 😅 Thank you Buchi and Arike... I hope this evolves the mindset of a lot of women out there.

[@comfortowoicho5258]

I mean, if I was surviving before my boyfriend was in the picture Then I can still do basic things for myself even if I am in a relationship

[@mofere]

Nice one…I totally agree on this😊❤

[@StaceyHarrison]

Totally agree this one. No one owes me anything ooo.

[@comfortowoicho5258]

Lol.... Funny how people think, I mean being in a relationship isn't a job opportunity!

[@tonybankole484]

I love this content ❤

[@living_soft_life_with_PRECIOUS]

Actually a lot of people have that mindset.... Most of them don't want to become like their mothers, most of them come from a poor home they all want to have a better life than the one they grew up with.... Knowing a guy is capable of your bills before any future relationship is actually a way of self examining a guy some guys are liability on their own

[@Lyndchids]

Place of love oshi wo

[@oghoreoghenemowoe6381]

I have a question, Solomon said there's a difference between a man gifting you, and you demanding. What if he doesn't gift you, and you also don't demand? Isn't that a red flag?

[@emmanuelokpeh4941]

More videos...I love to watch

[@simplyprecious_]

This was so lovely to watch.

[@MariaUzoma]

Saviour complex took me out😂😂😂😂

[@victoriaobado2256]

Aww🥺🥰 Arike is so kind and innocent🤍 Trauma is a thing though 😂😂 but this ones are just shamelessly entitled women with messed up thinking faculty

[@daralabel2993]

I love this 😂😂

[@ed_udofia]

Very insightful

[@sharonoluwadamilola551]

"Your boyfriend is not your dad" "Independent woman in the mud" 😂😂😂😂💔

[@s0fire_]

It's not his job, but could be if he wants to.

[@S.u.c.c.e.s.s]

Solomon no nice oo😂😂

[@debbrah_]

Finally ❤️🔥

[@kelechivera3718]

This is the funniest podcast I’ve listened to😂😂 So much to learn from it though😊

[@maryanuga6326]

What I learnt from this is that jobless girl should not be in relationship

[@blessedaudu]

😭😂

[@remi_dollah]

I enjoyed the episode but please, let Arike air her views more. We want to hear her views as much as yours on these topics. Overall, it was a lovely lovely episode. Welldone guys!

[@victoryokeke6103]

I can't 😂😂😂😂😂😂, I just can't...😂😂😂

[@sweetnewsghana3776]

Solomon wait !😀😀😂😂😂

[@divinetestimony3538]

Arike giving us hot hot😂😂😂😂...ohhhh bless you beautiful woman 🥺❤️

[@isabellabassey3299]

I can’t laugh enough. It’s d ‘I’m a prostitute no u r d prostitute’ part😂

[@SijiDavies]

“You need a reset in your brain”😅😂

[@adinchezormiracle3535]

Our African women needs to brace up and change the narratives. No one is entitled in a mutual relationship. NICE one Mr and Mrs.

[@obiwuruchisom]

United Nations was coming to her aid 😅😂😂😂 oh good gracious 🫢

[@Elvisbarcola123]

😂😂

[@deborah07]

He is not your poverty alleviation program!!!

[@blessingfrancis9648]

I think is not the guys responsibility to take care of your bill if he wants to it has to be a collective effort from both side

[@evelynogundare1043]

Lol.

[@gladysmbaacha8083]

Solomon wait hahahahahaha wehe...

[@banadzemelvinesiver7777]

So jobless pipo should not be in a relationship abi? 😂 it sounded a little biased to me. The problem is with feeling entitled + there are some men that will not help their women even when they can. I have dated that kinda guy. I wasn’t entitled but he was a stingy guy. Periodt! I was a student and struggling, that guy will come and join me to drink garri 🙄 then buy himself roasted fish on his way home.

[@jiejoudom5521]

If he really had money I’m sure he didn’t care for you enough to even help you out.

[@atehndiforngu8033]

What about the men who are goal diggers?...it would have been more interesting if this conversation touched both ends....well Its true some women do exaggerate but I feel some strange bias in the house... Well maybe it's just me but I think we all should understand that backgrounds do play a huge role to building character...some might not have had that kinda grooming or thinking but if your approach towards it is through alot of sarcasm carrying "Love" as title...then maybe the information/correction or rebuke might not even reach your target and fulfil purpose. God help us all oo

[@blessingosasere3620]

Exactly.. always coming for the women

[@anyabuikevictoria9948]

Solomon learn to hold on and allow your partner to talk sometimes.. learn that please 🙏🙏. I see how the video ended but hey you can do better. Allow us hear her perspective fully and deeply before you cut in even if you don't align with it.

[@thestoryteller-g8x]

You are contradicting your selves. In your previous video, you expressed support for women having the freedom to choose to be full-time housewives, but today you appear to be condemning those who have made that choice. It would be helpful if you clarify your position on this matter. How is it possible for a woman to support herself while being a full-time housewife?

[@stringsandlocs]

The conversation in this episode is about girlfriends and not wives. They are different things and contexts. We hope you see it as it is. 😊

[@thestoryteller-g8x]

@@stringsandlocs Not really, I watched the entire video. You spoke about wives as well. You may want to watch the video again. This 👉🏾6:58

[@judithunaegbu3776]

I can feel a certain way about their videos . I usually don’t like commenting but I think He is not letting her express her opinion properly

[@_d.395]

As a full time housewife, both husband and wife have agreed and the husband has no problem giving monthly allowances or paying the bills. They are talking about women who DEMAND for their bills to be paid

[@thestoryteller-g8x]

@@_d.395 did you watch the entire video ? I doubt that but ok.

[@daintysan]

Reset in the brain😂💔

[@chiamakaada3297]

Solomon, I do not appreciate the way you speak. Firstly, you should learn to allow people finish talking rather than trying to cut them short and acting like your opinion is the best. Irks!!!

[@adah.chukwu]

This is partial because i also notice Arike cut him off while he's in the middle of saying something. Don't be one sided. Irks!!!

[@sydneyom3333]

Solomon is very rude,arike gives her opinion politely

[@edidiongbassey4998]

Very rude

[@lindadzilanyo4083]

Why is the lady always struggling to come out with her words? Why is she always stuttering???

[@judithunaegbu3776]

I feel like she is restricting herself because of her husband

[@temmyfolktale]

Yeah I noticed that too she is trying to please her husband with her words and the man seems controlling My opinion though nobody should come for me pls

[@judithunaegbu3776]

@@temmyfolktale I saw the whole story about the love letter he wrote to her and people called him a narcissist now I am afraid the masses might be right

[@edidiongbassey4998]

We warned her but she no gree. The whole podcast is rubbish

[@shalewasspace6757]

Lol I feel like is the oyingbo English trying to come out oo

[@atehndiforngu8033]

Unku Solo you must not be that mean na What about the men who are goal diggers?...it would have been more interesting if this conversation touched both ends....well Its true some women do exaggerate but I feel some strange bias in the house... Well maybe it's just me but I think we all should understand that backgrounds do play a huge role to building character...some might not have had that kinda grooming or thinking but if your approach towards it is through alot of sarcasm carrying "Love" as title...then maybe the information/correction or rebuke might not even reach your target and fulfil purpose. God help us all oo

[@oluwadamilolaoguntoye2640]

Honestly, nobody has any business with relationship when they can't take care of their basic needs yet. No business at all. Go work on your finance first biko. And if you need companionship so bad, get a friend! Not a girlfriend or a boyfriend.

[@marcf6092]

P r o m o S M

[@dabike_]

I think you guys need to reevaluate the purpose of this podcast cause the approach and choice of words are not such that those affected can connect with them. And I agree with Arike on the trauma ish, some also have that mentality cause of poor parenting, we have parents who have instilled such values into their children, not to excuse selfishness but there are other root causes as well

[@Lyndchids]

The comment section is not marinated yet, I will come back.

[@mmalove1650]

In my opinion Solomon, there are some topics you've addressed and it seemed right at that time but the fact that, 1. You are a Christian (As you've boldly claimed and mentioned) 2. A newly wedded head of your own family unit 3. Above all, the fact that you are graced with the goodness of God to have a KZbin channel and actually have an audience, all not by your power neither by your might but BY GOD'S GOODNESS AND KIND THOUGHTS towards you, YOU SHOULD NOT BE SO RUDE AND PRIDEFUL IN YOUR WORDS WHEN SPEAKING. People are able to also spot the self absorbed nature in you and remember you are being watched to be measured by your actions in the past too. Please do better and let GOD and His kindness through grace be the center of your intentions towards men. One can tell by how your wife Arike (Helpmate) tries to get you to be thoughtful and considerate with your words and understanding but you seem to lean more to your own self driven understanding. Please BE BETTER PS I'm still subscribed to this channel and wishing you both the blessings of a Godly Union.

[@jiejoudom5521]

I don’t know sha. I don’t think 🤔 trauma is involved o. This is just pure entitlement mentality.

[@Lakeri]

The laughter annoyed me. Not the right person to ask that question

[@nafeesdelight]

Solomon and Arike, can’t you praise God?? Can’t you talk reality things?? Why controversial topics all the time??

[@DesireUba]

Wahalurrr 😭😭

[@blessedaudu]

😂😂Praise God? Nawa😭

[@chiamakaada3297]

Solomon are you effeminate??

[@teminiobe4163]

Solomon, wait. 🫠

[@mofere]

I need to be on one of this episodes 🥹😫…I love intelligent people ❤